XiXi Lim opens up to Dasmond Koh on what it is like to be mocked for her size since secondary school and shares what her rather unusual pillar of support is.
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00:10 I think that as an artist,
00:11 if you want to stand in front of the spotlight,
00:13 your image is very important.
00:14 That's right.
00:15 The reason is that you need to have a memory point
00:18 so that people will remember you.
00:19 Yes.
00:20 For our Xixi,
00:21 of course, everyone's memory point is because of her figure.
00:24 What do you think?
00:25 I think so.
00:26 She can be my role model in my acting career or in the entertainment industry.
00:31 I personally think that she's a very special part of me.
00:36 You just said something that I don't really want to hear.
00:39 Because you said she's a role model.
00:41 I really think that she's not.
00:43 Really?
00:44 Really.
00:44 Because the reason is,
00:45 from my point of view,
00:47 if anyone wants to leave an impression on my memory,
00:51 I must remember certain things.
00:52 Some people's hairstyle,
00:54 hair,
00:54 some people's glasses,
00:55 including you, Prince Charming,
00:57 his glasses and hairstyle.
00:58 When it comes to you,
00:59 I really think it's because of your figure
01:02 and your personality.
01:05 So everyone has a memory point.
01:06 So it's definitely not a white lie.
01:08 When people use this name to talk about you,
01:10 or call you by that name,
01:12 it's not like you're unhappy
01:15 and you're trying to accept it.
01:19 I think "unhappy" is an understatement.
01:22 It hurts.
01:25 It definitely hurts.
01:25 No matter how young you are,
01:28 it hurts just thinking about it.
01:30 I think the hardest time was
01:35 middle school.
01:37 You're always the one who's isolated.
01:38 Because
01:39 when you're fat, people will naturally think you're ugly.
01:42 You're dirty.
01:43 You're lazy.
01:43 You're ugly.
01:44 So you don't have friends.
01:46 And then,
01:46 the average fat person
01:48 will be by your side when you're scolded or cancelled.
01:51 I remember I always wanted to tell myself
01:52 that I wanted to be invisible.
01:54 I really wanted to have that special effect.
01:56 Because I think
01:57 as long as people can't see me,
02:00 they won't cancel me.
02:01 After going through those
02:04 unhappy moments in the past,
02:07 I think the impact is not one-time.
02:10 And then, when you step into the entertainment industry,
02:13 some works will let it flourish again.
02:16 I think every time I appear,
02:19 it will cause a wave of chaos.
02:21 People will think,
02:22 "Is Xixi okay to act like this?"
02:23 "Why is she acting like this?"
02:25 Then you're just fat-shaming her.
02:27 Whether it's people who are on my side
02:29 or those who are on...
02:30 The opposite side.
02:32 Those who are on the opposite side.
02:33 Their comments or words
02:36 will always impact me.
02:38 Speaking of which,
02:39 I have to ask you about this.
02:40 It's about "A Girl's Go Army".
02:42 The reason is that when you said
02:44 you wanted to go to the military,
02:47 everyone started.
02:48 I don't know if you've seen
02:50 or contacted
02:51 some comments that you think are
02:55 really heartbreaking
02:57 -and that happened to you. -It's scary.
02:58 I often don't respond
03:01 or care.
03:02 I used to have this account.
03:04 He's not my fan.
03:05 He's just a friend
03:07 who watches my Instagram posts.
03:11 Every time I post on my Instagram,
03:12 he will insult me.
03:13 He will poke me.
03:14 For example, if I say today,
03:15 "Coffee. I finally got to drink coffee."
03:17 "You're still drinking coffee?"
03:18 "Is this cup enough?"
03:19 After that, whether it's with friends or something else,
03:21 he will say, "You've covered up all your friends."
03:23 "You're not worthy of being their friend."
03:24 I think he thinks
03:26 I should be alone.
03:27 Have you ever doubted
03:30 their motives?
03:32 I think they're not good at
03:33 communicating with others.
03:35 Everyone has their own problems.
03:37 Maybe
03:38 they can be a keyboardist
03:41 behind the keyboard
03:42 and make them feel just
03:43 and powerful.
03:44 So sometimes when I want to
03:47 respond to them,
03:48 I really think twice.
03:49 I think
03:50 the person behind the keyboard
03:53 might just need some attention.
03:55 But I also want to tell them
03:57 that when you hurt others,
04:00 and they can't take it,
04:01 it might be a life-threatening situation.
04:03 It's very serious.
04:05 I hope everyone will think twice
04:07 before leaving a comment.
04:08 As of today,
04:09 if anyone maliciously says
04:11 anything about your body,
04:13 and make comments or attack you,
04:15 you will still be hurt.
04:17 Yes.
04:18 I will still be hurt.
04:19 I'm a human.
04:20 If you see me on the street today,
04:23 and say, "Ha ha ha ha ha,
04:24 fatso!"
04:25 I will still be hurt.
04:26 I might not cry immediately,
04:29 but I will respond to you.
04:30 Or I might ignore you.
04:33 But if I hear it in my heart,
04:34 I will still be hurt.
04:35 What do you think is your pillar?
04:37 Besides your positive
04:39 mental state,
04:41 what else is around you?
04:43 Whether it's your family, friends,
04:44 or fans,
04:46 what are the pillars?
04:49 It might sound a bit abrupt.
04:52 The toilet.
04:53 If I can't take it,
04:56 I will say everything
04:58 that makes me unhappy,
04:59 and flush it out.
05:03 It might be meaningless to everyone,
05:05 but to me, it's an action
05:07 that reminds me of myself,
05:08 and makes me feel better.
05:09 And then you're free.
05:10 Yes, I'm free.
05:11 What do you think you can do
05:14 to make everyone
05:17 less so-called negative?
05:19 I hope that
05:21 there is a platform
05:22 or a direction
05:23 that when we are in the online world,
05:26 even if we are only slightly hurt,
05:28 or feel lost,
05:29 and don't know who to talk to,
05:33 we can still communicate with the platform or the internet.
05:36 It's like my heart-stopper.
05:38 It makes me feel at ease.
05:39 I think too many people
05:41 are bullied by the internet.
05:45 As long as they have a social platform,
05:47 they will be bullied by the internet.
05:49 Do you think that if a person is anonymous,
05:52 he can go even further?
05:53 Because no one knows who he is.
05:55 Yes, in fact,
05:56 bullying by the internet is a very important thing.
05:58 Because I think
06:00 many times they know
06:02 that no matter what I comment,
06:04 or say,
06:05 you can't find me.
06:07 You can't see me either.
06:08 If you don't do something,
06:09 don't you think you will be let go?
06:12 I was doing a live broadcast on TikTok.
06:15 And there was a user
06:17 who kept typing,
06:19 and I was seriously chatting with my fans.
06:23 I didn't even care about him.
06:24 All the fans were very
06:26 excited.
06:28 They kept scolding him.
06:29 I told them, "Everyone,
06:30 please don't be angry."
06:33 I told them, "If you ignore him, he will disappear."
06:34 Because he wants people to respond to him.
06:37 I didn't want to care about him.
06:39 After you logged in,
06:40 would you block this person or do something else?
06:41 I wouldn't.
06:42 You represented two characters.
06:44 The first character is
06:45 you are very open-minded.
06:46 You let people know.
06:48 The other one is
06:49 you are letting them go.
06:51 But the problem is
06:52 you have to remind everyone
06:53 that this is not a good way.
06:54 No.
06:54 Yes.
06:55 So you have to think carefully
06:56 whether you should
06:57 put a limit on it.
06:57 Because it's hard to do this when you log in.
07:00 After you put a limit on it,
07:01 you should block him
07:02 or let him know
07:03 that this behavior cannot be accepted.
07:05 At least you have to report him.
07:06 But you really pointed out this to me.
07:09 If I let him go
07:12 and do this,
07:12 he might hurt other people.
07:15 Okay.
07:16 I will report you.
07:17 I don't know if you know this,
07:19 but if you encounter
07:20 a big problem on the internet,
07:23 such as harassment,
07:26 and you want to seek help,
07:27 you can go to
07:30 a place to get help.
07:32 I'm not afraid of anything.
07:33 I'm afraid of exams.
07:35 So you don't know
07:38 what you can do.
07:40 I really firmly believe that
07:41 a person like Yixi
07:44 is active on the internet
07:46 and tries to help people.
07:48 So you should know more.
07:50 There is a thing on the internet
07:51 that is actually a Poha.
07:53 Protection from Harassment Act.
07:56 Have you heard of this?
07:57 No.
07:57 Actually, what it does is
07:59 to prevent people
08:01 from spreading
08:03 or attacking people
08:05 on the internet.
08:07 Yes.
08:07 Okay.
08:08 He is already searching.
08:09 Yes.
08:09 Yes.
08:10 With his words,
08:11 you should go and check it out.
08:14 For me,
08:15 knowing more about these things
08:16 is convenient for us to advocate to everyone.
08:18 It's good that I know.
08:19 Because at least I can tell them
08:21 that there is this platform.
08:22 You can go and see
08:23 if it can help you.
08:25 I can also know for myself.
08:27 There is a platform that can protect me.
08:30 Yes.
08:30 So the internet platform
08:32 is a world that belongs to everyone.
08:33 Everyone should use it well
08:35 and use it well.
08:36 In this way, we can help each other.
08:38 Yes, we should be happy and harmonious.
08:39 It's good if everyone is happy.
08:41 Yes.
08:42 In the end,
08:43 the life of positive energy is still very important.
08:46 So, in the end,
08:46 what else does Xixi want to share with us?
08:48 Maybe the things that have accompanied you to grow up
08:51 or the things that you want to share
08:54 with everyone after experiencing it yourself.
08:56 I have been repeating it over and over again.
09:00 You must love yourself.
09:01 You must understand yourself.
09:02 You must protect yourself and accept yourself.
09:04 I think everything starts with yourself.
09:07 Because only when you protect yourself,
09:08 you can protect more people around you
09:12 and the people you love.
09:13 So I hope everyone can learn to love yourself.
09:16 And the most important thing is that
09:17 you are unhappy for one day,
09:18 you are happy for one day.
09:20 Why should you be unhappy?
09:22 So I hope everyone can be open-minded
09:25 and live happily every day.
09:27 Yes, treat yourself with positive energy.
09:29 Of course, the most important thing is
09:31 to understand your situation.
09:33 If you feel that you need help at any time,
09:36 bravely take that step
09:37 because no one will make fun of you.
09:39 In the end, you will benefit from it.
09:41 You can live a happier life.
09:43 That's the most important thing.
09:44 That's right.
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