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04:21 You have a good eye for work and work etiquette.
04:25 You can judge people by their style, style and so on.
04:29 I have a question. Are you handsome?
04:33 Just easy to look at.
04:35 It's good. You have all the requirements.
04:37 Are you afraid of him?
04:41 I don't love anyone. If I love someone, I will definitely be a bit against.
04:46 Basically, I don't have any feelings for him and I don't know what that feeling is.
04:51 You don't know?
04:52 I want to ask about your family.
04:55 You have 7 siblings. According to what you said,
05:00 you love your mom because she's too tired and suffering.
05:05 Is your mom suffering because she has to raise 7 children?
05:09 Or is your mom suffering because she has to take all the responsibility
05:14 to raise these children under the pressure of public opinion?
05:18 Or is it your husband's or someone else's?
05:21 My mom is under pressure from her husband and father.
05:24 My marriage is also a marriage of 3-4 wives.
05:27 And there's another marriage of a sister and a sister-in-law.
05:30 They love each other but they argue with my mom.
05:32 There are only 3 women in the family.
05:35 But in front of 2 women, it's already hard.
05:37 So I'm alone. My mom is very determined.
05:42 I want to put her in a stable and happy place.
05:46 And the public opinion of the neighborhood at that time
05:49 can make you feel that you shouldn't let people judge this family.
05:53 Women are always in different situations in the family.
05:55 Yes, that's right.
05:56 So you always want to marry a man who is safe.
05:59 Yes, that's right.
06:00 I also had a few contact with him.
06:03 I also felt that there was a feeling.
06:06 It's not love. Until now, I've realized that love is different from liking.
06:10 I agreed to marry him.
06:12 A few months later, I got pregnant.
06:16 When I got pregnant, my husband and I decided to take care of the family.
06:23 It's not love.
06:24 But when you got pregnant,
06:27 how did you feel during the marriage?
06:30 At first, I only had a year of contact.
06:34 I felt that I was fine.
06:37 I was fine and I was better than everyone else.
06:39 My husband was kind.
06:41 He was a little bit arrogant and not romantic.
06:45 We were in the process of exploring and getting along.
06:50 So we were exploring slowly.
06:51 At first, I felt normal.
06:54 After the marriage, my mother gave me a car to sell.
06:56 I sold it and earned money by myself.
06:58 I didn't have to take my husband's money.
07:01 Where is your hometown?
07:02 I was born in Saigon.
07:03 But my parents' hometown is in Binh Dinh, the central region.
07:06 So you got married and lived in Ho Chi Minh City.
07:09 I was born in Saigon.
07:11 Where was your home?
07:14 In Tan Phu.
07:15 You sold it in the market?
07:17 Yes, I sold it in the market.
07:18 I walked for about 30 minutes to get to the market.
07:22 The problem is that
07:23 you got married at 20 years old.
07:26 You got married in a state of not knowing whether you were in love or not.
07:29 You only knew that you were pregnant and you got married.
07:31 Yes.
07:32 You thought that getting married was for the family.
07:36 But I saw that
07:38 the passion and the love I heard in the poems,
07:43 in the movies, in the music,
07:44 the passion of a couple,
07:47 it seemed to be not there.
07:48 Yes, it was missing.
07:50 But I knew that I was lucky.
07:52 My husband was kind.
07:54 So I just got married.
07:55 Yes, that's right.
07:57 But you got married in a state of being in a hurry
08:00 because you were exposed to the society.
08:02 You didn't get married and stay at home without knowing anything.
08:06 When I gave birth,
08:08 I hugged my child.
08:09 During that time, I didn't go out of the society.
08:12 I stayed in the middle of the house.
08:14 I looked at my child, at my house,
08:16 and I thought about my husband and my mother.
08:18 I felt lonely in my own house.
08:22 I felt lonely in my own house.
08:27 During that time, I was alone at home.
08:29 I saw that my husband was kind.
08:32 But what did he do that I couldn't see?
08:35 I couldn't share with him.
08:37 He was dry.
08:38 I've known him for 3-4 years.
08:41 If I said something,
08:43 he wouldn't understand.
08:44 He didn't sympathize.
08:45 He didn't sympathize.
08:46 Yes, for example,
08:47 I talked to my mother-in-law, she understood.
08:50 We were easy to talk to each other.
08:51 But he took me.
08:53 He thought that when he put me in a position,
08:56 he would take me home.
08:58 That was it.
09:00 Even on the holidays,
09:02 I wanted to go out.
09:04 I was passionate about love.
09:06 I told him, "Let's go on a trip. Let's go out."
09:09 He said, "Go?"
09:10 "Go out and play in the dust. It's crowded."
09:13 "Why are you making a fuss?"
09:15 "You're already like that, but you're still so nice."
09:17 Actually, when I got married,
09:19 I didn't like him. He was very stingy.
09:21 But he bought flowers for you.
09:23 Once, he bought flowers for me.
09:24 After that, we got married.
09:26 Actually, when I told him why he loved me,
09:30 he bought me flowers and other things.
09:34 When we got married,
09:36 he never bought me anything.
09:38 There were many reasons.
09:40 But the reason he said,
09:42 "When you see a fish being caught,
09:45 will you give it to him?"
09:47 No.
09:47 I didn't accept this theory.
09:50 "Why don't you go fishing and raise a dragonfly?"
09:53 "Try to raise that fish."
09:55 "Will you keep fishing it?"
09:57 Don't say that.
09:59 The problem is
10:00 whether you value that fish.
10:02 Yes.
10:03 It's not that I asked for it.
10:05 I wanted to share this.
10:10 I wanted to live in a feeling of love and care.
10:13 Yes.
10:14 But his response made me feel depressed.
10:17 I felt like I wasn't welcomed.
10:19 I saw many relationships.
10:22 For example, you broke up.
10:24 You were happy and sad.
10:26 You knew how to love.
10:28 You had this space.
10:31 Why didn't you tell your husband?
10:33 Maybe you were married.
10:36 But when I told him,
10:39 he was angry.
10:40 He would go wherever he wanted.
10:42 He never took me with him.
10:44 He didn't take you with him or you didn't ask him?
10:47 I asked him.
10:49 "Do you think the dentist is near here?"
10:52 "Do you want to go to the dentist?"
10:55 "Don't be crazy."
10:56 He took me as his wife.
10:59 He didn't care about love.
11:05 I realized that I didn't love him.
11:10 Many people asked me why I lied.
11:13 I had two children.
11:14 I loved him. Why didn't I love him?
11:16 There are many reasons.
11:20 It's the same for many women.
11:22 They don't love their husbands.
11:25 But they can live forever.
11:27 It's not just having two children.
11:30 Have you ever thought about this?
11:32 I'm imagining a period
11:34 when you realize you're lonely.
11:38 When you have a baby,
11:40 are you angry?
11:41 Are you angry like
11:43 "I love someone but I'm stopped by my mom."
11:47 "I'm forced to marry a man I don't love."
11:51 "I've never experienced love."
11:55 "How can a woman love someone?"
11:57 "I have to marry him."
11:59 Yes, I was confused.
12:03 I thought I didn't know how to love.
12:07 People say love is beautiful.
12:08 It's okay to be bad.
12:10 I didn't have it.
12:12 I was in this situation.
12:14 I decided to accept my death.
12:16 I accepted my marriage.
12:18 Because my family
12:21 saw my husband was a good man.
12:24 He didn't drink, gamble, or do anything.
12:27 My husband and I were busy.
12:29 We had a son.
12:31 We had a son.
12:33 He was so handsome.
12:35 My mom was proud of our youngest son.
12:40 Who did you accept your marriage?
12:43 My mom.
12:45 If I wanted to divorce,
12:48 people would say "Are you crazy?"
12:49 My husband would say "Are you crazy?"
12:51 "Why did you want to divorce?"
12:53 "Are you crazy to live with her?"
12:55 - And so on. - To be fair,
12:58 we often think we did it for our son or mom.
13:02 I believe you shared with a close person
13:07 that you didn't want to divorce.
13:09 Like you said,
13:11 it was for your son.
13:12 You felt sorry for your youngest son.
13:15 You lived for your son.
13:17 You could have a second child.
13:19 You were proud of your mom.
13:22 You felt you were compensated for your mom's pain.
13:26 It's possible.
13:27 But, to be fair,
13:29 you were afraid.
13:32 You were afraid because
13:35 you were afraid of everything.
13:38 You were afraid of everything.
13:39 You were afraid of people.
13:42 You know it's true to be lonely.
13:45 You know it's true to be desperate for love.
13:48 But these fears,
13:50 you can see them right away.
13:52 They are the external evaluation for a marriage.
13:56 You are still in a high social limit.
14:01 "Oh my god, that family is fine."
14:04 - It's not like... - I agree.
14:06 If it was my personality, I would be desperate.
14:09 I would live for myself.
14:11 But, I had to take care of my son, my mom,
14:14 - my family. - I agree.
14:17 Because, if you were alone,
14:20 you would be afraid.
14:22 You would leave.
14:25 "It's okay. I won't leave anyone to suffer."
14:30 "But what if I leave my mom and son?"
14:33 "I can't leave."
14:34 - "Oh my god." - "Oh my god."
14:36 "How long will I have to live with this?"
14:39 You were so desperate.
14:42 So you stayed for many reasons.
14:44 But you still wanted to take responsibility.
14:48 It's like a way to make your loved ones feel better.
14:51 I stayed until the 10th year.
14:53 - 10 years. - 10 years.
14:56 I was happy in the first 5 years.
14:59 But when I found out that I had to live from the 6th to the 10th year,
15:04 I was desperate.
15:06 I would argue with my husband.
15:10 I wouldn't be as easy as I was in the beginning.
15:15 I wouldn't even let him do anything I didn't like.
15:20 How did he react to your change?
15:22 I thought that in the next 5 years,
15:27 I wouldn't give him any pain.
15:30 He would be able to stand it.
15:32 I would be able to stand it, but he would be able to stand it.
15:35 When I changed in the next 5 years,
15:38 when I didn't have any love,
15:41 he would definitely stand it.
15:43 That's when I had my second child.
15:47 When I was in the hospital,
15:49 my husband went to a class reunion.
15:50 He was an ex-boyfriend.
15:53 [The reason why she was an ex-boyfriend]
15:56 I was an ex-boyfriend in a class reunion.
15:58 I was looking for my old school.
16:02 Why did he have to make such a big deal out of it?
16:08 We couldn't even have a class reunion.
16:13 I want to ask you this.
16:15 Does the coldness in marriage affect the relationship?
16:20 Yes, it does.
16:21 I realized that 2-3% of the time, I would react slowly.
16:25 I wouldn't argue with my husband.
16:28 But when it was a week, I would be like, "I'll do it for him."
16:30 It's the same every time.
16:32 I would be cold.
16:35 That's why I think he had to go through that.
16:42 In the morning, I would say, "I won't argue with him."
16:45 Or I would be sad and not tell him.
16:47 Or I would say, "You don't understand me, so I'll tell someone else."
16:49 "I don't need your sympathy anymore."
16:51 "I'll tell my sisters and aunts."
16:53 But now, I'm bored of my husband.
16:55 I don't want to be emotional.
16:57 I don't want to be emotional.
16:58 Exactly.
16:59 But the psychological need is a need that is almost instinctual, especially for men.
17:04 Now, in the coldness of marriage,
17:06 he realized that.
17:08 This is one of the direct risks that leads to the story that he feels like,
17:14 "I have to solve my problem."
17:15 He would be lacking.
17:17 He would be lacking and he would look for it.
17:19 Right.
17:19 The class meeting could be a situation of explosive jealousy that he couldn't stand anymore.
17:23 How did you find out about his affair?
17:25 Normally, he would hold his phone and we would lie down.
17:28 He would press the button in front of me.
17:29 But later, when it was 10 or 11 pm,
17:34 I would go to the living room and turn on the TV.
17:37 I would press the button and I would go to the toilet.
17:41 I would look at the newspaper and I would see the TV was on.
17:44 I would lie down and press the button.
17:45 I would watch it.
17:47 I would see the message, "This weekend, I'll take you home."
17:52 I would look at it and I would see the message, "This weekend, I'll take you home."
17:54 Sometimes, I would see him after a few days.
17:56 He would have a house with a tent, fruits, like in the Western region.
18:01 I would think he was giving me a gift.
18:04 I would take it home and ask him directly,
18:06 "What is this?"
18:07 He would deny it and say, "No, no."
18:09 I would keep thinking about it.
18:13 I would not love him and I would not notice it.
18:14 Does it mean that you don't care about it?
18:18 Not at all.
18:19 You don't care about it?
18:20 Yes, I know.
18:21 I have believed him for 10 years.
18:24 He is not a playboy.
18:26 When I came home, I would ask him,
18:29 "Do you want to eat mangoes or lemons?"
18:31 He would say, "I'll take them home."
18:33 I would think, "Why does he keep going to the market?"
18:36 One day, I saw someone taking him home.
18:39 I started to suspect him.
18:42 I saw that the girl was in a coma.
18:44 She was in a coma for 7-8 months.
18:47 She was not even born yet.
18:48 She asked me to follow her.
18:53 I said, "No, just follow her."
18:54 That day, I met them at the market.
18:59 The old lady was too hot.
19:01 She was a gangster.
19:03 What do you mean by "gangster"?
19:04 She was a gangster.
19:07 She was a gangster for a long time?
19:09 She was my lover.
19:10 She was a gangster for 5-6 years.
19:14 She was a teenager.
19:17 She was a gangster for 5-6 years.
19:19 My husband hugged her.
19:22 She didn't hit her.
19:24 She was just a normal person.
19:26 She was a gangster.
19:28 She was a gangster for 5-6 years.
19:33 I don't support people who are a gangster.
19:36 But if you need help, remember this.
19:38 She was a normal person.
19:39 She opened the door and said, "Let me go."
19:42 "I didn't hit her. Why did you hug me?"
19:45 What did you get?
19:50 I got a headache.
19:52 What about your grandmother?
19:52 She was strong.
19:55 She didn't hit her.
19:57 She had a weapon.
19:58 She had a tool to support her.
20:00 She was a gangster.
20:03 My husband hugged her.
20:06 I opened the door and said, "Let me go."
20:10 I took a pair of slippers.
20:13 Did she go?
20:14 She went.
20:16 My husband saw it.
20:18 He apologized and brought her home.
20:22 My husband came there once or twice.
20:28 But she was cold.
20:31 You've answered the question about the affair.
20:35 Let me ask you the opposite.
20:36 The affair is easy to guess.
20:38 I haven't asked you yet.
20:40 In the first 10 years of marriage,
20:42 have you ever been afraid of your ex-wife?
20:45 Yes.
20:45 I've been in a car accident once.
20:47 See?
20:48 People often forget.
20:49 People think women are like a stone.
20:52 Women are more sensitive than men.
20:55 But we have to force ourselves
20:58 because of many values.
21:00 We have to sacrifice.
21:01 But we also need to be loved.
21:02 It's a lack of that.
21:03 I haven't asked you yet.
21:04 I'm just afraid that the person who has to leave their marriage
21:09 will be the one who believes in you first.
21:11 But it's true, right?
21:12 Yes, I've been in a car accident.
21:14 In the 10th year of marriage,
21:16 I was a girl who was easy to buy.
21:19 I was on the internet.
21:21 I even had a website.
21:24 I had a website.
21:25 You had a website.
21:26 A man texted me.
21:30 I was curious.
21:32 I had never been in love.
21:34 I was curious.
21:35 I answered.
21:37 When he texted me, I was afraid that he would meet me.
21:39 I didn't dare.
21:41 And those texts were about
21:43 the questions that you had never asked your husband.
21:45 Yes, exactly.
21:46 I thought I was in love.
21:51 You were lucky that you didn't dare to meet him.
21:53 I didn't dare.
21:54 It's easy to meet him.
21:55 So we can see that
21:58 not only the men who are afraid of being in love
22:01 but also forget that they are not like a stone.
22:05 Finally, he was in love.
22:07 How did you feel after the fight?
22:09 I felt like a drop of water was overflowing.
22:12 This was a reason
22:13 in front of everyone
22:16 so that I could divorce and live my life.
22:19 I was sad for myself.
22:20 I said that I wanted to live for myself 5 years ago.
22:23 But I forced myself.
22:25 I sacrificed
22:26 to make this marriage last for 10 years.
22:31 But he did that.
22:34 I said that he didn't deserve me.
22:36 Did you hate him when I tried to force myself
22:41 to keep a good image for him?
22:43 But your husband didn't do that.
22:46 You didn't love him but you hated him.
22:48 I thought that he didn't deserve me.
22:51 Do you expect an explanation from him
22:53 about why he had a relationship with that woman?
22:56 I don't need it and he doesn't need to explain.
22:58 I want him to live for me for a while.
23:02 I want to ask you something.
23:06 Are you happy?
23:07 Yes, I am.
23:08 Because I didn't have a reason.
23:11 Yes, it's all his fault.
23:13 You're so mean.
23:16 Mom can't blame me.
23:17 If you love him, he will forgive you.
23:20 Many women forgive their husbands.
23:22 But you have to wait for a reason for 10 years.
23:25 Yes.
23:25 Now it's time.
23:27 I want to ask you.
23:29 Did your mom support you to divorce?
23:31 No.
23:31 She was waiting for my husband to beg her to give her the money.
23:36 She would tell me to go back to that marriage.
23:39 But luckily, my husband didn't beg her.
23:41 He didn't do that.
23:41 He didn't.
23:42 My mom blamed him.
23:44 "He came here and he came to visit you."
23:48 "He was waiting for you."
23:50 He just needed to show up.
23:51 Yes, exactly.
23:53 But luckily, he didn't.
23:55 I will show him my point of view.
23:57 I won't accept this marriage anymore.
24:00 I can't forgive him for not accepting my love.
24:03 Did your mom know that you were not happy with your husband?
24:09 She didn't know.
24:10 Why?
24:12 She didn't know.
24:13 We live separately.
24:16 When he didn't give me money,
24:20 I would ask my mom for money.
24:22 I would ask my mom to lend me money.
24:25 She would give me money to raise my son.
24:29 I didn't think that she was that kind of person.
24:33 If I could watch this show,
24:38 or if you could watch it,
24:40 then I would understand.
24:41 You still think you are happy.
24:43 Yes, if I could watch it,
24:45 or listen to it,
24:46 I wouldn't understand it.
24:49 I think it's okay to break up.
24:51 It's hard to blame her.
24:53 Because it's related to one more thing.
24:55 If you set up your marriage next to my marriage,
24:58 you would see that my marriage is 8 points.
25:02 Yes.
25:02 Compared to your marriage, it's 2.5 or 3 points.
25:05 It's even lower.
25:06 Really?
25:08 It's better.
25:09 That's the reason why I think you are happier.
25:13 But I still believe that you know how a mother feels.
25:18 If you didn't know anything,
25:20 you would be more determined not to divorce me.
25:24 But your reaction is that it's up to you.
25:28 Yes.
25:28 Because you have decided to divorce.
25:30 And you realize that you made a mistake.
25:33 Why did you realize that?
25:35 First, you are the one who is going to divorce.
25:36 Second, you have to see something in your daughter in 10 years.
25:40 If you don't see the difficulties,
25:43 first, it's about the economy.
25:44 You don't give her 1 or 2 points.
25:46 The reason why I do it, everyone has their own story.
25:48 I still hope that when we tell a story,
25:51 we can see it more in some aspects.
25:54 Sometimes we will leave some aspects
25:57 that are vague about some of our relatives.
25:59 So that we can love each other.
26:02 It's about personality.
26:03 You don't understand.
26:04 You don't say.
26:05 Sometimes you know my difficulties.
26:08 But you don't know how to say.
26:09 The only thing you can show is
26:11 divorce.
26:13 If you follow your personality,
26:16 you won't be divorced.
26:17 I don't know if you understand.
26:19 But I believe that you know.
26:20 But you don't know what to do.
26:22 You don't know how to expose.
26:23 Because you are a woman.
26:26 I don't know if you know what I'm saying.
26:28 I know.
26:29 There are things that parents and children
26:32 love each other so much,
26:33 but they don't know how to express.
26:35 So we misunderstand each other.
26:37 I thought that until now, you didn't understand.
26:39 But if you say you understand,
26:40 God, I'm so sorry.
26:44 For example, I'm miserable.
26:46 But maybe you...
26:48 Maybe you feel hurt 10 times.
26:51 But you don't know what to do.
27:00 If I knew, I would feel more hurt.
27:02 I don't know.
27:03 You are happier.
27:05 Because there is another person who understands you.
27:08 For example, if I say it in the show,
27:10 it's still good.
27:11 But if I hug her, I feel so bad.
27:13 Poor her.
27:14 If I hug her but I can't say it,
27:16 it will stay in my heart.
27:19 If I can't say it, I will hug her all the time.
27:21 That's why we're sitting here.
27:22 Luckily, I can join this show.
27:25 I will be positive.
27:31 I hope my child won't be in my way.
27:36 If I treat my child badly,
27:37 my child will treat me badly.
27:41 Because I had a marriage with 2 children.
27:45 Although I said I didn't love my husband,
27:47 I still have a chance to get rid of it.
27:50 But it's still 10 years of youth.
27:52 It can be a pain.
27:54 And it's not positive.
27:55 It may lead to the story that I'm not a positive mother to my 2 children.
27:59 That's why I want you to understand your mother.
28:02 When you're their mother,
28:04 you learn from her.
28:06 Luckily, you revealed this.
28:09 After you came back to your mother's house,
28:12 how long did you officially announce that you had to stop this job?
28:16 Maybe more than a year.
28:18 One day, he asked me out.
28:20 He said he was okay with the divorce.
28:22 I agreed to it.
28:24 We went to court without any settlement.
28:29 I got the property by myself.
28:31 I was happy.
28:35 I still let him visit my children.
28:39 How did you feel when you officially divorced?
28:43 I was normal. It was a procedure.
28:49 Did you feel regretful or angry
28:53 for 10 years of your life with a person you didn't care about?
28:59 Yes. When I was single, I had more time to take care of myself.
29:04 I regretted wasting my 10 years.
29:10 I said I wouldn't choose this job if I could.
29:15 I was proud of my 2 children.
29:19 You didn't hurt anyone.
29:21 I was calm, not angry.
29:23 I had a wife, a husband, a house and children.
29:27 What is it called?
29:28 A basic marriage but happiness.
29:31 It's not just a picture.
29:33 When you tell everyone this story,
29:36 what do you want them to notice from your experience?
29:42 It depends on their perspective.
29:45 What matters is that they are different from me.
29:49 They don't have to be like me.
29:51 They can love 5 people and 3 people.
29:53 They can experience it.
29:54 They can experience it.
29:58 Divorce or divorce,
30:00 it's okay. I've lived for myself.
30:05 Thank you, Ngoc.
30:06 That's the story of the couple.
30:08 But today, I want to share another message.
30:15 A marriage is about happiness.
30:19 There are many conditions to ensure it.
30:21 We have to pay attention to the family's financial function.
30:24 Especially, love is very important.
30:26 It creates a glue to make happiness.
30:30 Love can appear at many times but it must be there.
30:35 A good thing is that you love each other and get married.
30:38 It's a guarantee to not be insecure.
30:41 But in some cases, you may have to get married.
30:45 Then you can have a special relationship.
30:50 But you have to have a relationship.
30:53 Don't forget that if you want to love each other,
30:55 you have to have activities for each other.
30:58 We hope that
30:59 the things we care about in the family
31:03 are not only the responsibilities
31:06 in a negative way.
31:07 They are also the materials to make up for the love.
31:12 Now, the time is up.
31:14 Good night, everyone.
31:16 See you next week.
31:18 Goodbye.
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