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This lecture examines the complexities of contemporary gender relationships, focusing on the evolving roles of men and women in parenting and professional environments. The speaker discusses the challenges of traditional gender roles and addresses societal expectations, particularly in the context of career versus caregiving. Through personal anecdotes, the speaker illustrates the chaotic nature of balancing responsibilities and critiques the expectations placed on both genders in romantic dynamics. The lecture further explores cultural beauty standards and economic policies, highlighting the need for a deeper understanding of the interplay between individual choices and societal pressures. Overall, it advocates for a nuanced approach to gender roles and relationships, promoting proactive dialogue among men and women.

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Transcript
00:00All right, good morning, everybody. Hope you're doing well. So we are the fifth.
00:05This is just for donors. If you've got questions or comments, I'm certainly happy to read them.
00:10This is a test of a new platform. As you know, Skype is going away, so we're trying a replacement
00:17and see how that goes as a whole. And you can invite others if you want. So I'm just
00:27going to run through a little bit of the tech here. Well, the tech's already done. We did
00:31that. But what I'm going to do is, you know, might as well get a few thoughts in while
00:35we're here. And I'm trying to be patient with modern gender relationships. It's a little
00:47tricky. It's just a little tricky. The reason being, so this woman, this sort of fairly
00:53popular tweets, this one 544,000, the next one 3.3 million. And this woman wrote, women
01:01are choosing a job over their own children, but men are working hard for their families.
01:07This is sexism. This is sexism. You know, it's a really tough thing when you're starting
01:16to talk about the same standards for men and for women. So women are choosing a job over
01:21their own children, but men are working hard for their families. Okay, who's going to raise
01:25the kids? This sort of comes down to a fundamental question in life. Okay, who is going to raise
01:30the children? And if it's going to be men that are raising the children, then women
01:44are going to have to work hard. I don't know how breastfeeding is going to happen. I don't
01:47know how recovery from cesarean sections, childbirth as a whole, episiotomy is frightening
01:54to find out about, but apparently a necessary part of birth for some women. So who's going
01:59to raise the children? And that's fine. Now, if the women want to be the primary breadwinners,
02:06then they have to select men to some degree for low ambition and a certain amount of,
02:17it's hard to say passivity, a certain amount of reactivity is probably the best. So when
02:23you're in a business career, when you're running your career, you have to be kind of proactive,
02:27right? You have to seek out your mentors and you have to study outside of just your
02:36job and you have to push for your raises and you have to push for your promotions, you
02:40have to compete with other people. So you have to really, really proactive. Now, parenting
02:44a lot of times is reactive. And so if you want to be the primary breadwinner, then you
02:50have to be proactive to a large degree. And whoever is going to be raising your children
02:59has to be more reactive, right? Because you really can't plan your day when it comes to
03:04having, let's say you have a bunch of kids under the age of six. I mean, obviously there's
03:08some things that you can do to plan, but a lot of it has to do with, did they sleep well?
03:13Are they under the weather? What is their mood like? And what is your mood like? Did
03:18you get any sleep? You're just kind of managing, you're not really proactively pursuing a major
03:25goal because you're just in control of far fewer of the variables, right? When you are
03:30a primary caregiver to children, and I say this having had a very assertive, if not downright
03:36aggressive career over the course of my life and also have been a stay-at-home dad, you
03:41are in control of far fewer variables when you are a primary caregiver to children. I say this,
03:49of course, I mean, I sort of mentioned this story years ago, but The Last Starfighter is a movie
03:54I've never seen. I've only seen bits of it. I wanted to see it because, you know, it's video
03:59games, science fiction stuff. But what happened was when I was working at a daycare, I worked
04:03there for the whole summer, we took the kids all over the place and it was a great deal of fun,
04:07really, really loved those kids. And we went to go and see the movie The Last Starfighter.
04:14And so naturally, naturally, I told the children ahead of time, hey, anybody who needs to go to
04:20the washroom, let's go to the washroom right now. Make sure you go to the washroom because,
04:24you know, otherwise you're going to miss parts of the movie, which I meant was I'm going to
04:27miss parts of the movie. So I planned to watch the movie and I watched almost none of the movie.
04:32Why? Because I got this tug on the sleeve. So-and-so needs to go to the bathroom. Okay,
04:41take him to the bathroom. Anybody else need to go? No, no, we don't need to go to the bathroom.
04:44We can come back 10 minutes later. So-and-so needs to go to the bathroom. So it was just a constant
04:49not. So I planned to see a movie, couldn't see a movie, right? So that is just the reality of
05:00being a caregiver. You are reactive, not proactive. Now, if you want to know why
05:06men ask women out and women say yes or say no, it's because the man, and why do men pay?
05:13So the reason that a man asks a woman out is the man is showing that he is proactive
05:18and the woman is showing how she reacts, right? Because the man being a career guy,
05:24even if you're just a hunter or a farmer, you've got to be very proactive. You can't just be
05:28reactive, right? You got to go hunt. You can't just be reactive. So when a man asks a woman out,
05:35he's saying, I am proactive. I pursue what I want. And the woman is reactive. She chooses
05:41from, she chooses yes or no if the man asks her out. And of course, if the man asks her out and
05:48the man pays for the date, he's showing obviously resources and so on. And she's showing hopefully,
05:54grace and looking good and putting effort into conversation and being a good conversationalist
06:00and polite and grateful, right? Because if a man is providing, if the woman is not grateful,
06:06then it's a bad situation. It's a bad relationship. So that's why men ask women out.
06:13Because men are showing how proactive they are and women are showing how graciously reactive
06:18they are. Because parenting is mostly reaction. Definitely when you're young,
06:23it's mostly reaction. I mean, you may say to your kids, it would be good if you learned a
06:29musical instrument, but you, I mean, if you're a peaceful parent, for sure, you have to be reactive.
06:34Do they have any interest in music? And also what kind of musical instrument do they want to play?
06:39They might try obviously guitar or piano or heaven help you, drums or trombone. So you are
06:47reactive because it depends upon what your children are into, what they're focused on,
06:53what they're pursuing, and whether you can maintain their enthusiasm because kids can start
06:58off very enthusiastic about something and then that enthusiasm can fade away. I mean, when my
07:03daughter was young, she composed on the piano. She wrote like tons of stuff on the piano. I thought
07:08it was actually pretty good and pretty nice, but then she lost interest in the piano and got into
07:14other things. Then she was really into writing stories. She was really into, she animated a
07:19bunch of movies and wrote and animated, wrote, directed and animated a bunch of movies. And then
07:25she became less interested in that. She's going through a writing phase at the moment, which
07:29hopefully will last, but we'll see. So you're just kind of reactive.
07:37So if a woman wants to be a primary caregiver, then she needs to signal that she's assertive,
07:46maybe even aggressive and absolutely proactive. She needs to signal that. And the man needs to
07:52signal that he's gracious in his reactions, that he will look good for her, that he will
08:02be a good conversationalist, that will be very grateful for her generosity and all of that kind
08:07of stuff to signal that they're going to be a good team. So if women want to be the primary
08:14caregivers, then women need to start selecting for reactive, somewhat passive relative to the
08:20aggression or assertion that's needed to pursue a career. They have to start selecting for more
08:25passive men and they have to start being more proactive in selecting for more passive men,
08:29which means of course, women need to ask men out and women need to pay for the dates.
08:38Because that's how you select the person who's best at staying home and raising the children.
08:45You can plan your career, you can be proactive in your career, you can manage your career,
08:49but you can't plan for much when it comes to kids. I remember taking a bunch of kids for pizza
08:58and just trying to get the kids to agree what should go on the pizza was Byzantine, right? It
09:06was a crazy complex negotiation. So you just have to be kind of reactive and manage all of that.
09:14So then women need to select for reactive men, proactive women need to select for reactive men,
09:19which means women need to ask the men out and the men need to look pretty for the women
09:25and be good at conversation and be grateful for the, right? But women don't want to do that,
09:32right? Still 90% of dates are the man asking out and the woman has the expectation
09:37that the man pays. Now, again, this is sort of pointing out that this is kind of hypocritical,
09:43is kind of inevitable. It feels kind of inevitable,
09:49but nonetheless, this is where you see things really occurring. This is where you see things,
09:55what is really going on for people. Like I watched the movie baby girl,
09:59because I'm kind of fascinated about what women find attractive and appealing these days. And of
10:05course, this is a hard driving female CEO like of an Amazon style company. And then she can only
10:16have sexual gratification by being ordered around by a tatted up intern, like being ordered to
10:26lick milk off a bowl on the floor to be ordered around. That's the only way that she can get
10:31sexual satisfaction. And then she has one daughter who's hyper-masculine,
10:35one daughter who's hyper-feminine. And this is just how it seems to go that she has all of this
10:42dominance, but deep down she's yearning for submission, right? Now we can argue is this
10:47right or wrong, good or bad, but I mean, trust me, man, they don't sink tens of millions of dollars
10:53into a movie and get genuine movie stars like Antonio Mendez and Nicole Kidman.
11:02They don't do that without doing a lot of research and figuring out what is attractive for women. Of
11:06course, they're a little bit, they're chasing the 50 shades of gray stuff, but that's just reality.
11:11That's just the reality. So yeah, men are working hard for their families. Yeah. And women are
11:19choosing a job over their own children. Well, they are because somebody's got to raise the kids.
11:23Somebody's got to raise the kids. All right. So then this other woman, Lauren,
11:30Gotham's Hitty, I suppose, she posted this as very big, big, big tweet.
11:38Somebody posted, is this before slash after convincing enough for you to get Botox?
11:43And this is a woman who took the Botox. It's a black woman. She took the Botox
11:49and she can't make any expressions, right? So she's trying to look surprised. She looks the same,
11:55right? She's trying to get snarly. She looks the same, right? And she wrote,
12:01the practice of paralyzing facial muscles to mute unnatural expressions is, I think,
12:07a way patriarchal beauty standards erase women's individuality in favor of constructing a docile
12:14feminine existence. Oh my gosh. So after, I don't know, Mary Shelley Wollstonecraft,
12:28Vindication of the Rights of Women, 150 years, 170 years, let's say 150 years.
12:32So after 150 years of feminism, women are still blaming men for their own decisions.
12:43Now, I don't think I've ever met a man who prefers, have you seen these glow-ups,
12:51like a woman who looks kind of natural and then she gets a glow-up and the glow-up is,
12:56you know, puff adder, lip filler. It is, you know, really streaked hair, wild amounts of makeup.
13:04And she goes from, you know, sort of fresh-faced local beauty to kind of weird,
13:12kooky, sex doll robot face. And you actually can see this happening in some of the
13:18MAGA women as well. It's just not, it's not appealing. It's not attractive. It's not
13:23attractive. So the idea that it is men who are demanding Brazilian butt lifts and the men are
13:30demanding these weird, stuck-in-a-pool-drain pillow lips, or that a woman can't make any
13:38facial expressions to remove a few wrinkles from her face. And again, maybe there are,
13:44I don't know, porn-addled men out there who just say, well, this is how it has to be.
13:50But I don't see it. I don't see it. I've never really experienced it. I've never,
13:57um, I mean, I've done thousands of call-in shows with people who are having, you know,
14:03these sort of major issues in their life. I've not once had a call-in show with a guy who says,
14:10I'm not, I'm no longer attracted to my wife because we're aging.
14:18That, that I'm not seeing. Or, I don't want to kiss my wife because her lips are a normal
14:29human volume, right? I mean, lips do thin out over the course of life, which is why the pillow lips
14:34is trying to reach for youth. A woman who's with a husband who loves her for her virtues
14:43does not need any of this crazy stuff to be attractive. I mean, obviously you need to stay
14:48in shape and, and relatively healthy and, and all of that gives you kind of a glow. I think that's
14:53really attractive and appealing. But yeah, my wife and I played sports with friends for two
15:01hours last night. I mean, she's as healthy as they come and, and beautiful to me. So
15:08the idea that men want this stuff and women just have to acquiesce,
15:14this was an old Kevin Samuels thing when he was talking to the women in the black community,
15:18right? So he was saying like, men have been asking forever, men have been asking forever,
15:22don't be overweight. Well, women are just overweight. Men have been asking forever,
15:25just have your natural hair. And black women have these weaves, like they cut their hair
15:31totally short and then they weave in this fake hair that is not, not particularly appealing to
15:37men. And there's a variety of other things he asked for, but, and he was saying like,
15:41you just, you're just not providing it. You're just not providing it. So I think that women
15:48wanted to look a certain way and they believe that that is really attractive to men.
15:55Yeah, the nails too, and all of that kind of stuff.
15:58I mean, when women walk around in heels and then complain that their feet hurt and heels can
16:06actually do quite a bit of damage to your feet, as far as I understand it. I don't think there's
16:11been a single man who says, I'm not attracted to my wife because she's not tottering around
16:16in these impractical heels. That tends to be for, for other women, right? And, and I understand the
16:26Botox thing and the pillow lips and, you know, like boob jobs and stuff like that.
16:32I mean, I find that artificial stuff, it's just like, it turns my stomach. I just find it
16:36absolutely repulsive because to me, it shows a pathological insecurity and making up for a lack
16:44of virtue, right? Because if you're a virtuous and, and noble and kind and gracious and courageous
16:50and all that, that's just about as attractive as, as things can get. So makeup, right? I mean,
16:57it's obviously not why it's called that, but to me, makeup is, I'm making up for a lack of virtue.
17:02I'm trying to be more physically attractive so that you'll overlook red flags in my personality.
17:08Makeup to make up for moral deficiencies. That's what makeup is for, to make up for moral deficiencies.
17:15So, I find Kevin Samuels is again, he's a late great YouTuber. He was constantly asking women,
17:24that women would say, I want a high value man, a high value man, right? A man in the top five or
17:287% of income. And he would say, what do the high value men want? A high value man can pick from 20
17:43women who all want him, right? Particularly if they're older. So if it's all the patriarchal
17:50beauty standard, okay, that's fine. So then he asked women, hundreds or thousands of times,
17:57he asked women who want the high value men, what do the high value men want? And the women
18:05had no idea. The women had no idea. So if you were running a magazine for women who wanted
18:19to settle down or whatever, then your articles would not be about selling makeup, but it would
18:26be about, I mean, that would obviously be part of that to some degree, but the articles would be
18:30about, we've done a survey. Here's what the men that women want, want from women. You follow me?
18:42Here's an article. We've done our research. Here's what the men that women want, want from women.
18:50Do they want aggressive boss babes who make that, I really hate that face, that
18:56you know, that, that riot girl face, that tank girl face, you know, I don't even know,
19:01you know, just sort of the growl face or whatever it is, you know, men don't want that.
19:09Right. I mean, there's a big debate on Twitter about somebody saying that a man would want sort
19:15of a, a calm, polite, even shy, a woman over an aggressive boss girl, hyperaggressive or
19:24hyperassertive career woman. Why, why would you want that? I mean, if you don't want kids,
19:30that's fine, but the people who don't want kids are not generally part of social discourse because
19:36they have no long-term investment in the future. So they're kind of hedonists, right? And people
19:42who don't want kids, a lot of people who can't have kids, people who don't want kids, they're
19:45just not really part of the social discourse as a whole. So as far as, I would believe all of
19:55this stuff about patriarchy beauty standards, if, if women were very curious about what men
20:05actually wanted. Now, if women were just like, do you want me to get pillow lips? Do you want me
20:14to get buckle fat removal? Do you want me to get a boob job? Do you want me to get a Brazilian
20:21butt lift? Do you want me to, to get, you know, crazy hair weaves and extensions or whatever it
20:26is, right? Do you want excessive makeup? Do you want, you know, that dead-eyed, smoky-eyed robot
20:33face thing, right? And what do men want? Well, I would believe that women were following patriarchy
20:40beauty standards if, A, men had power and much in society, and B, if women were constantly asking
20:46men what they want. But let me ask you guys who are here, right? I'd respond to these questions.
20:56Can you not do that? Yeah. So have you, have you ever had a woman ask you what you like to see?
21:08What do you want to see? How do you like me to dress? What kind of shoes do you want me to wear?
21:12How much makeup do you want me to wear? Do you want me to dye or streak my hair? Do you want,
21:17do you want me to wear, get Botox? Do you like, have you ever had a woman
21:24who you have some sort of relationship with, probably either explicitly romantic or somewhat
21:30romantic or potentially romantic, more than just roommate, brother, sister, friend zone.
21:35Have you ever had a woman ask you how you want her to look?
21:44Someone says, oh, James says, I never had anyone ask me that. I haven't dated anyone
21:49that went to those extremes though. No, no. I mean, so you've never dated a woman who uses
21:54a lot of makeup? Yeah. But never had anyone ask how they wanted her to look either?
22:01Right. No, uh, no, no. Right. So, uh, so is it a patriarchal beauty standard?
22:11If women aren't asking men what they want? No. So then who is it for if women aren't
22:18asking men what they want? And the other thing too, is that you could argue that there was more
22:25of a patriarchy when women needed male resources in order to survive. But now that women can get
22:32mostly male tax money through the redistributive welfare state of various kinds of welfare,
22:37I mean, all of the transfers of goods and services from men to women,
22:43they don't need men for that. So they're liberated from that.
22:49So just to switch gears for a sec. And the other thing too, you know, if you're in a relationship
22:54with a woman, um, ask her what, how do you want, how does she want you to look, right? It's
22:59important. A couple of other things. I just, this is more of a short test, but I did want to drop by
23:04and thank you all for giving me this test and add a little value here and there. Somebody wrote,
23:09so Trump is starting a 25% tariff on products from Canada. Remember, Canada currently imposes
23:14tariffs of up to 270% on products from the US. Funny how the media does not cover that.
23:21In the 18, in the 1800s, rhymes, writes James, uh, Al Tucker. He wrote in the 1800s,
23:2897.5% of all US revenue came from tariffs. This is government revenue. Almost a hundred percent
23:35of revenue came from tariffs. Now in the chart of inflation from 1800 until now,
23:42inflation was all about zero for almost the entire 1800s. So we're going to say,
23:48so we're going to say, Oh my God, well, the, the, the tariffs are going to cause
23:51inflation. Well, maybe in a sort of pure free market, maybe, maybe they would have an effect
23:57because you wouldn't be a pure free market if it was tariffs. But the problem is of course,
24:02if you're engaged in trade with China and China massively subsidize its industries and China,
24:07like China used in a recent three year period, China used more concrete than America used in
24:13the entire 20th century in a three year period. Like it's insane, right? So if,
24:19if a foreign country is massively subsidizing an industry, that industry is going to destroy your
24:26local industry. Now that's one thing if it's a relative free market. However, of course,
24:32if the government is now financially responsible for all the unemployed people got unemployed
24:35and insurance, they got a welfare, things like that, then subsidizing your own industry is now
24:43an act of aggression, if not downright economic warfare against the other country's treasury,
24:49because you knock out their industries by subsidizing your own.
24:54And then the government gets hit with all the costs of the unemployed people.
25:03So, so yeah, inflation was almost zero for almost the entire 1800s, even though
25:10almost a hundred percent of all US government revenue came from tariffs, just banks, right?
25:16So Clint Russell writes, uh, important stats to evaluate the trade war.
25:22Sorry, I shouldn't laugh, but it's kind of funny, right? So Canada generates one fifth of its GDP
25:28by selling into the US. Mexico generates more than a third of its GDP by selling into the US.
25:35The US generates just one 50th, 2% of its GDP by selling into both. Trade wars hurt everyone,
25:43but Trump has the cards and he knows it. This will increase consumer prices, no doubt,
25:48but it has the potential to drive both Mexico and Canada into a depression,
25:51which is why they're panicking. Trump intends to use this to negotiate border security and
25:55to bolster domestic industry. Will it work to be determined, but don't let people lie
25:58about who has the leverage here. The US economy is the golden goose and the whole world knows it.
26:02Yeah, I said this week, months ago that access to the US market is the biggest value in the world.
26:12So yeah, 20% of Canada's GDP selling into the US, 33% Mexico selling into the US,
26:19US 2% selling into both. So it's not even close. And this is why I think it's been really frustrating
26:27for Trump, knowing that they've got all this leverage and people aren't doing it. They just
26:37aren't, aren't, aren't, I've said leveraging the leverage, aren't deploying the leverage,
26:46right, if you have leverage. And somebody wrote, Mike Madrid wrote, this is a very big tweet from
26:55a couple of days ago. I can't think of a better military investment than spending $175 billion
26:59to eliminate half of Russia's military capacity without a drop of US blood.
27:06Oh, these hawks, these hawks. This to me is a fundamental test of empathy or
27:17understanding and processing the foundational existence of other human beings.
27:21I mean, these are real people who are being slaughtered on this barely moving front. It's
27:29a real human being. And if it's like, well, I can't think of a better military investment, right?
27:37Spending $175 billion to eliminate half of Russia's military capacity without a drop of US blood.
27:44Oh, man. I mean, and this is also, I mean, this is another IQ test for me is,
27:52okay, let's say that half of Russia's military capacity has been eliminated. Let's just say that.
27:58I don't think that's true, but let's just say that. Okay. So what will they do? Well,
28:01they'll go to robots, they'll go to drones. They've got a lot of great engineers in Russia.
28:05So if you eliminate half of Russia's current military capacity, they'll come back with a
28:13different military capacity that may in fact, and probably will be better.
28:18So just this idea that you change a variable and they don't get to change a variable,
28:26right? This is, again, to me, this is like selfishness, narcissism, sociopathy, like,
28:31well, only I am in control of these variables. And I can change the variables, right? Spend $175
28:42billion to eliminate half of Russia's military capacity. I can change a variable, but Russia
28:47can't change a variable. Russia can't adapt. Russia can't have its own response. That to me is just
28:52complete narcissism. So if I do this, what are other people going to do, right? If I do this,
29:01how are other people going to react? This is basic sort of public choice theory, right?
29:07Which is okay. So let's say, well, there's a small number of poor people. We'll just give
29:12them a bunch of money and then we won't have any poor people. And it's like, okay,
29:14but how are the behavior of poor people going to change if money gets handed out like candy?
29:21So even if you could like eliminate half of Russia's military capacity,
29:26they will simply adapt to a different military capacity that is going to be kind of different.
29:37Uh, right. This is, uh, Tyler says, Daryl Cooper made a great point on that. Russia is now the
29:44only battle-tested power in a peer-to-peer war. They can replace soldiers and equipment,
29:48and now they have modern warfare experience. Well, yeah, so they've got to adapt their
29:54strategies to real world conditions. And, uh, that's going to be wild. I mean, it's sort of
30:00like, well, um, we don't have, because we have nuclear weapons, that means there will no longer
30:05be any war or social conflicts, but that's not how it works. War and social conflicts switches
30:10to fifth and sixth, well, fourth and fifth generation warfare, which is about degrading
30:15institutions and demoralizing the general population. And then all of the other things
30:19that are going on as a result of that, or the depopulation thing. So if you can't fight people
30:25with nuclear weapons, you simply infiltrate their culture and convince the women to forego having
30:30children. And you take them out that way. So it's like, oh, nuclear weapons means the end of war.
30:35It's like, no, no, no, it doesn't mean the end of war. It just means it shifts to a different,
30:39a different thing. It's a strange, it's a strange thing that, that people just don't think, well,
30:47if I do this, what's the other, what's the other person going to do? What are other people going
30:50to do if I do this? And I just find that, yeah, I mean, yeah, fifth generation war right now. Yeah.
30:58I'm Jack Pasobic is the guy to go to for that kind of stuff. All right. So I just wanted to
31:02give this a test. I think the technology is working well, and I'm very glad, of course,
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