Married at First Sight UK 2024 - Series 9 Episode 11 - At the second Commitment Ceremo
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00:00You
00:04Just write something
00:06Previously you think with me every Saint
00:09I'm not laugh at the way I think Eve opting out of experts week endangered her troubled marriage to Charlie
00:15I'm laying my heart out on the line here. I'm getting
00:19But a welcome apology. I am sorry for hurting you. Sorry to set the couple back on track
00:26Until Polly what you've done to her, it's a bit of a bully
00:31Put the cat back amongst the pigeons
00:35And the return of the honesty box, what is the biggest obstacle in the way of our happiness definitely sex
00:43What do you think you should do to prevent us from being stuck in the friend zone?
00:47Exposed Polly's frustrations with her own marriage. I will leave in a minute. You need to shut up
00:52I just wanted him to be honest didn't try to make this stupid
00:55I read it again, but it made me look stupid if Polly continues to talk to me like a child
01:00It pissed me off and this marriage isn't going to work
01:06Tonight I feel content. I feel so sure the strength of some marriages. I can't see myself one foot
01:13Yeah, yeah, there is so much love around and I just don't feel that with Casper
01:19Highlights the weakness of others. I've pulled back. So don't know where she's at. I feel like I've got a guard up now
01:24I don't look into Polly's eyes and think I really want to kiss you. Oh my god
01:30And as Charlie demands answers, what did you do last night? You went into my safe space. That's not true
01:36Oh my god, I'm lying again. Someone please
01:39Eve is in the firing line Eve with respect. You've lied on the couch today
01:48I
01:57Looked at that. Yeah, I'm a girl
02:00Have you done it before?
02:02No, I think just painted and decorated
02:06It's the morning after the dinner party. We're doing all right. I'm super grateful. Oh, yeah, you took the words
02:13Yeah
02:16Thank you and having missed it due to being unwell
02:19Lacey's keen to catch up on the night's events. So what happened to the dinner party? I want to hear it all
02:30I don't know. How is the atmosphere overall?
02:37No idea
02:40It might have been a drama down at the bottom of the table. There was like a little
02:43Little something I think Polly maybe walked out
02:47Why?
02:50I don't know. I don't know
02:53Interesting. It sounds like a lot went on last night, but Nathan he's so chilled and like positive vibes
02:59I don't think he was quite listening when like drama's going on your heads is like
03:04So
03:13Did Polly tell me to shut up last night she told everybody to shut up
03:18Well when your relationship ain't wait supposed to be like stop throwing stones if you live in a glass house, you know
03:33I feel really apprehensive this morning. I
03:37Don't feel like I was the only one at fault last night
03:40To me it sounded like you just completely swore at the question
03:44And didn't answer it properly, which is why I asked again how I did
03:48Which I've apologized for
03:50And I was just annoyed I've read it wrong. And then he was like, that's not why I asked you
03:55And you told it me again. So it's like you've told me four times now. I'm not stupid
03:59I
04:01Definitely seen a different side to Polly last night
04:04I could say that it's not helping the attraction with Polly acting that kind of way because
04:08Did make me feel really small and I don't really like that side of her if I'm honest
04:14It was obvious that you were RC
04:17Now I need to be told when to stop obviously in a nice way
04:22After last night, I thought I was took a step back again
04:24If this marriage was on the outside world probably wouldn't continue it. I'm not quite sure what we're going to do from here
04:46Hello good morning
04:48Me and Holly have finally decided to move back in together
04:51Good to be on so long it takes for you to do my head in not gonna do you ready in mango?
04:58During experts week behind closed doors was sound Holly and Alex's marriage received hands-on help from Paul
05:06Communication and time is key. So now we're going to come up with a safe word to prevent you from overstepping again mango
05:16The couple's breakthrough led to a touching dinner party confession
05:20What do you most admire about me the only guy who's ever made me feel so beautiful even when I wake up first thing in?
05:27the morning
05:35You hungry I'm hungry. Yeah, that's good. I feel really good. Alex is back the dinner party
05:41It was so positive for us the communication between us both is definitely growing right this morning
05:46I feel like it's the first day that I woke up and genuinely felt like happy with how we are
05:51Like I know we're good. Yesterday was just so productive for us. I feel like after what's happened
05:57You've learned what I want. Yeah, and
06:00Maybe for a long time you haven't had to think this way. It's been you and the kids
06:05But now there's somebody else you got to think of if you want to think of them. I
06:10Mean you back home. I yeah, obviously I've been thinking about you
06:16He's got to keep working out every day, you know
06:19Having good times and smiling and laughing around each other and we'll be fine
06:26Yeah
06:34And when I have had a far better week this week, but we are still in separate rooms who are still taking it slow
06:41We're not where we wanted to be when we started this
06:45Why do you think you chose her body to focus on it was my honest truth
06:50I didn't want to lie. You're never gonna want to rip my clothes off. Are you?
06:54With Mel's help. We're gonna start focusing in on both of your best from the wedding through the honeymoon everything
07:01She's been supportive. Thanks him Emma and Casper made progress during experts week. There's a fresh start ahead
07:08This is what we need
07:10It followed a difficult first commitment ceremony
07:14I don't understand how the process got me to Emma and it's really frustrating. So this is my life if I can with
07:25And I said if he found me sexy at all and he just said no I
07:32Mean last one knew there was some stuff to unpack and you it wasn't gonna be pretty for me personally
07:37you know, I had a lot of things to own and a lot of things that I had to accept that I
07:41Done so that was always gonna be really hard for me. However, we've had a good week
07:48Has been I've made some real progress since the first commitment ceremony. I think the advice that Mel gave us really helped
07:56Casper's really trying we've really started like a really good path
08:01However, I've lost a lot of respect for him since the comment that was made on the honeymoon
08:06The patterns that I've seen with Casper are quite erratic
08:09But he's had days where he's woken up in the morning and felt really positive, but it could turn at any minute
08:15Certainly on the wedding day. I was a lot more open to intimacy on any level
08:20But lots has happened and now I've just built a guard up
08:31Have I chance to think about what happened last night
08:34Eve's clearly gone behind my back spoken a lot about our relationship to other people and then
08:40After the dinner party outside. I was conducting an interview
08:44An environment where you go in to talk about our feelings
08:48Okay, Charlie, you ready?
08:51Taking accountability for my actions and I'm doing all I can to proceed that I'm not this monster that she thinks I am
08:58Whilst doing the interview we opened the door and Eve had her ear to the door
09:14Can we stop? I don't want to do this now. It's annoyed me
09:20Our interviews are there as a safe space for us to talk about our feelings
09:24And for her to stand outside the door and listen to my private conversation, I feel is a complete breakdown of trust
09:34So I was standing I'd say the door and
09:38Two members of staff came over and they're like, what are you doing? And then the door opened?
09:41I didn't hear a sentence or a complete answer or anything like that there
09:47I'm not saying I'm perfect. I know I'm not but I'm scared of saying something and then Charlie twisting it
09:55Every single thing in my body is screaming get right, but I just don't know
10:02My head is all over the place I
10:06Still in my heart of heart want to give this a chance
10:09But do I write stay because I want to give this a go or do I write leave to put my own sanity first?
10:17I'm so conflicted right now. I'm just not really sure what I'm gonna do
10:25I
10:27Oh
10:47No
10:50Marshall
10:53Welcome guys to second commitment ceremony
10:56We understand that some of you will have made progress in your marriages and be feeling positive today and
11:04Some of you may have experienced a few challenges. Just remember that we are here to help and provide support
11:13Okay, let's get cracking first up on the couch
11:20Kieran and Christina
11:26What a happy entrance
11:29How's the week been for the two of you?
11:32Needed some of the questions that you sent and one needed you're referring to the ask me anything task. Yeah
11:39Why was that so needed?
11:41With Christina being quite an emotional girl. It's quite hard for me sometimes to voice how I'm feeling
11:48But it's been amazing. Yeah. Yeah, we've really really grown together from that
11:52It was so nice to just see Kieran just so vulnerable and honest as
12:00Much as he likes to say that he is. Okay
12:04Actually, he is saying no, you know, I'm not. All right
12:08Kieran why do you think you've always said I'm okay when you're not because I know everyone's going through something and they don't need like
12:14My worries on them you matter too. No, I know but I got I'm just I just care and I don't want to cause problems
12:20for people
12:23Listen to your woman because she's absolutely right
12:27What you've got to say and what you're feeling is valid. Yeah
12:32Sounds like you're someone who's very comfortable perhaps putting someone else's needs before your own
12:37But now you're in this equal relationship both of your needs and emotions are just as important as each other's
12:44I'm learning. What do you think?
12:46You need to focus on in the next week or so to really move things forward. You really need to stop the self-doubt
12:53Sorry
12:55This is what we need to stop. I keep telling like this Paul Christina. What I've noticed is the I'm not good at this
13:02My brain doesn't work this way
13:04I'm sorry
13:05Why do you think we need to stop that?
13:08It's annoying for you in there. It's it's not that it's annoying
13:11I just really feel bad that you feel the need to apologize over things that are irrelevant
13:16And you know what? I just want to acknowledge this for you Christina
13:19I know a lot of us were all bombarding you with messages saying don't put yourself down. I get that that's hard
13:24It's really hard. You've got a lifetime of patterns and habits that have you know, been very natural to you
13:29Yeah, so maybe this week when you start to notice yourself doing that. Mm-hmm. Let Kieran know
13:36So I'm here for
13:39Now, of course at the dinner party the biggest news was Kieran you sharing that you're falling for Christina
13:55Yes, I can't see myself falling for Christina, yeah Wow, I can't totally
14:04Makes me feel funny
14:09I
14:12Think we're gonna go to the decision you two and Kieran will start with you
14:18So I love everything about you and I can't wait and see where this leads because so far it's beautiful
14:33And Christina
14:34Always appreciate you even when I am a bit of a nightmare, which I know I am
14:41you're so supportive and you do reassure me well and
14:46Accept me. That's everything. I have always always wanted is to just be accepted for me
14:54Accept yeah
14:57So for that reason I am staying
15:05Wonderful
15:08Wonderful well lots of optimism
15:11self-love
15:13reaffirming each other
15:14Step into this week and enjoy it guys. Thank you so much. Good work
15:26Next up to the couch Holly and Adam
15:29I
15:33Get to see two of you again you
15:39So we know that it was quite explosive at the dinner party between the two of you
15:47But before we get to that, let's look at the intimacy task
15:53Why do you think it was that you were set that task
15:56I know that it's because it's what I've asked for the physical types the affection
16:05I
16:07Feel like it was a step in the right direction
16:09Or we had a little bit of a tiff last night, which put me back a bit
16:15Holly you were quite upset weren't you about Adams response to the honesty box?
16:21The question was what can you do to prevent yourself from staying in that friend zone
16:26If you were to answer this question now for Polly, what would your answer be?
16:35I feel like to prevent us from staying in the friend zone. I thought we need to flirt a bit more
16:42And just grow that's why I feel like I do I get nothing back from you
16:46Don't know I don't know if it's just that initial like spark and I don't like look into Polly's eyes and think I really want to
16:53kiss you
16:57Which is shit to say
17:01Obviously, I don't want to upset you up, but that's just me being honest
17:07I
17:09Don't know if it's just that initial like spark and I don't like look into Polly's eyes and think I really want to kiss you
17:16I would like to know Polly how it feels for you to hear Adam say this
17:29Just rejected
17:32It's nothing on you, it's me. Well, you just rejected her
17:37So she's gonna feel rejected
17:41But that's only my opinion
17:44Let's just call it what it is
17:47Polly you're physically attracted to your husband Adam
17:55You're not physically attracted to your wife
18:00And you haven't been
18:03I'm not saying it wrong
18:07What is physical attraction mean to you
18:11Confused by the question
18:14Do you want to shag her
18:25Pave me a path to follow
18:28And I'll tread any dangerous road. I will beg and I'll steal I will borrow
18:36If I can make if I can make your heart my home
18:40I
18:44Don't care how deep or shallow
18:47Because my heart can pound like thunder
18:52And your love can set me free
19:02Fine I will be the melody the rhythm and your
19:06All I want is for you to be mine, so can I get
19:26Please me with your control
19:37What is physical attraction mean to you confused by the question
19:44Do you want to shag her
19:48Yeah, I would but I just don't want to hurt her so I'm not gonna do it again until I know
19:52It's right because that wouldn't let me use it now
19:55There's a lot of words there, we just want the basics here
20:02It's quite a simple question I feel like you're avoiding the question
20:11Adam yeah, is there at least a minimal level of
20:19Physical attraction to you
20:21At least a minimal level of physical attraction towards your wife
20:33100% 100% 100% is a little bit. Yeah
20:40I have to do feel like the last few days like I have looked at her more and I thought you know what?
20:44She's actually good-looking. Oh
20:46my god
20:49No, no, no, no better Morgan looking that was terrible I
20:54Told you I'm not good with my words. I don't like pressure
20:57There's not many occasions where I'm speechless and Mel at the same time
21:04Adam hypothetical
21:07Another groom comes in the door and says Adam. I love everything about Polly
21:12I'd like to pursue her and I just want your permission. Hmm. What would you say?
21:19I
21:21feel like right now if
21:23That's what Polly wanted
21:25but I would say
21:28Go for it because I want her to be happy
21:34Because I feel like it's too soon for me to give her what she needs
21:39Well, you've essentially just communicated to Polly that you would give her permission to go with another guy
21:45If that's what she wanted obviously does she look like that's what she want I want
21:50But that was just me being honest. If you said you want this I would like that is fine
21:54But I feel like that was still true that was asking you they weren't asking me. Well, let's be thinking of your feelings before mine again
22:01See the hot seat boys
22:05Polly can I ask has that changed how you feel toward him at all?
22:10Well, yeah, of course because he's just willing to shit me off like it's the 1950s and trade wives obviously
22:15I don't want him to let me go. I don't want him to say that he's open to let me explore with someone else's
22:20Well, no, that's not like someone saying to me. Oh, do you want to send Holly a question? It was my question
22:27It made me feel shit, yeah, so I feel like
22:32Yeah, maybe not as safe as what I thought I felt
22:36If he's just willing to do that
22:38You know what we're trying to do is we're trying to verify if
22:43There's something here because otherwise we're wasting our time and you're wasting your time and Holly's having her time wasted
22:54Let's go to the decisions
22:58Polly if we could start with you, please
23:00We
23:04Obviously still has stuff to talk about and it's things that were spoken about and voice last night have been kind of resolved
23:13However, I'm not naive to the fact that there is a lot of work to be done but not for me
23:20So I've put stay
23:22And
23:26Just to see if it can work
23:31Thank You Polly and Adam, what's your decision?
23:40My decision
23:43Because I feel like there's still that little bit of something missing we are lacking that intimacy and that spark
23:53I
23:56Want this experiment to work I feel like I've got lots of doubts, especially after the argument last night or
24:04But like we get on really well, I would like to think that physical attraction can grow
24:12So for that reason
24:17I put stay
24:23He's
24:26What we have identified today is that for you Adam that there is some level of physical attraction here
24:33But I suppose it's whether it's enough for you Polly
24:37You know
24:37You want to feel desired and loved and you deserve that and I don't know whether the two of you can experience that or not
24:45Only the two of you know that
24:47Okay. Yeah. All right guys. Thank you
24:52Thank you Adam
24:57I respect the experts opinions, but I got a little bit of a grilling not a nice feeling to be fair
25:07As soon as I said that I've realized Polly's good-looking I knew I said it completely wrong and it did make me feel a little
25:13bit stupid
25:14Next up on the couch
25:16Could we have Nathan and Lacey?
25:23Hello
25:24There we go. Okay, just settled in
25:27All right, so it's beautiful to see you both. How was the week? Obviously lace haven't been really well
25:31But yes, yeah, that's good week. It's nice to see how Nathan's acted with me being ill
25:37I couldn't have done it without you looking after me. So I do appreciate that
25:41Nathan how did you find that navigating the dinner party by yourself? Yeah, it was all right
25:46But obviously the energy is not the same you want to stay with me for one is yeah
25:50I mean, it's you wouldn't usually go would you like if your partner's there when you both men again?
25:54I I'm proud of you. How do you know?
25:57All right. So now your task this week was to ask me anything. How did you find that task?
26:02My favorite question was that he does see a future
26:06It was nice to hear it because I felt the same
26:10This is a huge moment for you then
26:12What about Lacey makes you see a future with her, what do you like about Lacey?
26:19Yeah, I like a personality. I like a character. It's very similar to mine
26:22Like it's a little bit weird like at times where and we've got very similar core values
26:28And she's beautiful. Yeah, she's stunning. Yeah, she's done. Yeah
26:32No, it is nice to hear compliments
26:34Not just about the surface because in past relationships, but like I've been seen as a trope. I've been seen as a
26:39In past relationships, but like I've been seen as a trophy girl
26:43She's got nice bum. She's got a nice body, which I know I do
26:47But I want deeper, but you can't call me beautiful
26:54I've been in relationships where they brought out the worst in me and
26:59It's made me not value myself because you know, they've done things
27:05Yeah, I feel content I feel so sure
27:09Okay, that says it all that says it all. All right should we go to the decision? It's good precision. Okay
27:16You look ready
27:19Why don't you go first then since you look so ready
27:25So I'm really enjoying the time I'm learning a lot about myself and learn a lot about Lacey
27:30It's going really well, and I'd like it to continue. So that's why I put stay
27:40We just keep getting stronger and stronger and
27:44You're everything I've always wanted so I've put
27:49stay
27:55Continue to communicate but most importantly continue to communicate your love for each other through your actions and
28:01We can't wait to see what next week looks like for you
28:10Next up to the couch Holly and Alex
28:18And those beautiful people hello
28:23So the two of you are back together in the apartments is that back home, okay
28:31That first dinner party was quite
28:33Explosive what we noticed was there was a bit of point scoring between the two of you
28:38Have you been able to address some of those issues?
28:42Definitely so because we're such big personalities, you know
28:46We find that in a room full of people we both speak with volume because we want to get our voices over
28:51When you're in front of the group, it's like oh, I don't want to look silly
28:54You don't want to look silly. It's a protective streak. So and then we get nowhere. Okay
28:59There was some work that you did with Paul around
29:02There was some work that you did with Paul around communication have you been able to implement that
29:12I just sold yesterday's dinner party. We had had an argument the night before and
29:21We did end up having to spend the night apart again
29:25We was rushing in that moment
29:27Going back to being a mom again when you're rushing out the house and around like shoes coat draw fridge
29:31But I didn't say it in an aggressive way. Alex didn't like it and was like don't speak to me like a dog
29:39You're probably used to speaking to your kids like that, but I am NOT one of them
29:46That's why I apologize to you like pretty much straight away
29:50You're apologizing, but I don't want an apology. I just want I want the behavior to change
29:54Well, we've spoke about this obviously we've already resolved this issue because when we sit and talk behind closed doors we come to a resolution
30:04It's just about taking it down a peg and thinking it's only us in there. Let's just communicate just me and you now. Yeah
30:13It's my work to the magic. Yeah
30:16Well, it looks like something has shifted in your relationship
30:19One thing that I noticed was that there were some really nice tender moments between the two of you at the dinner party as you were
30:26Looking through the honesty box. I felt like it was only me and Alex in the room when we was answering them
30:33He held my hand. He reassured me like it's okay
30:37Like I've got you and I felt so safe in that moment to tell him exactly how I felt
30:44We actually have a really good relationship
30:47We actually have a really good relationship, however, sometimes it's hard for you to just
30:53Acknowledge how your wife
30:55Is feeling about the situation?
30:58just validate how she's feeling and accept it and
31:02Try and find a way to work on
31:05Where you go wrong? Yeah, definitely. It's great that you've listened to the feedback that Paul has given you and that you're still both smiling
31:12Yeah, that's a good sign
31:16Let's go to the decisions Holly if you'd like to start
31:22So
31:23It does great my bloody tits sometimes
31:26but
31:27We do have fun and he does give me the reassurance that I've needed for a very long time
31:33So for that reason I'm gonna stay cuz we slay
31:43Alex what's your decision?
31:46So I see a lot of good in Holly I feel like she can bring the best out of me
31:51I feel like I do bring the best out of her. It's just we're all a work in progress
31:56Maybe I act a little bit impulsive last week. So
32:00I'm gonna stay with my sexy milf
32:08Even though she does my head in sometimes
32:10Yeah
32:12I am so happy that you guys are in a good place. You've got a great connection here
32:17So wish you all the best for the rest of the week
32:28Our next couple up to the couch Emma and Casper
32:31Of
32:36Course we've met during the week and the two of you have obviously made some progress
32:41So why don't you talk us through a little bit how things have shifted?
32:45Yeah
32:46I mean I felt last week a lot of the work we need to do in our relationship had to come from me
32:51And I've just realized like I've got to give him a best shot. You know, I did decide to move out
32:57And just take that bit of space and I feel like I left a lot of that
33:02By evening there and I woke up the next morning
33:05I went right
33:06Time to crack on and see where we can get to and I think you know
33:09We've gone about it in a pretty strong way so far
33:13Emma what about you? What have you learned from Casper this week? I just learned that you really want to be a gentleman
33:21I've seen that with me as like he gets happier. He wants to care for me a bit more
33:26Yeah, that's that's the good parts my concerns were
33:34Kind of how long is this gonna last because I've seen that positive Casper before
33:40Maybe for a couple of hours on honeymoon and and then something would go and he'd go back into the holes. I
33:47Just
33:50I'd feel like I've got a guard up now though
33:53My body is just kind of shut down to any emotion
33:57There is so much love around and I just don't feel that with Casper
34:06There have been times over this week where I thought I'll be just nice to have a quick kiss
34:12And I pulled back from that cuz like I don't hurt her but also don't know where she's at
34:17When we just pause there for a moment
34:20Let's just check that out
34:23Emma what what would happen if he was to just grab you and give you a kiss?
34:33No, I wouldn't want it
34:35No, I wouldn't want it
34:48Emma what would happen if he was to just grab you and give you a kiss?
34:55No, I wouldn't want it
35:00In my head I'm like don't do that
35:03So, what do you think it's gonna take for those walls to drop I don't know Mel I don't know
35:12I've never not had a spark right and
35:15I've never ever worked backwards from that before
35:17But I don't know how to get there and I don't know what Casper can do to get there
35:23Emma it's interesting because last night during the honesty box. You're saying
35:27Sex is really important to you. Yeah. Yeah
35:30But right now what's important is the emotional intimacy let's call out the elephant in the room as well
35:36You're not living together. Yeah
35:40You know right now you are in this experiment as mates this is not mates at first sight
35:48To move to this next stage of the relationship whatever that's going to look like you gotta share space
35:55Yes, this forum is
35:58Important for the three of us to hold you all accountable, but it's also a forum
36:03I think for us to celebrate Emma you've been patient and the perfect
36:08Supporter throughout this and then Casper. I have never seen anyone make
36:14The same turnaround that you have made this week. I mean my only point was I wish this week had been a little bit longer
36:20My only point was I wish this week had been a little bit longer because we you know
36:23We've had a couple of good days, but then you know, it's sort of come around quickly this
36:29We do need to go to a decision Casper, why don't we start with you?
36:36For me it was a really easy decision. We've had the best week so far
36:39I guess I can see progress and I think we're really coming along. So yeah, I wrote
36:44Stay
36:47Good stuff
36:48Good stuff and Emma
36:53For me I'm struggling with intimacy on any level
36:58I can't see it happening and it scares the life out of me. How long is this gonna last?
37:06But
37:07It's been so lovely to see you
37:10what I think is your happy place and
37:14I always see the glass half full so I wrote stay
37:18Wonderful
37:21Wonderful stuff. So when are you going to move in together tonight tomorrow? I don't mind. It's great. Yeah
37:31Well, we look forward to being welcomed into your new home, thank you so much
37:40I'm quite on edge about the whole physical affection thing
37:43If we get there, then we'll get there if we don't we don't but we'll see
37:48Next up to the couch Sasha and Ross
38:01Looking cozy together
38:04How has it been for the both of you we've had a really good week haven't we
38:10Top
38:14How was the dinner party yesterday, oh, yeah, we noticed that there was some kissing
38:25Maybe it was just so natural. Yeah, I think so. Yeah, would you say that that indicates that you're feeling more comfortable with one another?
38:32I think we're very comfortable
38:35Couldn't even imagine not sleeping next to me. It'd be really weird
38:38I wouldn't miss to shoot apart for 20 minutes or something even better. Oh, yeah, so I can't be apart with her. Yeah
38:45Being with him. He's like peaceful and comforting and he's like my safe space when we've had a crazy day
38:53It's just different
38:57So we assigned you the intimacy task this week, how did that go?
39:02And we didn't really struggle with it at all because we are very physically affectionate
39:07We are very intimate in terms of like we've got a very deep connection when that time comes
39:12I don't think it will be an issue. It'll just be something that we think is right
39:24Let's go to the decisions guys, so if we start with you Sasha, I've had a great week with you
39:33You
39:35Really really really care about each other
39:39So I said stay always
39:48Lovely okay, Ross. Can you top that?
39:52That's sure
39:54One of the stuff that I don't do at the hotel, but you're gonna be the one
40:00I have a time I wake up when I'm on them. I'm a happy man. Oh, oh, I should stay
40:13Well guys it sounds like your relationship is going from strength to strength so keep going
40:19Thank you
40:25Sweating a bit down
40:33Next up could we have Orson and Michelle?
40:40Welcome welcome guys
40:43All right, hello look at this body language good. You're looking good
40:48Last night dinner party was good. Yep. This is good
40:53We like this so now last week on the couch for show you mentioned how
40:58You were having a hard time trusting in what Orson was saying. Yes
41:02Has that changed?
41:06We joke about you know, we're in the verification
41:11Which should apply to Orson as well. He needs to verify me. It's not just one way
41:15You know, what's interesting is I think for everyone I see everyone is negotiating trust
41:20Trust takes a long time to build and we know it takes it's overnight to lose
41:23But it takes time to be able to build that trust. Yeah
41:28Can I can I just ask the question guys? Would you say you've experienced any kind of conflict in your relationship?
41:35The funny thing is not cutting you off babe like she said to me this week I cannot wait to piss you off
41:42Just to see how you're gonna react. Yeah, because I'm kind of cool calm
41:46I don't really get you know, I mean so for me her saying that was like, okay
41:50She wants to see another side of me. Well, I'd like to see another side of you as well
41:55What I'm seeing is you are very much a gentleman
41:59Sometimes it feels like you're quite compliant
42:01Is there space in this relationship say actually that got my nerves when you did that?
42:06I think if I feel that way I'd I'd even go for it
42:09I think if I feel that way I'd I'd hear it, you know, I have it things that we speak about
42:14By prize that out of you though
42:19You know, I will vocalize certain things and like everything you just you know
42:25Can't really don't really get much of a reaction really. So
42:30This could be potentially dangerous in a relationship a
42:34a
42:35Great way to help trust to build is to feel that what your partner's saying is very genuine
42:42If you're just compliant and everything is fine, and nothing's really bothering you
42:47That creates a space where a partner can feel like can I trust this situation?
42:56Yeah, yeah, I agree
42:59All right, so now when you think about your future
43:03Together
43:05What are some of the areas that you believe we can help you with as we go forward?
43:09I don't know. I mean because I don't know if you how you can help us get to know each other
43:16That's a deep Charlie
43:18I
43:29Feel like I'm not needed in this space. You don't need to knock on the door with your rocks
43:34Okay
43:42Let's go to a decision Orson if you can go first, I'm enjoying getting to know Rochelle. She's a
43:49Phenomenal woman. I think us living together now is you know
43:53The be-all and end-all really like can we actually live together week one? I was tying her shoestrings
43:59To I was taking off her shoes, so I'm excited to see what we
44:13Shall
44:14So yeah, I think I'm more used to sort of relationships that might be a little bit rocky a little bit up and down
44:20you know, it's just I
44:23Don't get that from you. I don't actually have any complaints other than he maybe talks a little bit more than I would like
44:31So for that reason
44:40Charlene said some amazing things to you here or so that you could focus on this week and also make sure that we both focus
44:47On building that trust
44:49Thank you. Thank you. Thank you guys
44:53And
45:02Last up on the couch if we could have Eve and Charlie
45:12Hello hello
45:15Okay. Thank you both
45:17Definitely understand. This is uh, this is challenging for you both
45:21Here's where I'd love to begin we assigned you a letter to write
45:28And I'm curious about this is even you chose not to write the letter I
45:34Just like to understand why I
45:38Was trying me best to talk myself into writing something, but I wanted to be genuine
45:43I just have my walls up
45:45So I at the minute that I thought if I was in order to do that or tell her what I was gonna tell her
45:51And she was to throw that back in my face. That would have
45:55Absolutely destroyed me. So now
45:57Charlotte the fact that Eve did not write a letter, but you did how did you feel about that?
46:04Projected I felt crap
46:06I felt like she wasn't committed to the experiment and with her just refusing to do the task
46:12We're just staying in the same place again, okay, so we're gonna go to the dinner party
46:19So you came into this dinner party together, but then very quickly things fell apart
46:26So Charlie, can you talk about the conversation that you had with Polly because I think that illuminates a lot about your relationship
46:33so Polly
46:35Approached me in regards to what happened on the honeymoon
46:38Some of the things that I'd obviously said to Eve previously and that I was a bully
46:49And which was a strong word I
46:52Was just a bit shocked because I thought we had come in as a united front
46:56I thought we were on a good path
46:58I didn't realize these things were still going on in her head to the point that she was going to the other girls and
47:03I just feel like I have done all I can to hold myself accountable for them things that I've done
47:08But it seems that it was still coming on behind my back right so Eve every time that you've engaged with the group
47:15What I've noticed is that
47:17Having the group's validation is very very important to you more so than your partner's validation
47:24I think you know mentally we're both really struggling
47:27I just I feel I feel like it can open up to them girls
47:30And then when I sit down with them it all comes out of me. I don't I don't know
47:34Eve here's my observation
47:35You are not giving this experiment any bit of fairness at all now. I've been trying. I have really been trying
47:44But you know trying is more than words. I know trying is action. Where's the action of the try?
47:52Every time I like try to let my wall start a bit with Charlie
47:55She would throw it back in my face, or she would just do something that just hurt me more
48:00You need to like try just give it a go you can't just keep putting that guard up and going I can't do this
48:07We've had multiple conversations about squashing what happened. I held myself accountable
48:11I kind of got to an a point where there's not really much more I can do and
48:16I can't keep being told that I miss you
48:19You know I want to spend quality time with you
48:21And then it not happening we had a big fail the second day of the honeymoon, and we haven't kissed
48:26What did you do last night? What you because what did you do last night?
48:30You went one second you
48:34Went into my safe space you put your ear against the door in my interview
48:38That you should not have done you took that upon yourself to do that to listen into my interview
48:43After the dinner party and got your back up because of an action. What did I say?
48:48You sat in that room and glared at me like I'd done the worst thing in the world when you were the one trade that
48:53Came to the door
48:55But you literally listened into my safe space that's my interview you took up on yourself
49:03Right oh my god, I'm lying again someone, please
49:07Why is it always my
49:09Take some accountability for the mistakes on the issues. Don't tell me Charlie stop telling these it's gonna be a liar again
49:16We're going to get to the bottom of this we're gonna get to the bottom of this
49:20I
49:23Can't it just got me a lie on camera again. There's something that you actually have to leave
49:29You've got your reality, and I've got mine. That is not true Charlie. That is not true. That is not true
49:36Charlie it's okay Eve with respect you've lied on the couch today
49:49You