4 MARIAGE
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00:00Now see in Nikah, how easy it is to get married according to Sunnah.
00:04We got married 4 times according to our Sunnah.
00:07We got married very easily.
00:09But if we would have done those obligations which people usually do in marriage,
00:12then we would have got stuck on one.
00:14We would have spent so much that we would have got so many debts after one,
00:18that we wouldn't have been able to think about the second one.
00:21All the marriages that I have had, I got married very easily, Alhamdulillah.
00:25We got married for the first time.
00:27The bride's father came and my mother.
00:31He was in Punjab.
00:33We went with our mother.
00:35On the way, we picked up our brother and sister-in-law from Bahawalpur.
00:38We went there.
00:39This was the only wedding procession.
00:41We got married.
00:42And I, my mother and my wife came out.
00:45The story ended.
00:47We got married.
00:48The next day, I was roaming around.
00:49People were saying,
00:50Sir, yesterday was your statement.
00:51You were not there.
00:52I said, I had gone to the wedding.
00:53I said, whose?
00:54I said, mine.
00:55What do you mean?
00:56You were here just now.
00:57You got married too.
00:58I said, in the wedding, we said, it is accepted.
01:01It is accepted.
01:02So what is there in this?
01:03So I said, I will do the reception.
01:05You don't worry.
01:06I did the reception according to my status.
01:08I did it according to how much money I had.
01:10I didn't take any loan.
01:11I didn't take any loan.
01:12I looked at my status.
01:13I said, this is my status.
01:14So do it according to that.
01:15People have to make things up.
01:19But after eating the chickens of lakhs of rupees,
01:23don't they make things up?
01:25Do they say that it is very cheap?
01:27No, no, no.
01:28Even if a small piece of meat comes out raw,
01:30your crores of rupees will be ruined.
01:33And they forget after 1.5-2 weeks,
01:35who gave the expensive chicken and who gave the cheap one.
01:38I had made one chicken biryani.
01:41That's it.
01:42I had this much scope.
01:44I said, so many people, this biryani.
01:46I said, no one will bring envelopes.
01:49Because the trend of envelopes is going on.
01:51If you bring that in the envelopes,
01:52then you also take it.
01:54I said, don't take it.
01:55Don't take it.
01:56I said, no one will bring envelopes.
01:58Eat with respect.
02:00Get out of the narrow lane.
02:02One person said, the meat was not cooked.
02:04One person said, it was not cooked properly.
02:07So I said, we have cooked as much as we could in our bus.
02:10We can't eat more than this.
02:11If you want to eat, eat.
02:12Otherwise, get out of the narrow lane.
02:14Then the second one also became like this.
02:16It happened the same way there.
02:18There was no one in the second one.
02:21If they were caught, they would be beaten.
02:23There were not so many people in the second one.
02:26When the second one happened,
02:27then my brother, my younger brother was supporting me.
02:302-4 friends were supporting me.
02:33When it was time for marriage, they also ran away.
02:35Their hands and feet started shaking.
02:36They said, if caught, we will be beaten.
02:37You are getting married, who will beat you?
02:39When the family will find out who was who,
02:42then we will also get beaten.
02:44Now I am alone.
02:46I am not in that sense.
02:48Put a fatwa on me.
02:49I became alone.
02:51I took loan from 2-4 friends.
02:53I said, where are you going?
02:55What will that girl's father say?
02:57Bring someone.
02:59So we went to the mosque.
03:01We got married.
03:02Now there was a wedding at night.
03:04I had to leave the house.
03:05What would I have told my mother where I was going?
03:07Coincidentally, it was Thursday.
03:10Madani Mosque is very useful at such occasions.
03:14Right?
03:16My child, MashaAllah.
03:18Sit down, my child.
03:20So,
03:22on Thursday,
03:24I had the best option.
03:26On the day of the wedding,
03:28my wife, her parents,
03:30and maybe a neighbor who knew,
03:32were there.
03:34Rest,
03:36my family members,
03:38their relatives were there.
03:40So this was our first marriage.
03:42I took a house of one room.
03:44This was my status.
03:46I didn't have more status than this.
03:48I rented a house of one room.
03:50One kitchen and one washroom.
03:52The rent was Rs. 2,500.
03:54I told my in-laws,
03:56this is my status.
03:58If you want to send me,
04:00you can stay here.
04:02When Allah makes the income good,
04:04we will buy a good house.
04:06I trusted Allah.
04:08So we got married.
04:10As we had children,
04:12Allah kept giving us wealth.
04:14I will give you a good example.
04:16Where there are more trees,
04:18there are more rains.
04:20What do you think?
04:22Trees attract clouds.
04:24If someone says,
04:26there are no rains,
04:28how will there be trees?
04:30If you plant trees,
04:32rains will start.
04:34People say,
04:36we don't have money.
04:38How will we get children?
04:40If you give birth,
04:42they will come.
04:44Allah has taken the risk of
04:46giving children to his father.
04:48We knew this philosophy.
04:50There is no money now.
04:52When there will be children,
04:54what will be the money?
04:56We rented a house of one room.
04:58I was putting a clock on the wall.
05:00The owner of the house lived in the neighborhood.
05:02I was putting a clock on the wall.
05:04He didn't know that I was speaking.
05:06I still remember.
05:08I was putting a clock on the wall.
05:10She respected me a lot.
05:12She gave me a lot of respect.
05:14She was the owner of the house.
05:16May Allah bless her.
05:18If she dies, may Allah forgive her.
05:20She gave me a lot of respect.
05:22I didn't tell her that I have a second wife.
05:24Otherwise, I wouldn't have given her a house on rent.
05:26If you ask for a house on rent,
05:28the owner won't give you a house.
05:30I didn't tell her this.
05:32She thought I was a smart man.
05:34She must have done it before.
05:36She gave me a lot of respect.
05:38Her wall was right next to mine.
05:40I could hear her voice.
05:42I was putting a nail on the wall.
05:44She said, you are destroying the wall.
05:46I really liked her words.
05:48Anyway.
05:50We got married with simplicity.
05:52We did the third marriage in the same way.
05:54I don't remember all the details.
05:56It was done in the same way.
05:58In fact, it was so easy.
06:00We were sitting.
06:02My wife and her family
06:04asked me about the income.
06:06I told them that this is our income.
06:08This is the total income.
06:10There are two in this.
06:12And it is going on.
06:14Thanks to Allah.
06:16They thought the man was speaking clearly.
06:18There are no two numbers.
06:20He was from a religious family.
06:22Who was he?
06:24He was a religious scholar.
06:26He said, we accept it.
06:28When I left,
06:30He said, we are religious people.
06:32We tell people to get married with simplicity.
06:34Make it easy.
06:36What is this?
06:38Everyone likes a man.
06:40He said, get married.
06:42I was in a civil dress.
06:44Whenever I got married,
06:46I wore white clothes.
06:48I wore a turban.
06:50I did so many things.
06:52I went in the same attire.
06:54I wore sandals and a cap.
06:56Whenever I got married,
06:58I did not buy anything.
07:00But that time,
07:02I was not even in this dress.
07:04They asked me to get married.
07:06I said, I accept it.
07:08I liked this sentence.
07:10Then,
07:12The maulvi called me.
07:14The maulvi who called me,
07:16That is a very interesting incident.
07:18The maulvi who called me,
07:203-4 years ago,
07:223-4 years ago,
07:24There was a debate
07:26on 2-3 marriages.
07:28He was from the Tablighi Jamaat.
07:30I will not tell you who he was.
07:32You will understand.
07:34It is not appropriate.
07:36I was having a big debate
07:38on 3 marriages in this era.
07:40He said, we should do one.
07:42We debated on this for an hour.
07:44No, we should not do two.
07:46What happened?
07:48When I called him,
07:50He said,
07:52You are getting married?
07:54In our family?
07:56You are very smart.
07:58You were trying to convince us.
08:00But you got married in our family.
08:02He was very happy.
08:04Anyway, he got married.
08:06I am able to explain my point.
08:08So, every marriage happened like this.
08:10There can be 4 marriages like this.
08:12The way you can do,
08:14One marriage breaks your back.
08:16There is so much expenditure.
08:18It takes a lot of time
08:20to repay the debts.
08:22The best part of your youth
08:24is wasted.
08:26The money you saved
08:28to do something good.
08:30People say,
08:32we don't get a good proposal without this.
08:34There are many good people.
08:36You will get them for free.
08:38Do you understand or not?
08:40There are good people
08:42who need a good man.
08:44So, they get him.