Married at First Sight (UK) Season 9 Episode 17
Married at First Sight (UK) Season 9 Episode 17
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00:00:00Previously...
00:00:02Hi!
00:00:03How you doing?
00:00:04Nice to meet you.
00:00:05Sixteen singles...
00:00:06Hi!
00:00:07...married at first sight.
00:00:09My heart is racing.
00:00:11Before three brand new couples...
00:00:13You look beautiful.
00:00:14...joined the experiment.
00:00:16I'm a married man. How good?
00:00:18And after some tense moments on the honeymoons...
00:00:21It's like she wants me to get into an aggressive, argumentative mode with her.
00:00:25...our newlyweds...
00:00:26Oh, look who's here!
00:00:28Wow!
00:00:29We've arrived.
00:00:30...got their first taste...
00:00:32Cheers!
00:00:34...of a dinner party.
00:00:37I'm pretty proud with the initiation of the shooey.
00:00:39And Jessica and Daniel...
00:00:41I got pissed off one night and I was acting like a little bitch.
00:00:44...were the talk of the table.
00:00:46As Domenica took aim...
00:00:48All I'm hearing from you, it sounds like childish behaviour.
00:00:51...and fired.
00:00:53Why do you keep doing that?
00:00:55You keep coming up and starting on me.
00:00:57I'm not starting.
00:00:58Did I miss something? Is she the fourth expert?
00:01:00Plus...
00:01:01I'm giving you so much and I'm getting you absolutely nothing back.
00:01:04What are you giving me?
00:01:06Anthony finally fought back.
00:01:08I'm a genuine good person.
00:01:10You don't have the capability for it.
00:01:12Before Cody's brutal revelation...
00:01:14I don't know how I could give Selena a chance.
00:01:16...left his marriage hanging by a thread.
00:01:19I don't see how we get past this.
00:01:23Tonight...
00:01:25Look at me.
00:01:28It's important.
00:01:30It's the shock confession no one saw coming.
00:01:33I just didn't realise, I don't know, that's how she felt.
00:01:37That will leave the room speechless.
00:01:39I'm going to give you something that perhaps you're not going to like.
00:01:43And as love heats up...
00:01:45I don't think I've ever felt so deeply about someone, so...
00:01:49Oh, that's really sweet.
00:01:51...which couple...
00:01:52I need to be able to connect with somebody and I'm just not feeling that.
00:01:56...will crack under pressure...
00:01:58This isn't working romantically.
00:02:00...and leave the experiment for good.
00:02:03If it's going to lead us to absolutely despising each other, then...
00:02:07what are we doing?
00:02:23It's the morning of the third commitment ceremony
00:02:27and Ella and Mitch have come to a major decision
00:02:31about life after the experiment.
00:02:34You're in Melbourne, I'm in Queensland.
00:02:36We are so far away.
00:02:38Fair enough, Sydney, Queensland or Sydney, Melbourne, quite close,
00:02:41but we're really far.
00:02:44So yesterday, Mitchell and I, we had a chat
00:02:47and we've come up with a bit of a plan post-experiment.
00:02:50This is, like, a good time where we're at,
00:02:53like, talking about it and stuff, you know, if it was a few weeks ago.
00:02:56I probably would have felt like it was too soon.
00:02:58Yeah, well, I definitely agree.
00:03:00We've decided that I would be the one to move to Queensland.
00:03:04But, yeah, no, moving to Queensland would be sick.
00:03:07There is this thing with Mitch, if you don't ask, he won't know.
00:03:10So I did, I just bit the bullet and I was like,
00:03:12yeah, so, like, what have you thought about us after the show?
00:03:15I was so nervous.
00:03:17But then the result was amazing.
00:03:19You spoke to my dad on the phone?
00:03:21Yeah, that was sweet how he said that.
00:03:23What did he say? He's like, you want to come to Robby's?
00:03:26You're always welcome.
00:03:28Plenty of room at our place.
00:03:30After being single for nine years,
00:03:33Ella felt instant chemistry with Mitch
00:03:36and has been smitten since day one.
00:03:38Wow.
00:03:40They definitely hit the nail on the head with things I asked for.
00:03:45And while she has struggled at times
00:03:47to forge a deeper emotional connection...
00:03:50It's a hard-hitting question.
00:03:52Um...
00:03:54Where's the craziest place that you've ever had sex?
00:03:58I would say maybe a bit let down that he didn't dig any deeper,
00:04:02like, to ask about more personal things.
00:04:07And despite his cynicism
00:04:09and his resistance towards the experiment...
00:04:12For this task, I want you and your partner
00:04:14to share a five-minute make-out session.
00:04:17I refuse. Not for five minutes.
00:04:19I think that's just stupid.
00:04:21Ella is still willing to put it all on the line for Mitch.
00:04:25When I opened this chapter, I was like, whatever comes with it,
00:04:28like, I'll just embrace it.
00:04:30For me, I was like, wow, OK, he does actually like me.
00:04:33He does actually put me in the future,
00:04:37which is really, really nice.
00:04:39Like, it would be the fun part of things, like, dating and, like...
00:04:43Yeah.
00:04:44..picking me up, taking me out for a date.
00:04:46LAUGHTER
00:04:47But Ella and Mitch aren't the only couple
00:04:49celebrating a relationship milestone this morning.
00:04:53Happy anniversary.
00:04:54That's our one-week anniversary today.
00:04:57I forgot. Um...
00:04:59We've made it. Thank you for reminding me of that.
00:05:01We've made it a week. Yeah, absolutely.
00:05:03Um, it's fantastic.
00:05:05Um...
00:05:06I feel good. I feel buoyant.
00:05:09And I feel as though Kate and I are going well.
00:05:12What would you like for your one-week anniversary?
00:05:15I find her incredibly attractive.
00:05:18I'm incredibly keen on her.
00:05:20You don't have to get me anything. Yes, yes, I do.
00:05:23But if you were to get me something,
00:05:25you can get me perfume.
00:05:27OK.
00:05:28Perfume it is.
00:05:31I feel like we've got a real supportive friendship
00:05:33sort of thing going on,
00:05:35but we're still working on the affection part, I think.
00:05:38Do you want a cup of tea, Matt?
00:05:40Love a cuppa. Thanks.
00:05:42Like, we, you know, didn't come home and make out or anything.
00:05:46Yeah, we just came home and went to sleep.
00:05:48Sugar in your tea.
00:05:51Kate, I'm already sweet enough. No sugar.
00:05:53So, yeah, in terms of that sexual desire...
00:05:56Yes, one sugar, please.
00:05:59Thanks.
00:06:00I'm just not feeling it.
00:06:02Um...
00:06:03Yeah.
00:06:11Are you nervous for tonight?
00:06:13I am.
00:06:14Oh, I'm pretty keen for it.
00:06:16Do you like this colour?
00:06:17Yeah, it's nice.
00:06:18I'm just thinking if I want to wear an earring with this dress.
00:06:21You know what they say.
00:06:22The bigger the hoop, the bigger the hoe.
00:06:24As the couples begin getting ready
00:06:26for tonight's commitment ceremony,
00:06:28Jessica and Daniel's relationship is struggling to recover
00:06:32after last night's intense dinner party.
00:06:35Howdy.
00:06:36Hey.
00:06:38Flower dress.
00:06:43Jessica and Daniel have had a rocky start to their marriage.
00:06:47And after Daniel's refusal to be critical of Jessica's appearance
00:06:51during The Honesty Box...
00:06:53You said I'm not your dream girl,
00:06:55so what would I have to change about myself
00:06:59to make me better for you?
00:07:02I was just supposed to be in such a weird position.
00:07:04It's like asking me to hurt your feelings, essentially.
00:07:07..Jessica went on the attack.
00:07:09I got woken up at about 1am to Jess on the phone
00:07:13swearing her head off to somebody about me.
00:07:16She said, I acted like a little bitch, I got no balls.
00:07:21Maybe I said little bitch.
00:07:23Yeah, acting like a little bitch, maybe.
00:07:25I don't really remember, it had bitch in it.
00:07:27..and at the dinner party last night,
00:07:31the pair continued their downward spiral.
00:07:33I got pissed off one night and I was like,
00:07:35you're a little bitch, you're acting like a little bitch.
00:07:37I own it.
00:07:38But I felt in that moment that he was being a little bitch
00:07:40and I set it up.
00:07:42So right now, I'm feeling a little bit anxious.
00:07:46This commitment ceremony is going to be very difficult.
00:07:49Last night was really overwhelming for me.
00:07:52I feel very unsupported from you.
00:07:56I obviously want to comfort you,
00:07:58but I feel like it's going to get met with coldness.
00:08:00I don't feel like you even like me, let alone want my comfort.
00:08:04We walked into the dinner party last night.
00:08:06As soon as we sat down, your back was towards me
00:08:08and I was, like, having anxiety attacks.
00:08:11Then you know I was stressed.
00:08:14I didn't know that you were not OK.
00:08:16Like, you were smiling, you were fine, so I...
00:08:18You weren't even paying attention, how would you know?
00:08:20I was, I turned to you a few times and there was just nothing.
00:08:24I asked you, are you OK?
00:08:27I asked you, are you OK, before going in, you said you were sweet.
00:08:33OK, Jess, I was so... I felt so supported by you, thanks.
00:08:39Like, it goes both ways.
00:08:41I get that you feel you don't get the same from me,
00:08:43but it's because we've had a week of just nothing.
00:08:47OK, yeah, because I'm not feeling good about stuff.
00:08:51Hmm, neither am I, Jess.
00:08:53OK, I get that. I'm not saying you're not.
00:08:57OK.
00:09:00Seeing Jess this morning and just showing some emotion,
00:09:03it made me feel that she somewhat cares.
00:09:06Give me a hug, please.
00:09:10No, we were both just fighting like this.
00:09:14It seems like it's not much,
00:09:16but even the fact that she's talking to me,
00:09:19telling me that she's upset,
00:09:21that's the best conversation we've had in a week.
00:09:23And it gives me a little bit of hope.
00:09:34The first commitment ceremony
00:09:36is a pivotal phase of the experiment for our new couples.
00:09:39Tonight, they'll be confronted by the difficult decision
00:09:42of whether or not to continue in their relationship
00:09:45or call it quits and go their separate ways.
00:09:48I really don't know what to expect.
00:09:50You know, we've got a lot of good things
00:09:52and there's things we need to work on.
00:09:54Are you nervous about the experts?
00:09:56Are you nervous about what they're going to say?
00:09:58Oh, yeah, it's going to be hard, I think.
00:10:01In this experiment, our couples have very little time to fall in love.
00:10:05The commitment ceremonies give us as experts
00:10:07the platform to hold couples accountable
00:10:09and send them on their way with new insights and understandings.
00:10:13I'm not nervous. I'm kind of happy.
00:10:16I'm kind of... I feel good about our relationship.
00:10:19And every day seems better.
00:10:22So I feel like we are growing.
00:10:24Good luck for tonight.
00:10:25And you. And you, yes. Yeah, yeah.
00:10:40For Selena and Cody,
00:10:42tonight's commitment ceremony
00:10:44has them seriously questioning their future.
00:10:47After a fight before yesterday's dinner party...
00:10:50Like, I just needed a hug.
00:10:52And just for you to say everything's going to be OK.
00:10:56We're in the middle of a discussion like this
00:10:58and you're like, give me a hug.
00:11:00It's like...it's not...
00:11:02It doesn't feel appropriate
00:11:03and it's not just going to make it better for me.
00:11:05..led to a full-scale implosion at the table.
00:11:08I don't see how we get past this.
00:11:12That's not a nice thing to say, though.
00:11:17Selena's crying.
00:11:18She's talking with Brent and Sam.
00:11:20Oh, dear.
00:11:21And where is Cody?
00:11:22Oh, my God. See what I mean?
00:11:24That's what does my nut.
00:11:29I've sacrificed so much to be here.
00:11:32My family are very traditional.
00:11:35So putting myself out there like this
00:11:37is a very big deal in my culture.
00:11:39It's mostly frowned upon.
00:11:42I wanted to prove to my parents that this could work.
00:11:45So it's just heartbreaking.
00:11:48It's not...
00:11:53It's not that I don't like her anymore,
00:11:55it's just I'm aware that she does want more from me
00:11:58and I'm at the point where it's like, I don't.
00:12:00No, I can give that to you.
00:12:03Like, I'm not an empathetic person
00:12:05and Selena is upset a lot of the time.
00:12:07It feels like I'm always having to try and lift her mood
00:12:11and I'm exhausted from doing this.
00:12:16MUSIC PLAYS
00:12:39Hi.
00:12:41Hey.
00:12:42Can I join you?
00:12:45Of course.
00:12:47It's your place.
00:12:48Our place?
00:12:49Hmm.
00:12:56How are you feeling?
00:12:58Yeah.
00:13:00OK, how do you feel?
00:13:02I don't know.
00:13:03Log on through my head sort of thing.
00:13:08I guess I'm just worried...
00:13:11..that you've kind of given up sort of thing.
00:13:16Yeah, like I have.
00:13:17I've shut off this week.
00:13:18I know that.
00:13:21Well, do you want me to give you space
00:13:23or is there anything you'd like from me at all?
00:13:27Like...
00:13:28No, no, it's all right.
00:13:29It's kind of, like, nice just to come before the storm, I guess.
00:13:36OK, well, I'm freezing, so I'm going to head inside.
00:13:41I'll be in in a tick.
00:13:43Cody and I won't grow as a couple
00:13:46because he hasn't grown up within himself
00:13:48and it's just a slap in the face
00:13:50if I keep hanging on to something
00:13:52that's not making me feel wanted or loved.
00:13:56OK.
00:14:02I just don't know what else to do.
00:14:12MUSIC
00:14:18With the commitment ceremony just hours away...
00:14:21There are going to be fireworks.
00:14:22Yeah, there's a few couples that have a lot of issues to unpack,
00:14:25that's for sure.
00:14:26..and the decision to stay or leave looming...
00:14:29How are you feeling about tonight?
00:14:31Yeah, good.
00:14:32Yeah? Yeah.
00:14:33Good about us?
00:14:34Yeah, good about us.
00:14:35..our couples are separating...
00:14:37Dovey, your wedding ring.
00:14:38Oh, yeah, where is it?
00:14:39Good luck. I'll see you.
00:14:41Yes. See you.
00:14:42OK, bye. Bye.
00:14:43..so that they can consider their options
00:14:45without the influence of their partner.
00:14:48Hi.
00:14:49Hi.
00:14:51Hello.
00:14:52Thanks for having us.
00:14:54Howdy.
00:14:55What's going on, mate?
00:14:56I think tonight's going to be an interesting one
00:14:58with the new couples and...
00:15:00You know, after once, I get to be the person
00:15:02that's knocked on a block.
00:15:07So, last night was a lot.
00:15:10Mm-hm.
00:15:11OK, what are you trying to do to make this work?
00:15:14To be quite blunt, I am picking out the negatives.
00:15:17Surely there's got to be five things that you like about him.
00:15:19I don't know.
00:15:20I honestly... I don't know.
00:15:22I'm giving you so much
00:15:23and I'm getting you absolutely nothing back.
00:15:25What are you giving me?
00:15:27What are you doing?
00:15:29Last night, it was really frustrating for me.
00:15:32I felt like all the questions were at me.
00:15:34Like, Anthony's down here and everyone's looking at me.
00:15:36Last night, you said,
00:15:37can you think of one good thing to say?
00:15:39Oh, may that kill me last night.
00:15:40How could she not?
00:15:41I could list off five things, you know what I mean?
00:15:43She could have said you're a good dad
00:15:45and I would have been happy.
00:15:46Yeah.
00:15:47He made himself look like this Prince Charming.
00:15:49It just says what makes him look good.
00:15:51It's all an act.
00:15:53I've got really nothing left in the tank.
00:15:55I don't want to sacrifice what makes me special...
00:15:58Yeah, yeah.
00:15:59..just to be somebody's accessory.
00:16:01You're enough.
00:16:02Yeah, yeah, basically.
00:16:03You are enough.
00:16:04Thanks, bro.
00:16:05It's more action I've had all...
00:16:08For our newest participants,
00:16:10this afternoon is an opportunity
00:16:12to take stock of their new relationships
00:16:15with others who are in exactly the same position.
00:16:18We're at our first commitment ceremony.
00:16:20Where are you at?
00:16:22It's tackling the friendship zone.
00:16:24I'm not attracted to him.
00:16:25Right.
00:16:26I don't know if I'm ever going to be.
00:16:28Have you guys touched, kissed or done any of that?
00:16:30We have not.
00:16:31Me and Carolina, we laugh, we joke.
00:16:34She's bubbly, she's fun,
00:16:35she's got a bit of fire in her belly,
00:16:37which is everything I want in a person.
00:16:39I find Carolina quite attractive,
00:16:41but there's not a tremendous amount of chemistry.
00:16:43So hopefully with time, that will change.
00:16:48How did you go last night?
00:16:49Because you had a rough night last night.
00:16:51100%.
00:16:52Yeah.
00:16:53Such a rough night.
00:16:54There's just not much good between us.
00:16:56How's things going, mate?
00:16:59Look, it's...
00:17:00It's been a challenge.
00:17:03Almost from night one, it's just been rocky.
00:17:05Yeah.
00:17:06She's very close.
00:17:08Our conversations don't flow.
00:17:10Like, there's just so much missing.
00:17:12Yeah.
00:17:13Initially, like, I was like, oh, this chick's awesome.
00:17:15Like, someone to contend with.
00:17:17We both have quite strong personalities.
00:17:19She's attractive.
00:17:20Are you attracted to each other?
00:17:22No, we're not.
00:17:23Okay.
00:17:24What is his type?
00:17:25I'm not sure I asked him, like, but he didn't tell me.
00:17:27But why can't you guys even, like, be friends?
00:17:30We've tried to.
00:17:31It just doesn't work.
00:17:32I do feel bad for Daniel
00:17:34because I had a little chat with him last night
00:17:37and he seems to be a really nice guy.
00:17:40How's your first week been?
00:17:42Probably not as bad as yours,
00:17:44but it has been a little challenging, not gonna lie.
00:17:47Are you going to try to work with what you have?
00:17:50I'm definitely going to see what the experts have to say.
00:17:53I know how tough it can be.
00:17:54Like, it is really tough.
00:17:56Yeah.
00:17:57So if you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here for it.
00:18:00I'll remember that.
00:18:02And after chatting with Jess,
00:18:04I don't feel like she's giving him a chance.
00:18:09I'm relying on the experts a lot tonight
00:18:12to help kind of give me a bit of clarity and a bit of advice.
00:18:16Is it me? Is it her? I don't know.
00:18:19It's doing my head in, man.
00:18:20Right now, my head and my heart are in two different places.
00:18:23It's been a bit of a rollercoaster,
00:18:25an intense rollercoaster.
00:18:27But I can see why the experts matched us.
00:18:29I can see glimmers of that.
00:18:31So I'm weighing up the potential
00:18:33to go through another week of potential chaos
00:18:35or the hope of something better.
00:18:42What about you, mate?
00:18:44Yeah, when we're good, we are good,
00:18:46but we approach situations so differently.
00:18:48Like, I know she wants just a hug to fix things,
00:18:51and it's like, yeah, look, I can do that,
00:18:53but it's not going to...
00:18:54It might make you feel better for 10 minutes,
00:18:56but then we're just back to pretending like everything is OK,
00:18:58and so we have the conversation the next morning.
00:19:00I'm with a man that can't even comprehend
00:19:03basic human needs and gestures,
00:19:06and I just said, look, all I need right now is a hug,
00:19:09and he just looked at me almost like in disgust.
00:19:12You're asking for a really simple action or...
00:19:15To show he cares. Yes.
00:19:17And he couldn't even do that. Yeah.
00:19:18He's not trying. He's not trying.
00:19:20He's not trying hard enough. Yeah.
00:19:22Yeah, so it's a real tricky one.
00:19:24Like, it is good, and as I said, I do care so much about her,
00:19:26and that's the hardest thing.
00:19:28But there's still, like, progress to be made, right?
00:19:30Exactly, but it's like...
00:19:31Or is it just worth saving the heartache and pulling the pin now?
00:19:34You've got to make that call.
00:19:38I acknowledge she's a great girl,
00:19:40and I want to do the right thing by her.
00:19:42She needs someone who can empathise with her a lot more
00:19:46and comfort her.
00:19:47I'm just not that dude.
00:19:49I just want to be able to live in the moment.
00:19:57HE DRONES
00:20:02Evening, gents. Come on in. Hello, hello.
00:20:04Hello, everybody. How are we all? Welcome.
00:20:06Good.
00:20:18Greetings, ladies.
00:20:20Hey, guys.
00:20:22Hello. Hello, hello.
00:20:26Hello.
00:20:35Well, welcome, everyone, to this, the third commitment ceremony.
00:20:39And, of course, this week we introduced three new couples
00:20:42to the experiment.
00:20:44Now, a word of advice for our new couples
00:20:47that a commitment ceremony is a pivotal part
00:20:50of this entire experiment process.
00:20:53Be raw and honest and vulnerable,
00:20:56and we can give you the feedback that you need
00:21:00to transform your relationship.
00:21:04Now, on that note, let's get our first couple on the couch.
00:21:13Elle and Sam.
00:21:20Hello.
00:21:21Hello.
00:21:22Hi, guys.
00:21:23Big smiles.
00:21:25Yes, big smiles.
00:21:27Yeah, I think this week we've progressed a lot,
00:21:30and, yeah, it's been good.
00:21:33It's a very different couple sitting here.
00:21:35It's just the body language, the closeness.
00:21:38How have you progressed?
00:21:40Well, we had sex.
00:21:42We heard about that.
00:21:45That helped.
00:21:47Obviously, like, that's probably the biggest elephant in the room
00:21:50is whether, like, when will Sam and Elle have sex.
00:21:53Was it?
00:21:54No, for me, it was when you were going to bash or kiss.
00:21:57I wasn't even... I was not even going there yet.
00:22:00Yeah, OK, maybe it's my elephant.
00:22:03Was it any good?
00:22:06Yeah.
00:22:08That face says it all, right?
00:22:10Yeah, it was good.
00:22:11It was good.
00:22:12Like, yeah, go Elle.
00:22:18It's kind of like a big arch of change for you
00:22:21because last night there seemed to be, like,
00:22:24a different acceptance of you, Sam...
00:22:26Yeah.
00:22:27..to who Elle is.
00:22:29There was a repeat of the beer in the shoe.
00:22:32It's called a shoey.
00:22:33A shoey?
00:22:34OK, there was a repeat of the shoey,
00:22:36and then there was a repeat of the beer.
00:22:38A shoey?
00:22:39OK, there was a repeat of the shoey.
00:22:41Yeah.
00:22:42And you did not seem upset with it at all.
00:22:45Like, I think the first week I was measuring him up
00:22:48against the person I thought I needed
00:22:50and, you know, whatever expectation I should have left out the door.
00:22:54Since then, my only expectation of Elle is be yourself,
00:22:57and I'll give him that.
00:22:59He's always been authentic.
00:23:01He is just Elle, and it's kind of funny, and, like, I love it.
00:23:08I mean, this is such a great turnaround.
00:23:11Decision time.
00:23:13Elle, we'll go to you first.
00:23:16We've progressed a lot this week,
00:23:19and I still think there's a long way to go,
00:23:23so in order to do that, I need to stay.
00:23:25Oh, the love heart.
00:23:27Yeah.
00:23:29Sam.
00:23:31I am excited to see sort of how much more we can grow,
00:23:34so I said stay.
00:23:39Great stuff, guys.
00:23:41Is there anything we need to do?
00:23:43Well, I reckon you should have more sex.
00:23:45Yeah, same.
00:23:47That's the key.
00:23:54Let's get our next couple up.
00:24:02Kate and Matthew.
00:24:04Hello.
00:24:08Greetings.
00:24:09Hello, hello.
00:24:10Good evening.
00:24:11Welcome to the experiment.
00:24:16So what's it been like for you both?
00:24:20Uh, so we'll take it back to the wedding.
00:24:24I was pretty lucky.
00:24:26I looked down the end of the aisle and I saw Kate,
00:24:28and I thought, what have I done to deserve this?
00:24:31She was beautiful and a gorgeous smile,
00:24:33and I was immediately starstruck.
00:24:36I had those butterflies.
00:24:37I had those immediate sparks.
00:24:40Wow.
00:24:41What about you, Kate?
00:24:45Um, I mean, it was a little different for me,
00:24:49if I'm completely honest.
00:24:52I didn't have that immediate spark,
00:24:55and when I didn't feel that,
00:24:57I get a wave of disappointment.
00:25:01And I kind of, in my head, I was like,
00:25:03if this isn't working romantically at this point in time,
00:25:06I'm just going to have to move forward
00:25:08and get to know him as a person.
00:25:10So we've worked on a friendship since then.
00:25:14For you, Matt, I'm just wondering
00:25:16if that felt like a rejection for you at that very first point.
00:25:19Yeah, it did, because I don't usually have those reactions.
00:25:25I tend to be successful in relationships or picking up women.
00:25:31And...
00:25:34Yeah.
00:25:35But I probably did put a little too much pressure on us too early.
00:25:39I'm a touchy-feely guy.
00:25:41That's my love language.
00:25:42I'm very affectionate, very passionate.
00:25:45And I probably asked too much of Kate too early.
00:25:48I wanted to hold her hand.
00:25:49I wanted to hold her around the waist.
00:25:51I wanted to kiss her.
00:25:52I wanted to touch her and just show that I like her.
00:25:56Yeah.
00:26:00So what have you been doing, particularly Kate,
00:26:03to develop some sort of connection?
00:26:06I have just been trying to, like, just work on the chatting.
00:26:10And, like, I'm usually a funny person
00:26:12and I usually, like, love to joke around
00:26:14and I just love to laugh about everything.
00:26:16So I'm trying to be a bit more playful and have a few more jokes
00:26:20and just sort of, like, relax into each other.
00:26:23Kate, can I just point something out?
00:26:26Absolutely, yeah.
00:26:28You've been matched with a guy that finds you attractive.
00:26:31Yeah.
00:26:32That's a good thing.
00:26:33Yeah, yeah.
00:26:34Also, he wants to be affectionate to you.
00:26:38That's a good thing.
00:26:40And not only that, he asks you questions about you
00:26:44because he wants to form a deeper connection.
00:26:47Yeah.
00:26:48That is three for three.
00:26:49Yeah.
00:26:53Well, this is very, very uncharted territory for you, isn't it?
00:26:57Yeah, yeah.
00:26:59You've never been in a relationship?
00:27:01No.
00:27:02And the guy's never said, I love you?
00:27:04No.
00:27:08So this is a whole new world.
00:27:12Yeah.
00:27:17OK.
00:27:19You're all right.
00:27:20You're doing amazing, Kate.
00:27:21Yeah, you're good.
00:27:22You're good.
00:27:30I'm not used to, like, compliments.
00:27:32I'm not used to being told I look good.
00:27:34I'm not used to being asked questions about myself.
00:27:37Yeah, so it is nice to have that.
00:27:43Well, I think we need to go to the decision.
00:27:46Matt.
00:27:49I think the last few days have been super,
00:27:54and it was a definite stay.
00:28:01There's a little heart there,
00:28:03and I really want to grow that little heart into a big heart, Kate.
00:28:06All right, Kate, what have you got for us?
00:28:08Yes, I've had my questions,
00:28:10and yes, it is a friendship at the moment,
00:28:12but I am here to put in 100%,
00:28:15so I chose to stay as well.
00:28:17Great stuff.
00:28:21Take the pressure off yourself.
00:28:23OK.
00:28:24You are in exactly where you're supposed to be right now.
00:28:26Yeah.
00:28:27Enjoy the next week.
00:28:29Thanks, guys.
00:28:36Coming up, Ella's shock confession...
00:28:39Now we're getting to the core issue.
00:28:43..leaves Mitch in tears.
00:28:45I didn't realise that's how she felt.
00:28:57Our next couple on the couch, Celine and Anthony.
00:29:07Hey, guys.
00:29:09Well, where do we begin? Last night, dinner party.
00:29:12Shall we go there?
00:29:13Go for it.
00:29:14It got heated and it was full-on.
00:29:16What was your take on it?
00:29:19Anthony?
00:29:23Well, last night, we started discussing basically where we were
00:29:27and how we sort of felt,
00:29:29and there was a few little sticking points there for me
00:29:33that I couldn't really get past,
00:29:35where I just thought, like, what am I doing here?
00:29:39She was asked five things that she might like about me.
00:29:42Couldn't think of one.
00:29:45I felt like I really tried and I really put myself out there.
00:29:49I've been vulnerable and I'm happy with that.
00:29:52The other day, I got a bit of a kick in the guts.
00:29:55She started telling me,
00:29:56you're unhygienic, you put your foot on the coffee table,
00:29:59you washed your hair in the sink.
00:30:01To me, it's just frivolous stuff.
00:30:03We're just dancing around the issue.
00:30:05So last night, basically, I got angry.
00:30:10And I stood my ground.
00:30:12I felt like I'd just been pushed to that point
00:30:15where I just kind of had to stand up for myself
00:30:17and say, what you're saying right now is just utter bullshit.
00:30:23Well, why don't we hear from Celine now?
00:30:27I mean, I definitely haven't given it my all.
00:30:30Why?
00:30:31Well, I mean, the main thing at the moment is
00:30:34I don't feel a connection.
00:30:36We are sitting here flatlining.
00:30:39What's the point? I know that.
00:30:41I know I'm not here to make a friend.
00:30:43It's remarkable for the three of us
00:30:45because last week you sat on the couch and you were a couple
00:30:48and it was moving forward.
00:30:50We see you this week and it's gone way backwards.
00:30:53Yeah, and very quickly.
00:30:54And I think I got stuck on that.
00:30:56You know, I put myself forward and I put myself out there
00:30:59and it just doesn't even get heard.
00:31:01Like, I need that spark in my life.
00:31:03I need that flair. I need that, like, excitement.
00:31:05You know, I need to be able to connect with somebody
00:31:07and I'm just not feeling that.
00:31:12Well, we need to find out where you stand.
00:31:17Anthony.
00:31:18I was actually smiling today
00:31:20at the idea of spending the time with my one true love.
00:31:24That would be my daughter.
00:31:27So I wrote, leave.
00:31:36And what about you, Celine? What have you got?
00:31:42The one thing I didn't want to do was lead him on
00:31:45and I feel like, yeah, we stayed on
00:31:47to kind of try to see what this was,
00:31:49but I feel like I wouldn't keep going
00:31:51with something that I don't feel a spark for is so...
00:31:57Honestly, I don't know what else I can say.
00:31:59All right, I'm done.
00:32:05You know, we're always disappointed when we lose a couple.
00:32:08Yeah.
00:32:09It has been a rocky ride for the both of you
00:32:12and it's come to an end.
00:32:14We wish you all the best for the future
00:32:16and please, you know, learn from this.
00:32:18Yeah, thank you.
00:32:19And do it different in the future.
00:32:22Thank you, appreciate it.
00:32:23Good luck.
00:32:26I took a chance and I'm proud that I took that chance.
00:32:29I'm proud that I put myself out there
00:32:31and I'm proud that I gave it a go.
00:32:33I feel like I've done all I can
00:32:35and I'm comfortable with myself and the decision I made.
00:32:39Well done, guys.
00:32:42Good job.
00:32:46Our next couple up, Mitch and Ella.
00:32:55Hello, hello, hello.
00:32:56Hey.
00:32:57Hello.
00:32:58Hey, guys.
00:32:59How's it been?
00:33:00It's been an interesting week for the two of us.
00:33:03Like, we're still on terrific terms.
00:33:05But yeah, like, how do we get to that next place?
00:33:07Yeah.
00:33:08Where would you expect to be?
00:33:10Like, more like doing reality together.
00:33:13Experiencing our lives.
00:33:15Yeah, but we've definitely had some more serious conversations
00:33:20as well over the past couple of days.
00:33:22Oh.
00:33:23One being post-experiment.
00:33:24We have.
00:33:25I was like, OK, well, have you even thought about
00:33:28what this could be after the experiment?
00:33:30Because I have.
00:33:31And, like, I've said to him, leaving you makes me sad,
00:33:34which must mean that I really care about you.
00:33:37And then, yeah, we sort of have said that we want to continue
00:33:41and see what this is going to be like.
00:33:43We want to test the waters, you know?
00:33:45We're having such an amazing time here.
00:33:47And, yeah, we think that it will be just as good or better outside.
00:33:53And how comfortable do you feel with the idea, Mitch?
00:33:57I'm open to it.
00:33:58100%.
00:34:00Open or enthused?
00:34:07Both.
00:34:08Would you move to Melbourne?
00:34:10No.
00:34:11No, I wouldn't.
00:34:18I think the base would be the Gold Coast.
00:34:21Yeah.
00:34:22You wouldn't be open to moving for Elap?
00:34:27It's never really...
00:34:28Probably not.
00:34:29It's never really even...
00:34:30I've never even thought about him coming to Melbourne.
00:34:34It's like we both knew that if this was going to last,
00:34:36that it would just be the Gold Coast.
00:34:38Yeah.
00:34:42Ella loves Queensland.
00:34:52I don't know, babe, I'm vibing you.
00:34:54You know, I feel your energy and I just know, like...
00:34:58I don't know, there's something...
00:35:00Spit it out, then.
00:35:01There's something there that you want to say but you're not saying it.
00:35:05I feel like he is so lucky to have you and you don't see that.
00:35:11Yeah, your confidence isn't there when you're speaking.
00:35:14Like there's something missing, yeah.
00:35:19I'm going to give you something that perhaps you're not going to like.
00:35:24I agree with Dominika.
00:35:25OK.
00:35:27I get a sense that there's things going on underneath
00:35:30that you're not talking about.
00:35:33You're looking to do essentially what you think it takes
00:35:37to keep Mitch and to keep the relationship.
00:35:41But I think there's some concern there.
00:35:44What do you need from Mitchell that you're not getting?
00:35:49Um, you know, he doesn't give me things that I need to feel secure.
00:35:56Give me an example.
00:35:58Well, I needed to hear from him the other day
00:36:00that he does think about me in the outside world.
00:36:04I needed to hear that he does like me.
00:36:06Let me ask you this.
00:36:07Do you feel like Mitch is too good for you?
00:36:13Um...
00:36:14Um...
00:36:17Well, we did have this conversation.
00:36:21Look at me.
00:36:24It's important.
00:36:27Do you think that you're good enough for him?
00:36:32Um...
00:36:39I'm not getting an answer.
00:36:42Um...
00:36:44Um...
00:36:50No.
00:37:04Do you think that you're good enough for him?
00:37:08Um...
00:37:15No.
00:37:18Now we're getting to the core issue.
00:37:28Ella, why don't you think you're good enough for Mitch?
00:37:31Um...
00:37:33Have I done something to make you feel that way?
00:37:36Said something?
00:37:38Do you know something we've observed here with you,
00:37:41Ella?
00:37:42We're getting a sense that you're holding yourself back,
00:37:45that you're not stepping into your power in this relationship.
00:37:50When we met you,
00:37:51you were this ball of energy that just boomed into the room.
00:37:56It's like, whoa, Ella is here.
00:37:58And we're just not sure that you've shown that to Mitch yet.
00:38:04I think I'm just struggling in this environment
00:38:06to really be that fun, loud, crazy me.
00:38:10I am that affectionate, deep, intense kind of person.
00:38:13That's who I am.
00:38:14But, you know, Mitch isn't.
00:38:15And at the start, I didn't want to be that way
00:38:18because maybe that's why I've been single for nine years.
00:38:21And I did take it down a notch
00:38:23and maybe I've forgotten to turn that notch back up.
00:38:26Mitch, how does it feel when you hear Ella say
00:38:29she doesn't think she's good enough for you?
00:38:34Well, I didn't realise that I made her feel that way.
00:38:38It's upsetting.
00:38:41Why?
00:38:42Because she's enough.
00:38:58Don't. It's okay.
00:39:04I don't want her to feel that way.
00:39:06I don't want her to feel that way.
00:39:07That's just, that's crazy.
00:39:18Yeah.
00:39:21I just didn't realise that, I don't know,
00:39:25that's how she felt.
00:39:30I don't think I've said anything or done anything
00:39:33to make her feel that way.
00:39:34Like, so I just don't understand that.
00:39:40It could just be my own insecurities
00:39:41from past relationships.
00:39:43Sometimes I struggle to believe and trust
00:39:47when guys say things.
00:39:49But that is my own insecurities
00:39:51and maybe that's why I haven't told him.
00:39:58On that note, we are going to go to the decision.
00:40:02Oh, I'm staying, I'm going to leave.
00:40:09It's a strong stay.
00:40:10Yeah.
00:40:12I'm staying.
00:40:14Brilliant.
00:40:17And what about you, Ella?
00:40:19I really, really do like Mitch.
00:40:22I want to keep doing what we're doing.
00:40:25So yeah, obviously, he's staying.
00:40:28Brilliant.
00:40:32Tonight, guys, has been a real revelation.
00:40:35For the last couple of weeks, you've come up here
00:40:38and sat here and said things are perfect.
00:40:40Tonight, we have found out that they are not.
00:40:44Mitch, you found out tonight that Ella
00:40:46doesn't think that she measures up.
00:40:48So your role this week is to reassure her
00:40:51in every way that you can that you're in
00:40:54and that she is enough.
00:40:56For you, Ella, it's time to be the real Ella.
00:41:00Yeah.
00:41:01Well done.
00:41:03We wish you all the best this week.
00:41:05You know what you've got to do.
00:41:06Yeah.
00:41:07We'll see you next time.
00:41:08Well done, guys.
00:41:09Amazing, guys.
00:41:16She's saying now that she doesn't feel good enough.
00:41:19She's never brought that up with me,
00:41:21yet she's bringing it up in front of all these idiots
00:41:23on the couch.
00:41:25And made me look like the bad guy.
00:41:28I haven't done anything to make her feel that way.
00:41:30It's just ridiculous.
00:41:31So I will take some time off the relationship,
00:41:35call it there for a few days, and then see how I feel.
00:41:41Right, let's get the next couple up.
00:41:46Tamara and Brent.
00:41:52A brand new couple.
00:41:53Yes.
00:41:54Where did you come from?
00:41:55We've amped.
00:41:56The smile, Tamara.
00:41:57The smile.
00:41:58I know.
00:41:59Both of you look so happy.
00:42:00What's changed in the last week?
00:42:03From the last commitment ceremony,
00:42:05we just made lots of compromises, I think.
00:42:07Our communication was better.
00:42:08We took on your advice from the week before.
00:42:11We did start having fun.
00:42:12There's no tension.
00:42:13It's a great feeling.
00:42:14Yay.
00:42:16What have you both learned about each other this week
00:42:18that's helped you turn it around?
00:42:20He can be patient.
00:42:23And he listens, which is really big.
00:42:26And Brent?
00:42:27She's a lot more thoughtful than lets on.
00:42:29And she's softer than she lets on, too.
00:42:32You said the other night you were annoyed
00:42:33because you were starting to like me so much.
00:42:35Snitch.
00:42:38Yes, I tried to hide it.
00:42:39I started gigging at one point.
00:42:40I hid my head under a pillow.
00:42:42She said, what are you doing?
00:42:43I went, I think I kind of like you a little bit sometimes.
00:42:47And then I just hid.
00:42:50All right, guys.
00:42:51Well, let's get to the decision.
00:42:53Let's go to you first, Brent.
00:42:57Great stuff.
00:42:58Underlined.
00:42:59Underlined.
00:43:00Sting.
00:43:01I love it.
00:43:02Yes, Tamara.
00:43:04Yeah, I've written stay as well.
00:43:05Wonderful.
00:43:07Thanks so much, guys.
00:43:09Thank you very much.
00:43:16Our next couple up on the couch,
00:43:18Jackson and Olivia.
00:43:20That's us.
00:43:24Hello, hello, hello.
00:43:25Hi, guys.
00:43:27How have you guys been getting along this week?
00:43:29Well, we've been getting along as good as ever.
00:43:32We've had a few more in-depth discussions this week.
00:43:36I think I've realised that we're actually
00:43:38at a very deep level right now.
00:43:41Like, I've told Liv stuff
00:43:42that I haven't told some of my best mates.
00:43:45How does it feel to not be guarded?
00:43:49Feels good.
00:43:50Like, it's good to be able to trust someone
00:43:52with, like, such important stuff.
00:43:54Yeah.
00:43:55Like, trust him with my whole heart, honestly.
00:43:58Like, I could see myself falling in love with him
00:44:00very easily.
00:44:03I don't think I've ever felt so deeply about someone, so...
00:44:08Oh, that's really sweet.
00:44:10Well, our breath is bated to find out
00:44:12what your decisions are tonight.
00:44:15A really tough call to make, so I'll stay.
00:44:19Yeah, couldn't really see myself without her,
00:44:21so I said stay times 1,000.
00:44:24Oh!
00:44:26It's strong.
00:44:28Thank you so much.
00:44:29Thanks, guys.
00:44:33Right, let's get the next couple up.
00:44:36Dominica and Jack.
00:44:38Let's do it.
00:44:44Look at you two, eh?
00:44:46What are you going to tell us about this week?
00:44:48I'm not going to beat around the bush.
00:44:49To beat around the bush this week was a challenge.
00:44:54We went to Matt and Kate's wedding
00:44:56and had a little bit of a blowout there.
00:44:59A few comments were made that I just immediately took to heart.
00:45:02What was it that you didn't like about Dom's behaviour?
00:45:05So, she was bringing up something that at the time
00:45:07I was embarrassed about.
00:45:09There was a couple of times I did not click the button
00:45:12on the toilet and did not flush properly.
00:45:15Oopsie.
00:45:16You're a real couple now.
00:45:17Yep, yep.
00:45:18I just felt like, you know, we're meeting new people.
00:45:20It was just, like, an embarrassing sort of thing
00:45:22to be the first thing that was said about me.
00:45:24Do you understand that he could feel that way with that comment?
00:45:29Yeah, I completely understand.
00:45:31But also, it wasn't actually, like, said about you.
00:45:34It was literally just a joke about something about flushing the toilet
00:45:37and I'm like, oh, Jack should learn to do that.
00:45:39Like, it wasn't, like, the whole story.
00:45:43I think what Jack didn't understand
00:45:46is that he was really sensitive in that moment.
00:45:49And, like, the last week has been really hard for us
00:45:54because I've been navigating trying to be compassionate and caring
00:45:58and also trying to deal with a person that is
00:46:00very sensitive to any little thing that I say.
00:46:05Following that, we went downhill pretty quick
00:46:07to the point where I moved out for a couple of days.
00:46:11And how was it?
00:46:12What was the experience like for each of you?
00:46:14I really struggled with being like, OK, well, what do I do now?
00:46:20I knew he was feeling overwhelmed,
00:46:22but I just didn't know where I was placed in those emotions.
00:46:26Like, so, you know, spending the time apart
00:46:29was kind of counterproductive, I thought.
00:46:33For me, I needed that circuit breaker.
00:46:36I needed the time to readjust my whole attitude to Dom.
00:46:45For me, that did work.
00:46:47Now we'll forward to where we are now.
00:46:49We are good because we've got really good stepping stones
00:46:54leading out of that sort of tougher time.
00:46:57We have really opened back up the communication.
00:47:00Yeah.
00:47:02All right, you two, I think it's time for the decision.
00:47:05Dominika.
00:47:07I'm excited to see what comes next, so, of course, I wrote Stay.
00:47:10I wrote Stay.
00:47:15Over to you, Jack. What have you got for us?
00:47:18I wrote Stay with smiley faces.
00:47:20Yay!
00:47:22Excellent.
00:47:27Coming up, is Cody about to call it quits?
00:47:30My question is, like, are we compatible as a romantic couple?
00:47:41Our next couple up, Jessica and Daniel.
00:47:53I'm nervous.
00:47:57Why are you feeling nervous, Daniel?
00:47:59I guess it's been a pretty hectic week.
00:48:01Almost from the first night,
00:48:06we've been on a bit of a rollercoaster.
00:48:09It's like we're not even near each other when we're near each other.
00:48:15So what happened that made it so horrible?
00:48:20Well, on our wedding night, everything was going great.
00:48:24I'll admit, I was feeling overwhelmed.
00:48:26And I overheard Jess just make a statement about,
00:48:29at my real wedding, I'll do this, this, this.
00:48:33And I didn't need to look into it,
00:48:36but it just made me feel that she didn't take the current wedding serious.
00:48:43Yeah.
00:48:45So I kind of got in my head, thinking,
00:48:47oh, does this wedding not feel right?
00:48:50Yeah.
00:48:52So I kind of got in my head, thinking,
00:48:54oh, does this wedding not seem serious?
00:48:57Right, so it was a misunderstanding.
00:48:59Yes.
00:49:00And overanalyzed.
00:49:01Yeah, overanalyzed.
00:49:02You know what was said, sure.
00:49:03Yeah.
00:49:04Okay.
00:49:05How did things unravel from there, Jess?
00:49:07Like, after that happened, like, it was red flags for me.
00:49:12I didn't really get a warning of what he was feeling like.
00:49:14I thought everything was fine.
00:49:16And then all of a sudden he was like, I can't do this.
00:49:19And I think that that triggered me.
00:49:24And we don't even know what the real issue is that we're arguing about.
00:49:30He gets flustered by the conversation, and after that it's just done.
00:49:33Because if he gets flustered, then I shut down.
00:49:36Because I don't want to make him mad.
00:49:40You have different communication styles, that's very, very clear.
00:49:43That doesn't necessarily have to mean the end of a relationship.
00:49:46You know, and we see this all the time, where couples start, you know, on the couch,
00:49:50in quite a fractured position like you guys feeling, you know,
00:49:53very disconnected from each other because, you know,
00:49:56you're coming at this relationship from two very different directions.
00:50:00Look, I wouldn't be doing my job if I didn't tell you exactly the way I see it.
00:50:05And last night at the dinner party, it was pretty hard to watch.
00:50:10Did you feel like, at the dinner party, you were respectful to him?
00:50:14Looking back, no.
00:50:16Why not?
00:50:17Because I think I was probably just thinking about myself and what I was going through.
00:50:24You know, it's very early on for you two.
00:50:27It's quite difficult to understand what exactly isn't working with you both.
00:50:34I think it's like, it's a collection of things.
00:50:37For starters, we feel no spark with each other.
00:50:40We don't feel chemistry.
00:50:42We have both said that we aren't, like, necessarily attracted to one another.
00:50:48Do you agree with what she said there?
00:50:50Um, no.
00:50:56Certain things throughout this past week has made me question
00:51:01whether Jess takes me serious or if she even likes me as a person, to be completely honest.
00:51:10She's said I have no balls, I'm a little bitch, I tick five out of her ten boxes.
00:51:18If I was her type, we would not only be sleeping in the same bed, but there would be intimacy.
00:51:25So when you get told that kind of stuff, it's pretty hard to connect with someone.
00:51:33Jess, did you say those things?
00:51:35I did the night that we argued on the honeymoon after the confessions box.
00:51:40I called him a little bitch.
00:51:41I don't remember saying no balls, but I remember saying little bitch.
00:51:45What prompted you?
00:51:47So, we were arguing on a topic from the questions box.
00:51:52He said that I wasn't his dream girl, and then there was, like, three questions.
00:51:55So I was like, oh, like, what would you change about me to make me your dream girl?
00:51:59Like, what would you want?
00:52:00And he didn't want to answer it.
00:52:01He got flustered and kind of shut it down, and then he was venting in his room about me, like, really loudly.
00:52:07And I just kind of got my back up about it.
00:52:10When he came back out, yeah, I told him that he was a little bitch for hiding from me, which was wrong.
00:52:18And I completely own that, and I have told him I do not think he is a little bitch.
00:52:22And I shouldn't have said it.
00:52:23And the next morning, I did apologize, because that was wrong of me.
00:52:28I mean, I shouldn't have gone there.
00:52:29I was just, I don't know, extremely emotional after that.
00:52:41I probably don't want to rehash it, but that's definitely not how it went down.
00:52:44But I can tell you how it went down.
00:52:49Sure, give us your side to it.
00:52:59Yeah.
00:53:07Yeah, I told him that he was a little bitch for hiding from me.
00:53:14He was venting in his room about me, like, really loudly.
00:53:17And I just kind of got my back up about it.
00:53:21Yeah, I told him that he was a little bitch for hiding from me, which was wrong.
00:53:28And I completely own that, and I have told him I do not think he is a little bitch.
00:53:32And I shouldn't have said it.
00:53:33And the next morning, I did apologize.
00:53:39I probably don't want to rehash it, but that's definitely not how it went down.
00:53:43But I can tell you how it went down.
00:53:47Sure, give us your side to it.
00:53:50The free question was, she goes, what would you change on my body if you could?
00:53:56And I said, I don't want to answer that because I don't see the benefit of saying,
00:54:02oh, I can change this because I've accepted you as you are regardless.
00:54:05Even though my thing was, you're not my dream girl, but I'm still in it regardless.
00:54:12So that's where the dream girl comment came from.
00:54:15And she didn't want to accept the fact that I wouldn't tell her the thing that I would change.
00:54:20Daniel.
00:54:21Yeah.
00:54:22From what you're saying, you get a sense that she genuinely doesn't like you.
00:54:28Yes.
00:54:30Yeah.
00:54:31I've never told you I don't like you, and that's not true.
00:54:34I do think you're a great guy.
00:54:39I don't have anything bad to say about him.
00:54:43What about for you, Daniel?
00:54:44What do you like about Jess?
00:54:46How do you feel about her?
00:54:48It's hard because it's been a crazy week, but I know Jess has a really good heart.
00:54:55She's a confident, strong girl, and I like that about her.
00:54:58There's just like a lot of traits in a girl that I actually ask for.
00:55:03It's hard to see them at the moment because we're so bad at the moment.
00:55:09But I'm holding on to that glimmer of what I do see in them good moments.
00:55:17Alright, let's go to the decision.
00:55:19And Jess, what have you got? Stay or leave?
00:55:23I said that I would leave.
00:55:29Alright.
00:55:38Daniel.
00:55:39Well, like I said, there's glimmers of hope to me, and I don't want to give up.
00:55:45It's been one week, so I said...
00:55:50Stay.
00:55:57Okay.
00:55:58We're not expecting you right now to become lovers overnight.
00:56:04Treat each other as though you're a good friend.
00:56:07That's all you've got to do.
00:56:08That's all you've got to do.
00:56:12On that note, do everything you can over this week.
00:56:15Give it everything.
00:56:17And we'll see you next time.
00:56:29Right, let's get the next couple up.
00:56:31Dionne and Carolina.
00:56:39Welcome.
00:56:41How has it been?
00:56:44Here you go.
00:56:45I mean, we get along really well.
00:56:49We do like a lot of the same things.
00:56:51We do have a laugh together, but we are stuck on a friendship level, I would say.
00:57:00Tell me about that.
00:57:01You know, I really enjoy being with her.
00:57:05We joke around and laugh.
00:57:07That's always been something that we had from the first day we met.
00:57:10You know, when we got back from our honeymoon, we had probably one of the best nights.
00:57:14We listened to music.
00:57:15Carolina let her hair down.
00:57:17My hair didn't really move.
00:57:23But we danced around.
00:57:24You know, we joked.
00:57:25You danced.
00:57:26I danced, yeah.
00:57:27I did a bit of that.
00:57:30But I'm a very affectionate person.
00:57:32I wear my heart on my sleeve.
00:57:34And because of that friendship word that came out, I feel reserved.
00:57:41And I don't want to push her or make her feel uncomfortable in any way.
00:57:45And I don't know what to do to get out of that friendship zone and find love.
00:57:53Carolina, you know, coming into this experiment,
00:57:55you told us that you had been dating the wrong people for a long time.
00:57:59People who cheated on you, who hurt you, who disappointed you,
00:58:02who put you down.
00:58:03And right here next to you is a man who is the opposite of all of those things.
00:58:10Yeah.
00:58:11I'm sure already Dion has shown you that he is stable, reliable.
00:58:17He's a kind guy.
00:58:19He's shown respect for you.
00:58:22I do believe he's creating a safe place for you to land here.
00:58:28Do you think it's worth a try?
00:58:30Yeah, definitely.
00:58:33I'll make a comment.
00:58:35It's week one.
00:58:38I think it's good to be in a friendly place a week after meeting somebody
00:58:43because the spark is not always there the first day.
00:58:46It simply isn't.
00:58:47Yeah.
00:58:48In life, outside the experiment, and in life, in the experiment.
00:58:52Plenty of people meet in life and are friends for a while,
00:58:55and one good day something changes.
00:58:57They get to know one another, and the spark can then appear.
00:59:01If you don't feel it, it doesn't mean that it's not going to be there.
00:59:04Yeah.
00:59:06On that note, let's go to the decision.
00:59:11Dion.
00:59:13I came here to find love.
00:59:15I'm married at first sight.
00:59:17I didn't come here to go on divorce at first chance, so I'm staying.
00:59:22Good.
00:59:23Excellent.
00:59:25Carolina.
00:59:26I did say that I didn't come here to give up so soon, so I was worth staying.
00:59:31Right.
00:59:37I would encourage you both to just go with the process
00:59:42and take things as they feel more natural,
00:59:45and I would just be mindful of those expectations at this stage.
00:59:50We will see you next time.
00:59:51Good luck, guys. Enjoy the week.
00:59:57The question is, like, are we compatible as a romantic couple?
01:00:01Is Cody about to call it quits?
01:00:04Because if it's going to lead us to absolutely despising each other,
01:00:07then what are we doing?
01:00:22And our next couple, Selena and Cody.
01:00:27Hello, hello.
01:00:29Hello.
01:00:32Last week was fabulous for the two of you.
01:00:35What have you got for us this week?
01:00:37Yeah, so this week, from my point of view,
01:00:41it was sort of the slowest point
01:00:43and probably the worst week in the experiment for us.
01:00:45We want to know what happened.
01:00:47It was just like one day we woke up and we just had this weird off day,
01:00:52and I just said to him, all I need right now is a hug.
01:00:55And just hold me and tell me that everything's going to be OK.
01:00:58And he was like, that's not going to help the situation, though,
01:01:01but it will mean so much to me.
01:01:04And I felt like my feelings and what I was asking for
01:01:08was instantly dismissed again.
01:01:11Since that day, we just haven't been able to get back into a good place.
01:01:16Yeah, in regards to that hug, like, it was me being stubborn at the time.
01:01:20OK, so you chose not to give her the hug?
01:01:23Yeah, we were in a bad spot.
01:01:25It obviously would have helped Selena, so I wish I'd done it. I do.
01:01:28But it was also me just sort of digging my heels in.
01:01:32Cody.
01:01:34Last night, she was emotional at the table.
01:01:37I saw you sitting next to her,
01:01:39and I did not see any kind of reaction
01:01:42in terms of consoling or just touching base with her clearly being upset.
01:01:48It's obviously awful, and it's something I'm not equipped to deal with.
01:01:52First, I'm not very empathetic.
01:01:54I'm quite cold in that regard, and I know it.
01:01:57That is one of my weakest points.
01:01:58I don't know how to console someone.
01:02:00And it's not that I don't like or care for Selena.
01:02:03It's just I'm really doubting that I can give her everything that she needs.
01:02:07But you know what makes her upset, so why aren't you trying?
01:02:11You do come across very emotionless,
01:02:13and maybe that is your way of dealing with things.
01:02:15And you always agree with everything that we say,
01:02:18and you're like, oh, yeah, that is me,
01:02:19but you're never actually making any changes.
01:02:21Like, she's saying to you, and she's said in the past,
01:02:23like, she just needs a hug.
01:02:25Just, like, just hug her.
01:02:27See, we obviously did make some changes
01:02:30because we had a great week last week,
01:02:32and then we still end up falling back into these,
01:02:35fall into this bad position time and time again.
01:02:39I want to say here too, like, I've spoken to Cody a lot of times,
01:02:42and he's nothing but spoken highly about Selena and how beautiful she is.
01:02:46But he never tells me or shows me.
01:02:48And when I am upset and he doesn't give me a hug...
01:02:51Yeah, exactly.
01:02:52...how am I meant to know that he actually does care about me
01:02:55when he's not even hugging me when I'm upset?
01:02:57Cody, can we just check in with you?
01:02:59Is it true that you've never actually told
01:03:02or shown Selena how you feel about her?
01:03:04Every time I do try and do that a little bit more,
01:03:06it doesn't get acknowledged anyway,
01:03:08and that's why I just feel defeated.
01:03:10But my question is, like, are we compatible as a romantic couple?
01:03:16Because if it's going to lead us to absolutely despising each other,
01:03:19then...
01:03:22..what are we doing?
01:03:26I've got to commend you, Cody,
01:03:28because, you know, you're acknowledging some of the parts
01:03:31of the trouble in the relationship here that perhaps sit with you.
01:03:36Selena, I'm interested in your perspective
01:03:38in terms of how are you contributing to the rockiness that's happening?
01:03:45Um...
01:03:50When you look at the problems in the relationship here,
01:03:53do you see them as wholly sitting on Cody's side of the equation?
01:04:04Yes.
01:04:09OK.
01:04:16How do I have my wants and needs neglected?
01:04:21Because someone can't show any empathy... No.
01:04:24..and, like, sweeps everything under the rug.
01:04:26Let's be really clear here.
01:04:27We're not asking you to neglect your wants and needs at all.
01:04:32All we're after here is equity.
01:04:35And at the moment,
01:04:36we're hearing that accountability for the problems in this relationship,
01:04:40Cody, you're owning some of them, Selena, you're not.
01:04:44And we're trying to understand
01:04:46if that's the reality of what's going on inside.
01:04:50So it's back to you.
01:04:51So what is it that you're doing that's contributing to the trouble?
01:04:55Because it's obviously on both sides. It always is.
01:04:58I'm obviously contributing to it as well,
01:05:01because it takes two to tango, but...
01:05:03How have you contributed to it?
01:05:06In a good way or a bad way?
01:05:08To the problems. We're talking about the problems here.
01:05:11I'm not.
01:05:12I'm not.
01:05:19We're just after what's really going on here,
01:05:21so that we can help you.
01:05:22We need to see inside the relationship here and understand it.
01:05:26Yeah.
01:05:27Is that how you see it?
01:05:30Yeah, I'm just very confused at the moment.
01:05:32Well, you don't sound confused.
01:05:33You sound like you're saying all the problems are caused by Cody.
01:05:36Is that right?
01:05:37Is that right?
01:05:41Well, I guess, like, a lot of the reasons why I'm upset
01:05:44is because of stuff that Cody has done.
01:05:47So...
01:05:49Yes.
01:05:50Yeah.
01:06:05Alright, let's go to the decision.
01:06:11It's going to be Selena.
01:06:14Obviously, I really came into this, you know, with an open heart and mind,
01:06:18and I really wanted to make this work,
01:06:20but at the moment, all I keep hearing from Cody is that he's given up.
01:06:31So, um...
01:06:34Yeah, unfortunately, I've decided to leave.
01:06:44Yeah.
01:06:49Okay.
01:07:02Alright, let's go to the decision.
01:07:04It's going to be Selena.
01:07:06Obviously, I really came into this, you know, with an open heart and mind,
01:07:09and I really wanted to make this work,
01:07:11but at the moment, all I keep hearing from Cody is that he's given up.
01:07:16So...
01:07:18Yeah, unfortunately, I've decided to leave.
01:07:35Cody.
01:07:37This decision, it was really hard to make.
01:07:41I thought, like, from the emotional standpoint,
01:07:43like, I do really care about Selena, I want to see how this pans out.
01:07:47Like, I do want to give it a good go.
01:07:50But...
01:07:52from a logical point of view,
01:07:54if I was giving advice to one of my mates in this position,
01:07:58I'd say that they're unhappy and it's not really working.
01:08:02To be brutal, I'd probably say, leave or get out.
01:08:09I waited up.
01:08:12I wrote a very shy stay.
01:08:26So there's a little hope here.
01:08:28Yeah, you're nodding.
01:08:32If you guys are going to give this a red-hot go,
01:08:35you've really got to make a commitment
01:08:38to not focus on what's happened in the past,
01:08:40to make it a line in the sand, and to just be in the present.
01:08:45Cody, Selena's very, very clear about what she needs,
01:08:49and she's not asking for a lot.
01:08:51That's fair?
01:08:52Yeah.
01:08:53Yeah.
01:08:54And sometimes she might say to you, I need a hug,
01:08:57which means absolutely drop everything and give this woman a hug.
01:09:02But also, sometimes she might not ask blatantly for it.
01:09:06When in doubt, ask her.
01:09:09Yep.
01:09:10This is going to be a big step up for you this week, Codes.
01:09:14Noted.
01:09:16All right.
01:09:17This is going to be a big step up for you this week, Codes.
01:09:20Noted.
01:09:22All right.
01:09:23Thank you, guys.
01:09:29I'm actually genuinely shocked and confused that Cody wrote stay
01:09:33because all week, all he's been expressing to me
01:09:36is how much he wants to leave, and that he's done.
01:09:38Well, that brings us to the end of another commitment ceremony.
01:09:42We appreciate how honest you've been,
01:09:45but it only gets tougher from here.
01:09:48For me, actions speak louder than words.
01:09:50Although Cody did write stay,
01:09:52I now need to see the actions I follow through with that.
01:09:56This week, you've got to buckle up.
01:09:59We have some big surprises to come.
01:10:02I just need to see effort,
01:10:04and I feel like if Cody put 100% into this,
01:10:07there's a chance this could actually turn around.
01:10:10Now, of course, we also want to say goodbye and good luck
01:10:14to Celine and Anthony.
01:10:18Well, everyone, go and get some rest
01:10:20and prepare yourselves for a massive week ahead.
01:10:24Thanks for tonight.
01:10:39Two addictive nights.
01:10:42This is the feeling I'm meant to feel.
01:10:45A forbidden, dangerous liaison
01:10:50plays out before your very eyes.
01:10:55A betrayal.
01:10:59Howdy.
01:11:00Like you've never seen before.
01:11:04If you thought the experiment so far
01:11:07was controversial,
01:11:10think again.