Married at First Sight UK Season 9 Episode 30
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00:00:00Good morning, universe!
00:00:03Previously, homestays were a family affair.
00:00:07I'll snap him out.
00:00:08As Polly and Adam made a major breakthrough...
00:00:11You've actually shocked me.
00:00:12You can actually be loving and a really nice lady.
00:00:15Yes!
00:00:18..for Christina and Kieran...
00:00:20I need to figure out the situation and know what the right move is to take next.
00:00:23..time apart pushed them to consider their fate.
00:00:25You could see yourself spending the rest of your life with him.
00:00:28Yeah, I do really like him.
00:00:30Christina deserves somebody to love her.
00:00:32I'm going to get upset now.
00:00:34And for Sasha and Ross...
00:00:38..the pull of loved ones...
00:00:40Can't touch this thing?
00:00:42..raised uncertainties.
00:00:44I need to be here.
00:00:46I really can't be away from them.
00:00:48It kills me.
00:00:50But it was Luke's thoughtless comments...
00:00:52In here, you look a bit, like, bloated.
00:00:54Luke's saying I basically look hideous.
00:00:57..and a disastrous meeting with Amy's friends...
00:01:00Adult entertainment, is that something you see yourself doing moving forward?
00:01:03This is definitely an attempt to assassinate my character.
00:01:06..that left the marriage...
00:01:07As of now, I'm a single man.
00:01:09..hanging in the balance.
00:01:11Well, **** then.
00:01:12I don't know why you're still sat here.
00:01:14Maybe it's not meant to be after all.
00:01:19..tonight...
00:01:20I've seen the sides of Polly that are chill, giggling, smiling.
00:01:24..the final commitment ceremony brings out the best in some couples...
00:01:27I feel like we're tap dancing round the love at the minute.
00:01:30I haven't felt this way about someone before.
00:01:33..as tensions continue for others...
00:01:36I felt humiliated, I felt disrespected, I felt violated.
00:01:39Why can't you grow the **** up?
00:01:41It makes me feel uncomfortable.
00:01:43I can't feel anything but anger towards him right now.
00:01:46..and after a difficult homestay apart...
00:01:48To go from that wedding to then how we are now,
00:01:52that is what kills me.
00:01:54..Kieran questions the future of his marriage...
00:01:57I just don't know how much I've got in us
00:01:59for the amount of emotional support Christina needs.
00:02:02..while the dilemma of where to call home...
00:02:05The situation affecting me.
00:02:07..pushes Sasha and Ross to crisis point.
00:02:10I really wanted to do everything I could to make you happy.
00:02:23I think Barnes' spread's gone a bit hard.
00:02:28..after time away at homestays,
00:02:30the couples are back at the apartments.
00:02:33What are you wearing today?
00:02:35My blue cord with feather arms.
00:02:38You're going to look like a peacock.
00:02:41It's like a football.
00:02:43It is, isn't it?
00:02:45LAUGHTER
00:02:47It's not a good thing for me and Christina to be apart.
00:02:50She's always in my mind.
00:02:52You know what you're doing, what you're up to.
00:02:55Christina is one of the most amazing girls I could ever wish to meet.
00:02:59She's beautiful inside and out.
00:03:01I care about the girl.
00:03:03I care about how she feels.
00:03:05All I've ever dreamed of was to be with her.
00:03:08I've always wanted to be with her.
00:03:10I've always wanted to be with her.
00:03:12I've always wanted to be with her.
00:03:14I care about how she feels.
00:03:16All I've ever done is put other people first.
00:03:19I need to focus on what I want out of life and where I want to be
00:03:22and who I want to do that with.
00:03:29I haven't seen Kieran since the really emotional dinner party.
00:03:33I've missed him.
00:03:35I haven't stopped thinking about him.
00:03:37I just want to know that he's all right.
00:03:40It hurts because we were really happy.
00:03:44He knows that I want a future with him
00:03:48and I'm fighting for him.
00:03:56So I actually enjoyed seeing all your family again.
00:03:59Your mum made me feel ridiculously welcome.
00:04:02I didn't want you to feel, like, out of place or uncomfortable,
00:04:05like you couldn't do anything.
00:04:07I've seen a different side to you that I preferred.
00:04:10Yeah.
00:04:12I feel like you seeing that and your positive response to that,
00:04:15I feel like that's definitely something
00:04:17that I've got to be more mindful of.
00:04:19Me and Adam are in genuinely one of the best positions
00:04:22we've ever been in.
00:04:24The way Adam was with me when we were at my homestays
00:04:27was just a lot more relaxed.
00:04:29He gravitated towards me more.
00:04:31It was really nice to see.
00:04:33Hopefully it can continue now we're back in the apartment,
00:04:36do you know what I mean?
00:04:38Me and Polly are in a pretty good place at the moment.
00:04:41We've always said we like that we're both family-orientated
00:04:44and she's so close with her family.
00:04:46I would like to think this new side of Polly will continue.
00:04:49Time will tell and we've just got to see what will happen.
00:04:58Me and Luke haven't benefited from homestays at all.
00:05:02It started shit, it ended shit.
00:05:04He's made an awful first impression in front of my friends.
00:05:07I've not seen him since and we've stayed in separate apartments.
00:05:13I'm absolutely dreading seeing Luke at the commitment ceremony today.
00:05:17Right now, I just feel so much anger towards him.
00:05:20I don't even want to look at his face.
00:05:22I just feel so let down.
00:05:24As soon as somebody lies to me, that breaks the trust.
00:05:27I have no idea what goes on in his brain,
00:05:30I have no idea why he lies
00:05:32and I have no time left for it.
00:05:39I haven't seen Amy since I took the ring off
00:05:42at the restaurant with her friends.
00:05:44I really wanted to meet Amy's friends
00:05:47and I feel like Amy squandered the opportunity
00:05:50by dealing with it the way she did on the night.
00:05:53I feel like there was agenda to upset me, to attack me
00:05:57and Amy seemed to be the one that was egging it on,
00:06:00and I find that very hurtful.
00:06:02And I took my ring off
00:06:04and, yeah, it just makes me feel even more disappointed.
00:06:08I'm in no shape or form any better in terms of deciding
00:06:12what my headspace is at with Amy.
00:06:21Homestays went really, really well.
00:06:24Other than the confusion on where to move to,
00:06:27we did have a good homestays.
00:06:30But this morning, I'm feeling pretty deflated.
00:06:35Me and Ross had an argument last night.
00:06:37Ross drew his dummy at the pram for absolutely no reason.
00:06:41I'm at the end of my tether.
00:06:44He doesn't have to react the way he does.
00:06:46My drama is your drama, your drama is my drama.
00:06:49In recent weeks, Sasha and Ross have found it difficult
00:06:52to resolve conflict in their marriage.
00:06:55You should have your wife's back, always.
00:06:58Only your problem, Ross.
00:07:00Oh, yeah.
00:07:01Ross doesn't say a word to me, Sian.
00:07:03Grabs his two suitcases, starts putting all his trainers in.
00:07:07Honest to God, it was awful.
00:07:10No, no. Wedding ring falling across the floor.
00:07:13Oh, I was thinking about doing that.
00:07:15I am not comfortable with you being in this apartment.
00:07:18Right, I'm going.
00:07:22I feel like shit because last night,
00:07:25That's true.
00:07:40Hello, my baby girl.
00:07:46How's your homestay been?
00:07:48Our homestay was really good.
00:07:50But literally, the day we get back...
00:07:53Yeah.
00:07:54..out for a drink, all of a sudden, out of nowhere,
00:07:57Ross lost his temper and stormed off.
00:08:03Steaming, Sasha had an argument.
00:08:05I lost my temper.
00:08:07But it's not just me, though, it's Sasha as well.
00:08:09She does have a fire in her.
00:08:11Have you spoke to her?
00:08:13Oh, yeah. That was yesterday.
00:08:19Ross, you messaged Sasha saying,
00:08:22stay in separate rooms tonight.
00:08:25That's a lot. You're both very angry.
00:08:29When he left, he texted me saying,
00:08:31I can do better and everyone will see that I deserve better.
00:08:34The only person I can see that deserves better is me.
00:08:37Mm-hm.
00:08:38Because I've put so much into the relationship.
00:08:40I completely support him all the time.
00:08:42You deserve better than that.
00:08:44But, yeah, what more do you want? What more can I give?
00:08:47Her response was, good luck finding somebody
00:08:50who puts up with your shit.
00:08:53It's never going to get sorted, calling each other names.
00:08:58I basically just texted him to say,
00:09:00you're literally the one in the wrong and you're treating me like it's me.
00:09:04He's not even apologised. Oh.
00:09:06Oh, you can get argumentative,
00:09:08but my anger in comparison to Ross's is completely different.
00:09:13Like, Ross likes to break things, throw things,
00:09:15like, food up the wall.
00:09:17Not acceptable.
00:09:18So I thought he'd wake up thinking, God, that was really bad,
00:09:21whatever I spoke to Sasha yesterday.
00:09:23But he's not said a word to me.
00:09:25Are you thinking now about long-term
00:09:28and if you can do this in the long run?
00:09:31The moving situation, quite difficult. Right.
00:09:34On homestays, like, I ended up thinking,
00:09:39I don't think Manchester's the right place.
00:09:43Then this whole time I've been so set on Manchester.
00:09:47She wants to be very close with the family. Mm.
00:09:50Same for me. I've got a daughter back at home as well. Yeah.
00:09:53So it's pretty hard.
00:09:55My head is all over the place and I can't think what's what.
00:09:58I think it's a lot to do with the pressures of the experiment.
00:10:01Yeah, definitely.
00:10:03I don't know. I don't know what we're going to do, to be honest.
00:10:06It's a mess. Mm. The relationship is messy.
00:10:16I've got a lot of things on my mind.
00:10:18Honestly, I can't wait to meet the experts.
00:10:21I just need to put it all out,
00:10:23because the more I keep hold of it, I'll probably struggle more.
00:10:27I do need to show him the temper, yeah.
00:10:31Sasha does need to show him as well.
00:10:34This is my first time thinking about this decision,
00:10:38because it's too much. It's a lot.
00:10:42I'm extremely confused on what to do
00:10:44at the commitment ceremony today.
00:10:46There's a beautiful connection between me and Ross,
00:10:49and we should maybe vote for it,
00:10:51but Ross takes it too far when there's a disagreement.
00:10:56I don't know what is best anymore.
00:10:59I'm not sure I can tolerate it any longer.
00:11:15CHEERING
00:11:36Well, here we are for your last commitment ceremony.
00:11:40We know with the finish line in sight,
00:11:43you'll be thinking more and more
00:11:45about what it will take to make your marriage last long-term.
00:11:51This is your last chance to come to us
00:11:54with any issues, worries or requests for advice,
00:11:58so please don't squander that.
00:12:04First up to the couch, could I have...
00:12:07MUSIC PLAYS
00:12:12Amy and Luke, come on up.
00:12:15APPLAUSE
00:12:18Welcome, guys. Thank you.
00:12:24So, without a doubt, this is the furthest
00:12:27you two have sat apart from each other.
00:12:30Why are we at this distance right now?
00:12:33Um, where do we start?
00:12:36Let's start the last time that we saw you.
00:12:39We'll go back to the dinner party.
00:12:41We heard something that, Luke, you had mentioned to Lacey.
00:12:46So what was that?
00:12:48So Luke made quite a big deal about this photo of Lacey and Adam,
00:12:52saying that he's glad that I act with integrity and have class.
00:12:57However, when I spoke to Lacey, he'd said to Lacey,
00:13:00I'm actually really envious because I wish my own wife behaved that way.
00:13:06What I meant was, you know, I was envious that me and Amy
00:13:09weren't like that, you know, we don't dance like that.
00:13:12I just think it's bullshit.
00:13:14Excuses, and I just can't connect with it.
00:13:18OK.
00:13:20So then from there, we go to homestays.
00:13:25Luke, walk me through your homestay.
00:13:28I walked in a bit before to switch everything on,
00:13:31and there was a photo of me and a girl that I worked with.
00:13:34And I thought, hang on, I don't want Amy to walk into my house
00:13:38and see a random girl strapped around my arm.
00:13:41So I got a pair of scissors and I cut the girl out.
00:13:45Amy walks in, she says, oh, who was on the other side of the photo?
00:13:49I said, no, the photo was printed like that.
00:13:52She said, no, Luke, it's wonky.
00:13:54And then after a minute, I said, Amy, I just lied to you.
00:13:57I don't know why.
00:13:58I didn't need to.
00:14:00OK.
00:14:01Started the homestay on a lie.
00:14:03Caught yourself on the lie.
00:14:06The issue is that if you want to establish any amount of trust,
00:14:11you have to consistently be truthful.
00:14:15Of course.
00:14:16How can she continue any relationship with you
00:14:21if you can't be truthful?
00:14:25I'm feeling so disconnected with this person.
00:14:29Every single time we go to move forward,
00:14:32he does something and we just go straight back.
00:14:36We went to a castle and Luke made another sexual comment
00:14:41and we ended up having an argument then.
00:14:43We told you this, but, Amy, I don't think it was a sexual comment.
00:14:47We were speaking about walking my dog
00:14:49and he made that into a sexual comment.
00:14:51Why can't you read the room, grow the fuck up
00:14:54and realise it makes me feel uncomfortable?
00:14:57Why do you not care? All you care about is yourself.
00:15:00OK.
00:15:01Why are you rolling your eyes?
00:15:03I don't think it was sexual.
00:15:04It was basically about, can you see yourself living in Kent?
00:15:07Yeah, I can see myself bringing John the dog for exercise.
00:15:10Not only John, his exercise.
00:15:12And we'd slept together the night before,
00:15:14so it's like, what does this man want from me?
00:15:16That's why it was a little joke.
00:15:18Read the room.
00:15:21SHE SNORTS
00:15:23So, homestay ends Rocky.
00:15:26So you go into your homestay.
00:15:29What happens?
00:15:31We went into my mum's house
00:15:34and there's a photograph of me when I was 18
00:15:37and Luke says, oh, is this before the glow-up?
00:15:41And he was like, you look a lot more bloated on this.
00:15:46It's like, your teeth, your lips,
00:15:48I just don't understand why those comments were made.
00:15:51All I was saying was that I prefer how you look now.
00:15:54You'd like to think that after making some changes
00:15:57at a certain cost that you're going to improve,
00:15:59and I thought you did improve.
00:16:01If there were the two girls in front of me,
00:16:03I would pick this one now.
00:16:05Babe, if you go into a girl's house and say,
00:16:08you practically said you look fucking fat on this photo...
00:16:11No, bloated doesn't mean fat.
00:16:13Bloated means you look a bit bloated.
00:16:18OK, so once again, misunderstanding
00:16:21in the communication, which happens over and over
00:16:24and over again with both of you.
00:16:26I think reading the room is a real theme here.
00:16:29The impression we're getting is that you're not watching Amy,
00:16:32you're not reading Amy.
00:16:34But I struggle to understand sometimes how you're feeling.
00:16:37I don't know sometimes whether it's because
00:16:39facial expressions don't come across so well.
00:16:45No, we're not going to take that.
00:16:47We're talking about your capacity to read your partner.
00:16:52And we're hearing so many examples here
00:16:54of you completely missing the cues.
00:16:57So either you're not demonstrating empathy
00:17:00or you're choosing to overlook them.
00:17:03I'm not going to agree with you on that one.
00:17:06And you're not going to blame her face.
00:17:08Quite frankly, what you need to be doing is reading your partner.
00:17:13She's telling you these comments make her feel uncomfortable.
00:17:17That should be all that matters.
00:17:19That's what's important here.
00:17:23I know, and it doesn't make me feel good to know that I've done that.
00:17:27But from my point of view, I feel like it's very difficult
00:17:31because everything I do or say is not right or inappropriate.
00:17:37It gets worse. Jeez.
00:17:40We walked in to meet my friends.
00:17:42My best friend Alex wasn't at the wedding and basically said,
00:17:46Luke, tell me about yourself, tell me about your job.
00:17:49What do you do in your spare time?
00:17:51This is still a very sensitive subject to me
00:17:53because I've just found out my husband's a butler in the buff,
00:17:56which he told me he wasn't.
00:17:58So I was saying, do you want to tell her what else you do?
00:18:01And he was like, oh, there's an agenda here.
00:18:04He was like, I don't have anything else to say now.
00:18:06Took his wedding ring off and went, I'm single.
00:18:10And you were kind of egging them on,
00:18:12but tell them, tell them what you do.
00:18:14Because I did one job with an apron on.
00:18:16So it's just one now? I thought it was three.
00:18:18One job. And then it was two and now it's one.
00:18:20One job I did with an apron. One, OK.
00:18:22But it was more than that.
00:18:23And this is how my wife's introducing me to her friends.
00:18:26I felt like Quasimodo being taken around Paris.
00:18:30Here's the muppet, here's the butler in the buff, here's the liar.
00:18:34That's how you introduce me to your friends.
00:18:36I felt humiliated, I felt disrespected, I felt violated.
00:18:39But why are you ashamed about it? It's your job.
00:18:41I'm not ashamed of it. I'll talk about it. I'm not ashamed of it.
00:18:43Why? Because you introduced me like that.
00:18:49All right.
00:18:51Amy, you want to have truth and transparency
00:18:56and honesty in your relationship.
00:18:58The only way that you can get that
00:19:00is that you have to create an environment
00:19:02where that becomes the standard.
00:19:05But you don't create a safe environment for Luke.
00:19:10This is the first time he's meeting your friends.
00:19:13Clearly he wants to make a good impression.
00:19:16How do you think he felt in that moment?
00:19:19Probably a little bit intimidated, but...
00:19:21You know, what's interesting is that you're not even listening to him.
00:19:24Because he just told you how he felt.
00:19:26He just said, I felt humiliated.
00:19:29Regardless of lies in the past,
00:19:32you are failing to just acknowledge your role in this.
00:19:36Yes, there's a lot that he has to do,
00:19:39but this process is about each of us becoming better.
00:19:43So if you want the transparency,
00:19:45you have to show up and say,
00:19:47you know what, I'm going to create a safe environment for you.
00:19:49Yeah.
00:19:51You have to be empathetic to stay in the moment and say,
00:19:54you felt humiliated, and I'm sorry for my role in that, period.
00:19:58Hmm.
00:20:00You removed your ring.
00:20:02Yeah.
00:20:04Why?
00:20:06It was the definition of an immature person, Paul.
00:20:09I should have kept my cool,
00:20:11and I regretted it the moment I took it off.
00:20:14Yep, and you know, Luke, I know you adore Amy.
00:20:18I think part of your lying
00:20:21is because you may not feel in your heart that you're enough for her.
00:20:24And you're constantly trying to figure out
00:20:27how you could fit into her world.
00:20:29These are issues that you have.
00:20:31You have to know that you are enough.
00:20:34So my only question to you right now is,
00:20:38can you consistently be truthful?
00:20:42I'd like to think I have the ability.
00:20:45The lies that I say, they are white lies.
00:20:49But I have to take accountability of what I do.
00:20:52She's just asking for you to be honest.
00:20:54I know.
00:20:56You know, it's a simple request.
00:20:58I know.
00:21:00Okay, let's go to the decision.
00:21:05Amy, why don't you kick things off for us?
00:21:09I feel like I could see such great potential between us,
00:21:13and when we have the conversations about the lies,
00:21:16I'm thinking to myself, yes, we're getting somewhere,
00:21:19we're going to get better.
00:21:24But...
00:21:26Home stays have just been absolutely awful.
00:21:29You absolutely humiliated me in front of my friends.
00:21:33It brought out a side of me that I've never seen before.
00:21:38And I really don't want to be that person.
00:21:41And for that reason...
00:21:44..I put leave.
00:21:50OK.
00:21:53Luke?
00:21:55I was in a dilemma.
00:21:58How can I say stay when I make her feel like this?
00:22:02I want you to be happy.
00:22:04This is the first and the last thing I want, you being happy.
00:22:07Perhaps I'm not good enough to make her happy.
00:22:10As painful as that is, if it's the truth, it's the truth.
00:22:17But...
00:22:20..I really like her.
00:22:22I feel she's really good for me.
00:22:25So I'm willing to try everything I've got left in me
00:22:29to give you a glimpse that I can be the Luke that I need to be for you.
00:22:34And for that reason, I said I'm going to stay.
00:22:37APPLAUSE
00:22:49We know if one member of the couple writes stay,
00:22:53then the couple needs to stay.
00:22:58Amy, are you willing to stay and work on the marriage?
00:23:10I don't know where we can go from here, if I'm honest.
00:23:20Amy, are you willing to stay and work on the marriage?
00:23:30I don't know where we can go from here, if I'm honest.
00:23:38Amy, are you willing to stay and work on the marriage?
00:23:42I don't know where we can go from here, if I'm honest.
00:23:50If you have anything left in you,
00:23:53and you can prove that you can go a few days without lying,
00:23:58then that's a start.
00:24:01But if it continues, then I don't want to carry on.
00:24:06That's a very fair request.
00:24:09Thank you. Thank you very much.
00:24:11Well done, you two. Well done, guys. Good work.
00:24:14APPLAUSE
00:24:17Amy letting leave, I did not see that coming.
00:24:20I feel upset, but mostly I think I feel disappointed in myself
00:24:24that I have caused this woman to want to leave our relationship.
00:24:30I'm not a quitter, so I am going to take the expert's advice on board,
00:24:34but I can't feel anything but anger towards him right now,
00:24:37and I have no idea where we're going to go from here.
00:24:41Next up on the couch...
00:24:47..Nathan and Lacey.
00:24:49CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
00:24:51Hello, you all right?
00:24:53Hello, guys. Welcome back.
00:24:55Thank you. It's nice to be back.
00:24:59You look like you're happy. Yeah.
00:25:01It's a good sign.
00:25:03Let's see what you've got.
00:25:06You look like you're happy. Yeah.
00:25:08It's a good sign.
00:25:10Let's start with the homestays.
00:25:13Nathan, what was it like meeting Lacey's mum again
00:25:17after that incident when you said something negative about her cookie?
00:25:23Yeah, so she said, oh, no, don't worry about it.
00:25:27She was amazing, honestly, such a great host.
00:25:30Really good mum, really loving person.
00:25:33Honestly, couldn't have picked a better homestay.
00:25:35They loved him. Yeah.
00:25:39So it sounds like, Nathan, you're in there.
00:25:41Yeah, I mean, she's got me doing a bit of DIY around the house.
00:25:45Oh, you're definitely in.
00:25:48Yeah, it was really good.
00:25:50And her mum helped her, giving her a load of reassurance.
00:25:53I just want to be the best partner I can be for him.
00:25:57She's an over-thinker.
00:25:59Like, for example, if I go off into a daydream,
00:26:01I can look sad, but it's just my face expression.
00:26:04She might think in her head, am I thinking about her in a negative way?
00:26:08But if I felt sad, I'd let her know.
00:26:10So if I don't, then you're sweet. Yeah.
00:26:13That needs a bit of mummer advice. Yeah.
00:26:16Lacey, you've got a good one there, do not fail him.
00:26:19You're doing a good job.
00:26:22I suppose it's about just getting to know what works for your partner.
00:26:26Because if you're not saying how you feel,
00:26:29then it does leave space for a partner to wonder, is everything OK?
00:26:33Yeah.
00:26:35Nathan, Lacey needs to hear your voice, not your silence.
00:26:40You should be thinking, how can I over-communicate?
00:26:43Cos it's never going to be too much for Lacey.
00:26:46This is what she... Tell me about it.
00:26:48Yeah, it's never going to be too much.
00:26:50I definitely appreciate that when I wander off.
00:26:53It can be a bit of a concern and you might need me to go,
00:26:56but it's all right. I do, but I do it more.
00:26:59You know, I'll keep giving you a bit of reassurance. Yeah.
00:27:04Would you say the homestay was a good indicator
00:27:09that this could be our future? Yeah.
00:27:15I knew I had feelings for him.
00:27:18But since coming back, I've just got this rush of...
00:27:21I keep looking at him like...
00:27:24Yeah. Got strong feelings. Yeah.
00:27:27I'm feeling you.
00:27:31I'm just wondering whether you've had an opportunity
00:27:34to speak about the distance.
00:27:36Do you know what? That's not even a worry any more.
00:27:39Because how I feel about him, I'd be stupid not to give it a go.
00:27:43And you would as well.
00:27:45Lacey just told you.
00:27:47Nathan, what are your thoughts?
00:27:49It's never really been an issue for me.
00:27:51And now seeing you with my family and how much they, like, love you...
00:27:54They get on, yeah.
00:27:56..it just fits right in, you know? Yeah.
00:27:59I mean, this feels absolutely perfect.
00:28:02I suppose that confirms that actually there's something
00:28:05really growing here between the two of you.
00:28:07Yeah. Definitely. Yeah, it's good, yeah.
00:28:12Let's go to the decisions.
00:28:14Shall we start with you, Nathan?
00:28:17I haven't felt this way about someone before.
00:28:21Yeah, we communicate amazingly.
00:28:24I love chatting with you.
00:28:26You're, like, a good best friend.
00:28:33So, I put Stay.
00:28:41So, I definitely feel like my feelings for Nathan
00:28:44are getting stronger.
00:28:46You're my safe place, but my best friend, my family approve.
00:28:50And they said if we don't work out, they still want to know, yeah?
00:28:53So...
00:28:55And it is heading in the love direction.
00:28:57Yeah, I feel like we're tap dancing round the love at the minute.
00:29:01So, yeah, of course, I'd love to stay.
00:29:04CHEERING
00:29:09Well, we can't wait to see how this progresses.
00:29:13We want to wish you all the best.
00:29:15So, good luck, guys. Well done.
00:29:17Go and live your life.
00:29:24It's lovely.
00:29:26Are you happy with that? Really happy.
00:29:29Thank you, baby.
00:29:36Next up on the couch, we have...
00:29:40..Ross and Sasha.
00:29:42Go on, Sasha.
00:29:45You've got this.
00:29:47Hello, you two.
00:29:51Oh, God, she's going to cry already.
00:29:57Wow.
00:29:59Just got to call it straight away.
00:30:01You don't look happy, you two.
00:30:04Yeah, I'm just losing my shit, really.
00:30:07I've just got a lot of thinking with the father of old,
00:30:11the moving situation.
00:30:15I think we're just building up and it's affecting me.
00:30:18It could be the experiment or... I don't know.
00:30:22It's just different arguments, really.
00:30:28It is an overwhelming stage of the experiment.
00:30:31Tension has built and we can help you with that.
00:30:37Perhaps, Sasha, why don't we start with you?
00:30:40First off, I just want to say...
00:30:43..I know that my emotional regulation is bad.
00:30:47I can be argumentative, you know I can.
00:30:49You've seen how I can be argumentative.
00:30:52How I've been with Alex, for example.
00:30:55The issue is when Ross gets a temper...
00:31:00..how bad it is.
00:31:02He's got this attitude and this tone.
00:31:05If he gets thrown at the wall, I get called names.
00:31:09He was calling me a little fake bitch.
00:31:12The most recent time, it happened last night.
00:31:15I always thought when today, he'd probably be like,
00:31:18I can't believe I spoke to Sasha like that.
00:31:20But he didn't even speak to me.
00:31:23He doesn't even feel remorseful when he reacts the way he reacts.
00:31:27So I feel like I've got nothing to work with.
00:31:30Ross, I noticed as you're listening, you're shaking your head.
00:31:46Sometimes it's like the smallest thing.
00:31:48I was texting Kieran the one day once we got back in from the pub
00:31:51and he was like, what you kept texting Kieran for?
00:31:54Hang on, hang on. I caught an attitude.
00:31:56I went, well, what's the problem?
00:31:58And he picked up his phone and he threw it at the wall.
00:32:14And I was in the room for that.
00:32:26We don't want to stop.
00:32:28The more it builds up, the more I get at the wall.
00:32:33I can look at it, honestly.
00:32:38Ross and Sasha, we've seen your fiery sides.
00:32:42In fact, that's one of the compatibility points for the two of you
00:32:46is you are both incredibly passionate.
00:32:48But it can also lead to butting heads.
00:32:51This is about the dynamic between the two of you
00:32:54and you are both contributing to it.
00:32:56What I'm talking about here is the communication
00:32:59between the two of you that goes from zero to ten, boom.
00:33:02You're both seeing red.
00:33:04The conflict is elevating and you're blaming each other.
00:33:08I'm not hearing any examples of either of you taking accountability
00:33:12for what's going on.
00:33:14So when you're in that challenging situation,
00:33:18rather than keep going, say to each other, we need to stop.
00:33:23Take a step back to give yourselves that time out to cool down.
00:33:28Then come back together with less emotion and talk through things.
00:33:33How can we work together to get what we both want?
00:33:38Basically, I try to think before I speak.
00:33:41Yes.
00:33:42I don't even mean it, just when I get angry,
00:33:44I just say some fucking stupid things, really.
00:33:47The idea here, guys, is to stop things before you get to that point.
00:33:52You also need to put some ground rules in place.
00:33:55No throwing things.
00:33:57No name-calling.
00:33:59No disrespectful behaviour at all.
00:34:07Sasha, you look concerned.
00:34:11I would love that time apart,
00:34:13just to come back and see each other's perspective.
00:34:16That's what I want.
00:34:18Mm-hm. Good.
00:34:21All right, so let's dig a little bit deeper about the last week.
00:34:25I understand you recently met Ross's daughter, Blue.
00:34:29Yeah, I got really emotional seeing him with his daughter
00:34:33because she was so excited to see him
00:34:36and I knew how much it meant to him.
00:34:39Ross, how was it for you observing Sasha with Blue?
00:35:00It's clear that the two of you really do care about each other
00:35:05and you're starting to have these really important,
00:35:09powerful conversations about
00:35:11what's life going to look like after the experiment?
00:35:16And I think the fact that you guys are experiencing tension as well
00:35:19makes it extra difficult.
00:35:21I agree with that, yeah.
00:35:24Ross, is there anything you'd like to say to her right now?
00:35:36Hopefully, whatever they like to get from us, we will learn from it
00:35:40and be happy the way we were before.
00:35:48And do you accept his apology?
00:35:51DRAMATIC MUSIC
00:36:05I do accept his apology, yeah.
00:36:08It's a shame that that didn't come this morning.
00:36:12I've never felt for anyone the way I feel for you.
00:36:20One of the questions you asked me on our honeymoon was,
00:36:23do you fall in love easily?
00:36:25And I said, absolutely not.
00:36:29But...
00:36:31..when I met you, you was everything that I wanted.
00:36:35So I thought...
00:36:39..the universe had, like, blessed me.
00:36:43And...
00:36:45..I really wanted to do everything I could to make you happy.
00:36:50You don't make me happy, babe. Oi, you don't make me happy.
00:36:53And I feel like I have bent over backwards in this process
00:36:56to do all that I can for you. Hey.
00:36:59And I've never done that for anyone the way I am with you.
00:37:03I've never... I've never been... I've never been that way.
00:37:06SHE SOBS
00:37:09Oh, my God.
00:37:12I feel... I just feel...
00:37:26It's always going to be my way, no matter what.
00:37:29I just want to make it this way. I know we can.
00:37:32Because we're both very strong.
00:37:35I'm willing to make this work and I'm going to fight for it
00:37:38and I'm going to bring it back up here again
00:37:40to get the smoke back in the face again.
00:37:42So, yeah.
00:37:45All right, well, I think we'll go to the decision for the two of you.
00:37:49Ross, we're going to start with you.
00:37:54To be honest, I couldn't wait to meet you guys.
00:37:58Right now, I do feel a lot better.
00:38:01That's right, I meant what I said
00:38:03about willing to make this work and fight for it,
00:38:06because this is what I need.
00:38:08I'm very sorry for what happened.
00:38:11Believe me when I say this, I'm going to make you back up here again
00:38:15and I want us to be on the right path.
00:38:18Be happy. Yeah.
00:38:20I should...
00:38:23..stay.
00:38:24CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
00:38:31And to you, Sasha.
00:38:35Obviously, you know how much I care about you.
00:38:41It's a lot. It's really deep.
00:38:44Because when things are good, it's...it's magical.
00:38:51But...
00:38:53..my head's just absolutely messed, to be honest.
00:38:57I definitely saw a different side to Ross.
00:39:00Having a husband that has a temper is a complete no.
00:39:07Even if we do get argumentative with each other,
00:39:10I don't think that's a good enough excuse
00:39:12to be throwing your food at the wall.
00:39:16Saying I'm a fake bitch.
00:39:19And I am absolutely emotionally drained.
00:39:28CHEERING
00:39:31I did what, leave?
00:39:48I am absolutely emotionally drained.
00:39:53I did what, leave?
00:39:57I did what, leave?
00:40:06It wasn't an easy decision at all, because I couldn't decide.
00:40:11And that's why I thought I needed to leave.
00:40:18So, just to clarify, when one partner says stay
00:40:21and the other says leave, both partners stay for another week
00:40:25in their relationship.
00:40:27Are you both prepared to do that?
00:40:38Now that you've had this conversation with us and with Ross,
00:40:42have you changed your decision in your mind?
00:40:46Well...
00:40:52I...
00:40:56Yeah, because I want to believe that the relationship will change.
00:41:03You can do this, guys.
00:41:05Yeah, you're both on the same side here.
00:41:08Work together as a team.
00:41:11Well done, you two.
00:41:12Well done, guys.
00:41:19I'm so glad we got to this point.
00:41:22If Sasha walked away, obviously, I would be devastated.
00:41:25I would be gutted.
00:41:27I'm obviously hurt, I'm upset, so...
00:41:30Yeah, it's a pretty shit feeling to be there.
00:41:34I know that Ross means his apology
00:41:36and Ross sounds like he wants to fight for it,
00:41:39so I'm willing to fight for it with him.
00:41:43Because, at the end of the day, I do love Ross
00:41:46and I do want this to work.
00:41:52Next up...
00:41:56...Polly and Adam.
00:41:58Come on up.
00:42:04Greetings to the both of you.
00:42:06How are you doing, man?
00:42:07Yeah, we're good. Well, I'm good, thank you.
00:42:11So, let's go to partner swap.
00:42:14How did that go for both of you? Adam, let's start with you.
00:42:17Me and Amy had a right laugh, to be fair.
00:42:19We went to a lingerie shop to get some bits and bobs
00:42:23to kind of spice up the bedroom.
00:42:27I got edible bra for Polly and edible thong for me.
00:42:32I think you should swap.
00:42:36And I got a really nice four-piece matching set for Polly.
00:42:41I said to Adam, like, I really appreciate it,
00:42:44like, I love the fact that you've done this,
00:42:46but in my mind, it's like you've given me nothing.
00:42:50I've not been made to feel wanted or desired in that way
00:42:53now you've bought me lingerie.
00:42:55I've bought stuff with me that I've not yet put on
00:42:57because I haven't thought we were there.
00:42:59OK.
00:43:00So I was like, this is great,
00:43:02but I feel like you've now gone from zero to 100.
00:43:06Polly's response wasn't what I was expecting.
00:43:08We had an argument where I said,
00:43:10I keep coming out of my comfort zone for you
00:43:12and trying to do things that you want from me,
00:43:15but it's not good enough.
00:43:17I was like, I feel like you are being a bit selfish.
00:43:21I feel like it was just because it was that
00:43:23which you know has been a topic for us consistently.
00:43:27Yeah, it was a big jump, you know what I mean?
00:43:29Probably should have been built up to.
00:43:31OK.
00:43:32So I did get why she felt like it,
00:43:33it was just a bit of a kick in the teeth.
00:43:36Now that you've clarified that, that makes sense.
00:43:40So now, moving into homestays.
00:43:44So the first stop was Adam's.
00:43:47Polly, did you feel welcomed in Adam's house?
00:43:51Yes and no.
00:43:52Because there was clearly no room for my stuff anywhere.
00:43:58It was a case of I'll just sit on the end of the sofa,
00:44:00not touch anything because I don't want to fuck up your cushions.
00:44:03I didn't feel comfortable.
00:44:05I was just a knob and I apologise.
00:44:08I can't say anything else.
00:44:11OK.
00:44:12So that was definitely a step back.
00:44:15How was the rest of the time at Adam's?
00:44:18My best man from the wedding came round.
00:44:20Polly told Rich about the massive argument we had
00:44:23about the Stephen twist situation.
00:44:26And it made me feel like Polly was saying to my friend
00:44:29I'm acting like Stephen now because that's what she wanted.
00:44:32OK.
00:44:34And then we had a huge bust up in front of his mate
00:44:37while he was sitting on the sofa.
00:44:39I feel like I went in more because he was so shitty the whole day.
00:44:46It did get sorted but just not until after another bust up the next morning.
00:44:50Resolution on the conflict.
00:44:52We're now stronger as a couple.
00:44:54Yeah.
00:44:55OK. We now go into Polly's homestay.
00:44:57So how'd that go?
00:44:59Amazing. It was so good.
00:45:01OK.
00:45:02Really good.
00:45:04I mean, clearly, Polly, family means everything to you.
00:45:07Were you able to see Adam fitting within your family?
00:45:11Oh, absolutely.
00:45:13It was just comfortable.
00:45:14It was just so natural to the point where I forgot about him being there.
00:45:17It was easy.
00:45:18Yeah.
00:45:19Yeah, because I was really nervous.
00:45:21But the moment I walked in, I've never been made feel so comfortable.
00:45:25And it was actually really nice, wasn't it?
00:45:27Wow.
00:45:28It was really nice, to be honest.
00:45:29So, Adam, could you see at that moment actually fitting into Polly's family?
00:45:33Oh, yeah, definitely.
00:45:35This is good. This is good.
00:45:40So, overall, you think about the homestays, what do you believe you learn?
00:45:46That he's one very patient man.
00:45:49Very understanding of seeing how I have been throughout this compared to who I was at home.
00:45:56And I do need to give him a little bit more credit than what I have.
00:46:00The week before we went to homestays,
00:46:02I was seeing a side to Polly that I said to her, like, I'm not feeling it.
00:46:05You're being loud, you're swearing loads.
00:46:08It's a bit off-putting.
00:46:09And then when we went to the homestays, I was like, you're like a completely different person.
00:46:13You're chilled, like, you're giggling, you're smiling.
00:46:16Like, how I think she should be.
00:46:18I just don't know if it's the experiment that's making her erupt.
00:46:22OK.
00:46:23Yeah, that when we were on our homestays,
00:46:27we just gravitated towards each other even more.
00:46:30I feel like being at mine brought us closer together.
00:46:34Because he saw me like that, he could see this is how she is all the time.
00:46:41I felt a huge shift.
00:46:43So we have said that I need to try and bring home Polly back to the apartments.
00:46:48So all of my focus and energy needs to be on him.
00:46:51Your focus and energy needs to be on Adam, on the relationship, but also on yourself.
00:46:57Yeah.
00:46:58Adam, you've made great progress.
00:47:01And I believe you've probably delivered more in this relationship than you have in any previous relationship that you've been in.
00:47:07But there's more that you need to deliver.
00:47:11And I think you have it within you clearly to do it.
00:47:16So, can we go to a decision?
00:47:19Yeah.
00:47:20Adam, would you like to do the honours and go first?
00:47:23Right.
00:47:24So this last week has been interesting.
00:47:27I think seeing you at your homestays has changed a lot of things.
00:47:32It was really nice to see you in your home environment.
00:47:35And I'm excited to see what the rest of the process brings.
00:47:39So for that reason, I said stay.
00:47:42Yay!
00:47:47We've had, yeah, a start from obviously a bad week that then improved.
00:47:55And we spoke about obviously what we need to do and what we're going to do.
00:47:59And yeah, I've enjoyed it as much as I haven't.
00:48:01But I feel like we've needed that for, again, us to be where we are.
00:48:05So I have decided to stay.
00:48:13Thank you both.
00:48:14Thank you so much.
00:48:20That was so nice.
00:48:22Wasn't it?
00:48:23Yeah.
00:48:27OK, last up on the couch.
00:48:30Kieran and Christina.
00:48:36Hello!
00:48:37What's up, guys?
00:48:43How are the two of you getting on?
00:48:51It's been a really tough week.
00:48:55I just feel like I'm drained.
00:49:00I understand, Christina, that this isn't an easy situation.
00:49:03I know, of course, you've had some time away.
00:49:06But for dinner party, you received an anonymous letter.
00:49:10Yeah.
00:49:11It seems like it brought up a lot of emotions for you.
00:49:15Oh, it was so emotional reading it.
00:49:19I knew it would because I know the guys sat down there love us,
00:49:23both as individuals and as a couple.
00:49:25Like, they root for us.
00:49:27From their perspective, there are things that we could still do to improve.
00:49:33And it just made me flood with emotion.
00:49:37And I just got really passionate because I thought,
00:49:40actually, come on!
00:49:43I just felt really passionately, like, towards Kieran.
00:49:48I think everybody can see how much I care about him.
00:49:52How I admire you so much.
00:49:58And that's very courageous of you.
00:50:01Kieran, what was it like to hear Christina say that,
00:50:04actually, she wants to fight for this?
00:50:07Receiving it was really difficult and I broke down when she was speaking.
00:50:13At some point, we've all been in the position of putting Christina in
00:50:16and it's not nice doing that at all.
00:50:20And I hate seeing you upset.
00:50:24So that night was very difficult at the dinner party.
00:50:29But at the same time, I'm thinking, I'm so fucking proud of you right now.
00:50:33I'm still really proud of you for projecting what you want
00:50:36and what you believe in.
00:50:39So where are you guys at right now?
00:50:41We've done homestays separate.
00:50:45And that was because I didn't want to take Christina back to mine
00:50:49knowing where my head's at.
00:50:53I took Mel's advice and that was to go away and write down
00:50:57how Christina is different from me ex.
00:51:01And this is where it gets scary.
00:51:03The only difference that I could find, and I really thought about this,
00:51:09is that Christina is very outgoing.
00:51:16What is it that you're saying?
00:51:18I've been in this position before.
00:51:21I kind of go through my life just putting other people first all the time.
00:51:26I know Christina is a totally different girl, and I do, you are.
00:51:30But I can't help but see similarities.
00:51:34Can't get past that.
00:51:46My outlook on life is completely different.
00:51:49OK.
00:51:50And I'm not willing to live in the moment as much as Christina does.
00:51:54I believe that, yes, you should have to change yourself
00:51:57to be in a relationship in certain ways.
00:51:59But changing the core of what you believe in
00:52:01and where it is you want to be in life,
00:52:03that's not something I'm prepared to change,
00:52:05because that's who makes me, me.
00:52:11Do you feel that it gave you the space to think about your situation,
00:52:17getting advice from family, Christina?
00:52:20I just feel, like, as frustrated as I am with Kieran,
00:52:24and, like, I want to bang his head against a brick wall
00:52:27and tell him to sort himself out,
00:52:30it's clear that there is still strong feelings there.
00:52:35My family, they were like, where's Kieran?
00:52:37And I was like, oh, my God, man.
00:52:41I just, nobody saw it coming.
00:52:45Don't cry.
00:52:47Don't cry.
00:52:51I just love him as a person.
00:52:56In my vows, all I ask is to never be judged,
00:52:59to be accepted for all of me,
00:53:02to be patient with me, to listen to me, and I will do the same.
00:53:07And I've done that for you.
00:53:12Kieran, you talked about outlook on life.
00:53:14You can have different philosophies on life.
00:53:17You can have different views on five-year outlook
00:53:20or different views on finance.
00:53:22It can still work.
00:53:26But what will never work is a partner that has high emotional walls.
00:53:33When you have high emotional walls,
00:53:35you don't allow any joy into your life, man.
00:53:40The strongest act of courage is for you to drop them.
00:53:44And be vulnerable.
00:53:54But I ask myself the question,
00:53:59can I see myself and Christina being together in ten years' time?
00:54:14But I ask myself the question,
00:54:19can I see myself and Christina being together in ten years' time?
00:54:27Yeah, but who does that?
00:54:29Well, we're in a marriage, like, that's why I'm here.
00:54:31Like, you're not guaranteed to be here ten years from now.
00:54:36The focus is on enjoying every moment that you have.
00:54:40The focus is on enjoying every moment that you have together.
00:54:47Tomorrow is not promised, but today is.
00:54:54I just don't want to see you lose someone who is phenomenal for you.
00:55:05I just don't know how much I've got left in us
00:55:07for the amount of emotional support Christina needs.
00:55:12OK.
00:55:13That's a big deal to me.
00:55:15If you're talking about not having the capacity for emotional support,
00:55:19that's something different.
00:55:22I have got better.
00:55:24Yeah, yeah, totally, you have.
00:55:26Even the PMDD, from when that first happened to now,
00:55:30it's the last time you had it, I was like, has it even been?
00:55:34It's here now.
00:55:35Is it? Is it? Is it really?
00:55:37Yeah. Well done, you.
00:55:39Well done.
00:55:43As a couple, look how you've managed that.
00:55:46Yeah.
00:55:47I understand that I do manage it, but it's just...
00:55:53I'm a lot, I know I am.
00:55:55I just want to be loved, that's all it is.
00:55:58Oh, yeah. I just want to be loved.
00:56:01And all I just keep thinking about, it's just that.
00:56:04Wedding day.
00:56:06Like, that is just what kills me.
00:56:14To go from that wedding to then how we are now.
00:56:19Every time I look at the wedding pictures, I literally say to him,
00:56:23I want that man back.
00:56:26I want my husband back.
00:56:29I want the guy that I met at the aisle with,
00:56:31with those fucking goofy teeth back.
00:56:45It's late, Christine, I see us at the wedding.
00:56:48I literally walked over to my dad and I went,
00:56:50just everything I asked for.
00:56:54I care about you a lot. Mm.
00:56:56I care about you a lot.
00:57:01The two of you have been on quite a journey over the last few weeks
00:57:05and you've both tried to be very respectful
00:57:07and be very honest with one another.
00:57:12Should we go to the decisions?
00:57:26I know I'm not going to meet another girl like you.
00:57:31You're a fucking superstar.
00:57:36And I'm really sorry to put you in this position, Christina.
00:57:38It was never my intention.
00:57:40I'll always think the world of you.
00:57:46I just know that...
00:57:49..I can't give you the best version of me.
00:57:53For that reason, I thought I'd leave.
00:57:56OK. Thank you, Kieran.
00:58:04Christina?
00:58:08I feel I put in 110% effort from day one.
00:58:16I can't just leave.
00:58:18From day one.
00:58:21I can't just turn my feelings off overnight.
00:58:24Kieran knows that.
00:58:28I have been so patient and so understanding, so respectful.
00:58:34The ball's been in his court for ages.
00:58:42So...
00:58:48I'm going to leave.
00:58:50OK.
00:58:57Wow. You've both written leave,
00:58:59so, of course, this is the end of the experiment for the two of you.
00:59:06I promised myself that I wouldn't cry, so I'm not going to.
00:59:11It has been such a joy to be on this journey with you.
00:59:15The effort that you've put in has been amazing.
00:59:18I genuinely, genuinely wish you both the very best.
00:59:24And I hope that the two of you stay friends.
00:59:26Oh, absolutely.
00:59:31I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart
00:59:34for giving this your all.
00:59:37And I just genuinely wish you the best for the future.
00:59:40Don't change for anyone.
00:59:43Thank you for the most magical, amazing day of my life at a wedding.
00:59:50I'm gutted, but I do only wish you the best.
00:59:54You'll be in my life, don't worry.
00:59:59Thank you, guys. Thank you so much. Thank you very much, guys.
01:00:02Thank you. Thank you.
01:00:12I'm going to miss you so much.
01:00:16I literally gave Kieran my all and everything.
01:00:22I took this experiment so seriously,
01:00:25I genuinely thought I was going to have a husband at the end of this.
01:00:30How can I go from being your perfect match,
01:00:34the girl of your dreams, everything,
01:00:37to then nothing?
01:00:39Thank you so much.
01:00:41The end goal was to fall in love.
01:00:44Find me a forever person.
01:00:46It hasn't happened.
01:00:49Of course I wish that things did turn out differently.
01:00:52But I have got a friend for life.
01:00:55I love Christina a bit.
01:00:57And I'll always be there for her.
01:01:01I am hopeful that I am going to find this everlasting love
01:01:05with the right person.
01:01:07I'm a lot stronger than I think,
01:01:09and I know what I deserve
01:01:12and what I want from my next partner.
01:01:20Next time...
01:01:24..the couples head off for final dates.
01:01:26Kind of suits you, driving this.
01:01:28As Ross attempts to win Sasha over...
01:01:31It felt right to leave.
01:01:34For Polly and Adam...
01:01:36Cheers to us and to the future.
01:01:38..marital bliss is short-lived.
01:01:40I feel like you're not giving me what I want.
01:01:42Why do you sit there and go, I care about you?
01:01:44That's what you do. That's not what I do.
01:01:46The old Polly is slowly creeping back.
01:01:48..but it's Luke falling back into old habits.
01:01:51That's actually really sexy, I'm not going to lie.
01:01:53Behave.
01:01:55This is a cooking class, not a porno.
01:01:57I've given Luke chance after chance.
01:01:59..and lack of honesty.
01:02:01Can you tell me how many relationships you've had?
01:02:03..that drives Amy to despair.
01:02:05Even that number's probably inaccurate.
01:02:07What the fuck? Absolutely bonkers.