Married at First Sight UK S09E11
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00:00You couldn't even just write something.
00:03Previously...
00:04You have spoken with me every single day.
00:06I'm not laughing the way I think.
00:08Eve, opting out of expert's week,
00:10endangered her troubled marriage to Charlie.
00:13I'm laying my heart out on the line here
00:15and I'm getting... back.
00:17..but a welcome apology...
00:19I am sorry for hurting you.
00:20Sorry, too.
00:21..set the couple back on track.
00:23They're together!
00:24Until Polly...
00:25What have you done to her?
00:26It's a bit of a bully.
00:27A bully?
00:28Ooh!
00:29..put the cat back amongst the pigeons...
00:31I don't want to do this anymore.
00:33..and the return of the honesty box...
00:35What is the biggest obstacle in the way of our happiness?
00:38Definitely sex.
00:40What do you think you should do to prevent us
00:42from being stuck in the friend zone?
00:44..exposed Polly's frustrations with her own marriage.
00:47I will f***ing leave in a minute. You need to just shut up.
00:50I just want him to be honest.
00:51You didn't try to make it look stupid.
00:53I read it again.
00:54I didn't try, but it made me look stupid.
00:56If Polly continues to talk to me like a child,
00:58I'm going to kick her in the arse.
00:59This marriage isn't going to work.
01:04Tonight...
01:05I feel content. I feel so sure.
01:07..the strength of some marriages...
01:09I can't seem to stop falling for her.
01:11There is so much love around,
01:13and I just don't feel that with Casper.
01:16..highlights the weakness of others...
01:18I've pulled back because I don't know where she's at.
01:20I feel like I've got a guard up now.
01:22I don't look into Polly's eyes and think,
01:24I really want to kiss her.
01:25Oh, my God.
01:27..and as Charlie demands answers...
01:30What did you do last night?
01:31You went into my safe space.
01:33That's not true.
01:34Oh, my God, I'm lying again. Someone, please.
01:37..Eve is in the firing line.
01:39Eve, with respect, you've lied on the couch today.
01:54Had I looked at that?
01:57Have you done it before?
01:59No. I haven't, no.
02:00Just painted and decorated.
02:03It's the morning after the dinner party.
02:05We're doing all right. I'm super grateful.
02:08Oh, yeah, you took the word out. Super, super, super grateful.
02:10Yeah.
02:11Thank you so much, darling. Thank you.
02:14And having missed it due to being unwell,
02:16Lacey's keen to catch up on the night's events.
02:19So, what happened at the dinner party? I want to hear it all.
02:23Erm...
02:27I don't know.
02:29How was the atmosphere overall?
02:31Er...
02:34No idea.
02:36It might have been a drama.
02:37Down at the bottom of the table, there was, like, a little...
02:40little something.
02:41I think Polly maybe walked out.
02:43Why?
02:45Er...
02:47I don't know, I don't know.
02:48Hmm, interesting.
02:50It sounds like a lot went on last night,
02:52but Nathan, he's so chilled and, like, positive vibes,
02:55I don't think he was quite listening.
02:57When, like, dramas go on, your head's just like,
03:00la-la, la-la, la-la.
03:08So, did Polly tell me to shut up last night?
03:11She told everybody to shut up.
03:14But when you're in a relationship
03:17when your relationship ain't where it's supposed to be,
03:20like, stop throwing stones if you live in a glass house, you know?
03:24Yeah.
03:30I feel really apprehensive this morning.
03:35I don't feel like I was the only one at fault last night.
03:38To me, it sounded like you just completely swallowed the question
03:41and didn't answer it properly, which is why I asked again how I did,
03:45which I have apologised for.
03:47I was just annoyed I'd read it wrong.
03:49And then you was like, that's not what I asked you.
03:52And you told it me again.
03:54So it's like, you've told me four times now, like, I'm not stupid.
03:59I've definitely seen a different side to Polly last night.
04:02I could say that it's not helping the attraction
04:04with Polly acting that kind of way,
04:06because it did make me feel really small
04:08and I don't really like that side of her, if I'm honest.
04:12It was obvious that you were arsey.
04:15Like, I need to be told when to stop, obviously in a nice way.
04:19After last night, I feel like we've took a step back again.
04:22If this marriage was on the outside world,
04:24probably wouldn't continue it.
04:26I'm not quite sure what we're going to do from here.
04:30DOOR KNOCKS
04:35Oh, shit. You look nice.
04:38Thank you. Hello.
04:40Good morning.
04:42Me and Holly have finally decided to move back in together.
04:45Good to be home.
04:46See how long it takes for you to do my head in?
04:48I'm not going to do your head in, mongrel.
04:51During Experts Week...
04:53Behind closed doors was Sam.
04:55During Experts Week...
04:57Behind closed doors was Sound.
04:59..Holly and Alex's marriage received hands-on help from Paul.
05:03Communication and time is key.
05:05So now we're going to come up with a safe word
05:08to prevent you from overstepping again.
05:11Mango.
05:14The couple's breakthrough led to a touching dinner party confession.
05:18What do you most admire about me?
05:20The only guy who's ever made me feel so beautiful,
05:23even when I wake up first thing in the morning.
05:26Do you?
05:27Like...
05:32You hungry?
05:33I'm hungry.
05:34Yeah? That's good.
05:35I feel really good. Alex is back.
05:37The dinner party was so positive for us.
05:39The communication between us both is definitely growing.
05:42Like, this morning, I feel like it's the first day
05:45that I woke up and genuinely felt, like, happy with how we are.
05:48Like, I know we're good.
05:50Yesterday was just so productive for us.
05:52I feel like, after what's happened, you've learnt what I want.
05:55Yeah, definitely.
05:56And maybe, for a long time, you haven't had to think this way.
06:00It's been you and the kids,
06:02but now there's somebody else you've got to think of,
06:05if you want to think of them.
06:07I mean, you're back home, aren't you?
06:09That's all I've been thinking about, yeah.
06:13We've just got to keep working at it every day, you know?
06:15Yeah, definitely.
06:16Keep having good times and smiling and laughing around each other,
06:19and we'll be fine.
06:23Yeah.
06:31Emma and I have had a far better week this week,
06:34but we are still in separate rooms, we are still taking it slow.
06:39We're not where we wanted to be when we started this.
06:42Why do you think you chose her body to focus on?
06:46It was my honest truth. I didn't want to lie.
06:49You're never going to want to rip my clothes off, are you?
06:52With Mel's help...
06:53We're going to start focusing in on both of your best.
06:56From the wedding through the honeymoon and everything,
06:58she's been supportive.
06:59Thanks, hon.
07:00..Emma and Casper made progress during Experts Week.
07:04There's a fresh start ahead. This is what we need.
07:07Come on, guys!
07:08It followed a difficult first commitment ceremony.
07:11I don't understand how the process got me to Emma,
07:15and it's really frustrating cos this is my life, you're a fucking woman.
07:18My husband ran to me and said that he didn't think I was attractive,
07:23and I said, have you found me sexy at all?
07:25And he just said, oh, no!
07:29I mean, last one, I knew there was some stuff to unpack
07:32and knew it wasn't going to be pretty for me personally.
07:34I had a lot of things to own and a lot of things that I had to accept
07:37that I'd done, so that was always going to be really hard for me.
07:41However, we've had a good week.
07:45Casper and I have made some real progress
07:47since the first commitment ceremony.
07:49I think the advice that Mel gave us really helped.
07:53Casper's really trying and we've really started, like, a really good path.
07:58However, I've lost a lot of respect for him
08:01since the comment that was made on the honeymoon.
08:03The patterns that I've seen with Casper are quite erratic.
08:06He's had days where he's woken up in the morning and felt really positive,
08:10but it could turn at any minute.
08:12Certainly on the wedding day,
08:14I was a lot more open to intimacy on any level,
08:18but lots has happened and now I've just built a guard up.
08:28I've had a chance to think about what happened last night.
08:32Eve's clearly gone behind my back,
08:34spoken a lot about our relationship to other people, and then...
08:38After the dinner party last night, I was conducting an interview.
08:42It's an environment where you go in to talk about our feelings.
08:46OK, Charlie, are you ready?
08:49I've taken accountability for my actions
08:51and I'm doing all I can to prove to Eve
08:53that I'm not this monster that she thinks that I am.
08:56Whilst doing the interview, we opened the door
08:59and Eve had her ear to the door.
09:02Sorry, can I have my box? Oh, hello.
09:06Thank you. Hello.
09:10Can we stop? I don't want to do this now. It's annoying to me.
09:16Our interviews are there as a safe space for us to talk about our feelings
09:21and for her to stand outside the door and listen to my private conversation,
09:26I feel is a complete breakdown of trust.
09:30So, I was standing outside the door
09:32and two members of staff came over and they were like,
09:35what are you doing? And then the door opened.
09:37I didn't hear a sentence or a complete answer or anything like that there.
09:42I'm not saying I'm perfect, I know I'm not,
09:45but I'm scared of saying something and then Charlie twisting it.
09:50Every single thing in my body is screaming, get out.
09:53But I just don't know.
09:55But I just don't know.
09:59My head is all over the place.
10:03I still, in my heart of hearts, want to give this a chance,
10:06but do I write stay because I want to give this a go
10:09or do I write leave to put my own sanity first?
10:15I'm so conflicted right now, I'm just not really sure what I'm going to do.
10:19I don't understand.
10:46You alright?
10:48No.
10:51Welcome, guys, to the second commitment ceremony.
10:55We understand that some of you will have made progress in your marriages
10:59and be feeling positive today.
11:02And some of you may have experienced a few challenges.
11:06Just remember that we are here to help and provide support.
11:11OK, let's get cracking.
11:14First up on the couch...
11:18..Kieran and Christina.
11:23Well done, son.
11:25What a happy entrance.
11:27How's the week been for the two of you?
11:30Needed. Some of the questions that you sent were needed.
11:33You're referring to the Ask Me Anything task?
11:36Yeah.
11:37Why was that so needed?
11:39With Christina being quite an emotional girl,
11:42it's quite hard for me sometimes to voice how I'm feeling.
11:47But it's been amazing.
11:48Yeah, yeah, we've really grown together from that.
11:51It was so nice to just see Kieran just so vulnerable and honest.
11:58As much as he likes to say that he is OK,
12:02actually he is saying no.
12:05You know, I'm not all right.
12:07Kieran, why do you think you've always said,
12:09I'm OK, when you're not?
12:10Because I know everyone's going through something
12:12and they don't need, like, my worries on them.
12:14You matter too.
12:15No, I know, but, like, I just care.
12:17And I don't want to cause problems for people.
12:21Listen to your woman, because she's absolutely right.
12:25What you've got to say and what you're feeling is valid.
12:29Yeah.
12:30Sounds like you're someone who's very comfortable
12:32perhaps putting someone else's needs before your own.
12:36But now you're in this equal relationship,
12:38both of your needs and emotions are just as important as each other's.
12:43I'm learning.
12:44What do you think you need to focus on in the next week or so
12:48to really move things forward?
12:50You really need to stop the self-doubt.
12:52Sorry.
12:53This is what we need to stop.
12:55I keep telling her this, Paul.
12:56Christina, what I've noticed is the, I'm not good at this,
13:00my brain doesn't work this way, I'm sorry.
13:04Why do you think we need to stop that?
13:06It's annoying for you, isn't it?
13:08It's not that it's annoying, I just really feel bad
13:10that you feel the need to apologise over things that are irrelevant.
13:14And you know what, I just want to acknowledge this for you, Christina.
13:17I know a lot of us, we're all bombarding you with messages
13:19saying don't put yourself down.
13:21It's hard.
13:22I get that that's hard.
13:23It's really hard.
13:24You've got a lifetime of patterns and habits
13:26that have been very natural to you.
13:28Yeah.
13:29So maybe this week, when you start to notice yourself doing that,
13:32let Keira know.
13:35That's what I'm here for.
13:38Now, of course, at the dinner party,
13:40the biggest news was Keira and you sharing
13:43that you're falling for Christina.
13:48Did I?
13:49Yeah, you did.
13:53Yes, I can see myself falling for Christina, yeah.
13:56Wow.
13:57I can, totally.
14:02Oh, it makes me feel funny.
14:07LAUGHTER
14:11I think we're going to go to the decision, you two.
14:14And Kieran, we'll start with you.
14:18So, I love everything about you.
14:21And I can't wait to see where this leads,
14:23cos so far, it's beautiful.
14:25Oh, thanks, babe.
14:26So for that reason, I wrote stay.
14:28Wonderful.
14:29Let me see!
14:32And Christina?
14:33I always appreciate you,
14:35even when I am a bit of a nightmare, which I know I am.
14:39You're not.
14:40You're so supportive and you do reassure me well.
14:44And accept me.
14:46That's everything I have always, always wanted,
14:49is to just be accepted for me.
14:53I accept you.
14:56So, for that reason, I am staying.
15:01Woo-hoo!
15:04Wonderful.
15:06Wonderful.
15:07Well, lots of optimism, self-love, reaffirming each other.
15:12Step into this week and enjoy it, guys.
15:15Thank you so much.
15:16Good work.
15:17Well done.
15:24Next up to the couch, Holly and Adam.
15:28Hey, guys. Hello. Hello.
15:30Good to see the two of you again.
15:32And you.
15:36So, we know that it was quite explosive
15:39at the dinner party between the two of you.
15:44But before we get to that, let's look at the intimacy task.
15:50Why do you think it was that you were set that task?
15:54I know that it's because it's what I've asked for.
15:57The physical touch, the affection.
16:03Well, I feel like it was a step in the right direction,
16:06but we had a little bit of a tiff last night,
16:08which put me back a bit.
16:12Holly, you were quite upset, weren't you,
16:15about Adam's response to the honesty box?
16:20The question was, what can you do to prevent yourself
16:23from staying in that friend zone?
16:26If you were to answer this question now for Polly,
16:29what would your answer be?
16:35I feel like to prevent us from staying in the friend zone,
16:38I feel like we need to flirt a bit more.
16:42And just grow that side of her.
16:44But I feel like I do. I get nothing back from you.
16:47I know you do. I know you do.
16:53I don't know. I don't know if it's just that initial, like, spark,
16:57and I don't, like, look into Polly's eyes
16:59and think, I really want to kiss you.
17:05Which is shit to say.
17:08Obviously, I don't want to upset you up,
17:10but that's just me being honest.
17:12I would like to know, Polly,
17:14how it feels for you to hear Adam say this.
17:24Just rejected?
17:27There's nothing on you. It's me.
17:29Well, you just rejected her.
17:32So she's going to feel rejected.
17:36But that's only my opinion.
17:39But that's only my opinion.
17:42Let's just call it what it is.
17:46Polly, you're physically attracted to your husband, Adam.
17:53You're not physically attracted to your wife.
17:58And you haven't been.
18:01Am I saying it wrong?
18:05What does physical attraction mean to you?
18:09Confused by the question.
18:13Do you want to shag her?
18:30What does physical attraction mean to you?
18:33Confused by the question.
18:36Do you want to shag her?
18:41Yeah, I would, but I just don't want to hurt her,
18:43so I'm not going to do it again until I know it's right,
18:46because wouldn't that mean using her?
18:54There's a lot of words there.
18:56We just want the basics here.
19:01It's quite a simple question.
19:03I feel like you're avoiding the question.
19:10Adam? Yeah?
19:12Is there at least a minimal level
19:17of physical attraction towards your wife?
19:25100%. 100%?
19:27100% is a little bit, yeah.
19:30I do feel like the last few days, like, I have looked at her more
19:33and I thought, you know what, she's actually good-looking.
19:36Oh, my God!
19:40No, no, no, better, more good-looking. That was terrible.
19:44I told you I'm not good with my words. I don't like pressure.
19:47There's not many occasions where I'm speechless and male at the same time.
19:54Adam, hypothetical.
19:56Another groom comes in the door and says,
19:58Adam, I love everything about Polly.
20:01I'd like to pursue her and I just want your permission.
20:05What would you say?
20:10I feel like right now, if that's what Polly wanted,
20:15then I would say go for it, because I want her to be happy.
20:21Because I feel like it's too soon for me to give her what she needs.
20:26Well, you've essentially just communicated to Polly
20:29that you would give her permission to go with another guy.
20:33If that's what she wanted, obviously...
20:35Does she look like that's what she wants?
20:37That obviously isn't what I want, is it?
20:39Obviously, but that was just me being honest.
20:41If you said you want this, I'd be like, that is fine,
20:43but I feel like it's still too...
20:45That was asking you, they weren't asking me how I'd feel.
20:47Well, that's me thinking of your feelings before mine again.
20:50It's in the hot seat, boys.
20:54Polly, can I ask, has that changed how you feel toward him at all?
20:59Well, yeah, of course, cos he's just willing to shit me off
21:02like it's the 1950s and trade wives.
21:04Obviously, I don't want him to let me go,
21:06I don't want him to say that he's open to let me explore with someone else.
21:09Well, no, that's not like someone saying to me,
21:11oh, do you want to send Polly...
21:13It wasn't your question, it was my question.
21:16It made me feel shit. Yeah.
21:18So I feel like...
21:21Yeah, maybe not as safe as what I thought I felt.
21:25If he's just willing to do that.
21:27You know, what we're trying to do is we're trying to verify
21:31if there's something here,
21:33cos otherwise we're wasting our time,
21:35and you're wasting your time, and Polly's having her time wasted.
21:40Let's go to Decisions.
21:44Polly, if we could start with you, please.
21:50We obviously still have stuff to talk about,
21:53and it's things that were spoken about and voiced last night
21:56have been kind of resolved.
22:00However, I'm not naive to the fact that there is a possibility
22:05However, I'm not naive to the fact that there is a lot of work
22:09to be done, but not from me.
22:12So I've put stay.
22:17Just to see if it can work.
22:23Thank you, Polly. And Adam, what's your decision?
22:32My decision...
22:35Cos I feel like there's still that little bit of something missing.
22:39We are lacking that intimacy and that spark.
22:47I want this experiment to work.
22:49I feel like I've got lots of doubts,
22:52especially after the argument last night.
22:54But I feel like we get on really well.
22:58I would like to think that physical attraction can grow.
23:02So, for that reason...
23:07..I put stay.
23:17What we have identified today is that for you, Adam,
23:20that there is some level of physical attraction here,
23:23but I suppose it's whether it's enough for you, Polly.
23:27You know, you want to feel desired
23:29and loved, and you deserve that.
23:31And I don't know whether the two of you can experience that or not.
23:35Only the two of you know that. OK?
23:38All right, guys, thank you. Thank you.
23:41Thank you. Thank you, Adam.
23:44Cheers.
23:47I respect the experts' opinions,
23:50but I got a little bit of a grill in it.
23:52Not a nice feeling, to be fair.
23:55As soon as I said that I've realised Polly's good-looking,
23:58I knew I'd said it completely wrong,
24:00and it did make me feel a little bit stupid.
24:03Next up on the couch, can we have Nathan and Lacey.
24:07Come on.
24:09CHEERING
24:11Hello. Hello.
24:13There we go. Look at that. Get settled in.
24:16All right, so, it's beautiful to see you both. How was the week?
24:19Obviously, Lacey and I have been really well,
24:21but, yes, yeah, it was a good week.
24:23It's nice to see how Nathan's acted with me being ill.
24:27I couldn't have done it without you looking after me,
24:29so I do appreciate that.
24:31Nathan, how did you find that,
24:33navigating the dinner party by yourself?
24:35Yeah, it was all right, but obviously the energy's not the same.
24:38He wanted to stay with me, if I'm honest.
24:40Yeah, I mean, you wouldn't usually go, would you,
24:42like, if your partner's ill and you're both meant to go?
24:44But I'm proud of you. You held your own.
24:46All right, so now your task this week was the Ask Me Anything Challenge.
24:50Your task this week was the Ask Me Anything.
24:52How did you find that task?
24:55My favourite question was that he does see a future.
24:59It was nice to hear it, cos I felt the same.
25:02This is a huge moment for you, then.
25:07What about Lacey makes you see a future with her?
25:11What do you like about Lacey?
25:13Yeah, I like her personality, I like her character.
25:15It's very similar to mine.
25:17It's a little bit weird, like, at times,
25:19and we've got very similar core values.
25:23And she's beautiful.
25:24Yeah, she's stunning, yeah, she's stunning.
25:27No, it is nice to hear compliments, not just about the surface,
25:30because in past relationships,
25:32I feel like I've been seen as a trophy girl.
25:35She's got a nice bum, she's got a nice body, which I know I do,
25:39but I want deeper.
25:41But you can call me beautiful.
25:44I've been in relationships where they've brought out the worst in me.
25:49And it's made me not value myself, because, you know, they've done things.
25:55Yeah, I feel content, I feel so sure.
26:00OK, that says it all, that says it all.
26:02All right, shall we go to the decision?
26:05Let's go to the decision. OK.
26:07You look ready.
26:09Why don't you go first, then, since you look so ready?
26:12Let's do it, then, yeah.
26:16So, I'm really enjoying the time.
26:18I'm learning a lot about myself and I'm learning a lot about Lacey.
26:21It's going really well and I'd like it to continue,
26:23so that's why I've put stay, OK?
26:26Well done.
26:31We just keep getting stronger and stronger,
26:34and you're everything I've always wanted,
26:37so I've put stay.
26:40Yay!
26:41Beautiful.
26:45Continue to communicate, but most importantly,
26:47continue to communicate your love for each other through your actions,
26:51and we can't wait to see what next week looks like for you.
26:55Thank you so much. Well done, guys.
26:57Cheers. You're doing really well.
27:03Next up to the couch, Holly and Alex.
27:07Hello, beautiful people. Hello. Hello.
27:13So, the two of you are back together in the apartments,
27:17is that right? We're back home.
27:19OK. Hey, doll.
27:21So, that first dinner party was quite explosive.
27:25What we noticed was there was a bit of point scoring
27:28between the two of you.
27:30Have you been able to address some of those issues?
27:33Definitely.
27:34So, because we're such big personalities,
27:37you know, we find that in a room full of people,
27:39we both speak with volume because we want to get our voices over.
27:43When you're in front of the group, it's like,
27:45oh, I don't want to look silly, you don't want to look silly.
27:48Just a protective streak.
27:49So, and then we get nowhere. OK.
27:51There was some work that you did with Paul around communication.
27:55Have you been able to implement that?
27:58I just sold yesterday's dinner party.
28:01We had had an argument the night before
28:05and we did end up having to spend the night apart again.
28:10We was rushing in that moment.
28:12Going back to being a mum again, when you're rushing out the house
28:15and you're wearing, like, shoes, coat, drawer, fridge,
28:17but I didn't say it in an aggressive way,
28:19but Alex didn't like it and was like, don't speak to me about it.
28:22I didn't like it.
28:24I didn't say it in an aggressive way, but Alex didn't like it
28:27and was like, don't speak to me like a dog.
28:31You're probably used to speaking to your kids like that,
28:34but I am not one of them.
28:38That's why I apologised to you, like, pretty much straight away.
28:42You're apologising, but I don't want an apology,
28:44I just want the behaviour to change.
28:48But we've spoke about this, obviously we've already resolved this issue,
28:52because when we sit and talk behind closed doors,
28:54we come to a resolution.
28:57It's just about taking it down a peg
29:00and thinking it's only us in here,
29:02let's just communicate, just me and you now.
29:04Do I?
29:06This man works his magic.
29:08Yeah.
29:09Well, it looks like something has shifted in your relationship.
29:13One thing that I noticed was that
29:15there were some really nice tender moments
29:18between the two of you at the dinner party
29:20as you were looking through the honesty box.
29:23I felt like it was only me and Alex in the room
29:25when we were answering them.
29:27He held my hand, he reassured me, like, it's OK, I've got you,
29:32and I felt so safe in that moment to tell him exactly how I felt.
29:39We actually have a really good relationship.
29:41However, sometimes it's hard for you to just acknowledge
29:45how your wife is feeling about the situation.
29:49Just validate how she's feeling and accept it
29:52and try and find a way to work on where you've gone wrong.
29:57Yeah, definitely.
29:58It's great that you've listened to the feedback
30:00that Paul has given you and that you're still both smiling.
30:03Yeah.
30:04That's a good sign.
30:07Let's go to the decisions.
30:09Holly, if you'd like to start.
30:12Erm, so, he does grape my bloody tits sometimes.
30:18But we do have fun and he does give me the reassurance
30:22that I've needed for a very long time.
30:25So, for that reason, I'm going to stay cos we slay.
30:35Alex, what's your decision?
30:38So, I see a lot of good in Holly.
30:40I feel like she can bring the best out of me.
30:43I feel like I do bring the best out of her.
30:45It's just we're all a work in progress.
30:47Maybe I acted a little bit impulsive last week.
30:50So, erm, I'm going to stay with my sexy milf.
30:53CHEERING
30:56Gorgeous.
30:59Even though she does my head in sometimes.
31:04I am so happy that you guys are in a good place.
31:07You've got a great connection here.
31:09So, wish you all the best for the rest of the week.
31:12Thanks, guys. Well done, guys.
31:15You're welcome.
31:20Our next couple up to the couch, Emma and Casper.
31:23Cool.
31:26Well, hello again. Hello.
31:28Of course, we've met during the week
31:30and the two of you have obviously made some progress.
31:33So, why don't you talk us through a little bit
31:36how things have shifted?
31:37Yeah, I mean, I felt last week a lot of the work we needed to do
31:41in our relationship had to come from me.
31:43And I've just realised I've got to give it my best shot.
31:46You know, I did decide to move out and just take that bit of space
31:51and I feel like I left a lot of that that evening there
31:55and I woke up the next morning and I went,
31:57right, time to crack on and see where we can get to.
32:00And I think, you know, we've gone about it in a pretty strong way so far.
32:05Emma, what about you? What have you learnt from Casper this week?
32:08I just learnt that you really want to be a gentleman.
32:13I've seen that with me as, like, he gets happier,
32:16he wants to care for me a bit more.
32:18Yeah, that's the good parts.
32:22My concerns were...
32:26..kind of, how long is this going to last?
32:28Because I've seen that positive for Casper before.
32:32Maybe for a couple of hours on honeymoon
32:34and then something would go and he'd go back into the hole.
32:39I just...
32:41I feel like I've got a guard up now, though.
32:44My body's just kind of shut down to any emotion.
32:48There is so much love around and I just don't feel that with Casper.
32:57There have been times over this week where I've thought,
33:00oh, it'd be just nice to have a quick kiss.
33:02And I've pulled back from that cos I was like,
33:04I don't want to hurt her but I also don't know where she's at.
33:08Let's just pause there for a moment.
33:12Let's just check that out.
33:15Emma, what would happen if he was to just grab you and give you a kiss?
33:25No, I wouldn't want it.
33:38In my head I'm like, don't do that.
33:41So, what do you think it's going to take for those walls to drop?
33:44I don't know, Mel. I don't know.
33:50I've never not had a spark, right?
33:52I've never had a spark.
33:54I don't know.
33:55I've never had a spark, but I've never had a spark.
33:58I've never had a spark.
34:01I don't know.
34:02Every time he gets close to me, I think,
34:05I've never not had a spark, right?
34:07And I've never, ever worked backwards from that before.
34:10But I don't know how to get there,
34:12and I don't know what Casper can do to get there.
34:15Emma, it's interesting because last night,
34:17during the honesty box, you were saying
34:19sex is really important to you.
34:21Yeah, yeah.
34:22But right now, what's important is the emotional intimacy.
34:26Let's call out the elephant in the room as well.
34:29You're not living together.
34:30Yeah.
34:32You know, right now, you are in this experiment as mates.
34:36This is not mates at first sight.
34:37Mm.
34:40To move to this next stage of the relationship,
34:42whatever that's going to look like,
34:44you've got to share space.
34:49Yeah.
34:50This forum is important for the three of us
34:53to hold you all accountable.
34:55But it's also a forum, I think, for us to celebrate.
34:58Emma, you've been patient.
35:00You've been patient and the perfect supporter
35:04throughout this.
35:04And then Casper, I have never seen anyone
35:08make the same turnaround that you have made this week.
35:12I mean, my only point was,
35:13I wish this week had been a little bit longer
35:15because, you know, we've had a couple of good days,
35:17but then, you know, it's sort of come around quickly this.
35:22We do need to go to a decision.
35:24Casper, why don't we start with you?
35:27For me, it was a really easy decision.
35:29We've had the best week so far.
35:30I could see progress.
35:31And I think we're really coming along.
35:33So, yeah, I wrote stay.
35:35Woo!
35:37Good stuff.
35:39Good stuff.
35:40And Emma?
35:41Um...
35:44For me, I'm struggling with intimacy on any level.
35:49I can't see it happening and it scares the life out of me.
35:51How long is this going to last?
35:54But it's been so lovely to see you.
35:58What I think is your happy place.
36:01And I always see the glass half full,
36:04so I wrote stay.
36:06Wonderful.
36:06Woo!
36:09Wonderful stuff.
36:10So when are you going to moving together?
36:12Tonight, tomorrow, I don't mind.
36:14Tonight's great.
36:15Yeah.
36:16Tonight's great.
36:17Yeah!
36:18Woo!
36:19Woo!
36:20Woo!
36:20Woo!
36:21Woo!
36:22Yeah!
36:24Well, we look forward to being welcomed into your new home.
36:27Thank you so much.
36:27Thank you, guys.
36:30Thanks, guys.
36:32I'm quite on edge about the whole physical affection thing.
36:36If we get there, then we'll get there.
36:37If we don't, we don't.
36:39But we'll see.
36:40Next up to the couch, Sasha and Ross.
36:44Yay!
36:44Yay!
36:45Yay!
36:46Yay!
36:47Yay!
36:48Good to see you both.
36:49Hello.
36:49Hey.
36:50Hey.
36:51Hello.
36:53Looking cosy together.
36:56How has it been for the both of you?
36:59We've had a really good week, haven't we?
37:02Top.
37:06How was the dinner party yesterday?
37:08It was good, actually.
37:09We noticed that there was some kissing.
37:11Oh, was there?
37:12If I don't wash it, I'll be like...
37:14LAUGHTER
37:17Maybe it was just so natural.
37:18Yeah, I think so.
37:20Yeah.
37:21Would you say that that indicates
37:23that you're feeling more comfortable with one another?
37:25I think we're very comfortable.
37:27Couldn't even imagine not sleeping next to him.
37:29It'd be really weird.
37:31I even missed her to the park for 20 minutes or something.
37:33I even missed her.
37:34I'd say, yeah, so I can't be apart with her.
37:37Yeah.
37:38Being with him, he's, like, peaceful and comforting,
37:41and he's, like, my safe space when we've had a crazy day.
37:46It's just different.
37:48It's beautiful.
37:49I love him.
37:50So, we assigned you the intimacy task this week.
37:53How did that go?
37:55We didn't really struggle with it at all,
37:57because we are very physically affectionate.
38:00We are very intimate in terms of, like,
38:02we've got a very deep connection.
38:04When that time comes, I don't think it will be an issue.
38:07It'll just be something that we think is right.
38:13True.
38:13Yeah.
38:17Let's go to the decisions, guys.
38:19So, if we start with you, Sasha.
38:22I've had a great week with you.
38:27We really, really, really care about each other.
38:32So, I said, stay always.
38:41Lovely.
38:42OK.
38:43Ross, can you top that?
38:44Sasha.
38:46When I first met you at the hotel,
38:48I thought you were going to be the one.
38:51Oh, stop.
38:52Every time I wake up in the morning, I'm a happy man.
38:54Oh.
38:57I should stay.
39:00Oh, goodness.
39:05Well, guys, it sounds like your relationship
39:06is going from strength to strength, so keep going.
39:13Well done.
39:15True.
39:18I'm sweating a tick down now.
39:21What is it that you make so dry?
39:23It doesn't pop.
39:25Next up, can we have Orson and Rochelle?
39:33Welcome, welcome, guys.
39:35Hello.
39:36All right.
39:37Hello.
39:37Look at this.
39:38Body language, good.
39:39You're looking good.
39:41Last night dinner party was good.
39:42Yep.
39:43This is good.
39:45We like this.
39:47So now, last week on the couch, Rochelle,
39:49you mentioned how you were having a hard time trusting
39:52in what Orson was saying.
39:54Yes.
39:55Has that changed?
39:59We joke about, you know, we're in the verification process,
40:03which should apply to Orson as well.
40:05He needs to verify me.
40:06It's not just one way.
40:08You know what's interesting is, I think for everyone,
40:10I see everyone is negotiating trust.
40:12Trust takes a long time to build,
40:14and we know it takes, it's overnight to lose,
40:16but it takes time to be able to build that trust.
40:20Yeah.
40:21Can I just ask a question, guys?
40:23Would you say you've experienced any kind of conflict
40:25in your relationship?
40:28The funny thing is, not cutting you off, babe,
40:30like she said to me this week,
40:32I cannot wait to piss you off.
40:37Just to see how you're going to react.
40:38Yeah.
40:39Because I'm kind of cool, calm.
40:41I don't really get, you know what I mean?
40:43So for me, her saying that was like,
40:45OK, she wants to see another side of me.
40:47Well, I'd like to see another side of you as well.
40:51What I'm seeing is, you are very much a gentleman.
40:55Sometimes it feels like you're quite compliant.
40:57Is there space in this relationship
40:59to say, actually, that got on my nerves when you did that?
41:02I think if I feel that way, I'd hear it.
41:04You know, I have heard things that we speak about.
41:07But I'd prize that out of you, though.
41:09You know, I will vocalise certain things.
41:12And like everything, you just, you know,
41:16can't really, don't really get much of a reaction, really.
41:19So this could be potentially dangerous in a relationship.
41:26A great way to help trust to build
41:29is to feel that what your partner's saying
41:31is very genuine.
41:33If you're just compliant and everything is fine
41:36and nothing's wrong,
41:38and nothing's really bothering you,
41:40that creates a space where a partner can feel like,
41:43can I trust this situation?
41:45Mm-hmm.
41:48Yeah.
41:49Yeah, I agree.
41:52All right, so now when you think about your future together,
41:57what are some of the areas that you
41:59believe we can help you with as we go forward?
42:03I don't know.
42:04I mean, because I don't know how you can help
42:06us get to know each other better, deeper.
42:10Charlene can.
42:15Hi, Charlene.
42:16We don't need you.
42:18We know, we know.
42:19We don't need you, Charlene.
42:22I feel like I'm not needed in this space.
42:24You don't need to knock on the door with your rucksack.
42:30OK, OK, fine, fine, fine.
42:34Let's go to a decision.
42:36Orson, if you can go first.
42:37I'm enjoying getting to know Rochelle.
42:40She is a phenomenal woman.
42:42I think us living together now is, you know,
42:46the be all and end all, really.
42:47Like, can we actually live together?
42:49Week one, I was tying her shoestrings.
42:51Week two, I was taking off her shoes.
42:54So I'm excited to see what week three is going to bring.
42:56So in that note, I've decided to stay.
43:00Nice, nice.
43:03Rochelle.
43:05So, yeah, I think I'm more used to sort of relationships
43:08that might be a little bit rocky, a little bit up and down.
43:11You know, it's just, I don't get that from you.
43:15And I don't actually have any complaints,
43:17other than he maybe talks a little bit more than I would like.
43:22So for that reason, I'll stay.
43:27Stay.
43:33Charlene said some amazing things to you here,
43:35Orson, that you could focus on this week.
43:37And also making sure that you both focus on building that trust.
43:41Yeah.
43:43Thank you, guys.
43:45And last up on the couch, if we could have Eve and Charlene.
43:57Hello.
43:58Hello.
43:59Hello.
44:00Hello.
44:01OK, thank you both.
44:02Definitely understand this is challenging for you both.
44:06But I'm going to leave it at that.
44:15Here's where I'd love to begin.
44:16We assigned you a letter to write.
44:21And I'm curious about this is, Eve,
44:23you chose not to write the letter.
44:27I'd just like to understand why.
44:31I was trying my best to talk myself into writing something,
44:35but I wanted it to be genuine.
44:37I just had my walls up so high at the minute
44:39that I thought, if I was in order to do that or tell her
44:43and she was to throw that back in my face,
44:45that would have absolutely destroyed me.
44:48So now, Charlene, the fact that Eve did not write a letter,
44:53but you did, how did you feel about that?
44:56Rejected.
44:57I felt crap.
44:58I felt like she wasn't committed to the experiment.
45:01And with her just refusing to do the task,
45:04we're just staying in the same place again.
45:07OK.
45:08So we're going to go to the dinner party.
45:11So you came into this dinner party together,
45:13but then very quickly, things fell apart.
45:18So, Charlie, can you talk about the conversation
45:20that you had with Polly?
45:21Because I think that illuminates a lot about your relationship.
45:25So Polly approached me in regards
45:28to what happened on the honeymoon,
45:30some of the things that I'd obviously said to Eve previously,
45:34and that I was a bully.
45:41Which was a strong word.
45:44I was just a bit shocked
45:45because I thought we had come in as a united front.
45:48I thought we were on a good path.
45:50I didn't realise these things were still going on in her head
45:52to the point that she was going to the other girls.
45:54And I just feel like I have done all I can
45:57to hold myself accountable for them things that I've done.
46:00But it seems that it was still going on behind my back.
46:04Right.
46:05So, Eve, every time that you've engaged with the group,
46:07what I've noticed is that
46:10having the group's validation is very, very important to you.
46:13More so than your partner's validation.
46:16I think, you know, mentally, we're both really struggling.
46:19I just, I feel, I feel like I can't open up to them girls
46:22and then when I sit down with them, it all comes out of me.
46:24I don't, I don't know.
46:26Eve, here's my observation.
46:28You are not giving this experiment
46:30any bit of fairness at all now.
46:33I have been trying.
46:34I have really been trying.
46:36But, you know, trying is more than words.
46:39I know.
46:40Trying is action.
46:41Where is the action of the try?
46:44Every time I, like, try to let my waltz down a bit with Charlie,
46:47she would throw it back in my face
46:49or she would just do something that just hurt me more.
46:52You need to, like, try.
46:54Just give it a go.
46:56You can't just keep putting that guard up and going,
46:58I can't do this.
46:59We've had multiple conversations about squashing what happened.
47:02I held myself accountable.
47:04I kind of got to a point where there's not really much more I can do.
47:07And I can't keep being told that I miss you,
47:11you know, I want to spend quality time with you,
47:13and then it not happening.
47:14We had a big fight the second day of the honeymoon
47:17and we haven't kissed because of what happened.
47:19This is... OK.
47:20Which is just...
47:21Charlie, you know what happened that night?
47:23I know, but I said I'm sorry.
47:25And a lot hasn't been said.
47:26I held myself accountable and I said I'm sorry.
47:28Like, you can't keep saying squash it and then going back...
47:31What did you do last night? What did you do last night?
47:33Because... What did you do last night?
47:37You went... One second.
47:39You went into my safe space,
47:41you put your ear against the door in my interview
47:44that you should not have done.
47:45You took that upon yourself to do that,
47:47to listen into my interview after the dinner party
47:50and got your back up because of an action that you took.
47:53What did I say? What did I say?
47:54You sat in that room and glared at me
47:56like I'd done the worst thing in the world.
47:58That's not true. That's not true.
48:00You were the one that came to the door,
48:02you literally listened into my safe space, my interview.
48:05You took that upon yourself to do that. That's not true.
48:08Oh, my God, I'm lying again. Someone, please.
48:13Why is it always my fault?
48:15Take some accountability for the mistakes and the issues...
48:18Stop telling these, shall I? Stop telling these.
48:20They're just calling me a liar again.
48:22We're going to get to the bottom of this.
48:24We're going to get to the bottom of this.
48:26I can't do this.
48:28Just breathe. I can't.
48:30You've just called me a liar on camera again
48:32for something that you actually have done, Eve.
48:35You've got your reality and I've got mine.
48:37That is not true, Charlie. That is not true. That is not true.
48:40I can't do this. I can't.
48:42Charlie, it's OK.
48:44Eve, with respect, you've lied on the couch today.
49:02You've just called me a liar on camera again
49:04for something that you've actually have done, Eve.
49:07You've got your reality and I've got mine.
49:09That is not true, Charlie. That is not true. That is not true.
49:12I can't do this. I can't.
49:14Charlie, it's OK.
49:16Eve, with respect, you've lied on the couch today.
49:23So we are aware of what's going on here, Charlie.
49:27And three of us are all here to listen to both of you, okay?
49:35Can I ask you both a question?
49:38Why have you both chosen to continue the experiment in this last week?
49:45I like Eve. I fell for Eve.
49:50I fell for her at the wedding and I still see so much good
49:55But I keep getting empty promises
50:00I'm gonna move in. I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna do that. So I'm holding on to it because I want it so bad.
50:06It's the hope.
50:10I have said to myself, maybe I'm not getting as much of a chance as I should be and I'm finding it really difficult to do that.
50:15I'm struggling to be able to.
50:18But this is what I can't get past.
50:21I'm not joking. Alarm bells go off in my head and I'm sorry if I'm pushing her away, but I am. I am. I am trying.
50:30What is a shame here is that amongst all of the infighting, there's a desire to be together.
50:39Charlie, you have stepped up this week and
50:42Eve, what I can't understand is you have someone who makes corrective action
50:47Owns their crap
50:51And you choose not to feel safe with this person who's walking through fire for you.
50:58I know. I don't. You're right. I don't. Why?
51:00I don't trust her. Why?
51:03I'm just telling you the truth.
51:07The thing is you don't trust her but you are saying some different things to the group
51:13But you're kind of then saying to Charlie, I miss you. I do want to work on this.
51:17So I suppose my question to you is, which one is it?
51:22Have I ever said that I hate this girl? Do you still think I want to be with her?
51:26I do. I don't sit and say she's horrible. I say she makes me feel and thinks she's actually done.
51:32I'm not saying I hate her. I don't want to be around her. It's not that. They know I'm really struggling.
51:36You have said though a few times, Eve, that you do want to try with this person.
51:40You have said though a few times, Eve, that you do want to try with Charlie but by trying you have to move in with her to try.
51:46I know. I know. And you do say all the time, I do want to try with her.
51:50I haven't changed my mind on that but, you know, things happen then and we don't know where we stand with each other.
51:55Do you know exactly where you stand with me, Eve?
52:00I have done everything in my power to try. It's just really hard.
52:02In the time that I get to try and show to you, you can trust me, that I'm not this monster that you think that I am.
52:08Just give me a chance.
52:11Like, Eve can be annoyed at me and upset with me and not trust me and take a step back
52:16but if I need the space or if I need to be upset or vent how I'm feeling to Eve, I'm not allowed to.
52:22I always let you leave. I always look at you and everything.
52:24Yeah, but then you get your defence up and you say that that's me being horrible to you or bullying you.
52:29Just when you're acting, you make me feel that.
52:30Can I just stop you guys here?
52:33Because I don't think either one of you are listening to each other.
52:39There's something that's very toxic about some of these behaviours
52:42and I think that that might be something you need to have a think about.
52:45I agree.
52:48None of us are happy. I'm miserable.
52:52So let's go to the decision.
52:58Eve, we can have your decision first.
53:02I'm sorry I maybe got so in my own head about feeling sorry for what I was going through.
53:11And I'm sorry for everything I've put you through.
53:14Maybe I can't get over the trust thing.
53:18I know it might not look like it but I really am trying.
53:24But...
53:26I gotta go. I'm sorry.
53:29I gotta leave.
53:43Alright, Charlie, we'll come to you for your decision.
53:48Yesterday evening, you went into my safe space, you listened to my interview and break a barrier of trust.
53:56I spent this week giving 100% of my efforts and energy to you.
54:03I'm not going to give my all to somebody that gives me 10%.
54:09So that's why I voted to leave.
54:14Fucking hell, right?
54:17Oh wow.
54:19Wow, okay.
54:20Okay.
54:23Okay, well, we know the rules.
54:27When both partners have selected to leave, then you must now leave the experiment.
54:33And I will say that we thank you for taking the risk to participate in this journey.
54:40The hope is that you are both walking out of here with some lessons.
54:44Always lessons, I've taken the lessons.
54:46There's always lessons. There's always lessons that you can take into your next relationship.
54:52Is there anything that you would like to say to the group before you leave?
54:57I know things didn't work out good but yous are fucking amazing.
55:01But I really love yous and yous are such great people and you're a great person too, Charlie, and I hope somebody...
55:05Clearly not.
55:07I just hope somebody makes you very happy.
55:09Yeah, you deserve that.
55:10Thank you, guys.
55:11Obviously, I didn't get a chance to even...
55:13I didn't even get to know me on a...
55:15Because, you know, someone else decided to tell you all about me before you'd even got to know me.
55:20Keep your head up held high, Charlie.
55:22And, yeah, I think... I hope you all do really well and I wish you all the best of luck in your marriages.
55:30Thank you both for participating and you can say goodbye to the group.
55:37I'm so sad to go home, I swear to God.
55:40I did really want to try for Charlie but I just couldn't get over putting trust in somebody I don't trust.
55:51It's so conflicting because, yes, it's the right decision but it still hurts, like,
55:57having to walk away from someone that you have feelings for.
56:00But I have to put myself first and realise that I deserve better.
56:05You've done the best you could.
56:06Yeah.
56:07You really did the best you could.
56:08And there's still time to get to know you individually.
56:10Yeah.
56:11So don't think you're going anywhere.
56:12OK.
56:13We don't know you yet.
56:14I'm so sorry.
56:16I am feeling a little distraught, feeling overwhelmed, feeling sad, feeling happy, feeling relieved.
56:21I do feel like a wisp being lifted off my shoulders.
56:23If she's feeling what I'm feeling, I think we both know we had to leave.
56:29We and Charlie are not meant to be together.
56:33I know I'm gone. I'm not here.
56:42I can't give 100% and my wife...
56:47Oh, my God.
56:49..and Eve treating me like shit.
56:52I just wish so bad that it worked.
56:54You know, I'm leaving a heartbroken woman right now.
57:03Next time...
57:04I definitely deserve to find love.
57:06..a brand-new couple enters the process...
57:09Finding true love is everything.
57:11..to take the ultimate gamble on love.
57:14La, la, Madonna.
57:16But the groom's charm offensive...
57:19Hello, baby.
57:21..is less charm and more offensive for his new bride.
57:25It's giving me the ickle a little bit.
57:27And the other woman...
57:29It's giving me the ickle a little bit.
57:31..and the experiment's original couples...
57:34It's in-laws week!
57:36..face tough questions from nearest and dearest.
57:40Do you love Lacey? What do you see happening?
57:42You don't want no-one else to look at me in the eyes
57:44and say, yes, I want to work with Lacey?
57:46He should be scared, really.
57:48That's awful.
57:49You've upset me now.
57:50Nath, shut up.
57:52I don't think my mum took that too well, to be fair. Dog house.
57:59MUSIC