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Meri Pehchan  Topic:  Khandani Nizam aur Deen e Islam || خندانی نظام   Host: Syeda Zainab Alam  Guest: Prof. Naheed Abrar, Amna Siddique  #MeriPehchan #SyedaZainabAlam #ARYQtv  A female talk show having discussion over the persisting customs and norms of the society. Female scholars and experts from different fields of life will talk about the origins where those customs, rites and ritual come from or how they evolve with time, how they affect and influence our society, their pros and cons, and what does Islam has to say about them. We'll see what criteria Islam provides to decide over adapting or rejecting to the emerging global changes, say social, technological etc. of today.  Join ARY Qtv on WhatsApp ➡️ https://bit.ly/3Qn5cym Subscribe Here ➡️ https://www.youtube.com/ARYQtvofficial Instagram ➡️️ https://www.instagram.com/aryqtvofficial Facebook ➡️ https://www.facebook.com/ARYQTV/ Website    ➡️ https://aryqtv.tv/ Watch ARY Qtv Live ➡️ http://live.aryqtv.tv/ TikTok ➡️ https://www.tiktok.com/@aryqtvofficial

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00:00 Quran-e-Hakeem, Sirat-ul-Nabi (SAW)

00:04 Ahadith-e-Mubarka, Fiqh-e-Wasayil-e-Bayan

00:07 and many more, God willing, with the best of scholars.

00:11 I seek refuge with Allah from the accursed Satan

00:22 In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Ever Merciful

00:24 [Prayer in Arabic]

00:51 You are watching your favorite program, "My Identity"

00:55 and we are here with a new episode of "My Identity".

00:59 One of the most important and beautiful beauty of Islam

01:05 is its family system.

01:08 It is formed by a beautiful bond of marriage.

01:12 When husband and wife are bound in this bond,

01:15 then the family is formed.

01:18 This family system is so beautiful that it is the foundation of Islam.

01:24 Through marriage, there is love, affection, respect

01:30 and a bond is formed between two strangers

01:34 who live with each other with a lot of love

01:38 and then a family is formed.

01:40 Today we will talk about this.

01:42 We have guests with us.

01:44 Let's go to their introduction.

01:46 She is a social person.

01:49 She has been teaching for more than 30 years.

01:54 She has been in the teaching field for a long time.

01:57 She is my teacher.

01:59 I learn a lot from her.

02:01 Dr. Naheed Abrar is with us.

02:03 Let's welcome her.

02:04 Assalamu Alaikum.

02:05 Walaikum Assalam.

02:06 Are you well?

02:07 Yes, I am.

02:08 You are my identity.

02:09 Welcome.

02:10 Thank you.

02:11 Next to her is Rona Qafroz.

02:15 She has a very good intellectual background.

02:17 She is a very well prepared person.

02:19 She is a scholar.

02:20 She is with us.

02:22 Let's welcome her.

02:23 Assalamu Alaikum.

02:24 Walaikum Assalam.

02:25 You are also my identity.

02:27 Welcome.

02:28 Family system and Islam.

02:30 As we have said, this is our topic today.

02:34 Let's start with the foundation of family system.

02:38 Please tell us about the concept of Islam.

02:43 I seek refuge with Allah from the accursed Satan.

02:46 In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the ever Merciful.

02:49 Zainab, Islam presents a wide concept of family.

02:55 The family system of Islam is not only based on husband, wife and children.

03:01 It also includes grandparents, uncles, aunts, uncles, aunts, uncles, etc.

03:09 Islam presents a concept of family which is based on love, sacrifice,

03:18 obligations and feelings.

03:21 It is based on strong bonds of emotions and it is based on moral system.

03:27 Islam has declared marriage as the strong foundation of family.

03:32 Islam has declared adultery, haram and marriage as pure acts.

03:36 And has given the order to put love, love, purity and pureness on the basis of this strong relationship.

03:45 Allah says in the Holy Quran, "Fear Allah, who created you from a living being,

03:51 and from a living being He created your mate, and from him He spread many men and women."

03:56 In the Holy Quran, Allah says, "He created you from different tribes and families,

04:02 so that you may recognize one another.

04:05 But according to Allah, the one who is most honoured and respected will be the one who is most pious and merciful."

04:11 On the occasion of Hijatul Vidah, the Prophet (pbuh) said,

04:15 "O people, He created you from a man and a woman, so that you may recognize one another.

04:22 But according to Allah, the one who is most honoured and respected will be the one who is most pious and merciful."

04:28 See, from the Islamic point of view, the objectives of family are very high and important.

04:33 The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Start doing good deeds with your family and friends."

04:39 The Prophet (pbuh) said, "Every one of you will be asked about this from the guardian and responsible of your home."

04:47 In the Holy Quran, Allah says, "Save your family from the fire of hell."

04:52 In the Holy Quran, Allah says, "Command your family to pray and follow it."

04:58 When we discuss the concept of family in Islam,

05:02 the concept of family is the establishment of a prosperous society,

05:06 in which people live according to the Sunnah of Allah's commandments and the Prophet's (pbuh) Sunnah.

05:14 The concept of family in Islam gives us the concept of rights and obligations,

05:18 that one's right is the right of another, so that no injustice is done to anyone.

05:22 The concept of family in Islam gives us the concept of respect and honour,

05:26 that the younger one respects the older one, and the older one treats the younger one with love and affection,

05:31 so that the respect and sanctity of relations is not diminished.

05:36 The concept of family in Islam gives us the concept of love, affection, piety, goodness, and brotherhood,

05:42 so that we treat each other with love, help each other, share in each other's happiness and sorrows,

05:49 and live life together with the same love and affection.

05:53 Obviously, Islam has given us such a beautiful family system,

05:58 that we can learn a lot by following it, and the emotions of love and affection can spread in our hearts.

06:05 Subhanallah, subhanallah.

06:07 And sister, the truth is that a child's personality is nurtured by the family,

06:13 and it is a different matter.

06:15 Let's talk more about the importance of the family system in Islam.

06:21 I seek refuge with Allah from the accursed Satan.

06:23 In the name of Allah, the most Gracious, the ever Merciful.

06:24 The importance of the family system in Islam.

06:29 See, the religion of Islam is a very vast religion, and it has given us the rules and regulations to live life with full confidence.

06:37 It is a very vast religion.

06:39 If we look at it from this perspective, in today's time, there are many people who prefer to live alone.

06:46 We want to do everything alone in our lives.

06:49 There is no need for anyone.

06:50 As you were saying at the beginning, when the fist is closed, it is powerful.

06:55 And when the fist is opened, its power decreases.

06:58 So, the individual who wants to live his life, he faces many problems that he cannot face alone.

07:06 And when Allah Almighty creates a single person, he is also blessed with relations.

07:13 You get the relations of parents, you get the relations of siblings, you get the relations of grandparents, you get the relations of other relatives.

07:22 In the Islamic perspective, the concept of family is the same. Husband and wife, children, parents and other relatives.

07:30 Now, all of these are combined to give the name of the family.

07:34 And in this respect, a person should live.

07:36 This is the purpose that you cannot spend your life alone.

07:40 Similarly, you see, unlike this, if we have an idea that someone is stealing,

07:48 then what is our practice today that we boycott them.

07:53 We stop meeting them.

07:54 Someone is committing a crime, someone is involved in any illegal activity,

07:57 we end their relations instead of coming to us.

08:01 Now, this family system, the Islamic concept that is giving us,

08:05 is that for example, when there is an injury in our body,

08:09 for example, a wound on the hand,

08:11 then what do we do?

08:12 We cut that hand and throw it away.

08:14 Or we repair it, treat it and there are difficulties in treating it.

08:19 We do all the practices, we do all the precautions, medicines,

08:22 and then we fix the hand.

08:23 So, the family is also like this, that if there are some people who are on the side of sin,

08:27 who are on the side of evil, then they should not be separated or should not be separated from them.

08:31 Instead, it is a challenge to turn their evil into good.

08:35 To live in the world of Islam.

08:36 Yes, absolutely.

08:37 And Islam is such a vast religion that it does not even promote guidance.

08:41 What is guidance?

08:42 That everyone should leave everything and go to the jungles.

08:44 It does not even promote this.

08:46 As it happened in the beginning, that Allah Almighty has made a very beautiful relationship,

08:50 that two teams, husband and wife, man and woman,

08:53 are made in a marriage, and after that their family starts.

08:57 Allah Almighty blesses them with children.

08:59 This husband and wife first fulfill the rights of each other.

09:02 Then when the children come, they raise the children well and take care of them.

09:07 Then when the children reach the age of maturity, then the same children take care of their parents.

09:12 Then he gets married, and the family grows further.

09:15 When they take care of each other's needs,

09:18 act with each other with goodness,

09:20 stop from evil,

09:21 help each other in difficulties and troubles,

09:23 then this is the family system.

09:25 This should be run very beautifully.

09:27 And if you do good deeds with the family for the sake of Allah Almighty's pleasure,

09:34 and do good deeds with the family for the sake of Allah Almighty's pleasure,

09:37 and do good deeds with the family for the sake of Allah Almighty's pleasure,

09:40 then living together in this family will become a worship for you.

09:44 This family system is given by Allah Almighty,

09:47 because when we are not born alone in this world,

09:50 then how can we live alone for the rest of our lives?

09:53 We will live together, we will live united.

09:55 And you know, we have read many hadiths,

09:57 that if we are sinners, then go and sit in the gathering of Allah's love.

10:00 That through Allah's love, you too will be forgiven for your sins.

10:03 So when you live together in the family,

10:05 there are many elders, there are many people of Allah,

10:07 when you live with them, you will learn religion, you will learn the world,

10:10 then your future life will become easier.

10:12 And when you live with them,

10:14 you never know, Allah Almighty is so loving that you will be given their charity.

10:18 Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar.

10:19 This conversation will continue.

10:21 At this time, there is a break in the program.

10:23 We will be back after this short break.

10:25 Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu

10:28 You are watching the program, My Identity.

10:30 And in My Identity, once again, you all have a good time.

10:34 Today we are talking about the family system in relation to the religion of Islam.

10:39 And in this regard, what is the importance of the family system?

10:42 We also talked about its integrity.

10:44 Dr. Naheed Abrar Sahiba is with us.

10:47 And Alima Aamna Siddiqui is also present.

10:50 And we were talking about the unity of the individual.

10:53 So Allah has kept it in the nature of man that he needs others.

10:58 That is, a person cannot live alone in this whole world.

11:01 He cannot be alone.

11:03 To talk to him, to tell him something of his heart,

11:08 or to do any work, we need another person.

11:14 If we talk about the family system,

11:16 then in the family system, we also need moral support.

11:20 At some points, moral support is also needed.

11:23 Then financially, we need one or the other.

11:28 In this way, a family system is formed or comes into existence.

11:33 Or it is better to take care of it.

11:35 Now I will move to you.

11:37 You say, the family and the life of the family,

11:41 what are the intentions and goals?

11:43 Please tell us about this.

11:44 See Zainab, in the Holy Quran, Allah has declared the relationship of husband and wife as one of His signs.

11:51 This is the basis of society.

11:54 A person cannot live alone in society.

11:57 A system has been given to live in society.

12:01 Under this system, he makes relations with people.

12:05 He makes a separate house and tries to run it in a good way as a regulator.

12:11 This is called family or home.

12:14 In the family system, a person is connected to his family from birth to death.

12:25 Zainab's family life is based on husband, wife and children.

12:31 Along with this, they make relations with each other.

12:38 They live together as a companion to each other's sorrows.

12:42 In society, people of different races and religions live together.

12:46 But we live together as a companion to each other's sorrows.

12:50 We help each other and take care of each other's needs.

12:55 This is called family life or family life.

12:59 Now there are some intentions and goals of family life.

13:02 Zainab, the first goal is the survival of the human race.

13:06 When a man and a woman are in the sacred bond of marriage,

13:11 a generation is born.

13:15 A mother gives her love to her child from birth to death.

13:26 She lives with her child as a God's mercy.

13:29 A father earns a living for his children in the scorching sun.

13:35 He raises his children and makes them young.

13:38 Both religions are obligatory for each other.

13:42 From birth to youth and in the relationship of marriage,

13:47 parents help and guide each other.

13:51 The second goal is the preservation of morals and character.

13:55 The religion of Islam has declared a strong bond of marriage as a strong fort.

14:01 Just as we are safe in the fort,

14:04 a man is safe from various evils.

14:12 This will protect society.

14:15 The third goal is the education and upbringing of the new generation.

14:20 Just as the educational institutions educate the students,

14:25 parents also educate their children in the worldly and religious ways.

14:29 They teach them how to get up, sit, eat, walk and walk.

14:34 They teach them how to live life by following the principles of the Sunnah of the Prophet.

14:39 The Prophet said that just as he raised his three daughters and sisters,

14:45 he taught them all the skills of life.

14:50 When the time of marriage came,

14:52 he arranged for their marriage.

14:54 Allah will give them a place in heaven.

14:57 Then comes the peace and tranquility.

14:59 In the Holy Quran, Allah has declared this relationship as peace and tranquility.

15:05 Husband and wife are like one and the same.

15:08 The house where there is love,

15:10 where there is love between husband and wife,

15:13 and where there is good upbringing of children,

15:15 where children are sincere to their parents,

15:20 that house will be like heaven.

15:23 A family life is the birthplace of a well-organized society.

15:29 A society can only progress when the family progresses.

15:33 If the family does not progress,

15:35 the society will not be able to progress.

15:37 The society is also called a weak society if the family is not strong.

15:44 To make the family strong,

15:47 and to make it walk on the beautiful paths of life,

15:51 it is very important for the husband and wife to be united and love each other.

15:58 You have spoken about this very beautifully.

16:03 This also shows the importance of family system.

16:07 How children grow up under the shadow of their parents.

16:11 Then the upbringing process also starts.

16:13 The upbringing process starts with the mother's child.

16:16 Then the child grows up in the family.

16:21 Amina, I will ask you a question.

16:23 You can ask me.

16:24 But still, we see that there are many problems in the family system.

16:30 There are many problems.

16:32 How do you see these problems?

16:35 As you said, there are many problems in the family system.

16:39 The reason for the problems is that we have increased our demands.

16:43 We have increased our expectations of each other.

16:48 Whereas, a person's expectations should be only from God.

16:52 When we expect something from someone, we are deceiving ourselves.

16:56 We do not know if what we expect from the other person is worth fulfilling or not.

17:01 So, if we are talking about the rights of the husband and wife,

17:05 that the husband and wife have to take care of each other,

17:07 then the family will be strong and the children will also see.

17:10 Here, the clashes between the husband and wife are not ending.

17:13 So, what will the child learn from the fights of the parents?

17:16 He is learning to be disrespectful.

17:18 These are the reasons that we think of marriage as the most beautiful part of life.

17:26 But it is not like that.

17:28 Marriage is beautiful in the Islamic way of life.

17:32 But after that, the challenges increase.

17:35 You have to fulfill all the responsibilities of the husband and wife.

17:39 There are difficulties and anger.

17:42 You have to be patient in some situations and share in some situations.

17:45 All these things are involved in the life of marriage.

17:48 In our society, until the concept of marriage is not over, all the problems are over.

17:52 The boy and the girl think the same.

17:54 When these expectations are not met,

17:56 when the parents are fighting in front of the children,

17:58 then the children are negatively affected.

18:00 This is why the parents always teach us that if you have a problem,

18:07 then keep it to the extent of your room.

18:09 Do not spread this thing outside.

18:12 We talk to our friends.

18:14 There are complaints of husbands and wives on the phone.

18:17 The child sees it.

18:18 Now we cannot tell the child that why did you talk about the house outside?

18:22 When he sees his elders doing this,

18:24 automatically he will have the same habits.

18:26 Therefore, we have to fulfill the sanctity of the relations in the same category.

18:31 If there is any conflict between the husband and wife,

18:35 then solve it after the children sleep or in the absence of the children.

18:40 Never disrespect the father in front of the children.

18:43 Do not disrespect the mothers.

18:45 Otherwise, the personality of the child will clash.

18:47 If he sees his father shouting, he will not be able to respect him.

18:51 He will have a relationship of fear.

18:54 So these things become obstacles.

18:56 Then you see the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

18:59 Often there are misunderstandings in this.

19:01 The children see that sometimes the grandmother is right, sometimes the mother is right.

19:04 When a child is concerned about these things,

19:07 then the clashes that he has seen in his childhood,

19:10 they come in his personality.

19:12 Now we cannot expect this from today's young generation.

19:15 When we keep saying that we want a separate house,

19:18 we cannot expect our child to stay with us after marriage.

19:21 So the way we have given life, the way we have given input,

19:25 when he grows up, he will return it to us.

19:28 So if we have followed the rules of our relations,

19:31 the rules of our relations, the rules of our relations,

19:35 if we have followed them well,

19:37 then our young generation will also take care of us.

19:40 Old age homes have not been made here.

19:42 You think,

19:43 orphanages have not been made where children are put in,

19:48 or old parents are put in.

19:51 Why?

19:52 We have been told so many virtues of serving parents.

19:55 Despite this, today's youth is such that

19:57 they are heading towards old age homes to save their lives.

20:00 So these bad things are within us.

20:02 The shortcomings are within us that we have not fulfilled the rights.

20:05 Think about parents.

20:06 You just woke up in the morning,

20:08 and you have seen the smile on the parents' faces,

20:11 then you get the reward of Hajj.

20:13 Allah Almighty has given such great rewards in such actions.

20:17 When we prefer to be alone,

20:19 and you see, I have to say with great regret,

20:21 the topic is very beautiful, very long,

20:23 but I will briefly say,

20:25 we sit in a drawing room and enjoy a family time.

20:28 From childhood we have seen that all the elders and children will sit together,

20:32 and the conversation would start on any topic.

20:34 Today we sit in our drawing room,

20:36 and we have a family time, a prime time,

20:38 everyone has gadgets in their hands,

20:40 no one is talking to each other.

20:41 The mother is swiping her mobile,

20:43 the children are playing games,

20:44 the father is on his laptop.

20:46 No one is talking to each other.

20:47 So when we do not talk to each other,

20:49 do not discuss our problems,

20:50 this is the reason why parents do not know what is happening with the children in school,

20:54 what is happening with the husband in the office,

20:55 the wife does not know.

20:56 We are discussing outside.

20:57 We are discussing outside,

20:58 we are getting to hear the family talks from outside.

21:01 These are all clashes.

21:02 If we will follow our relations as they are,

21:04 as it is the order to follow,

21:06 these bad habits will also end,

21:07 and the family system will also be formed with beauty.

21:09 And the topic comes back to that unit,

21:12 that is, the family system starts from where,

21:15 that is, if we have a daughter or a son,

21:18 we especially encourage daughters to be patient,

21:21 that they have to go to another house,

21:22 they have to be patient,

21:23 they have to tolerate.

21:24 We should also teach the sons that

21:26 when a woman comes home,

21:29 she has her rights,

21:30 the mother has her rights.

21:31 This is where the clash starts,

21:32 and that is where the family starts fighting and fighting.

21:36 So the practice of upbringing should be from the beginning,

21:40 whether it is a daughter or a son,

21:41 a family, a unit,

21:43 both should be taught that we have to be patient,

21:46 we have to pay the rights of others.

21:48 We are talking about obligations again and again,

21:50 that we did not get this, we did not get that,

21:52 we are complaining,

21:54 but if we do our obligations in the right way,

21:57 then the rights of others are paid by themselves.

22:00 Majeed will talk on this topic.

22:02 There is a break between us and you.

22:05 We will be back after this short break.

22:08 Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

22:11 You are watching the program 'My Identity'

22:14 and in 'My Identity' we welcome you once again.

22:18 Guests and personalities are also with us

22:20 and today's topic is very important.

22:23 We bring all the topics so that we can also improve our personality.

22:28 The mothers, daughters, sisters who are watching us,

22:31 their personalities can be shaped, their characters can be shaped.

22:34 The topic we are presenting to you today is

22:37 the family system and the religion of Islam.

22:39 What does Islam want from a family?

22:42 How can all the members of that family

22:45 connect with each other and raise a good family?

22:51 Guests and personalities are with us.

22:54 Dr. Naheed Abrar Sahiba and Alima Amna are also with us.

22:58 Both of them are very good, excellent and well-trained.

23:02 As it should be said, as if someone can be trained.

23:06 This is the purpose of our program.

23:08 Sahiba, I will read your side.

23:10 Please tell us if we talk about the character of Khatun-e-Khana.

23:13 Because an important unit is the family,

23:16 it has two people, husband and wife.

23:18 As women give more time to the children at home,

23:21 they have a very important role.

23:23 I would like to ask about the role of Khatun-e-Khana

23:26 in the construction of a good family.

23:28 Which is very important.

23:30 Look Zainab, a woman is not a prophet,

23:34 she is definitely the mother of a prophet.

23:36 A woman is not a prophet, she is definitely the mother of a prophet.

23:41 If a woman becomes religious, the whole family becomes religious.

23:45 If a mother raises her children well,

23:48 the whole family is raised well.

23:51 The Prophet (pbuh) gave the highest status of matabi to the wife after Iman.

23:59 The Prophet (pbuh) said that the woman who obeys her husband,

24:05 she is like a bird in the air,

24:09 and a fish in the sea, and an angel in the sky.

24:14 A woman is like a Khatun-e-Khana.

24:17 If we study life,

24:20 a woman has a very important role in raising her children.

24:26 Because fathers come to work at 8 am,

24:30 and come back at 6 am, so they are tired.

24:32 A woman spends the whole day with her children.

24:35 Even if she works, her heart is always eager to go home early,

24:41 and to raise her children as much as possible.

24:45 A woman has a lot of responsibility,

24:48 she makes the environment of her home happy.

24:51 She takes care of her husband,

24:54 she raises her children,

24:56 she plays an important role in the responsibilities of the children.

24:59 She also takes care of her children.

25:02 If there are seven in-laws, she also takes care of them.

25:06 To serve and take care of seven in-laws,

25:10 the status of nafli ibadat has been given.

25:13 A woman also tells her children the difference between good and bad,

25:17 good and bad, right and wrong, good and bad.

25:21 A woman has the habit of taking care of her children from childhood,

25:26 and also teaches them the etiquette of giving them a good upbringing.

25:30 Along with their worldly upbringing, she also teaches them religious upbringing.

25:34 How to get up, how to greet the elders,

25:37 on Eid-ul-Baqarah, go to your relatives,

25:40 go to your elders and greet them.

25:43 How to meet people,

25:45 she tells them the different aspects of the life of the Prophet (pbuh).

25:49 She teaches them beautiful things about the life of the companions.

25:54 A child becomes a successful person in the society when he grows up.

25:59 Baba Farish Shakarganj said,

26:02 his mother was also present,

26:04 that till today I have never missed the tahajjud prayer.

26:08 His mother said, "Son, how can you miss the tahajjud prayer?

26:12 Your mother never fed you milk without ablution.

26:16 So when a mother has this role,

26:19 then the sons are like Baba Farish Shakarganj.

26:22 Similarly, the Prophet (pbuh)

26:25 after the fajr prayer,

26:27 a companion would come and greet him.

26:30 Everyone was very worried.

26:32 So they came to the Prophet (pbuh)

26:35 and asked him, "Why does this person leave so early?"

26:39 When the Prophet (pbuh) called that person and asked him the reason,

26:43 he said, "O Messenger of Allah,

26:45 I leave my children at home.

26:48 There is a date tree in my neighborhood,

26:52 all its branches reach my courtyard.

26:55 If the dates fall,

26:57 then my children may pick them up and eat them.

27:00 So that there is a difference in their upbringing.

27:03 So this is good and bad.

27:05 I will mention one aspect on this forum.

27:08 In someone's construction,

27:10 in someone's progress,

27:12 in reaching the top of a goal,

27:15 the husband and wife play a role.

27:18 If the father is irresponsible,

27:20 then when the mother is not in peace,

27:23 then she will not be able to raise her children.

27:26 She will not be able to think.

27:28 So in the progress of anything,

27:30 the husband and wife play an important role.

27:33 When the children can climb mountains at the same time,

27:36 can make a stone into a pebble at the same time,

27:39 can make atoms into atoms at the same time,

27:42 can make droplets into droplets at the same time,

27:44 when both parents together

27:46 can raise their children's religion

27:48 and raise the world.

27:50 And I will say one thing from this forum,

27:52 that this is such a beautiful relationship.

27:54 This relationship reaches the top

27:56 when we take care of each other's respect and dignity.

28:00 Respect each other,

28:02 share happiness and buy happiness.

28:04 Subhanallah, Subhanallah.

28:06 Sister, look at the Master of the Universe,

28:08 Hazrat Fatima Zahra,

28:10 salamullah alaiha,

28:11 she is grinding the mill,

28:12 reciting the Holy Quran.

28:14 So how the good and the bad are playing in the courtyard

28:17 and learning everything.

28:19 You see, such mothers,

28:21 these mothers who are raising,

28:23 like Sheikh Abdul Qadir Jilani,

28:24 may Allah have mercy on him,

28:25 his mother,

28:26 she remembered the Quran,

28:27 she memorized it.

28:28 When she used to feed milk in her childhood,

28:30 she used to recite the Holy Quran,

28:32 she used to read it,

28:33 she used to do it.

28:34 So it had an effect on her.

28:36 Similarly, the mothers of today,

28:38 we also saw our mother,

28:40 that she is also reciting,

28:42 reciting the Tasbeeh,

28:43 but today we see a little loss of this thing.

28:46 But if I talk about my generation,

28:49 we have seen that it happens that

28:51 "Hasb-e-Rabbi Jallallah,

28:53 Maa fee qalbi Ghairallah,

28:55 Noor-e-Muhammad Sallallahu 'Alaihi wa Sallam,

28:57 Laa ilaha illallah."

28:58 The mothers are making their children sleep after studying.

29:00 So the need of this age is that

29:02 even today,

29:03 this practice should be established,

29:04 this style of training should be established.

29:06 Make them sleep in the same way.

29:07 Don't make them sleep by looking at the mobile,

29:08 that the child keeps looking at the mobile till the end

29:10 and falls asleep while looking at it.

29:11 So this is also a very important thing.

29:13 Amna, we will move to you.

29:14 Let's talk about the family system or the joint family system.

29:18 We are talking about the family system today.

29:21 Now, since the benefits of the joint family system,

29:25 the effects on the social level,

29:27 how do you see it? Please tell us.

29:29 Yes, there are many benefits of the joint family system.

29:32 First of all, if you are living alone

29:35 and if you fall ill,

29:36 then you have to get up and drink water yourself,

29:38 and have medicine yourself.

29:39 Whereas in the joint family system,

29:41 if you live with someone,

29:42 then there is a mother-in-law, a sister-in-law,

29:43 a brother-in-law, a sister-in-law,

29:44 they can come and take care of you.

29:46 Similarly, if you are a working woman,

29:48 you have to go to work,

29:49 if you go alone,

29:50 then you will have to keep a caretaker for your child

29:52 or have to admit the child in the nursery,

29:54 then you can go somewhere and complete your working hours.

29:56 Whereas in the joint family,

29:58 if you live with your grandmother,

29:59 grandmother,

30:00 other family members,

30:01 they can take care of your child.

30:03 So these benefits are like this in terms of the family.

30:05 Then, look at the same things,

30:06 when the religion of Islam

30:08 orders us to be united,

30:10 then there are many benefits of that.

30:12 For example,

30:13 you are talking about the family system,

30:15 you just take a small example,

30:16 Friday prayer.

30:17 In this, when everyone is united in the mosque,

30:20 and it is said that everyone has to pray together,

30:22 what is the reason for that?

30:23 Not just worship,

30:24 worship is already happening.

30:25 Along with that, there are many merchants

30:27 who get such people there

30:29 with whom they can do their business.

30:31 There are many such fathers

30:33 who are looking for good proposals for their daughters.

30:35 They get such worshipful boys there

30:37 who can run the relationship.

30:39 There are many poor people who meet the rich,

30:41 their needs are fulfilled.

30:43 Similarly, if the government of the time

30:45 has to deliver something in the public,

30:47 then it will tell the Imam that

30:49 you can only say this in the sermon or in the announcement.

30:52 From this perspective,

30:54 whenever Allah has ordered to be united in the religion of Islam,

30:57 it is because people have seen the strength of Muslims.

31:00 So when we live together in the family,

31:03 you see,

31:05 we are suffering from this problem,

31:07 everyone else is suffering from depression and anxiety.

31:10 He cannot say what is in his heart to anyone.

31:13 The reason for this is that we have built walls between each other.

31:17 We do not communicate with people.

31:19 You see, there are so many sittings,

31:22 so many gatherings,

31:23 such get-togethers where the whole family sits together.

31:25 Very few, on Eid, Baqra'eed,

31:27 if someone is there, then it is there, otherwise it is not there.

31:29 Such gatherings used to happen in every family.

31:32 Once in a month, once in 15 days.

31:34 Even now, you see,

31:35 if you talk about your generation,

31:37 it still happens that all the married girls

31:39 decide on one day and go to their parents' house.

31:42 So that all the sisters can meet,

31:44 and the mother can meet everyone.

31:46 This gathering,

31:47 two sisters are sitting together,

31:49 sharing their feelings,

31:51 problems are solved,

31:52 the problems that children are facing in raising them,

31:54 someone has colic pain, someone has an allergy,

31:56 when you discuss among yourselves,

31:58 all these problems are solved through talks.

32:00 We do not have to spend money,

32:02 we do not have to go to doctors,

32:04 when women and men sit together,

32:06 many problems get solved.

32:08 This is the reason.

32:10 Therapies are done.

32:11 I am talking,

32:12 we have to go to the psychiatric doctor,

32:14 to talk,

32:15 they have to pay for the therapy.

32:16 Yes, they get saved.

32:17 Absolutely, they get saved.

32:18 Because you see,

32:19 you get relief by seeing your mother,

32:21 you get peace by seeing your parents.

32:23 If there is any difficult phase in life,

32:25 you should talk to your elders.

32:27 We will get out of anxiety and depression.

32:29 So, this meeting,

32:30 meeting and meeting,

32:31 this is the means of survival of relations.

32:34 Our Holy Prophet (PBUH) has said,

32:38 if you have to apologize to settle the relations,

32:41 and you feel that your respect is decreasing,

32:44 then to settle the relations,

32:46 apologize to them,

32:47 and if you feel that your respect is decreasing,

32:49 then ask for forgiveness from me.

32:51 You think,

32:52 Holy Prophet (PBUH) has always

32:54 ordered us to live together,

32:56 to live united.

32:57 There are many benefits in this.

32:59 When we live together,

33:00 live in a joint family,

33:02 now the question arises here,

33:04 regarding our sisters,

33:05 I have an idea that the question

33:07 must be coming to your mind,

33:08 that a lot of difficulties also happen.

33:10 We ourselves create difficulties.

33:12 Then the thing comes there,

33:13 when we start demanding more,

33:16 or when we start looking for the best,

33:18 if she has two cars,

33:19 then I should have it too.

33:20 If she has a big room,

33:21 then I should have it too.

33:22 When we start being racist,

33:24 then the family system,

33:26 then it becomes a mess.

33:28 We should never question the distribution of Allah.

33:31 We should be patient with what Allah has given us.

33:33 Allah says,

33:34 "If you are grateful, I will increase your income."

33:38 So if you want something,

33:40 you should ask Allah,

33:41 don't race with people,

33:42 that she has a big house,

33:43 so I should have it too.

33:45 Live your life with this belief.

33:47 You said a very beautiful thing,

33:48 that if we keep fulfilling our duty individually,

33:51 automatically we will keep fulfilling the rights of others.

33:54 So we should live our life well.

33:56 Put your own input in the family system,

33:59 your family will improve automatically.

34:01 JazakAllah.

34:02 JazakAllah.

34:03 You were saying a very beautiful thing.

34:05 And who knows,

34:06 from this conversation,

34:07 somewhere in someone's heart,

34:08 something or something develops,

34:11 that there is peace and tranquility in the house.

34:14 And we see,

34:15 often we see,

34:16 in our childhood,

34:17 we never had the concept of an old house.

34:19 We might have heard this somewhere,

34:21 but now it is very common.

34:23 And in Europe,

34:24 people are suffering from so many psychological problems.

34:27 And they live alone.

34:30 They are the victims of loneliness.

34:31 They are the victims of loneliness.

34:33 That is why,

34:34 to raise many pets,

34:35 it is seen that there is a lot of enthusiasm,

34:38 so that when they return from office,

34:41 we try,

34:42 we see,

34:43 that when we enter the house,

34:45 our child is spread out,

34:47 and he is hugged from his chest.

34:49 The father imagines this.

34:50 But there,

34:51 since there is no such system,

34:53 there is loneliness,

34:55 loneliness,

34:56 the root of many diseases.

34:58 You are present.

34:59 A small,

35:00 brief message

35:01 you would like to give to our sisters.

35:02 See,

35:03 to fulfill any relationship,

35:05 we have to expand our heart.

35:08 Absolutely right.

35:09 We have to expand our thoughts.

35:11 Respect each other's heart.

35:13 Right.

35:14 We have to respect each other's dignity.

35:17 The religion of Islam teaches us this.

35:20 Excellent.

35:21 Amna.

35:22 See,

35:23 the power of living together,

35:25 you will understand that only by living together.

35:27 Because there are many lonely people,

35:29 who are yearning for relationships.

35:30 Very beautiful.

35:31 The power of living together,

35:33 we have that,

35:34 common, lonely.

35:35 The same thing happened,

35:36 where the talk started,

35:37 that a closed fist is more powerful.

35:39 So the talk started from there,

35:40 and ended there.

35:41 So,

35:42 there is power in living together.

35:43 There is health in living together.

35:45 There is more goodness.

35:46 I would like to thank both of you,

35:48 for being our guests.

35:49 Doctor Sahiba,

35:50 you have come.

35:51 Allama Sahiba,

35:52 you have come.

35:53 Whenever you come,

35:54 we have good talks.

35:55 Please allow me to come again,

35:56 with a new topic,

35:57 without any life.

35:58 I will be present again,

35:59 till then,

36:00 Allah hafiz.

36:01 Bye-bye.

36:02 (upbeat music)

36:04 (upbeat music)

Meri Pehchan - Topic: Khandani Nizam aur Deen e Islam - 18 Dec 2023 - ARY Qtv

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