"The world doesn't let you live in any way." Kusha Kapila's mother, Rita Kapila, expressed her guilt for commenting on her daughter's appearance as a child.
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00:00Everyone keeps saying that Kusha is fat, Saru is fat.
00:05I used to get worried.
00:07It has had a huge impact on my life.
00:09My father is so thin, my daughters are so fat, my mother is also thin.
00:14All the time I used to think that I shouldn't keep telling my son that he is fat.
00:20Kusha, as you grew up, you were fat, you, your sister, Saru.
00:31People used to keep saying this, but did you ever feel that I have ever body shamed you?
00:37What do you think?
00:39I used to say it.
00:41Yes, you have said it.
00:44I used to say it because people used to say it.
00:46I think a parent gets concerned.
00:48I used to hear it from my parents.
00:50But now I feel very guilty that I said it.
00:54I think it has always been a topic in our family.
00:58Because in our family, how much do we talk about weight?
01:02You have lost weight and I have also lost weight with you.
01:06In the last one year, both of us.
01:08I have seen that people's criteria change.
01:10How do people look at you when you are overweight?
01:14When you lose weight, the world does not let you live.
01:18But when Saru and I were growing up, there was a time when we both gained a lot of weight.
01:26I would say genes.
01:28Because we have such Punjabi genes.
01:30And I think that was the time when you also gained a lot of weight in your 30s.
01:38I was also very thin before.
01:40But with time, I also gained weight.
01:42Now the children have also gained weight.
01:44This was going on.
01:46Whatever you see, this is what you keep saying.
01:48Kusha is also fat. Saru is also fat.
01:50So I used to get worried at some point.
01:54I used to say that you are fat.
01:56Now what to do with the children?
01:58But I don't know about that.
02:00I understand you.
02:02I don't think I have any complaints about you now.
02:08Because I feel that you were doing what you thought was right at that time.
02:16You also became a mother for the first time in your life.
02:20You are doing everything for the first time.
02:22So it was your first time too.
02:24So even though your intent was very good,
02:28I think that society also pressurized you so much.
02:34When I come to this age, I think that all these things are useless.
02:38Fat and thin don't mean anything.
02:40I know.
02:42It has had a lot of impact on my life.
02:44I still talk about it in my content.
02:48Because for a long time, this was the focus of our life.
02:52But I have seen that as a parent,
02:54I will tell everyone that
02:56your child should not be told again and again that you are fat.
03:00It gets into the child's mind.
03:02Like it got into Saru and Kusha's mind that we are fat.
03:08Yes.
03:10And their worth cannot be attached to this.
03:14I believe that.
03:16Because there was a lot of pressure.
03:20There was a lot of pressure.
03:22And I feel more pressure on Saru than me.
03:24My father is so thin.
03:26My daughters are so fat.
03:28My mother is also thin.
03:30As I am growing older,
03:32I understand where you come from.
03:36So there is no anger in my mind.
03:40I have heard in therapy that
03:44a bad experience needs 5 good experiences to be completely replaced.
03:50So I feel that you have replaced a lot of our experiences in my life.