Ruby's Choice (2022) Drama Movie
Ruby's Choice (2022)
Synopsis:
Ruby's Choice is a heartwarming Australian drama that follows the story of Ruby, a woman with early-onset dementia. After a house fire forces her to move in with her daughter, Sharon, and her teenage granddaughter, Tash, the family's dynamics are tested.
As Ruby's condition progresses, Tash initially resents her grandmother's presence. However, over time, she begins to uncover family secrets and develops a deeper understanding of Ruby's life and experiences. Together, they embark on a journey of healing and rediscovery, as Ruby's past and present intertwine.
The film explores themes of family, love, and the challenges of caring for someone with dementia. It offers a poignant portrayal of the human spirit and the enduring bonds that can form even in the face of adversity.
Synopsis:
Ruby's Choice is a heartwarming Australian drama that follows the story of Ruby, a woman with early-onset dementia. After a house fire forces her to move in with her daughter, Sharon, and her teenage granddaughter, Tash, the family's dynamics are tested.
As Ruby's condition progresses, Tash initially resents her grandmother's presence. However, over time, she begins to uncover family secrets and develops a deeper understanding of Ruby's life and experiences. Together, they embark on a journey of healing and rediscovery, as Ruby's past and present intertwine.
The film explores themes of family, love, and the challenges of caring for someone with dementia. It offers a poignant portrayal of the human spirit and the enduring bonds that can form even in the face of adversity.
Transcript
00:00:30♪
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00:01:03This is my dad.
00:01:05♪
00:01:11And you guessed it, that's mum.
00:01:15Should have been your promotion,
00:01:17you've been there twice as long as he has.
00:01:19Yeah, I know, but what could I do about it?
00:01:21It's just the way it goes sometimes.
00:01:23Here's me, if I had a dollar for every time
00:01:26I heard my parents argue about money,
00:01:28I could build them a castle.
00:01:30It's just we were relying on that money.
00:01:33We can barely cover costs as it is.
00:01:35Yeah, well maybe if we can scrape together enough
00:01:37for a deposit, we wouldn't be wasting it on rent.
00:01:40Wasting?
00:01:41Maybe we could afford a deposit
00:01:43if someone didn't have such an expensive hobby.
00:01:46Hobby?
00:01:48Give it a rest.
00:01:49PHONE RINGS
00:01:52Hi mum?
00:01:54How are you?
00:01:56Oh, what?
00:01:58Oh, okay.
00:02:00Um, how much?
00:02:04No, no, it's okay.
00:02:05I can make it work.
00:02:07I'll drop it by later, okay?
00:02:10Alright, bye.
00:02:12PHONE BEEPS
00:02:17So it's not just me then, is it?
00:02:21Don't be so insensitive.
00:02:26It was a super tense time.
00:02:28And it wasn't only the money.
00:02:30Everything seemed to go to hell all at once.
00:02:32SIGHS
00:02:34By the end of the week, there'd be two deaths in the family.
00:02:36And the house would be,
00:02:38Actually, hang around.
00:02:40And you'll see for yourself.
00:02:45Get out of it!
00:02:47That damn cat's done it again!
00:02:49Well just spray it with a hose!
00:02:51I'll kick its flaming backside if I get hold of it.
00:02:54Oh, phew.
00:02:56Jesus.
00:03:01Hungry, Ollie?
00:03:08Some school days fizzle like a dud firework.
00:03:12Soon to be forgotten.
00:03:16Others, like today, make you think.
00:03:22As we have learnt from the examples on the board,
00:03:25journals are a superb way to record history.
00:03:29Occasionally they can be used as the source material
00:03:32for biographies, TV series, even films.
00:03:35How many of you have tried keeping one?
00:03:43It's gonna be a long day.
00:03:47See that lady?
00:03:49That's my grandma.
00:03:51She moved here with her parents in the 60s.
00:03:54All the way from London.
00:03:56She was about to change my life.
00:03:58Excuse me.
00:04:01I think you might like that one.
00:04:05Yeah, that looks nice.
00:04:08I'll have one, please.
00:04:10Perfect.
00:04:13Thank you, and there's your ticket.
00:04:15Enjoy the film.
00:04:16Thank you.
00:04:23Grandpa died years ago,
00:04:25and ever since, Grandma's lived alone,
00:04:27with only her TV to keep her company.
00:04:30Oh, hello.
00:04:32Yes, yes, I would like to buy one of your mugs.
00:04:36But don't worry.
00:04:38Even though she was on her own,
00:04:40she got heaps of calls.
00:04:42Hello?
00:04:43Yes, ma'am.
00:04:44Oh, yes.
00:04:46Is this the phone call I requested?
00:04:48You reported you were having problems with your Internet.
00:04:51Oh, dreadful, dreadful.
00:04:54Not a problem.
00:04:56I can help you fix it.
00:04:58I just need you to log on to your computer
00:05:00so I can talk you through the steps.
00:05:02Okay, good.
00:05:04Let's have a look.
00:05:06Uh...
00:05:07Computer...
00:05:11Uh...
00:05:12Oh!
00:05:14Just...
00:05:15Just hold on one moment.
00:05:18Now you just need to press the home button on your computer
00:05:21and open your browser.
00:05:23Have you opened it, ma'am?
00:05:25I'm still having issues with this blasted thing.
00:05:28What do you see on the screen?
00:05:30Nothing, just numbers.
00:05:32Numbers?
00:05:34And what do they say?
00:05:37Zero.
00:05:39Zero.
00:05:41Can you press the escape or home key?
00:05:43Oh, no, no.
00:05:45No, I don't see anything like that here,
00:05:47but I can help you.
00:05:49Oh, no, no.
00:05:51No, I don't see anything like that here,
00:05:53but, ooh, I do see one here that says reheat.
00:05:56Ooh, and there's a big one here that says open the door.
00:06:06Hello?
00:06:08Hello?
00:06:10What a pity.
00:06:12Oh, you're such a nice young man.
00:06:14That's my cousin, Ned.
00:06:18His family was going through a hard time, too.
00:06:26What about...
00:06:29that one?
00:06:44I haven't seen this one before.
00:06:50Any recommendations?
00:06:53Have you seen A Love of My Life?
00:06:55It's beyond gorrific.
00:06:57Way to see what they do to the...
00:06:59What?
00:07:00I thought you'd want to see something new,
00:07:02not the same slosh everyone else is wearing.
00:07:04And you thought a horror movie was the way to go?
00:07:07A Love of My Life is amazeballs.
00:07:10Sorry about her.
00:07:12Sorry about her.
00:07:14She's new.
00:07:16What about...
00:07:17Red Dog?
00:07:19Oh!
00:07:20I like dogs.
00:07:24Thank you.
00:07:26Thank you.
00:07:27There's your ticket.
00:07:31That lady's welcome.
00:07:33Hey, for her, it is new.
00:07:42I'll be right back.
00:08:12Oh.
00:08:34Oh, I'm afraid you have some overdue books.
00:08:37No, I...
00:08:39I won't be able to loan you these
00:08:41until you return the other one.
00:08:43Oh.
00:08:45Bye.
00:09:07Mom, it's only me.
00:09:11Mom, where's your car?
00:09:13What?
00:09:17It must have been stolen.
00:09:19What?
00:09:22God.
00:09:24I'm gonna call the police.
00:09:29Did you go anywhere today?
00:09:31Well, I did go to the library.
00:09:34But I took the bus.
00:09:36Oh, that's okay.
00:09:40You know what?
00:09:41I'm just gonna give this to Dougie to fix
00:09:43because I have no idea.
00:09:48What if they come and rob me again?
00:09:50You'll be absolutely safe
00:09:52as long as you keep the screen door locked.
00:09:54Okay?
00:09:57Um, aren't you soon for dinner?
00:09:59Oh, I can't.
00:10:00I've got an early start.
00:10:02Maybe tomorrow.
00:10:04I'll let myself out.
00:10:06Love you!
00:10:08Love you!
00:10:11Love you!
00:10:19I am having a dreadful time with this thing.
00:10:22Really?
00:10:23Well, I just keep pressing the buttons,
00:10:25but nothing seems to happen.
00:10:27...farmers communities have, while,
00:10:29played a significant and critical role
00:10:31in bringing these incidents to a conclusion...
00:10:41Oh!
00:10:42Are you okay, Mum?
00:10:43What happened?
00:10:44Oh, she's lucky to be alive.
00:10:46If I hadn't under some flames and pulled her out,
00:10:48she'd be...
00:10:49My house!
00:10:50The paintings and photographs!
00:10:53What caused it?
00:10:55I don't know.
00:10:56Perhaps it was those hooglums.
00:10:58The ones who stole my car.
00:11:00Oh, jeez, I'm gonna punch the piss out of them
00:11:02if I catch them.
00:11:04With my strong words.
00:11:06You know, until the police arrive, obviously.
00:11:08Thank you so much, George.
00:11:10You're welcome.
00:11:11She was quite distressed.
00:11:13Don't worry.
00:11:14At least you're okay.
00:11:18We're home.
00:11:24Well, it looks like Nana might be staying
00:11:26for a while, so...
00:11:28Could you, um...
00:11:30make up the spare bed?
00:11:32Oh, no, no.
00:11:33Don't be bothered on my account.
00:11:35And Frank will be by to pick me up in a minute.
00:11:38Well,
00:11:40why don't you help Tash in the meantime,
00:11:42just in case you want to stay?
00:11:58She keeps talking about your father
00:12:00like he's still alive.
00:12:02It's just a coping mechanism.
00:12:04Yeah, but he died years ago.
00:12:08I don't know.
00:12:09Could be a sign she's starting to...
00:12:11It's not.
00:12:13I know my mum.
00:12:14She's getting older,
00:12:15but she can still do things, you know?
00:12:17She's not losing it,
00:12:18but I might if you don't stop.
00:12:19You're right, eh?
00:12:21Anyway, I guess our grand plan
00:12:23to shift in with her and save rent
00:12:25went up in flames, didn't it?
00:12:27I'm just trying to lighten the mood.
00:12:31You know what you should do?
00:12:33You should go back and ask your boss for a raise.
00:12:36Okay, I told you I would.
00:12:38I'll ask him next time I see him.
00:12:46No, she has an insurance policy.
00:12:48She has a home insurance policy
00:12:50and has had it with your company for over 20 years.
00:12:52I'm sorry, but our records show
00:12:54her policy lapsed several years ago.
00:12:56Maybe your mother switched to a different insurance...
00:12:58That's impossible.
00:12:59Listen, mum changes nothing.
00:13:01I'll refer her to my manager.
00:13:03Yes, you do that.
00:13:05Thank you. We'll be in touch.
00:13:09Mum!
00:13:10The police are here.
00:13:15Did you find a car?
00:13:16No, Sharon,
00:13:17but I did want to give you an update.
00:13:18I did some checking
00:13:19and it turns out your mum's car
00:13:21hasn't been registered for the last five years.
00:13:23She always pays her bills on time.
00:13:26And something else.
00:13:27I spoke to the fireys.
00:13:29They don't think the fire at your mum's house
00:13:30was arson after all.
00:13:32It started in the kitchen.
00:13:35Sorry.
00:13:39Thanks.
00:13:40Keep a look out for the car.
00:13:46Listen, Chez,
00:13:47I'm worried about Ru.
00:13:49If she hasn't paid the insurance...
00:13:51I must say, your shower head is brilliant.
00:13:53I'm going to get your father to install one for us.
00:13:57So, mum,
00:13:58the house insurance.
00:14:00You haven't skipped any payments, have you?
00:14:03Oh, you know.
00:14:05I'll get your father to do all those things.
00:14:08I mean, shit.
00:14:10What's the matter with him?
00:14:11I think he just thought of something.
00:14:14But you didn't marry that young Rodney.
00:14:16At least he didn't have a potty mouth.
00:14:18Yes.
00:14:19Tash, do you want to show Nana how to feed Ollie?
00:14:22Yeah.
00:14:23Come on, Grandma.
00:14:29Did you hear that?
00:14:30Did you hear that?
00:14:31She thinks your dad's paying the bills.
00:14:33If she hasn't paid the house insurance,
00:14:35then it's probably the same for the car
00:14:37and who knows what else.
00:14:39I just...
00:14:40I think there's been some mistake.
00:14:42Look, just...
00:14:43I'm late for work.
00:14:44Can we just talk about this tonight?
00:14:46What, are you just going to go and leave her here?
00:14:48So she can burn this place down as well.
00:14:50Nobody said that she burnt the place down.
00:14:53There are plenty of other ways fires can start.
00:14:56There's electrical faults and...
00:14:58You know...
00:15:04I'm pleased she's here.
00:15:06Yeah, well, at least we can keep an eye on her.
00:15:08No, for company.
00:15:19Want to see what I taught Petey?
00:15:21Oh, yes.
00:15:28Shh.
00:15:30Oh.
00:15:35Mum,
00:15:37could you do us a favour?
00:15:38Could you help out around the house while we're at work?
00:15:40Oh, yes.
00:15:42Yeah, I could do that.
00:15:54Oh.
00:15:56Mum,
00:15:57Mum,
00:15:58I've written a little list.
00:15:59You're okay, aren't you?
00:16:01Tip top.
00:16:02Bye Grandma.
00:16:06Let's take a look at this here.
00:16:09Feed Ollie.
00:16:12Iron Doug's shirt.
00:16:15And then vacuum.
00:16:18Well, first things first.
00:16:21Feed Ollie.
00:16:23Feed Ollie.
00:16:25I've got that.
00:16:27Oh.
00:16:42So, why don't we try telling her the truth?
00:16:46We've been through that before.
00:16:50Yeah, but I feel bad.
00:16:51Like, lying to her?
00:16:53Yes, but tell her the truth and then what?
00:16:55She just starts grieving all over again.
00:17:01I think it's better that she thinks Grandpa is away on a business trip.
00:17:04There's no harm in it, is there?
00:17:06It's a pretty long business trip.
00:17:09Yeah, well, you know, it's complicated.
00:17:12Sometimes you have to tell white lies to quicken people's feelings.
00:17:16Here we go.
00:17:17Don't forget you're on the bus tonight, okay?
00:17:25See ya.
00:17:27Have a good one.
00:17:32I miss you guys.
00:17:34Really?
00:17:35White lie Dad.
00:17:40Who's she talking to?
00:17:43Oh no, yep, that's Petra's son.
00:17:55Oh, I suppose you want to go fly around for a little bit, don't you?
00:17:59There you go.
00:18:22Squat!
00:18:23Squat!
00:18:25Feet only, feet only.
00:18:28Today we are talking careers.
00:18:31Hands up who already knows what they want to do after graduation.
00:18:43There you go.
00:18:44Hey.
00:18:45Hey.
00:18:55Oh.
00:18:57Lucky I was here.
00:19:18Hello?
00:19:19Well, how's it going?
00:19:21Oh, I think your vacuum's had it.
00:19:24Oh.
00:19:26Oh, well, I'll get Doug to fix it later.
00:19:30That's a good idea, dear.
00:19:32You think he's up to it?
00:19:33Or is it going to end up on the lawn?
00:19:36Like the rest of his repairs.
00:19:38Well, I hope not.
00:19:41Listen.
00:19:43I've got to go.
00:19:45Don't forget to feed Ollie.
00:19:46Oh, yeah.
00:19:48Feet only.
00:19:49Right.
00:19:50Ollie.
00:19:52Yeah.
00:19:53Do that.
00:20:00Oh.
00:20:01Hello, Ollie.
00:20:03There you go.
00:20:05There you go.
00:20:07Yeah.
00:20:23Hey, Ollie.
00:20:34Oh, my God.
00:20:35Ollie.
00:20:41Grandma, what the hell?
00:20:44Why is it paining?
00:20:47He must be here somewhere.
00:20:51Petey?
00:20:53Is he asleep?
00:21:00It's like she doesn't even think it's her fault.
00:21:03Grandma, she said she was distracted.
00:21:05Distracted?
00:21:07How does anyone get that distracted?
00:21:10I know she didn't mean to.
00:21:13It's her age.
00:21:18She's forgetting things.
00:21:21Sweetheart.
00:21:23Sweetheart.
00:21:37I wish you had called first, mate.
00:21:39It's not a great time.
00:21:40I normally would have.
00:21:42It's not just me.
00:21:45Things aren't good with Dagmar and we need somewhere to crash.
00:21:50What happened to your hand?
00:21:51He's all right.
00:21:53I just burnt it.
00:21:55Come in.
00:21:56Come in and stay as long as you need to.
00:21:57Of course.
00:21:58I've got those.
00:21:59I've got those.
00:22:00Just...
00:22:04More people with suitcases?
00:22:07You've got to be kidding me.
00:22:09What happened to your hand?
00:22:10Get lost.
00:22:13Well, we're going to have to do a little bit of a reshuffle.
00:22:16Doug, can you get the...
00:22:17Trundle bed.
00:22:18Put it in Tasha's room.
00:22:19Tasha's room, yeah.
00:22:20Is that my room?
00:22:21Yes.
00:22:22Ken, Ned, you can take the spare room in the double bed.
00:22:25Grandma can sleep in your bed and you can take the trundle.
00:22:27Mum, I'm not sharing my room.
00:22:29Well, you want to take the double bed with Grandma?
00:22:31But that's not fair.
00:22:32It's my bed.
00:22:33She can sleep in the living room.
00:22:34She's older and has earned some comfort and respect.
00:22:37Please don't answer back, darling.
00:22:38You're the one who's never listened to me.
00:22:40It's my room.
00:22:43I'm sorry, Tash.
00:22:46Don't worry, mate.
00:22:48It'll get better.
00:22:50Whatever you say.
00:22:55Oh, my God, what a day.
00:22:58If it doesn't rain...
00:23:00Piss is hailstones the size of rocks.
00:23:05Oh, Ken.
00:23:09I really feel for him.
00:23:20What about the insurance?
00:23:25I called them again.
00:23:27It's bad.
00:23:50I'd better not go to sleep just yet.
00:23:52Frank will be by in a minute.
00:23:53Pick me up.
00:23:57Frank's not coming.
00:24:00He's dead.
00:24:02Just like Petey and Ollie.
00:24:04What?
00:24:05He died five years ago.
00:24:07Oh, I'd remember that.
00:24:10We've told you so many times.
00:24:13No.
00:24:18No.
00:24:20Oh, how could I forget my husband?
00:24:24Oh.
00:24:29Was there a funeral?
00:24:37Oh.
00:24:39They're going to bring me into a home.
00:24:43What do you mean?
00:24:45I'm going to be shut away in an old people's home.
00:24:50It's okay.
00:24:52It's gone.
00:24:53I'm all alone now.
00:24:55You're not alone.
00:24:59I'm sorry.
00:25:00You have me.
00:25:02I need my Frank.
00:25:04I need my Frank.
00:25:08Yeah, well, you know, it's complicated.
00:25:10Sometimes you have to tell white lies to protect people's feelings.
00:25:15Grandma.
00:25:16Hey.
00:25:18Grandpa's fine.
00:25:20He told me he'll be here soon.
00:25:29He's back to him again.
00:25:32I thought you said...
00:25:33Grandpa's okay.
00:25:35That was a totally different Frank I was talking about.
00:25:38Frank Fasano.
00:25:40Frank Fasano.
00:25:42Yeah, he used to work with Dad.
00:25:46Oh.
00:25:47Yeah, so...
00:25:50Your grandpa's just running a little late.
00:25:53Oh.
00:25:54I'm sorry I got you all confused and whatnot.
00:25:58So, my Frank's still with us?
00:26:03Oh.
00:26:05Oh.
00:26:06Oh.
00:26:07Silly me.
00:26:10I knew it from the moment I told you.
00:26:13Do you think we can get some sleep?
00:26:15Sleep?
00:26:17Yeah.
00:26:20I love you.
00:26:23I love you too, sweetie.
00:26:43We've got an appointment this morning, your father and I,
00:26:45and we've got to get the bus into school, okay?
00:26:47Sure.
00:26:48Oh, um, I could drive them if that's alright with you guys.
00:26:50It's Ned's first day of school,
00:26:52so we've got to go see the principal anyway.
00:26:55You're moving to my school?
00:26:57Yeah, they'll be staying with us for a while, so...
00:26:59Oh, cool.
00:27:00I really like it, the teachers are great.
00:27:02But it's boring.
00:27:04Would you like me to help you out today, dear?
00:27:06Oh, no.
00:27:07No, Mum, not today.
00:27:09Um, why don't you go to the library?
00:27:12Yeah, or stay here.
00:27:14Maybe watch a bit of telly or something.
00:27:17Pretty good.
00:27:19Yeah.
00:27:20Alrighty.
00:27:28So the vice principal's classroom's just up there.
00:27:30Okay.
00:27:31Do you want me to wait for you guys?
00:27:33No, no, we'll be fine, thanks.
00:27:35Um, if you wanted, we could sit together at recess.
00:27:38Don't talk to me.
00:27:40Ned.
00:27:41She's a loser.
00:27:42And you're a shithead.
00:27:59Morning.
00:28:00Take a seat.
00:28:03Principal Hudson's on leave.
00:28:04I'll be filling in.
00:28:06Who do we have here?
00:28:08And once I've completed the home visit,
00:28:10I can determine whether your mother's eligible for home help.
00:28:13Eligible how?
00:28:14Not everyone qualifies for a carer.
00:28:17If you've got too many assets or this...
00:28:19Oh, that won't be a problem.
00:28:23So what are our next steps?
00:28:25I can give you these forms to fill out
00:28:27and start the process rolling.
00:28:30More red tape.
00:28:32And then I can book you in for an assessment
00:28:35in a few weeks' time.
00:28:36A few weeks?
00:28:38Unfortunately, there's a long waiting list.
00:28:40Bloody government bureaucracy.
00:28:43Being eligible doesn't even guarantee
00:28:45we can provide a service.
00:28:49Here, take this home.
00:28:51This might help.
00:28:56Is there anything else I can help you with?
00:29:01No, that's all, thanks.
00:29:04Have a good day.
00:29:06Gosh, it shouldn't be that hard.
00:29:07I mean, what is all this stuff?
00:29:08I really can't.
00:29:09I can't see it with my glasses off.
00:29:10But it looks like you ought to be practically dead
00:29:12before you get any assistance.
00:29:13Oh, God.
00:29:14I'll take it.
00:29:15Gives me a headache.
00:29:16Reminds me of my maths homework.
00:29:18All right, class.
00:29:19Today we have a new student.
00:29:21Ned.
00:29:22Ned, you can sit right there next to Darren.
00:29:25Just at the back.
00:29:27Darren, I want you to be Ned's buddy for today.
00:29:30Show him our famous school spirit.
00:29:36Come on.
00:29:43Ah.
00:29:44Hello.
00:29:45Hello.
00:29:46Ready?
00:29:47Yeah.
00:29:48Oh, there it is.
00:29:50Thank you.
00:29:53Hey, um, so as I was about before,
00:29:55how's the first day going?
00:29:57Do you know this nerd?
00:30:03Nah, I don't.
00:30:05Are you serious?
00:30:07Yeah.
00:30:08Bye.
00:30:09Get lost.
00:30:13Who was that?
00:30:14My cousin.
00:30:16Bye.
00:30:17Go make out with your book.
00:30:28What happened?
00:30:30I burnt it.
00:30:32Doing what?
00:30:33Making muffins?
00:30:35No.
00:30:37I was, um, using my dad's welder without gloves.
00:30:42Welding.
00:30:43Cool.
00:30:45Badass, bro.
00:30:46Come on.
00:31:11Get a friend?
00:31:16Come on.
00:31:21Ow.
00:31:28Stop looking up.
00:31:32Ow!
00:31:33Hey, new guy.
00:31:34Leave her alone.
00:31:36Shut up.
00:31:43Quit it!
00:31:44Unless you want to walk.
00:31:46You kept me close
00:31:50But you never said why
00:31:55No, you never said why
00:31:59You don't have to be such a d-bag.
00:32:01Back off.
00:32:02Can't you take a hint?
00:32:04You're the worst.
00:32:05I'm not talking to you anymore.
00:32:08Finally.
00:32:13Karma!
00:32:14Hello?
00:32:24Wonder where she is.
00:32:26Don't know.
00:32:27Hope she's alright.
00:32:28She's not a baby.
00:32:30She can look after herself.
00:32:34Besides, I thought you weren't talking to me.
00:32:38Can you turn it down?
00:32:40Nah.
00:32:41I'm trying to study.
00:32:43And I want to chill out.
00:32:46Can't wait to tell your dad about this one.
00:32:49Say anything and I'll wreck your life worse than it already is.
00:32:52I hate you!
00:32:54Wreck your life worse than it already is.
00:32:56I hate you!
00:33:24Ruby!
00:33:30Ruby!
00:33:32Ruby!
00:33:34Ruby!
00:33:38It's George!
00:33:54Hi.
00:33:57How's your day?
00:33:59Nah.
00:34:00Mrs Scott wants us to brainstorm three dream job options but I don't have any.
00:34:05Oh.
00:34:07I'm sure you'll come up with something.
00:34:10Where's your grandma?
00:34:11She must have gone out.
00:34:13Wasn't here when we got home.
00:34:16Okay.
00:34:17We'll have to look for her.
00:34:19Tash, you stay here in case she comes back.
00:34:21Call us if she shows up.
00:34:24Where's the fire?
00:34:26Mum's gone.
00:34:27Will you help us look?
00:34:28Yeah, of course.
00:34:29We'll go back to her house.
00:34:30If you can check the shops.
00:34:31Okay.
00:34:32Then let's go.
00:34:33Come on.
00:34:34Coming.
00:34:36Hang on.
00:34:37Why does she get to stay?
00:34:42Just don't go too fast, okay?
00:34:44Or she could be anywhere.
00:34:52When are we going home?
00:34:54I'm sorry, mate.
00:34:57Mum and I, we've got a ton to work through.
00:35:00I mean, we're trying, but it could take a while.
00:35:14Just go slowly, darling.
00:35:15Slow.
00:35:16I am.
00:35:17Follow the bus route 35.
00:35:19Yeah, I am.
00:35:21PHONE RINGS
00:35:25Thanks for the call, mate.
00:35:26No problem.
00:35:27Besides, we've been having a great catch-up.
00:35:30Talking about old times.
00:35:31Give me Ruby.
00:35:33Where were you, Mum?
00:35:34You scared us.
00:35:40Just tell us later.
00:35:41We'll take you home first.
00:35:43Okay?
00:35:44No, I have to tell your father.
00:35:46It's the house and the paintings.
00:35:48No, no, he's not coming because he called
00:35:50and his flight was delayed.
00:35:54That's always the way, isn't it?
00:35:56But I keep telling him to fly Qantas.
00:35:58They're far more reliable than I'd said.
00:36:00But will he listen to me?
00:36:01No.
00:36:02Well, his receptionist booked the tickets, so...
00:36:05For Pete's sake.
00:36:07I mean, she should know by now.
00:36:09Yeah, well, let's go and we'll talk about it.
00:36:18PHONE RINGS
00:36:21And you are...?
00:36:22Lisa.
00:36:23I'm an assessment officer.
00:36:25It's so nice to finally meet you.
00:36:28I love your accent.
00:36:30Yeah, that's a Londoner in me.
00:36:32It's always the last thing to go.
00:36:33I was...
00:36:35Yeah, I was a teenager when I emigrated to Australia.
00:36:39Wow.
00:36:40Pretty big move.
00:36:41Ever thought of going back?
00:36:43No, ever since my sister Elaine died.
00:36:48Oh, um, I'm sorry for your loss.
00:36:53I'd like to do a few tests with you today.
00:36:56If you're on board.
00:36:59Fair.
00:37:00Good.
00:37:02Great.
00:37:03I'm going to tell you three things
00:37:05and I want you to concentrate
00:37:06because later on I'm going to ask you
00:37:08what those three things are.
00:37:10Understand?
00:37:12Memory test?
00:37:14Oh, no, that's silly.
00:37:15Nothing wrong with my memory.
00:37:16Well, that's good.
00:37:18But I have to test you
00:37:19or I'll get in trouble with my boss.
00:37:21Well, I wouldn't want you to get into any trouble.
00:37:23Thank you.
00:37:25I'm going to tell you three words.
00:37:28OK, so ball, flag and tree.
00:37:31Can you repeat those for me, please?
00:37:35Ball, flag...
00:37:38What was the other one?
00:37:40Tree.
00:37:41So it's ball, flag and tree.
00:37:43Ball, flag, tree.
00:37:45Very good.
00:37:48I'm going to ask you a couple of questions now.
00:37:51What's the name of the current US President?
00:37:58Oh, you know.
00:38:01The guy who's on TV is always getting into trouble.
00:38:05That'll be the lot of them.
00:38:08Can you tell me his name, Ruby?
00:38:10Bill Clinton.
00:38:11Bill Clinton.
00:38:12Thank you.
00:38:15Now, with this pen and paper,
00:38:17can you draw me a clock face for the time 20 past five?
00:38:34Thank you.
00:38:36And do you remember the words that I asked you to remember?
00:38:39What words are those, dear?
00:38:43Thank you.
00:38:46Doug, I think Mum would like to go and see that project you're working on.
00:38:51What project?
00:38:52The project that you're working on.
00:38:54Oh, yeah, the project, yeah.
00:38:56Come on, Rupe, I'll check out my project.
00:38:58See you at the shed.
00:38:59Yeah, OK.
00:39:00That's not much of a garden, is it?
00:39:02It's just a load of junk.
00:39:04You should get rid of it.
00:39:05Yeah, a lot of demand for all this kind of stuff.
00:39:07That's one of my little projects.
00:39:08It's Dad's old car.
00:39:09I'm about to fix that one up.
00:39:10Oh, this.
00:39:1176 SLR Torana.
00:39:13It's got all these bits missing.
00:39:15Yeah, this is going to be worth the stack, though,
00:39:17once I finish doing it up.
00:39:18Yeah, that's a beautiful car.
00:39:20I'll get it fixed up.
00:39:21I'll get it fixed up.
00:39:22I'll get it fixed up.
00:39:23I'll get it fixed up.
00:39:24I'll get it fixed up.
00:39:25I'll get it fixed up.
00:39:26I'll get it fixed up.
00:39:27I'll get it fixed up.
00:39:28I'll get it fixed up.
00:39:29Yeah, that's a beauty, that one.
00:39:30Does she have any hobbies?
00:39:32Oh, years ago she used to paint.
00:39:42Some research suggests that art therapy can slow the impact
00:39:45of dementia.
00:39:46OK, it's worth a try.
00:39:48Just watch your step through here, Ruby.
00:39:51Dropped a jar of nails the other day.
00:39:54Well, here it is.
00:39:55All its glory.
00:39:59Yeah, I mean, that comes in a set of ten.
00:40:01She's got six of those.
00:40:03Oh, that over there, that was, um,
00:40:06what's that famous golfer's name?
00:40:08Anyway, that was his brother's.
00:40:10Yeah, and I've got a whole stack of racing stuff
00:40:13floating around.
00:40:14A lot of it's signed.
00:40:15Oh, that, it's probably doubled or tripled in price
00:40:18since he died.
00:40:19Yeah, it's got to be worth close to a grand by now,
00:40:21I reckon.
00:40:22The trouble with you is you're a hoarder.
00:40:25I mean, you're just too attached to all these things.
00:40:28You have to learn to let go.
00:40:30You know, if you, if you sold all this junk,
00:40:34you might even have enough for a deposit.
00:40:37Huh?
00:40:38She only scored 21 out of 30 on the mini-mental test,
00:40:43so I'll write a referral for a gerontologist.
00:40:46What we need right now is, um,
00:40:52someone to come and look after her while I'm at work.
00:40:56Unfortunately, there's a waiting list
00:40:58of six weeks for carers.
00:41:00Six weeks?
00:41:01What are we supposed to do in the meantime?
00:41:03You could try respite services, get her assessed by ACAT,
00:41:07or see if you can get her a CAHPS package.
00:41:10Gosh, I'm sorry.
00:41:13Why does everything have to be an acronym?
00:41:15I, I, I just need things to be a little bit simpler for me.
00:41:19I'm sorry, can you tell me what those things were again?
00:41:21Yeah, yeah.
00:41:22ACAP?
00:41:23ACAP's package is short for Community Aged Care Package.
00:41:27They fund up to four hours care a week.
00:41:33Well, we're going to need more than that.
00:41:35I work full-time.
00:41:36So we need someone to look after her 24-7 when I'm at work.
00:41:40Do you, you could hire a carer directly.
00:41:43The cheaper ones usually charge about $30 an hour.
00:41:48Oh, my God.
00:41:50$30 an hour.
00:41:53How can we afford that?
00:41:54That's more than I make.
00:41:56Maybe you could reduce your hours.
00:41:59Or consider putting her in residential accommodation.
00:42:03Oh, God, oh, God, oh, God.
00:42:05I'm a good person.
00:42:06I pay my taxes.
00:42:07Are you really telling me that that's the only option I have
00:42:11for my mum, to put her in one of those homes?
00:42:15Have you seen her?
00:42:16I'm not putting her in there.
00:42:17I don't want to do that.
00:42:18I want to look after my mum.
00:42:20I'm not, no, you can, I'm so sorry.
00:42:22You've obviously got other meetings.
00:42:24A number of residential complexes are quite good.
00:42:30She's not old enough.
00:42:32They'll be able to cater to her needs.
00:42:34Yeah, I'm sorry, Iz.
00:42:36Thank you.
00:42:37I'll just manage.
00:42:38Thank you, Lisa.
00:42:46Thank you.
00:42:47Thank you.
00:42:51Shame Sharon didn't marry that lovely Elroy.
00:42:54I mean, he's making a killing selling deceased estates.
00:43:06Oh, God.
00:43:08Well, it's got to be in here somewhere.
00:43:11What?
00:43:12Take that.
00:43:13Excuse me, Mum.
00:43:15Oh, God.
00:43:18Oh, darling, where is it?
00:43:26Yes.
00:43:37Why don't you paint me something happy, Mum?
00:43:43There, Mum.
00:43:48Perfect.
00:43:54Here we are.
00:43:59Here we are, darling.
00:44:04It's okay, nobody's expecting a masterpiece.
00:44:07Just, just give it a try.
00:44:17Okay.
00:44:47So it's $30 an hour times eight.
00:44:51That's okay.
00:44:52Just take a breath, okay?
00:44:54It's more than you and I earn together.
00:44:55We have to put rent on top of it.
00:44:57There's a solution in here somewhere, okay?
00:44:59We just have to find it.
00:45:00But you see, I've taken all...
00:45:01When I took the new job, I left all my leave.
00:45:04It's up to you.
00:45:05You've got to do it, not me.
00:45:06It's not a good time at the moment.
00:45:07Well, it's never a good time, is it?
00:45:10Look, I wasn't going to say anything
00:45:11because I know you're under a lot of pressure,
00:45:13but they're talking about cutbacks at work.
00:45:16What? No.
00:45:18You've been there forever.
00:45:19Your job's safe, isn't it?
00:45:22Yeah, look, it'll be fine.
00:45:23It's just not the right time to ask.
00:45:26Well, what are we going to do?
00:45:28We can't leave her on her own.
00:45:36I've just got no plans.
00:45:37I've got no solutions.
00:45:38I should be able to look after her,
00:45:39but I don't know how.
00:45:41I should have noticed that she'd gotten as bad as she's got,
00:45:43but God, she took care of me my entire life.
00:45:49Now it's my turn to look after her.
00:45:53And I don't know how to do it.
00:45:56Family might not have a fix.
00:46:00Look, what about Tash?
00:46:03We could take her out of school.
00:46:04What? No. Ridiculous.
00:46:06No, just think about it.
00:46:08Just for a month until you can take some leave
00:46:10or we can find a long-term solution.
00:46:13See, Ruby just needs to have someone with her.
00:46:16It's not like she needs anyone to, you know,
00:46:18toileting and all that kind of thing.
00:46:20And Tash is responsible.
00:46:22It could be good for her.
00:46:24What about her education?
00:46:26She's smart enough.
00:46:27That's not going to slow her down.
00:46:29Besides, she could always repeat a year.
00:46:32What?
00:46:33Kidding.
00:46:36It'll be fine.
00:46:39It's often difficult for students to manage their studies at home
00:46:42and stay motivated when they get pulled out of school at this time.
00:46:47Tash can handle it.
00:46:54Very well.
00:46:56I'll arrange to email her classwork and assignments.
00:47:00Thank you.
00:47:02Are you crazy?
00:47:03Are you actually, like, totally insane?
00:47:05It's only for four weeks.
00:47:06Yeah, then you can do it.
00:47:07I'll do it.
00:47:09I have to work.
00:47:10And I have to learn.
00:47:12Do you have any idea how much this affects me?
00:47:15You know what I think?
00:47:17I think you want me to drop out
00:47:19so that I have to stay home, here, with you
00:47:21and live your crappy life forever.
00:47:23You're so...
00:47:24Do not finish that sentence.
00:47:27It is for one month.
00:47:31I've already told you.
00:47:33I've already spoken to your teachers
00:47:35and they said that you can do all your schoolwork online.
00:47:42I know that schoolwork is important.
00:47:45But I really need you to do this for me.
00:47:49Alright?
00:47:51You didn't even ask me first.
00:48:00Quit your whining.
00:48:02Do you want her going into a nursing home or not?
00:48:07Don't forget to study.
00:48:08Yeah.
00:48:11Have a great day, Cash.
00:48:33No school today, sweetie?
00:48:35No, I have to stay home today.
00:48:38Oh!
00:48:39Are you sick?
00:48:40No, I'm not sick. I just...
00:48:41What if you're not sick?
00:48:44Why don't we have some fun?
00:48:47Come on.
00:49:03Ooh.
00:49:05Ooh!
00:49:09You can clean that off.
00:49:15How lovely.
00:49:17Have you been missing that?
00:49:19Missing what?
00:49:20Your smile.
00:49:24Any good?
00:49:25Really wonderful.
00:49:26Let me see.
00:49:29Ooh.
00:49:31They look delicious.
00:49:32Mm-hmm.
00:49:34Now, let's eat them when we get back.
00:49:36But back from where?
00:49:37Mum said we have to stay here.
00:49:39Oh, whatever for?
00:49:40Because I have homework.
00:49:41Oh, you can do that when we get back.
00:49:44I always go out on a Tuesday.
00:49:46Go where?
00:49:47Where?
00:49:58Hello.
00:49:59So, what would you like to see today?
00:50:03Well, um...
00:50:04Mm.
00:50:06So many to choose from.
00:50:08Well, what about that one there, just behind you?
00:50:12Oh.
00:50:14Two tickets, please.
00:50:16Who is this?
00:50:17This is my granddaughter, Natasha.
00:50:20Adorable.
00:50:21OK, so there are your tickets.
00:50:23And because you are my favourite customer,
00:50:26this is on the house.
00:50:29And I think you might want this as well.
00:50:33Free ice cream?
00:50:34Shh.
00:50:35OK, you guys enjoy the movie.
00:50:47APPLAUSE
00:50:52That was surprisingly good.
00:50:55So I guess we're going home now?
00:50:59Oh, no, no, not yet.
00:51:01If I'm going to paint,
00:51:04I'm going to need some inspiration.
00:51:12Grandma, how does she know about this place?
00:51:15Let's explore.
00:51:19What do you think, Tash?
00:51:21I really like this one.
00:51:22I like that one too.
00:51:25I love the colours here.
00:51:27That looks like your poncho.
00:51:29Ooh.
00:51:32Oh, I like that one. It reminds me of England.
00:51:35How come?
00:51:36Well, it's the Cotswolds, isn't it?
00:51:46Wow.
00:51:53Oh, visiting old friends.
00:52:00Look, it's fine.
00:52:03Look, it's fine.
00:52:15Elaine.
00:52:16My sister.
00:52:20When we were younger, I was the sickly one.
00:52:23She was the picture of health.
00:52:26Now look at us.
00:52:28She had a heart defect.
00:52:30She died very quick, just like that.
00:52:35Yeah, when you get older,
00:52:37more and more of your loved ones end up here.
00:52:42That's so sad.
00:52:44I'm sorry.
00:52:47Oh, no.
00:52:49No, no, no, that's all right, you know.
00:52:52I mean, when you come to visit them,
00:52:54at least they're all in one place.
00:52:57My parents are buried over there.
00:53:00Coming?
00:53:01I'll be one minute.
00:53:02Oh, don't be long.
00:53:31I miss you, Grandpa.
00:53:44Oh, are you crying, sweetie?
00:53:46No, I'm fine.
00:53:48Is this them?
00:53:50Yeah.
00:53:52Oh, my God.
00:53:54Oh, my God.
00:53:56Oh, my God.
00:53:58Yeah.
00:54:00What were they like?
00:54:02Hard-working.
00:54:04Straight, but fair.
00:54:07They'd do anything for us.
00:54:10I remember when I was little
00:54:12and we were still living in London,
00:54:14I stole some sweeties from the corner shop.
00:54:16Well, my mum found out,
00:54:18and, oh, she gave me a spanking.
00:54:20I couldn't sit for a week.
00:54:23Sounds like Mum.
00:54:25Do you miss them?
00:54:27Every day.
00:54:29Oh, but I still have my memories,
00:54:31and no one can ever take those away from me.
00:54:34You know, I visit them and talk to them all the time,
00:54:37and, oh, it feels like they're still here.
00:54:41They've got a good spot.
00:54:43Yeah.
00:54:44Oh, your grandfather and I will be here one day.
00:54:48Though not for a while.
00:54:50Frank and I are still fighting for it.
00:54:53We should go home now.
00:54:55Hmm?
00:54:56Hmm.
00:54:57OK.
00:55:00Hmm.
00:55:04Well, I keep on bumping my head.
00:55:08See?
00:55:10Move it in front of the window where you can stand up.
00:55:13LAUGHTER
00:55:17Mmm.
00:55:18Is it good?
00:55:19Mmm.
00:55:20Mmm.
00:55:21Mmm.
00:55:22Mmm.
00:55:30Tash?
00:55:31Yeah?
00:55:32Come and help your father unpack the car.
00:55:42You grab those.
00:55:43Yep.
00:55:44Oh, can you just give me a hand with this?
00:55:46Look, that's very precious.
00:55:47Here, just check and make sure nothing's falling over in there.
00:55:51Oh!
00:55:52Oh, what a cutie!
00:55:54We thought you could use a friend.
00:55:56Oh, thank you, thank you, thank you.
00:55:58LAUGHTER
00:56:00Hi, baby.
00:56:04I'm going to name him Nibbles.
00:56:06OK.
00:56:10Hmm.
00:56:11That went well.
00:56:15You all right there, boys?
00:56:17Jeez, tough life, innit?
00:56:19How was your schoolwork today?
00:56:21Um, I didn't really do any of it.
00:56:24What, none of it?
00:56:26What were you doing all day?
00:56:27Well, I was with Grandma and we just...
00:56:29Yeah, but you've still got to study.
00:56:31I mean, you've got tests and assignments due.
00:56:33Yeah, I know, but I just thought that I...
00:56:35No, look, I know that it's a lot to us to look after Nan,
00:56:38but I still expect progress, OK?
00:56:41Your father will be here in a minute to pick me up,
00:56:43so I'll say my goodnights now and I'll wait at the front.
00:56:46Oh, don't go yet, Mum.
00:56:48I just said...
00:56:49Oh, no, you know what he's like.
00:56:50He's such a stickler for time.
00:56:52Yes, OK, but he called to say that he was going to be late.
00:56:55Oh.
00:56:56So why don't you wait in the lounge room
00:56:58and we'll make you a little cup of tea?
00:57:00Oh.
00:57:01All right.
00:57:06Oh, God, if I get like that, shoot me.
00:57:08You can't say that, Mum.
00:57:11I'll crack up an idea of getting the guinea pig.
00:57:14It was, wasn't it?
00:57:15Yeah.
00:57:17Do you see a face?
00:57:18Yeah.
00:57:21Yeah, and, you know, if he gets overfed,
00:57:24he's only going to get fat.
00:57:27He'll end up floating on his back.
00:57:31Just hope the stray cat doesn't get him.
00:57:34Don't go getting any ideas.
00:57:35You are not getting a dog.
00:57:43Frank.
00:57:46I went to the doctor's today and he...
00:57:49What?
00:57:52Promised me you'd still love me.
00:57:56OK.
00:57:58What's wrong?
00:57:59Frank promised me that you'll always love me.
00:58:03Grandma.
00:58:04It's me.
00:58:06Tash.
00:58:07He said we could keep trying, but...
00:58:11it'll probably never happen.
00:58:17It's OK.
00:58:19You're OK. I'm here. I'm...
00:58:22Frank.
00:58:25I know we wanted to have a family.
00:58:29That's why we got married, isn't it?
00:58:35Oh, Frank.
00:58:37Frank, I love you more.
00:58:40I love you more than you love me.
00:58:43I'm...
00:58:45I'm so sorry.
00:58:49Can you ever forgive me?
00:59:00Mum, can I talk to you?
00:59:02Yes, darling. What is it?
00:59:03Like, privately?
00:59:09Are you sure she wasn't joking?
00:59:11No, like, she was up, kind of.
00:59:13Like, her eyes were open, but, you know,
00:59:15she was acting as if she was asleep.
00:59:17Oh, my God.
00:59:20Yeah, and then she started calling me Frank.
00:59:33It could be sundowners.
00:59:34Some people with dementia suffer from it.
00:59:37Well, that doesn't sound good.
00:59:40Some sufferers become agitated.
00:59:43I recommend you consult a doctor
00:59:45and see if medication could help.
00:59:49I know you don't want to hear this,
00:59:51but if it gets worse,
00:59:53you may have to consider finding her a nursing home.
01:00:09Done.
01:00:16You're so good at painting, Grandma.
01:00:19I wish I could paint like that.
01:00:20Oh, I'm sure you will one day, dear.
01:00:27What's this one going to be?
01:00:31Um...
01:00:40I'll be right back.
01:00:50NEWSREADER ON TV
01:00:51Five million hectares were first...
01:00:53Oh, Jesus Christ.
01:00:55NEWSREADER ON TV
01:00:56..made a significant and critical hole
01:00:58in bringing this incident to a conclusion
01:01:00through another state, national and international agency...
01:01:04PHONE RINGS
01:01:07WHIMPERING
01:01:27SOBBING
01:01:29WHIMPERING
01:01:35Oh, my God.
01:01:40It's OK.
01:01:41Hey, hey, Grandma, Grandma.
01:01:43Hey, it's no worries.
01:01:48Do you want me to come to the bathroom with you
01:01:50and we can get you all cleaned up?
01:01:53OK, come on.
01:01:54WHIMPERING
01:01:57So, you're telling me we either have to go bankrupt
01:02:00paying full-time home care
01:02:02or have to shove my mother in some nursing home?
01:02:05They're the only two crappy options available to us.
01:02:07Is that what you're saying?
01:02:11No, N-O.
01:02:13No!
01:02:16We're looking for what I'm looking for.
01:02:19Um, I think it's that way.
01:02:22I'll be one sec.
01:02:24WHIMPERING
01:02:30MUSIC PLAYS
01:02:55Excuse me.
01:02:57Are you OK?
01:02:58Oh, yeah.
01:03:08I...
01:03:09I...
01:03:10I...
01:03:11I...
01:03:13I...
01:03:14I...
01:03:15I...
01:03:16I...
01:03:17I...
01:03:25Excuse me.
01:03:27I'm...
01:03:28I'm...
01:03:29I'm...
01:03:38Grandma?
01:03:39Where are you?
01:03:42What are you doing?
01:03:47Are you OK?
01:03:51Hey, hey.
01:03:52It's OK, come on.
01:03:54Grandma, hey.
01:03:55It's me, Tash.
01:03:57Hey, come on.
01:03:58Come on.
01:03:59It's OK.
01:04:03How was school, mate?
01:04:05Sucked.
01:04:06Can you give me any more detail?
01:04:08Considerably.
01:04:11Dougie?
01:04:12Yeah?
01:04:13How was your day?
01:04:14Oh, hilarious, get this.
01:04:15Blood came in today,
01:04:16wanted to know if you could put a V8 into a Mini.
01:04:19Really?
01:04:20Yeah, I know, no idea.
01:04:21She was always the town gossip.
01:04:23I mean, if she didn't say such daft and dreadful things,
01:04:26they would never have kept her out of the church fundraising committee.
01:04:30It's all her own fault.
01:04:41She said that she'd just get more and more distressed.
01:04:44So what if it becomes more than we can handle?
01:04:47Yeah, well, we're not there yet, OK?
01:04:49I just can't believe that you've got to consider putting her into a home.
01:04:53Yeah, cos those places are the worst.
01:04:56Oh, I'd best be going now.
01:04:59Oh, well, why don't you have a paint?
01:05:02Or watch some telly with the boys?
01:05:04Cos they love spending time with your mum.
01:05:07Oh, all right.
01:05:12What if it's hereditary?
01:05:15What if I get like that?
01:05:16I can't do that to Tash.
01:05:19Look, you're stressing over something that may not even happen.
01:05:23You'll be fine.
01:05:25I just feel like...
01:05:27I feel like I'm losing control of everything.
01:05:39Lunch is in the fridge.
01:05:41Don't forget, I expect you to study today.
01:05:43I know.
01:05:44Why do I have to go to school?
01:05:46Because some people aren't mature enough
01:05:47to have a super fun day watching The Office.
01:05:49Which is what I'll be doing while you're in maths
01:05:51struggling to find the value of X.
01:05:54Excuse this.
01:06:00Close.
01:06:08Thanks, Anna.
01:06:10In breaking news today, a woman was assaulted
01:06:13in what can only be described as a vicious attack.
01:06:19Would you know how to defend yourself?
01:06:22Oh, come on.
01:06:24Come on.
01:06:27OK.
01:06:28Groin and throat.
01:06:31Cos those are the weak parts.
01:06:33Then you hit really hard and you scream really loud and you run.
01:06:37What are you, some sort of secret ninja?
01:06:41Before your grandfather was in sales, he used to be in the army
01:06:44and he wanted to make sure that I knew how to defend myself,
01:06:47you know, when he was away.
01:06:49Groin and throat.
01:06:51And then, yeah.
01:06:53Groin and throat, go away.
01:06:55Oh, no, much louder.
01:06:57Back off.
01:06:59Back off!
01:07:01Holy hell!
01:07:03I'm going to go feed the animals.
01:07:11Get up.
01:07:13Get up.
01:07:15Good kitty.
01:07:40Come on.
01:08:06Come on, come on.
01:08:07It's fine, it's fine, come on.
01:08:09Come on.
01:08:13It's OK.
01:08:39It's OK.
01:08:46It's OK.
01:09:09It's OK.
01:09:22That's you when you were a baby.
01:09:29Oh.
01:09:31Sharon's wedding.
01:09:39Oh, wow.
01:09:42Oh, I love that one.
01:09:51This was me when I was little.
01:10:05What's so funny?
01:10:07They have one.
01:10:09What?
01:10:10A baby.
01:10:11Huh?
01:10:13An unmarried mother just gave birth to a little girl.
01:10:16A little girl.
01:10:18What do you say?
01:10:20Well, I mean, she can't afford to take care of the baby on her own
01:10:23and father's a no-good scoundrel.
01:10:27We'll be doing her a favour.
01:10:29We'll be giving the baby a good home
01:10:31and be loving and take care of it.
01:10:35And then we can have the family, the family we've always wanted to have.
01:10:39What do you say?
01:10:44Please.
01:10:48Please.
01:10:50Oh, please.
01:10:51Oh, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please.
01:10:54Just be out.
01:10:56Oh, yes!
01:10:58Oh!
01:10:59Oh!
01:11:01Oh.
01:11:03No.
01:11:07What should we call her?
01:11:20Mum.
01:11:22Can I have your birth certificate for an assignment?
01:11:24Oh, ah, no. You'll have to make do with your father's
01:11:27because mine was destroyed in a flood when I was a kid.
01:11:31So you don't have one?
01:11:32No.
01:11:34I mean, I thought of getting a replacement so I could get a passport,
01:11:36but your father's terrified of flying, so what's the point?
01:11:44See ya.
01:11:45Bye.
01:11:46Bye.
01:11:58Hi. Um, do you guys have like a record of births and stuff?
01:12:01Yeah, sure. The computer's over there.
01:12:03They've got a whole database of like births, deaths and marriages.
01:12:06Okay. Thanks so much.
01:12:19It can be hereditary, but there aren't any tests for it yet.
01:12:23And at this stage there's no cure.
01:12:31Okay.
01:13:02If you divorce and she applies for it, she will be granted shared custody.
01:13:07Unless you can come up with extremely compelling reasons
01:13:10as to why she should not have access.
01:13:32Doug.
01:13:34Hi, mate. How are you?
01:13:38The other wreckers are killing us.
01:13:42Sorry, mate. I'm going to have to let you go.
01:13:46What?
01:14:02Grandma?
01:14:09Grandma?
01:14:14Grandma?
01:14:21You okay?
01:14:23What's wrong?
01:14:32Grandma?
01:14:35What's going on?
01:15:01Can't you dance, m'lady?
01:15:31Hey, I was here first.
01:15:55Who cares? Get over it.
01:16:01Hey.
01:16:07Hey, I need your help.
01:16:09Hey, can you watch Grandma for me?
01:16:14Yeah, will do.
01:16:19I remember my mother's friend, Margie Witherspoon.
01:16:25She went through a dreadful time.
01:16:27Back then it wasn't as easy to get a divorce as it is today.
01:16:30She didn't know what she was going to do.
01:16:35Once she got over the shame of it,
01:16:39she spoke to me and she told me it was the best decision she had ever made.
01:16:48She was very brave.
01:16:51Very brave.
01:16:54Is that them?
01:16:55Yeah, that's them.
01:16:58Yeah.
01:17:02Hey, dickweed.
01:17:04Yeah, you been messing with my stepbro?
01:17:07I didn't know he was your...
01:17:09I'll get near him again and I'll break it. Understand?
01:17:13Same goes for you.
01:17:19Who were they?
01:17:21Players from the Pirates footy team.
01:17:23They're top of the ladder and they know it.
01:17:26I hate effing Pirates.
01:17:45Back again?
01:17:46Yeah, do you guys have any old newspapers?
01:17:49Looking for something?
01:17:50Yeah, the birth notices from the year my mum was born.
01:17:53I want to make her a present with headlines from the year she was born.
01:17:56You know, the JoJo going extinct, Lincoln getting shot.
01:17:59That sort of thing.
01:18:00Yeah, sure. This way.
01:18:06Hello. Sorry, not interrupting.
01:18:08No, hello.
01:18:14Yeah, look, I'm just wondering,
01:18:17if I wanted to sell this online, how would I go about it?
01:18:20Why do you want to sell it?
01:18:22Just decluttering. Bit of cash, you know.
01:18:25Well, you'd want to make an eBay account or maybe Gumtree?
01:18:29Uh-huh.
01:18:31Do you want me to show you?
01:18:33Do you mind?
01:18:34Yeah.
01:18:36And we don't have to tell Mum about this just now.
01:18:39Could be our little secret.
01:18:41Secret or white lie?
01:18:43Yeah.
01:18:44So you open a new tab.
01:18:45Uh-huh.
01:18:46eBay.com.au.
01:18:48And you click up there.
01:18:50Create a new account.
01:18:51Uh-huh.
01:18:52Put in your email.
01:18:55And we'll make your password, Tashisawesome.
01:18:59Obviously.
01:19:00Obviously.
01:19:02I have something that I want to say.
01:19:04We're all a family.
01:19:07So I think I should say this all at the same time,
01:19:10because you guys all need to know.
01:19:13I've decided to file for a divorce.
01:19:17You said you'd sort your shit out.
01:19:19Yeah, I know, mate.
01:19:21But it's not going to work out.
01:19:25Your mum and I love you so much.
01:19:28But we can't live together anymore.
01:19:32And I know that this will make us all happier.
01:19:36But where am I going to live?
01:19:37I don't know yet.
01:19:39Okay? Your mum and I, we're going to work out the custody stuff.
01:19:42Your mum might have to take you for a little bit.
01:19:45Maybe you guys want to go inside and talk about it then.
01:19:49No, no need.
01:19:51We'll get loads of time to catch up at Easter and Christmas.
01:19:54Australia Day if we're lucky.
01:19:56But not New Year's, because New Year's is mum's favourite.
01:20:04That was very brave.
01:20:06As brave as Margie Witherspoon?
01:20:09Mm-hmm.
01:20:15Thank you.
01:20:25What's up?
01:20:35There's some bad news.
01:20:36Some bad news.
01:20:42I didn't want to say in front of everyone, but...
01:20:46You're being retrenched.
01:20:53I'm so sorry.
01:20:57Are you okay?
01:20:59Yeah, yeah, I'm fine.
01:21:01Bit of a shock, obviously.
01:21:03But at least now I can stay home and look after Ruby
01:21:07while I'm scouting for a new job.
01:21:09That's true.
01:21:11Yeah, that's not going to be easy, is it?
01:21:15Who's going to want to hire a bloke my age?
01:21:18Someone will.
01:21:21You're amazing, do you know that?
01:21:24You're smart, you're funny, you're kind.
01:21:28Sexy, you're like some kind of a...
01:21:30Sexy, you're like some kind of triple threat.
01:21:34It's four things.
01:21:45Isn't she beautiful?
01:21:49She's our little girl, Frank.
01:21:54What do you think we should call her?
01:21:57Now that I'm holding her in my arms,
01:22:00it doesn't matter that we're adopting at all, does it?
01:22:04Huh?
01:22:06She's ours.
01:22:08You know, she was always meant to be ours.
01:22:13I love you.
01:22:15I'll go tell the nurse.
01:22:21Oh!
01:22:23Oh my God, we can take her home tonight.
01:22:26Oh, I don't believe it.
01:22:30Do you want to know what I think we should call her?
01:22:34Well...
01:22:36I've always loved the name Cher.
01:22:40Cher.
01:22:47Better hurry up, you'll be late for your first day back.
01:22:50To school?
01:22:51Yeah.
01:22:52Didn't you tell her you're going back to school today?
01:22:54But where's our grandma?
01:22:56Oh, I'm perfectly fine on my own, sweetie, you know that?
01:22:58Yeah, I've been wanting to pull my weight and contribute,
01:23:02so I'll stay home and hang out with Ruby.
01:23:04Oh, nice try.
01:23:07No, your dad's taking some time out so that he can look after...
01:23:11well, just spend time with you, Mum.
01:23:13Oh, I don't want him around.
01:23:16Is something wrong with me?
01:23:21Okay, let's go.
01:23:29Have a great day, guys.
01:23:31Bye.
01:23:32Bye.
01:23:33See you, buddy.
01:23:39Don't you dare tell anyone about last night,
01:23:41because I don't want anyone up in my shit, and that includes you.
01:23:44I wasn't going to say anything.
01:23:46You better not.
01:23:59I'm sorry.
01:24:11Planning a little light reading?
01:24:13Not really.
01:24:15But, yeah.
01:24:21Thanks.
01:24:23Are you two okay?
01:24:25Me and Chaz.
01:24:28You both seem rather tense lately.
01:24:31Well, you know, it has been...
01:24:38Do you think he's cheating?
01:24:40Who?
01:24:41Frank.
01:24:44He's his receptionist.
01:24:45I mean, all those interstate trips, late nights,
01:24:47he's almost never home.
01:24:52You would tell me if he was...
01:24:55having an affair, wouldn't you?
01:24:58Look,
01:25:01believe me when I say this, Ru,
01:25:04but Frank would sooner die than cheat on you.
01:25:22I told you, you don't need it.
01:25:25It's not going to rain.
01:25:28Oh, you never know.
01:25:31We're indoors.
01:25:35God, it's been over an hour.
01:25:37This place is slower than a moped on the motorway.
01:25:40Hi, how can I help?
01:25:41Oh, you've got a loo.
01:25:43Yeah, the toilet's just right over there.
01:25:47And can I assist you with anything?
01:25:49Yeah, I'm being made redundant.
01:25:51So I need a job or some help to pay the bills.
01:25:55Sure.
01:25:56Well, our computers are down at the moment,
01:25:58but if you'd like to come this way,
01:25:59I can help get you all sorted.
01:26:00Yeah, I just need to wait for the...
01:26:02Oh, that's all right.
01:26:03I'll keep an eye out for her
01:26:04while you fill out the forms.
01:26:06Uh, yeah, okay.
01:26:07Yep.
01:26:09Okay.
01:26:11So, that's the toilet there.
01:26:14Great.
01:26:16So, that's the toilet there.
01:26:19Great.
01:26:43Has she come out yet?
01:26:45No, I haven't seen her leave
01:26:46and I've been watching the whole time.
01:26:49Okay.
01:26:50Oh, shit.
01:27:14Oh, shit.
01:27:21Oh, shit.
01:27:46Oh, jeez.
01:27:47Sorry, mate.
01:27:50Sorry, have you seen an older lady with grey hair?
01:27:53Long, silver hair?
01:27:56You there?
01:27:58Sorry, have you seen an older lady?
01:27:59She's got like a crazy, frilly umbrella.
01:28:01No?
01:28:02Ruby!
01:28:04Rube!
01:28:06Hey.
01:28:07I've lost her.
01:28:09How?
01:28:10How could you lose her?
01:28:11I know.
01:28:18Ruby!
01:28:21Ruby!
01:28:22Excuse me, have you seen an old lady?
01:28:24No?
01:28:26Ruby!
01:28:51Stop the bus.
01:28:53Next stop's three blocks.
01:28:54Sit down.
01:28:56Oh, I'm gonna be sick.
01:29:11Wait!
01:29:13I'm gonna be sick too.
01:29:21What are they feeding you guys at school?
01:29:33Mum?
01:29:35Mum?
01:29:40Mumma?
01:29:46Mum?
01:29:50Mum?
01:30:02Get it!
01:30:07Stop it!
01:30:08Stop it!
01:30:16Shut up, hag!
01:30:21Grandma!
01:30:22Roly!
01:30:31Run!
01:30:37Ruby!
01:30:50No.
01:31:05Grandma confirmed it last night. Mum's definitely adopted.
01:31:12What on earth?
01:31:20Who were they?
01:31:21Pirates. I hate effing pirates.
01:31:23I hate effing pirates too.
01:31:25Grandma.
01:31:27That was close.
01:31:28You know, I felt like someone was watching over me.
01:31:31Where'd you learn to do that?
01:31:32Grandma.
01:31:33She wanted me to be able to stand up for myself.
01:31:35You were marvellous, sweetie.
01:31:38Oh, I mean, you both were.
01:31:40You were very brave.
01:31:46You're a good boy, Ned.
01:31:48A good boy.
01:31:50A good boy.
01:32:10Oh, Mum.
01:32:12You're all right.
01:32:13We've been worried sick about you.
01:32:15Where were you?
01:32:16She met us at the bus stop to walk home with us.
01:32:18Yeah, she was missing her best bud.
01:32:20But you might have told Doug.
01:32:22He's been out there searching for you.
01:32:25God.
01:32:27Will you call him? I've got to have a lie down.
01:32:30I've just got a migraine.
01:32:48I love you.
01:33:19You want to play?
01:33:21Why'd you help me?
01:33:23You looked like you needed it.
01:33:26Even though I was a massive douche?
01:33:28Yep.
01:33:29You were a real d-bag.
01:33:31But that doesn't mean I want you to, like, get your head smashed in.
01:33:37How can you be so...
01:33:39not angry?
01:33:41I'm not angry.
01:33:42I'm just...
01:33:44I'm just...
01:33:45How can you be so...
01:33:47not angry?
01:33:48I am.
01:33:49But...
01:33:51you know, I guess you can be angry and still care at the same time.
01:33:56Like you.
01:33:57Like me?
01:33:59How?
01:34:01I think that you're angry because you care so much about your parents' divorce.
01:34:08And that's why you're so mean.
01:34:11And I'm not saying that that's an excuse because it's totally not and you owe me an apology.
01:34:17You know, when my parents moved us here, I didn't like it at all.
01:34:22I was angry. I was upset. I just...
01:34:25I just didn't feel like I fit in.
01:34:28What did you do?
01:34:30Well, first I just wanted to run away from home.
01:34:34Then I found another way to express my anger.
01:34:38I took up art, I went to the movies and I started dancing.
01:34:43And that's where you met Grandpa?
01:34:45Yeah.
01:34:48And then my anger just softened and I adjusted and I felt a kind of inner calmness.
01:35:03Forgive me?
01:35:05No. No way, not yet.
01:35:09How do I know that you've actually changed?
01:35:12You won't. Until I prove that I'm worthy of your friendship.
01:35:35You know we can't leave her for even a couple of minutes, otherwise she's just going to wander off.
01:35:43I spent half the day looking for her today, worried out of my mind.
01:35:49I don't want to go through that again.
01:35:51I know.
01:35:55Might be time we have the talk, I think.
01:35:58I agree.
01:35:59I mean, at least she's going to be safe. Who knows what could happen today.
01:36:05Wait, you do?
01:36:11I thought we could take care of her. I really did.
01:36:16But I just don't see how it's... how we can anymore.
01:36:20I thought we could take care of her. I really did.
01:36:23But I just don't see how it's... how we can anymore.
01:36:51What's wrong?
01:36:56Nothing. Forget it. Forget it.
01:36:59Something's up.
01:37:03I'm going to be fine in a minute. I'll be fine.
01:37:07You know you can tell me.
01:37:10So?
01:37:18It's your grandfather.
01:37:21You're going to think I'm being silly.
01:37:24Said to me a little bit.
01:37:28Seems like it's been years and years since we last spoke.
01:37:36It's not silly.
01:37:41Would it help if I tell you I love you?
01:37:51No.
01:37:55No.
01:38:03It's okay.
01:38:05So she has dementia and her GP said that she would be a high falls risk.
01:38:16Your daughter tells me that you need an eye check.
01:38:18Oh, I keep explaining there's nothing wrong with my eyes but she'll never listen to me.
01:38:23Yes, well, sometimes people think they have perfect vision.
01:38:27That's true.
01:38:28And then they get tested and then they learn that they barely saw anything, you know.
01:38:33Their whole life's been a lie.
01:38:36Don't be daft.
01:38:38Why don't you come over here and I can do a quick check.
01:38:41Sit down.
01:38:42Sit down.
01:38:46And hold this card over your right eye.
01:38:54I always thought I got my eyes from you because they're such a similar shape.
01:39:00Where do you think I got them from?
01:39:03From me, of course.
01:39:05Now look over here and tell me what you see.
01:39:12Heaven pirates.
01:39:14So, look, tomorrow I'm going to take some time off work so that, well, we can just take a look at some places.
01:39:23Oh, how lovely. We're going to go to an art gallery, the movies.
01:39:27Not those kind of places, Mum.
01:39:31You can't do this.
01:39:33You can't just put her in a nursing home. She hates them.
01:39:37Plus everyone knows they're yuck.
01:39:39Why can't she just stay here?
01:39:40Yeah.
01:39:41No. Because it's not safe.
01:39:44It's for her own good. This is my decision, Amanda.
01:39:46Yeah, but didn't I do a good enough job looking after her?
01:39:48Yes, darling, of course you did.
01:39:50But she needs more care than what we can offer.
01:39:52I can help too.
01:39:54Excuse me.
01:39:57Can I be part of this conversation?
01:40:00Yes, of course.
01:40:02Sorry, Rue.
01:40:03I don't need anyone to look after me, and I don't need them to tell me that I've outstayed my welcome.
01:40:12So I am going to go, and I'm going to wait for your father outside.
01:40:16And he's going to pick me up, and when he arrives, you're never going to have to worry about me visiting here again.
01:40:33I've got an idea.
01:40:35Oh, got another hour or so's light left.
01:40:37Yes.
01:40:38Better have some fun then.
01:40:39There you go.
01:40:45It's beautiful, huh?
01:40:46Yeah, just thought it would change your perspective, hey?
01:40:49Mum?
01:40:52Mum?
01:40:55What's wrong, Mum?
01:40:57It's okay.
01:40:59What?
01:41:01What's wrong?
01:41:02It's just Tash.
01:41:04Tash?
01:41:06Tash?
01:41:08Tash?
01:41:10Tash?
01:41:12Tash?
01:41:13Tash?
01:41:14Tash?
01:41:15Tash?
01:41:16Tash?
01:41:17Tash?
01:41:24This is all really weird.
01:41:31Why are we here again?
01:41:33Well, we're looking at options in case you don't want to stay with us anymore, you want to try something else.
01:41:39Well, but I have my own house on Ney's Road, don't I?
01:41:42Well, there was a fire, Mum.
01:41:45What?
01:41:47When? I...
01:41:49No, I should not...
01:41:52Is that why you're all here?
01:41:54Yes, well, I mean, we love having you at home with us, but we thought you might be happier in a place with people more your own age and...
01:42:03Dying people?
01:42:05No, I didn't mean that.
01:42:18This is a lot better than the last place we looked at.
01:42:20It's beautiful, but what are we doing here? It's well out of our price range.
01:42:25What do you think, Ruby? Nice garden, bit of a fountain.
01:42:29Oh, peacocks. Yeah, everyone loves peacocks.
01:42:31It's a turkey.
01:42:32Is it?
01:42:38Ruby!
01:42:39Ruby!
01:42:40I thought it was you.
01:42:43It's me, Margie.
01:42:44Margie? Margie Witherspoon?
01:42:47Oh, it's been such a long time.
01:42:51How are you?
01:42:52I'm wonderful.
01:42:54Is this Sharon?
01:42:55Yeah.
01:42:56Yes.
01:42:57And her husband, Doug.
01:42:59That's Doug with a U.
01:43:02Have you got time for a cuppa?
01:43:04Well, nothing else to do.
01:43:07Is this the Margie Witherspoon?
01:43:09Yes.
01:43:10Do you mind if I join you?
01:43:18Are you visiting?
01:43:20No, I live here.
01:43:22It's absolutely wonderful.
01:43:24The staff are wonderful, the food is wonderful, and the room is...
01:43:29Wonderful?
01:43:30Wonderful.
01:43:31The staff are wonderful, the food is wonderful, and the room is...
01:43:35Wonderful?
01:43:36Spacious.
01:43:38But you know what I like the most?
01:43:40When my family come to visit, they're so relaxed.
01:43:44There's no fussing like they used to.
01:43:46They know I'm in good hands.
01:43:48And I enjoy spending my day catching up with old friends like you.
01:43:53And making new ones like you.
01:43:57So I need to tell you something.
01:44:00But...
01:44:01I don't know if I should.
01:44:03Like, I know you need to know, but I don't know if I'm the one who should be...
01:44:07Is this...
01:44:08Is this that I'm adopted?
01:44:12You knew?
01:44:14I overheard your grandma talking and...
01:44:16Actually...
01:44:18That is not what happened.
01:44:20I don't want to lie anymore.
01:44:22Even if the truth is hard, being lied to is just so awful.
01:44:26Awful.
01:44:29Darling...
01:44:30I bumped your diary onto the ground and it fell open at that page.
01:44:35You what?
01:44:37You read it?
01:44:38Mum, how could you?
01:44:39What else did you see?
01:44:40Nothing.
01:44:41I just...
01:44:42Just the stuff about...
01:44:44Grandma, I'm so sorry.
01:44:45I shouldn't have.
01:44:46But it just...
01:44:47It's just there.
01:44:48And...
01:44:56Well...
01:44:59I'm sorry.
01:45:01Don't be sorry.
01:45:02You should never have been put in that position.
01:45:08Aren't you angry you weren't told?
01:45:10No.
01:45:12I'm just so proud of you.
01:45:15You've had to deal with so much more than I ever wanted you to.
01:45:20And you've done it with such grace.
01:45:23I love you so much.
01:45:25I know.
01:45:27I love you too.
01:45:30But I meant...
01:45:31Aren't you angry at Grandma?
01:45:35Well, I'm trying not to be.
01:45:37She wanted you more than anything.
01:45:42She lied to me.
01:45:44Yeah, but she also loved you.
01:45:47And I don't know.
01:45:49I kind of think that's what makes a family.
01:45:52Don't you?
01:45:56I don't know who I am anymore.
01:46:01I do.
01:46:06You were my mum.
01:46:08The best I could have asked for.
01:46:15Look at these.
01:46:17Beautiful.
01:46:18You know how to weld?
01:46:20Nah.
01:46:22What's going on here?
01:46:25Can you teach me?
01:46:26Yeah, you named the time and place.
01:46:29Just pass me that little...
01:46:30Yeah, that one right there.
01:46:32Beautiful.
01:46:34Small size.
01:46:36And there we go.
01:46:39So have you talked to your old man yet?
01:46:41Nah.
01:46:42He doesn't care where I end up.
01:46:45I bet he'll fight harder for the house than me.
01:46:48You know, when your old man and I were kids,
01:46:51we used to scrap together all the time.
01:46:53Really?
01:46:54Oh yeah, he's got some fight in him.
01:46:57And he will fight for you.
01:46:59He just knows the best way
01:47:01isn't with his fists.
01:47:03It's up here.
01:47:05With your head.
01:47:08We'd have to get dressed up to come and visit, doggie.
01:47:10Or should I say doggie?
01:47:15I don't know.
01:47:17But you do like it here, Margie.
01:47:19It's wonderful.
01:47:21You see?
01:47:22It's settled then, isn't it?
01:47:23Where do I fill in the application?
01:47:25There's a lot to consider
01:47:27before we can make any decisions, Mum.
01:47:29Well, if it's about the money,
01:47:31don't worry.
01:47:33Work's paying me out.
01:47:35I got the call this morning.
01:47:37Three week severance for every year,
01:47:38which adds up to a year's worth of cash.
01:47:42You'd do that for Mum?
01:47:44Of course I would.
01:47:46Anything for Ruth.
01:47:47Alright, so we can't rush into anything.
01:47:49We need to shop around.
01:47:50Oh no, no, no, I like it here.
01:47:52And I have friends,
01:47:53and Margie says it's wonderful.
01:47:55Yes, but Margie says everything's fricking wonderful.
01:47:57Oh, don't be so rude.
01:47:58Well, I'm not sure that this is the right place for you, Mum.
01:48:00And I want to make sure that you have the best place.
01:48:04No!
01:48:05No, you listen to me.
01:48:08Shouldn't I be the one to decide?
01:48:09I mean, you make this sound like it's your decision,
01:48:11but it's not.
01:48:13This is my decision.
01:48:15It's mine.
01:48:18Mine.
01:48:19Yeah.
01:48:23It's her life.
01:48:27Okay, okay.
01:48:29I'm listening, Mum.
01:48:33It's Ruby's choice.
01:48:37It's Ruby's choice?
01:48:45Sorry about the other night.
01:48:49Don't worry about it, mate.
01:48:50I'd feel pretty upset if I was in your situation as well.
01:48:55Do you think the lawyers will sort it?
01:49:02Mate, your mum's got rights.
01:49:04Whatever.
01:49:06I do too.
01:49:09You want to live with me?
01:49:11Yeah.
01:49:13If you want me to.
01:49:15Of course I do, mate.
01:49:21Okay.
01:49:30And I got a book on Laura out of the library.
01:49:33Because I want to help out with the case.
01:49:38We'll work it out together.
01:49:40Alright?
01:49:44Cheers, mate. I'll bring you back later.
01:49:46No worries, doggie.
01:49:47Come on, boy.
01:49:48Hello, Sharon.
01:49:50Hey.
01:49:51I've got some good news.
01:49:53I've located your mother's vehicle.
01:49:54Great!
01:49:56What are you doing?
01:49:58Taking care of that bloody cat.
01:50:00We go.
01:50:15You're a good one, Tash.
01:50:16You're a good one, Tash.
01:50:19Could you help me sit up?
01:50:21Yeah, of course.
01:50:23Let me just grab a pillow.
01:50:28Alright.
01:50:30There you go.
01:50:32Can I give you a piece of advice?
01:50:34Don't ever grow old.
01:50:37It's better than the alternative.
01:50:47Thank you.
01:50:56She'd love that.
01:50:57Yeah.
01:51:00Grandma enjoyed her last few years at the nursing home.
01:51:03And I don't know if there's a heaven or a good place or anything like that.
01:51:09But when I think of her, I always imagine her in her happy place.
01:51:16Waltzing with Grandpa.
01:51:33Sorry we're late.
01:51:34Didn't think you'd make it.
01:51:36I wouldn't miss this.
01:51:38I know there's sometimes an assumption that people with dementia are more of a burden than anything.
01:51:43But that hasn't been my experience.
01:51:46Sometimes it takes a person who's lived their life to show you the way through yours.
01:51:52If it wasn't for Grandma, Mum might have grown up alone in an orphanage and never met Dad.
01:51:59Dad would have never started his memorabilia resale business.
01:52:03Uncle Ken wouldn't have found the courage he needed to move on.
01:52:07Ned would have never grown up to be the promising young lawyer he is now.
01:52:12And without spending all that time with Grandma,
01:52:15I doubt I'd be making the difference I do every day working as an aged care nurse.
01:52:22Grandma wasn't any less because she had dementia.
01:52:25And her moving in didn't tear us apart.
01:52:28It made us closer.
01:52:30Stronger.
01:52:32Quick photo?
01:52:33Yeah.
01:52:34Yes.
01:52:35Alright.
01:52:37Okay.
01:52:38And she taught us about love.