THIS LECTURE IS ABOUT WHAT IS SEX.
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KASHIF MAG.
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KASHIF MAG.
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00:00Sex, which we all know very well, means that it is very different for every human being.
00:15And its purpose is also very different for every human being.
00:18In today's video, we will discuss what sex actually means for different people and what its purpose is.
00:25Assalam-o-Alaikum, I am Dr. Tahira Rubab. I am a Psychologist, Relationship Therapist and Sex Therapist.
00:32Viewers, we often hear that sexual activity is a normal activity and every human being knows about it,
00:44has all the information about it and there is a way to do it.
00:47But let me tell you a very interesting thing.
00:49Actually, the meaning of sex is different for every human being.
00:54For some people, it is a pleasure, for some people it is just necessary and for some people it is intimate.
01:02And different people experience it in different ways.
01:08And the way people experience it, the same kind of impact and image remains on their mind.
01:15And they remember the experience or they are not able to remember it and never remember it.
01:22As I told you, the meaning of sex is for every human being.
01:26For some people, it is a pleasure, for some people it is necessary and for some people it is intimate.
01:31In the same way, every human being's experience, sexual experience is also very different.
01:38For example, some people experience sex on a very emotional level.
01:44They get emotionally involved, they connect with emotional things and do sex.
01:51And in the same way, we see that some people just do sex and that is it.
01:56And they do sex only on a physical level to fulfill their needs.
02:02There is no string attached, no pleasure, nothing at all.
02:06And then there are a third kind of people who do sex as a duty.
02:12They themselves are not interested in it, nor are they able to connect anywhere.
02:18In fact, they are just trying to do sex as a duty.
02:23In the same way, for some people, sex is an extreme pleasure.
02:29And they try to connect with their partner through this activity.
02:36And for some people, sex is the way of expression of their love.
02:42That is, they express their love through sex with their partner, with their husband, with their wife.
02:51Let's see how these things happen between men and women.
02:57As I said, different people experience it in a different way.
03:02And the more you experience it, the more you register it in your brain.
03:10Like, it is generally said that sex should be experienced and done only to the extent of physical need.
03:21But let me tell you, as I said, different people experience it in a different way.
03:25And for different people, it means different.
03:28So, some people experience it on an emotional level.
03:32In which we see a lot of women.
03:35And there are some men who experience it with a lot of emotional involvement.
03:43That is, when you are emotionally involved and try to get intimate with a person or get close to him.
03:49In that case, your body, your mind and your emotions, all three things are completely involved.
03:57The more you are involved, the more enriched your experience is.
04:02Enriched experience means that the more good your relationship is, the better the activity is for you.
04:11And this kind of intimacy, this kind of sexual contact with anyone, is always going to be there.
04:19That is, it affects your brain through different sensors.
04:23And it triggers your emotions, it triggers your mind, it triggers your body.
04:32So, the print on your brain is a very strong print that you can never get rid of.
04:40And every time you demand that pleasure from your partner.
04:45Which you have collected all the emotions, that is, the mind, the body, and the emotions.
04:52You start demanding the same thing from your partner.
04:57Similarly, we see some people for whom sex is just a physical activity.
05:03And in this category, we usually see them.
05:07Our men are seen more in this category.
05:12Not 100%, but they are seen more.
05:15Because their physical structure is like this.
05:17For them, sex is more of a physical need and physical urge.
05:23And they try to fulfill it.
05:27Now, those who experience it on a physical level.
05:31And those who experience sex only on a physical level, this activity is only a physical activity for them.
05:37And this activity is not imprinted on their brain.
05:40They come and do this activity, and that is it.
05:44That is, things are finished immediately.
05:48It is said that it should be kept as a physical activity.
05:51So that a lot of connections cannot be made with it.
05:55And you can't experience it so much.
05:58And then we see some people who are in need.
06:03That is, because he is a partner, he is a wife, he has to go to him.
06:07Similarly, the wife has to fulfill the needs of her husband.
06:10So for them, this activity is only one such activity.
06:15In which only each other's needs have to be fulfilled.
06:18And that activity, they feel that it is not for them.
06:21And in that, neither does it create experience.
06:25Because emotionality is not involved.
06:27Nor does it fulfill the physical need.
06:30Because you have gone to a person for your need.
06:32You are present for the need of another person.
06:35That you have to fulfill his need.
06:37I come to many clients and see that the wife needs it too.
06:42Then you have to take care of it too.
06:43Similarly, women come and say that the husband needs it.
06:46So we see this behavior especially in wives.
06:49That they take that way.
06:51That they have to do this activity only for their husband.
06:55For some people, this is a very immense pleasure.
07:00They go into this activity to get their maximum pleasure.
07:09And then they experience a lot of kinky things to do it.
07:14Because their level of pleasure may be very different.
07:19Which is not only sexually involved.
07:22There are many other things in it.
07:24There are many other behaviors that are sexual practices.
07:26People are also using it.
07:30Sometimes it has been seen that those people who sexually fulfill each other's needs.
07:37Or only keep things on physical need.
07:40For them, it is very easy to shift relationships from one person to another.
07:45But those people who are on the emotional level.
07:48Those who want to make the right connection and experience things.
07:52Because sex is an emotional activity for them.
07:55It is an intimate activity.
07:57For them, let's say that if there is a problem in life.
08:01Then coming and moving is a big problem.
08:05They are not able to move.
08:07And then if there is a problem with their partner.
08:10Something like a medical illness.
08:13Because sexual activity is associated in their brain.
08:18Then they try to do it in the same way.
08:21And then if they have to move on in life.
08:26If there is a divorce.
08:27If there is a death of a partner.
08:29And some people, as I said, it becomes very difficult for them to move.
08:34And sometimes because of this, their relationship also gets bad.
08:38In the same way, for some people, this sexual activity is very.
08:43In which they want to get rid of themselves.
08:46They don't want to do it.
08:47They do it as a responsibility.
08:50Sometimes this activity is very painful for them.
08:54Because they are taking it as a duty.
08:57Secondly, they have a very negative association.
09:00Maybe they are afraid of going into this activity.
09:03Or they don't enjoy things that way.
09:06So for some people, sexual activity is a duty.
09:09For some people, it is an emotional attachment.
09:12For some people, it is just a physical need.
09:14What is this for you?
09:16Do tell us in the comments of the video.
09:18Take care of yourself.
09:19See you again with a new topic in a new video.
09:23Allah Hafiz.