Modern Women are Selfish?!?

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Flash Live Chat 7 October 2024

In this episode, I examine the implications of irrationality on society, using the grasshopper and ant metaphor to illustrate how individual inaction burdens others. I discuss the educational system’s role in fostering dependency and a lack of critical thought.
Shifting to gender dynamics, I analyze the disconnect between men and women, the influence of government policies on men's bodies, and the imbalance created by societal expectations. I emphasize the importance of empathy and mutual respect in addressing rising nihilism and toxicity in modern relationships.
I conclude with a call for a societal shift towards understanding and reciprocity as the basis for a more equitable future.

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00:00:00Good afternoon everybody, hope you're doing well. 7th of October 2024 and I did put out a little
00:00:07thing recently where people were invited to give feedback on what they wanted more and what y'all
00:00:15wanted more, and I'm sure it was like randomly during the day with no forewarning or little
00:00:19to no forewarning, what y'all wanted more was apparently voice chats, which I like. I like too.
00:00:27They can be pleasantly chaotic. So let me just make sure our recording is running here
00:00:37and we are good to go. If you have questions, comments, issues, challenges, disagreements,
00:00:44raging hostilities, incontinence, eczema, just click on the
00:00:50button. I suppose while we are waiting for that, and I'm happy to be interrupted at any time,
00:01:06as a general principle I was thinking about this morning, that
00:01:10every irrationality you indulge in has to be paid by someone else.
00:01:21Every irrationality that you indulge in has to be paid for by someone else.
00:01:30If you have an irrationality like I don't need to get food,
00:01:37then someone else has to get you food. If you don't think you need water, somebody else has to
00:01:43get you hydrated. Whatever is anti-rational, and I'm going to just use irrational and anti-rational.
00:01:52Irrational is when you do things that are crazy. Anti-rational is when you weaponize crazy to
00:01:57attack rationality in others. And all irrationality attacks rationality, attacks and exploits
00:02:06sorry, all irrationality attacks and exploits rationality
00:02:12in others. If you are like grasshopper and the ant, you say, ah, I don't need to,
00:02:18I don't need to store up food for the winter. It's important to learn guitar and sing and
00:02:23play all day. Well, that irrationality, assuming that winter is coming, and it always is,
00:02:28assuming that winter is coming, it means that you have to attack and exploit
00:02:39the rationality of other people who do in fact plan for winter.
00:02:47Now, people could say, and I understand the argument, people could say, ah, but Steph,
00:02:54but Steph, what you don't understand is that I can just go and live in the woods and I can be
00:03:03irrational on my own. How does that, like I go into the woods and I think that two and two
00:03:08make five. Now, yeah, of course, you could be irrational in your own mind in a passing phase,
00:03:14but if you are consistent that way, it develops bad habits that other people have to pay for.
00:03:20Other people, like when you, if the government wants to continue to exploit you,
00:03:23the first thing it does is teach anti-rationality to children.
00:03:29And the way that you teach anti-rationality, well, you don't teach anti-rationality,
00:03:35you inflict it through punishment. You inflict it through punishment.
00:03:42You inflict it through punishment. So what you do is you say to children, absolutely absurd things.
00:03:53Absolutely absurd things. And then you punish them.
00:04:00If they question that, if they oppose that, if they have issues with that, you punish them.
00:04:04And so, you know, basic categories of biology, hatred of people who are productive, you know,
00:04:16all of the stuff for girls provoking hostility towards boys, for boys provoking fear of girls,
00:04:25all of this stuff that just doesn't make any sense. And if our ancestors had
00:04:30practiced it, we wouldn't be here at all. So anti-rationality
00:04:37cripples people, makes them easier to program, manipulate, and control,
00:04:47and dependent on others. If you cripple people, they become fearful, dependent upon authority,
00:04:55and easy to program to hatred.
00:05:03If you cripple people, they need an authority to transfer resources. If you cripple people in terms
00:05:08of their rational processing capacities, the capacities to trust their own thoughts,
00:05:16to trust their own senses, their own instincts, their own mind, body, sensations,
00:05:24body, sensation, and so on. If you cripple people that way, then you shift the burden
00:05:33to others. You make people dependent on others. And when you are dependent on another against his
00:05:42or her will, you must dehumanize that other. So one of the things that I can see happening
00:05:50quite a bit on social media, is men waking up to the basic fact that at least as it is
00:05:58presently constituted, women seem to have, and many women, not all of course, seem to have,
00:06:06it seems like a foundational almost genetic inability to empathize with men.
00:06:11So one of the things that happened, which is I think in line with this,
00:06:19is Kamala Harris went on a Call Her Daddy podcast. Now I don't know much about this podcast.
00:06:26The host is very pretty, and because it is popular, very popular, I assume it's about
00:06:35disassembling any modesty, restraint, decorum, or dignity among young women. I assume it's just
00:06:41trash sex talk, and celebrity gossip, and just, you know, the absolute detritus and garbage
00:06:46that swirls through the sewage of modern communications, because if it had any truth
00:06:51or rationality to it, then it would be attacked and de-platformed and all of that. So I assume
00:06:57it's just, I'm sorry if this assumption is wrong, and I'm happy to withdraw it, but
00:07:03I mean, Call Her Daddy is an attack on rationality just in the very title. It's an invitation
00:07:09to anti-rationality. So Kamala Harris went on
00:07:14this podcast at a time when hundreds or thousands of bodies are floating down the Appalachians.
00:07:22She's going on a sex talk trash girl podcast. It's one of the reasons I don't do politics anymore.
00:07:30So anyway, she and the hostess were absolutely stymied and stumped by the question,
00:07:43well, are there any government policies that control men? Are there any government policies
00:07:51that control men's bodies? Now, they say control men's bodies as if the man is different from his
00:07:57body. So basically they're saying, are there any laws that affect men? All laws control the body.
00:08:12All laws control the body. If you're speeding, your body is going too fast, right?
00:08:20If you take something from a store, or at least until recently, if you took something from a
00:08:26store, you were shoplifting, and so you were then detained, which meant that you were not in
00:08:36sovereign control of your body, and then you would be charged with theft, and then you would
00:08:43have to show up to court, and then you would have to pay a fine. All of this is control of your body.
00:08:48So, I mean, it's wild. And of course, everyone was saying the obvious answer, like, well, what is
00:09:02the law that controls men's bodies? And again, women couldn't figure this out, at least these
00:09:09women, and yeah, yeah. And it's like, well, of course, the obvious one, which I'll just mention
00:09:14here because it is so obvious that it only needs to be touched on in passing, the obvious one is
00:09:21the draft. Yeah, selective service, the draft, which seems to be a little bit more vivid now,
00:09:30a little less theoretical now that the warmongers have been back in power for a couple of years,
00:09:37a little bit less theoretical. And so that is an obvious one.
00:09:45That is, the ultimate control
00:09:49of a man's body is to turn him into a murder slave.
00:09:55A slave who is thrown into gunfire and is going to be attacked
00:10:01by a swan of vampiric blood-seeking drones. Yeah, I would say, obviously, that's pretty much control
00:10:10of a man's body. But, of course, we've got family courts, which disproportionately control
00:10:19men's bodies to the point where, like, it's a funny thing that a woman, many women,
00:10:25they get this argument, it's control over my body, which is fallacious. The
00:10:32baby inside of you is not your body. It's not your body. It's not your body. It's not your body.
00:10:40It's like saying that a passenger on a ship that's going to disembark
00:10:44is the ship. The ship and the passenger are one and the same. And it's like, no,
00:10:51not at all. Now, the bulkhead and the ship, yeah, the bulkhead is part of the ship because it's not
00:10:57going to get off and walk around in Majorca or go and see some eagles in Alaska. Your spleen
00:11:05doesn't get up, walk around, become defiant, try drinking and go to college. It's not what
00:11:14your appendix does. They don't take out your appendix. Give it a suit and tie and try and
00:11:20sign it up for business school. Different DNA, different blood type, perhaps. It's not your body.
00:11:26Anyway, yes, when I go on an airplane, I am the airplane. I go on the airplane, I sit on the
00:11:35airplane, and then I leave the airplane because I'm not the airplane. Therefore, I could do that.
00:11:41So, what a lot of women don't really follow is, and they used to, but they don't anymore,
00:11:50and we'll sort of talk about why in a second. Again, I'm happy to take your questions and
00:11:53comments and disagreements and feedback, just to click on the want to talk, request to talk button.
00:12:01But women seem to have a very tough time these days. Again, it wasn't the case in the past,
00:12:08but women seem to have a really tough time conceptualizing that
00:12:16taxation is control of a man's body. Again, we talk of family courts, child support,
00:12:22alimony. That is control of the man's body, and it's overwhelmingly male.
00:12:27But taxation is control of a man's body
00:12:31because, as men, it's true for women too, but taxation is disproportionately a male issue
00:12:41because men pay about twice into the system than they get out in benefits, and women get
00:12:46about twice the benefits than they pay into the system. So, the modern welfare state is
00:12:55a massive transfer of wealth from men to women as a whole.
00:13:01And women seem to have a tough time understanding that taxation is control over a man's body
00:13:09because all wealth is produced through the body.
00:13:15All wealth, I mean, you think of sort of Paul McCartney, it's his hands that play the bass,
00:13:20he's a superlative bass player, and of course he plays piano and guitar.
00:13:25Paul McCartney writes down the music with his hands, plays the music with his hands,
00:13:30sings with that glorious rock voice.
00:13:37All of Paul McCartney's wealth is produced from his body.
00:13:43If you have a wonderful tune in your head that you never write down, never tell anyone,
00:13:47and take to the grave, it's the equivalent of non-existence. It's the equivalent of it never
00:13:53existing. So, all wealth is produced from the body, and all forcible transfers of wealth
00:14:09are taking control of the body. So, laws that affect men's bodies would be taxation. Now,
00:14:19of course, it affects women as well. I'm just talking about the overall
00:14:25intersex transfer of wealth. There's a massive slippery slope that transfers
00:14:34wealth from testosterone to estrogen.
00:14:42Some men are controlled in that way. We understand, of course, that if you
00:14:46have a slave, if slavery is legal, and you have a slave, and the slave works,
00:14:52and you take the products of the slave, then that is part of enslavement.
00:14:57But the fact that you get to choose your own job, and all wealth is taken after the fact,
00:15:03because it has to be created in order to be taken. The farmer has to plant in order for
00:15:08some warlord to come along and steal his crops. Now, all theft is retroactive slavery.
00:15:16All theft is retroactive enslavement, because it is like forcing someone to
00:15:27work for you in the moment, but you just take the products of their labor later.
00:15:36So, it seems to be very hard for women, a lot of women, not all, to understand
00:15:42that the state that gives them resources is taking those resources mostly from men.
00:15:50And that is laws that control a man's body.
00:15:58Because whenever you use force
00:16:03to coerce someone into doing what they would not choose to do,
00:16:06you are taking control of that person's body.
00:16:12We say this again, whenever you use violence to force someone to do what they would not choose
00:16:16to do, which is the definition of violence, because if they would choose to do it,
00:16:21then you don't need to use violence. Whenever you use violence to force someone to do what
00:16:27they do not want to do, you are taking control of their body. Because the mind
00:16:38cannot be taxed, only the products of the body can be taxed. Now, of course, I understand
00:16:45that the mind produces the effects of bodily motion and so on, but if you had, let's say,
00:16:49you had in your head a billion-dollar business idea, let's say that you worked ruthlessly through
00:16:54your body to execute on that business idea, you made a billion dollars, then you'd pay a lot in
00:16:58taxes. If you have the billion-dollar business idea and do a billion dollars,
00:17:06idea and do not act on it, it cannot be taxed. You cannot tax the mind, you can only tax the body.
00:17:17You cannot control the mind, you can only control the body.
00:17:26Even in the strictest censorship, you can indulge in thoughts that, at least now,
00:17:31up to date, cannot be tracked. Now, this used to be well understood.
00:17:39This used to be well understood. It's less understood now because of the exploitive nature of
00:17:46the relations between the sexes in statism.
00:17:52And the exploitive nature of the relationship of the sexes in statism results in a lack of empathy.
00:18:02A lack of empathy, which is why all of these women are, and again, I don't want to overly
00:18:08focus on the sort of trashiest aspect of these social media posts, you know,
00:18:12like they go to drunken women in the street, hey, what do you think? It's like, I don't,
00:18:17but I have cleavage. So,
00:18:22they go to these women, do we need men? No, men are trash. No, men are useless. No,
00:18:29men are liars. We don't need men, blah, blah, blah, right?
00:18:36Well, why would they? I mean, in the past, it was deeply and viscerally understood that women
00:18:42knew this. They needed men. Well, why don't they need men now? Why do so many feel that
00:18:47they don't need men now or can denigrate men? Well, because those you exploit, you must dehumanize.
00:18:55Those you exploit, you must dehumanize, because if you can't dehumanize them,
00:19:00then you can't exploit them.
00:19:05And this is really a foundational, a fundamental devilish bargain,
00:19:12which is, I'll give you something, whatever the devil says. Devil says, I'll give you something
00:19:17for free. It'll cost you your soul. Sign on the dotted line. You get all this free stuff,
00:19:23sign on the dotted line. You get all this free stuff, it'll cost you your soul.
00:19:28Well, that's an analogy, very powerful analogy, for the basic reality. The basic reality is,
00:19:35whoever you exploit, you must dehumanize. You must view your slaves as thoughtless,
00:19:41mindless beasts of burden with no essential humanity of their own.
00:19:44And why have so many modern women, and men, but we're just talking about women at the moment,
00:19:50right? Why have so many modern women become so cold, so cruel, so unfeeling, so narcissistic,
00:19:58so unsympathetic towards the plight of men? If women are unhappy, men lean in to listen.
00:20:08If women are unhappy, men lean in to listen. When men are unhappy, a lot of modern women
00:20:15lean back to scorn. You say, well, male suicide rates are higher. It's like,
00:20:19well, that's because men choose not to express their feelings. It's their fault.
00:20:26Men are having trouble finding dates because so many women are pursuing the top 10% of men.
00:20:34Well, that's just needy, pathetic incels. They have no right to a woman's attention. Yes,
00:20:41but apparently single moms have a right to a man's paycheck through the tax system.
00:20:45Totally different. Get something for free, lose your soul. What that means is,
00:20:53be bribed with the coerced fruits of someone else's labor, other people's labor. You must
00:20:59then dehumanize those other people, and through dehumanizing those other people,
00:21:06you lose your humanity. You lose your humanity. I mean, the powers that be,
00:21:12bribing one section of the population with the coerced labor of another section of the population
00:21:17can cause narcissism, a lack of empathy, coldness, cruelty, unfeelingness, hostility, impatience.
00:21:35And like an ice climber whose clamp-ons are failing, so many men are just kind of hanging
00:21:43on to this frozen cliff of female hostility and indifference, trying to find purchase and escaping
00:21:51through screens to a dimension where they have
00:21:56some capacity to affect an outcome, whether it's video games or something else.
00:22:05Why are so many modern women so cold? Well, because the system has been set up to largely
00:22:11exploit men and bribe women, and when you take that which is, quote, free,
00:22:21you cannot empathize with someone who is taken from.
00:22:26When you are given something for, quote, free, you cannot empathize
00:22:34with those who are taken from. If you're a slave owner, you cannot empathize with your slave.
00:22:41You must view the slave as an object that exists only to serve your own selfish needs and preferences.
00:22:51You must view whoever you're exploiting as an object that exists
00:22:56only to serve your own selfish needs and preferences. And once you become dependent
00:23:04on a group, as some women are dependent on many men through the state, once you become
00:23:10dependent on some group, you can't see them as human, you can't see them as independent,
00:23:19and you can't empathize with them. And you can't say, well, gee, women are taking a lot of money
00:23:26out of the tax system. If I were a man, how would I feel about that? In the same way that
00:23:36this Call Her Daddy woman and Kamala Harris seem to be genuinely unable to think
00:23:46about men's needs and preferences.
00:23:51Which is these lists, and lists are fine in terms of who you want to date. Lists are fine,
00:23:56they're great. I love the lists. Make a list of what you want in your dates. Please, make a list.
00:24:03Make a list. But don't just make one list, make two. One list is narcissism, two lists is empathy.
00:24:16Right? One list is narcissism, two lists is empathy. So one list is to say, here's what I want.
00:24:24Six foot tall, six figures, six pack, six plus inches, a penile girth, or maybe not girth.
00:24:33Maybe length. So this is what I want, and that's fine. That's one list. The second list is what
00:24:44does he want?
00:24:51What does he want? How many women are asking men, what do you want? What would make you happiest?
00:25:01What do you need? What are your preferences?
00:25:06I mean, some women do, of course, but that's the foundational question.
00:25:10You make one list, and you see this, and this is why these lists on social media bother men so much.
00:25:16Because it's an I, me, me, I. I want, I need, I prefer, I won't settle for. Like, I saw this one
00:25:22yesterday, and it's kind of, I don't know if it's just troll engagement farming or whatever, but
00:25:26it works, and there's a reason why it works. The woman was like, I'm not going to date any man
00:25:31who doesn't spend at least $200. I mean, that's just like a reasonable dinner and one glass of
00:25:37wine, and it's like, if you're not even that committed to me, why would I go out with you at all?
00:25:47And men see that, and they're like, okay, so that's what you want, and that's fine.
00:25:54Nothing wrong with wanting things. Nothing wrong with having standards for wanting things. It's a
00:25:59beautiful thing. But it's kind of like sitting in front of an employer, like you just kind of
00:26:07barge into some guy's office, and you're like, well, I want $150,000 a year. I want a company car.
00:26:17I want my own corner office with lots of light, and I want windows that open, and I want an expense
00:26:23account, and I'd like access to the company private jet, and just list off all these things.
00:26:28In exchange for what, is the question. That's the empathetic question. In exchange for what?
00:26:37What do you bring to the table? Well, I am the table.
00:26:44And that question, from modern, I mean, women in the past, women pre-welfare state,
00:26:51absolutely had to ask that question. What do men want? What do you want?
00:26:55Absolutely had to ask that question. What do men want? What do they like? What do they prefer?
00:27:01I mean, I'm doing it all the time. I'm asking people with regards to the show.
00:27:05It's one of the reasons I'll do the show today. Happy to chat.
00:27:12What do the customers want? Making a list of demands
00:27:18without making a list of offerings is narcissistic.
00:27:29This is what I want. Okay. And why should you get it?
00:27:35Why should you get it? This is what I want. Okay. Sure. Yeah. You can make a wish list.
00:27:43That's what children do. That's what little kids do. My brother and I,
00:27:45when we were little, oh, what if we got a million pounds? What would we buy? 747,
00:27:51parachutes, whatever we would come up with, right? That's just a wish list.
00:27:55There's nothing wrong with a wish list when you're five. Nothing wrong with a wish list.
00:28:01But when you're an adult, you have to negotiate. And that's what empathy is.
00:28:05But getting things by force from others, for quote free, kills your empathy.
00:28:12Because you can't empathize. The thief steals, but doesn't want to be stolen from.
00:28:20Right. You see all these heist movies where the thief steals something and then someone
00:28:25else steals from him, or like Dirty Rotten Scoundrels, where the Steve Martin and Michael
00:28:30Kane characters, spoiler, it's an old movie, right? So they are conning a woman, but it turns out she
00:28:36a woman, but it turns out she was conning them. Right.
00:28:42I thought I'd stolen. It turns out I got stolen from. Damn. Right. Okay.
00:28:51So the thief steals, but doesn't want to be stolen from. And the reason that the thief is
00:28:55able to steal is the thief refuses to empathize with his victim. He refuses to say to himself,
00:29:05in his heart, well, I don't like to be stolen from. I suppose other people don't like that either.
00:29:12He has to dehumanize his victim. And of course, a lot of modern ideology
00:29:18is saying, you're not stealing, you're stealing back. Right. And that way you can dehumanize.
00:29:25Right. The factory workers are told by the socialists, the communists,
00:29:30you're not stealing the means of production, you're taking them back.
00:29:36Which is a reversal of cause and effect. It's like saying to airplane passengers,
00:29:43well, the plane wouldn't be flying without you. And therefore you own the plane.
00:29:51No, no, that's not the plane is built. And then you get to fly it. And the plane is built with
00:29:58the anticipation of you flying it. But you don't own the plane. Right. It's like, ah, yes, I remember
00:30:03that time when I ordered a McDonald's Big Mac and became an owner of a franchise. This cause and
00:30:10effect. So it's a way of offering people things for free by convincing them that they're not
00:30:16stealing anything, they're just stealing it back. Right. So, women, female supremacy,
00:30:22which is a huge issue in the modern world, female supremacy, is saying to women,
00:30:29well, you're not mistreating men. You are taking your power, which was taken from you
00:30:38for hundreds of thousands of years. Men oppressed you. Because, you know, for the,
00:30:45what was it, maybe a generation or less than that, that men had the vote and women didn't
00:30:50in the entire span of human history. So you say to women, well, this is patriarchy.
00:30:58And this patriarchy keeps things from you. It stole from you. It stole from your mother,
00:31:06your grandmother, your great-grandmother, all the way back to Eve herself. And therefore,
00:31:11men owe you. And you're just taking back what is rightfully yours. Well, I can remember when
00:31:17I was on Twitter and there were a lot of people from India would say, well, but the only reason
00:31:24that England became wealthy is because it stole everything from India.
00:31:28Excellent. Good job. Good job, everyone. Completely reversing cause and effect.
00:31:36So, this dehumanization is foundational. Here's another example of how men's bodies
00:31:44are controlled by the government.
00:31:48If you have hiring policies that are enforced by mandates, where there are checklists and
00:31:59there are quotas, you say, well, you have to hire women. You are controlling men's bodies.
00:32:07Why? Because you are preventing men from being able to get paychecks. You are preventing them
00:32:13from getting jobs. You are preventing them from getting paychecks. That is controlling a man's
00:32:20body. He is not free to go in and apply for a job and get the job. That is controlling a man's
00:32:25body. He can't go into that interview. He can't get the job. He can't go into the office. He
00:32:30can't get the paycheck. That is controlling men's bodies. In the same way that women say, well,
00:32:34if I'm denied access to abortion, that is controlling my body. It's like,
00:32:39well, if a man is denied access to employment, that's controlling his body.
00:32:50I would say it's also tiresome, but I think it's good to explicate in a kind of direct way.
00:32:55Oh, the coldness. What do men want? What do men like? I mean, you can see the rising rates of
00:33:07obesity as a whole. It's dipped. I think this year, maybe because of Ozempic or maybe inflation
00:33:16in the grocery store is a way of trying to combat inflation on the waistline,
00:33:22when food simply becomes too expensive and people have to eat less. Maybe that's one of
00:33:26the reasons it's dipped. But what men emphatically don't want, except for a few
00:33:31freak-ass chubby chasers, what men explicitly and emphatically don't want is obese women.
00:33:40Like, I saw this woman, facially quite pretty, and she did an extreme close-up. Now,
00:33:49she's heavy-faced, but some people just are. Some people can have a fairly slender body,
00:33:54but chipmunk cheeks. She's doing this extreme close-up, and it's like,
00:34:02I just spent three hours getting ready for a date. I'm going for a date. I got my fingers
00:34:05crossed. I hope I'll be happy. I think it'll be fun. Then afterwards, she's in her car, tears
00:34:12streaming down her face. Basically, the guy met her, and then within a couple of minutes said,
00:34:19I'm just not feeling it. I'm sorry, and he went home. Well, I mean, did she fatfish? Did she
00:34:31pretend to be more slender than she really is? I mean, you've seen this. You've seen the women
00:34:35who have slightly slender faces or more slender faces, and then they step back, and it's like,
00:34:38kaboom. Suddenly, you're all kinds of Jabba the Hutt slash Oompa Loompa, and men can do this too.
00:34:49So, women are emphatically saying, of course, that a man is not entitled to a single
00:34:56shred of attention from a woman, and that's true.
00:35:01I mean, and I'm fine with women saying men are not entitled to a shred of a woman's time.
00:35:07It's like, okay, great. Then women are not entitled to a shred of a man's time in the form of
00:35:15coerced taxation transfer. Oh, no, no, that's different. But it's funny, because the women,
00:35:24of course, were all sympathizing with this woman, but the woman is not so. She obviously chose a guy
00:35:30who looked at her and said, you're unappealing. Now, it could be because she kind of lied
00:35:37about how obese she was. I don't know how obese she was, but she said dating isn't fun when you're
00:35:41fat. So, she referred to herself as fat. So, I assume that she's significantly fat, because she
00:35:46didn't say, I'm big boned, I'm thick, I'm heavy set, I'm curvy, all the Rubenesque euphemisms for
00:35:57obese. So, she went for a guy who looked at her and said,
00:36:08and so then he left, and everyone's like, oh, that's so terrible, that's so rude. And it's
00:36:12like, but I'm sorry, I thought we weren't entitled to each other's time, energy, effort, resources.
00:36:18So, if a woman shows up and the man is, you know, 30 years older than he claims to be,
00:36:30or obese while he hit it on the photos, or something like that, then, you know, women
00:36:36always have this thing when they go on blind dates, where they set up something with a friend,
00:36:40and the friend calls them, and then they leave in the middle of the date, usually without paying.
00:36:45Usually without paying, right? And that's considered, you know, good common sense.
00:36:50If the guy's weird, or creepy, or unpleasant, or stinky, or yellow teeth, or whatever, right?
00:36:56Then women have ways of getting out of the date. Oh, I'm sorry, my mom's the only one, right?
00:37:01Oh, they just go to the bathroom and have an Irish goodbye and don't come back. So,
00:37:06would anyone say to these women, you are obligated, you must, must stay to the end of the date?
00:37:15No, the man's not obligated to her time at all, and that's true.
00:37:21And so, this woman complaining, right, that the man said, I'm not feeling it, and left shortly,
00:37:28I mean, within a few minutes. Well, that's fine, right? I mean, he didn't want to stay. Of course,
00:37:34he shouldn't be compelled to stay, he shouldn't be shamed into staying.
00:37:38But this is just this bewildered lack of reciprocity that occurs, right? So,
00:37:49when women don't get what they want in the dating market, men are deficient.
00:37:55When men don't get what they want in the dating market, they're weak, chicken-chested incels who
00:38:00need to go out and touch grass, and they are also deficient. In what, and this is an important
00:38:08question, I think, in society as a whole, in what are modern women considered to be deficient?
00:38:14I mean, we hear a lot about how men are deficient, and that can be helpful, that can be helpful.
00:38:21But in what, what conversations are we having about modern women
00:38:26being deficient in anything? But that's the vanity. In the relationship between the master
00:38:31and the slave, the slave takes all the criticism, and the master takes none.
00:38:38Criticism, or lack of criticism, is a function of power. Whoever can criticize has the power.
00:38:49You can see this in race, you can see this in sex, you can see this in class. Whoever can criticize
00:38:54has the power. Whoever is shielded from criticism or cannot be criticized, sorry, whoever, yeah,
00:38:59whoever criticizes has the power. And if you can both criticize and be shielded from criticism,
00:39:05you have the ultimate power, right? This is an old Voltaire line, I don't know if it's
00:39:08misattributed, but it's cool enough that it doesn't matter who it came from, that if you
00:39:12want to know who rules over you, look at who you were not able to criticize. And, you know,
00:39:16women, to a large degree, what feedback do they take? And this is a function of
00:39:24female in-group preference, and it's also a function of the simping, right? The simping.
00:39:34Because men have this odd idea that if they jump to a woman's defense, she might sleep with them.
00:39:44I mean, my God, like they've never read Fifty Shades of Grey or Ayn Rand or the upcoming Nicole
00:39:52Kidman and Dewey Face intern film, where it's considered really sexy for a female CEO in her
00:39:59fifties to take orders from her apple-cheeked 21-year-old intern. It's not an imbalance of power,
00:40:05no, no, no! It's sexy. So, and this is partly a function of not female nature or
00:40:21anything negative towards women, it's just a function of biology. It's just a function of
00:40:26biology. It's hard for a young man to make a mistake that enslaves himself to some degree
00:40:36for 20 years and costs a quarter of a million dollars. Young men's mistakes tend to be
00:40:44drinking too much, doing risky things, maybe driving too fast, maybe being kind of lazy
00:40:52and preferring screen time to productivity, gathering, maybe not pursuing much of an
00:40:59education, whether self or institutional. Self is better these days. It's really the
00:41:03only education that's possible. Everything else is propaganda. But a young man, in general,
00:41:11finds it hard to make a few minutes mistake that costs him 20 years of independence and a quarter
00:41:23of a million dollars. And really, if you look down to just the orgasm, you know what I'm talking
00:41:30about, right? If you look at just the orgasm, the orgasm lasts, what, 10, 15, 20 seconds,
00:41:36unless you're stinging, in which case it's half the tour. But orgasm, you know, 10, 15 seconds
00:41:41or whatever. Now, except in some orgy of preternatural violence, a young man cannot,
00:41:50in 10 to 15 seconds, make a mistake that costs him 20 years of his life at a quarter million dollars
00:41:57or more. But women can, because women get pregnant. And when women get pregnant,
00:42:13what is society supposed to do? This is the whole reproductive rights. It's just,
00:42:21when I hear this sort of reproductive rights, I simply hear a consequence-free sex.
00:42:26I want to remove consequences from sexual activity. And I completely and totally understand
00:42:36that. I mean, if I, and we can empathize with that, right? I think we can. We can empathize
00:42:42with that. We can empathize with a young woman who, in a fit of lust, gets pregnant to a guy
00:42:53who's a himbo, right? Hot, but dumb. He is not a suitable long-term productive
00:43:02partner to her and husband to her child. Now, of course, in the past,
00:43:07this was all healed with shotgun weddings. Oh, you got my daughter pregnant? Well,
00:43:12you're getting married, kid. And that was considered fairly acceptable, fairly okay.
00:43:18Not the worst way to start a family. Not necessarily ideal, but not terrible.
00:43:25I look at the math of my parents' marriage. Anyway, so
00:43:33that slip up, that 10 to 15 seconds resulting in the need to raise a child for 20 years and a
00:43:42quarter million dollars of cost, that is the foundational thing that society has to figure
00:43:48out how to manage and handle. And that's what I mean when I say at the beginning of this that all
00:43:56anti-rationality must be paid for by someone else. So if the woman has a child at a wedlock,
00:44:07or with a guy who doesn't provide, someone has to provide, or the child dies.
00:44:12Someone has to provide. It's not the father, right? So that issue of making a terrible mistake
00:44:28and wanting to be excused for it is perfectly natural. It's perfectly normal human nature.
00:44:33Men do it too. People forget, of course, that abortion on demand serves male sex addicts as
00:44:43well. Abortion on demand means that men can have consequence-free sex. So the sex addicts
00:44:49want the free quote health care, STD treatments, and they want abortion and so on. It's just
00:44:56usually the result of addictive behavior, which results from prior trauma in childhood and so on.
00:45:04So the fact that 10 to 15 seconds, right, if you don't pull out or whatever, 10 to 15 seconds,
00:45:09you now have an obligation for massive amounts of resources for decades and massive costs. Well,
00:45:22how does it get paid? So then the state, of course, rushes along and says,
00:45:26we'll take care of it for you. And the women are so relieved and grateful that they'll take the
00:45:30free stuff extracted from men, right? They couldn't extract resources from men based upon
00:45:34their charm, their helpfulness, their lovability, their good nature, their sense of humor, their
00:45:41willingness to be of service to the family or the man, right? They couldn't extract resources
00:45:46by peace, so they extract resources by force. They couldn't extract resources by negotiation,
00:45:52so they have to extract resources by coercion.
00:45:55And when people make those kinds of mistakes, and I've talked about this before, so I won't
00:46:00go into it in depth here, but of course, women when they got pregnant out of wedlock
00:46:09often would end up as prostitutes dying of syphilis before the age of 30. And their children
00:46:16before the age of 30. And their children would be orphaned, abandoned, often trafficked,
00:46:23rented out to pedophiles, like it was really a complete nightmare of an existence for women who
00:46:28got pregnant out of wedlock prior to the welfare state. And men, of course, know that people have
00:46:35to suffer in order for civilization to continue. Civilization is, in part, significantly allowing
00:46:42bad decisions. The people who make bad decisions have to suffer,
00:46:46and that way they act as instructions for other people to not make bad decisions.
00:46:54And women don't like watching anyone suffer because they're evolved to take care of babies
00:47:00and toddlers, and you can't watch babies and toddlers suffer and say, well, it serves them
00:47:03right because they're babies and toddlers, so it doesn't serve them right. I told him not to
00:47:09play by those stairs. Serves him right if he fell down and his head's bleeding, right?
00:47:13That's not what you want to do as a parent, as a mother, for sure.
00:47:22So, the unique and massive disasters that young women are susceptible to that young men aren't.
00:47:29Now, young men are susceptible to them in the case of the shotgun wedding, right?
00:47:34If there was a law that said, I'm not saying there should be, but if there was a law that said,
00:47:39now that we have paternity testing, if there was a law that said, if you get a woman pregnant,
00:47:43you're automatically married. Well, people would be a lot more careful about birth control, right?
00:47:52People would be a lot more careful who they slept with. They'd engage in forms of non-procreative
00:47:57sex. They'd have double-wrapped condoms. They'd have whatever, right? But that's how it used to be
00:48:04in many ways. I mean, I mentioned this in my truth about the Wild West, like a third of
00:48:08weddings in many parts of 19th century, 18th century America were shotgun weddings.
00:48:15And it works to a large degree. So, because women are capable of, you know, the 15-second
00:48:26multi-decade catastrophe, either we work to prevent that catastrophe or we have to pay for
00:48:34the consequences. Now, working to prevent that catastrophe means that nobody can be forced to
00:48:38pay for the consequences. If nobody can be forced to pay for the consequences, then the negatives of
00:48:49bad decisions accrue to the woman, accrue to her immediate family, accrue to the man
00:48:56who might have to marry her or whatever. But it doesn't accrue to society as a whole.
00:49:08And that's sort of the male-female response to disaster. The female response to disaster
00:49:14is to provide resources. The male response to disaster is to provide judgment.
00:49:21So, the little three-year-old Turkish boy who washed up on the shores of the Mediterranean,
00:49:26the women were like, well, this is terrible. We can't have borders because, right? And for men,
00:49:30it was like, I think that dad should be in jail for putting his kid on an overloaded boat and
00:49:36him out or sending everyone out in a storm. But the women, it's like, well, we're responsible for
00:49:42that kid dying on the beach and the men are like, no, no. I mean, I can get fined for my kid riding
00:49:47a bike without a helmet, right? I mean, the dad should go to jail for reckless child endangerment
00:49:52for putting his kids on a boat and heading out into a storm because he wanted free dental care
00:49:56in Canada. That's the difference, right? And both are beautiful in the free market. Both are
00:50:03beautiful in the free market. So, a woman who has a child out of wedlock, which is really the
00:50:11foundation of the welfare state and one of the reasons why marriage has been destroyed, a woman
00:50:15has a child out of wedlock, needs resources so desperately she cannot afford to empathize with
00:50:20those she takes from. It's the starving man analogy, like if you want to know what that's
00:50:26like, right? Imagine that for some reason you're starving and penniless in some foreign land and
00:50:32if you don't get food in the next hour or two, you're probably going to die and you can't speak
00:50:38the language and you're probably going to steal, right? You're probably going to, you know,
00:50:42steal a loaf of bread and just eat it and then you'll say, oh gosh, you know, I'll get my
00:50:47strength back up, I'll get a job, I'll pay it back, you know, but you're going to die and so
00:50:53because you're going to die, because the stakes are so high, empathy becomes impossible. Or to
00:51:02put it another way, anybody who was starving and had some genetic predisposition to empathizing
00:51:08with the baker so he wouldn't steal the bread, just died and those genes died with him, whereas
00:51:12those who are like, okay, if I'm in a situation of extremity, then I'm going to get resources
00:51:17by any means necessary, those genes survive, right? Women who were like, well, I guess I
00:51:24had a kid out of wedlock but I don't impose on the dad and I don't want to impose upon my family
00:51:29and I don't want to get resources that I haven't voluntarily earned, well, those genes just didn't
00:51:33last, because those kids didn't last. So genes of turning off empathy in a situation of extremity
00:51:45are those that last. I mean, for men, it's the equivalent of war, right? If you empathize with
00:51:52the enemy soldier, you're going to get killed. If you empathize with the deer, you're going to starve.
00:52:03You have to kill the deer to get the meat.
00:52:10So human beings are produced from a situation of emergency, right? So we come out of the womb and
00:52:18we need tens of thousands of hours and hundreds of thousands of dollars to make it to adulthood.
00:52:25So we are birthed in a situation of extremity. That situation of extremity puts women in a panic,
00:52:31has them run to the state, the result of that being that they have to not have empathy with the
00:52:40men who are disproportionately forced to pay for their children and themselves. It's the same thing
00:52:51with the elderly, with pensions and health care and so on, right? They're not empathizing with
00:52:59the young because they're exploiting the young. Because old people voted for lots of social
00:53:07programs and not high enough taxes to cover them and therefore they can't empathize with the young.
00:53:14Because if they empathize with the young, they'd have to say, well, we have to cut,
00:53:18severely cut social security because the young people can't get ahead, the taxes are too high,
00:53:23the burden is too high, we didn't have enough kids, the boomers aborted like a third of their
00:53:27offspring. We didn't have enough kids, we weren't nice enough to our kids, we didn't save enough
00:53:31money, we have neither the financial, familial or social capital to survive comfortably in our old
00:53:39age, so we're going to be nice to the young and cut our pensions. Well, you could never win on
00:53:44that, right? So the old can't empathize with the young, which is what happened over COVID, right?
00:53:48COVID was a giant transfer. I mean, I was talking to a friend of mine whose kid is in a school.
00:53:54Schools were completely broken over COVID and from what I've heard, schools were completely
00:53:59broken over COVID and I don't know if and ever they're going to recover. I mean,
00:54:04things in the free market can recover because you can adapt, right? Like when Intel had this
00:54:10issue with its calculation software, hardware, software, it was able to recover, right?
00:54:17When Tylenol, when some crazy guy was poisoning Tylenol tablets, they were able to recover.
00:54:22So free market systems can recover, government systems can't because there's no strictness,
00:54:28there's no reform, there's no willing to meet the needs of the customer.
00:54:35The school system is absolutely broken because, you know, kids were home for a year or two,
00:54:40not listening, cheating on all their tests, so the knowledge hasn't been gathered, the teachers
00:54:46got comfortable staying home, nobody wants to be there, there's no control, everybody knows it's a
00:54:50farce. And COVID broke the school system, I mean, it broke it before but it completely shattered it
00:54:59and it shattered most people's, most reasonable skeptics' faith in any kind of alphabet
00:55:03institution. And it also broke the covenant of the generations, which is, you know, old people
00:55:09were scared into sacrificing the freedoms and autonomy of young people. It's a break, right?
00:55:19As the old saying goes, civilization is sustained when old people plant trees whose shade they will
00:55:26never live to see or feel. I mean, as an older person myself, I have been relatively content
00:55:34to burn my reputation to the ground for the sake of planting seeds that I will not see.
00:55:40I'm planting seeds for trees whose shade I will never experience, right? Which is,
00:55:46the credibility of the future will be at war with the slander of the present, for me, right?
00:55:53But you have to make some sacrifices to move civilization forward as best you can. There's
00:55:58still free will on the part of those who listen, but you have to make some sacrifices as the old
00:56:04in order to secure a better situation for the young. And so I had to throw my reputation on
00:56:13the bonfire in order to have the best chance or hope for securing a better future for the young.
00:56:18And it certainly has happened. I mean, I'm certainly living to see that now. It's all the
00:56:21people who email me saying that peaceful parenting is what they do and how happy they are with all
00:56:25of that and how grateful they are that I talked about it. And I thank you, of course, for all of
00:56:29your support over this tumultuous time of the last, I guess, 20 years almost. So, because women
00:56:40face a unique set of catastrophes regarding pregnancy, they have to be able to shed empathy
00:56:51in order to provide resources for their children. This is also part of, you know,
00:56:59why did women evolve to have this sort of nagging thing? Well, because they need resources. And if
00:57:04the man is lazy, they need to nag him. If he's hedonistic, right, then they need to make it less
00:57:10comfortable for him to be home, so he goes out and works, right? Get out of here and get me some
00:57:15money too, as the old song goes. They have to get the resources. They have to get the resources.
00:57:27And you can, you know, hear this in some of the sort of rap songs, you know, the women just sort
00:57:31of screeching about getting the money, getting the money, getting the money, the Moulin Rouge thing.
00:57:37But they need the money. They need the resources for their kids. Now, the last thing I'll say here,
00:57:44and again, happy to take any questions, is that women have two routes to gain resources.
00:57:51Love and hostility. Women have two routes to gain resources, love and hostility. Now, love,
00:57:59of course, is the man loves her, respects her, treasures her, and is happy to provide whatever
00:58:04he can to make her comfortable, goes to work with a spring in his step and a song in his heart
00:58:09because he just loves his family so much that he is happy to work and provide for them, and yeah,
00:58:16all this kind of stuff. It's good, nice, juicy, lovely stuff. And that's one way that the woman
00:58:22can get resources. And the other way that the woman can get resources is to nag, to
00:58:29be full of hostility and negativity and contempt and so on. And that is sort of the modern feminist
00:58:38thing, right, that the women are getting resources by being hostile. And so, a woman can get resources
00:58:44through empathy or through selfishness. What matters, of course, is that the kids get the
00:58:52resources, so women have to have that dual nature in order to be able to survive. Now, the thing
00:58:58be able to survive. Now, the best way to get resources, of course, is through love,
00:59:01but failing that, you have to get resources through contempt, hatred, hostility,
00:59:05and dehumanization of the other. To nag a man, you have to not empathize with him.
00:59:13For women to catawall in the streets and say how they don't need men and men are trash,
00:59:19clearly you have to not empathize with men and how that lands.
00:59:22But, of course, the sultan or the pasha who had a harem didn't have to care about the preferences
00:59:27of the women who were enslaved to his sexual desires. And modern women who can get money
00:59:33from the state don't have to care about the feelings of men who can be enslaved to their
00:59:38desires. It's the same. It's a harem, not a harem now, the harem of male taxpayers. And this is why
00:59:44men are going on strike. Because a man, you can get resources out of a man by nagging him,
00:59:50but it's a diminishing return. Because he just tunes you out, he stops caring, he gets depressed,
00:59:56he doesn't have motivation to work, he doesn't have enthusiasm or happiness or joy.
01:00:00So, you just kind of grind him down. You'll get resources in the here and now at the expense of
01:00:04his happiness and enthusiasm and productivity in the future. A man who has a harem,
01:00:11and productivity in the future. A man who goes to work out of love will always outcompete a man
01:00:17who goes out of work out of nagging or hatred or hostility, right? You know, these poor husbands,
01:00:24you sort of hear these stories, right? These poor husbands who say, you know, like, oh man,
01:00:29I drive for an hour to get home and then I just sit on the street a block or two away for like,
01:00:35I don't know, like just 20 more minutes, just to get a few more minutes of peace.
01:00:43So, a woman who nags a man, he will go on strike over time. And you can see this, of course,
01:00:51happening in the world as a whole, that the men are going on strike considerably. It's not just
01:00:57MGTOW or monk mode or anything like that, but men just as a whole are going on strike.
01:01:01Because if they're not loved by women, why would they work hard? I mean, men work hard
01:01:09because we are loved. And the best way to destroy an economy is to turn women against their men.
01:01:18These bitter memes about, like, me and the boys fighting in Taiwan because Taylor Swift
01:01:22convinced a bunch of childhood liberals to vote for the warmonger.
01:01:31So, hatred and contempt and dehumanization always collapses in on itself because it removes the joy
01:01:42that is required for productivity and growth. And why are the economies slowing down? I mean,
01:01:47I get the regulations and taxes and debt. I get all of that. But foundationally,
01:01:50these things can be overcome. And we saw that in the Trump era, right?
01:01:53We saw that in the Trump era. Lower taxes, less migration, lower housing costs,
01:02:04forced motivation for men to founding families. The fact that men can't get jobs these days means
01:02:11that men can't found families. Kills the birth rate, kills enthusiasm, motivation.
01:02:17And men become hedonists because there's no practical value to sacrifice.
01:02:24And all of this will be restored. All of this balance will be restored. The only real question
01:02:31is how much suffering will people have to go through to restore the balance? All of this
01:02:38gets restored because all irrationalities have to be paid for by others. And the irrationality
01:02:44that women have, that they don't need men, has to be paid for largely by men.
01:02:54All of this will be restored. It may take a hundred years or more. All of this imbalance,
01:03:00probably a lot less, but all of this imbalance will be restored. It's just a question of how
01:03:05much suffering has to happen before then. And of course, my goal has been less suffering would be
01:03:10good. Less suffering would be excellent. I mean, there's no no suffering, right? It's not a case
01:03:18that there's going to be a possibility of no suffering, but we can of course aim for less
01:03:25suffering, which is generally the goal that I'm after. All right. So that's my particular topic
01:03:33and talk for today. And I'm happy to take any questions or comments. If you are all at work and
01:03:40in a fairly listening type mode, that of course is beyond totally fine. So I'll just pause here
01:03:47for a sec and see if anybody has questions, comments, issues, challenges. You can just click
01:03:52on the want to talk button and I'm happy to take that. Otherwise, we'll close off and I'll talk
01:04:00to you soon. Yes. Hello, Stefan. This is Helen. Oh, hey, Helen. It's a coincidence. I just listened
01:04:11to a video you put up recently about women and society.
01:04:23The way I interpreted your conversation was how essential we women are for society.
01:04:30I understand you have your opinions and I have my own, but I appreciate that you're taking the time
01:04:36to share with us the perspective of society as a whole and us men and women,
01:04:45how necessary we each are to create
01:04:52the environment for our children to grow and thrive. So I just want to say thank you.
01:04:58Oh, you're very welcome. I mean, one of my major goals is love is the greatest joy
01:05:03that is. One of the reasons that I speak so strongly against coercion is that coercion
01:05:12leads to narcissism because you can't empathize with those you're exploiting
01:05:16and narcissists can't be loved. Selfishness is the opposite of love. So I want people to
01:05:25be in love, to be loved, to have that joy and support and goodwill of those in their life,
01:05:30which means we have to cast aside exploitation and we have to work to mutual benefit
01:05:35with sympathy, with empathy, with understanding. And that's one of the reasons that I am such a
01:05:41foe of violence. Obviously, it's immoral and all of that, but the real cost of violence is the
01:05:45capacity for love. The real cost of exploitation is happiness. And while exploitation will give
01:05:54you short-term relief like a drug, it destroys your soul in the long run, which is again,
01:05:57that devil analogy of I'll give you something for free, but it will cost you your soul. That means
01:06:02I will tempt you to exploit others and that will cost you your empathy. And through the removal of
01:06:08your empathy, you lose the capacity to love and be loved and everything just becomes predatory
01:06:13and false. So I appreciate your comment though. Is there anything else that you wanted to add?
01:06:21There could be a little bit, but I wasn't prepared. It's unexpected that I have this
01:06:26opportunity to speak with you. I'm going to have to consider and hopefully I'll have a second
01:06:35opportunity. Yes, and maybe I'll actually do some work ahead of time to schedule these things,
01:06:39but I just had a little bit of time window open up. All right. Well, I thank you for your comments.
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