HONEY, 23, began dating Shawn, 51, after a chance encounter. "In 2018 we met at a vegan restaurant, we sat at the same booth and had a date we didn't plan," she explained. "We've been talking every day since." They quickly fell for each other, despite the 28-year age difference. "It just felt right," Shawn said. "I'd say it was love at first sight," Honey agreed. Commenters criticised their partnership once they started opening up about their relationship online. "They assume sugar daddy, sugar baby," Honey said. But this didn't bother Shawn who conceded: "She is old enough to be my daughter." Their match is even more unconventional, due to Honey's past romantic preferences. "Before we got together I was a lesbian," she explained. And despite their age gap, her family fully accepted Shawn. "They were never the biggest fan of me being a lesbian because my family is Haitian, Christian. It was never an issue on my end, even though he is older than me. They were just happy that future kids were happening." The same couldn't be said for Shawn's loved ones, with many of his support network raising concerns. In this episode of Love Don't Judge, the couple sit down to discuss the initial reservations of the family, with his cousin Dwain, and Dwain's wife Carlette. When asked about their reservations about the relationship Carlette said: "It could be a recipe for disaster. Not only is she a former lesbian but she's a lot younger than him. And I feel in a way, she's been somewhat attracted to me." But after a heated conversation with the age-gap couple Carlette admitted: "I really like Honey, I think you are a great person. I love you both." Whatever others think, Shawn knows that his love for Honey is real, and disregards criticism from the outside world: "To people who like to judge us, judge yourself, look at your own life. Look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, could you take being judged?"
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00:00 This is Honey. She fell in love with Sean.
00:05 Before we got together, I was a lesbian.
00:08 She is old enough to be my daughter.
00:10 They assume sugar daddy, sugar baby.
00:12 Sean's loved ones have worries about their differences in the relationship.
00:17 It could be a recipe for a disaster.
00:19 Not only is she a former lesbian, but she's a lot younger than him.
00:25 What if he's taking a c*** all over himself?
00:28 Are you going to stick around for that?
00:30 And I feel like, in a way, she has been somewhat attracted to me.
00:34 Everyone calls me Honey.
00:38 I go by Sean.
00:40 I'm 23.
00:41 I'm 51.
00:43 In 2018, we met outside a vegan restaurant.
00:48 We decided to sit at the same booth and had a blind date that we didn't plan.
00:55 We've been talking every day since.
00:58 It just felt right.
00:59 I say it's love at first sight. He made that to this.
01:02 That chocolate kind of enticement.
01:05 Oh my goodness.
01:07 What I love most about Honey is that she's not me.
01:10 I don't think nobody wants someone just like themselves.
01:13 I'm a photographer. She's a model as well.
01:15 We work out.
01:16 One of the rudest reactions we dealt with, we were working out,
01:20 and a lady came up to me and she was like,
01:23 "That's very nice of you to work out with your dad."
01:27 And I was like...
01:29 And I think she was just trying to be funny.
01:30 I ain't have no problem with that.
01:31 She is old enough to be my daughter.
01:33 People tend to judge our relationship because I went from dating women
01:38 to being engaged with a man.
01:41 I was a lesbian.
01:43 I would say most men in the world would actually want their woman to be
01:47 attracted to other women because of their possibilities.
01:49 But for me, I'm pretty much a one-woman guy.
01:52 It bothered me, but then I got to understand who she is as a person.
01:58 I don't got over that issue.
02:00 Almost completely. That's still a work in progress.
02:02 My family wasn't really the biggest fan of me being a lesbian.
02:07 Because my family, Christian, Haitian, the normal morals they wanted me to have.
02:13 So it was never an issue on my end, even though he's 20 years older than me.
02:19 They were just happy, you know, future kids was happening.
02:24 What am I mother about?
02:26 You sure?
02:27 By the age at first, you know, she was like, "Well, she's way younger.
02:30 You know, you're going to get older and eventually, you know,
02:33 she's going to grow out of that."
02:35 She felt like once they like women, even on the other side,
02:39 they're going to always crave that and they'll never be faithful.
02:42 So that was one of her doubts that she'll find a woman later on down the line.
02:46 But she's coming around now.
02:48 She was just trying to protect me.
02:50 More of our judgments come online.
02:53 Someone said, "You need to crave this Bible."
02:55 Some people are like, "Oh, is that your dad?"
02:58 "Can he even get up?" And I'm like, "Oh, my God."
03:02 So all that is is a God-wishes woman position.
03:05 Yeah, yeah.
03:06 She gets a lot of men on her post.
03:10 So I guess they see my age and feel like they got an opportunity
03:13 because she like older men.
03:15 So a lot of older men.
03:17 I barely like men.
03:19 So how do we get to older men?
03:21 Judgment, honestly, doesn't really bother me.
03:24 I know we're different, so I expect some judgments,
03:27 but I don't really take it to the heart.
03:30 A lot of people, they see us and, you know, they assume,
03:33 "Sugar Daddy, Sugar Baby," or, you know, something like that.
03:36 And then they get to know us and they're like, "Y'all have relationship goals.
03:39 Like, I wish I had what y'all had."
03:41 And he broke, too.
03:43 So it's real love.
03:44 It's time.
03:45 Well, my cousin and his wife are coming over today.
03:50 I know they probably have some strong views about our relationship.
03:54 So I guess they'll express that when they get here.
03:57 Y'all just have to talk to Karlie.
03:59 She'll tell you how she feels because--
04:01 She's blunt and honest.
04:03 Not only is she a former lesbian, but she's a lot younger than him.
04:11 So it could go either way down the road.
04:13 Things can happen and things can be unexpected with Sean
04:19 that she may not be ready for at her age.
04:21 It could be a recipe for disaster.
04:24 I think she mostly dated women.
04:26 Before, yeah.
04:27 Before.
04:28 It got hard to transfer her over.
04:29 But, you know, looks like he did it.
04:32 I would like to ask her if she would ever want to revert back to maybe dating women.
04:39 I don't know if she switched it off and it's turned off permanently
04:43 or if it's something that could be turned back on.
04:46 Sometimes I feel like--I don't know that it's flirting, per se.
04:51 I think that it could be maybe a little attraction there.
04:56 As if if I weren't with Sean, then maybe, you know, she might try me out.
05:05 I do have a little skepticism.
05:07 The issue that I have is going forward with the age
05:14 and you just don't know what might come into play.
05:21 I mean, because what if he's taking a crap all over himself?
05:26 Are you going to stick around for that?
05:27 Unfortunately.
05:28 You know?
05:29 She ain't got no choice.
05:30 Yeah.
05:31 She ain't got no choice.
05:32 Cubs ain't going to let her go like that.
05:34 I'm worth it.
05:35 But most relationships are going to go through, you know, trauma or situations.
05:38 Well, let me ask you this question, honey.
05:42 Are you still attracted to women?
05:47 Most definitely.
05:48 I don't think that would ever leave me.
05:51 Me being with him did not just make me not like women.
05:54 And that's why, like, her honesty, she told me from the get-go that's what it is.
05:58 That was one of the main conversations we always had.
06:00 We came to a compromise.
06:02 Yeah, we came to a compromise.
06:04 Easier to say those things now.
06:08 But when you're actually forced and put into a situation unwillingly,
06:12 you don't know what the outcome is going to be.
06:15 But me, like I say, you know, most guys would love that.
06:18 Me, I could be with just one woman.
06:20 But if it's going to, like I told her, if it's going to be that,
06:23 then you're going to have to relinquish me to do whatever I need to do.
06:28 I'm still very skeptical about the relationship.
06:31 You have experienced more in life that honey has experienced.
06:36 So, again, this is my concern.
06:39 And I feel like, in a way, she has been somewhat attracted to me.
06:44 Yes.
06:46 What do you mean?
06:47 Yeah.
06:48 Just the, "Oh, Carlette, you look so nice," or "so good."
06:55 You always look nice.
06:57 Hold on, hold on, hold on. I caught that once now.
06:58 No, you always look nice.
07:00 She compliments women.
07:01 And I understand.
07:02 I tell you one time, I was like, "Carlette, you look so good."
07:07 And I had to raise an eyebrow. I'm like, "Hold up now."
07:10 Right. I really, really like honey.
07:13 I think you are a great person.
07:16 But going forward, I just want you guys to make sure that this is where you want to be
07:24 and this is the relationship that you want to be in
07:27 because feelings, when they're hurt, there's no taking it back.
07:31 Honestly, it's good to hear, you know, everybody voice their opinions.
07:37 You guys know I love you both.
07:39 What I love about her, she don't want us to miss the wedding.
07:42 She wants to go to the courthouse, the cheapest route possible.
07:45 She would rather live life with me.
07:47 It's about us, and she makes me feel comfortable that it's about us.
07:51 He's very caring. He's very hands-on.
07:53 I come home, dishes washed, meal done.
07:57 I'm so lucky I'm a woman.
07:59 He's the perfect why. I'm just kidding.
08:01 To people who like to judge us, judge yourself.
08:04 Look at your own life. Look at your own self in the mirror and ask yourself,
08:07 "Could you take being judged?"
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08:13 [silence]