Married at First Sight NZ Season 4 Episode 6
Married at First Sight NZ Season 4 Episode 6
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00:00 Previously, eight courageous singles said I do to a complete stranger.
00:07 It feels like a dream, honestly.
00:10 While there was an instant connection for Sam and James...
00:13 I mean, have you seen her? She's hot.
00:16 Maddie and Nate...
00:17 Oh, don't do that, don't do that!
00:19 ...are still finding their feet.
00:21 He's not the usual type that I would go for.
00:23 And Steph's struggling to trust the connection...
00:26 You don't f***ing love me!
00:28 ...with husband Pidipi.
00:30 This experiment is really affirming how important stability is to me.
00:34 I'm in my 30s now.
00:36 You ready to settle down?
00:37 Yeah.
00:38 And at the first group activity of the season...
00:41 Oh my God.
00:42 ...bombs were dropped.
00:44 I'm questioning how, like, genuine you are.
00:47 Leaving Kara and Mike's relationship in turmoil.
00:51 I don't need my character brought up like this,
00:53 because you know that's not the truth.
00:55 Tonight...
00:57 You are invited to celebrate the wedding of Kara and Jesse.
01:02 ...and the final wedding of the season.
01:05 And all the couples are invited.
01:09 I'll probably share your husband.
01:11 [laughter]
01:12 Ah, the suspense.
01:14 It's the couple's last day of their honeymoons.
01:26 Get used to my hair everywhere.
01:28 I think I'm lying on it all.
01:29 Yeah, you are.
01:31 I'm feeling good this morning.
01:33 I'm in second day waking up as a married man next to Sam.
01:36 Got your ring on?
01:37 I have got my ring on.
01:39 Their last chance to take in the sights.
01:42 Me and Steph.
01:44 I feel like we're in a good place.
01:46 She's really funny.
01:47 We made a TikTok.
01:48 Never made a TikTok before.
01:50 And peace and tranquility of Vanuatu.
01:54 [laughter]
01:58 All right, let's go.
01:59 All right.
02:00 How many eggs are you going to have?
02:02 Six, be smart.
02:04 Behind the scenes, I feel like Nate's more comfortable.
02:06 I'm like, what do I do to help?
02:08 He does get a little bit intimidated by the cameras.
02:11 Might need to put them in a different pan, not going to lie.
02:15 I generally do take the lead.
02:17 Try not to poke you.
02:19 Poke my where?
02:21 [laughter]
02:22 How's that looking?
02:24 Being with Maddie, obviously she's a loud person.
02:27 Sometimes I feel like I'm a bit overshadowed,
02:30 but she is who she is.
02:32 Giggling and whatnot.
02:34 [laughter]
02:41 This morning, truthfully, just feeling a little deflated,
02:44 actually, after what happened at the pool party yesterday.
02:48 You've just told me that I'm so attentive and supportive.
02:51 Yeah, you're all the things.
02:53 I'm questioning how genuine it is that you're just doing that
02:56 to look like a nice guy.
02:58 I don't need my character brought up like this,
03:00 because you know that's not the truth.
03:03 You're not my usual type,
03:06 and so I'm really struggling with how kind and caring
03:09 and everything you are with me.
03:12 To have the honest discussion that I'm not physically there.
03:17 We're both big personalities.
03:19 I don't know, I feel like I lost my voice a little bit with you.
03:25 We spoke about it last night.
03:26 She apologized.
03:28 We talked it through,
03:29 but the connection definitely feels a little severed.
03:33 I definitely thought we were on the level that if there's anything
03:36 that needs to be brought up, it would be between us.
03:41 It's been a tough 24 hours for us.
03:44 We've sort of left it as we're both here for a reason
03:47 and we want to try and work through it.
03:50 It feels a little frosty.
03:52 I mean, he's offered to make me breakfast,
03:54 and he's super, super sweet,
03:56 but it's not necessarily the high-energy vibes we've started with.
04:03 I definitely feel more disconnected from him,
04:06 but fair enough, I've sort of had to confront him and say,
04:09 "You're not my type."
04:11 It's just a bump in the road.
04:13 We've sort of said we want to see how we can get through it,
04:16 and that's what we'll do.
04:18 I'm totally here for it.
04:20 I'm a man of my word.
04:21 I said I was in here for all of it, and this is all of it.
04:24 There's a reason why we've been put together,
04:26 and it's just going to be some work, as every marriage is, I guess.
04:34 Come in.
04:36 Oh, what's this?
04:39 Hello.
04:40 Oh, good morning.
04:41 Morning.
04:42 That was this early in the morning.
04:45 What have we got here?
04:48 What on earth?
04:49 I don't like these things.
04:50 No, I don't either.
04:52 Want to read?
04:53 Go for gold.
04:57 Don't leave me in suspense.
04:59 You are invited to celebrate the wedding of Kara and Jessie.
05:06 The fifth and final Maths NZ wedding.
05:09 At the Arariki Island Resort, dressed to impress.
05:13 Dressed to impress.
05:14 The couple?
05:15 Yes.
05:17 Our first wedding.
05:18 I know.
05:19 As a married couple, I feel like we can go, you know, give them some advice.
05:22 After two days.
05:23 Yeah.
05:24 So exciting.
05:25 More friends.
05:26 Hey, how good.
05:27 Here's to them.
05:28 Let's hope they're GC people.
05:35 Here I am, on my own, about to get married.
05:39 Woo!
05:41 OK, the nerves are kicking in.
05:45 Cheers to my wedding day.
05:49 My name is Kara and I'm 31 years old.
05:52 And I am originally from Nelson, but I live in Christchurch now.
05:57 Hello, Kara speaking.
05:59 I guess my role as a property consultant, you could think of it as a New Zealand equivalent to selling sunset.
06:06 Fashion, the houses.
06:08 I mean, I have been called Chrishell a couple of times, but I do take my job very seriously.
06:17 The reason I applied for Marriott First Sight, well, my mother actually saw the application and she would love to see me married.
06:24 So thanks, Mum.
06:27 She got her wish.
06:30 Family is really important to me.
06:33 I am really close with my mum and my two younger brothers.
06:38 You haven't even met her, mate.
06:40 No.
06:41 Have you seen her?
06:42 No.
06:45 Vagan has a family of his own.
06:47 I hope one day that I can have a family of my own too.
06:50 That is definitely something that I'm wanting to have happen in the next few years.
06:56 I don't even know what to say.
06:59 It's so weird.
07:00 Do I have your support?
07:02 Of course you do.
07:03 Thank you.
07:04 Always here for support.
07:06 Thanks, mate.
07:07 I'll call you when I'm married.
07:11 What would you say is the hardest thing that you have gone through?
07:14 Probably just heartbreak.
07:16 So a little bit of rejection?
07:18 Yeah.
07:19 And I think in the past I have gone for boys, not men, or people who are emotionally unavailable.
07:27 The feeling of rejection.
07:29 What kind of feelings does it bring up?
07:31 My reaction is just to laugh and be positive about it.
07:34 But that's probably why I don't let a lot of people in.
07:36 And I can be quite guarded, is because it sucks getting hurt.
07:39 And I just don't go down that road of meeting someone new for at least another three or four months.
07:47 Or I wait for a guy to message me.
07:49 Old school.
07:50 Is that going to be challenging for you if you are paired with someone who also isn't used to taking the first step?
07:58 It would be up to me, I guess.
07:59 Then I feel like I would get more guarded.
08:01 He would get to a point where he'd open up and then I would just get closed off and then be like, "Okay, that's enough."
08:06 I don't know.
08:08 What would someone find most annoying about you?
08:11 I'm really stubborn.
08:14 I'm working on it.
08:15 I'm working on it.
08:17 I've really honed in on my job and my finances.
08:22 I think the last thing that's missing in my puzzle piece is a partner.
08:28 Physically, it would be nice if he was taller than me.
08:31 I'm 5'7", so actually, with heels, probably 5'8".
08:36 The red flag to me is somebody who's not motivated.
08:39 I like getting up early, for example, and going to the gym and being active.
08:43 Somebody who likes to just sit around and watch Netflix all day every day just wouldn't be for me.
08:49 I'm very outgoing, very happy.
08:52 I've been described to be a golden retriever, like a dog.
09:00 I am Jesse, but I'm 29 years old.
09:05 Staying active is really important to me.
09:07 Doing activities and sports with my friends probably make me most happy.
09:11 Definitely play all day.
09:15 So my career is really important to me.
09:17 I'm working as a financial advisor.
09:20 I love it, and together with my family, I love my two anchors in Auckland.
09:25 What's going on here?
09:26 Oh, good morning.
09:28 I've got a very close-knit family.
09:30 They're a huge rock in my life, and I really hope that my wife-to-be is accepted by them.
09:37 You're beyond the gulf.
09:42 Well?
09:43 Well, yeah, I've got everyone here.
09:46 That's because I'm actually getting married next week.
09:52 No way.
09:53 Yeah.
09:55 Crazy.
09:56 I know.
09:57 Oh, my.
09:58 So it's married at first sight.
10:02 I'm sure you guys have heard of it.
10:05 Jesus.
10:06 I know.
10:09 Wow.
10:11 I don't really-- I'm kind of speechless.
10:13 Yeah.
10:17 I just thought he would easily meet someone, you know, like--
10:21 Yes, I know.
10:22 I mean, he's--
10:23 Such a catch.
10:24 Yeah, he is.
10:25 And it's next week.
10:27 No way.
10:28 Donnie Howe's wedding next--
10:29 I know.
10:30 I know.
10:31 It's not--
10:32 What do you mean?
10:33 Are you still coming?
10:34 It's not going to interfere with your wedding night.
10:35 Oh, no.
10:36 It better not.
10:37 It can't interfere with that.
10:40 So how long after Donnie Howe's?
10:42 Saturday, the next day.
10:43 So Donnie Howe's wedding on Friday.
10:45 And then--
10:46 If I'm getting married on Friday, and you're getting married on Sunday,
10:50 that doesn't leave much time to kind of get to your wedding.
10:54 Well, I'm actually eloping.
10:56 And--
10:57 Why do you want to elope?
10:59 It's just how it is.
11:00 Are you sure this is the right thing you should be doing?
11:03 Yeah.
11:04 Really?
11:06 I think it's kind of sad that we're not going to be there for your wedding.
11:10 It's not really how I ever anticipated seeing you being married.
11:15 I wish we were going.
11:17 Yeah.
11:18 We're just such a tight family and, like, always there for each other's highs and lows and milestones.
11:23 So it is sad that we're not there with him on the day.
11:28 I'd prefer to have, like, friends and family there.
11:31 Mum will probably never forgive me.
11:33 It's the woman's worst nightmare, right, getting married without the whole family there.
11:36 So what do you think?
11:38 What can you say?
11:39 I mean, he wants to do what he wants to do.
11:42 Yeah.
11:44 Just hope for the best.
11:45 Yeah.
11:48 I mean, at the end of the day, I just want him to be happy.
11:50 Yeah.
11:51 So that's all that you want, really, isn't it?
11:53 For your children to be happy.
11:56 [BIRDS CHIRPING]
11:59 Oh, wow.
12:11 Beautiful.
12:14 So this is the size of a finger.
12:17 That's the only thing I know about her.
12:20 It's a beautiful ring, though.
12:24 Marriage is a big thing.
12:26 You know, witnessing my sister's wedding yesterday was amazing.
12:30 And then getting to fly the next day to Vanuatu for my wedding.
12:35 Yeah, it's pretty intense going from, like, a four-long family affair to being completely alone.
12:51 Eloping, for me, I would have preferred to have my family there.
12:56 My brothers, Vagan and Logan, he's only 15 months younger than me.
13:01 I really want him to walk me down the aisle.
13:03 I'm going to cry now.
13:04 But that's OK.
13:07 I'm sorry.
13:10 [LAUGHS]
13:13 But hey, that's all good.
13:17 I know he'll be happy.
13:18 I know they're happy for me.
13:19 They're really happy for me.
13:21 [LAUGHS]
13:26 I mean, it's quite hard going through this by yourself.
13:29 So it would be nice.
13:32 But I know they're there in the heart.
13:36 Sorry.
13:38 Pull on the heartstrings.
13:39 Oh, my gosh.
13:40 Sorry, I'm going to ruin your makeup.
13:41 [LAUGHS]
13:43 I'd be lying if I didn't say I wasn't nervous.
13:45 Of course.
13:46 You don't know who you're going to get walking down there.
13:48 I know to let my guard down is going to be the toughest challenge.
13:56 I was deeply heartbroken.
13:58 And to have that pain and have that feeling again, I mean, no one wants that, right?
14:05 I'm not here to muck around and just date.
14:07 I want to find the person I want to be with for the rest of my life.
14:15 It would be so hard.
14:17 You've got eight strangers sitting in the crowd watching you do it.
14:20 It's, yeah, pretty stressful.
14:22 My mind's racing.
14:23 Like, I am thinking, like, oh, my god, all this buildup for this, it's finally happening.
14:28 What's she going to be like?
14:29 Is she going to be someone I'm good along with?
14:33 Just all the buildup to it, I just-- the nerves came from there.
14:36 But, yeah.
14:37 I want this to work.
14:38 I want her to ideally be the one.
14:43 [gasps]
14:45 Hi, guys.
14:51 Kara and Jesse are our last couple to get married.
15:07 Kara and Jesse are both outgoing.
15:11 They're kind of work hard, play hard people.
15:14 They want to have a big social life.
15:17 They're quite ambitious, driven people.
15:19 Absolutely.
15:20 And I think in terms of communication style, these two are very similar.
15:24 They like to get issues out on the table rather than stew on them.
15:27 But Jesse does admit that if he's not able to resolve conflict, he tends to dig his toes in and gets defensive.
15:37 So we need to look out for that.
15:39 [music]
15:41 Ooh.
15:45 [laughter]
15:47 Hi, guys.
15:48 Hi, buddy.
15:49 He's going to be sweating, eh?
15:52 Compared to the other weddings, Kara and Jesse will be getting married in front of the other participants.
15:58 You look fabulous, Sal.
15:59 You look fabulous.
16:00 [laughter]
16:02 How are you feeling?
16:03 Yeah, that's most important right now.
16:05 I'm bloody excited.
16:06 I haven't been nervous up until now.
16:08 [laughter]
16:09 I think what's really great for them is they're going to have these other couples attend who've gone through their experience,
16:15 who are a little bit further ahead of them.
16:18 We got you, though.
16:19 We understand.
16:20 Yeah, it's cool you guys are here.
16:21 [laughter]
16:22 Why this is so important is that they'll be able to throw around and get ideas from the other participants about their big day,
16:29 about what to expect, and particularly what are some of the normal feelings to have around this time.
16:37 Don't feel overwhelmed and just walk into it with an open heart and an open mind.
16:41 Expect the unexpected.
16:43 That's it.
16:44 No expectations.
16:45 Just be yourself, open-minded.
16:48 Just breathe and embrace it all.
16:51 Sweet.
16:52 Yeah, I was stoked that the other couples were there.
16:54 It was cool to have their support.
16:55 You got this, Jesse.
16:56 They seem like really cool people.
16:59 As Jesse finds support from the already married couples.
17:03 Hi.
17:04 Hello.
17:05 God, you look gorgeous.
17:07 Thank you.
17:08 Kara reaches out to her biggest supporters back home, mum and younger brother, Logan.
17:13 Kara, you're so beautiful.
17:16 Oh my gosh, stop crying.
17:18 [laughter]
17:20 Honestly.
17:22 Amazing.
17:23 Wow.
17:24 What do you think, Logan?
17:26 Yeah, pretty-- you look very good.
17:30 Thank you very much.
17:31 Kara, what I want for you is just happiness, hopefully love.
17:36 Thanks, mum.
17:37 And yeah, I just-- yeah, just enjoy the whole experience.
17:43 Thank you.
17:44 [music]
17:50 Is everyone from Auckland?
17:51 I'm from Auckland.
17:52 Oh, cool.
17:53 You look kind of familiar.
17:55 Like, I feel like I somehow might know you.
17:57 Maybe I just bearded people all look the same, perhaps.
17:59 It's a very finely groomed beard.
18:02 Yeah, yeah.
18:03 Jesse definitely seems like he's got some confidence, which is great.
18:06 You know, like, I can definitely empathise with that.
18:10 But yeah, no, like he was just talking to everyone.
18:13 All right, guys, I'm going to practice my vows with you.
18:16 [laughter]
18:18 Sneak preview.
18:19 Did you do it on your phone as well, or did you have cards?
18:21 No, no cards.
18:22 No cards.
18:23 [laughter]
18:24 Six months ago, I never would have expected to be standing here today about to marry a stranger.
18:28 Yeah, I thought it was a pretty bold move to say his vows in front of us before he met Cara.
18:34 [applause]
18:39 Maybe I should put in, like, 18 months.
18:41 No, you're good.
18:43 [interposing voices]
18:47 It's beautiful, man.
18:48 It is beautiful.
18:49 As long as you remember your bride's name, that's the main thing.
18:51 I don't even know her name.
18:52 How weird is that?
18:53 We do.
18:54 We do.
18:58 [laughter]
18:59 [inaudible]
19:02 I am sweating.
19:04 It is bloody hot.
19:05 [laughter]
19:08 My mind's racing.
19:10 There is, like, a chemistry when you meet someone that you can get.
19:14 Ideally, it would be cool if that happened.
19:16 [music]
19:21 I want to be with someone that I can fall in love with and be happy with.
19:27 I'd be lying if I didn't say I wasn't nervous.
19:29 Of course.
19:30 You don't know who you're going to get walking down there.
19:32 [music]
19:35 I would love this to work.
19:38 I mean, this would be a dream fairy tale, not just for me, but my family and my friends.
19:47 I think the thing that's getting me through is knowing that he's going to be there waiting for me in the exact same position.
19:55 I'm fully in this just to, you know, let loose.
19:58 So I really hope for myself I can open up.
20:02 Once I do that in my guard town, oh, my gosh, I feel like, yeah, I give my all.
20:07 And he'll be really lucky to have me, I reckon.
20:11 [music]
20:19 Wow.
20:21 I'm ready to get married.
20:24 Hi, everyone.
20:30 Hi, I'm Cara.
20:31 Hi, Cara. Nice to meet you. I'm a G2.
20:34 Sorry, I'm shaking.
20:35 You're all right.
20:36 Okay.
20:41 You look really nice.
20:42 So do you.
20:45 So where are you from?
20:47 Yeah.
20:48 Christchurch, yourself?
20:49 Oh, cool. Chessie.
20:50 [laughter]
20:56 Oh, yes.
20:57 [laughter]
21:07 On the top of an island in Vanuatu, Jessie has just met his bride-to-be, Cara.
21:13 Oh, okay.
21:14 So where are you from?
21:15 Yeah.
21:17 Christchurch, yourself?
21:18 Oh, cool. Chessie.
21:19 [laughter]
21:25 I'm Auckland.
21:26 [laughter]
21:27 The new couple is so cute.
21:29 Oh, Cara's a pretty woman, for sure. I think they're gorgeous couples.
21:32 I'm not going to slap you for that for a minute. She's beautiful.
21:34 She is beautiful. I mean, you've got to admit.
21:35 Jessie's hot.
21:36 Yeah, totally.
21:37 Everyone's hot. Everyone's beautiful.
21:39 Yeah.
21:40 As a physical attraction, he's not my usual person I'd go for, to be completely honest.
21:45 But he is a really good-looking guy.
21:49 [laughter]
21:51 I'm pretty happy. I think she's really good-looking. But, you know, early days.
21:58 Cara and Chessie have written their own vows that they will share.
22:03 There you go, Cara.
22:04 Thank you very much.
22:05 Gosh, my hand's still shaking.
22:07 Okay.
22:09 Today, I embark on this journey with you with an open mind and an open heart.
22:15 We're here to embrace every twist and turn alongside you.
22:18 I promise to be honest, loyal, a little sassy, your biggest hype girl,
22:24 and support you always through this unique journey.
22:26 I'm so nervous, but so thrilled to know I finally have a teammate
22:30 to navigate life's unwritten chapters with.
22:32 Let's paint them with our laughter, love, and all the quirks that make us us.
22:37 Cheers to our first hello and to all the adventures to come.
22:39 Love, Cara.
22:42 Beautiful.
22:44 Six months ago, I would have never expected to be standing here today
22:47 about to marry a stranger.
22:51 I consider myself lucky to have such a close circle of family and friends
22:54 who are just as excited to welcome you with open arms.
22:57 I'm looking for someone who wants to approach life with the same enthusiasm,
23:00 someone who embraces life and all its opportunities
23:02 while always treating each other with kindness and respect.
23:05 In return, I promise to always be a safe space throughout this experience,
23:08 to have your back, and to make you laugh in our new adventure together.
23:11 So beautiful.
23:15 I think that both of their vows were, like, pretty chill.
23:20 Our vows were a bit heavier.
23:22 I had a lot of emotions at the time, so it was just lax.
23:25 Yeah, super lax, is what I'd say.
23:27 Laxed. Yeah.
23:30 Do you, Jesse, take Cara to be your wife, to love, honor, and respect?
23:39 Yes, I do.
23:45 Do you, Cara, take Jesse to be your husband, to love, to honor, and to respect?
23:56 I do.
24:01 It is my delight to declare you married.
24:06 And I'll seal your vows with a kiss.
24:11 Okay.
24:15 Okay.
24:17 [Cheering and applause]
24:28 How weird is this?
24:31 Just got married.
24:33 I'm actually feeling good.
24:39 Cheers to Jesse and Cara.
24:41 Woo!
24:44 I definitely felt that they were more nervous than we were, weren't they?
24:47 I felt more nervous here for them than I did on Earth.
24:49 I agree.
24:51 So today we're just going to grab a couple of photos, just some nice wedding shots.
24:55 We'll run through a few poses and, yeah, just have fun.
24:58 They seem like they're going to get along really well together.
25:01 I feel like they're going to fit in here really well.
25:03 Yeah, agreed.
25:04 From the very limited conversations we had.
25:06 It'll be interesting to hear their thoughts on each other, eh,
25:08 see if it was love at first sight or, you know.
25:10 Yeah, from first looks they both seem very smitten about each other.
25:15 Welcome to the crazy family.
25:17 Enjoy yourself, and we'll get started when you're ready.
25:21 Jesse is a really good-looking guy.
25:24 If you just look into each other's eyes.
25:30 He's got a beautiful smile, beautiful teeth.
25:33 Can you come a little bit closer, guys?
25:36 I'm not nervous, you know.
25:40 Cara just want to nestle into Jesse's chest and look towards me.
25:43 Okay.
25:46 Something about his presence that just made me feel accepted already.
25:52 It's really hard to explain.
25:54 Do I hold you there?
25:55 Are you doing it like that?
25:56 Am I going like that?
25:57 Oh, my gosh.
25:58 I don't trust you yet.
26:00 I think she's really beautiful.
26:03 And she looks really kind and nice as well.
26:07 She seems very genuine too, the way she holds herself and talks.
26:11 But where do I go?
26:13 Just whatever feels comfortable.
26:14 Okay, cool.
26:15 I'm ready.
26:22 Awesome.
26:23 Great, guys.
26:24 I was scared so awkward, eh?
26:25 Sorry.
26:26 I'm looking forward to getting to know Cara.
26:28 And I can't wait to just start this journey with her.
26:32 How are you guys feeling after yesterday?
26:37 Yeah, look, it was always going to come up about where Cara and I were at
26:40 because it was a public forum yesterday.
26:43 The call out here, like, it's like an attack on my value.
26:47 And, like, when my values get attacked, like, it's like I'll guard up.
26:55 Yeah, we talked about it this morning.
26:57 And last night after I blew off some steam with a wee run around the island.
27:02 I didn't get a lot of sleep last night, you know, like, because I was in my head a bit.
27:05 But we'll still be sleeping in the same bed and things.
27:08 It's about trying to stay as close together so we don't actually, like, start drifting apart.
27:13 You guys look, like, sweet as today, you know.
27:15 I wouldn't even guess, you know, anything would have.
27:17 That's the power of talking things through, right?
27:19 Exactly, yeah.
27:20 That's right.
27:21 Mike the Viking, I love him.
27:24 I know about that light, energy.
27:28 I think Cara kind of paged it out to be, like, super loud, and I haven't spent heaps of time with him.
27:33 But he seems, like, just, like, really confident in who he is.
27:37 My energy and character's so big, right?
27:40 Yeah, I've just been struggling to find my voice.
27:45 I think Mike is a fantastic guy, and I want to learn a lot from him as well.
27:49 He's just a really well-spoken dude, and I mumble a lot, so.
27:52 When you're stuck in the jam jar, you don't know what the label looks like, right?
27:55 Yeah, yeah.
27:56 Sometimes someone's going to pull you out and be like, "That's the label, that's the flavour."
27:58 Yeah, damn, man, like, the jam jar?
28:00 That was a goodie.
28:02 I could imagine that having that presence around you 24/7 might be a challenging thing.
28:06 I'm a strong, independent bitch, and I'm finding it hard to be looked after, you know, day every day.
28:11 And it's lovely, but, you know, it's like I'm just adjusting to someone doing everything for me, and it's so nice.
28:18 Yeah.
28:19 Look, I think from my side it's just a matter of not sitting on my feelings and saying things when I think them,
28:25 and not waiting to decompress with the girls.
28:28 Mm.
28:30 I think the problem with Kara and Mike is Kara is so strong, and she's so used to being independent,
28:36 and she's so used to being, like, out here on her own.
28:39 She doesn't like it.
28:41 I don't think that they're doomed.
28:43 I think that they're communicating and that there's a few speed bumps, like,
28:46 but maybe that they can get through it.
28:48 You guys will figure it out.
28:50 Yeah.
28:51 Like I said, speed bumps just don't happen at 100km/h, right?
28:55 (LAUGHTER)
28:56 We like a little bit of turbulence.
28:58 (LAUGHTER)
28:59 Yeah, we just don't need to crash land, though.
29:01 (LAUGHTER)
29:03 And what do you do for work down in Christchurch?
29:05 So I work as a property consultant for a small developer, and I also am finishing off my papers for finance.
29:12 Oh, my God. Same. I'm in finance.
29:14 Wow. Really?
29:15 Yeah. How funny.
29:17 We're both in finance.
29:19 That's so funny. So, like, I mean, we could— We could be a D.
29:22 (LAUGHS)
29:23 Have you done any other strands?
29:25 No, but I'd love to do mortgages. Yeah.
29:27 Yeah, and then also the investment one, too, cos I like to own a Cabby Saver.
29:29 Yeah, same. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
29:30 Yeah, the Cabby Saver's great.
29:31 I'm keen to do investment and health and life too.
29:33 There's a level 5 core subject and then three pillars under that,
29:37 and I'm lending and she's insurance.
29:40 Yeah, it's a pretty cool link-up with her.
29:44 How old are you?
29:46 I'm 31.
29:47 Oh, OK.
29:48 How old are you?
29:49 I'm pretty much 30.
29:50 Oh, yeah. OK.
29:51 I turned 30 in January.
29:52 Yeah. Nice.
29:53 That's only about two years.
29:55 (BOTH CHUCKLE)
29:56 Yes.
29:57 (BOTH LAUGH)
29:58 Oh!
29:59 He seems like a really nice, down-to-earth guy.
30:02 There is a couple little things, considering he's a little bit younger than me.
30:07 Hopefully the maturity is actually where I'm wanting it to be.
30:11 Hopefully the other couple's are cool, eh?
30:13 I know. They seem pretty cool.
30:14 Yeah.
30:15 Straight away he was like, "It's a great day on Sunday. Hopefully we can..."
30:18 And then he was like, "Just a couple of longies?"
30:20 (BOTH LAUGH)
30:22 It's been two hours, so...
30:24 It hasn't been that long, but we'll see.
30:27 (GENTLE MUSIC)
30:34 I don't know why I'm, like, nervous meeting everybody.
30:39 Yeah.
30:40 Kara and Jessie are about to meet the rest of the Married at First Sight couples
30:45 at their wedding reception.
30:47 Oh, yes, please, madam.
30:48 I saw your glass was empty.
30:50 (CHEERING)
30:52 Hello!
30:53 (CHEERING)
30:55 Hello. Lovely to meet you.
31:00 Hello. I'm Kara.
31:01 Welcome.
31:02 Michael. Lovely to meet you.
31:03 Michael. Nice to meet you.
31:04 Piri, Piri. Good day, Piri. Jessie. Nice to meet you, mate.
31:06 Hi. I'm Kara.
31:07 I'm Kara.
31:08 With a C or a K?
31:09 With a K.
31:10 Oh, my gosh. I've never met, like, another Kara before.
31:13 There's two Karas, so...
31:15 I keep hearing her name and thinking people are looking for me, but they are not.
31:19 So we might need to work out a nickname, code.
31:22 Because we've got two Karas, how are we gonna differentiate them?
31:26 CJ, like Kara Jade.
31:28 CJ. CJ. CJ's cute.
31:30 You're the OG Kara. Yeah.
31:33 For sure. Yeah.
31:34 That's right. The OG.
31:35 (LAUGHS)
31:37 (ALL CHATTER)
31:39 Cheers. Cheers.
31:40 Cheers.
31:41 Cheers.
31:43 How are you guys feeling?
31:44 Feeling good.
31:45 Have you, like, done the fast, who are you, where are you from, what age you are, what's going on?
31:51 Do you want kids?
31:52 Oh, God, we have a lot of kids.
31:54 (LAUGHTER)
31:55 Do you have any?
31:56 Yeah, I've got four kids.
31:57 Look at this.
31:58 (CAMERA SHUTTER CLICKS)
31:59 No, I'm joking.
32:02 (LAUGHTER)
32:04 Love that.
32:05 (LAUGHTER)
32:07 I have a child.
32:08 Oh, do you?
32:09 Yeah.
32:10 A golden retriever cross miniature poodle.
32:13 Oh, that's so good.
32:14 So he's like a little teddy bear.
32:15 Well, I lie, he's a massive teddy bear.
32:17 I've been told that I'm like a golden retriever.
32:19 Oh, you are a bit.
32:21 Yeah, so...
32:22 (LAUGHS)
32:23 You've got two golden retrievers now.
32:24 Oh, I really do.
32:25 (LAUGHTER)
32:26 Act cool.
32:27 That laugh.
32:28 (LAUGHTER)
32:29 I know.
32:30 It's such a, like, loud, excited laugh.
32:32 (LAUGHTER)
32:34 (LAUGHTER)
32:36 (LAUGHTER)
32:38 Jesse has a really, like, contagious laugh.
32:41 Like, when that guy's laughing, he's going for it, you know?
32:44 (LAUGHTER)
32:46 (LAUGHTER)
32:48 It's so funny, though, cos my friends tease me for going...
32:50 (LAUGHS)
32:51 ..all the time, so I'm like, "Oh, my God, he can beat my..."
32:53 I now no longer have a funny laugh.
32:55 (LAUGHTER)
32:57 I think I heard his bride saying that he has, like, golden retriever energy,
33:01 and I can see that totally.
33:02 Yeah, he's just, like, yeah, real bubbly dude.
33:04 I'm trying to take it off.
33:05 That's so embarrassing when I said I'm from Jersey.
33:07 Oh, my God.
33:08 (LAUGHTER)
33:09 It's cute.
33:10 Yeah, I know, yeah.
33:11 It was, like, obviously...
33:12 I was obviously just nervous.
33:13 Do you know what?
33:14 That actually made me a lot less nervous.
33:15 Oh, good.
33:16 I was so nervous about mucking up.
33:18 Yeah, I know!
33:19 I'd (BLEEP) it up!
33:20 So then you'd (BLEEP) it up.
33:21 So I was like, "Then (BLEEP) me.
33:23 "You did it, not me."
33:24 (LAUGHTER)
33:26 Yeah, no, I'm feeling good.
33:27 Happy as.
33:28 Really pleased with my wife, so...
33:30 I thought it was an epic wedding, eh?
33:32 Yeah, do you?
33:33 Yeah, I loved it.
33:34 The spot was good.
33:35 That's cos of me, eh?
33:36 Yeah.
33:37 Good for you.
33:38 But, yeah, like, the spot was nice, and then, like...
33:40 I would describe her so far as being, like, an outgoing, bubbly girl that's caring.
33:44 Seeing you walk down the aisle was really nice.
33:46 Yeah?
33:47 Yeah, I was like, "Thank (BLEEP)."
33:48 Oh, really?
33:49 Yeah.
33:50 What were you thinking when I walked down the aisle?
33:52 Oh, you just looked really beautiful.
33:53 Aw, thank you.
33:54 (MUSIC)
33:56 I could tell from when we just initially talked that you were, like, a cool chick.
33:59 Racing on, I was like, "Oh, my God."
34:01 (LAUGHTER)
34:02 I really want to sit down with her and get to know her on a deeper level.
34:05 I'm excited for that.
34:06 Hey, um, let's go and get you to introduce all to the boys.
34:12 Yeah, yeah.
34:13 You wanna do that?
34:14 Let's go.
34:15 Let's do it.
34:16 Let's meet the lads.
34:17 Come with us, man.
34:18 Let's go and have a chat.
34:19 See you soon, man.
34:20 (MUSIC)
34:27 Right of the hour, how are you feeling?
34:30 How am I feeling?
34:31 Well, it's really nice to actually finally meet everybody.
34:34 (LAUGHTER)
34:36 Looking forward to just getting all the lads together.
34:38 We've got the plus one now as well with Jesse there.
34:40 Yeah, I'm stoked, eh?
34:42 Yeah.
34:43 Kara's really cool.
34:44 (LAUGHTER)
34:45 Everybody's so open and receptive.
34:47 Yeah, you guys all seem like top blokes as well, so it's nice to meet you all.
34:50 Yeah, it's nice to meet you.
34:51 Such a good bunch of lads, you know?
34:53 Yeah, so how long have you been single for, and why did you go on the apps?
34:58 I'm here 'cause I haven't really had a functional dating life pretty much ever.
35:04 I had a long-term girlfriend in high school, and to put a long story short,
35:08 I wasn't very, like, nice in the loyal sense.
35:11 (MUSIC)
35:13 What has been the most challenging thing for you in your life?
35:21 Getting out of my own head.
35:23 Mm-hm.
35:24 Like, I cheated quite a bit when I was younger.
35:26 Right.
35:27 Yeah. Nothing I'm proud of.
35:29 You now can reflect on that, and you see what's happened.
35:33 It's quite hard to speak kindly to yourself in your head.
35:36 What do you think led to you doing that?
35:38 I love the attention.
35:40 I played by myself a lot.
35:42 My two older brothers were real close.
35:44 They hung out a lot when I was younger, but I kinda just did my own thing
35:47 and played by myself.
35:49 I wasn't very cool at school.
35:51 Bit of a nerd.
35:52 Hung out in the library and read, like, comic books and stuff.
35:55 I was so uncool, I couldn't hang out with, like, the other uncool kids.
35:58 I tried to hang out with them once, and they were down with it, eh?
36:02 Until high school, I started playing sports and stuff.
36:05 It was just nice to...
36:07 I don't know, nice to be wanted, I guess.
36:13 Mm.
36:15 Ooh, this is getting hard.
36:17 Agh!
36:19 Who do you want to be?
36:25 A good man.
36:28 Ooh, far out.
36:34 Strong, kind, thoughtful.
36:39 Hmm.
36:42 Caring.
36:45 I feel kind of like I'm ready to open up again
36:48 and kind of just be honest about myself and say that I haven't been the best person,
36:52 but I'm just trying to be a good man now
36:54 and trying to find a good woman who might be wanting to build something next to me.
36:58 Nice. Yeah.
37:00 I mean, since I'm new...
37:02 And you missed the hen's night.
37:05 I did miss the hen's night. Yeah.
37:07 Ooh.
37:09 I've got a question.
37:11 Well, it's more so a game.
37:13 So, the five husbands,
37:15 Shag, Marry, Kill.
37:17 That's savage. That's savage as man.
37:21 I want to catch up, girls.
37:23 I'm coming in hot.
37:25 God, this is so savage.
37:27 (BLEEP)
37:29 Look, I'm coming in hot.
37:31 At the wedding reception for our newlyweds, CJ and Jessie,
37:42 the grooms are getting deep.
37:44 I mean, dating is so weird right now.
37:46 It's changed so much over the years. It's changed.
37:48 You just jump on the internet, boom, you swipe right or left, you find someone else.
37:51 It's just selection. Yeah, it's selection.
37:53 You can easily just discard someone. Totally.
37:55 Based off physical attributes, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah.
37:57 While their wives play...
37:59 Shag, Marry, Kill.
38:01 Quite savage, the Kill buzz.
38:10 We'll just do Shag and Marry. I think we should do Shag and Marry.
38:13 It just feels really tacky to play a game like this.
38:18 I get the whole kind of keeping it light and making it fun and stuff,
38:22 but when it's your husband and other people's husbands that are just over there...
38:27 Thanks, yeah.
38:29 It just feels like a really wrong time to be doing it, and just wrong in general.
38:33 Shag, Husband.
38:36 (LAUGHTER)
38:39 Marry your husband.
38:41 Love that.
38:43 It's like the Hubbub of Time Chamber, man.
38:45 (LAUGHTER)
38:47 You're like Dregor Moussier, too.
38:49 (LAUGHTER)
38:51 I think I would Shag your husband.
38:54 Yeah, I think I would Shag my husband, too, to be honest.
38:56 Then marry yours. Right, yeah.
38:58 Oh, he's got some good brownie points, doesn't he?
39:00 Love DBZ, yeah.
39:02 And you were going to be married, so...
39:04 Who's next? Who's next? Your turn.
39:06 Oh, my turn?
39:08 Stop it!
39:10 Is it savage if I don't Shag my own husband?
39:12 No, it's not at all. It's just being...
39:14 No, just be honest.
39:16 I would probably Shag your husband.
39:18 (LAUGHTER)
39:20 Cool, cool. And marry your husband.
39:23 Right. The golden retriever.
39:25 Yeah, yeah.
39:27 It's like, I don't want to...
39:29 It's OK. It's OK. We got you.
39:31 Um...we're just going off, like, initial type.
39:34 Yeah, yeah. Like, look and type.
39:36 It's nothing, like...
39:38 OK. I think I'd marry mine.
39:41 Oh!
39:43 Stop it!
39:45 But I'd Shag yours. (LAUGHTER)
39:48 I already know that James is someone special, so...
39:51 Yeah, of course, I wanted to marry him.
39:54 Um, would have Shagged him, too, but I had to pick someone else.
39:59 I just didn't think the game was that serious.
40:03 It's just a game.
40:05 And I think some people did take it a little bit out of context.
40:09 So I would probably Shag your husband.
40:11 Yeah, yeah, yeah, for, like, a one-nighter.
40:13 But I don't do one-nighters, so...
40:15 Yeah, he's in Hot Tamale.
40:17 Maybe I should Shag my husband.
40:19 I'm in the same line.
40:21 Um, I don't know if I would marry any of them, to be honest.
40:24 Like, I don't mean to be blunt, but I have to.
40:27 OK, let's go with your husband.
40:29 Yeah, mine.
40:31 Oh, it's OK.
40:33 I think I made my answer for the married one with sort of beer goggles on.
40:38 Because I know Nate and his personality and our connection,
40:42 I really regret not saying Nate, to be quite honest.
40:46 So the reason why I applied for this was, obviously,
40:49 pretty much like the rest of you guys, dating wasn't working for me.
40:52 I'd been out of a relationship for a year and a half plus.
40:55 So that was my second relationship I'd been in.
40:58 She literally broke up with me over a text and I went, "Ugh!"
41:02 You're good, man. You're good.
41:04 And it sort of, yeah, it broke me, to be honest. Yeah.
41:08 You're good. You're good.
41:10 You're good, brother. I'm loving this, lads.
41:13 Getting into it.
41:15 You hug me, I'm going to hug you now.
41:23 OK, it's all right, yeah. It's all right.
41:26 Use your voice, brother.
41:28 Move it through.
41:30 So ultimately, what holds you back when it comes to falling in love?
41:34 Heartbreaks, yeah.
41:36 You're scared of getting hurt? Yeah.
41:38 And the past year, I've sort of, like, pulled out of dating
41:41 and just said, like, you know what, I'm just going to focus on myself right now.
41:46 What are you like at commitment?
41:48 I'm someone, if I want to date someone, it's definitely long-term.
41:52 Yeah. And I don't date to just date.
41:56 I date because I see a future with the person.
41:59 And one thing I admire the most, like, old coppers.
42:02 When I see old coppers, I talk to them, I'm like,
42:05 "What kept you in this relationship?"
42:07 And you hear about them. It's not like it's been off, like, you know, right the whole time.
42:11 They've just decided to fight for it.
42:13 Group hug? Yeah, group hug.
42:15 Group hug.
42:17 Aw, nice having a cry. Good on them for being vulnerable. Yeah, bud.
42:23 Walking back in after such an emotional chat, I feel more connected.
42:27 What a funny conversation.
42:29 Oh, the boys are coming back! The boys are coming back!
42:34 Hello, ladies. Hello, men. How are we?
42:37 How are you? Yeah, I'm OK.
42:40 How was the girls' chat?
42:43 Funny. How was the boys? Deep. It was emotional, yeah. It was very deep.
42:49 Feeling OK? Yeah. I cried a bit. Mm-hm.
42:53 Yeah, I felt good. Nice having support from the boys.
42:56 Yeah. So, yeah. Thank you. Yeah? Yeah.
42:59 Yeah. (LAUGHS)
43:01 Enough about me. How about you?
43:03 No more playing shoot, Chegmeri. (LAUGHTER)
43:07 I was like, "What are the girls giggling about?"
43:10 Cos when we were talking, I just heard, like, loud giggles.
43:13 Well done. Told you. Be vulnerable, you.
43:16 I'm always being vulnerable. Trust me, I am vulnerable. I am vulnerable.
43:19 I told you, when I'm in a situation, I'm just like...
43:21 It's not behind the camera. It's not behind the camera.
43:23 Yeah. So it's good to be shown that as well.
43:26 I've seen the vulnerable side of Nate, and I've encouraged that.
43:29 I said, "Show that. You need to be able to allow yourself to open that up."
43:33 But then you can't help yourself from, like, holding it back
43:36 till the cameras come in, in order for you to be vulnerable.
43:39 Of course, of course, of course.
43:41 She's been telling me to get vulnerable on camera.
43:44 I don't hide my emotions. My emotions will come out when they come out.
43:48 Doesn't matter whether it's on camera or not.
43:51 What an afternoon, man. Like, what a beautiful wedding.
43:54 Oh, such a beautiful wedding, eh?
43:56 It's a very overwhelming day, but, you know, it's so nice
43:59 to finally meet all you guys and actually get to know you better.
44:02 Cheers, guys. Cheers.
44:04 Cheers. Cheers.
44:06 Cheers.
44:08 First dance!
44:16 First dance! Yeah, baby!
44:18 I think our vibe's really good.
44:23 I get a lot of warmth around him.
44:26 He was saying before he's got such a golden retriever vibe,
44:30 and he so does.
44:32 He's so lovely, and I can tell already he's so caring.
44:35 He does make everybody try and feel comfortable.
44:39 I'm really drawn to that.
44:41 # Love is like a... #
44:43 I really want to spend the next few days literally just talking to her
44:47 and learn about her life, who she is, what she's doing.
44:50 Looking forward to getting to know this, what seems like a really cool chick.
44:54 I mean, moving back to Auckland and moving in together,
45:05 I'm feeling really good.
45:07 I feel like it was worth it.
45:09 I'm feeling really good.
45:11 I feel like it just won't be a problem.
45:13 We haven't even had to have a chat about sharing the bed.
45:16 I just want to add a bit of romance.
45:18 She deserves the best.
45:20 I'm seeing the older couples all loved up,
45:23 and it has sort of put a pressure on me and Maddie's relationship.
45:27 I'm still getting to know who she is, yeah.
45:30 Seeing him get a bit emotional with other boys
45:36 definitely attracted me more to him.
45:38 I want to see that vulnerability.
45:40 I want to see that maybe some days you're not OK.
45:43 Mike and I have had a heavy 24 hours,
45:47 but today's been fun, it's been light-hearted.
45:50 I've got to be optimistic about this, you know,
45:54 cos we've been put together for a reason.
45:57 I want to work it out, hopefully.
45:59 I'm going to be positive.
46:07 Next time...
46:08 Hello, Auckland!
46:09 Emotions reach boiling point.
46:11 You just wait till day three, the honeymoon's over.
46:14 This is, like, the toughest thing I've ever done, you know?
46:19 Hard questions hit home.
46:22 Do you think I'm the right person for you long-term?
46:25 I don't want to scare her off with anything,
46:29 but it's also important for her to understand what lies beneath.
46:32 And for one couple...
46:34 You know, people can be so horrible.
46:36 This could be the end.
46:37 It's just whether I want to be doing life with him.
46:39 I really can't f*** with this right now.
46:41 Are you kidding?
46:42 Wifey for lifey.
46:44 LAUGHTER
46:45 LAUGHTER
46:47 I'm not going to be doing this.
46:49 I'm not going to be doing this.
46:51 I'm not going to be doing this.
46:53 I'm not going to be doing this.