ウチ、“断捨離”しました！2024年10月15日 「頼りすぎた年下妻 亡き夫とのウェディングロード」
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00:00Now, let's choose a new life.
00:05Leave the useless things in the house,
00:09throw away the unnecessary things,
00:11and leave the attachment to things.
00:15Choose a new life and way of life with your own decisions.
00:20That is the Danshari.
00:26Hideko Yamashita is the founder of Danshari.
00:33She is a master of Danshari and life,
00:36who has guided countless people.
00:40It's the Danshari of the couple and marriage.
00:46Taking care of things means using things.
00:51Choose a new life and way of life with your own decisions.
00:56Now, the door of life opens.
01:01I remember everything,
01:05so I'd rather not have it.
01:09She may have relied too much on her husband,
01:13who is 9 years older than her.
01:17It's been 9 months since she passed away.
01:20Her room is still a mess.
01:25She is so sad that she can't clean up.
01:31That's not all.
01:34I think it's better for my daughter
01:39if her husband, who was strong, is alive.
01:45She even lost her confidence as a wife.
01:51What did Yamashita say to her suffering wife?
01:56My husband has forgotten.
01:59Cleaning up means giving up.
02:03The Danshari of giving up begins.
02:08Facing her husband's forgotten things,
02:11she regains her confidence.
02:15What did she find?
02:20Her husband's true form, which she had never noticed.
02:25I love it when I give up.
02:32Yamashita Hideko's
02:34Danshari of giving up.
02:37She relied too much on her husband,
02:40who is 9 years older than her.
02:45Hiratsuka City, Kanagawa Prefecture
02:47Hiratsuka City, Kanagawa Prefecture
02:50Hiratsuka City, Kanagawa Prefecture
02:53Hiratsuka City, Kanagawa Prefecture
02:57Hiratsuka City, Kanagawa Prefecture
02:59She has a public room as her workplace.
03:03Her house is a public room.
03:06Youko is 53 years old.
03:10Where should I put the grave?
03:16I put it in the same place.
03:20The work is a teacher in a kindergarten.
03:26Kindergarten is an education that embraces the power of children's thinking and judgment through play.
03:37Originally, she worked in a kindergarten, but she became independent a year and a half ago because she wanted to do detailed training.
03:51I like to see the children's sparkling faces when they are done.
03:59I want to enjoy such an opportunity with them and help them enjoy raising children.
04:10Yoko is a cheerful person outside, but when she came back home, she was living with her shoulders down.
04:21Hello.
04:24Hello.
04:27Yoko's home is an apartment.
04:32She lives with her daughter, Noriko, a fourth-year university student.
04:40The window is a 3LDK.
04:44This is the living room.
04:47Yes.
04:49Until her husband died, the three of them always lived in this living room.
05:01It looks like there's a lot of stuff on the counter.
05:07There's stuff on the kitchen floor, too.
05:13There's a lot of stuff on the top floor, too.
05:19It looks like Yoko is the type of person who keeps a lot of things.
05:27However, she doesn't have a lot of other storage and dining tables.
05:36She says she has a few other problems.
05:42This is the Japanese-style room.
05:45She was shown the Japanese-style room on the 6th floor.
05:51This is my room and my classroom.
05:58I see. There's even more stuff here.
06:05Yoko's clothes are hung on the fireplace.
06:11On top of the tatami, there are books and materials from the local school.
06:20There's a lot of books in the closet.
06:24I can't fit them all in here, so I put them here.
06:28It's a lot of work.
06:31As a result of putting a lot of books in the closet,
06:36there's a lot of stuff that doesn't fit in here.
06:44And there's another problem.
06:50This is my husband's room.
06:54He passed away last year.
06:57I'm going to clean this up.
07:01This is the room that her husband, Yoshihito, used to live in.
07:07It's been nine months since he passed away,
07:11but it looks like he still lives here.
07:17It was related to how he passed away.
07:22Yoshihito is nine years older than Yoko.
07:27He passed away when he was 63 years old.
07:32He died of a brain hemorrhage.
07:40Yoko couldn't accept the sudden death of her husband,
07:45so she couldn't come into the room.
07:48But now...
07:51How much do you want to take down?
07:54Everything.
07:57I want to leave a little bit of what's left,
08:00and then clean up the rest.
08:05She wants to leave a photo,
08:08and then clean up the rest.
08:13It's been nine months,
08:16and it's been a difficult decision to make.
08:23No matter what I look at,
08:26I remember it and I feel sad.
08:30So I prefer not to have anything.
08:34If I have something, I always remember
08:38that I wore this, or that I used this.
08:41If I have something, I always remember that I wore this, or that I used this.
08:45So I prefer not to have anything.
08:50Yoshihito, who used to work as an IT engineer,
08:55is said to have been a reliable person.
09:02In other words,
09:05he was a kind person.
09:07He never said no to anything.
09:11If I wanted to do something,
09:14he would say yes to anything.
09:17He was a kind person.
09:23Yoshihito relies on her husband
09:27to take care of her and her daughter at all times.
09:37When she looks at her husband, she is so sad.
09:42But she hesitates to dispose of him.
09:48It's been nine months.
09:54Her daughter Noriko is worried about her suffering mother.
10:00At night, when I'm sleeping,
10:03or when I wake up in the bathroom,
10:07I wonder if she is crying.
10:10I wonder if I should go to her house.
10:14I try to contact her often.
10:17I'm worried about her.
10:22Even though she lost her reliable husband,
10:27she tried to move forward.
10:31She was determined to move forward.
10:38My husband can do anything.
10:41He asked me to do anything.
10:44But I have to do everything myself.
10:47I want to be determined to take care of her
10:51and take care of her.
10:54Yes.
10:59Ms. Yamashita.
11:01Please help her.
11:07Hello.
11:09Hello.
11:11Nice to meet you.
11:12Nice to meet you. I'm Yamashita.
11:15First, she goes to the living room.
11:18Ms. Yamashita suddenly says she's worried about something.
11:24What are you worried about?
11:27This carpet.
11:29It's hot.
11:30It's hot, isn't it?
11:31It's midsummer.
11:34Even though it's summer, there is a soft carpet on the floor of the living room.
11:39It's a carpet.
11:42If you can't change it depending on the season,
11:46it means there is no place to put it.
11:49It means something is clogged.
11:52I see.
11:54She is very sharp.
11:56This is sticking out.
11:59It's in a terrible state.
12:02She noticed that the storage was clogged just by looking at the carpet.
12:10She should think about how to deal with it as soon as possible.
12:18Next, she goes to that room.
12:22My husband used this room as his study.
12:29The time has stopped since the day my husband passed away.
12:35What do you want to do?
12:37What do you want to do?
12:40I feel sad when I look at it, so I want to clean it up.
12:44Please sit here.
12:46Please sit here.
12:49It's hard to look at her husband's stuff,
12:52but there is also hesitation to dispose of it.
12:57Ms. Yamashita, who understood her husband's suffering,
13:00said this.
13:03It's sad, isn't it?
13:05This is what my husband forgot.
13:11When he went on a trip to a different world,
13:15he didn't take it with him.
13:18He didn't have time to dispose of it.
13:21He didn't have time to dispose of it and go on a trip.
13:27Ms. Yamashita prioritized her family more than herself.
13:34If she had time before she died,
13:37she would have disposed of her stuff
13:41without bothering her family.
13:46Ms. Yamashita, who suddenly had to go on a trip to that world,
13:51asked her husband to take care of her stuff.
13:58Everyone feels sad when they have to go on a trip.
14:06I feel like my body is being exposed.
14:12So, I feel like I have to do something.
14:17In other words, I feel like I have to dispose of my stuff.
14:25Instead of disposing of her stuff,
14:28she feels like she has to dispose of it with all her heart.
14:33Ms. Yamashita said that if she changed her way of thinking,
14:36she wouldn't hesitate anymore.
14:42What do you start with?
14:45Clothes.
14:47Clothes.
14:51First, she started with the clothes she had stored.
14:58Then, Ms. Yamashita had a flashback.
15:03I can put all of these here instead of my work.
15:09Oh, your work.
15:11Yes, Yoko's work.
15:14Ms. Yamashita's study in the Japanese-style classroom.
15:19What if she moved it to Ms. Yamashita's room
15:24and made this place her workplace?
15:33If I could work here,
15:36I would be able to do it by myself.
15:40That's right.
15:42I think she would be very happy.
15:46Ms. Yamashita's workplace.
15:49In other words, she would be able to revive this room
15:53as a classroom for teaching children.
15:56That became her goal.
16:03Ms. Yamashita's work starts.
16:07Shall we start from here?
16:10Yes.
16:15First, the closet clothes.
16:20There is a different way of wearing the clothes.
16:27I like this one.
16:29I feel warm when I wear this.
16:33I think you should keep this one.
16:37You can keep this one.
16:40Okay.
16:44At first, she doesn't rush to dispose of things.
16:47She leaves what she wants to leave.
16:52It's important to organize your feelings little by little.
16:59This one, too.
17:02This one, too?
17:03Yes.
17:04There is also a way to separate the clothes she decided to dispose of.
17:11Ms. Yamashita folds the clothes and puts them in a bag.
17:20This is a part of my body.
17:23So I want to use it carefully.
17:29The clothes contain the memories of the person who wore them.
17:36If you treat the clothes carefully,
17:41you can ease the feeling of sadness and resistance.
17:47In addition to clothes, Ms. Yamashita has something in her closet.
17:53It's a photo.
17:55I think it's a princess.
17:59It's a photo of when she was in her prime before she met Mr. Yoko.
18:07This is...
18:09I think he was in his 20s because he was on a long-distance relationship.
18:16His hobby when he was young was yachting.
18:19He was running around the seas of his hometown, Shonan.
18:28What came out of the pile of books?
18:33I like the painting books that my husband taught me.
18:40He was also interested in art.
18:46He was a perfect person who had a good sense of humor.
18:52But there was something unexpected.
18:57What is this?
18:59Isn't this the ramen he likes?
19:06He actually liked idols.
19:11Why are you hiding it?
19:17He was embarrassed to be seen.
19:20There's something cute about it.
19:24People who have passed away
19:28meet people they don't know while passing through things.
19:33That's also the charm of the Kuyo Danshari.
19:39In fact, there were a lot of things in this room that Mr. Yoko didn't know about.
19:47I don't know what code it is.
19:53I think he used this at work.
19:56I don't know what it is either.
20:00Yoshihito's work tools.
20:03He doesn't know what to use them for.
20:09What kind of work did he do as an IT engineer?
20:16I was in charge of the maintenance
20:20of the parabolic antennas on the ground that sent satellites.
20:28He was in charge of receiving various data from satellites.
20:37Yoshihito graduated from Meimon University of Science and Technology
20:44and worked as a major electrician.
20:50He has also achieved great achievements as a researcher while working as an engineer.
21:00He developed a banking transaction system using mobile phones.
21:06He also published an international paper.
21:14After he quit his job and became independent,
21:17he also participated in the Hayamusa project.
21:23There are people who do things like this,
21:26so we can use our mobile phones without any worries.
21:30I think he supported Japanese society.
21:37He was able to work, and he was kind.
21:41We can see that he was very dependent on his father.
21:52As the work progressed, Yoshihito began to change.
22:06Ms. Yoko put her husband's clothes in a bag.
22:13This was the first time she had done this.
22:21Before that, she gave the clothes to Mr. Yamashita
22:25and asked him to put them in a bag.
22:29She was able to put them in a bag with her own hands.
22:37It seems that something in her heart is starting to move.
22:52It took three hours for the first time.
22:55Ms. Yoko's desk, which was full of things as if she were working,
23:06was now empty.
23:13The closet, which was full of clothes and books,
23:19was almost empty.
23:25And the clothes that were packed in the storage room
23:30were all gone.
23:37However, there was still homework.
23:41She is going to face what she can't decide whether to leave or not.
23:49Mr. Yamashita did it for me, so I was able to throw it away.
23:54Like this?
23:57It's completely different from the style of the organization,
24:01but it's a farewell ceremony.
24:03I think I was able to do it with a feeling of really staying.
24:12Ms. Yoko was finally able to get out of the long tunnel.
24:18However, it was actually hard from here.
24:23It was too big for her to lose her husband's cow.
24:48Day 2
24:54Day 2
24:59Ms. Yoko is working on her homework alone.
25:05Today, I'm going to sort out the things on the bed.
25:12She says she's going to dispose of most of the things here.
25:18However, there are still things that she can't decide whether to keep or not.
25:25This is a book I can't think of.
25:29This is a book I can't think of.
25:33She decided to dispose of all the stationery and books.
25:41She seems to have no more hesitation.
25:46Why was she able to change her mind?
25:51When my husband saw me from heaven,
25:54he asked me what I thought of this area.
26:00I hadn't thought about it much,
26:03so I decided to sort it out for him.
26:11In that world where she can't sort things out by herself,
26:17she must have regretted it.
26:22Hearing Ms. Yamashita's words, she was able to sort out her feelings.
26:32This is a tool used by Mr. Yoshihito.
26:37There are a lot of devices and cords related to computers.
26:44What is this?
26:46USB?
26:50Yes, this is a USB memory.
26:56What is this?
26:58I don't know.
27:00What is this?
27:03This is a projector that displays images on a screen.
27:10I don't know.
27:12I'm going to throw it away.
27:14I think this is a computer battery.
27:16Oh, I see.
27:20Let's recycle the computer battery.
27:26What is this?
27:28Ms. Yoshihito doesn't know much about computers.
27:34She doesn't know what to use them for.
27:39I'm not good at it,
27:42so I asked my husband to take care of the machines.
27:53But from now on, she has to work hard on her own.
28:01They met by chance.
28:06Ms. Yoshihito was 29 years old and Mr. Yoshihito was 38 years old.
28:13My first impression of Mr. Yoshihito was that he was like an older brother.
28:19He was able to do a lot of things and had a lot of knowledge.
28:24He was the exact opposite of me.
28:30After graduating from high school,
28:33Ms. Yoshihito was busy selling apparels and working at a gym.
28:42Ms. Yoshihito said that Mr. Yoshihito looked like a perfect person.
28:50Mr. Yoshihito taught me a lot about art,
28:54such as Mr. Kai Higashimiyama, Mr. Koimari, and Mr. Genyamon.
28:59I didn't know much about Mr. Yoshihito,
29:04but I knew a lot about TV dramas and idols of that era.
29:11Ms. Yoshihito also fell in love with Mr. Yoshihito.
29:17They got married six months after they met.
29:22Their happy marriage life lasted for 23 years.
29:34Ms. Yoshihito's expression was cloudy when she was organizing documents.
29:46Most of them were work documents,
29:50but there was something that came out of them.
29:55This is math.
29:57He made a problem for his daughter's study and taught her.
30:06Ms. Yoshihito was good at math,
30:10so he made a math problem for her and taught her until she could understand it.
30:21He was a reliable father to his daughter.
30:28Then Ms. Yoshihito said this.
30:33I thought it would be better for my daughter
30:38if her husband, who was a good husband, was alive.
30:45I thought I could learn a lot from my daughter,
30:51such as advice and background.
30:58Why did she think that?
31:04When I was talking to my daughter,
31:08we had a little fight.
31:11It wasn't really a fight,
31:14but she said things like,
31:17I said things like that loudly.
31:28When her husband was alive, they didn't have a single fight,
31:33but they had a small conflict.
31:38I thought it would have been better for her daughter
31:43if her husband was alive rather than her unreliable self.
31:49Ms. Yoshihito had lost confidence.
31:58Even so, she continued to work hard.
32:05She finished her homework on the bed.
32:14All she had to do was clean the bed.
32:19But...
32:27I don't know where to start.
32:31There was a lot of stuff under the bed.
32:39And here was Ms. Yoshihito's surprising face hidden.
32:51Two weeks after the accident.
32:54Ms. Yoshihito called a helper.
33:00I'm going to have my daughter help me today.
33:07This is Noriko, the daughter of a college student.
33:13Let's take care of the top part.
33:18There was a lot of stuff under the bed.
33:23Ms. Yoshihito and her daughter
33:26also took care of the top part of the bed.
33:33Ms. Yoshihito, what was under the bed?
33:41This is also heavy.
33:44What was under the bed?
33:47She found documents and stationery related to her work.
33:55And her hobbies.
34:01Further inside...
34:05It looks like a file case.
34:10She found a certificate from elementary school.
34:18Inside the file case was a test from junior high school.
34:24It says art.
34:26Art is not allowed.
34:29When she was a child, she was not good at art.
34:37After that, she found a lot of prints from her student days
34:41and test proposals.
34:47Ms. Yoshihito was not inferior to Ms. Yoko.
34:51She had a habit of collecting things.
34:55It was easy for her.
34:58I said, I'll clean up.
35:00She said, it's okay, I'll do it myself.
35:03But you don't have to do it all at once.
35:05If I don't do it all at once, it will look like this.
35:09What else did she remember?
35:14What is this?
35:17It's physics.
35:20She found another print from when she was teaching her daughter.
35:28Ms. Noriko said this.
35:33My father taught me everything.
35:37He said, this is the formula for this,
35:40but this formula can be used for this.
35:43It took a long time to explain.
35:47He said, that's enough.
35:53It took a long time to teach her,
35:56but it was too much for her.
36:00When it was time to take the A-level exam,
36:03she said, did you study for the A-level exam?
36:06That was the first thing she said.
36:08It went on for days.
36:10That's why she said, I did it.
36:16My husband had a job,
36:18and he was a reliable and great person.
36:21Compared to that, I...
36:25I've been blaming myself like that since I died.
36:32But when I think about it,
36:35I didn't listen to what people said,
36:38and I didn't talk much,
36:40so I often caused trouble for people around me.
36:47There were times when you were grumpy, right?
36:49Yes, there were.
36:51He's kind. He's basically a really kind person.
36:58There's no such thing as a perfect person.
37:01That's true.
37:03As a parent, I want to do my best
37:06to do what I can do.
37:09I think that's enough.
37:13As a result of her daughter's work,
37:19everything under the bed was to be disposed of.
37:27However, there was still something that Yoshihito-san had forgotten.
37:35Most of his fishing gear.
37:38Most of his fishing gear.
37:45There was a lot of his fishing gear on the veranda.
37:53The unnecessary work is not over yet,
37:58but there is no doubt in his actions.
38:04When I'm gone, I only remember the good things.
38:08But as the days go by,
38:11I realize that I said these things,
38:14and that I was this kind of person.
38:17As I carefully check these things one by one,
38:21it's strange, but I feel healed.
38:26It's strange, but I feel healed.
38:33At this time, Yoko-san was already making a new decision.
38:45The unnecessary work was coming to an end.
38:52You're going to take that out, right?
38:56The teaching material for the regional education
38:59that was packed in the Japanese-style classroom.
39:02I'm going to take all of this to Yoshihito-san's room.
39:12Oh, you put on a colorful cushion mat.
39:19It's starting to look like a classroom.
39:23You should put a heavy one under it.
39:28Actually, Yoshihito-san had a dream before he died.
39:37My husband said that he wanted to teach math and science
39:41for elementary school students
39:43when he calmed down from work.
39:46He said that it would be nice if we could have a classroom together.
39:50He said that it would be nice if we could have a classroom together.
39:57Eventually, the couple wanted to teach the children.
40:03But that dream didn't come true.
40:09Yoko-san, while being watched by her husband in heaven in this room,
40:15continued to pursue the dream of creating a future for the children.
40:23And so, nine months after his death,
40:27the room that was left unattended
40:32was reborn as a place where Yoko-san could take a new step.
40:39The closet where Yoshihito-san's clothes were kept
40:45was Yoko-san's study.
40:52And the Japanese-style room where clothes and other things were left out
40:59could be stored in the closet,
41:02and it was tidied up neatly.
41:08And so, Yoko-san and Yoshihito-san
41:14found something in the middle of their carousel.
41:21When they saw the DVD in the closet,
41:26Yoko-san and Yoshihito-san got married.
41:36This is a wedding video of Yoko-san and Yoshihito-san.
41:42Is this the first time you've seen it?
41:44Yes, it's the first time I've seen it.
41:46I see.
41:55Yoshihito-san, who was reliable, escorted Yoko-san,
41:59and Yoko-san said that she enjoyed the wedding from the bottom of her heart.
42:06However, if you look closely at Yoshihito-san's expression...
42:21Yoshihito-san, you were actually nervous.
42:26Yoshihito-san, you were nervous.
42:31There was a different image from the perfect image,
42:35which was the image of the bride and groom.
42:44It's embarrassing, isn't it?
42:48Yoko-san never showed her tears again.
42:56Even if she couldn't find any evidence,
42:59it's a proof that she walked on her own.
43:08The relationship between the deceased and those who have passed away is different.
43:17I felt that the relationship was reflected in the video.
43:26When I looked at my husband, who I couldn't touch, one by one,
43:32I realized that the relationship was like this,
43:36and I relied on him like this,
43:38but there was also a side like this.
43:40I felt that each and every work,
43:43of course, the act itself was a gift,
43:47but it was also a way to encourage and heal Yoko-san.
43:53Even if I couldn't rely on him anymore,
43:55I could do this part by myself.
43:58I think I was able to encourage her like that.
44:01So, during this period,
44:03I worked on Danshari for a certain period of time,
44:07and I think that period itself was a real funeral for Yoko-san,
44:13a ceremony of farewell.
44:18As her husband passed away,
44:21I think that the relationship between her and her new daughter
44:25will be created in a different way from now on.
44:28I think that she will be energetic and powerful
44:34because she still has an important existence for herself.
44:40Farewell is also a beginning.
44:48There was a cheerful voice echoing in that room.
44:54Please look for the same picture.
44:59This is her first class with students.
45:10This is the beginning of the dream classroom that the couple had imagined.
45:17And in Yoko-san,
45:19the dream was spreading even more.
45:26I think that it is a place where everyone can exchange information
45:31and share their worries
45:35with each other.
45:38I hope that it will be a place where everyone can feel at ease.
45:44Finding her own way of life,
45:47one step at a time towards her goal.
45:51In that figure,
45:53Yoshihito-san must have her eyes narrowed in heaven.