Stefan Molyneux
Stefan Molyneux
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Friday Night Live 9 August 2024

In this lively discussion, we cover topics from declining job offers with honesty to navigating tech upgrades and political trends among single women. We delve into the importance of self-criticism and customer feedback, advocating for empathy in ideological discussions. The audience joins in, enriching the conversation with diverse perspectives and insights.

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Transcript
00:00:00Well, good evening everybody, 9th of August 2024 and it is time for Friday Night Live.
00:00:09And we got a bunch of questions, we got a bunch of comments, we got a whole lot of stuff,
00:00:13whole lot of shaking going on.
00:00:16Any tips on declining a job offer and still being on the good side?
00:00:20I interviewed with several companies and got multiple job offers and picked a job with
00:00:23the highest bid.
00:00:27Well, so what you want to think of is how have you been rejected that has made it okay
00:00:35for you, right?
00:00:37So how is it, you can be honest, right, so you can say, you know, I really love the company,
00:00:48you guys were a little on the low side, I don't know, you know, if you have other kind
00:00:52of benefits, but other companies are providing more compensation.
00:00:55I just want to give you a heads up so that you can figure out whether you are competitive
00:00:59or not, right?
00:01:00I was sort of appreciated that when I was hiring people and if somebody, if somebody
00:01:04told me the reason why they didn't take the job, I mean, not that I ever viewed and interviewed
00:01:08anyone or they didn't take the job, but if people can tell me why they didn't take the
00:01:12job, that could be quite, I mean, that was quite helpful for me as a hiring manager.
00:01:16All right, actually, let me just move this over here, this screeny screen over here.
00:01:26And let's see here, live chat callers, so yeah, if anyone calls in, freedomain.com forward
00:01:31slash live call, freedomain.com forward slash live call, IT rant, oh, no, that's all right.
00:01:39She's been fine.
00:01:42I mean, my camera chewed up my video card, you know, like, I have this, it's camera,
00:01:49it's a really, really nice camera.
00:01:50This is my favorite.
00:01:51I've owned, I don't know, like half a dozen cameras over the years.
00:01:54And this one wasn't even that expensive, but it is by far my favorite, because it doesn't
00:01:58make me look ill or like I'm about to give birth to a giant spotted owl out of my forehead.
00:02:06Hopefully the giant spotted owl of wisdom, that's the title for the show.
00:02:09But this camera's really nice, but it overheats if the battery's in and it's powered in.
00:02:16It doesn't have enough to last for a two and a half hour, three show.
00:02:18The battery's not long enough, so I got an external plug for it.
00:02:21But the problem is that when the external plug is kind of loose, I have to kind of jiggle
00:02:25it, and it fried my SD card, like it just wouldn't read it, so what can I tell you?
00:02:33It's just the reality.
00:02:35All right.
00:02:38So let's get to your other questions, then I've got a rant.
00:02:45Try not to burn bridges in the business world, I mean in life as a whole, try not to burn
00:02:49bridges.
00:02:50All right.
00:02:51What are your thoughts on the great man theory?
00:02:55So there's two general theories of history.
00:02:58One is an amalgamation of incredibly complex issues and movements and economics and some
00:03:07ideas.
00:03:10So what is it that caused the Industrial Revolution?
00:03:13Well, it was the invention of this, and then the division of labor between countries called
00:03:20that, and there was this conflict, and then the invention of this weaponry, and it's all
00:03:27just like alignment of the planets stuff.
00:03:31And that is, well, wrong.
00:03:36History is willpower.
00:03:38History is willpower, nothing more, nothing less.
00:03:41You can see this playing around you every day.
00:03:45History is willpower.
00:03:48That's all.
00:03:49You just donated at freedomain.com slash donate.
00:03:52Thank you, my friend.
00:03:53I appreciate that, I do appreciate that, thank you, thank you, thank you.
00:03:57So yeah, history is willpower, that's all.
00:03:59Do you have the will to achieve your goals?
00:04:03Do you have the will to speak the truth?
00:04:04Do other people have the will to amplify your truth?
00:04:06Because there's not much point speaking the truth if people aren't willing to go amplify
00:04:10it.
00:04:11Coffee fueled the Industrial Revolution.
00:04:14That is not true.
00:04:15That is not true.
00:04:16The Industrial Revolution was caused by one thing and one thing only.
00:04:24The Industrial Revolution was caused by the end of slavery slash serfdom.
00:04:29Once you had a free market in land, then you had increases in productivity from 10 to 15
00:04:37to 20 times the amount of food.
00:04:42In other words, you need far fewer workers.
00:04:44And so you then have the capacity for an urban proletariat and there was a free market in
00:04:50labor because there weren't slaves.
00:04:53When there's a free market in labor, you want to hire a bunch of people and eliminate their
00:04:56jobs.
00:04:57No, it's not true.
00:05:01It's not true.
00:05:02There's tons of places that have coffees and stimulants that did not have an Industrial
00:05:05Revolution.
00:05:11So you ended slavery, you ended serfdom, you had a free market in land, agricultural productivity
00:05:16went through the roof, you got an urban proletariat, people are competing with them to drive their
00:05:20up their wages and then in order to reduce their costs, they invent labor-saving devices
00:05:24and that's your Industrial Revolution right there.
00:05:26It's really not complicated.
00:05:28So it was the willpower of the people who wanted to end slavery or to be technical shift
00:05:32slavery from the direct ownership of the person to indirect ownership of the person through
00:05:37wage taxes or taxes, I mean, most of the taxes were not wage taxes until 1913 or 1917 in
00:05:45Canada.
00:05:46Don't worry though, it's just a temporary measure.
00:05:48It's only just a couple of percentage points on the very richest of people and it's just
00:05:53temporary and, right, yeah, all the places that coffee came from, did they have an Industrial
00:05:58Revolution?
00:05:59They did not.
00:06:02So it's just capitalism.
00:06:03That's all it is.
00:06:04Thank you, Joseph.
00:06:05It's just capitalism.
00:06:06Just the free market gave us the Industrial Revolution and the free market was promoted
00:06:09by a bunch of thinkers and reasoners and arguers and debaters and then what happened was, see,
00:06:14this is the way that it works, right?
00:06:16The way that it works is people come up with great ideas, great, powerful, true, virtuous,
00:06:22wonderful ideas and then what happens is they, I can tell you this from personal experience,
00:06:26they put them out into the ether.
00:06:28Off they go.
00:06:29Like when I was a kid and I had my first helium balloon and they said, little Steffy, do you
00:06:35want to keep that helium balloon or would you like to enter that little red helium balloon
00:06:38into a balloon race and maybe you could win a hundred pounds and I'm like, I like a hundred
00:06:45pounds, sounds good and I let go my little red balloon, 90 90 Luftballon and it went
00:06:53off into the sky and as I let it go, I realized I was never going to see that hundred pounds
00:06:58and what I was going to see was my very first beautiful helium balloon at the age of three
00:07:02floating off into a perfectly clear blue sky, which is memorable because it was England
00:07:06after all and I realized, oh my gosh, greed got me nothing.
00:07:13It's a good lesson to learn.
00:07:15It cost me a balloon, but it saved me a lifetime.
00:07:22Got me a balloon, saved me a lifetime.
00:07:28So great thinkers, thank you Kairos, great thinkers put their ideas out into the ether
00:07:37and the population either seizes upon them and amplifies them or the population ignores
00:07:43them and things fall apart.
00:07:48That's all, that's all it is.
00:07:53I mean, people in power will generally amplify those, so why was it that slavery and serfdom
00:07:59ended?
00:08:00Because the people in power realized that when you end slavery and serfdom and you get
00:08:03that kind of agricultural productivity, you get to have an empire because now you need
00:08:08much fewer people to produce your food, so what you do is instead of having those people
00:08:12produce your food, you draft them and enlist them so that they can be your army and your
00:08:19Navy.
00:08:22This is of course a little bit prior to ye old First World War Air Force.
00:08:27That's what you do.
00:08:28So the end of slavery was amplified, of course, because the powers that be wanted the soldiers
00:08:38and the sailors, and this is why the agricultural revolution was followed by the age of empires.
00:08:44So unfortunately, UPB serves the peace to come but not the powers that are, which is
00:08:51why it's very hard to share it and why there's so much hostility towards something like UPB
00:08:56and peaceful parenting.
00:08:59That which benefits no powerful interests in the present tends to be ignored because
00:09:03it cannot be disproven, and the best way you disprove is to ignore and then to slander.
00:09:13So if you're not spreading UPB, you are spreading manure in the cribs of the future.
00:09:19If you're not spreading peaceful parenting, you're spreading manure on the future.
00:09:27Facts, what can I tell you?
00:09:28Facts, what can I tell you?
00:09:34History is powered by philosophy, no, history is powered by each individual decision that
00:09:40people made about whether they're serious about what they believe in or not.
00:09:45That's all.
00:09:47So the leftists who say, I'm going to disown and disavow people who don't take the vaccine,
00:09:54people who support Trump, people who are skeptical of mass migration, people who are
00:09:58skeptical of the values and virtues of diversity, people who say, screw you, I don't care if
00:10:04you're a blood relative, I believe this.
00:10:08And if you don't get in line, you're out of here, bozo, well, those people win.
00:10:14And if you're not willing to put your relationships where your values are, your values will fade
00:10:20into the trash heap of history.
00:10:23And it's hard to argue that it should be any different, honestly.
00:10:26Why should it be different?
00:10:28Why should it be different?
00:10:31If you're not willing to put your values into the center of your relationships, then you're
00:10:43just playing, you're playing around, right?
00:10:46All of the great movements in history have been driven by people who take their values
00:10:51and virtues extremely seriously.
00:10:56Extremely seriously.
00:10:59So no, it's not just philosophy, it's every person's individual decision to promote their
00:11:07virtues and values or to have them as a kind of posture and a kind of, well, I feel this
00:11:14and I think that and I believe and I value, and it's like, people are like, do you though?
00:11:20Do you though?
00:11:22Do you?
00:11:24If you believe the state is coercion, what's your relationship to people who advocate for
00:11:27the use of violence against you?
00:11:35Because people are scanning for whether you're full of shit or not, all the time.
00:11:39They're scanning for whether you're full of shit or not.
00:11:42And I say this as someone who was, for a good chunk of his life, full of shit.
00:11:48Because I had all these virtues and values, I just didn't have them actually take effect
00:11:53in my personal life.
00:11:54Because I was just on the forever treadmill of, oh, I'm sure I can get them to change
00:11:58their minds at some point, oh, that's going to be magnificent, oh, that's so much better,
00:12:02oh yes, I'll just, one more article, one more piece of facts, one more data, one, oh gosh,
00:12:06just one more, ha.
00:12:08All right, thank you for the tip.
00:12:10Cheesy, what have we got here?
00:12:12Hi Steph, I had a question.
00:12:15About being self-critical.
00:12:16Well, I wish you were a little bit more self-critical about formulating your question, but you tipped,
00:12:23so all is forgiven.
00:12:25All right, hi Steph, I had a question, I assume you mean about being self-critical.
00:12:30Today I noticed that I'm extremely self-critical of myself, a little redundant, when I take
00:12:35too long on a job or if I screw something up small and it makes me think that my boss
00:12:39would think I'm an idiot.
00:12:42I have the technical experience and am efficient at my job, how do I give myself enough grace
00:12:47to know I'll be slow or wrong every now and again?
00:12:50I'll reflect on these moments after the fact, and I think what could have gone better next
00:12:55time?
00:12:59I'm sorry, I'm not sure what's wrong with being self-critical.
00:13:03What, I mean, what's wrong with being extreme, I'm not sure what you mean by extremely self-critical.
00:13:12If by being extremely self-critical, do you, are you saying that you have an extremely
00:13:18high expectation of the kind of quality you can produce, is that what you're saying?
00:13:27Are you trying to seduce me?
00:13:29Do you want me to seduce you?
00:13:30Is that what you're trying to tell me?
00:13:36Do you have, look, I have very high standards for the quality of the show that I want to
00:13:43produce.
00:13:44Right?
00:13:45I have very high standards.
00:13:46I don't want to be doing the same old, same old.
00:13:49I want to be interesting, engaging, funny, have good analogies, tell you something I've
00:13:54not told you before.
00:13:57So I have very high standards for the kind of quality of the show that I want to produce.
00:14:04So what's wrong with being very self-critical?
00:14:10Because every show I do, I think of ways I could have done it better, and I try to implement
00:14:22them going forward.
00:14:23Is that self-critical?
00:14:24I mean, I suppose, but it's just a dedication to quality, isn't it?
00:14:31Isn't that reasonable?
00:14:32Do shows have a dedication to quality?
00:14:37So how, I'm not sure why it's a problem.
00:14:40Are you saying that you berate and scream abuse at yourself if you fat finger a digit
00:14:44or something like that?
00:14:47But that's not you being self-critical.
00:14:51That's like somebody who cuts themselves.
00:14:53I remember doing a call-in show, I don't even know if it ended up getting released, where
00:14:59a woman had been so verbally abused by her mother, she literally cut her mother's name
00:15:04into her thigh.
00:15:05Ah, cigars rolled on the thighs of Cuban women.
00:15:10I always found that strangely appealing, though I can't stand cigars.
00:15:12I've smoked one in my life, and I'm like, why don't I just give a blowjob to an exhaust
00:15:17pipe on a giant truck?
00:15:22So what's wrong with being self-critical?
00:15:25If you are screaming abuse at yourself, you're not being self-critical.
00:15:29People don't just wake up and cut themselves, they cut themselves because they have a habit
00:15:34of being aggressive against themselves to appease people who will attack them, right?
00:15:40Because if you attack yourself, often that will be, like somebody wants to cause you
00:15:43harm, if you harm yourself, you'll appease them, and you'd rather harm yourself because
00:15:46you've got control over that process, right?
00:15:50So if you are attacking yourself, that's the wrong way to say it, because it's not accurate.
00:15:59Sorry to be so frank, but it's just not accurate.
00:16:04You're not attacking yourself, you're appeasing an abuser.
00:16:07You're appeasing a historical abuser.
00:16:09Now of course, if you're an adult, that historical abuser shouldn't have any damn power over you
00:16:13anymore, so now this is just a bad habit.
00:16:16But you're not self-attacking.
00:16:18You know, it's like the bully says, you punch yourself, or I'll punch you, and you say,
00:16:23okay, I'll punch myself, because I can control that, I can fake it, I can whatever, right?
00:16:27And so then even after the bully's gone, you've got a habit of, you've got a habit of punching
00:16:35yourself.
00:16:36Okay.
00:16:37Bro says, I'm dedicated to quality, but when I don't meet my own expectations, I feel incompetent.
00:16:41Well, incompetent is not a feeling, incompetent is a judgment.
00:16:47So, if you don't meet your own expectations, you feel incompetent.
00:16:52Well, aren't you?
00:16:55What's wrong with being incompetent?
00:16:56I mean, what's wrong with being incompetent?
00:17:00I don't, like I was watching some of my, I don't normally watch my own shows back, I
00:17:03was watching a little bit of one, and I'm like, oh, that's good, I could use a little
00:17:06bit of this, this is a bit fast, I was a little unfocused here, and I'm just, you know, I
00:17:11could do it, I could do it better, this is why I keep doing shows, because I can do it
00:17:14better, I want to do it better.
00:17:16I want to be intense, but not insane.
00:17:19I want to be energetic, but not manic.
00:17:22I want to be focused, but not creepy.
00:17:24I want, like, oh, it's a, six million different juggling acts all got a balance on the pinpoint
00:17:30IQ spread of the Aristotelian mean, it's tough.
00:17:34Am I competent in every show?
00:17:36I can always do something better.
00:17:38What's wrong with being incompetent?
00:17:39That means you've got something to aim for.
00:17:45God forbid you did everything perfectly, you did everything perfectly, you'd have
00:17:50no reason to get out of bed in the morning, there'd be nothing to get better.
00:17:56I don't understand why it's so bad, like, what's wrong with being, oh, I screwed that
00:18:00up, oh, I faffed that up, oh, I really made a mistake here, oh, I really made a mistake
00:18:04there, it's like, and, and, I mean, all the front men are incompetent,
00:18:15relative to Freddie Mercury.
00:18:19Does that mean they can't do anything?
00:18:20I mean, I, and again, I'm happy to be schooled on this, and you're welcome to call in, of
00:18:24course, but what's wrong with, what's wrong with being incompetent and having to improve?
00:18:31Isn't that kind of the fun thing in life?
00:18:33If I did every show perfectly, there'd be no more shows.
00:18:40I mean, was it Leonardo da Vinci only painted about 20 paintings and didn't even finish
00:18:44all of them because he was a famous procrastinator?
00:18:51Still one of the greatest artists in human history.
00:18:53Sorry, unless you're typing and I'm not seeing it, I really can't have this conversation
00:18:58with you because you're taking forever to respond, again, unless there's something wrong
00:19:01with, let me just try and refresh here, unless there's something wrong, which does sometimes
00:19:07happen.
00:19:08No, no, okay, so I'm going to just have to drop it because you're not typing anything,
00:19:18so I don't know.
00:19:21So if you have a negative experience, the entire point of that negative experience isn't
00:19:24oh my God, I can't have this negative experience, embrace it, embrace the suck.
00:19:32Sometimes I suck.
00:19:35Sometimes you suck, and that's fine.
00:19:38What's wrong with that?
00:19:41If you never suck, you're not trying hard enough.
00:19:43If you never fail, you're not risking anything.
00:19:45I'm pretty competent at walking these days.
00:19:49Pretty good, pretty good at walking these days, so I don't give myself any kudos for
00:19:55making it from one side of the room to the other, right?
00:20:01A fear of incompetence is a fear of progress.
00:20:14I want to learn piano, but I feel incompetent.
00:20:17It's like, well, of course you're incompetent, you're just learning.
00:20:21My gosh.
00:20:26So what's wrong with that?
00:20:29But you can also be incompetent because you're underutilizing yourself.
00:20:34So in other words, if you're just doing something really boring and really repetitive and so
00:20:38on, then you may feel incompetent because you're just distracted and dissociated and
00:20:43bored and doing the same old, same old, and you're just off in la-la land, right?
00:20:50What about the crappy people out there who fail and just blame everyone else because
00:20:53they can't admit incompetence?
00:20:55Well, those are people who are attempting to ward off self-attack or appeasing of attackers
00:21:02by blaming others.
00:21:04Sure, what about them?
00:21:07Steph, is it normal to feel just a pang of guilt for previous customers when you release
00:21:10a new and improved product?
00:21:14A pang of guilt for previous?
00:21:16Well, it depends.
00:21:18I mean, it is always the question when you have a new and upgraded, because I did a whole
00:21:22bunch of upgrades for the software that I wrote.
00:21:26I did four or five major upgrades, and in fact, for one of the upgrades, I took my team
00:21:33and we rented an apartment in a really hip and happening part of town, and we would code
00:21:37all day, play some games, go out to discos, go have some Thai food.
00:21:42It was great, man.
00:21:43It was a great, great summer of coding and playing and partying.
00:21:47I mean, by partying, I just mean going to discos.
00:21:49I barely drink, but I do love to dance, man.
00:21:56So if you are buying a new phone, and there's, you know, you normally can figure out when
00:22:04a new phone is coming out, and if you buy a phone before the new phone, then you should
00:22:09get some kind of discount or some kind of trade-in or something like that, right?
00:22:14So I had a wonderful habit for quite a while of buying phones right before the upgrade.
00:22:20Not like a real big deal, but just damn, the new product is so much nicer and better, right?
00:22:26And from where did you get the money to make the new product?
00:22:31From where did you get the money to make the new product?
00:22:37Well, you got the money to make the new product from the people who were buying the old product,
00:22:43so there is no new product without people buying the old product.
00:22:48So I don't know why you'd feel guilty about something that is entirely necessary.
00:22:53The new product is nicer and better because you bought it with the excess profits from
00:22:56the old product.
00:22:59So if you lie to your customers and you say, no, no, no, there's not going to be a new
00:23:04product for a year or two, and you've got one coming out next month, well, then you're
00:23:08going to feel bad because you're lying to your customers.
00:23:12But if you're telling the truth to your customers, what's wrong with them choosing an older product?
00:23:17I assume there's an upgrade path that's not full price, so nothing wrong with that.
00:23:22So I don't know why you'd feel guilty.
00:23:26They can choose to get the old products, right?
00:23:30They can choose to buy something right before the upgrade.
00:23:33Before I went to do my documentary in Hong Kong, Hong Kong, fight for freedom at freedomain.com
00:23:38slash documentaries, really good.
00:23:42But before I went, I needed an upgraded phone because I wanted better video quality and
00:23:49so on, right?
00:23:51And at the time that I went, I think I bought an iPhone, I'm still using it actually.
00:23:56But at the time I went, I think it was an iPhone 12, which apparently is radioactive
00:24:00in France.
00:24:01But when I bought the iPhone 12, because I wanted selfie, 60 frames a second, right?
00:24:06I wanted 60 frames a second selfie stuff, right?
00:24:09And you know, it had really nice video quality, Apple's pretty good with cameras.
00:24:14So I went and I bought it and the guy's like, there's a new version coming out in two months
00:24:17and I'm like, yes, but I'm leaving in two days to do a documentary.
00:24:22So I need it now.
00:24:23There's nothing wrong with that.
00:24:24I have no regret about it.
00:24:26No problem with it.
00:24:27It's totally fine.
00:24:31So I think you might just be making up problems where they don't really exist.
00:24:34In my humble opinion, opinion, Avignon, yes, sometimes it's perfectly okay to just buy
00:24:45what's available.
00:24:46Yeah, for sure.
00:24:47I remember from a company called Mighty Max way back in the day, I bought a notebook for
00:24:52$1,100, which is all the money in the world back then, because I needed it for my graduate
00:24:57school program.
00:24:58And I was also writing.
00:25:00And it was a 386 SX with two megs of RAM and a 30 meg hard drive.
00:25:09This was a powerhouse.
00:25:11It booted up in less than four minutes.
00:25:14Absolutely remarkable.
00:25:16I could turn on 32 bit access and it did not burst into flames.
00:25:22Really really something.
00:25:24Just amazing.
00:25:26It did 640 by 480 monochrome on its own screen.
00:25:30But you could do an external screen that could run at 800 by 600, which was God-given visual
00:25:38pixel improvement.
00:25:40It could not run Doom.
00:25:43For that you needed a 486.
00:25:46Osborne effect?
00:25:47Don't know it, sorry.
00:25:54Hit me with a P if you don't mind if I dip a tiny little bit into politics.
00:25:58Oh, the requests that I...
00:26:01Come back, Steph!
00:26:02We need you!
00:26:03You were the best politics analyzer in the known universe.
00:26:06Return to the fray.
00:26:11Return to the fray.
00:26:12Yeah, like, suppose you want a car that doesn't spy on you and give you a rectal exam when
00:26:16you hit a speed bump.
00:26:22The calls that I get, the siren calls, oh Steph you must return and we'll give you foot
00:26:28rubs and nipple clamps made of mink fur, just the way you like them.
00:26:34PP, you want a little politics?
00:26:42Just a little.
00:26:44I can handle just a little, man.
00:26:45I don't have a problem.
00:26:46I'm not like an addict or anything.
00:26:47I can have just a little.
00:26:48I'm fine.
00:26:49I'm fine.
00:26:50Just keep looking at me that way.
00:26:53Don't make me go to PA.
00:26:56Not just Pennsylvania, also Politics Anonymous.
00:27:01Political rant.
00:27:02It's interesting.
00:27:03Congrats to your daughter on her promotion.
00:27:05Yes, she was promoted three weeks into her job because she understands everything there
00:27:10is about the business world.
00:27:14So yes, I will pass that along.
00:27:15Thank you very much.
00:27:20So do you want, I don't know, I'm just, I'm looking at the donations, which are nice and
00:27:24I'm not complaining, but I don't know.
00:27:26Let me go and check over on Rumble.
00:27:29Let me just go and have a look.
00:27:30There's lots of people watching on Rumble, a lot more people watching on Rumble.
00:27:34You know that you can, uh, thank you for your counsel last Friday, you're absolutely welcome.
00:27:41Oh, it's when the company Osborne announced that the next computer will be so much better
00:27:48and then the customer stopped buying the current computer and the company went bankrupt.
00:27:50Yeah, for sure.
00:27:54As a young journeyman wire man, I've had to embrace the suck quite a bit.
00:27:58Yeah.
00:27:59Yeah.
00:28:00Yep.
00:28:01Thank you, Mad Cheesiest, I appreciate that.
00:28:12Have you thought of streaming on Kik?
00:28:15The problem with Kik is that it's the name of a fantastic album by NXS.
00:28:21Every single one of us, the devil inside.
00:28:25Um, I should think of that.
00:28:27I think we have looked into that, haven't we, James?
00:28:29I think we've looked into streaming on Kik.
00:28:31We just haven't quite got round to it for reasons that pass human understanding.
00:28:35I make a lot of sensible decisions and later I'm like, I have no idea, thanks Lloyd, why
00:28:39I made that decision.
00:28:41But I'm sure it was sensible.
00:28:45What is it when I don't talk to someone for a while?
00:28:48I never remember why.
00:28:50My wife, she doesn't nurse grudges, but she doesn't forget them.
00:28:57We are streaming to Kik!
00:28:59Damn!
00:29:00Yes.
00:29:01Look at them go, look at them kick, makes you wonder how the other half lives.
00:29:07So, fdrurl.com slash Kik.
00:29:11fdrurl.com slash Kik.
00:29:15Wait, should I check for comments there?
00:29:18I don't think anyone's really watching us there, though.
00:29:21Yeah, not really.
00:29:23Damn, that's a lot of brown.
00:29:25That's a lot of brown.
00:29:29Thank you, jabrone.
00:29:30Send a six dollars and ninety cents tip.
00:29:33Six point nine tip.
00:29:34I am afraid I don't have the flexibility for what you're suggesting, not that I'm saying
00:29:39it's wrong.
00:29:40So, yeah, I don't think anyone watches over on Kik, but...
00:29:48Thank you, Matt.
00:29:49Thank you, Matt, I appreciate it.
00:29:53All right, so, I appreciate the tips.
00:30:00I think we can do a little politics.
00:30:02I think so.
00:30:04I think we can.
00:30:05I think we can.
00:30:09The worst accents in the known universe.
00:30:11Some people are good at them, namely Meryl Streep.
00:30:15But I am not Meryl Streep, or as they used to call her, Meryl Weep, because she seemed
00:30:19to just weep for a living.
00:30:22Ah, well.
00:30:23The excess of emotional manipulation known as acting skill is pretty trashy.
00:30:30All right.
00:30:32So, let's talk a little bit about single ladies.
00:30:38So, this is from a guy on X.
00:30:48Republicans have been winning married men by 20 points, married women by 14 points,
00:30:55and unmarried men by 7 points.
00:30:56So who is keeping the Democrat party competitive?
00:30:59Answer.
00:31:00Single women are single-handedly saving the Democrat party, favoring it 68% to 31%.
00:31:08Now, there is a big debate, and I want to know where you guys come down on this.
00:31:17So some people say, and this is back to the J.D. Vance cat ladies, like single cat ladies
00:31:23are voting the republic into socialism or whatever, I don't know what he said, something
00:31:27like that.
00:31:29And so all of the single cat ladies report with their cats and create rap songs and make
00:31:34it a whole meme and all of that, it's kind of inevitable.
00:31:38So the question is, if single women are propping up the left, and it's not just in America
00:31:43and it's not just the Democrats, if single women are propping up the left, what should
00:31:47the strategy of conservatives be?
00:31:53If single women are propping up the left, what should the strategy of conservatives
00:31:57be?
00:32:03What do you think?
00:32:07Because obviously, well no, I won't say this, I won't say this, I won't say this, I won't
00:32:20say this.
00:32:21All the single ladies, all the single ladies, get them married.
00:32:27Get men to take one for the team and marry the cat ladies.
00:32:34All right.
00:32:38Cat scratch fever was a fun song, jailbait was not.
00:32:42You creep.
00:32:43Oh yeah, by the way, if you're a FreedomAim premium subscriber, you've got to check
00:32:50out the Don't Lie to Me show.
00:32:51It was pretty ferocious.
00:32:52Woo the single ladies with virtue.
00:32:54Marry single women.
00:32:55A lot of the women are older though, right?
00:32:59So if you want to have kids, it might be too late.
00:33:03What is it someone said, ever notice that once we stopped objectifying women, they just
00:33:06got fat?
00:33:07A lot of them.
00:33:08I mean, it's a little harsh.
00:33:13Someone, uppermat says, just finished watching the story of your enslavement after a decade
00:33:16or so.
00:33:17One of the most powerful things I've ever seen.
00:33:18Life-changing for me and my wife.
00:33:20Yes, it was.
00:33:21Yeah, I did a lot of those kinds of shows back in the day before copyright hell, but
00:33:24yeah, it was good.
00:33:25Thank you.
00:33:26I appreciate that.
00:33:30So there are two general strategies that are being proposed.
00:33:35One is scorn.
00:33:36The other is wooing them.
00:33:40I'm not saying it's an easy call.
00:33:42I can see both sides.
00:33:45I can see both sides, and of course I wrote about this in my novel, The Present, which
00:33:53you absolutely, absolutely, absolutely should listen to or read.
00:33:57Listen to, I think it's even better.
00:33:59The Present at freedomain.com slash books.
00:34:01It's free.
00:34:02Thank you for your donations.
00:34:05So hit me with an S if you're drawn to scorn.
00:34:11Hit me with a W if you're drawn to wooing the single ladies who vote left.
00:34:18S for scorn.
00:34:19W for woo, woo, woo.
00:34:29What do you think?
00:34:30What do we got here?
00:34:37Catladies.com.
00:34:38Republicans should make that site happen.
00:34:41That's right.
00:34:42You get 19 pussies for the price of one.
00:34:46I really got to get it in a censor.
00:34:48I really do.
00:34:49Does anybody know?
00:34:50I'm sure it might seem to be running on Linux.
00:34:52Actually, no, I shouldn't say that.
00:34:54Linux is pretty stable.
00:34:55All right, wooing, wooing, scorn, scorn, show younger women the horror of being single women
00:35:0350 and over.
00:35:04No, but that's the scorn thing, right?
00:35:07That's the scorn, right?
00:35:09Scorn, win, woo, sorry, woo.
00:35:13I just followed you on kick.
00:35:15Your follow account is now six.
00:35:17Let's pump those numbers up, guys.
00:35:19Rookie numbers, rookie numbers.
00:35:21Woo, it's more enjoyable to try and convince people.
00:35:25Scorn, scorn.
00:35:29It's tough, right?
00:35:31It's tough.
00:35:33In general, in any negotiation, if you can't win someone over, then they become a competitor
00:35:45or an enemy.
00:35:47If you can win someone over, it's better to win that person over, right?
00:35:52If you can win someone over in a competition, if you can get them to join your team, they
00:35:57become an ally.
00:35:58If they won't join your team and they join the opposing team, they become an enemy, right?
00:36:06Is it even possible to woo the cat ladies?
00:36:07I think most would be on help.
00:36:09See, now you're on the scorn side, and I'm just saying.
00:36:13S, because they should stop blaming men for why their life sucks, how can you woo somebody
00:36:20who already has animosity towards you?
00:36:23Well, I guess you're not a Christian, because of course in the Christian world, that's love
00:36:27your enemies, right?
00:36:34The way that it used to work in the business world was we would be in competition with
00:36:39another firm for business, and we would try to partner with them, right?
00:36:42Now, if they were to partner with us, and so we would woo them, and if they were to
00:36:46partner with us, then that would be good.
00:36:50We'd be a team, right?
00:36:52But if they were to compete against us, then they go from ally to enemy, right?
00:37:00We understand this, I'm sure it's pretty clear, right?
00:37:04So the pluses and minuses.
00:37:06If you scorn the cat ladies, then you set up opponents, which is then going to drive
00:37:12them further into the arms of the left, right?
00:37:18So that would be a mistake, unless they can't be wooed to your side, because every effort
00:37:23you made to woo this particular group is an effort you're not making to woo another group.
00:37:27So if you waste your time wooing the single cat ladies, who are only going to go further
00:37:32to the left, then you're not spending your time wooing those who've given up on politics,
00:37:37but you want to draw back into the fold, right?
00:37:39But Gen Z boss and a mini, did you see that meme of the black, I think it was an engineer,
00:37:44the black guy who was just exhausted with all of this chanting and singing?
00:37:51So there's cost benefits, right?
00:37:53So if you can woo them and you don't, then that's bad.
00:37:59And if you try to woo them and you can't, then that's bad, because then you've wasted
00:38:03efforts where you could have more productively spent them elsewhere.
00:38:13So what do you do?
00:38:16And if you woo them politically, and it's just a thought exercise, right?
00:38:21I'm not in politics, and I just think it's an interesting thought exercise, and it applies
00:38:26to, of course, a lot more than this, right?
00:38:28So let me ask you this.
00:38:29If you were to woo them, what would you say?
00:38:35How would you woo them?
00:38:38Woo, woo!
00:38:40How would you woo them?
00:38:43How would you, I won't say seduce, that's a bit creepy, but how would you woo them?
00:38:58Somebody, Chris says, now I'm thinking it depends on their age and state of life.
00:39:00Older, angry, short, dyed-haired, lefty, can't, ladies get scorned for sure.
00:39:05Well, that is interesting, right?
00:39:18So I think that the argument that the single women, why are they going for the left?
00:39:27Someone put, why are they going for the left?
00:39:29Now, if you can solve the problem as to why they're going to the left and provide them
00:39:34with a better alternative, then you can solve the problem, right?
00:39:41Does that make sense?
00:39:45Like if you can figure out why they're going to the left and solve that problem in a better
00:39:54way, then you're doing well, right?
00:39:59That's a good thing.
00:40:00And so the question is, if you can pierce through the defenses to get to the vulnerability
00:40:20on the other side, you can do some enormous good in the world.
00:40:30But it's a very volatile situation.
00:40:38It's a very, very volatile thing to be doing.
00:40:40Very volatile, indeed.
00:40:42So if you can get through people's defenses, so if somebody's really angry, but in fact
00:40:46they're just really sad, if you can break through the anger and get to the sadness,
00:40:50you defuse the situation.
00:40:52But the problem is that trying to get through the anger often provokes more anger, right?
00:41:10So why are they going leftward?
00:41:18So I'll give you my thoughts on this, and I obviously don't have any final answers,
00:41:24I'm just curious what you guys think as well.
00:41:27So if you are a bro, if you are a big swinging who's-your-vat-of-man-meat, then you don't
00:41:43understand fundamentally, neither do I, how vulnerable women feel.
00:41:50How vulnerable women feel.
00:41:53The closest that I can give as an example is that man, if you have to walk through a
00:41:57bad neighborhood with a clear backpack stuffed full of hundred dollar bills, you'd feel pretty
00:42:02nervous and anxious the whole time.
00:42:04That's women moving through the world, in particular without a male.
00:42:11You look cool today.
00:42:12Total lie.
00:42:13I look cool every day, sometimes just hide it better than others.
00:42:21So the reason why I think the single women are drawn to the left is they feel scared.
00:42:27They feel scared of failure, they feel scared of getting sick, they feel scared of getting
00:42:31fired, they feel scared of the world around them.
00:42:39A man without a woman lacks purpose and meaning.
00:42:44A woman without a man lacks stability and security.
00:42:57So what is it that the women are drawn to the left for?
00:43:00Stability and security.
00:43:04Stability because men, we sail through life blandly unconcerned with the health of relatives.
00:43:14Come on guys, let's be honest.
00:43:18Let's shake them and show them.
00:43:19Come on.
00:43:20When was the last time you were very concerned about your great aunt's health?
00:43:27We are giant tanks of productive indifference sailing across the no woman's land of making
00:43:34shit work without worrying about people's spleens.
00:43:39We don't care.
00:43:40Oh, so and so got sick?
00:43:43Oh wow, that's a drag.
00:43:45Anyway, right?
00:43:47We don't know, we don't care.
00:43:51Right?
00:43:52Phone rings at two o'clock in the morning and you're like, damn, that's the wrong number
00:43:55whereas the woman wakes up and says, okay, who died?
00:43:57Who died?
00:43:58Why is someone calling me at...
00:44:04There's a thump downstairs in the middle of the night, a man leaps up bracing for combat,
00:44:08a woman shrinks back into the covers bracing for rape.
00:44:18We don't care.
00:44:19I'm sorry, ladies, I don't mean to shock you.
00:44:22We don't care.
00:44:27We don't care.
00:44:28I mean, it's partly because in general people don't care about us getting sick.
00:44:34But yeah, we don't care.
00:44:37We don't care.
00:44:39Oh, they've got dementia, wow, yeah, that's a drag.
00:44:44Anyway, so, like, sorry, it's just the way that it is.
00:44:51We don't process that stuff, we don't track it, we don't really, really care.
00:44:56Eh, they'll walk it off.
00:44:57Well, for men, for men, what do we think?
00:45:01Well, one of two things is going to happen.
00:45:04Either great-aunt Ethel is going to get better or not.
00:45:10If she gets better, the problem is solved.
00:45:13If she doesn't get better, the problem is solved.
00:45:16Either way, well, you get the point, right?
00:45:24Do you even know the health status?
00:45:26As a man, do you even know the health status of the people in your life?
00:45:30Do you? Do you? Do you, huh?
00:45:33You don't know, I don't know.
00:45:37But the women know, oh yes, the women.
00:45:42They doth know these things that men do not even know exist.
00:45:50Do you know, I hear this rumor, I hear this rumor,
00:45:55that there are a lot of older people who need taken care of.
00:46:02Have you heard this? Have you heard about this?
00:46:04That there are older people, apparently, out there,
00:46:08I think they're in this dimension, could be another dimension, I'm not sure,
00:46:11but there are older people out there who genuinely, deeply,
00:46:15and apparently, truly need to be taken care of.
00:46:21You've heard this, right? You've heard this?
00:46:28As men, it's just a vague rumor.
00:46:32It's akin to lore in a video game from 1997.
00:46:36I mean, I guess it's a fact, but it doesn't really impinge much on our consciousness.
00:46:40Now, I'm not saying this is better or worse.
00:46:42I say this without any particular moral judgment.
00:46:48I'm just saying, right?
00:46:53Oh, somebody says, when a colleague at work calls in sick, I think they're weak.
00:46:57I mean, they're walking around, aren't they?
00:47:00Yes. You always think they're faking it?
00:47:06Yeah, I mean, when a colleague calls in sick when I was in the business industry,
00:47:13I'm like, oh, I guess their wife had a day off
00:47:15and they're looking for some afternoon to lay.
00:47:17Oh, dear. Right?
00:47:25So, as men, we don't scan and notice ailments.
00:47:33And the obvious reason why is that we aren't going to be taking care of them.
00:47:39I'm not saying this from a moral standpoint. I'm just saying factually.
00:47:43All right. Raise a hand if you've nursed anyone for more than three days.
00:47:49If you're a guy, have you nursed?
00:47:51I mean, you know, your wife gets the flu when someone, you want to get her back on her feet
00:47:54because, you know, you're going to get hungry and all.
00:47:56So, if you're a guy, I'm kidding.
00:47:58If you're a guy, have you nursed someone for more than three days?
00:48:01Like really taking care of them, gotten their soup, and pregnancy doesn't really count.
00:48:06But have you?
00:48:08When I was near death a couple of years ago, I didn't get much sympathy from my male friends.
00:48:11I didn't expect much either.
00:48:13Yeah, like I literally had cancer and my male friends were like,
00:48:16Uh, yeah. What's new?
00:48:20Sorry. The only consolation is I'm kind of the same way.
00:48:25Yes, my mother, right?
00:48:32It just is the way that it is. We don't track this stuff.
00:48:36But if you go to women and you say, have you nursed anyone, this, that, and the other, right?
00:48:43I mean, I remember many years ago.
00:48:45So, when I worked for a mining company to do this gold panning and prospecting stuff,
00:48:50and I remember being at a dinner downtown after we had some successful gold panning.
00:48:55They took us all out for dinner and there was this woman who was like the heart and soul,
00:48:59the admin assistant and the executive assistant of the heart and soul of the company.
00:49:03And literally she held court and she was like, and you know who else died?
00:49:06You know who else died? And she just knew everything.
00:49:09She was like the ticker tape of death.
00:49:12She was like the Grim Reaper's printout, like those old stock tickers in the old movies.
00:49:17You know who else died? And so-and-so has got really sick.
00:49:21And you know, so-and-so has breast cancer.
00:49:23Do you know they're looking at a mastectomy?
00:49:26And she just knew all of this stuff.
00:49:31Men, we just sail above this.
00:49:34It's like trying to find sewage from a B-52 at night.
00:49:41Where are those underground tunnels with the mattresses? Don't know.
00:49:45We're up above the clouds.
00:49:52Very old women gossip so much. She wasn't even that old.
00:49:55But she was passing essential information to women.
00:49:59The men were all like, well, this is macabre.
00:50:01And the women were like, oh, really? Oh, my. Oh, my gosh. Really?
00:50:06And you know who else broke up? And you know who else is?
00:50:08Their marriages. Oh, and you know, I heard so-and-so had an affair.
00:50:11And now you're saying, oh, this is gossip.
00:50:13And it's like, no, it's not gossip. It's statistics.
00:50:18So you get a view into the obligations that are coming your way.
00:50:24This is why I say to people, to men,
00:50:27you date a woman, a woman dates your family.
00:50:29A woman looks at you and says, nice guy, got some abs.
00:50:33That's a satisfying pole vault to bulge in his pants.
00:50:36But I'm not taking care of that woman when she gets old.
00:50:39His mother can go pound sand.
00:50:49James says, I was walking around my neighborhood the other day,
00:50:51saw an ambulance at one of the houses,
00:50:52ran into a neighbor several days later who asked me if I knew who died.
00:50:55I was like, somebody died? Well, there was an ambulance, but I don't know who.
00:50:58And she was trying to figure out who it was.
00:51:00Yes, who? Who? Who?
00:51:07So men follow office politics to some degree, who's in, who's out.
00:51:15Because that has to do with our income, which is what we focus on.
00:51:20And women focus on statistics and birth and death and gossips and illness and so on.
00:51:24Somebody says, my father currently is in care of my mother who has Alzheimer's disease.
00:51:30He's been caring for her since COVID.
00:51:32Very challenging, but refuses to put her into a home we all help as a family.
00:51:35For sure. Look, I mean, that's going to happen.
00:51:37But in general, we evolved.
00:51:40Why don't men take care of the sick?
00:51:43Why? Why don't men take care of the sick?
00:51:46Why? Especially when they get older, right?
00:51:49So you get into your 40s, your 50s, your parents get sick.
00:51:51Your parents get old.
00:51:53Why don't men take care of the sick?
00:51:55In general, why have we not evolved to do that?
00:51:57Why have we evolved to not even particular care?
00:51:59A couple of reasons, of course.
00:52:01Number one, we can't get sick.
00:52:03Number two, we have to be out hunting and we have to be out farming and we have to be out doing all of this stuff.
00:52:09Because we have to provide food for everyone.
00:52:11So we can't be taking care of the sick because taking care of the sick is a luxury.
00:52:16Throughout most of human history.
00:52:19It's a luxury.
00:52:20And as a luxury, it has to be provided for by male ingenuity and hard work.
00:52:29Yeah, get on the ice floe, dad.
00:52:30Yeah, absolutely.
00:52:31Absolutely.
00:52:33Absolutely.
00:52:34You know, this is the Inuit, right?
00:52:36That if somebody gets too old, somebody gets too old, put them out on the ice floe, right?
00:52:42So women feel vulnerable.
00:52:49And women are scanning for illness and ailment and unhappiness, which they then feel moved to solve, right?
00:52:54This is, you know, they're just coming here for a better life.
00:52:56You know, all of this stuff, right?
00:52:58Men, I don't remember why I stopped talking to some people.
00:53:05I honestly don't.
00:53:06Pay me a million dollars.
00:53:07I'm like, I don't know.
00:53:08I used to hang out with that guy.
00:53:09I used to be more friends with that.
00:53:10I don't know what.
00:53:11I genuinely don't remember what happened.
00:53:13I don't.
00:53:14But my wife remembers.
00:53:16In fact, she basically brings out the whole miniseries.
00:53:21I don't remember the person's last name, but she's like, oh, Bob pseudonym, right?
00:53:28Oh, Bob.
00:53:29Well, let me tell you.
00:53:30Okay, if you don't remember, let me tell you.
00:53:32This happened, then this happened, then this happened.
00:53:34Then we did this, then this happened.
00:53:35You tried this, then this happened.
00:53:36Boom, boom, boom.
00:53:38It's like she's reading a private investigator detailed report in her mind with footnotes and diagrams.
00:53:50I sneeze once and my wife pounces at me with her neck.
00:53:53Right, right.
00:53:54And so women are vulnerable, right?
00:53:56So women are scared of illness because also if the man gets ill, right?
00:54:01I knew a woman once wrote a play, wrote a whole musical.
00:54:04It's actually quite a nice musical.
00:54:06And the musical started with a guy on a ship fell from the mast and died.
00:54:12And he had a wife with six children.
00:54:14And the children all had to be scattered throughout the country.
00:54:18Women have elephant memories.
00:54:19They absolutely need to remember this stuff.
00:54:23Because they need to know who's positive, who's negative, who's there, who's not, who's on their side, who's in.
00:54:28And these things can change.
00:54:31That's why it's important not to piss off men.
00:54:35Sorry, that's why it's important not to piss off women.
00:54:37If you piss off men, we get quite angry and then we forget about it.
00:54:41Right?
00:54:43We get quite angry and then we forget about it.
00:54:46Women don't get so angry but never forget about it.
00:54:50Tell me I'm wrong.
00:54:52A woman's life can sour really fast if the husband falls ill or dies.
00:54:57For sure.
00:54:58For sure.
00:54:59I mean this is why men were able to take more risks and which fueled the Industrial Revolution in part because the industry called insurance came along because of calculus and probability theory that came out of one philosopher, French philosopher, author of Pensées, Blaise Pascal.
00:55:22So women need security.
00:55:26Women need security.
00:55:27Women outlive men.
00:55:30Women need security.
00:55:31Women need a man to earn enough money that they can live off his savings after he dies and she lives for another five to ten years.
00:55:41Right.
00:55:47There's a speech in Glass Menagerie which is pretty wild.
00:56:07Which is, what happens?
00:56:11Right.
00:56:12What happens?
00:56:14Laura Wingfield is talking to her mother Amanda.
00:56:17The interplay could be described as a rather typical mother-daughter interchange.
00:56:22So this is the, the mother is frightened in this play which is a great play.
00:56:28It's an absolutely great play to read.
00:56:30The mother is frightened because her daughter is pathologically shy and hitting 30.
00:56:36And so the mother is trying to get the daughter to at least get a job.
00:56:41She's sending her to a secretary school to learn typing and shorthand and all this kind of stuff.
00:56:45Right.
00:56:46How to run the phones back when it was complicated.
00:56:48Right.
00:56:58So I won't give you all about the play.
00:57:02You should watch the, Paul Newman directed a great one, a great version of this with his wife.
00:57:09And Karen Allen from The Shining and a young John Malkovich and some guy who played the young gentleman caller who was also really good but I can't remember his name.
00:57:23Joanna Woodward.
00:57:24She was very good.
00:57:26You can find it.
00:57:27It's hard to find but you can find it and it's well worth watching.
00:57:35So Laura Wingfield is talking to her mother and her mother is terrified that her daughter is not going to have a job and not get married.
00:57:46And the mother says, I know so well what becomes of unmarried women who aren't prepared to occupy a position.
00:57:52I've seen such pitiful cases in the South.
00:57:54Barely tolerated spinsters living upon the grudging patronage of a sister's husband or a brother's wife.
00:58:00Stuck away in some little mousetrap of a room encouraged by one in-law to visit another little birdlike women without any nest.
00:58:07Eating the crust of humility all their life.
00:58:10Is that the future that we've mapped out for ourselves?
00:58:23The terror.
00:58:24What happens?
00:58:28What happens?
00:58:30And of course this is a woman who chose wrong.
00:58:32The mother.
00:58:33She chose wrong.
00:58:36Right?
00:58:40Amanda says to her son, no girl can do worse than put herself at the mercy of a handsome appearance.
00:58:50Because she just married a guy for his looks and he ended up being unstable.
00:58:59So, terrifying.
00:59:06Terrifying.
00:59:15Truth.
00:59:16James says, I'll have a bad time at a restaurant and will remember for about three months and then it's like, why don't I eat there?
00:59:21Right.
00:59:22Right.
00:59:23I have forgotten far more than I've remembered.
00:59:24I'm male.
00:59:25Well, no, no.
00:59:26You remember where the good game is and how to shoot a bow and all of that sort of stuff, right?
00:59:37How many times have you guys walked into a room to say to yourself, what am I doing here?
00:59:40Too many hamster wheels spinning.
00:59:41Yes.
00:59:44You can do a lot worse than go to the hyper gay Tennessee Williams to find out something about women.
00:59:53The man understood his mother.
00:59:56And his mother was both Amanda Wingfield in The Glass Menagerie and of course Blanche Dubois in A Streetcar Named Desire are caricatures of femininity but contain some quite essential truths, particularly for neurotic females.
01:00:11Right.
01:00:18So women are frightened of randomness because women react.
01:00:25Men are not as frightened of randomness because men tend to be proactive.
01:00:30Whereas women tend to be reactive.
01:00:33Because if you're going out hunting, I mean, you don't know if you're going to get the right game or not.
01:00:38On average, you will.
01:00:40So you can go and act.
01:00:42Right.
01:00:43I'm hungry.
01:00:44I can act directly on the world.
01:00:46Go hunting, go fishing, whatever.
01:00:48Right.
01:00:49But a woman cannot act directly on the world.
01:00:53She has to act through relationships.
01:00:56Again, this is all evolutionary stuff.
01:00:59I say this without moral judgment.
01:01:01I'm just looking at the facts.
01:01:04Right.
01:01:06Right.
01:01:07A man can beat another man up.
01:01:08A woman has to get a man to beat another man up.
01:01:13Women control access to sex.
01:01:15Men control access to marriage.
01:01:18One of the great lessons of the great Kevin Samuels.
01:01:33Never read or seen them, not planning to either.
01:01:35Oh, these two plays?
01:01:39Your choice.
01:01:40Your choice.
01:01:43You don't have to take my recommendations.
01:01:45What do I know?
01:01:46I just came from a broken, violent home and have had 22, 23, 22 years of a successful, happy marriage.
01:01:59Women can't go out and get their own food.
01:02:02They have to get men to get their food.
01:02:04Not because women are lazy.
01:02:05Women are incredibly hardworking throughout most of human evolution.
01:02:08But because they're breastfeeding, they've got to take care of kids.
01:02:10They've got to keep a household running.
01:02:12They've got to pickle the vegetables.
01:02:15They've got to create the jam.
01:02:17They've got to plan for the winter.
01:02:18They've got to work.
01:02:20Look at the mother, Bazarov's mother, incredibly described by Ivan Turgenev in the novel Fathers and Sons.
01:02:28Rereading that again for the first time in 30 plus years.
01:02:39So, women act through relationships, which means women have to manipulate people in the same way and with the same skill that men manipulate material reality.
01:02:55Well, men are engineers and women are in HR and men are scientists and women are psychologists.
01:03:01It's like, yes, of course, playing to strengths.
01:03:04And the more choice women have, the more they go into traditionally female occupations.
01:03:10Men are the principals.
01:03:11Women are the teachers.
01:03:12Men are the doctors.
01:03:13Women are the nurses.
01:03:14Blah, blah, blah, blah.
01:03:15We all understand, right?
01:03:16Men act directly on reality.
01:03:17Women act through relationships.
01:03:19There's nothing wrong with it.
01:03:20It's not a negative.
01:03:22So, in the same way, you remember how to manipulate reality.
01:03:26Do many people have to teach you a lot about how to hammer a nail in?
01:03:29You ever see a woman trying to hammer a nail in?
01:03:31It's pretty painful.
01:03:32A lot.
01:03:34Now, it's actually a woman who built this studio.
01:03:36So, no disrespect for that.
01:03:37We're just talking averages, right?
01:03:43And that's why women and men have a difficult time understanding each other because we're not celebrating the differences.
01:03:49So, women say, you know, there's this comedian, right?
01:03:53He talks about how his friend Bob is going through a divorce, right?
01:04:00And he goes to play golf with his friend Bob for a couple of hours, comes back home, and his wife's like,
01:04:04How's Bob doing?
01:04:07About what?
01:04:09About the divorce.
01:04:12Well, how would I know that?
01:04:13Well, you just spent four hours with the guy.
01:04:16You don't know?
01:04:17Didn't come up.
01:04:18What do you mean it didn't come up?
01:04:19Didn't you ask?
01:04:21Didn't come up.
01:04:22I don't know.
01:04:23Is he dating anyone?
01:04:24How would I know?
01:04:25You just spent four hours with him.
01:04:27Well, it didn't come up.
01:04:29I do know he got a new driver, though.
01:04:33It's incomprehensible.
01:04:35For a woman, it's because...
01:04:36If you were with a...
01:04:37If a woman was with another woman who was going through a divorce for four hours and never asked about the divorce,
01:04:41there would be a giant smoking crater where that relationship used to be.
01:04:49So men act directly.
01:04:51We get that strength, and we get the weakness.
01:04:55And women act through relationships.
01:04:59Which is why a woman tends to be inspiring or a nag.
01:05:13Somebody says, I heard a guy say,
01:05:15a woman wants a man who has a plan.
01:05:16Women don't like to make decisions.
01:05:17I agree with him.
01:05:18Well, this is the old, where do you want to eat?
01:05:20Well, I don't know.
01:05:21Where do you want to eat?
01:05:25What's the bro who cracked the code?
01:05:27You just say, I know where you're going to eat.
01:05:29I've decided where you're going to eat, but what's your guess?
01:05:33So-and-so.
01:05:34Ah, you're right.
01:05:36It's endearing how some women work so hard to make sure every member of the family is satisfied.
01:05:41Yes, absolutely.
01:05:44Absolutely.
01:05:45It's a beautiful part of women.
01:05:48I couldn't imagine two women silently fishing together for an hour.
01:05:51Well, if they hated each other, they might.
01:05:53Not going to pry into private matters.
01:05:56Right.
01:06:02What's the old, it's an old meme, right?
01:06:04It's a woman looking dissatisfied in the car.
01:06:06It's like, I do not understand how my husband can know about the world economy,
01:06:10the Federal Reserve, fiat currency, bitcoin, inflation, and how a MacBook works,
01:06:16but never knows when I'm upset.
01:06:18Or why.
01:06:29So, what is it that the single women are looking for?
01:06:32They're looking for stability and security.
01:06:35From the state.
01:06:36From the state.
01:06:38Because women live with a level of anxiety that would fry the brains of most men.
01:06:44We're just not equipped for it.
01:06:46We are blithely indifferent.
01:06:50To a lot of men, stress is like a bunch of seagulls squawking
01:06:54when we're half a mile under the ocean in a Das Boot-style manly sub.
01:06:59That's right.
01:07:00It's long and hard and full of semen.
01:07:01Right.
01:07:05Right.
01:07:06Here's something I noticed about the trades.
01:07:08A man can work on a machine.
01:07:09If another totally random man walks by, they can both start communicating without even knowing each other's names
01:07:13and begin problem solving.
01:07:14Yeah, you know the meme.
01:07:15Sorry, don't mean to over-meme everyone here, but, you know, we've got to control the memes in production, right?
01:07:21So, it's two women.
01:07:24Should we invite Sally?
01:07:25Oh, we've only known her for eight months.
01:07:26It's way too soon.
01:07:27As opposed to, hey, two guys are like, the third guy, hey, who's this guy?
01:07:31I don't know.
01:07:32I met him on the street.
01:07:33He said he doesn't like communism.
01:07:34I thought I'd bring him along.
01:07:45So, women live with a randomness and a sense of nervousness and stress about,
01:07:52because someone can just get sick.
01:07:54Someone can just get sick.
01:07:56And that's the next ten years of their life.
01:07:59Because they've got to drive the person to the hospital.
01:08:03They've got to take care of them, pick them up when they're sick.
01:08:05They've got to see how they're doing.
01:08:06There could be phone calls in the middle of the night.
01:08:08They need to arrange for care.
01:08:09They need to go out and figure out how adult diapers work.
01:08:12Honestly, we men, tiptoeing through the tulips, going through the daisies,
01:08:19and women all falling by and diving over to Sucker of the Sick and take care of the wounded.
01:08:24And we're just like, dum-di-dum-di-dum.
01:08:34We don't know what it is like to have the smaller amount of self-direction
01:08:44and control that women have to evolve to live with on a daily basis.
01:08:54So true. I'm like, hey, you seem cool here. Join my friend group. Yeah, that's right.
01:08:58That's right. Easy come, easy go, right?
01:09:01So what are these women looking for?
01:09:03They're looking for stability and security.
01:09:05Ivan Drago mean, if he dies, he dies.
01:09:09Yeah.
01:09:10So what are these women looking for?
01:09:12They're looking for stability and security.
01:09:14Ivan Drago mean, if he dies, he dies.
01:09:18Yeah.
01:09:20Ivan Drago mean, if he dies, he dies.
01:09:23Yeah.
01:09:25Yep.
01:09:31I mean, because I grew up in a gynocentric world, right?
01:09:35Single, the matriarchal manners, right?
01:09:37Single mother, rent-controlled, craptastic, thin-walled, fridges from the Stone Age,
01:09:45cranky, rusty taps, and cockroaches crawling through the oven clocks kind of place.
01:09:52So everything was kind of high-strung and hysterical.
01:09:57Are you okay?
01:10:00I mean, are you okay?
01:10:02Are you okay? Are you okay?
01:10:04If I stumble, my wife's like, are you okay?
01:10:06Right.
01:10:07Whereas, you know, we had this Scottish gym teacher.
01:10:12You know, I remember taking an elbow to the face during wrestling, and my mouth was full of blood.
01:10:19And he's like, ah, you're fine.
01:10:21You're fine.
01:10:23I was told to walk it off, although it wasn't exactly a leg injury.
01:10:26But, you know, he's kind of prying in there.
01:10:28It's like, I don't know which hamster's or hyphor's ass these hands have been up, but they smell that way.
01:10:35And he's got, like, tobacco fumes that could kill a Cossack army.
01:10:40And it's like, yeah, I'm fine.
01:10:43Well, thank you for the detailed, thorough examination.
01:10:46I guess your hands didn't come out the back of my neck, so I'm fine.
01:10:53Are you okay?
01:10:54And it's lovely.
01:10:56I don't fault either side.
01:10:59All worked to get us to the top of the food chain.
01:11:01No problem with it.
01:11:04But we don't know what it's like, because if someone gets sick, sorry, when someone gets sick, right?
01:11:16You marry into a family, you've got, I mean, historically, grandparents, maybe great-grandparents, parents.
01:11:25And they all just kind of fade into each other, and they all need a crap ton of resources and help.
01:11:34When they get old.
01:11:36I mean, as a man, do you worry about this?
01:11:40I mean, I'm not saying you don't, right?
01:11:42But let's say, if you're a married man, if you're a single man, that's one thing, right?
01:11:46But if you're a married man, and there's an elderly, ailing relative on the street, do you worry that you're going to have to quit your job to take care of it?
01:11:56You've got a stay-at-home wife.
01:11:59Do you worry you're going to have to quit your job to take care of an elderly, aging relative?
01:12:09You don't worry about that.
01:12:10We are blithely indifferent to the concerns and cares that women get ambushed with on a regular basis.
01:12:20Because women take care of the ailing.
01:12:24I mean, for men, it's a lot of times, well, I see you fell and really hurt your leg.
01:12:32Let's hope you'll make it back.
01:12:35We'll put an extra light out for you, like I remember when I was working up north.
01:12:40We had to five-tone this story before, I'll keep it brief.
01:12:43But we had to fly out the next morning, and I didn't want to get up crushingly early, because we had another two samples to get with the Apionjo drill.
01:12:49We had to drill down to the bedrock and get the soil samples to figure out how much gold is in there.
01:12:54And my friend and I, we went to the arse end of nowhere.
01:12:59We thought we could make it, but it was a cloudless, sorry, it was a cloudy, moonless night, pitch black.
01:13:05Could not see your hand in front of your face.
01:13:08We had to go really slow, carry the drill, carry the drill bits, the soil samples, could not see a thing.
01:13:16And I had to hold your hand in front of your face to make sure that you didn't get your eyeball scratched by the tree branches.
01:13:21Now, did people come out to look for us? No, because we're men.
01:13:25And there were two other men back at base camp.
01:13:27Now, what they did do was they hung a light out front.
01:13:30Excellent.
01:13:32It's only minus 40.
01:13:38So good, you know, they did that.
01:13:42That's nice.
01:13:43Women were like, are they okay? We gotta go look for them.
01:13:45What's the matter? Do you have a flare? Can we, do they have a radio?
01:13:48Can we go out and holler? And I was like, eh, just hang a light out, they'll be fine.
01:13:52Coach, after you get tackled and knocked unconscious, walk it off, pencil neck.
01:13:58Yeah, I guess you could use a helmet, whatever.
01:14:02Some pencil neck law.
01:14:04Yeah.
01:14:09As men, generally people don't particularly care about us.
01:14:12But the downside is that the women have to care for the elderly.
01:14:16And it's tough.
01:14:19It's tough for them.
01:14:21So women are hardwired to be concerned about this kind of stuff.
01:14:29I mean, every man has these stories, right?
01:14:35Where you walk it off and your sister gets a cast.
01:14:42And everyone signs it and she gets flowers.
01:14:52So women are going to have to take care of things.
01:14:54And women are wired for that.
01:14:56And if women don't have their own families to take care of, they'll take care of cats, strangers, immigrants, whatever, right?
01:15:05Which is why when men are in charge, they tend to control physical violence.
01:15:10When women are in charge, they tend to control language.
01:15:13Because men fight with swords and women fight with words.
01:15:16Which is why England is England right now.
01:15:20LOL, no one signed my cast.
01:15:25Yeah, I remember I was, I think, eight or nine years old.
01:15:29And I went to school.
01:15:30Boarding school was six to eight.
01:15:32I guess I was nine years old.
01:15:33And I went to school and nobody knew it was my birthday.
01:15:35And I was very much keen for people to figure out that it was my birthday.
01:15:38And I kept dropping hints.
01:15:39Nobody cared.
01:15:41Meanwhile, the girl, there was some girl at the other end of the playground.
01:15:44People, oh, it's your birthday.
01:15:46Oh.
01:15:49It's all right.
01:15:50I'll just be here on the back 40 and fighting off the Huns.
01:15:55Don't mind me.
01:15:56I'll be fine.
01:16:01Leather helmets are fine.
01:16:02I don't want to be seen as a pansy after all.
01:16:03No, you need the helmets because you need to preserve the dental record.
01:16:06So you can be identified when they scrape you off the soccer posts.
01:16:15All right.
01:16:17So what are these women looking for?
01:16:18Why are they voting left?
01:16:19Because they need security.
01:16:20Because they're terrified.
01:16:21So what I would say to these women is, look, I really, really understand, man.
01:16:26It can be a nerve-wracking thing to be a woman, right?
01:16:29I really, I understand that.
01:16:31It is easy to feel vulnerable.
01:16:33It's easy to feel scared.
01:16:35I completely understand.
01:16:36I mean, I grew up with a very vulnerable mother who spent a lot of time both in pursuit of security,
01:16:41which ended up actually endangering her to some degree because she was so desperate for security
01:16:45that she was willing to compromise on vetting, right, on vetting things, right?
01:16:51So you're worried about what happens when you get older.
01:16:56You're worried about what happens if you get ill.
01:16:58You're worried about what happens when your relatives get ill, and you need a support system.
01:17:03You need a support structure.
01:17:05And in the past, this used to be a wonderful group or crew of other women, right?
01:17:12It was a wonderful group and crew of other women.
01:17:14And you could share your burdens.
01:17:15You could share your laughters.
01:17:17You could share your sorrows.
01:17:18If you look at the big movies that appeal to women, it is very much around a sisterhood of celebration and suffering, right?
01:17:27That the men don't really understand, but this sort of fried green tomatoes thing and the Sally Field one,
01:17:34whose name I can never remember, but Olympia Dukakis, Sally Field, country and western girl, Dolly Parton.
01:17:47So you want the sisterhood of celebration and suffering.
01:17:58It makes perfect sense.
01:18:00You need to spread the risk, and you need to spread the celebrations.
01:18:04Because you will be called upon to take care of the elderly.
01:18:08You are generally called upon to take care of the sick.
01:18:10We can get mad at it.
01:18:11We can say it's unfair.
01:18:12I understand that.
01:18:14But it is kind of how we evolved, and for whatever reason, you're way better at it.
01:18:19And I know that's not fair.
01:18:20I know that's absolutely not fair.
01:18:22But it is kind of the way things work.
01:18:24Steele Magnolias.
01:18:25Thank you.
01:18:31So, Steele Magnolias, of course, has the daughter who is, it's the nightmare of the mother, right?
01:18:40So the daughter is ill and won't listen and won't take care of herself.
01:18:46That's the nightmare.
01:18:49That's the nightmare.
01:18:51Women have to absorb and process an enormous amount of sorrow relative to men.
01:18:59Men have inflicted upon us loss of status, humiliation, and violence.
01:19:07Historically.
01:19:09And failure.
01:19:11And the feeling of being useless when we're old.
01:19:14But women have regular waves of suffering, right?
01:19:18There's a beautiful sequence in Harriet Beecher Stowe's Uncle Tom's Cabin about the little
01:19:28draw that every woman has.
01:19:31The little draw.
01:19:32I'm going to see if I can find it.
01:19:40It is a beautiful...
01:19:43Every woman has a little draw.
01:19:53No, I won't be able to find it.
01:19:55But basically it is the little draw that every woman has for the child or children who died.
01:20:04That every woman has that little draw full of the baby clothes that never got put on,
01:20:11full of the named ideas that were never applied, full of the booties that were pulled off the dead child.
01:20:18The little draw of keepsakes and namesakes that she goes to from time to time in great sorrow and memory
01:20:23of the child who didn't make it.
01:20:33And that is...
01:20:34And I remember the guy I worked with up north, it was just a terrible, terrible situation.
01:20:39A guy I worked with up north, he was going to get married and he wanted to lose weight for his wedding
01:20:44and he was out jogging and he got hit by a car and killed instantly.
01:20:49And I went to, of course, I went to his funeral and I went to the reception afterwards
01:20:54and his father was just sitting and talking and you couldn't tell.
01:20:58It was eerie, really.
01:21:00It was eerie.
01:21:02Of course, women would be wailing and rending their garments, so to speak, right?
01:21:11But it's rough.
01:21:14And in particular, a woman, Kevin Samuels used to, the late, great Kevin Samuels used to talk about this with women
01:21:22and he would say, how are you going to provide for your old age without a man?
01:21:27Are you going to have the 1.4 or 2.4 million dollars that you need to live from 65 to 85?
01:21:33Are you going to have that?
01:21:36Without a man.
01:21:38What if you get sick?
01:21:40Now, of course, for men, when we get sick, we will power through it
01:21:45and either we get better or we don't.
01:21:49Especially single men. It's different if you're married, right? I understand.
01:21:52But then you have your life insurance, right?
01:21:54So at least your family is going to be taken care of, right?
01:22:05So they're looking for stability and security because they live a life of unpredictable loss.
01:22:12At any time. I'm telling you this.
01:22:14As men, we don't understand this.
01:22:16At any time. Boom.
01:22:18Some relative could get ill.
01:22:23Some relative could get ill.
01:22:27Somebody could get injured.
01:22:29Somebody could need years of care and rehab.
01:22:37Some kid could get meningitis and eat half of their brain and then they have to be kept alive for decades.
01:22:44Somebody could break a leg that doesn't set properly and be in constant pain.
01:22:47Someone could get some sort of reaction to medicine.
01:22:50Somebody could get an allergy. Somebody's throat could close up.
01:22:53You know, women are like right on the widowmaker's ventricle of mortality.
01:23:00They are right on the edge.
01:23:03We're just sailing along and they're like, they dance on the edge of the cliff.
01:23:09They dance on the edge of the cliff of mortality, women.
01:23:14They can't stop seeing it.
01:23:16Injuries, problems, danger, fear, loss, tragedy.
01:23:29And they're taking a gamble.
01:23:32And the gamble the single women are taking is fundamentally economic.
01:23:37So the single women...
01:23:40So you know that attractiveness in women predicts being conservative.
01:23:49And happiness in both men and women predicts being conservative.
01:23:52Which, you know, small government free market stuff, right?
01:23:57So the women who are less physically attractive tend to go to the government
01:24:06because the government will give them more resources than the kind of man they could get, right?
01:24:11So you know the old thing that, you know, your mom is rich and your daddy's good looking, right?
01:24:15So the richer you are as a man, the more attractive a woman you can generally get.
01:24:20And so the attractive women tend to be more conservative
01:24:24because they can get the kind of men who can provide them more resources than the state can.
01:24:28Or, you know, maybe they're smart enough to see that it can't last and all that kind of stuff, right?
01:24:34So the less attractive women, and they can have wonderful spirits and all of that,
01:24:37but the less attractive women tend to gamble with the government
01:24:41because the government can give them more resources than the kind of man they can get
01:24:45by being less attractive.
01:24:47And the less attractive could just be bad luck, could be genetics, could be overweight,
01:24:50could be any number of things, right?
01:24:55So in the past, a woman had to stay healthy and athletic because otherwise the man might cheat.
01:25:00The woman had to stay healthy and athletic and slender because then she couldn't,
01:25:04otherwise she couldn't get a man or the kind of man she could get would be much lower quality in terms of income.
01:25:14But now, women don't have to stay attractive to get resources from men
01:25:18because they use the power of the state, though they don't see it this way.
01:25:21I understand that. They don't see it this way, but that's what it breaks down to.
01:25:24They use the power of the state to extract resources from men
01:25:27without having to provide fertility, attractiveness, and child raising in return.
01:25:36So the conversation to have for women is, I completely understand where you're coming from.
01:25:41A woman's life has a level of anxiety.
01:25:44I mean, they say, oh, women score higher in neurosis and anxiety than men.
01:25:49It's called hysterical, right, from hysteria, the womb, for a reason.
01:25:54And it's like, but it's not because there's anything wrong with women.
01:25:57It's because women live in a state of having to take care of the inevitable vicissitudes of life.
01:26:02And of course, remember, women evolved without modern medicine and taking care of
01:26:06and antibiotics and all of this extra care and treatment and so on.
01:26:10Women didn't grow up with any of that. They didn't evolve with any of that.
01:26:13So the amount of nursing and helplessness and reactive and disaster and catastrophe
01:26:20and long lingering resource drains that women had to deal with over the course of their life
01:26:25was often in the dozens, in the dozens.
01:26:29This is why women need each other, and this is why the sisterhood is very important.
01:26:35And you can take this to an extreme.
01:26:38Have every woman read your novel, The Present Problem Solved.
01:26:42Yeah, you can take this to an extreme, where the sisterhood is all that matters.
01:26:46But the sisterhood is what's needed in the face of what they view as men's callous indifference
01:26:53to the suffering around them. And we men are, I'll be honest with you, and again,
01:26:57maybe you're different, and I think this is obviously a generality,
01:27:00but we men are profoundly indifferent to the suffering around us.
01:27:08We just are, and there's nothing wrong with that.
01:27:12We can't be that attuned to suffering because men survive by inflicting suffering
01:27:16and families survive by inflicting suffering.
01:27:18It's not like the deer wants to get shot in the ass with an arrow.
01:27:20It's not like the enemy you club over the head wants to get clubbed over the head.
01:27:31So we can't be that empathetic because if we're too empathetic, we can't compete with other men.
01:27:35Like if we get the best-looking girl, then all the other men are upset and angry and frustrated
01:27:40and annoyed and hate us. It's like, well, we have to be indifferent to that
01:27:43in order to get our just desserts if we're a high-quality man or a high-in-demand man
01:27:47or whatever, right?
01:27:48So because men are competitive and women tend to be more cooperative,
01:27:52at least after men are competitive before marriage and then competitive
01:27:55to provide the most for the family, whereas women are competitive before marriage
01:27:59and then have to be cooperative afterwards.
01:28:01They're competitive for the men before marriage and they have to cooperate
01:28:03to minimize and share the risks and problems after marriage.
01:28:08So women have been seduced into getting resources from the state,
01:28:15which is a little bit greedy, right? A little bit greedy.
01:28:19If somebody said to some woman, you can date, I don't know, Hugh Jackman
01:28:23or apparently Pete Davidson is a big chick magnet these days for reasons that,
01:28:30I don't know, I can't quite, I mean, wouldn't you prefer a cucumber in ass blaster hot sauce?
01:28:36Well, apparently not. Apparently it's Pete Davidson.
01:28:38So whoever, right? Basketball players, right?
01:28:42So if a woman was offered a multimillionaire basketball player as her husband
01:28:48or welfare, she would choose the basketball player, right?
01:28:52We understand that, right?
01:28:54And so women who don't feel that they can get many resources or as much resource from a man,
01:29:02they get a little bit lazy and they want resources from the state.
01:29:06Now the problem is, of course, that the state doesn't care for them
01:29:09and the state is simply buying their vote and the state won't be there
01:29:13if they get ill or sick in the way that a husband will be there,
01:29:17a husband who loves them, a husband who really cares for them.
01:29:21And you say, oh, Steph, you were just telling people that men don't care.
01:29:25It's like, but you care about your wife, right? That's a different matter.
01:29:33So it is an argument from self-interest to say to women,
01:29:46look, when you get old, the money won't be there, right?
01:29:51I mean, certainly in America, I think it's five to ten years,
01:29:56at least according to official estimates, I assume that it's much worse than that.
01:29:59Five to ten years running out of social security.
01:30:02The healthcare system is generally getting worse.
01:30:04Old age homes are not good.
01:30:08Pretty much every, I mean, you turn on X
01:30:13and there's some old person getting beaten up in an old age home.
01:30:16And again, I know that's not typical, but it's certainly happening.
01:30:21Wasn't there a woman you were dating who wanted David Beckham or something?
01:30:24Well, she just, you know, David Beckham was her ideal, right?
01:30:26I'm like, and almost nothing worse, right?
01:30:30You know, these alpha widows, right?
01:30:31Almost nothing worse can happen to a woman than she gets the alpha male of her dreams.
01:30:41And then he goes, sir, and then she is now completely attuned to that,
01:30:45and everyone else looks ugly, right?
01:31:00Steph, you've been so funny lately.
01:31:02I've LOL'd many times catching up on you.
01:31:04Well, thank you. I appreciate that.
01:31:09So, it is a strategy I understand.
01:31:13And men, come on, I mean, really, men who are porn addicts,
01:31:17are you really going to complain that women are taking cheap and easy substitutes for relationships?
01:31:21Really? Come on.
01:31:24Men like to, you know, you're taking video games instead of achievement
01:31:28and porn instead of an actual relationship.
01:31:33Well, I don't know that there's a huge amount of superior legs to stand on, so to speak.
01:31:43The issue is they want the security of stolen goods versus the potential goods of a potential marital relationship.
01:31:48Well, no. So, in order to, I think, appeal or understand these women is to say that
01:32:00you are probably going to be a lot better off in the long run being married
01:32:06than relying on the warmongering, indebted state.
01:32:13Your real risk now is the state.
01:32:17Your real risk now is relying on the currency.
01:32:24Right? If you rely on the currency, it won't work.
01:32:28Think of all the women who relied on the state to provide their resources during the fall of Rome.
01:32:36Or the fall of the Greek, ancient Greek empires.
01:32:39It's not going to work.
01:32:41What you think of as security is not security.
01:32:44The only chance you really have for security, or the greatest chance you have for security,
01:32:48is a man who loves you.
01:32:50And you want love, and women live for love.
01:32:53I mean, men live for love, but women live even more so for love, I think.
01:32:58Because men have model railroads or whatever nonsense substitutes for love for men.
01:33:05Oh, Girl Dad, I have trouble showing enough empathy to my wife when she's sick.
01:33:09It feels unnatural to me. I'm not sure what to say, and what I do say feels fake.
01:33:13Oh, yeah. And women who judge men by female standards are looking for someone who's not a man.
01:33:22So, who's better at taking care of sick people, men or women? We all know this, right?
01:33:28Which is why the male doctors diagnose and treat, and the women nurses tend to comfort and aid, right?
01:33:37Chris says, I do see the suffering of single career women I work with as a tragedy.
01:33:40They don't seem to understand where the road they're taking leads.
01:33:43Well, and we need to help people, right? We need to help people.
01:33:50I mean, if you've ever known a porn addict who hits his 40s and is single, I mean, it's brutal, right?
01:33:56It's brutal. So, we need to help each other, and we need to help the women, right?
01:34:09I mean, we all know what's happening to the rape rates, right?
01:34:15And there's just grave danger, and it's not going to be safe to rely on all of this.
01:34:21Unfortunately, it requires a mathematical calculation, and most women look towards social gratification.
01:34:26No, I don't think. Look, women are smart, and women are incredibly great at resource prediction.
01:34:32Incredibly great at resource prediction.
01:34:34So, right now, in an amoral sense, and I understand that, but they are doing a calculation to maximize resource consumption through the state.
01:34:43And once you say to people, look, that is a deal that could have worked.
01:34:46It did work in the 60s, 70s, 80s, the noughties, but it's fading out over the next 10 years.
01:34:52And if you're under 65, and you're waiting for a full-fledged pension, you are waiting in vain, like the old song, right?
01:35:05Waiting, train in vain.
01:35:07That train ain't coming all night long.
01:35:10So, you're going to need to try and find some man so you can protect each other, so you can take care of each other.
01:35:20And I think that's the conversation that needs to happen.
01:35:23I think that's the conversation that needs to happen.
01:35:27But just, oh, they're just, you know, leftists and socialism, blah, blah, blah.
01:35:32Most people, most people, men too, are amoral resource acquirers.
01:35:40I mean, that's what we evolved to do, to gather resources in an amoral fashion.
01:35:45So, the reason why we're at the top of the food chain is because we kicked everyone out who was not an amoral resource acquirer, right?
01:35:56So, we are amoral resource acquirers.
01:36:01That's people as a whole.
01:36:04You can get mad at it, but that's getting mad at all the evolution that produced the brain to get mad at it.
01:36:10You're spot on, Steph.
01:36:13Seen women in my life change their tune on Donald Trump after seeing what's going on with increased violence.
01:36:18Yeah.
01:36:21Yeah, I mean, whatever the government offers you will end up being manifested as the opposite, right?
01:36:27Because violence achieves the opposite of its stated goal every time.
01:36:31So, I think, I'm again, I'm not really talking politics, I'm sort of talking male-female stuff, but I think that's the important conversation to have.
01:36:39And those of us who've had mothers, or have mothers, who took the run to the government route, oof, man, it's rough, man.
01:36:49I mean, I tried, it's a really, it's a very, you know, even, you know, a quarter century later, it has an ache in my heart.
01:36:57You know, Krakatoa, high, wide, and deep, has an ache in my heart because I tried for so many years to genuinely, deeply, and compassionately help my mother.
01:37:08But she could just get her money from the government, she didn't need to listen to me.
01:37:14I tried giving her money, I tried helping her out financially, she just did really bad things with the money, and I just couldn't countenance it.
01:37:22And it's really sad, because, you know, the government will pay her bills, but will not care about her.
01:37:28And it just did not work out, it will not work out, it will not work out, and just having people understand that, and it's tough.
01:37:38It's tough for women, particularly sort of post-fertility, right, sort of post-40 and so on.
01:37:44It's tough because they're going to have to make some compromises, but you got a lot of lonely guys, and you got a lot of lonely women.
01:37:50And the only way that they're going to do well, at all, is to combine in the way that nature and or God or whatever intended.
01:38:03We have to, have to, have to join forces as men and women, because an absolute shitstorm is coming.
01:38:12And those left isolated will not do well at all.
01:38:18And if you have to make some compromises, the men who've been raised on a steady stream of great-looking women are going to have to deal with actual women and actually how they look like.
01:38:31And women who fantasized about Pete Davidson while reading Fifty Shades of Grey are going to have to deal with actual men who don't have helicopters, don't play piano, and don't make a billion dollars a minute.
01:38:46We need each other, and hoping for the government and hoping that that's all going to work out is not, absolutely not, an even remotely productive strategy.
01:39:11It is not going to work out.
01:39:14The only redemption arc for these women is to become maids like Catherine for most.
01:39:18Yeah, so Catherine, Ursat's mother to Tom in my novel Almost, a wonderful woman.
01:39:26I actually based her on one of the women who helped raise me, in fact, who raised me in many ways.
01:39:32So I went deep into my primal memory of the woman who was raising me and came up with this character who I absolutely adored in my novel.
01:39:42The present.
01:39:44So please, guys, go out and find women.
01:39:48Will they look like Scarlett Johansson? No.
01:39:51But you don't look like Brad Pitt.
01:39:53And it doesn't, all the looks are going to fade anyway.
01:39:56I mean, did you see the latest picture of Katy Perry?
01:39:58I mean, Katy Perry was a stunningly beautiful woman.
01:40:00Great figure.
01:40:01She's aging out.
01:40:03Of course, it's nothing we all do, right?
01:40:05Every now and then I'll flash the picture of me at 20, right?
01:40:11So go out and find a woman.
01:40:13I'm not telling you to marry a woman to turn her into a conservative.
01:40:17What I am doing, though, is I'm saying that you're going to need a woman and women are going to need men.
01:40:23And all of this artificial, splendid isolation crap that's entirely fueled by debt, theft and inflation is coming to an end.
01:40:32Winter is coming, man.
01:40:34And you're going to need somebody else's body heat to stay warm.
01:40:39All right.
01:40:40Well, if you enjoyed the show, I really, really appreciate that.
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01:40:49Really would appreciate that as well.
01:40:55But you, like you've said, young men have to fight against delaying men age like wine is a meme.
01:41:00Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
01:41:01I've been talking to a lot of men lately in the private call-in shows who are older and it's a challenge, right?
01:41:06All right.
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01:41:23And we will, we will, we will have a dinner in Florida this year.
01:41:27We will have a dinner in Florida this year.
01:41:29And I am planning to get back out on the road to do a documentary next year.
01:41:34I didn't get one this year, but I really, really do appreciate that.
01:41:39But yeah, once you understand that this is not a good strategy.
01:41:44You did donate on Wednesday.
01:41:45Thank you from Norway with love.
01:41:46I appreciate that.
01:41:48Love to visit Norway.
01:41:49What a beautiful country.
01:41:50I know it's not only fjords, but there's fjords.
01:41:53And Norway is the forests.
01:41:55I could like honestly live in those forests like a tree elf or a dryad with man sex.
01:42:01So what is the documentary topic?
01:42:06I'll tell you.
01:42:07I won't tell you now, but I will tell you.
01:42:09I don't mean to be coy, but I'm going to be coy.
01:42:14So thank you everyone for a wonderful evening.
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01:42:22Love you guys so much.
01:42:23Thank you for giving me the opportunity and scope to do what I'm doing,
01:42:28where we are laying down some very powerful stuff for all time forward.
01:42:34So have yourself an absolutely beautiful, beautiful evening.
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