Un tema muy importante para miles de parejas: dar el paso de ir a vivir juntos, pero con los hijos de tu pareja y los tuyos.
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00:00How do you prepare a couple to go live together?
00:03Because one thing is to hang out from time to time, but the day-to-day is different.
00:08That day-to-day is very, very different.
00:10But it is precisely that each one has their own space, for example,
00:13that they do not feel visited.
00:15Because although they are going to live three with you,
00:17there are others who are going to be coming and going every so often.
00:20They are already big, so it is difficult to make them all come on the same day,
00:24on the same weekend.
00:26The important thing is that those who live there do not feel invaded by the others,
00:30and those who arrive do not feel visited,
00:32but in the end they all feel at home.
00:34And for that, since they are building, it is the ideal time
00:37so that everyone can have their space, their preferences,
00:40that they can design the pieces together.
00:43And also something key for this stage in which they are going to start living together
00:47is that the couple time is not lost.
00:50Because when one is in this adaptation,
00:53but you have to be very well aligned
00:55so that the rules or all the things can be ours
00:59and not of the mother or my partner,
01:01but they can be as in common.
01:04Yes, how important it is to pick up those recommendations from a specialist.
01:08But I would like to ask Paulina Nin,
01:10who is a woman with a lot of experience,
01:12because at some point, Paulina, you had yours and mine.
01:15Yours, of course.
01:17I married Canuto and he already had a five-year-old son.
01:22And then, a year later, Canuto was born.
01:26So there we had yours and ours.
01:30But I think in the case of Andrea ...
01:32Hello, Andrea.
01:34Hello.
01:36Hello, Paulina.
01:38They are all teenagers, they are all big.
01:41So you know that with children of that age,
01:44there is already confidence in the conversation.
01:47You can raise it openly.
01:49Look, we are worried,
01:51because you are super important as a couple.
01:53And you are going to continue a life,
01:55but they are also going to leave the house at some point.
01:57The children are borrowed.
01:59They are going to leave at some point.
02:00And time goes by so fast.
02:01So I think they should have,
02:03as I did with my children,
02:0510 minutes or 15 minutes of trust.
02:07Really?
02:08Really.
02:09That's a lot of minutes.
02:11But it depended on the subject.
02:13It depended on the subject.
02:1510 minutes.
02:16No, but in this case,
02:17in this case it is worth 15 minutes.
02:19I couldn't say 5 minutes,
02:20because it is not a conversation
02:21where you are defining the future of a family.
02:23And what did they talk about in those 15 minutes of trust?
02:25Look, I'm going to tell you the case.
02:26My children told me,
02:27Mom, we need a minute of trust.
02:29Meeting.
02:30The three of us.
02:31I was already separated.
02:33So I tell him what's going on.
02:34So he tells me,
02:35You know what?
02:36We don't want to go out ever again
02:38in a magazine or in an interview,
02:40or that you take us to a TV show,
02:41or that they interview us,
02:42or pictures for Easter.
02:43Nothing.
02:44How old were they?
02:45They were 12 and 10.
02:48Already?
02:49So I told him why.
02:51He told me,
02:52Because you know what,
02:53moms bother us at school.
02:54And the famous one is you,
02:55and the one who works on TV,
02:56and they do it well,
02:57but it's you.
02:58And we don't want them to see us,
02:59we want to be anonymous.
03:00I told him,
03:01Ready, never again.
03:02And never again.
03:03And you see that my children
03:04don't work on social media,
03:05or go out.
03:06They did their independent life.
03:07When a program asks,
03:08I say,
03:09Hey, it would be the Canuto.
03:10Because they convince him.
03:11Paulina, there is no case.
03:12There is no case.
03:13So in the case of Andrea,
03:14I think it's a good conversation,
03:15giving importance to them,
03:16that they are people who deserve
03:17to be respected for the decision
03:18that is going to be taken,
03:19because they are going to go there together.
03:20Yes.
03:21And ask,
03:22Andrea,
03:23have you convinced him?
03:24Yes, I have convinced him.
03:25I have convinced him.
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