“Mom guilt is so real.” She was at the top of her game when she embraced motherhood. Tennis star Sania Mirza talked about the joys and challenges of being a mom.
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00:00Mom guilt is so real. I mean you can be the most successful person in the world
00:08but sometimes you feel like s**t because you're just I don't know if you're
00:12allowed to say this on this but sometimes you feel like crap because as
00:18women in general we want to be a hundred everywhere yeah we're very self-critical
00:25and we analyze ourselves and we are the ones to actually be like oh my god I was
00:31not here and I didn't make it to this and I didn't do this properly and I
00:35didn't do that properly
00:40when I decided to have a baby people thought I was mad because they were like
00:44at the peak of a career you know you're having a baby it's a little bit like how
00:47Alia is being asked like you know having a baby at the peak of your career but
00:51the thing was even at that point I was like no I think the time's right so I
00:55am very much of an opinion of my life that my life has to be according to me
01:00whether that's good bad right decisions wrong decisions it needs to be taken by
01:04me and needs to be in my control and when I had the baby I didn't announce
01:11retirement because I knew that I had still you know some tennis left in me at
01:15the highest level did you ever feel the the mom guilt like you mentioned now
01:19yeah but back then when you were still actively playing traveling you would
01:24travel with you he was traveling with me but mom guilt is so real I mean I
01:29don't know are you a mom no no you're not even married okay you'll know if you
01:33want to ever become a mom how real it is I mean you can be the most successful
01:40person in the world but sometimes you feel like shit because you're just I
01:46don't know if you're allowed to say this on this but sometimes you feel like
01:50crap because as women in general we want to be a hundred everywhere yeah
01:58we're very self-critical and we analyze ourselves and we are the ones to
02:04actually be like oh my god I was not here and I didn't make it to this and I
02:08didn't do this properly and I didn't do that properly I mean how should you know
02:12and mom's guilt is really real and we have God knows we have enough people
02:17around us telling us how guilty we should be feeling all the time right we
02:21have all the aunties and uncles of the world telling us
02:25that you left me with my grandma again, why did you leave me, how did you leave me, you made her travel so much
02:32whatever I mean so but mom's guilt comes from within you know because your love
02:39that you have and the time you want to spend with the child is just it's from
02:43yourself nobody needs to tell you that sometimes I'm like is this really all
02:47worth it like should I be working and leaving him but the thing is you know
02:50what if I don't work I'm gonna go mad and I'm there of no use to anybody
02:58not to my child either you know so I think that loving being a mother is
03:05something that I love it's something that is the greatest joy that I've ever
03:10felt but that's not my only identity and I think women need to embrace that
03:17and be fearless to say that it does not make you selfish it does not make you a
03:20bad person for choosing yourself yeah you know once in a while because God
03:26knows we choose others over us all the time most of the time so that's why I think
03:32that it's very important for me you know for us to all speak out and say that as
03:37women yes we might be a wife we might be a daughter or a mother but those are not
03:44our identities