90 Day Fiance The Other Way Season 6 Episode 5
90 Day Fiance The Other Way S06E05
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00:00Don't see my baby
00:02Previously on 90-day fiance the other way
00:05I was actually not looking for love and here comes in key bulldozing into my frickin life changing everything is scary
00:12But he's my person
00:16By plan a moment
00:21We just started dating I definitely don't have a ring my pocket
00:27You
00:29Said you want a wedding. So I said, okay you said you wanted to buy so wedding if you say so
00:39Gadget nigga, what's his hand? Y'all the church's boo. Yeah, I have no money. Yes. I know
00:49How is your family feeling about the k1 she kinda and I applied for k1 visa I wasn't eager
00:55I didn't say don't worry to me. Do you really want to go to the u.s?
01:08I have no house. I abandoned my family coming back to the States would be just emotionally traumatizing
01:17I
01:34So glad to be off the plane
01:48I
01:50Eat my Wheaties today
01:55But I
01:58Feel great to be in Iceland like okay. This is my home. This isn't just a place my boyfriend lives
02:03So this is a place we live so it's kind of crazy
02:08You know, you definitely still have a lot to learn about each other
02:10I mean, I'm nervous because I've been soft partnering him like there's been times where I want to pop off
02:16But I don't so yeah, he's gonna find out slowly how weird I am
02:32It's finally happening, it's actually the first time I'm giving her flowers so yeah can't wait
02:40Showing up with flowers
02:42Obviously comes from watching a lot of movies, you know women like flowers, right?
02:47I mean, this is like all like new to me, but just excited for the ride
03:12I
03:18Missed you. How are you? Really good. Thank you. Welcome home
03:28Singing he for the first time what I expected was a big romantic gesture and then what I got was kind of like
03:34How I reckon he probably kisses his grandma
03:37You
03:41Haven't seen me in so long like come on fool
03:45You know, you know
03:47They're really pretty. Yeah, I picked them up myself. Can you believe it? Yeah. Yeah. Oh
03:54Right. That's really sweet. I
03:57Try my best. I am very excited to get like to the house
04:01Shower relax get a nap snuggle with my man's and then whatever else happens happens. Yeah
04:15Yeah, it's like minus ten I think oh my god, oh
04:19I
04:20Don't think I sons ready, but I think slowly I slim will get ready for me. Let's hope I think he's ready
04:27Yeah, I'm ready. He's not ready
04:31Yeah, it's gonna be awesome
04:39Put the heat in the seat
04:43Yeah, I get that but nice and toasty
04:46All right. I really love that. The Sun is coming out at 930 now days keep getting longer. So
04:53I'm not the best driver in snow. That's all I need to like I need some snow driving lessons
05:00I'll teach you man
05:02Stop it
05:06Your precious cargo, yeah, I don't
05:10I'm excited to be like headed to our home. Yeah
05:14I'm just I know I'm looking forward to just I don't be with my person
05:23Yeah, yeah
05:25I'm not appreciating his vibe. It's a little too blase for the love of your life
05:32Just got off a plane to derail her whole life for you
05:35I'm hoping he's still on board with me coming because this is a really big deal
05:40Does he not understand what the hell is happening?
05:44I'm not sure. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know
05:48I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know
05:50I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know
05:52What the hell is happening
06:22I
06:39Have been back in Istanbul for a few days and Sarper and I still have a lot of issues to work through
06:44But tonight we want to have some fun
06:48I
06:50Love the soon because she is a straight shooter
06:53Like she doesn't sugarcoat anything and I'm kind of the same way so I can really appreciate that
06:58I just have a lot of respect for her
07:01Sorry excited to be here. Yeah, I was gone for so long. That was the longest time. We've been apart. Yeah
07:08107 days he counted the days
07:10Two thousand five hundred and sixty has he always been like this
07:18We'll see him like this for a long time
07:22Wait, it went away for a while. Yeah, he found a way to
07:26Finish this I was gonna say was anxiety. Yeah
07:30it was a
07:32Top thing in your high school, right? Yeah those times. Yeah
07:37That age, I'm in high school was so difficult for me I
07:43Remember
07:46Physically I was a chubby guy
07:49fat
07:50What's more than 260 pounds or more?
07:56Yeah
07:59During my high school, I was not a good-looking guy. I was a chubby guy
08:06I'm ashamed of it, but I don't know why I just want to share everything that she kinda know nothing to hide from her
08:16What age was this
08:1913 14 I think because of the teenage face
08:22Yeah, it's normal and then they lose the baby fat. I bet you were so cute
08:29It was really fat, I mean I was eating like maniac and then other guys start to
08:36Bully with me. I mean, you know, I remember your jacket. Yeah, and why what they called you?
08:44truck driver why
08:46Because of that black leather jacket. I don't know. Am I a truck driver?
08:50Like this fashion. I was bottling up and I'm a chubby guy, baby
08:56I hate that you went through that
09:00After age of 15
09:03I had a girlfriend the first girlfriend. I
09:07was still I lost weights, but
09:11she was beautiful and
09:13One day I saw her with another guy
09:19What was she doing
09:21Kissing and walking down. Yes. I
09:25Called my dad and he said that you can trust any woman
09:33After that I changed I mean it was an impact
09:36It changed a lot
09:37Even he was recommending me not to fall in love any guy because falling in love is such a dumb thing to do
09:45So do you feel like you just push people away whenever they would get too close after that never trusted to any woman, but you
09:54I think Sarp are hearing that at a young age really shaped how he saw women in general and
10:01It's not an excuse for his behavior, but it definitely helps me understand him better
10:06I'm really happy to know about this because
10:11Some of these women from his past are reaching out to me on social media
10:14I
10:20Don't I mean, I don't need to say their names but some of them have reached out
10:28I'm just saying like these are real people that it were really hurt. I have no no, no, no, no, don't don't dive into that
10:35They're not hurts. They're just jealous
10:38But he made us so many women feel terrible
10:41Yes, because because of them they feel terrible not because of him
10:49I'm shocked to see that for soon and Sarp were both have no empathy whatsoever for the women in his past that he's hurt
10:56Whether it's intentional or not that Sarp er has hurt all these women the really alarming part for me is that he?
11:04Doesn't realize it
11:06I'm seeing sides of him that I never saw before
11:11That gives me a really bad feeling and I don't like that
11:26They always come to him I'm sure
11:34Wow, babe, you're really into this
11:37You're like really into this
11:40Okay, maybe don't touch him
11:43Okay, well he's in a relationship so you can
11:51All right, babe, that's enough
11:55That's all she gets
11:58But she's dancing to me it's a tradition each respect. I want you to be respectful
12:04Definitely make sure you're being respectful
12:07That's very respectful of you
12:17What is she doing she will be clean you're here it tickles
12:25I
12:38Don't even know if James won a kid it's gonna let my brain down
12:54You
13:10So I just got off the bus
13:12First part of this journey is done still a lot more parts to go
13:18Today I will be boarding my first flight to Turkey
13:22All in all three planes one car one bus and then in Yogyakarta
13:27I have to take a cab to the train station, so I'm basically hitting them all no boats, but hey I couldn't find one
13:34I
13:46Can't begin catch up to you. Yeah, I think a little bit to the other side. Yeah
13:51young chocolate Apollo
13:54Every day me and my parents we always make a banana chips together for the business
14:00Motto clean it all over open do look at any lucky. Yeah. Yeah, I
14:07Haven't told my parent that James and I will move here because I rather have James by my side in person
14:14So for now, I just gonna tell him that James coming here for visit
14:21Boundary Nina T. Apa
14:23I
14:25Must see Jim lucky in the lucky lucky. Oh, they were Cassini
14:33Oh Cassini. Yeah
14:36That's a matter to suck our
14:40Hip-hop hip-hop
14:42I think a little semi you don't mean who Polly Bolliger young descending on bloomer. Nah. Yeah, that's it. Yeah
14:53I
15:00Mean
15:02Yummy, I'll be on me to the country
15:06Ben mama
15:07No one mama
15:10But making the word
15:12The bendy or listen to go
15:19I'll be a meat hunter Joe
15:21I
15:23Think I thought one job, but we're gonna sculling a pool on it. Oh, my
15:35Lindo to lose
15:38My monocle see some water science more to my Nikon, I think that's it. I think I think this is my
15:46I
15:48Think Jim, so I don't some of them. Oh, yeah. Yeah, but I just put you on a come on. Yeah, I lose put you on a
15:57Wrong one. I would have put you on a number. Yeah, mommy to go. God. I think it will mass at the boom. Okay. Yeah
16:03I'm gonna put you on a yeah, I'm
16:05So, yeah
16:09Penguin
16:11Ningkah sama Tata
16:13companion Punyana
16:16See I can't recover
16:18In Indonesia the youngest kids supposed to take care of their parents
16:23So I've been letting them down and then they want a grandkids so badly. I just know that
16:31But now I don't even know if James one a kid it's gonna let my parent down to
16:41It was it is go song do
17:00I
17:06Honey Hangzhou
17:09evening
17:10Looks so good
17:12Hmm. It's been a couple days since I've been in China and it's freaking awesome
17:16I've always loved watching
17:19China and movies. I'm actually speechless and ah that I'm here. I
17:24live in China now, I
17:27Can't believe it
17:30Hi dick, so I will enjoy a heart massage. Okay, you enjoy your massage
17:37We're sure to digest you guys. Oh, yeah. We're she when they come from the fungus. I got four XL
17:46Staff is smart
17:49So I'll adjust it. I'm a dark door. You mean John I don't shoot. What are they?
17:54You can't even the pumpkin you don't do young young the face on the school
18:00I
18:02Need yes, if you're fading
18:05Uncomfortable, you can tell me. Okay, okay
18:12In gibberish toes away one again, uh-oh boo-hoo. Okay
18:31With a fading
18:39It tickles but it feels so good
18:48She's a young what is she doing? She will be clean your ear
19:00Are they using like a lot of tools I
19:04Was a little worried that they were gonna go a little too far and dig into my brain, but it felt good
19:10It was amazing. I will take ear picking over a massage any day
19:17How are you feeling now
19:20So relax you're feeling good, I'm happy
19:26Because she yes
19:29Mmm when we try on wedding clothes you told it to me
19:35Our waiting you think for our family
19:39Yes
19:41But you forgot honey one day you told it to me you want to China waiting. I
19:49Just recalled differently that you wanted to have a ceremony here in China
19:56And I thought that was a great idea
19:59She's not bad. It'll hold me. So what's the chance? I want to make sure about that. That's
20:05Yes, it's not a good中國式的婚禮所以我還是尊重他讓他去改說我們中式婚禮
20:12Regardless of who said it
20:14You don't have to spend
20:17so much money
20:19I'll send you how to change into the food. You'll get so long. I'll show you how that one
20:23Japan would you teach me to be the sushi? Yes. Yes. Yes, you mean
20:28Okay, I want you to understand. I don't care
20:33About money, you know, I don't have much I don't like to spend money
20:40So I would never wanted a large
20:44expensive I
20:45Wouldn't like I'm sorry. You're fine. I would never want us spending a lot of money
20:52Because you work hard for it
20:55And before I moved here, I told you the one thing I'm gonna struggle with is
20:59Not being able to provide so just understand it bothers me. I can't financially contribute
21:06Okay
21:10Big business all I got into you don't know how I can
21:13I'll show my eyes on you good enough. Yes. Yeah, I'm gonna change. What did you know to see? Yeah, you wait. I don't know
21:19What's true?
21:21What's this young time? You might have got so down
21:25Will it play?
21:40For now when I study new life, okay, every day is a new day
21:51Every love story should have a happy ending
21:56Okay
21:58What happy ending my shots a happy ending? No love story. This is love
22:04I only want to have happy ending to the love story. Okay
22:10How much more time do we have alone in this room
22:15So how much what me and you in here alone do you understand I
22:23Think a two minutes or three minutes. Okay. Yeah, just need a minute
22:36Babe I thought you were gonna move your crap
22:40One of my biggest triggers is when people break promises
22:43So in my head, I'm thinking bitch. Why wouldn't you move your out of my side of the closet step aside?
23:13Okay
23:15Sit sit
23:17ball
23:18Good boy. Good boy
23:21Ever since our per posted a picture of us on his social media women have been reaching out to me to tell me that he is
23:29Manipulative that he's a liar cheater and the list goes on
23:33so I actually want to meet with one of these women because if I'm gonna marry Sarper and
23:38She feels like she needs to warn me about him. I definitely want to hear what she has to say
23:44Good. Yeah, what's up?
23:48I'm just getting ready to work. I
23:53am meeting with your ex Nora
23:59She reached out to me and she told me that she had stuff she wanted to tell me about her
24:06Relationship with you and she didn't want to text about it. So I'm gonna meet with her
24:13Didn't we talk about that? I mean, what is the reason I know what she has to say like this is
24:19This is my life and like if I'm gonna have a future with you like I
24:24Need to know about your past more
24:27Maybe I already told everything about my past, you know, I don't think you have
24:33Sarper tells me that he's told me everything about his past
24:36but I don't really feel like I'm getting the whole story and
24:40Nora's messages stood out to me because she claimed to have an actual relationship with him
24:47It's kind of you don't know Turkish girls. They can exaggerate everything. They can say so can you write things?
24:54No, I'm so honest with you totally
24:57Are you worried that she's gonna say something that's gonna change how I feel about you. I said to you everything about myself
25:03I mean, I don't remember that. I don't remember that
25:06Think between us in details did you have feelings for this person? No, I never I
25:16Don't understand what she kind of thinks right now
25:19I mean that girl X of mine why she reached to my girlfriend. She wants to trash me
25:25You know if she wants to say something good about me
25:28She can make a comment put a heart something good guys
25:32You are created for each other say something like this, but no she just want to trash me
25:36That's why she wanted to meet with she kinda it is completely bull. You know, I
25:42Don't want you to go babe. I'm gonna I'm not gonna
25:46Let you go, please. I'm not gonna let you stop me
26:02After
26:13We be here
26:24What's so warm in here we'd be home you need like a cute vase for my flowers. Yeah
26:32Got a cute vase right here. Perfect. Yeah
26:36It feels amazing to be back together for sure
26:39Long-distance sucks, and I'm glad to like just now be able to touch him
26:44Yeah, likewise
26:49Whoo, oh my goodness, it's beautiful. So perfect. We cute
26:55Oh
26:58Flowers you just gave me another bouquet tomorrow flowers every day, you know
27:09See babe plenty of space
27:14Babe
27:15Yeah, I know. Yeah, we'll figure this out. I need the whole side. I know. I thought you were gonna move your crap
27:21I didn't have that
27:23But it will be moved
27:25Cuz I mean all of this and maybe a little bit of this side, too
27:31You can take the top top ones I can't reach no we can also get you a little stool
27:36When I came a couple months ago, I prepped in key on things. I expected to have in the house
27:42Where am I gonna put my shoes?
27:48The biggest thing was moving all his stuff from my side of the closet
27:53So, how can I help?
27:55You can admire my shoes
27:57One of my biggest triggers is when people break promises and don't do the things that they say they're gonna do
28:02So if I wasn't soft partnering him in my head, I'm thinking bitch
28:07Why wouldn't you move your out of my side of the closet? It takes two goddamn seconds
28:17Big shoes these make me feel like a vampire princess
28:23I
28:25Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's a yeah step aside
28:32Vampire princess, okay
28:35Hmm just boots no clothes just use just use yeah, I'll be nude in boots. Nice
28:42So, I guess they're okay with that, you know, I'll wear the vampire princess. Yeah, exactly. They're the most coverage
28:49I'll introduce you like this. Yeah, the Corona my girlfriend vampire princess
29:02You feeling overwhelmed how you feeling
29:07You know a lot of shoes
29:13Sharing my home with my partner for the first time really excites me
29:18But like I'm a little nervous too we both have to learn like how the other individuals are
29:25Because we are both independent people
29:27more shoes to come
29:29Because it's no longer a bachelor pad
29:34And hopefully we can you know adjust
29:38Nice that's nice
29:41So, yeah
29:44We good
29:46Last time that I was here in Iceland. I could tell inky missed me this time
29:50I'm getting the most tepid lukewarm welcome from the love of my life
29:56So I really hope that he is ready to mature and evolve in this relationship
30:01Okay, I really do want to take a shower. Yeah do it
30:10Hope that's not my train
30:13Oh
30:17Today I'm gonna meet James again
30:20But everything is so different from what we used to remain and I'm just so scared. He will feel homesick
30:35So I am on
30:38the second leg of my trip
30:40It's still hard to believe it's actually happening. I'm excited to be able to hold her again kiss her
30:54Finally here today I have the train ride and then I will be back with Tata, but I am running a little bit late
31:04So I have come to the bathroom at the train station so I can shave
31:10Don't have much time left. So I've got to be really fast about this, but also I don't want to look like Swiss cheese
31:15When I see her because let's just say that's not the most attractive
31:21Hope that's not my train
31:23Oh
31:38Today is finally the day that I'm gonna meet James again after a month been separated. I'm so excited
31:47Can't wait to just be monkey and just jump on him and hug him
31:51I'm gonna enter in neck motor. Take one changing doctor running on this. Oh, yeah
31:58Yeah, I'm a pop
32:00Nila rambunja Tata to do it. I took a Japan Mulu
32:04Nanda Petty Monga. Yeah
32:09My sister did you met James one time when we're engaged she can see that we are a soul mate
32:16So I already told DJ that we are here for stay
32:20And she's like so excited in the same with all of my sibling
32:26And now the only one they're not knowing about it is my parent
32:30How long is only a James? No, so caddy's in me
32:33So I can someone yeah, but I've never been a bit of it. Oh, daddy
32:37Ananya
32:39Romania, I'm gonna put this can't say I'm gonna suck up at it. Don't get
32:43Nellie's I could put it
32:44gonna mention
32:47The people
32:49Different the language different the food different. It's just everything is so different from what we used to remain
32:56So I know how he feel
32:59Dangan the good
33:01Yeah
33:02Let's go and I'm just so scared. He will feel home safe
33:08But it's not possible
33:13Okay, I put the one per time
33:19I
33:49I
34:05Missed you
34:14We've had the whole world between us for 37 days and
34:18It's like breathing for the first time
34:30Move your luggage. Yeah, I know. I know I
34:35Did shape and I cut myself 15 times it was a very it was the cheapest razor. It was like 20 cents
34:47Oh
34:50So good
34:52Put a hunter in Tata Cassini, but come by. Yes. He dropped me up here for you
35:00Are you ready to go to see my parents?
35:04I'm ready to go wherever you go. Okay, I'm nervous this time because
35:08I'm
35:10Telling mom
35:13I know
35:15How are you doing
35:19There's no world that could never keep us apart
35:23With all of my heart you're my universe
35:28You're my galaxy you're my star and the moon you're my son. Okay, let's go back. Okay fun
35:37Let's see mom and dad
35:42The
35:45Fact that Harper was so adamant that he didn't want me to go meet her
35:50Makes me want to hear what she has to say even more. He said he loved you also
35:55Okay
36:12You
36:23Nor's message to me sounded like a warning like it sounded like a girl to girl like don't trust this guy
36:36And
36:38The fact that Harper was so adamant that he didn't want me to go meet her was really suspicious
36:44And it makes me want to hear what she has to say even more
36:47Hi
36:50Yes, nice to meet you, thank you for coming
37:00Okay
37:08And in charge, please
37:12So I just like to know how long in total would you say that you and Sarp or we're seeing each other
37:24Ortalama, which dirt are going to
37:31Talk to the fish that pop on your shield almost directly message a shield
37:38Three times a week, but I texted all the time. Okay, he's ortalama
37:44He said I'm just in there. This is a better verdict. Can you see them?
37:49arkadaşlık uygulaması üzerinden
37:51Eşleşip tanıştık
37:53Sanki karşımdaki adamı yıllardır tanıyormuşum gibi bir samimiyet sergilemişti zaten ve bu benim için anlam ifade ediyordu
38:01Uzun zaman sonra ilk kez bir kadına karşı böyle duygular beslediğini bu şekilde hissettirdiğini söyledi
38:14Konuştuğumuz süre boyunca sürekli her sabah onun günaydın mesajlarıyla işte günaydın aşkım günaydın meleğim
38:22Tarzında güzel mesajlarıyla karşılaşıyordum
38:25Tabiki de bir yerden sonra sevgilim diye hitap ettiği mesajlar vardı
38:30Ya da işte ben ona seni seviyorum dediğim zamanlarda ben de seni seviyorum diyebiliyordu çok rahat bir şekilde
38:38He said he loved you also
38:42Evet
38:44Evet
38:46Evet
38:48Evet
38:50Evet
38:52Evet
38:55Evet
39:00He has told me that he's never said I love you to another woman besides me so it makes me feel like he's a liar now
39:19Sarper has told me that I am the first and only woman he's ever said I love you to
39:24And this woman is telling me that he also said that to her
39:27It hurts, you know, and I feel foolish because that tells me that he has not been truthful
39:34I'm really good at hiding how I feel. So I know that I look pretty calm and collected but inside
39:41I'm feeling so much confusion. I was willing to believe that he was gonna be different with me, but
39:48Now my head is spinning and I just really don't know what to believe
39:55So, how did the relationship and like how did you guys eventually just stop seeing each other
40:01Hot dog, you can't get a windy başka kadın eşyalarına denk gelmiştim ve yakın arkadaşlarının olduğunu
40:09Kalmalarının bir problem olmayacağını söylemiştik
40:13Tamamen beni manipüle etmeye çalışıyordu sert mizacıyla bana hakaret edip aşağılayarak
40:24Humiliating me with his harsh temperament
40:29Aberleşiriz dedi ve birkaç gün boyunca hiçbir şekilde aramalarıma ve mesajlarıma cevap verme
40:36Bir anda adam yok oldu ortalardan
40:43Manipüle etme taktiklerinden bir tanesi ben o adamın gerçekten çok büyük bir yalancı olduğuna eminim yalan konuşmak onun için
40:52Bir çocuğun ağlaması kadar basit
40:54O yüzden şu kaynanada çok dikkatli olmasına
40:59Hani sana ne kadar samimi geldiğimi bilmiyorum ama gerçekten ben buraya bütün içtenliğimle seni uyarmak için
41:06izinmeni istemediğimden dolayı geldim
41:09Üzülmeni istemediğim için de hepsi
41:17Next time on 90 day fiance the other way so nervous. I've never been to your house
41:25You need salon come on Tim
41:28There's nothing done in this room. It looks
41:32Like I'm stepping into a prison
41:38Are these the boys you always play with yes
41:41Josh's easy homie ganda. How do we show? What's good? I'm inside. Yeah, but I'll go pose a homie
41:47Oh, yeah, I know you love me. You're not in love with
41:51I
41:53Did you ever tell her you love her she say that that I say she did
42:02How do I really know that I am this one special woman in his life that he's gonna change all of his ways for
42:13Hey excited, yes, I'm excited to see you you don't wanna go
42:21So deflating is she actually excited about any of this
42:26Well, if you're not excited, you're not excited. I'll be excited on my own. I'm in charge of your happiness. You're enjoying your happiness