Nojawanon Mein خودکشی Ke Rujhan Mein خطرناک Izafah Kyun??
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00:00As I was saying earlier, political pressure, economic pressure, social media pressure and many other pressures
00:05lead to mental pressure in comparison families.
00:13In our country, a small budget is spent on physical health and medical side.
00:19Allah is the guardian of mental health.
00:21According to a report by Mapping Youth Mental Health in Pakistan,
00:28there are about 50 to 55 people who commit suicide on a daily basis.
00:39And more than women, men commit suicide.
00:43About 70% of these people are between 15 to 29 years of age.
00:50Suicide has become the fourth major cause of death among young people.
00:56Suicide is something that is prohibited in our religion.
00:59It is also a form of disbelief.
01:01But still, on the basis of the absence of mental health facilities,
01:05and on the basis of the absence of attention towards mental health,
01:08this issue is increasing in Pakistan.
01:12Instead of being understood by the family,
01:15instead of being understood by the people around them,
01:17they often call the person's issues as delusions.
01:22We will talk about this.
01:23Dr. Wajiha Zafar is with us.
01:24She is a psychologist.
01:25Thank you very much, Dr. Zafar, for joining us.
01:27Dr. Zafar, what is the reason for the rampant increase of suicide in Pakistan?
01:35Assalam-o-Alaikum.
01:37I would like to add something here.
01:39Suicide is not just a thought.
01:42I would like to add that you should keep a check and balance in your environment.
01:46Especially your loved ones.
01:48Because there are some warning signs for this.
01:50I would like to start with the warning signs.
01:52The warning signs are that if someone is suffering from isolation,
01:55you feel that someone is very jolly and talkative,
01:58you feel that their daily life is being disturbed.
02:01Or the biggest sign is that they are complaining a lot about their life.
02:05They are talking hopelessly.
02:07Thirdly, you see no plan or motivation.
02:10Even if some people say that he was very happy,
02:13he was talking to us, he committed suicide.
02:15So this is also a common masking coping mechanism.
02:19It has also been seen that some people do masking very well.
02:22But the warning sign is that they are talking very hopelessly in masking.
02:26What to do by staying alive.
02:28And they are also bringing hopelessness in spirituality.
02:31In spirituality, as you mentioned, we are an Islamic country.
02:36But when a person is talking completely hopelessly,
02:39complaining, and he is not sharing any plan about his daily life,
02:43or about the future, then this is a warning sign.
02:46Apart from this, the support system,
02:48in which a lot of criticism is criticized,
02:51even in which a lot of children are given freedom,
02:54about their decisions.
02:56And that too in that age,
02:58as you said, the ratio is from 15 to onwards.
03:01From 15 to 18-20 is the age in which hormonal changes happen very fast.
03:06So basically, I am sorry if I cut you short over here.
03:08You are saying that either a lot of mother-father freedom,
03:10which is found in the house,
03:12where all the decisions fall on the shoulders of the child,
03:15there is a problem.
03:16Or there is a problem where the child is stopped everywhere.
03:19Is that what you are saying?
03:20Exactly.
03:21It is exactly like this.
03:22There is personality development.
03:23You are making the personality of the child.
03:25He cannot make a lot of decisions in 15 years.
03:27Either we have a 30-year-old boy or girl,
03:30who are taking home decisions.
03:31Or he is 15 years old,
03:32and is given a 14-year-old free environment.
03:34These two things are very common.
03:36Apart from this, pressures are very common.
03:39If there are financial pressures at home,
03:41there is a pressure of education,
03:42there is a pressure of grades,
03:43there is a lot of comparison between siblings,
03:45there is extreme comparison.
03:47Apart from this, if the child's self-esteem is low,
03:50and if he is growing up with those two self-esteems for 15-16 years,
03:54if he is short,
03:55if he has racism,
03:56if we talk about color,
03:58if we talk about height,
03:59this kind of environment is also seen to be very common.
04:01But here I will add one more important thing,
04:04that the way we behave with people around us matters a lot.
04:08Sometimes someone is already suffering from depression or sadness,
04:11but we generally do criticism with our friends and colleagues.
04:15It goes on in his mind for many days.
04:18Unfortunately, we have a lot of criticism in our society.
04:21If a person's skin color is dark,
04:23then he will be criticized.
04:25If he is very fair,
04:26then he will be criticized.
04:27There is a lot of criticism on weight.
04:29There is a lot of criticism on hair.
04:31It is an unfortunate situation.
04:32The things that Allah has created,
04:34should not be in anyone's control.
04:35But Doctor,
04:36here tell me,
04:37that if such children,
04:38young people,
04:39are walking on this path,
04:42are walking unwillingly,
04:44are feeling very pressurized,
04:46in such a society,
04:47where no attention is being given to mental health,
04:50then in such a situation,
04:52how to get them out of that trauma,
04:55which they are facing and going towards suicide?
04:58One more important thing in prevention is that,
05:02first of all,
05:03if you are going through this,
05:05then you should remove such a stimulus.
05:07Talk to such a person less,
05:08even if they are your parents.
05:09With their words,
05:10you get more suicidal thoughts.
05:12In your environment,
05:13in your job,
05:14in your education,
05:15if you feel so,
05:16then take a break.
05:17Take a break from that person.
05:19Education is okay.
05:20If there is life,
05:21then everything happens.
05:22If there is a job,
05:23then take it.
05:24Look,
05:25suicide is an extreme level.
05:26There is no level after that.
05:27If there is no life,
05:28then there is nothing.
05:29So, in prevention,
05:30first of all,
05:31take a break.
05:32Take a break.
05:33When you feel that your mental health is being disturbed,
05:34and no one is understanding you.
05:35Second thing,
05:36try to strengthen your support system.
05:38With such a person,
05:39even if he is a professional help,
05:40even if he is your friend,
05:42with whom you feel,
05:43by talking to him,
05:44he understands you,
05:45does not judge you.
05:46Strengthen your support system.
05:47Third,
05:48when you feel that
05:49extreme things are happening,
05:50then come to medication.
05:51Take proper medication.
05:52Take therapies.
05:53This is a very important point.
05:54Doctor,
05:55therapies and medication
05:56can only be taken
05:57by those who can afford it.
05:58Here,
05:59a large population
06:00who lives
06:01due to poverty,
06:02they cannot afford
06:03therapy,
06:04nor can they afford
06:05medication.
06:06What should they do?
06:07In that,
06:08first of all,
06:09ignore toxic people
06:10and toxic environment.
06:11Second,
06:12it is important
06:13that you figure out
06:14the trigger first.
06:15What is it
06:16that society
06:17is taking to society?
06:18Often people
06:19know the point,
06:20but they are
06:21behaving headless.
06:22Education is there,
06:23job is there,
06:24whatever,
06:25you have to take
06:26a little break from it.
06:27Share your things
06:28properly with your family
06:29that this is the point
06:30and make your boundaries.
06:31Most importantly,
06:32most of the people
06:33who attempt suicide
06:34do not have
06:35boundaries.
06:36They do not
06:37clear their things
06:38to that extent.
06:39Keep clarity
06:40in your life.
06:41Apart from this,
06:42I will add one thing
06:43which is very important,
06:44use of screen.
06:45See,
06:46if we talk about
06:47hormonal changes,
06:48our youth
06:49are doing
06:50a lot of screen
06:51role-plays.
06:52There is
06:53comparison in screen,
06:54we are watching
06:55videos of depression,
06:56or we feel
06:57that the other
06:58person is going
06:59too far
07:00and we are
07:01left behind.
07:02We see
07:03such things
07:04a lot,
07:05especially in
07:06marital,
07:07that because of
07:08screen,
07:09that couple
07:10has done
07:11such things
07:12in life,
07:13husband is not
07:14happy,
07:15wife is not
07:16happy,
07:17husband is not
07:18happy,
07:19wife is not
07:20happy,
07:21husband is not
07:22happy,
07:23husband is not
07:24happy,
07:25husband is not
07:26happy,
07:27husband is not
07:28happy,
07:29husband is not
07:30happy,
07:31husband is not
07:32happy,
07:33husband is not
07:34happy,
07:35husband is not
07:36happy,
07:37husband is not
07:38happy,
07:39husband is not
07:40happy,
07:41husband is not
07:42happy,
07:43husband is not