#ControllingBoyfriend
Dear Chixie,
Maayong adlaw. Ako diay si Gia. Naa koy boyfriend nga itago nalang nato sa pangalan nga Renz.
College classmates mi ni Renz ug nagka developay mi tungod kay gi-dare mi sa among classmates nga mag-date.
Niadtong higayona, NBSB ko while si Renz, gikan og breakup. Ganahan ko ni Renz Chixie. Naa niya ang akong gipangita sa usa ka lalaki maong wa madugay, ako siyang gisugot dihang gipanguyaban ko niya human mi nakagraduate og college.
Sa among kadugay Chixie, naa koy namatikdan kang Renz nga maora nako niya og gituok. Gikan sa unsa akong suoton hangtud kinsa akong mga kuyog, manghilabot siya. Usa ka adlaw nga padulong mi manglakaw, iya kong gikasab-an kay revealing ra daw ang akong gisuot bisan kon dili gud.
Love nako si Renz, Chixie, pero nasobraan siya ka-controlling.
Unsa man ang akong angay nga buhaton?
Gia
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03:59 So here it goes.
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07:18 In fact, he is my first boyfriend.
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08:25 From the dress I wear, the food I eat,
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08:43 feeling now, he is like controlling me.
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08:54 I actually told him (speaking in foreign language)
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10:21 - For portraying the role of Jia,
10:22 and to Eric for portraying the role of Renz.
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10:30 But of course, we're very live,
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10:36 Go ahead and comment down below or share our story
10:43 and use the hashtag, #controllingboyfriend.
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11:21 - He's the one living the life,
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11:28 And how much more, (speaking in foreign language)
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11:54 And also, we have reactions already,
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13:20 - Hello to Janice Alias here,
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13:26 Hello guys, good afternoon.
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13:41 I'm posting and (speaking in foreign language)
13:46 I will again rate the summary of our story this afternoon.
13:55 So here it goes.
13:58 It's a story about Gia and (speaking in foreign language)
14:10 Gia is, or was rather, was NBSB during that time,
14:15 or no boyfriend since birth.
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14:21 From what she's wearing and from what she eats,
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14:36 and also that includes her choosing her friends.
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14:45 So (speaking in foreign language)
14:55 Her thinking is that (speaking in foreign language)
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15:04 We've got lots of reactions about this.
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15:32 Break up with him, he's not for you.
15:35 You're not for him.
15:36 Someday, someone else would be willing to do the same
15:40 or do more than that.
15:41 Someday, he may meet someone who's willing to change for him
15:46 and someone who he is willing to change for.
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15:55 Reach for your peace of mind unless you either yield
16:00 for each other, then (speaking in foreign language)
16:06 Yield for each other, then (speaking in foreign language)
16:11 Let's check.
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16:26 Reaction is that you break up or (speaking in foreign language)
16:31 Let go.
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16:54 It's not gonna be easy, but in the long run,
17:16 if you will feel freedom, eventually,
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17:52 Happy New Year.
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18:19 The best solution is break up, but of course,
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18:46 Willing.
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24:53 ladies and gentlemen,
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24:58 Thank you so much, Franks.
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25:21 Do you think it is also controlling?
25:31 Or maybe it's just rare for us
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25:44 Some are like that.
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25:48 It's hard to deal with a controlling spirit.
25:52 Lift up everything to God for his changes.
25:57 No one can change another except God and Christ Jesus.
26:01 Conditional love means loving a person,
26:04 whoever he is and whatever he may be,
26:09 and acceptance only for we have our flaws also.
26:13 Love conquers all.
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26:19 Hello, happy watching.
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26:25 Thank you so much for reacting.
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26:50 She knows that she loves him so much,
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27:25 You're really in love and you're afraid to get hurt.
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27:31 And this is the only guy you've loved
27:33 and probably given everything.
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27:39 Your reactions still matter, so please do comment
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27:48 Gia, (speaking in foreign language)
27:53 Time is 4.42 and then (speaking in foreign language)
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28:13 Here is my advice to our letter sender, Gia.
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28:36 So to Gia and to everyone (speaking in foreign language)
28:41 probably in a relationship,
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28:43 there's a big difference between somebody
28:46 who is controlling and somebody who is concerned.
28:51 Okay?
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28:56 And by that, (speaking in foreign language)
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29:08 Because from what you're wearing, what you're eating,
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29:16 And that's something very alarming to me.
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29:20 If you have a partner,
29:22 your partner doesn't want you to look bad
29:24 in front of other people,
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29:29 That's my mindset.
29:31 Every time we are being corrected by a friend,
29:34 family member, or a loved one,
29:36 it means that they are just concerned of you.
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29:45 but they're concerned of you.
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30:06 There's a big difference.
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30:16 Why we are being corrected.
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30:46 I'm not saying that you're going to break up with him,
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30:53 you need to have another talk,
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31:04 because sometimes it also needs to,
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31:21 because you never had a boyfriend,
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31:44 and someone about,
31:46 just can we just sincerely talk
31:47 because I have concerns of certain relationship.
31:50 No, it's not (speaking in foreign language)
31:53 I just want to fix everything,
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31:57 what I'm feeling,
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32:03 because I wasn't able to express myself.
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32:07 The thing is (speaking in foreign language)
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32:16 Then let it out and tell him.
32:23 It's like this, I just don't understand
32:25 why you're controlling me with what I'm wearing,
32:28 why you're controlling me with what I'm eating.
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32:34 I don't get it, (speaking in foreign language)
32:37 you're just being too much,
32:38 and you're not allowing me to be myself.
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32:45 When you lose who you are,
32:48 while you are in a relationship,
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32:55 And that is not you already.
33:06 While we change for the good,
33:09 do not forget that you also have your own authenticity
33:14 of being yourself, and that's what's important.
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33:21 And you, your attitude, your being you is who you are,
33:32 and that's what makes you who you are.
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33:43 I remember there was one movie (speaking in foreign language)
33:53 and her boyfriend was being controlling,
33:57 control freak, and her boyfriend,
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34:08 And that's something that is very wrong.
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34:15 Though it correct for the good,
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34:27 But again, I'm not saying (speaking in foreign language)
34:32 What I'm trying to say is that,
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34:56 Then maybe that's the time that you need
34:59 to get out of the relationship.
35:02 Before, when I was younger, I was thinking
35:04 the solution of every problem in a relationship
35:07 is to just break up.
35:09 Why waste time?
35:11 But to me, relationship is give and take.
35:15 If your partner is willing to change also
35:19 from being his control freak type of guy,
35:23 then maybe your relationship will still work.
35:25 Because number one, (speaking in foreign language)
35:29 And then number two, (speaking in foreign language)
35:31 It's just that he cannot control being that way.
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35:39 Maybe he is used to being (speaking in foreign language)
35:45 Which is, you need balance.
35:48 Not all the time.
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35:51 Doesn't mean that (speaking in foreign language)
35:54 You need to be alpha all the time.
35:57 Sometimes, (speaking in foreign language)
36:01 Give and take.
36:03 For example, (speaking in foreign language)
36:08 There's no such thing as a perfect relationship, mind you.
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36:25 And do not go overboard.
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36:36 Is good.
36:39 Sometimes, it also can make your relationship worse.
36:44 No, so (speaking in foreign language)
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36:52 Yes, (speaking in foreign language)
36:54 But to what extent?
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36:59 That person be changed because this is what you want for her.
37:04 Not because this is who she is.
37:08 Again, (speaking in foreign language)
37:13 Because you're in a relationship.
37:17 Maybe (speaking in foreign language)
37:22 Because that is who you are.
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37:32 Even after our Facebook Live,
37:35 please continue to share.
37:38 And thank you, thank you so, so much.
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37:49 And once again, Jia, thank you so much
37:59 for sharing your story to us.
38:02 And if you have stories to share,
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38:38 I have to make sure for our episode, next episode.
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38:45 God bless you all and advance.
38:49 Merry Christmas and happy holidays, bye.
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