Legal Disputes Among Family: Why? || Acharya Prashant, with youth (2015)

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00:00Of all the cases filed in the courts, a very very large proportion is cases amongst family

00:17members, brother and brother, sister and brother, father and son, mother and daughter, husband

00:27and wife, wife and in-laws. Tremendously large number of cases are filed amongst family members

00:43because the expectations are the highest amongst them. Their relationship is based on business.

00:48You give me this, you give me that. And if that give and take doesn't take place, then

00:53as we just said, the relationship breaks down. Not only do you have court cases, but you also

01:02have honor killings. The man will not go and kill the neighbor's daughter. He kills his own

01:08daughter. Why? Because he had no expectations from the neighbor's daughter. But he had deep

01:16expectations from his own daughter. What kind of expectations? She will marry according to my

01:22choice. And if the daughter doesn't marry according to his choice, then he will kill the

01:25daughter. That is the kind of relationships that we have. Often it doesn't become as gross as that.

01:34Often the result is not visible in as bloody a form as that. So, things can remain somewhat

01:42hidden. But that is the fact of the mind that does not feel complete in itself. It will demand. It

01:51will demand something from everybody. It will demand from the neighbor. It will demand from

01:55the employer. It will demand from God. It will demand from wife. It will demand from son. It

02:01will demand from father, from society, from everybody. It will just keep demanding. And

02:06this demanding it calls as relationship. So, you are demanding and the other person is also

02:13demanding. And this mutual thing is called relationship. Obviously, this is not love.

02:19But we do not know anything except this. We do not know anything except this. And we often give

02:32it nice names. No, I am doing this because the other person will feel hurt. You are just meeting

02:40somebody's demands. And in meeting somebody's demands, the alibi that you have is that he will

02:45feel hurt. It is just the same as saying, I have placed an order for a dosa. Now the dosa has to

02:57come otherwise I will feel hurt. It's a business. I have given you money, you give me dosa. I have

03:06given you birth. You fulfill my expectations. This is not love. Not at all. Not at all. Love

03:23does not impose conditions upon anybody. Love will not say do this, do that, live this way,

03:33live that way. Walk right, walk left. Talk to this, do not talk to that. Have this kind of a

03:50job, do not have this kind of a job. Marry him, do not marry him. All this cannot be love. There

04:00is some game of the ego. Are you getting this? We are talking about this because we are all

04:15capable of love yet starving. Our situation is like that of a man who has all the delicacies

04:32right in front of him and is yet starving. We all have the capability for loving relationships. But

04:42hardly any of our relationships rise from love. To love, you first require a particular mind.

04:57A mind that is not ambitious. If you are ambitious, how will you love? To

05:12love you require a mind that is not afraid, insecure, violent. If you are insecure, how will

05:18you love? To love you require a mind that is not confined in identities. Confined in identities,

05:33how will you love? Only a clean, pure, innocent mind can love. It is not a question of mother and

05:44son. It is a question of the mind. Does the mother have that mind? And if the mother has that mind,

05:50then her relationship will be loving not only towards the son but towards the entire existence.

05:57You cannot have a mother who is very loving towards the son but shoos away the beggar boy.

06:07So, the beggar boy is there. Empty stomach. And the mother says, go away, go away. And to her own

06:20kid she says, come here Lala, eat a little more. Obviously, this mother knows no love. Neither

06:27towards the beggar nor towards her own son. Because it's a state of mind. A mind that cannot

06:34love, cannot love. It will not love anybody. Remember, it will not love anybody. You cannot

06:43claim that well, I do not love the entire world but I love these two persons. It is impossible.

06:49That is our fancy. That I hate the entire world but I love you. It is impossible. It is like

07:08saying that there is a well. You know a well? A well that has no water has water for two people.

07:16If it has water, it will have water for everybody. And if it doesn't have water,

07:21it will have dirt and filth for everybody. So, that is the reason why all our relationships

07:31are either loving or all our relationships will be unloving. Remember, all.

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