"We’re child-free so we can prioritise experiences"

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A couple are child-free so they can prioritise experiences over everything – and say they don’t want to "miss out" on adventures by having kids.

Helene Sula, 36, and her husband, Michael, 36, are intentionally child-free and consider themselves as DINKS - which stands for 'dual income no kids'.

The couple grew up Catholic in Dallas, Texas, US, and after getting married had considered children as the next step.

But they realised they didn’t want to "miss out" on experiences after going to Tomorrowland festival.

Helene and Michael, who run a travel blog together, didn’t have a "calling" for children and said it didn’t feel "right" to have them for the sake of it.

Instead their child-free lifestyle has enabled them to live in Germany, the US, and the UK and visit 56 countries and counting.

Helene, a travel blogger, currently living in Oxford, said: “We're in an incredible time where we can do what we want in life.

“We’re living the dream.

"We prioritise experiences over everything else."

Helene and Michael met in high school and got married aged 24 in 2011 and had always thought having kids would be the next step.

But after going to Tomorrowland festival in July 2012, they realised they didn’t necessarily see children in their future.

Helene said: “We thought ‘there is so much more that we’re missing out on'.”

Helene started a travel blog and grew it after a climbing injury stopped her from working her job in marketing and PR.

The couple decided to move to Germany in 2016 – and travelled around Europe.

Helene said: “We were missing out on kids but there is so much to explore.

“There is no wrong or right way.

“I had thought I wanted to have kids at a younger age but reset my framework and realised that’s not for me.”

The couple love the “spontaneity” they have to go on dates nights or go away last minute.

Michael said: “We met up with our friends in Croatia with a four-month-old and they hadn’t been on a date night in a year.

“I feel raising children is one of the most important things you can do in life.

“It’s such a selfless thing to do.

“You have to be certain you want one.

“I never felt strongly that way.

“I don’t feel a calling to be a parent and it didn’t feel right to do it as it’s the ‘done thing’.”

Helena and Michael moved back to Dallas, Texas, in 2019 and travelled around the US but moved to Oxford, in the UK, in October 2023.

They are able to work online while they travel and have visited 56 countries including Iceland, Croatia and Morocco.

Helene said: “I want to experience as many places as I can.

“It’s never ending.”

Helene's favourite places to visit have been New England, and the Christmas markets in Germany and France.

The couple said their family have been supportive but strangers are constantly asking when they are having kids.

For now it is something Helene and Michael don't see in their future but they haven't completely ruled it out.

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Transcript
00:00 Listen, I didn't get my heart broken. I didn't lose my job.
00:03 I moved abroad because I wanted to escape reality.
00:06 I was on this whirlwind trip with my husband and our best friend.
00:09 We went to this music festival in Belgium called Tomorrowland.
00:12 It's the best music festival I've ever been to. I've been four times now,
00:15 but we were in this music festival called Tomorrowland.
00:18 And then after we went to Amsterdam and we went to Paris. In Amsterdam,
00:22 we went to this bar in a windmill and we started talking to this Australian guy
00:27 and we're talking back and forth and he's asking us about our work schedule and
00:31 we're telling him, you know, how many hours a week we work.
00:33 And it's about 50 and he says 50 hours a week,
00:37 that's criminal.
00:38 And it stuck in my mind that I should not be working so many hours for someone
00:42 else.
00:43 And we go to Paris and we're sitting underneath the Eiffel tower and we're
00:46 drinking wine out of these little plastic cups and like the cheapest wine you
00:49 can possibly find. We have a baguette,
00:51 we have cheese and we're sitting there and we're watching the Eiffel tower
00:54 light up. My husband and I look at each other and we're like,
00:57 should we move? We got home from that trip. We decide we're going to move abroad,
01:02 but we're going to do it strategically.
01:03 We're not just going to like quit our jobs and just flit off to Europe.
01:08 So we move abroad to Nashville and we spend a year researching where to
01:13 live abroad. We literally didn't know where we're going to live.
01:16 But when we spent that year researching, we decided on Germany,
01:19 a place we had never been to. So we pick Heidelberg, Germany,
01:22 basically because they have a good freelance visa program.
01:25 It's kind of centrally located in Europe.
01:27 They have great public transportation and it just kind of checked all of our
01:31 boxes for things we wanted and where to move abroad.
01:33 We sell all of our stuff and we pick up just two suitcases and our two dogs and
01:38 we move abroad to Heidelberg, Germany. We're living there about three weeks.
01:42 Our visa gets denied and they tell us to leave the country.
01:45 I should mention that I'm trying to get a freelance visa as a travel blogger,
01:50 but we hire a lawyer and I write a 25 page business plan in German and we get
01:55 our visa approved.
01:57 You do not need an excuse or reason or something traumatic to happen to you in
02:01 order to live your dream, move abroad, start a business, whatever it is,
02:05 just go for it.
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