90 Day - The Last Resort S2 Episode 11
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00:00Gino, did you find a moment that you remember hurting Jasmine?
00:06Yeah.
00:07Previously on 90 Day, The Last Resort.
00:10Are you open to sharing it with us?
00:12I'd rather not.
00:15The first thought that comes to my mind is like, did you cheat on me?
00:24What's up, boys?
00:26How was your sleep?
00:27Uh, rough.
00:30Yeah? Do you guys like have trouble sleeping together usually?
00:33Yeah, I mean, yeah, I do. We do.
00:36I do not deserve to be treated this way.
00:39And it's offending me as a woman.
00:41I need somebody that's kind of just still.
00:45Good morning.
00:46Good morning.
00:47I was really looking forward to a fun camping trip with my wife.
00:50But Julia blindsided me.
00:53She's admitted to the one thing I can't like handle, hearing.
00:56You know, that she's cheated.
00:58Do you mind if we take a moment with Julia off to the side?
01:03Mm-hmm.
01:07A lot of things have been happening with Rob.
01:10I basically saw on his phone that he's been texting women the whole time during this resort.
01:17And then, look, also I found this.
01:20Swipe.
01:22He's not trying to do me.
01:24You're down to be adventurous.
01:27Let's explore.
01:29Mm-hmm.
01:30Asshole.
01:55Oh, my God.
02:19So what we're going to do is we're going to just sit.
02:21Mm-hmm. Okay.
02:22And talk.
02:25Yesterday I found out Julia cheated on me with her ex.
02:30And it wasn't good sleeping alone, you know?
02:34It made what I was already feeling worse.
02:37I think after something like this, I don't know if we can come back from it.
02:42But if I run away now, I think it could be the end of us, yeah.
02:48So, obviously, some things came up yesterday.
02:53And I really want to clear the air.
02:57I think that Julia, this was probably weighing heavy on her.
03:03And it's something she felt she needed to get off her chest, which I can understand.
03:08But at the same time, is that selfish or is it selfish for me to just not want to know?
03:14Because she could have taken that to her grave and I could just—ignorance be bliss.
03:20So, Julia, what was going on inside of you when you decided to share that?
03:25Was it to share the truth? Was it something different? What was it?
03:28Now it sounds like it was just to hurt me because, what, I didn't share something—
03:32I'm not trying to hurt you.
03:33I'm trying to relieve what I feel.
03:35I'm trying to relieve what is hurting me.
03:38I'm sharing everything that is bothering me, what is inside me.
03:43OK.
03:56Me putting myself out there and being vulnerable, especially with all these people around,
04:01I mean, I have difficulty with people in general.
04:05And so for me to just be completely open and put everything out there, it's hard already.
04:13You're the only safe space I have here and the only thing I know.
04:18And, um, for trying to want to feel like I want to push you away, it makes all this harder.
04:31So, yeah.
04:43Brandon and Julia, there's obviously hurt between them.
04:47But my experience seeing Brandon so far being very closed off and,
04:52especially the night before, totally going into shutdown,
04:55when he starts to cry, there's a part of me that feels a relief
04:59because I know he's getting somewhere now.
05:01He's finally breaking through, he's finally opening up,
05:04and he's able to feel safe enough to expose himself in a way and feel things
05:08and so this is huge.
05:09This is a great moment for Brandon to be here, able to do that.
05:15Let's first acknowledge that it makes sense that he would feel that way,
05:18and it makes sense that you would feel the way that you feel,
05:20and really to start this exchange of validating the other person's experience.
05:24That's called empathy, guys.
05:26Without it, we can't have a relationship.
05:29No matter how much love we have, we can't have a relationship if we can't see and feel.
05:34No matter how much love we have, we can't have a relationship if we can't see
05:37and take the time to put yourself in the other person's experience.
05:41Is it possible to move forward with this new circumstance for you, Brandon?
05:49I think I can.
05:55But I'm just sore at the moment because it's so fresh.
05:57Sure.
05:58It's a fresh wound now.
06:00And I just feel like it's going to take time for these feelings to go.
06:03Yeah.
06:10So that is a real circumstance that we need to address right now.
06:14Forgiveness is possible,
06:18but part of the forgiveness means that it's not used as leverage in the future.
06:30He won't move forward to make a big family, going to doctor and take second opinion.
06:35But how are we going to do that big step if we have that inside us?
06:40Great question. Great question.
06:42And that's the healing work that you're here to do.
06:46Can we leave all of this? Can we say everything that we feel and leave everything here?
06:53I'm going to try. That's all I can do, right?
06:59Yeah.
07:09Sophie, you deserve much better.
07:12You should go and face him and let everybody know who Rob really is and what you're going through.
07:20I believe that all this is hurting you even more because you are keeping it to yourself.
07:27And there is so much power on telling the truth.
07:32Me and Rob and all the other couples had, you know, spent the night in the tent.
07:35But yesterday, I had seen Rob messaging some girls on his phone.
07:39And I feel like he saw me looking because he looked over and like completely just closed his phone off when I was looking.
07:44So he knows he's not supposed to be doing that.
07:47And then this morning, my friend Kay sent me a screenshot of Rob having an active dating profile.
07:53It's just very disrespectful and hurtful to me when we're here to both try and be together
07:57and he's still just trying to be with any other girl online
08:00and doing the same behavior that affected us in the first place.
08:03And it's, you know, it's just hurtful.
08:08Rob, you're doing a great job cooking this bacon and egg.
08:16Morning.
08:17Morning.
08:23Um, I basically just want to say that it's been very difficult for me with my marriage with Rob.
08:32Um, and I've been trying very hard.
08:35I found out he's at this retreat and he's still messaging other women trying to have sex with them.
08:41And he's on dating apps.
08:43And he doesn't really give a **** to be here for me.
08:45I think he's treating this like a vacation.
08:47Show me.
08:48And also...
08:49Show me.
08:50I'm just...
08:51Because I don't know what you're talking about.
08:53I'm just...
08:56I didn't say anything because I don't want people to hate him.
08:59Because I do care about him.
09:02And you've done so much **** to me and I've kept it to myself because I do care about you.
09:06But the things I hear that you're telling everyone about me and how I moved out and not trying
09:10and that you're sad and...
09:12Oh, I love her. I'm trying.
09:13You're not trying.
09:14You're not trying.
09:15You're not trying at all.
09:16And you haven't tried for over a year, so...
09:17Yes, I am.
09:18I've been trying.
09:19Go ahead.
09:20You found out and now you're annoyed because I'm calling you out
09:22and you didn't think I would because you know how much I care about you.
09:24You just said I'm on dating apps.
09:25What dating apps?
09:26Oh, yeah, sure. I can show you.
09:27Sure. And it better be current, too.
09:30It better be current, too.
09:31Rob, you're not doing that, are you?
09:32I'm literally not on a dating app.
09:33This is exactly what I'm going through.
09:37Can I see it?
09:38Is that...
09:39I haven't even been able to get on that app in, like, two years.
09:43Okay, so that's not...
09:44And the only reason I even tried...
09:46The only reason I even tried...
09:48You just called yourself...
09:49The only reason I tried...
09:50You haven't been able to get on it in two years?
09:51Because you...
09:52We f*****g left two years ago.
09:53You told me to...
09:54You just said you haven't been able to get...
09:55You told yourself.
09:56Let me...
09:57Let me f*****g say it then.
09:58That I've been able to get on that in two years.
09:59Let me say it then.
10:00We got married two years ago.
10:01In two years, Zofie has been moved out and doing her own thing
10:03and she told me to talk to other women.
10:04But why did she move out?
10:05I'm telling you.
10:06Why did I move out?
10:07I'm telling you.
10:08She told me to talk to other women.
10:09And for f*****g five minutes, I tried
10:10and then I honestly felt like it just didn't feel right
10:12because I still wanted to work.
10:13Five minutes.
10:14That's why I found it on your phone there.
10:15I haven't done anything.
10:16Find it on my phone.
10:17When I saw that you was cheating on me...
10:18Let's be very f*****g clear.
10:19Let's be very f*****g clear.
10:20I was only on a dating app after Zofie told me
10:21to go talk to other women 10 f*****g times.
10:22Yeah, I tried.
10:23And I still f*****g deleted that f*****g
10:24because I care.
10:25That's why I'm here.
10:26You want to use that f*****g?
10:27You want to put me in the f*****g corner?
10:28Make me feel like I don't belong?
10:29You want to make me feel like I don't belong?
10:30You want to make me feel like I don't belong?
10:31Yeah, I tried.
10:32And I still f*****g deleted that f*****g
10:34because I care.
10:35That's why I'm here.
10:37You want to use that f*****g?
10:39You want to put me in the f*****g corner?
10:41Make me the dog,
10:42make me the f*****g,
10:43put me in a dog house?
10:44And tell me to f***ing talk?
10:46Go talk to other women
10:47because I ain't got nothing for you.
10:48You've told me 20 times you don't have anything.
10:51You know you don't invest in this relationship.
10:56Guys, have all you ***en dogs
11:00I want you to go here.
11:02What are you saying?
11:03I didn't say anything.
11:03I said I don't like to be touched.
11:05Don't open your mouth about my body.
11:08OK, and I didn't say that.
11:10You're saying this is not true.
11:12How can you do this to me?
11:29Sorry, Sophie.
11:30Why did you tell Rob to go date other women?
11:32I never said that.
11:34Wow.
11:35Bro, I'm done.
11:36I'm done.
11:37I'm done.
11:38This is.
11:39Are you serious?
11:40Hold on.
11:41Actually, actually, hold on.
11:42I think I texted in my phone still.
11:45Where's this at?
11:46He's looking through his whole phone now.
11:48And I'm like, I could tell what's going on.
11:50Someone's leaving.
11:51Oh, yeah.
11:52Oh, yeah.
11:56I'm sorry.
11:57Our hair.
11:58We all need to go to the salon now.
11:59I make it worse.
12:00I'm so sorry.
12:05Yeah, I want to leave.
12:06I don't even care for this.
12:07Like, we're all going to wait around for Rob
12:09to find something to like.
12:11We're just waiting.
12:11And it's like, come on.
12:12Oh, man.
12:13I need another cup.
12:14No, it matters, because I'm going to call her out
12:15at least on one lie.
12:16Because she just said that she never said that.
12:18Look, you look worried, because you know you said that to me.
12:20No, Rob, no.
12:20No, why did you just close my phone?
12:23Bro, it matters to me.
12:24So don't touch my phone.
12:26I'm going to find this, because Sophie ain't going
12:28to walk away from here looking like Ms.
12:30Innocent, playing me.
12:39So I feel like we can look at this
12:42as a means for deepening trust.
12:44And I know that sounds crazy.
12:46You want to use that?
12:47You want to put me in the corner?
12:50Something big's going on over there.
12:53Somebody fight there?
12:55I'm going to go check on what's happening over there.
12:59Take a moment to yourselves and just join us when you're ready,
13:01OK?
13:30Josh, come here.
13:33I keep saying to people that you cannot sleep next to me.
13:36What does that mean?
13:37Golly, Natalie.
13:38Will you stop?
13:39But you insult me.
13:40How can you do it to me?
13:41Natalie, you need to stop.
13:43Stop fucking insulting me.
13:44Oh my god, Natalie.
13:45OK, be by yourself.
13:46Be by yourself.
13:51So this morning, like, I had mentioned, you know,
13:54that I didn't really sleep well.
13:55I said, personally, I like to not be bothered
13:59or touched when I sleep.
14:00And she kind of took that and is now
14:03making this a much bigger issue than it is.
14:06And I don't know where it's going to go.
14:15It's disgusting.
14:17And he does that.
14:18Lucky I have people around.
14:19What's going on over here?
14:20But imagine when I'm by myself.
14:21We heard a lot of yelling.
14:24Yeah, there's a big fight going on.
14:26OK, I wouldn't say it's a fight.
14:28I would say it's Sophie telling the truth and somebody
14:31getting upset about it.
14:32And someone getting mad about the truth coming out.
14:35Well, I think we need to find out what the facts are.
14:37I got to find it.
14:39Let's find it, but let's take a moment.
14:40She's looking at me crazy all morning with that?
14:45That's fucking nuts.
14:47Your name was on it.
14:48I haven't been able to get on the app since, like, 2019
14:52because I had a picture of me sitting there
14:53with my hands over my nuts.
14:54And I think that the app kicked me thinking it was my nuts.
14:58So I haven't been able to even use that app in years.
15:04This is turning into, like, guy versus girl dynamic.
15:08You know, the girls are rallying around Sophie,
15:10and the guys are rallying around Rob.
15:13And it's turning into, like, this competition
15:15of, like, the battle of who's right and who's wrong.
15:19I don't know.
15:20But the true story is there.
15:21Do you believe him?
15:23Probably.
15:23So if you need to show more proof, I don't know.
15:29All right, man, I found it.
15:30You found it.
15:31You'll find it.
15:31She said right here, hi, as of March 4, 2023,
15:35me and you are on a break.
15:36And I give you permission to act single
15:37and will not hold this against you.
15:39Send me the screenshot.
15:40I'm going to go on the show.
15:41That's what she said.
15:42Good job, man.
15:43Send me the screenshot.
15:44I'll tell him.
15:45I'll tell him.
15:46Huh?
15:46I'll tell him. Come on.
15:47Yeah.
15:50Hola, ladies.
15:51Hey.
15:52Hello.
15:53I just want to let it be known that Rob does have
15:57the screenshot that says you have permission to be single.
16:02When was that?
16:03I don't know.
16:04It was in March.
16:05Yeah, to when?
16:06Because we broke up for a few months,
16:08and that dating app was not from that time.
16:11OK, pause.
16:12I need you to pause.
16:13I need you to pause.
16:14So here's what I'd like to do.
16:18First, I would like to invite Rob to say what he needs to say,
16:24to present what he needs to present.
16:25He's just going to shout at me.
16:26I will.
16:26I'm only going to allow this to happen if the temperature stays down,
16:30if the volume stays down in a communicative way.
16:35Are you ready for that?
16:38Yes.
16:38If you can talk to me respectfully, yes.
16:40OK.
16:41I would ask that just everybody, men and women,
16:44can just take a step back and let this be between Rob and Sophie.
16:49Girls and boys, if you want to talk about it, we can talk over there.
16:51Do you want us to stay, Sophie?
16:52Or do you feel more comfortable?
16:53I'll remove myself if it gets hot.
16:55OK.
16:58Rob, do you want to come over?
17:01Not really.
17:01I don't want to go sit by somebody who wants to make me out to be an enemy.
17:05Not really.
17:07I came here to be with my wife, hope for the best,
17:09and now she just flipped the whole everything on me.
17:15She can't prove.
17:16I have evidence that she said, you're single.
17:19I won't hold it against you.
17:20And now somehow there was a timeline on that.
17:23Yeah.
17:24The timeline was she wanted a break for a month,
17:27and then five and a half months later, she still hadn't came home.
17:30So then I broke up with her.
17:31So at what point did-
17:32We was broken up for a few months, and then we started getting back together.
17:35Did we not?
17:36No, we didn't.
17:37We had sex one time, and then you went right back to living your best life.
17:40That's not true.
17:41That period-
17:42You acted like you cared for five seconds.
17:42The first time I moved out, when I didn't want to be with you,
17:45that's when you said, well, if you f*** the girls, can you send me-
17:48That's why I wrote the text, remember?
17:49No, you said, you said, go f*** other women.
17:52I said, I don't want to go on a break.
17:54We should either separate, or we should work on our relationship.
17:57That's what I said to you.
17:59Well, first of all, I just want to say,
18:02when you're married, you can't break up.
18:06That's why I wanted to say we're separated.
18:08That's not a thing.
18:08If I didn't want a break, that s*** sounds like f***ing kid s***.
18:14There's so many ways we could communicate without having to be like him shouting at me,
18:18especially when he's in the wrong.
18:20He's getting angry because, it's because he looks bad.
18:23He's just like, I don't want to be with you.
18:25He's getting angry because, it's because he looks bad.
18:28He doesn't think anything he does is wrong.
18:33This isn't what I came here for.
18:35I know.
18:36I don't think it's what either of you came here for.
18:37I came here to f***, a last ditch effort to, and I'll be honest with you,
18:42I didn't have much hope because she won't do anything towards this relationship.
18:48All she'll do is look at me and say, Rob, you need to fix it.
18:51He's not taking this seriously.
18:53What are you talking about?
18:54So wait, wait, wait.
18:55Oh my God.
18:55Yeah, listen to her f***ing bulls***.
19:02So, I think this is a good place where we need to take some personal space
19:07before anything else nasty is said that maybe we don't mean.
19:15And we're going to reconvene by the 10th.
19:18I have something planned for us to at least move through some of this energy.
19:22This is not a couple's thing, okay?
19:24You don't have to talk anymore, but we got to get some of this out.
19:42You know, you had a f***ing real one.
19:44F***ing bulls***.
20:15I just want to go home.
20:16I don't want to leave.
20:18Tell me what's wrong.
20:20Deep breaths.
20:44No, no, no.
21:10I'm not taking this s***.
21:13Great.
21:21It just seems like out of the blue, Natalie's like screaming and yelling at Josh, you know?
21:25It's like maybe one of those episodes where she kind of just
21:29out of the blue like starts talking some crazy s***, you know?
21:34I don't know what the f*** is going on between these two people.
21:37All I know is that they are exhausting.
21:43What do you feel like Josh is saying?
21:53Oh, boy.
22:12It makes me feel like something's wrong with me or something like that,
22:15and it felt like an insult.
22:17So I felt like I should just not accept it.
22:22What's going on over here?
22:23There's so much yelling.
22:25I'm sorry, guys.
22:26I'm losing my s***.
22:29Everybody's, I'm like, I can't handle it.
22:38I didn't say anything.
22:39I said I don't like to be touched.
22:40No, it's not true.
22:42I said it to everybody.
22:44Make me feel body shamed.
22:47I'm not.
22:48I'm not body shaming you.
22:49You're beautiful and you have a beautiful body.
22:53Come with me.
22:54I'm sorry if you misunderstood that.
23:00I'm sorry.
23:02I said I'm sorry for you.
23:07Okay.
23:09Okay, and I didn't say that.
23:16Okay.
23:22So everybody knows this is why I cannot bring her anywhere.
23:27I can't.
23:28I don't know what to expect.
23:31With Natalie, like, I feel like I really have to be careful with some of the things I say
23:35because sometimes she'll just take the first two words,
23:38two or three words of where the story is going
23:41and then it's just like, oh, I'm going to make up my own conclusion here.
23:44You know, it suffocates me a little bit, you know?
23:46And it's like, makes me lose my voice in a sense.
23:49Like, I mean, you know, like, why am I even saying anything?
23:54Because it's just like every single little thing is just like taken and twisted
23:59and just made to be like against me.
24:01So I'm really having a hard time expressing my feelings.
24:06But I'm such a good person.
24:07I know.
24:09I know.
24:13Liar.
24:18Just listen to me.
24:18Let's fill my.
24:19Listen to me the full story.
24:20It's still like, I don't want to sleep with my.
24:22Guys, like, I don't know what I'm doing.
24:23Let me talk.
24:24Yes, explain.
24:24Let me talk sometimes.
24:26Okay.
24:26It's still like, I have problem example.
24:29No, I don't like to sleep close to people.
24:31I don't like people to touch me.
24:32Here is problem.
24:33It's not your problem.
24:34Don't flip that problem in you, you know?
24:38I can understand Natalie.
24:41It's not easy for her.
24:42You want the truth.
24:43Like other people to Natalie want to say to her like, oh, you're crazy.
24:47You have problems.
24:48And you try like to blame in her.
24:49And like, I feel sad for her.
24:51She's no like sometimes people make mistakes now.
24:54And like, I want to see her happy, basically.
24:56No more, no more fighting.
24:57Natalie, calm down.
24:58Okay.
25:02I said nothing about her body.
25:04Nothing.
25:08I don't, I don't know.
25:16Yeah.
25:18One more conversation, boom done, okay?
25:21She's coming.
25:21She's coming.
25:22Oh my gosh.
25:23I'm, okay.
25:27Could be an illusion.
25:28Therapist Florian over there.
25:30Listen to me.
25:31I'm the lawyer.
25:31I can defense you, okay?
25:34Okay, you're going to hear.
25:35I'm going to talk, okay?
25:42I want to hear.
25:43Okay, because I don't like to be touched.
25:49I don't, I like to be still.
25:51I like to sleep.
25:53I like to sleep untouched.
25:54Has nothing to do with you or your body.
25:57You're beautiful.
26:00You are beautiful.
26:01And I apologize if you took that the wrong way.
26:03Any type of body shaming is not what I meant.
26:06That is my thing.
26:07My thing only that I don't like to be touched has nothing to do with you.
26:10Okay.
26:11You hear it?
26:12That's all that it is.
26:13Say again, apologize.
26:14I want to hear it.
26:14Apologize.
26:15I apologize for the way that came across.
26:19Say thank you.
26:20She say apologize 10 times.
26:21She won't thank you.
26:22Go give her a hug or something.
26:24I don't think she wants one from me.
26:26Let's hug together.
26:26Hug the angel.
26:27Hug the angel.
26:28Yeah.
26:29Why the hell did you stop?
26:32I was scared.
26:32I was scared.
26:33Don't do that.
26:34No, no.
26:35Don't do that.
26:35No, no, no, no, no.
26:35Trash.
26:36Don't do that.
26:36No, no, no, no, no.
26:38Be sweet.
26:39She's not going to find no more.
26:41Jesus Christ.
26:44I'm at a loss here because I'm apologizing to her so that she feels better for something that I
26:50didn't say or didn't do.
26:52And she takes that and kicks me in the nuts.
26:56I mean, I feel like I'm trying to do what I can to be a better partner, to be a better
27:02listener, to be a punching bag at this point or whatever it is that she needs to be.
27:07But I'm trying.
27:08I am trying.
27:10Could I try more?
27:11Could I do more?
27:12I mean, I don't know.
27:19While Natalie calms down, we are all going to meet back by the tents.
27:24I have something planned for us to break this up and release some of this energy.
27:30Meet me back there very soon.
27:32OK.
27:34Go back, guys.
27:36That's what it's like being married, huh?
27:38Just apologizing for nothing.
27:39Pretty much.
27:40Yeah.
27:41Let's come soft and sweet and normal.
27:44Let's come soft, OK?
27:45I yell sometimes.
27:46It's not nice, OK?
27:47OK, like, just like, let's take it in a sweet way, you know?
27:51I think he's doing the right thing to tell you.
27:53He tells you, apologize.
27:54He tells you, I'm sorry.
27:56He tells you everything.
28:00You love him or no?
28:02Yeah.
28:08I think you need to accept his sorry, apologize.
28:10He's telling for his heart, you know?
28:12You need to forgive to him.
28:32Feel good, better.
28:35And let's go to enjoy the group, sweetheart.
28:39You're great.
28:43Let's see what the f*** is happening with that group.
28:54He's making nasty comments to me in front of everyone.
29:02Yeah.
29:04He's horrible.
29:05He basically just showed everything that he's always done to me every day to everyone.
29:11No, it's fine.
29:12It's fine.
29:14I came to this therapy to actually try a last time at our marriage, right?
29:18I actually tried to do.
29:19And in the therapy sessions, mom, I'm like being vulnerable.
29:22I'm really trying.
29:23And you know I hate talking about my feelings.
29:25But I'm doing it and I'm pushing through.
29:28He's here making friends with guys.
29:30He's not putting our marriage first.
29:31He's not even trying with our marriage, mom.
29:33And there's no love there on his side.
29:36None.
29:37As soon as the minute that his image was blown, it's like I was like his enemy.
29:41Like he doesn't give a f*** that he's hurt.
29:43He doesn't.
29:44He just doesn't f***ing care, mom.
30:01From when?
30:02Because I haven't been on a f***ing dating app in a long time.
30:05What's the point of this f***ing s***?
30:24Is that your mom?
30:25Yeah.
30:25Can I say hi?
30:26Yeah, mom.
30:26Jasmine wants to say hi.
30:28Hi, beautiful.
30:30How are you?
30:31I'm good.
30:32Listen, she's in good hands, okay?
30:37I know, baby.
30:38But she's okay.
30:40I know that you love her.
30:42We all love Sophie.
30:43But we have seen the real Rob.
30:47And we all got Sophie's back.
30:52She hasn't had breakfast.
30:53She hasn't eaten anything.
30:55And it really concerns me.
30:57So I'm gonna borrow her from you a little bit.
31:01And I'm gonna try to make her, like, eat a little, okay?
31:05Thank you, sweetie.
31:06I love you.
31:07Take care, my love.
31:08Okay, baby.
31:08Let's go.
31:09Eat and drink some water.
31:13We are in the desert.
31:14You have to stay hydrated, okay?
31:16Let's go.
31:21We come to this resort to work on our marriage.
31:23And we agreed that we're focusing on each other.
31:25And that, you know, we wanted to build trust.
31:27We wanted to actually give this a go.
31:28So for him to still just be talking to all these other girls
31:32and then get a dating app, it's like, it just feels like,
31:34how are we ever supposed to work on our marriage
31:37if you just are never gonna be accountable for anything?
31:41It's okay.
31:42Everything is gonna be okay.
31:43Let's go.
31:48Ari, is everything okay?
31:50It's been hell.
31:51But, like, being here and, like, everyone just rewards, like,
31:54the bad behavior or the narcissism.
31:56Like, it's difficult.
31:58You guys all, especially Julia.
32:01You called Rob out on his s***.
32:02But nobody wants to call Benny out, you know?
32:04I'm not calling out on his s***.
32:05I'm not even talking to him.
32:06Enough, enough, enough, enough.
32:28Okay, guys, if we can gather, please.
32:31We'll meet right here in front of the tents.
32:36It's like a showdown.
32:45If I could have the girls line up in front.
32:48Men in back.
32:49Somewhat by your partner still.
32:53The campground this morning got out of control.
32:56This morning got out of control very quickly.
32:59Sophie's crying.
33:00I see Natalie in complete hysterics.
33:03This is complete chaos.
33:05Thankfully, I have the perfect tool for these people
33:08to disperse this energy and have them get through it.
33:19What's happening a lot of the time
33:21is that your nervous systems are trapped.
33:23And they're stuck in these cycles.
33:26And you go into this stress response.
33:28So what we want to do is we want to shake it up.
33:30We want to let it go.
33:31We want to break the nervous system pattern.
33:33And we want to release the stress.
33:37We are obviously dealing with a lot of tension.
33:41A lot of emotions right now have come up.
33:44And I think what's best at this point
33:47is to allow you some space to release some of that.
33:50So we're going to do a primal energetic release for you.
33:57This is our opportunity to yell if you want to yell.
34:01Scream if you want to scream.
34:04Not at each other.
34:06But just in order to move the energy through.
34:09So that we can leave this camping trip
34:12with at least getting something productive out of it
34:14and letting something go.
34:15No.
34:17I don't want to scream.
34:18I've just been listening to people scream all day.
34:22My anxiety is already at an all-time high.
34:24The last exercise we need to be doing right now as a group
34:27is to be screaming into the void.
34:33I would invite you guys to kind of tap into yourselves here.
34:36OK, so let's take sunglasses off.
34:38Let's maybe even take bags off.
34:39Because you're going to move.
34:40I don't want anything to move.
34:42I don't want anything to move.
34:43Let's maybe even take bags off.
34:44Because you're going to move.
34:45I don't want anything to get jostled around.
34:47This is kind of a style of breath work
34:49that kind of starts from the floor up.
34:52So we're going to get the body involved, OK?
34:54You're going to go into this low squat stance.
34:57So what I want you to do is you're going to go
35:00one, two, three, four.
35:05That's your stance.
35:06Your goal is to feel as though you're
35:09pushing a large ball of energy all the way across the world,
35:13all the way across the world, OK?
35:15I want you to take this from your center and push it out.
35:18So it's, whew, ha, whew, ha.
35:23Make sense?
35:23You look like a compose.
35:24We're going to do it with Mike.
35:26Look at your left hand, please.
35:30I'm not so much curious to try new things.
35:33I'm not so much curious to try new things, to be honest.
35:37It's a good release.
35:40I don't get it.
35:41Not your vibe, not your thing, huh?
35:42No, like kung fu.
35:44Kung fu?
35:46Oh, like, hyah!
35:48Hyah!
35:54We're going to go one, two, hands in the center,
35:58like you're holding a ball of energy.
36:00Who?
36:03That way.
36:04And then we're going to go, whew, ha, whew, ha.
36:11Gino, Gino, be careful.
36:14Too much power.
36:14Who?
36:15Ha, who?
36:15Who?
36:16Ha, who?
36:16Who?
36:17Ha, who?
36:17Who?
36:18Ha, ha.
36:18Kung fu panda.
36:19Who?
36:19Ha.
36:30Ha.
36:44Who?
36:45Ha.
36:46Now here's the key.
36:48I want you to really tap into your power here
36:50and think about what you want to be releasing here.
36:55It's been a lot coming up.
36:57You've already been through a lot.
36:58you deserve this.
37:00To let this go.
37:02To have a release.
37:04To at least feel something.
37:08So when we do that, right?
37:22What happened there?
37:24We don't know.
37:28We don't know.
37:50It's so stressful.
37:52I feel like I'm surrounded by a bunch of people that just stress me out.
37:58I'm already at an all-time high, and I just don't want to be, like,
38:02letting it all hang out.
38:04Even though it's supposed to be calming,
38:06like that we're doing breathing exercises,
38:08sometimes for me, the breathing has the opposite effect.
38:10It can bring awareness to stress that I'm already feeling.
38:14And right now, none of this is working for me.
38:18Okay, let's take a break.
38:20Ari, what you want?
38:22Not enough attention.
38:24Yeah.
38:26I'm tired.
38:30Come back in.
38:56I mean, I have to just try to block out all these morons.
39:08Oh, there she comes.
39:14You good?
39:20Okay.
39:23Okay, let's do the therapy.
39:26Ari, is everything okay?
39:28No, it's not okay.
39:32I mean, today was very traumatic for me
39:34because everything Sophie's going through,
39:36I went through all that.
39:38And I, like, I don't need other people to know about what I've been through,
39:42what it's been like.
39:44But, like, being here, and, like, everyone just rewards, like,
39:46the bad behavior, the narcissism.
39:48Like, it's difficult.
39:50You guys all, especially Julia, constantly.
39:52He's doing this on purpose.
39:56No, you need constant male attention,
39:58and I'm sure you see that,
40:00that she does need that constantly.
40:04And, like, you know what?
40:06You called Rob out on his s***,
40:08but nobody wants to call Benny out.
40:10Earlier today, you were there.
40:16I don't need to be yelled at by you.
40:18Okay, okay, enough.
40:20Enough, enough, enough, enough.
40:22Okay? We came here to release.
40:26All we're doing is attacking each other.
40:28I mean, what is this?
40:30I'm not trying to attack. I'm trying to make a point.
40:34I have no clue
40:36what she's talking about.
40:38No clue.
40:40Who I need attention?
40:42Gina? No.
40:44Florian? No.
40:46Josh? No, thank you.
40:48I mean, like,
40:50what's she talking about?
40:52I think she is just
40:54disappointed with what happened
40:56with her and Benny,
40:58and she takes all of this anger on me.
41:02You know what? I think maybe I should just take a break,
41:04because I just, the negative energy
41:06that I'm getting, like, from, like,
41:08the whole day, it's just affecting me.
41:10Hey, I understand that.
41:12I definitely understand that.
41:14And I've been with someone,
41:16constant conflict for five years.
41:18I just need a break from conflict.
41:20I don't want to hear anyone yell.
41:22I don't want to fight with anybody.
41:24I need a break from it.
41:26Listen, if you need to take a break,
41:28by all means, take a break.
41:30I do. I'm just, I can't do conflict.
41:32I can't do yelling.
41:34You don't have to do this.
41:36I don't want to do it.
41:38Okay, all right.
41:40Yeah.
41:42Nobody
41:44knows what I've been through
41:46for so long.
41:48I just can't do it anymore.
41:54I'm very upset, because
41:56Ari, she's talking, like, in the past
41:58five years, you know?
42:00They have so many anger.
42:02We can't talk about the situation.
42:04And me, I want
42:06to practice the therapy,
42:08because I don't want to miss this opportunity.
42:10I want to learn.
42:12Okay, so we're ready.
42:14Ready! Let's get into this.
42:16Feet apart.
42:18Woo, let's go! Sit low.
42:20We got this, baby. Let's go.
42:22Get the energy here, y'all.
42:24Let's go.
42:26Close your eyes, please.
42:28And think about why you're here.
42:30And think about what you want to let go of.
42:32We're going to go
42:34Woo!
42:36Ha!
42:38Ha!
42:40Ha!
42:42The louder you can be, the better it'll feel.
42:44Ha!
42:46Let it go!
42:48Ha!
42:50Ha!
42:52Ha!
42:54Go!
42:56Think of what you want to release.
42:58Hey!
43:00Ha!
43:02Ha!
43:04Count, count!
43:06Three, two, one!
43:08Woo!
43:10Woo!
43:12Woo!
43:14Woo!
43:16Yeah!
43:18Yeah!
43:20Good.
43:22This is exactly what I need
43:24right now to scream
43:26all this frustration
43:28after all this mess
43:30with all these people
43:32fighting and yelling the whole freaking morning.
43:34The screaming is so
43:36releasing.
43:38When you scream for a purpose,
43:40just to release
43:42the negative emotions,
43:44it really works.
43:46It really works.
43:48Okay, you guys.
43:50This concludes and wraps up
43:52our camping trip experience here.
43:54I know a lot has happened out here.
43:56We're
43:58leaving some of it behind.
44:00And let's take something new back to
44:02our lives. Whatever that is for you,
44:04go ahead and hold it into your heart.
44:06But let's pack up.
44:08Let's go back to the resort.
44:10And I'll see you guys all there.
44:12Oh, oh, oh.
44:14No, I can't.
44:16I can't.
44:18Here, give me the bag.
44:20No, take this, please.
44:22Uh-oh, uh-oh, uh-oh.
44:24Behind you.
44:26Take the glasses.
44:28Take the glasses.
44:30Do you need help?
44:32Yeah, let's do this.
44:34Girl power.
44:36I feel like we're three
44:38girls who are like...
44:40At the end of the day,
44:42it's longer than anything.
44:44It's longer than anybody.
44:46If you want to help, grab that side.
44:50No, no, no.
44:52Just fold it this way.
44:56Okay.
45:26Whew.
45:32I'm still tired
45:34from that camping and the donkeys
45:36having sex at night.
45:38I think they were.
45:40Well, I like the donkeys.
45:42I like the donkeys, but they are wild,
45:44and I think that they were doing bad things at night.
45:46There was a lot of craziness.
45:48Definitely was a lot of craziness
45:50when we woke up
45:52and, you know, all the stuff going down
45:54and grabbing selfies.
45:56That was shocking.
45:58People were losing their s***,
46:00and I never had the chance
46:02to speak to you.
46:04With the high-note therapies,
46:06you know, like, I could clearly see
46:08by your body language
46:10that you were about to cry.
46:12I saw some tears,
46:14and you were very sorry
46:16about something
46:18you either said or did to me.
46:20Then when Sarah
46:22asked you to participate
46:24and you opened yourself,
46:26honestly,
46:28I don't think that that's
46:30what you were
46:32apologizing for,
46:34and you just make it up.
46:36And even Florian
46:38seconded me on that.
46:40I want us
46:42to be honest.
46:50What was it?
46:58All right. I'll tell you.
47:00I'll tell you.
47:14You ready?
47:16Yes!
47:18Next time on
47:2090 Day The Last Resort...
47:22I want to have an open marriage,
47:24and I found a person.
47:26Can we call him?
47:28Okay. I'm so nervous.
47:30How are you doing?
47:32I'm good.
47:34Take off your shirt!
47:36Whoo!
47:40You can die for Jasmine?
47:42I would.
47:44You'd die for her,
47:46because, yeah.
47:48You think you, like,
47:50you're so special?
47:54Stacy, everything goes okay?
47:56Um...Darcy's here.
47:58What?
48:00She's here because we need
48:02deep therapy between the three of us.
48:04A lot of the issues that Florian and I are having,
48:06like, Darcy is the key
48:08factor here.
48:10They look the same.
48:12Give me a hug. How you doing?
48:14We need to work on our issues, so...
48:16Darcy asked this Florian before,
48:18who is more important,
48:20Darcy or Stacy?
48:22I mean, he should obviously choose his wife,
48:24you know.
48:26But he couldn't pick up one.
48:28Stacy's a little bit downer sometimes.
48:30You know what?
48:32I'm gonna go home.
48:34Stay safe.
48:36Stay safe.