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00:00Now, let's choose a new life.
00:05Leave the useless things in the house,
00:09leave the unnecessary things,
00:11and leave the attachment to things.
00:15Choose a new life and way of life with your own decisions.
00:20That is Danshari.
00:25Hideko Yamashita is the founder of Danshari.
00:32She is a master of Danshari and life,
00:36who has guided countless people.
00:40It's a Danshari of a couple and a marriage.
00:46Taking care of things means using things.
00:51Let's choose a new life and way of life.
00:56The door of life is opening now.
01:01For my husband, it's a normal thing.
01:05It's a seed of quarrel in a marriage.
01:09She is a famous divorce counselor.
01:15She has solved the problems of women with her words.
01:22But she also had a problem.
01:29She left things on the table.
01:34She left things on the floor.
01:38She didn't clean up the house at all.
01:43It's B-type.
01:47Yamashita says B-type is not enough.
01:54She starts training to polish B-type.
01:59But...
02:02It will scatter here soon.
02:05She goes back to the beginning.
02:10It's a miserable life.
02:15The reason of divorce is cheating on my husband.
02:18Everyone should break up.
02:21But I'm still a child.
02:25I was just born.
02:28She is a divorce counselor,
02:30who is wandering around the world.
02:37Will she be able to get B-type?
02:48Yamashita's house has been demolished.
02:53Where is B-type, a divorce counselor?
03:01A university in Shinjuku, Tokyo.
03:09Students are gathered for a class.
03:17I want everyone to remember to live with their own power.
03:26A divorce counselor.
03:28Ms. Atsuko Okano, 70 years old.
03:31She is a teacher of emergency fund.
03:33She teaches once a week.
03:38The theme of the class is
03:40Women's business.
03:45When I sell something,
03:47I can't decide whether it's good or bad.
03:50When I sell something without a shape,
03:53I sell the service of Ms. Atsuko Okano.
03:57I can't decide whether it's good or bad.
04:01Ms. Okano is a grass-roots person
04:04who established divorce counseling as a business.
04:11She has written many books about divorce and marital issues.
04:20Why do women rely on her?
04:28You have to be strong.
04:31You can't stand up.
04:32You are the one who can't stand up.
04:37Sometimes strict, sometimes gentle.
04:40She is kind to people and solve marital issues.
04:47Her attitude is well-received.
04:50She has consulted more than 30,000 people.
04:56I will be happy if I devote my life to a man like him.
05:03I will be happy.
05:07Ms. Okano is also a businesswoman
05:11who has been successful in various fields.
05:18However, she has a different personality
05:22when it comes to her family.
05:29Ms. Okano's house is an apartment in Shibuya, Tokyo.
05:36Hello.
05:38Hello.
05:39Nice to meet you.
05:42She lives alone in a one-bedroom apartment.
05:48What kind of room is this?
05:50This is our living room.
05:54She has a living room as soon as she enters the house.
05:59She works here.
06:04There are a lot of things on the table.
06:11I'm organizing the receipts.
06:14I have to submit the money I spent.
06:18It's a box of sweets, but I can keep it for four months.
06:23There is a fortune-telling book in a box
06:28with receipts for several months.
06:33There seems to be a reason for keeping it.
06:39If I don't put it here, I don't feel like doing it.
06:43This is my show-off.
06:45It's like a show-off that I have to do.
06:48She put it in a place where she can touch her eyes
06:52to tap her butt.
06:58And then...
07:03Something flew in.
07:07This is Manei, the third-generation branch manager.
07:13Manei.
07:15The branch manager of the pet is a good talker.
07:19She doesn't like to be locked in a cage.
07:25She has the most freedom.
07:28What is this?
07:32Moka is studying English.
07:37There are other things on the floor.
07:45Is there a place to put it?
07:51It's in the mirror.
07:55I want to put everything in here.
08:02I see.
08:04She can't store any more.
08:08She wants to put everything in here,
08:11but there are a lot of books and stationery.
08:15There are a lot of things inside.
08:19This is a recent proposal.
08:21A divorce proposal?
08:22Yes, a divorce proposal.
08:24This is a seminar room.
08:26I usually take pictures with paper.
08:30Moka is an analogist.
08:33It's hard to work if you don't take all the documents with paper.
08:40This is a desk by the window.
08:44Moka has moved many times,
08:48but there is a desk by the window that she doesn't use.
08:52I don't use it.
08:54There are a lot of documents in here.
09:00There are documents here too.
09:05There are a lot of documents.
09:10There is storage in the kitchen next door.
09:15There are a lot of things in here too.
09:21There are stationery and batteries that I can't put in there.
09:25I'm studying Buddhism right now,
09:28so this is a set of Buddhist books.
09:32Buddhism?
09:34She's studying hard.
09:38But actually, she wants to put these in the living room.
09:45I'm sure there will be a lot of tableware in this state.
09:52I'm not proud of my tableware,
09:56but this is all I have.
09:58It's not much, is it?
10:01Huh?
10:02The tableware shelf is clean.
10:05It looks like it's been used for a long time.
10:10I think it's been 10 years.
10:12Mr. Hideko Yamashita came to me with goodwill.
10:17He told me I should do it.
10:20In fact, she met Mr. Yamashita on a TV show and got along well.
10:28They got along so well that they had a duet at Mr. Yamashita's birthday party.
10:36I was able to reduce the number of tableware because of his goodwill.
10:47But Mr. Yamashita's party didn't last long.
10:56He left a paper bag full of clothes in the living room.
11:03Why did he do that?
11:07This is for summer.
11:10This is for winter.
11:15The closet is already full, so he can't get in anymore.
11:21Is this all you have?
11:23No.
11:25This is all I have.
11:32Oh, no.
11:34The bed is full, too.
11:38He's a good manager, but he's not good at cleaning up the house.
11:47But this time, he decided to do it.
11:54When I turned 70, I wanted to change my life.
12:01I thought it would be okay to die tomorrow.
12:06I wanted to organize my life now.
12:12She has always prioritized her work.
12:18Efficiency is the most important thing.
12:22She didn't care about keeping things.
12:28But when she stepped into her 70s, her feelings changed for the first time.
12:38I didn't want to be surprised when my boyfriend came to my house when I was about to fall in love.
12:50Before I die, I want to change my life.
12:58So she decided to ask Mr. Yamashita for help again.
13:10I'm finally here.
13:14I'm so excited.
13:17For some reason, Ms. Okano was waiting for Mr. Yamashita to come.
13:25I thought I was going to throw everything away.
13:27That's a misunderstanding.
13:29But I have everything.
13:31When I went there once,
13:35She was worried about becoming a three-day-old boy even though she had learned to ride a bicycle before.
13:45Let's start checking Mr. Yamashita from the table for work.
13:52There's a mountain of receipts.
13:55You cleaned it up.
13:57Because this box came out.
13:59What Mr. Yamashita had a problem with here was something else than keeping things.
14:09But this is out.
14:11This vinyl is out.
14:15The table is a transparent mat to protect it.
14:20This is out.
14:22The feeling of wood and the warmth of wood are the value of the table.
14:28Mr. Yamashita's opinion is that it is better to value the taste of wood and table.
14:38The next thing he had a problem with was...
14:42Why is there such a big trash can outside?
14:44That's pretty important.
14:50A big trash can on the veranda.
14:54He brought it from the previous house and left it there, thinking he might use it again.
15:02That's a great view.
15:04Such a nice location.
15:06That's right.
15:07You don't need it in a place you can't see.
15:09I don't need it.
15:11I don't approve of that.
15:13It seems that Mr. Yamashita has doubts about the appearance of everything.
15:21Oh, that's a shame.
15:23It's a shame.
15:24It's a shame that the book is lying down.
15:26It's a shame.
15:27It certainly doesn't look good to have the book lying down.
15:33When you open this, you have to make sure what's in here.
15:38If you don't take this out, it's like this.
15:42It's too bad.
15:45If you put the file box sideways, you can't see a lot of documents and it doesn't look good.
15:55He's also checking the appearance.
15:59It's just the right size for a medicine box, so you can check various things.
16:06He put a card in the empty medicine box.
16:12There must be a nicer box of sweets.
16:16There's a nicer one, but it's hard to find a box of sweets this size.
16:24Mr. Okano seems to be indifferent to his appearance.
16:31But he seems to be careful about his appearance outside the house.
16:39It's a strange space.
16:45What was hidden behind the towel?
16:51It's a wig for fashion.
16:57It's said to be used when traveling abroad.
17:03This looks like a foreigner at all.
17:07This is American style.
17:09How much does it cost?
17:11300,000 yen.
17:12Don't give me that much.
17:15Don't give me 300,000 yen.
17:19The card holder is a medicine box, but one wig costs 300,000 yen.
17:28Most of the things in the closet are high-end brands.
17:34He's indifferent inside the house, but he's particular about his appearance outside the house.
17:41Mr. Okano is that kind of person.
17:47Ms. Yamashita, who knows Mr. Okano's personality well, points out the problem of this house.
17:57It's beautiful.
17:58It's beautiful?
17:59It's fancy.
18:01That's why I tidied it up.
18:04It's beautiful.
18:06I see.
18:07It's beautiful, isn't it?
18:08It's not beautiful.
18:09It's not beautiful.
18:10It's not beautiful at all.
18:13In this house, you can't feel the sense of beauty to make it look beautiful.
18:21Placing a mat on a wooden table,
18:26or putting a trash can on a beautiful balcony,
18:32it's all because of the lack of a sense of beauty.
18:39You can't see the house.
18:43If you have a sense of beauty in a place you can't see,
18:50your face will shine.
18:52It costs a lot of money for your face and style.
18:5923,000 yen each.
19:03What?
19:0423,000 yen each?
19:0523,000 yen per month for diet and injections.
19:12Having a sense of beauty in a place you can't see,
19:15that's the theme of this house.
19:21Let's start tidying up.
19:25The first thing to do is
19:29to organize a large amount of documents
19:35that are packed with books and documents.
19:41Okay, let's go.
19:45The goal is to put all the documents in this room.
19:52But can she do that?
19:57It's temporary.
19:59If you put them in a row,
20:01they won't fall down.
20:02So you have to put them in a row.
20:06She takes the documents out of the file box
20:09and puts them in a row.
20:14When she puts back all the documents,
20:20It's divided in half.
20:22Right?
20:23Yes.
20:24I'll help you.
20:27I see.
20:29She's trying to make space for the shelves.
20:34Bring that one over here.
20:38What do you mean?
20:39The one in the desk.
20:43The documents in the desk that she hasn't used.
20:48She puts them in an open space.
20:54You can put them in an empty space.
20:56Yes, I can do that.
20:59It's better to put them in an empty space
21:02when the storage capacity is low.
21:04I see.
21:07The file box was wasting space.
21:14But if you put them in a row,
21:18it's hard to see where the documents are.
21:24Do you need a partition?
21:25Yes, I need a partition.
21:26A partition.
21:27Hold on.
21:28A partition.
21:29I'll put them here for now.
21:30I see.
21:31It's easier to see.
21:32It's easier to see.
21:37She makes a partition
21:39and divides the documents into different types
21:41so that it's easier to see.
21:46This time, it's temporary.
21:48But if you use a thick paper with a cover,
21:52it's easier to see.
22:00Next,
22:01she puts all the documents on the table.
22:09She rearranges the books on the desk
22:12to make an empty space.
22:14She rearranges the books on the desk to make an empty space.
22:17I'll put the documents
22:19that I put on the desk here.
22:24What will you put?
22:25I'll put the documents that I put on the desk here.
22:28Here?
22:29Yes, here.
22:30I'll put them here.
22:31You'll do it right away.
22:32Yes, I'll do it right away.
22:35She's using the receipts and documents on the table.
22:41That's why she puts the documents on the table
22:45which is easy to take out.
22:49This is a good way to arrange the documents.
22:54I'll put them here like this.
22:56I'll put them with the rooms on the table.
22:58I'll hold them here.
23:00Do you pull them down right away?
23:01Yes, I pull them down right away.
23:02And I'll put these back here.
23:04This will be the place for receipts.
23:05This is Yutori.
23:07Make a gap between the objects to make it easier to take it out and put it away.
23:15This way, you can prevent it from coming out.
23:21Lastly, a lesson on polishing the B-shiki.
23:27Now, the top.
23:28The top.
23:29It's hard to see the top.
23:30I'm going to clean the top.
23:32The practice area is the paper shelf.
23:35Yamashita-san gives instructions on how to make it more beautiful.
23:42To make it look clean, I'm going to do Hiki-zan.
23:45Hiki-zan?
23:46Try it.
23:49Are you going to do it?
23:50I'm going to do it.
23:51If you do it yourself, you'll know.
23:52Really?
23:54Hiki-zan
23:56Reduce the number of objects in Hiki-zan and line them up beautifully.
24:03Okano-san, can you do it?
24:07This much?
24:08This much?
24:09Yes.
24:10Don't make it too tight.
24:11That's right.
24:12You have to leave this part open.
24:17This part.
24:19I see.
24:21It's looking good.
24:26You can do it if you want to.
24:33The paper shelf was full of many cards.
24:40I made it look clean and beautiful.
24:48I put everything on the table.
24:55I also removed the vinyl cover to feel the warmth of the wood.
25:04Then, I put it away.
25:07I organized the books and documents that were piled up.
25:13Even though I put the documents that were piled up in other places,
25:17there was still a lot of space left.
25:24It's beautiful.
25:25It's really clean.
25:28It's still clean, though.
25:29I know.
25:30Do you know what a B-type is?
25:31I know.
25:32It's a B-type for men.
25:33I know.
25:34It was terrible.
25:36It was terrible.
25:38It was terrible.
25:40As an example of a men's car wash lesson,
25:43she serves a special wine.
25:48Thank you for your hard work.
25:50Thank you for your hard work.
25:52I'm in a good mood.
25:54I'm going to call my boyfriend from tomorrow.
25:58But Okano,
26:00you still have a lot to clean up, don't you?
26:05What?
26:09This time,
26:10I want you to do your best until the end without being a three-day boy.
26:16But I can't say that.
26:19That's why it's a men's car wash lesson.
26:35Men's Car Wash Lesson
26:44A week later
26:50Hello.
26:51Hello.
26:52Nice to meet you.
26:53Okano,
26:55do you still do men's car wash?
26:58Yes, I do.
26:59I do it every morning.
27:03I did my best on this side.
27:07I see.
27:10The storage on the right side that Yamashita couldn't touch.
27:17The number of items in the men's car wash has decreased,
27:20and the organization of documents is progressing.
27:24On the shelves in the kitchen,
27:26there were books and stationery.
27:31The men's car wash was progressing
27:33by focusing on the kitchen.
27:41Oh,
27:42where is the box?
27:45I hid the box of the toilet paper like this.
27:48I hid the box of the toilet paper like this.
27:52The box of the toilet paper,
27:54which is said to be the solution to men's car wash.
27:58He decided to keep using it with a paper cover.
28:06He seems to be doing his best to have his own men's car wash.
28:14What is he going to do today?
28:18Huh?
28:20There are still documents left.
28:25These are the magazines that have been covered so far.
28:31I heard that Mr. Okano
28:33took all the articles in the newspapers and magazines
28:37that he had covered.
28:42It's been more than 30 years
28:45since Mr. Okano started the men's car wash.
28:50This is...
28:54This is...
28:58It is said that what he left behind is not just a memento.
29:05I've been discussing divorce for decades,
29:10but I tend to forget things if I don't have a strong impact.
29:17He has received more than 30,000 letters of advice.
29:23He was trying to re-read the articles
29:25and recall the past events
29:27to make use of the advice.
29:34But
29:36the reality is that he doesn't have much time to re-read them.
29:41I'm getting bored of it. I'm going to throw it away.
29:47Mr. Okano started this job when he was 37 years old.
29:54He started it with his own divorce.
30:00My husband cheated on me.
30:03Normally, when a child is born and starts a family,
30:06you would think that he would cheat on you.
30:12Mr. Okano used to work at a clothing store in Kyoto.
30:21When he was 28 years old,
30:23he married a man who worked at a real estate company.
30:28Five years later, he found out that he had cheated on his wife.
30:33He had just given birth to a son.
30:39Everyone wants to break up.
30:41But I was still a child.
30:44I had just given birth.
30:47I was in the middle of a war.
30:50I didn't know what to do.
30:53I didn't know what to do.
30:56He decided to divorce his wife.
30:59But he had to go through a lot of hardship.
31:07He had to work as a health care worker.
31:11Even if he worked hard,
31:14he barely made a living.
31:19Before he divorced his wife,
31:21he realized that he had to think about his life after the divorce.
31:29If you are healthy and strong, you can divorce your wife.
31:33But if you are not strong and weak,
31:37and you are worried about your future,
31:41you will have a hard time.
31:43If Mr. Okano had consulted me at that time,
31:48I would have said,
31:50I don't want to divorce my wife.
31:54Mr. Okano's advice was
31:57not to divorce your wife.
32:05I don't want to divorce my wife.
32:07I don't want to divorce my wife.
32:10I thought I could divorce my wife.
32:13I don't want to divorce my wife.
32:18How can a person who is worried about his wife's problems
32:22regain his happiness?
32:26Mr. Okano's divorce advice is to think about it together.
32:36The article was well received
32:39and received a large number of interviews.
32:43However, as a result of the interview,
32:50I don't need the article anymore.
32:56Mr. Okano reduced the number of articles that could be useful
33:00to about 80%.
33:12When he thought that he had finished the article,
33:22the consultant's documents were still in the closet.
33:32The 30-year-old documents are still in abundance.
33:43Tokyo.
33:45Near Shinjuku Station.
33:50There is Mr. Okano's office
33:54where the divorce consultation room is located.
34:02Work is not just a divorce consultation.
34:06On this day, Mr. Okano was working on a strategy
34:09for internet advertising with a management consultant.
34:15Search results are not as good as they used to be.
34:18Search results are not as good as they used to be.
34:24He says that the advertising effect is not as good as he expected.
34:31YouTube is the best.
34:35Then, Mr. Okano immediately contacted him on his smartphone.
34:42I'm sorry.
34:44It's a little less than October now.
34:47I'll send it back to you.
34:49I'll send it back to you.
34:52He contacted the person in charge and immediately bought an advertising strategy.
34:59It's a quick decision.
35:05It's a quick decision.
35:08It's a quick decision.
35:11It's a quick decision.
35:13It's a quick decision.
35:16In this fast-paced management,
35:19he is developing several businesses
35:23such as counseling education and marriage service.
35:28But it was also a terrible and unexpected fact.
35:36He is taking a break from work and is wearing a suit today.
35:43This is winter clothes.
35:46There are a lot of clothes under the bed.
35:50It's been six months since I last saw this.
35:54I bought this in Los Angeles.
35:57It's not sold in Japan.
35:59I was told that it was very flashy and had a different aura.
36:05All of these are high-end brands.
36:12But Mr. Okano doesn't just like brands.
36:19Everyone looks at it from the outside.
36:23When people wear good clothes,
36:27they say,
36:29they say,
36:32they say,
36:34they say,
36:36they say,
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37:00they say,
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37:15they say,
37:18they say,
37:21they say,
37:24they say,
37:27they say,
37:30they say,
37:33they say,
37:36they say,
37:39there are so many things he can't afford, but
37:43they just don't need clothes.
37:45they just don't need clothes.
37:47I could throw this out.
37:50If he had more time to wear clothes than here,
37:53if he had more time to wear clothes than here,
37:58he wouldn't put on more than 20 pieces of clothes.
38:05What about the storage under the bed, which was full in front of the car?
38:15It hasn't changed much, but this seems to be the limit.
38:22Eventually, problems begin to arise.
38:27It's going to scatter here. It's going to scatter.
38:32When he's busy with work, he starts putting things on the table again.
38:42He also puts things on the floor.
38:47But it can't be helped.
38:51What is it?
38:54The habit, which had been ingrained for many years, is not going to be cured soon.
39:03Even so, he continued to work without giving up, using a little time to spare.
39:14One month after the start of work,
39:18Ms. Yamashita came again.
39:26Can I change the layout of the whole room?
39:30Suddenly, she remodels the room.
39:34The beauty of Ms. Yamashita's style explodes.
39:42Hello.
39:45I'm back.
39:49How is it?
39:50Ms. Yamashita came to Mr. Okano's house again.
39:55You did your best.
39:58I like the feeling of being out of the house.
40:04Oh, I can see the outside of the window clearly.
40:08There used to be a desk that wasn't used by the window.
40:15She disposed of that desk and put the sofa on the wall.
40:23The scenery outside the window spread at once.
40:30I asked a convenience store and two people.
40:34I asked a convenience store and two people.
40:37It only took about 10 minutes for two men to get out of here.
40:43It was worth the effort.
40:49The table, which had been left out,
40:55seems to have been cleaned up cleanly.
40:59However, if you look closely,
41:03there are still documents on the edge.
41:10I tried my best to store it for a month,
41:17but I couldn't leave the books I was studying and the documents for work.
41:22This is the limit.
41:25I'll give you a compliment.
41:27Really?
41:28I'll use it as a compliment.
41:29Really?
41:30Did you get a little better?
41:31Yes.
41:33She hid the box of constipation medicine.
41:36Above all, she overcame the three-day-old.
41:43However, it doesn't end with just a compliment.
41:50Can I change it to a full-page layout?
41:52If you don't like it, you can put it back.
41:54Really?
41:55I love moving furniture.
41:58Really?
42:00She decided to change the layout of the furniture completely.
42:07I love this sense of decoration.
42:13It seems that the layout has changed
42:16by looking at the scenery from the window.
42:20But why is she trying to put the sofa facing the window?
42:30Ms. Atsuko Okano is very nice.
42:32Look at the window.
42:33Doesn't it look very rich?
42:40I see.
42:41She incorporated the scenery of the window as the background of the sofa.
42:46That's why.
42:48And...
42:51This is where she started.
42:55What I like is this carpet.
42:59I want to make use of this carpet.
43:01The yellow carpet?
43:02Yes.
43:03It's a turtleneck carpet.
43:04Right?
43:05It's very nice.
43:09To make use of the carpet, she started to change the direction of the table.
43:16It's getting better.
43:18Right?
43:21It's amazing.
43:24By placing the table in the center,
43:27the presence of the carpet stands out.
43:33Just by changing the layout of the furniture,
43:42the beauty of the room is different.
43:47What's more,
43:49this layout has a deep meaning.
43:56I can move freely like this.
43:58That's where it starts.
44:00It's like a dead end.
44:03It's not a dead end over there.
44:05There's a sense of emptiness.
44:07The future continues no matter where you go.
44:10That's right.
44:11It's very nice.
44:14The beauty of being able to move freely no matter where you go.
44:18That was a gift from Ms. Yamashita to Ms. Okano.
44:29When you buy a house,
44:32it's like you're buying a new house.
44:37So next year,
44:39you might think you're one year older.
44:45But when you change your clothes,
44:48and change your house like this,
44:50you become younger.
44:53I didn't think so until now,
44:55but when I heard that, I was like,
44:57Oh, I see.
44:58In other words,
45:00all the houses I buy
45:02are older than my age.
45:05Because I don't take care of them.
45:07The house is getting older and older.
45:09I'm like,
45:10this person is so young,
45:11but he's so old.
45:13That's true.
45:14At this age,
45:16people often say,
45:18it's a matter of life and death.
45:20But that's not the case.
45:22If you take care of your current house
45:25and make it younger,
45:27you may be able to be younger in the future.
45:29When you say young,
45:30it means you're doing your best.
45:32I'm so excited about what's going to happen.
45:36That's right.
45:37When the house is clean like this,
45:40I feel good
45:42because I've just started doing this.
45:46It's not bad.
45:48It's not bad, but it's even better.
45:50That's right.
45:51You'll have a new boyfriend.
45:55That's right.
45:57I'm doing my best
45:59because I think I can do it.
46:01Hello, everyone.
46:03This year, I was able to help my boyfriend
46:05with a lot of housework.
46:08It was really a lot.
46:10I was happy to meet you
46:12at the first event of the program in the fall.
46:15Next time is next spring.
46:17What?
46:18Have you decided?
46:20We have decided to hold a chat session
46:22next spring.
46:24I'll let you know the details later.
46:27I'm looking forward to talking to you again.
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