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00:00 If anger besets you, look at your entire life, the full spectrum.

00:11 Nothing short of that would do.

00:16 Anger is not a disease in itself.

00:23 Anger is an indicator and anger is a very powerful and gross indicator.

00:33 Anger becomes necessary so that you may see how bad your condition is.

00:41 Subtle signs of discomfort and bad living are always there but one misses those signs

00:54 because you miss those signs or ignore them.

01:00 Hence your system has to forcibly show you that there is something wrong with you.

01:05 Hence you erupt.

01:06 When you erupt, then you cannot miss what is happening with you.

01:09 It is so violent, so loud, so apparent.

01:18 You might get slapped.

01:19 How will you miss the marks on your face?

01:24 Something this gross has to be done because you are not ready to read the fine print,

01:31 the subtle message.

01:32 Are you getting it?

01:36 Anger is a message.

01:39 Anger is not a message that the 24th hour is misplaced or infected.

01:51 Anger is a message that the entire spectrum of 24 hours is going wrong.

02:01 You are not living rightly.

02:05 You are just not living rightly.

02:18 If there is sugar in your urine, do you start treating the urine?

02:27 You are not eating rightly.

02:31 The malaise lies elsewhere.

02:35 Don't take a canister of urine to the ICU.

02:47 The urine is merely an indicator.

02:57 You are living wrongly.

03:02 What is it to live wrongly?

03:07 There cannot be anger without the frustration of desire.

03:12 You cannot be angry if your desire has not been defeated.

03:26 Anger is an upsurge of energy.

03:29 Do you see what happens when you are angry?

03:32 What happens?

03:36 There is a rush of adrenaline.

03:40 Your limbs start shaking with energy.

03:46 Your eyes lit up.

03:50 Your cheeks get flushed with blood.

03:55 You are all ready with more energy to do something.

03:59 Do what?

04:00 Have you never noticed?

04:03 It's like this.

04:04 You have a desire to reach there and there is an obstacle in the way.

04:09 Now you are angry.

04:10 Now there is so much of energy and it is needed to overcome the obstacle.

04:16 That is why anger provides you with so much energy.

04:20 So that you may defeat the obstacle and fulfil your desire.

04:26 Where there is frustration of desire, there is anger.

04:30 You get it?

04:31 Whenever you would place your desire outside of you, you would find that there is an obstacle.

04:39 You know what is that obstacle?

04:42 That obstacle is yourself.

04:45 All anger in some way therefore is against yourself and hence is self-destructive.

04:50 Are you getting it?

05:08 Place a desire outside of yourself.

05:11 Feel incomplete and tell yourself that that thing there will plug the hole and you have

05:16 invited frustration.

05:23 You expected something from somebody.

05:27 That something that somebody cannot provide.

05:30 What do you think?

05:31 You are angry only at that somebody.

05:32 No, you are equally angry at yourself for keeping that expectation and that is why you

05:38 burn when you are in anger because you are punishing yourself.

05:42 You are telling yourself, why the hell did I expect this from this fellow?

05:49 Often it happens that the fellow never even asked for your expectations.

05:57 You in your own wonderland assume that you are entitled to expect and when the expectation

06:04 wasn't met, you are up in flames.

06:08 Whom are you punishing?

06:10 Yourself.

06:11 And that is why anger leads to so many mental and physical disorders.

06:15 It is fulfilling its purpose.

06:17 You are punishing yourself.

06:19 The surge in your energy is eating you up.

06:23 Are you getting it?

06:28 Do you see how incompleteness leads to anger?

06:34 Because I am incomplete, so I am looking at that one as the one who could complete me,

06:40 as the one who would plug the hole.

06:42 Now that one cannot plug the hole because the hole is a fiction.

06:50 I am assuming that here, right now here, there is a hole in the earth and I bring that bottle

06:58 to fill that hole up.

07:00 Will I succeed?

07:04 Why?

07:05 Because there is no hole and what do I do then?

07:10 I want to destroy the bottle and how do I destroy the bottle?

07:13 By banging it against my own forehead.

07:15 Now what is anger doing?

07:19 First of all, it is arising because of a misplaced assumption.

07:21 You are trying to fill a hole that never exists.

07:27 Then apparently you are trying to punish the other one for his apparent failure.

07:33 He has not failed at all.

07:35 You are demanding the impossible from him.

07:36 You are demanding that the bottle must fill up a non-existent hole.

07:42 What has the poor bottle done?

07:43 The bottle could have never succeeded but you still want to punish it.

07:47 And how do you punish the bottle?

07:51 By banging against your own forehead.

07:55 So I do not know whether the bottle gets punished but surely you get punished.

08:00 That's what anger is all about.

08:07 In some sense, anger does justice because you made the wrong assumption.

08:16 So you get punished.

08:22 Some other fellow, by the way, also gets sucked in and he keeps wondering what wrong have

08:31 I done.

08:33 You had your own expectations in your own dreamland.

08:39 I never asked you to raise those expectations.

08:42 You never asked from me whether you should hold those expectations from me.

08:46 Now that those expectations are not being fulfilled, you are blaming me.

08:50 What are you doing?

08:52 You are banging me against your own head.

09:00 That is anger.

09:01 [Music]

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