90 Day - The Last Resort S2 Episode 13 - The Last Judgment
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00:00Hi, baby.
00:02You're the best mommy ever.
00:04You're the best baby ever.
00:06Previously on 90 Day The Last Resort.
00:09I'm trying to work on the marriage.
00:11Seems like Vinny is more than happy to just let it all go.
00:14My heart is broken.
00:16Brandon told me,
00:18Gina, say he doesn't want to have sex with you
00:22even if you have a good behavior.
00:24I'm not willing to be in a sexless marriage anymore.
00:29I know an upper marriage is not conventional,
00:32but I'm willing to do whatever it takes to save our marriage.
00:38Darcy's here.
00:39What?
00:40What?
00:41A lot of the issues that Flor and I are having,
00:43like Darcy is the key factor here.
00:46Give me a hug.
00:47How you doing?
00:48Yeah, well, we're here to work on our issues,
00:50so tell me about it.
00:52You told Flor and you're better off single.
00:55Why don't you call him at 3 o'clock in the morning
00:57and come over?
00:58So what?
00:59You want to f*** my man or something?
01:01Are you f***ing crazy?
01:03Enough.
01:05Then I'm out.
01:27I'm out.
01:58Tighten that tush.
02:00Work it, work it.
02:04You know what hurts?
02:05My ass hurts.
02:06These seats are not comfortable at all.
02:08My nana hurts.
02:09I just had a vagina rejuvenation.
02:11It's tingling a little bit.
02:13Don't let it get to you.
02:20I brush my teeth.
02:22Oh, that's good.
02:24Feel it.
02:25Huh?
02:26Huh?
02:28Oh.
02:40Nala!
02:41Where's my baby?
02:43Yasik, you're my boy!
02:45That's my baby!
02:47Who's my favorite baby?
02:49Who's my favorite baby?
02:52Oh.
02:55You like to go fast on these things?
02:58I guess so.
02:59Gotta break a sweat.
03:02I woke up thinking maybe go get some cardio in,
03:04and at first I'm seeing Stacy,
03:07but like there's something different about Stacy.
03:14Oh, I know what it is.
03:15It's not f*** Stacy, it's Darcy.
03:18And that's kind of weird and a surprise.
03:20I must have missed some things at dinner the night before,
03:23if Darcy's here.
03:25What was your name again?
03:26Rob.
03:27Rob.
03:28Okay, so you're here for the couples retreat?
03:30Yes, I am.
03:31With Sophie.
03:32I heard you guys all hung out yesterday.
03:34She's very sweet.
03:35She's beautiful.
03:36Why weren't you at the dinner last night?
03:40Because Sophie just really hit me over the head
03:42with just a bunch of bulls*** yesterday.
03:45She comes out and she makes this announcement.
03:49Rob's got a dating profile, and it's like,
03:51no, I'm not online talking to anybody right now.
03:54All the girls are, oh, Sophie, oh, Sophie.
03:57And I have to defend myself, and then I get upset
03:59because I'm a fiery guy.
04:01If you're going to sit there in my face,
04:03accuse me, lie about s*** to my face.
04:06Wow, s***, he jumped on.
04:08I needed a minute yesterday.
04:09It was a rough day for me, but what did I miss?
04:12I wasn't there.
04:13I'm kind of curious.
04:15You missed a lot.
04:16Stacey was really going at it.
04:18She was starting, she came in really hot
04:21as soon as I arrived.
04:22At you?
04:23Like, she was mad?
04:24Kind of, just had an attitude.
04:26Was Florian being loud?
04:28No, actually, he was trying to, like, calm her down.
04:30He was being very approachable to me
04:32and sweet and nice, like the brother he is,
04:34and maybe that kind of triggered her.
04:36And then she walked off, and then Florian followed her.
04:39I followed because I wanted to see what was going on.
04:42She said, what, do you want to s*** my husband?
04:45That's what she said?
04:46Yep.
04:47I said, are you f***ing kidding me?
04:48Are you crazy?
04:49Absolutely not.
04:50Never in a million years.
04:51That's my brother at all.
04:52What was that response to?
04:53That's your husband.
04:54I don't know, her insecurities.
04:57Stacey accuses Darcy of wanting to have sex with Florian.
05:03I mean, as far as I know, the dynamic with Darcy
05:06is that Florian hangs out with her too damn much.
05:09And so I can see why Stacey might be, like,
05:12side-eyeing Darcy, like, what's up with you?
05:15You trying to get at my man or what?
05:19We have a special connection, Florian and I.
05:21And I think Stacey gets a little intimidated by that.
05:24Do you ever think, like, you guys might need more space between you?
05:27Yeah.
05:28This family?
05:29Yeah.
05:30Closeness, and everybody's so on top of each other,
05:34I feel like it's just, it's actually driving y'all apart.
05:37It is, it absolutely is.
05:39And if we don't fix that s*** now,
05:42we're gone, we're done.
06:03Wait.
06:04Okay.
06:08After returning from camping,
06:09Vinny and I haven't really been in the same room.
06:11We haven't really talked much with each other.
06:14It's kind of like I'm sort of numb to this in some ways
06:16because, like, I've just been dealing with this forever.
06:19Chris, can you wait over there?
06:24At the end of the day,
06:25it seems like my husband has no interest in fixing the marriage,
06:28and I don't feel any support from the other couples.
06:32Hello.
06:33Hey, how are you?
06:34How are you?
06:35Yeah, come in, come in.
06:37How are you?
06:38So, I've asked to speak with James and Sarah
06:40to figure out what the future looks like for us
06:42and what the future looks like for us here at the retreat.
06:46You got it?
06:47Okay, yeah.
06:51So, yesterday was obviously a lot.
06:53What I noticed is that most of the time,
06:56it was a lot of, like,
06:58What I noticed is that most of the time,
07:01from the camping trip and our experiences there,
07:05you two were separate most of the time
07:08in kind of having an individual experience.
07:11At this point, it feels, like,
07:13still pretty uncomfortable to be around Vinny,
07:15and then, like, I don't want to sit here and be like,
07:18you did this, you did that,
07:19but, like, that was a big reason why I wanted to come here,
07:21because I wanted him to be held accountable
07:24for the things that he's done that are not okay.
07:29Seems like he's the only one who has done
07:31maybe worse than anyone else here,
07:33and he doesn't, and he gets to just skate off and...
07:37Wait, I'm curious real quick.
07:38You're bringing up an important topic
07:40or something that's bothering you, and you're laughing.
07:42So, what's going through your brain?
07:43For me, it is not true.
07:45Well, your voice is yours to own,
07:48and you can tell your story however you'd like to,
07:51and the same goes for him.
07:53If he doesn't want to take accountability
07:55the way that feels right for you or feels good for you...
07:57There's no control over that.
07:58There's nothing.
07:59You know, it's like, what's inside of your control, right?
08:01What can I control? Control that.
08:03What can't I control? Let the rest go.
08:06I feel like Ari and Benny's biggest challenge
08:08is getting caught up on past behaviors,
08:10almost like they're in this loop,
08:12and they just keep replaying the past,
08:14which is keeping them almost stagnant
08:16from being able to move forward.
08:17You know, we've had some sessions.
08:19You guys had a lot of time doing camping activities
08:23and learning a lot.
08:25What are you guys thinking with all this?
08:26Let's just hear from you now.
08:31Um...
08:34I think it's better for us maybe not to be together.
08:47Because I just don't believe
08:48that any of the things that were promised to me,
08:50I don't believe that they're going to be carried out,
08:52so it's just hard.
08:57It's rough for relationship. It's not good.
09:02Emotionally? How are you handling this?
09:21I want to make sure that we're understanding you guys,
09:23and I'm hearing that as of this moment,
09:25this will not be moving forward
09:27in a romantic marriage relationship.
09:39Hi, Betty. Hi, Ron.
09:40I think I have great news today,
09:42but I'm not sure I want to share that anymore.
09:46This is another lie. It's another lie.
09:49This is... She cheated on me. You know that?
09:52What are you talking, Brandon?
09:54Come back. You can't make things better by walking away.
10:13So this will not be moving forward
10:15with a romantic marriage.
10:23I tried so hard to make a broken marriage work,
10:27and it's not working.
10:34So, yes, that's how I feel.
10:39Yeah.
10:40I know it's painful for us,
10:42but we know we can fix the whole situation.
10:47We've decided that we're going to be getting a divorce,
10:49and we're leaving the resort,
10:51and I have mixed emotions.
10:54I'm happy because, you know, I'm finally free,
10:58in some sense, from all of this,
11:00these burdens and problems and stress.
11:02And on the other hand, it's sad
11:04because it'll be starting all over again.
11:06Maybe we'll stop fighting,
11:08and maybe we'll just move on.
11:10I don't know.
11:13We're going to make sure that we have resources
11:15for you guys, too, right?
11:16To be able to do that.
11:17This isn't just saying this is over.
11:19I think we're going to talk about continued tools.
11:21How do we continue with the goal of friendship,
11:23co-parenting, and getting through this
11:25in the least complicated way, right?
11:43And for Avi, like, she's a lovely person.
11:46It's better, like, building focus
11:48and building friendship.
11:49She helped me so many things.
11:51I want to help her, too.
11:53Now that you've both made a mutual decision,
11:56using this point as a chance
11:58to start to focus on,
12:00what do I want to build going forward?
12:02Who do I want to be going forward?
12:04And how do I use, right,
12:06because the pillar now is your son.
12:08This is really about what's best for Avi.
12:11But at least we can start there, right?
12:13Yeah.
12:15Thank you so much.
12:16Thank you for coming.
12:17Thank you for every time you guys help us.
12:19Yeah.
12:20Thanks so much.
12:21Of course.
12:24I don't know.
12:25I have a tendency to feel like I failed at things.
12:27I feel like I failed at my marriage.
12:28I feel like I failed at the resort.
12:34In a lot of ways,
12:35I'm ready for the relationship to be over.
12:38But I'm sad
12:39because it was like five years together, so...
12:42And mostly I'm sad for my son.
12:50You know, what can I do?
13:10Oh, God.
13:11My head.
13:12I need something to drink.
13:15Medicine.
13:18I had some drinks last night.
13:21Also, I hadn't had drinks in months
13:23because I had my, you know, health scare.
13:26So, you know,
13:27it kind of went straight to my head really fast.
13:30Just give me food.
13:31Just give me food.
13:32I need food.
13:33I need, like, hangover food.
13:34I need food.
13:35I need food.
13:36I need food.
13:37I need food.
13:38I need hangover food.
13:39Like empanadas.
13:40I want empanadas.
13:41Can you get me empanadas?
13:43I don't have empanadas.
13:46What is that?
13:48Oh, God.
13:51Oh, my God.
13:55That's not empanada.
13:57I know, it's Christian.
14:02What happened last night?
14:03You get off in Dursy.
14:05Yeah, what did I say?
14:06What did I say?
14:07Leave my husband alone.
14:11You know what?
14:12I had to get it out.
14:13You invite Dursy.
14:14What the f*** are you telling me, ma'am?
14:15Because I want to work it out.
14:16Yes, bro.
14:17But it's no work like this out.
14:20It's no work like this to come, like, storm off.
14:25Let's fix it.
14:26No.
14:27I'm going to get a shower.
14:28Go get a shower.
14:29Cool off.
14:31You're getting a hot shower.
14:32How are you going to cool off in a hot shower?
14:35Dirty.
14:36Yeah, I got to take a dump.
14:38You make a mess in your bed like dirty.
14:40A dump and a shower.
14:41Dump, dump, dump there and a shower.
14:53Come on, Rob, you got it.
14:54I almost lost a leg.
14:55Oh, shoot.
14:56Keep going.
14:57If I can do it, you can do it.
14:59This bike is riding me, let me tell you.
15:01You're lucky you just got here.
15:02Yeah.
15:03This has been so dramatic since we got here.
15:05I can believe it now.
15:06I didn't expect it coming in, but...
15:08Oh, yeah, it's...
15:09I can only imagine.
15:10It's like hooking up drama the next...
15:12What's up, guys?
15:14How are you guys?
15:15Mind if I join?
15:16Getting our spin on, yeah.
15:17All right.
15:19So, since our big fight at the camping trip, like,
15:21I've been trying to, you know, give myself some space,
15:24give Natalie her own space,
15:27because we're not getting along.
15:29It is a relief that we are staying in separate rooms,
15:32because she just keeps wanting to fight with me.
15:34I mean, I'm ready to actually get over this.
15:37I don't need anything from Natalie but to just act normal.
15:41That's all I need her to do is just, you know,
15:44understand we're at this resort,
15:47we're trying to work our issues out with each other.
15:50Like, I just need her to focus on that
15:52and work with me as opposed to working against me.
15:56How are you?
15:57I'm okay. Sorry about last night.
15:59You know, the drama with Stacey and I.
16:01Oh, no, that's fine.
16:03Trust me, I've been dealing with a lot more than that,
16:05so it's okay.
16:07Yeah.
16:08Has this been happening the whole time,
16:09like, on the trip?
16:10Yeah.
16:11You know, during, like, the camping thing,
16:12like, Natalie's just, like, attacking me constantly.
16:14I've literally been called so many names on this trip.
16:17You know, I know I'm a good person, I'm a giver,
16:20and I just can't keep doing it.
16:22I know I'm a good person, I'm a giver,
16:24and I just can't keep being called these names
16:27and, like, having her cut me down
16:29when I haven't done anything wrong.
16:30Has she apologized?
16:31No.
16:32I mean, obviously, she should know
16:33she shouldn't be saying those things, but...
16:34She is not. She is not.
16:36What do you think she wants from you?
16:39I mean, she wants more of me,
16:42and, like, she wants to be in my house,
16:44she wants to be with my kids,
16:46she wants, you know, to come to my job
16:48and, like, be around my employees,
16:50and, like...
16:51She's unpredictable.
16:52She's unpredictable,
16:53and I can't bring that into my home.
16:55So all these girls are, like, ganging up on all of us.
16:57I feel like one of the guys.
16:59Hey, you know what?
17:00That's what we feel like, too.
17:04I got thrown into it.
17:05Stacy was kind of getting in my face at the room.
17:07I was like, don't come at me like that.
17:09Yeah.
17:14There she is.
17:15Okay.
17:16Yeah.
17:18Wow.
17:19Oh, hey. How's it going?
17:20I was looking for you.
17:21Oh, okay.
17:23Hi, Natalie.
17:24Nice to meet you.
17:25How are you?
17:26Good to see you last night.
17:29Just having a little workout.
17:31Yeah.
17:32Join us.
17:35You good?
17:36I am.
17:37Good boy.
17:38I'm good.
17:41Natalie just, like, snuck up to us
17:43with the crazy eyes that she wakes up with.
17:46Oh, I should have known.
17:47If she wasn't right there,
17:48she'd probably be on the roof or something,
17:49listening.
17:50She's listening.
17:51She's always somewhere close by.
17:53And I'm wishing I could ride off.
17:54Like, I'm wishing the wheels worked.
17:56Like, can I just get out of here?
17:58Because this is just so weird.
18:00It's not a comfortable place to be
18:02between Natalie and Josh.
18:06Hold this.
18:07What you doing?
18:08It's probably turned up.
18:09I think you got to turn the knob.
18:12That one?
18:13Yeah.
18:14Yeah.
18:15And then the wheels.
18:16Can you help me?
18:17Yeah.
18:19Josh, help me.
18:20As far to the left as you can.
18:21That's good.
18:22Yeah.
18:23Just pedal the bike.
18:24Why are you doing so much?
18:25Pedal this way.
18:26There you go.
18:27There you go.
18:28There.
18:29Got it.
18:30Careful.
18:31Yeah, you're athletic.
18:32Yeah, I am.
18:33Oh, wow.
18:34It's cool.
18:35It's good, right?
18:36Josh ignores me.
18:37He came to build a relationship with me,
18:38and he doesn't give me, like,
18:40an hour of his time to me.
18:42Oh.
18:45Yeah.
18:46And he tells the people nice stuff about me.
18:48He body shames me.
18:50I feel like everybody's saying a little bit about everybody.
18:52You body shame me.
18:54Please, how did he body shame you?
18:56You know, like, he doesn't want to sleep with me.
18:58I never body shame him.
18:59Imagine how I feel when he body shames me.
19:01I think the body shaming was maybe a misinterpretation.
19:04He says a lot of stuff.
19:05Maybe a misinterpretation.
19:06No.
19:07It's a two-way street.
19:08If he would have said, Natalie, you're fat,
19:10then clearly that's body shaming, right?
19:12That's not really body shaming.
19:13No.
19:14He would care.
19:15He would support me.
19:16He would say good stuff about me.
19:17He goes and spread around some nasty stuff.
19:19You want to take control over our relationship.
19:22That's why you do it.
19:23I need to take control.
19:24No, no, dear.
19:25We would sink.
19:28If I let you control it, we would drown.
19:33Stop lying and cheating.
19:35It's devotion.
19:37Like I am.
19:38This is all news to me, guys,
19:39so I'm going to let you guys enjoy your workouts.
19:42I'm out of here.
19:58I don't know where Natalie is getting all of these ideas,
20:02but she's clearly distraught about what?
20:06I have no idea.
20:07She's not the one that got kicked in the balls.
20:10This is honestly probably the worst that Natalie
20:12and I have ever been.
20:14Nothing is working.
20:15Nothing I do or say helps,
20:17and so I'm to the point now where, you know,
20:22I'm about ready to give up.
20:39Hi.
20:40Hi.
20:41Hey, Natalie.
20:42Good to see you.
20:43Good to see you.
20:44Today I requested a one-on-one session with Reba
20:48because Gino and I are still standstill
20:52when it comes to our intimacy.
20:54He even refuses to be affectionate to me,
20:57and on top of that, he doesn't agree to an open marriage,
21:01so I'm very hopeful that he will be able to
21:06So, during our last session,
21:08you said that you guys haven't been intimate.
21:10No.
21:11Have you been intimate at all during your stay here?
21:14No.
21:15He wouldn't.
21:17There is no way on earth,
21:18and I feel like I'm in the wrong for expressing out loud
21:23how I feel about him,
21:25and I don't know what to do.
21:27I don't know what to do.
21:28I don't know what to do.
21:29I don't know what to do.
21:30I don't know what to do.
21:31I don't know what to do.
21:32I feel like I'm in the wrong for expressing out loud
21:35that I desire my husband,
21:38that I want to be intimate with him.
21:41He makes me feel like that is something bad.
21:45So, I hear you saying that physical intimacy
21:48is an integral, necessary part
21:51for your romantic relationships,
21:54and if sex is not the thing that connects you two,
21:57which it doesn't seem like it is, right,
21:59then what is holding this relationship together?
22:03Like, we get along.
22:04Like, we are funny together.
22:06We laugh.
22:07We joke.
22:08It's hard to explain.
22:09It's a weird dynamic that we have,
22:11but it's love.
22:13I love my husband.
22:14I cannot see myself building my life without this man,
22:18and on the other hand,
22:20I cannot see myself
22:25in a sexless marriage.
22:27Sex is, like, the detonator of all our arguments.
22:31So, in my mind, what I'm thinking is,
22:33like, if we take that pressure
22:35and we get along on other things,
22:37like, we could improve our communication,
22:40our coexistence, you know,
22:42in the same house, we could get along better,
22:44and maybe even our intimacy will come back.
22:50I hear you, like, kind of exploring open marriage
22:54and ethical non-monogamy
22:56as, like, a way...
22:57How do you say that?
22:58Ethical non-monogamy.
22:59So, it's just when you are with more than one person
23:02and everybody knows about it, right,
23:03and everybody's okay with it.
23:05Now, the issue is that when we did have this conversation,
23:08Gino mentioned that having an open marriage
23:10was a deal-breaker for him.
23:11He was very angry about it.
23:13Like, the idea that he has of open marriage is, like,
23:16you're gonna be f***ing every dude you can,
23:18and that's the idea he has of open marriage.
23:20I have tried to explain it to him.
23:22There are rules.
23:23We wouldn't do anything that, you know,
23:25like, we set the rules.
23:27Every open marriage relationship is different.
23:29So, I am a person who practices ethical non-monogamy,
23:34and I am married.
23:36What?
23:37Yes, my husband and I have been married for nine years.
23:39Nine.
23:40Yes, and we've practiced ethical non-monogamy
23:42all nine years.
23:43And you look so calm, so happy.
23:46Gino's gonna die.
23:49Gino's gonna die.
23:52The way that our, like, agreement started
23:55is not the way that it is now, right?
23:57We've gone through many iterations
23:59of what it looks like for us to be ethically non-monogamous.
24:02It's not all, like, sunshine and rainbows, right?
24:06It takes a lot of conversations.
24:09It takes really good conflict resolution skills,
24:12and it does take a lot of self-awareness
24:15and a lot of confidence
24:16and a lot of connection
24:19for something like this to happen and to succeed.
24:25Well, it could be Gino and me.
24:28It could be.
24:29It could be. Why not?
24:30Yeah.
24:31But I'm not gonna tell you to blow up your life
24:34or your marriage for ethical non-monogamy,
24:37to have an open marriage, right?
24:39This is a conversation that you and Gino need to have
24:43before you guys decide to recommit.
24:45The whole point of the open marriage
24:48is that eventually my husband
24:50will be able to satisfy my sexual needs.
24:53I don't want to have a third person in a permanent way.
24:58I want this to be temporary.
25:00But I won't cross any sexual boundaries
25:04unless Gino and I come to that agreement.
25:10I need it.
25:11Now.
25:12Now. It's now or never,
25:13because I cannot recommit
25:16if this is still, like, you know, like, what's gonna happen.
25:22Yeah.
25:37Hey, how are you guys?
25:38Hi!
25:39Good to see you.
25:40How are you?
25:41I'm glad we have some time.
25:42Yes, finally.
25:43How are you doing?
25:44Good.
25:45Good. Sit down.
25:46Let's get into it.
25:48What's happening, guys?
25:49How have you been?
25:51It's been upside down so far.
25:53Yeah?
25:54It's been upside down?
25:55I mean, for you, it's down.
25:58You've been up?
26:02After this camping trip,
26:03I feel like our marriage is not getting worse,
26:08but it's not getting better.
26:10I feel like we have a lot of different issues
26:13in our relationship.
26:14So today, we are going to do family therapy,
26:19because me and Betty, Brandon's mom,
26:23we are like nuclear war.
26:26There's a big issue in our marriage right now,
26:28and I really want to figure out how to change that.
26:31A lot of different things happening.
26:32Yes.
26:33I'm glad.
26:34Thank you so much.
26:35Of course.
26:36We're gonna use this time,
26:37and we're gonna use this time to meet with your parents.
26:39I'm excited to see them.
26:40I really am.
26:41I miss them so much.
26:42Yeah.
26:43I'm excited to meet them.
26:44You're taking a deep breath.
26:45What's going through your brain?
26:48Yeah?
26:49Mm-hmm.
26:50What are you thinking about?
26:56Really?
26:57You're shaking your head.
26:58You're like, this is true.
26:59Mm-hmm.
27:00It is true.
27:08I feel like Julia creates this competition,
27:10imagines this competition.
27:14I just feel like you're making it up.
27:16I feel like she's not competing with you.
27:27What do you mean?
27:28I can tell you who's most important in my life.
27:31My wife.
27:36No.
27:37I've always told you that.
27:38I've always told you that.
27:39In the front of your mom?
27:47I don't want to hurt my mom's feelings, you know?
27:49So I'm gonna invite them in.
27:51We'll have a family therapy session,
27:53and we'll just kind of see what comes up,
27:55and we'll talk about where the two of you are
27:57and just kind of the dynamics and the roles
27:59that's been happening with this family.
28:01Does that sound good?
28:02Yes.
28:03OK.
28:04Sure.
28:05Let's do this.
28:09Hi, Betty.
28:10Hi, Ron, Mom and Dad.
28:12Hello.
28:13How are you?
28:14Just tell me, what's it like with Mom and Dad in your world?
28:21I love having Mom and Dad in the world.
28:24And if you knew what amazing people they were,
28:27you'd understand why we're so close
28:29and why I would consider them friends.
28:32I love that there's a special...
28:34Aw, thank you, Brandon.
28:35Of course.
28:36We care about you and Julia,
28:38and we want to be there for both of you.
28:40Mm-hmm.
28:41No, I think you guys care more about only Brandon,
28:43not about me.
28:46No, we care about both of you.
28:48We do.
28:50Julia, something kind of clicked in your brain to say,
28:53I don't know, they don't treat me the way they treat Brandon.
28:56What are you thinking about?
28:58Brandon always say how horrible I am,
29:00how, like, we have, like, arguments in the home,
29:04and them only listen his side,
29:06but they never listen my side.
29:08I'm never going to have support like that,
29:10because Brandon number one.
29:14I so don't get that.
29:17We try.
29:29Oh, okay.
29:32So this is bigger than...
29:34Julia, we've always tried to make sure
29:36that you felt welcome,
29:37that you took...
29:38that we took care of you just like we do Brandon.
29:40You never try.
29:41You never be like my parents.
29:42You are not my parents.
29:43You are his parents.
29:45You say this,
29:46and then make us feel like you don't think
29:49that we care or love you.
29:50That kind of hurts.
29:52I got to tell you, that hurts.
29:53I want my parents here.
29:56I want to have my support side.
29:57I want...
29:59I have somebody who come to them and say
30:01how, what my husband doing wrong.
30:04I want, because he always come to them
30:06and say how I'm doing wrong,
30:08and I'm bad person,
30:09and I think I have a great news today.
30:13I have a good news,
30:14but I'm not sure I want to share that anymore,
30:17because it's like...
30:20Well, we would love to hear the good news.
30:22You have the good news.
30:23We'd like to hear it.
30:25I apply documents for my parents
30:29without telling anybody.
30:34I have a day for interview for my parents
30:37to come here for visit.
30:41What?
30:42Wow.
30:43Really?
30:44Wow.
30:45When did you do that?
30:46Wow, when did you do that?
30:48Two months ago, like one and a half months ago.
30:50Julia's been pushing for months
30:52that she wants her parents to come
30:54and get a visa and come to the U.S.,
30:56and I've told her repeatedly,
30:57it's a bad idea.
30:59What's on your rock?
31:00It says parents.
31:02Okay, what does that mean?
31:03I'm talking about my parents.
31:05Help me make them apply together for visa.
31:10So again, I'm finding out
31:12something else Julia's been keeping from me,
31:14and it's something I've been telling her no,
31:16and she's saying no.
31:18And it's something I've been telling her no,
31:19and she still goes and does it.
31:21It's like everything I tell her doesn't matter.
31:24She's still going to do what she wants to do.
31:29I'm just a little curious as to why
31:31I'm finding out about this right now.
31:34Because you don't want to support me.
31:36You say you don't go with me.
31:37What point am I telling you if you don't go with me?
31:41So you thought because you weren't feeling
31:43the support from him
31:44that I would just keep this from him.
31:46Yes, exactly.
31:49I'm here,
31:50and I'm trying to work this therapy with you,
31:54and you keep
31:57coming with things.
32:02And Julia, you didn't share this with him?
32:03This is pretty big news.
32:05Guys, it's not about you.
32:07It's about your son.
32:08What about me?
32:09You didn't include me in this.
32:10I tried.
32:11This is another lie.
32:13It's another lie.
32:14This is...
32:15She cheated on me.
32:16You know that?
32:17What?
32:18What are you talking about?
32:19Yeah, in Russia.
32:20Hold on.
32:21What?
32:22Yeah, you bring that up?
32:23Yeah, she cheated on me.
32:24It's just this one whole thing of lies.
32:30What is going on?
32:31Why are you walking away?
32:33I mean, that is your son.
32:35That is your son.
32:36You always blame me for every single thing.
32:40What are you talking about?
32:41Come back.
32:42You can't make things better by walking away.
32:59This is what he's doing.
33:00He always runs away.
33:05I'm frustrated because Brayden handled all of this situation like that.
33:10He just decided to run away.
33:12I'm doing everything to make this marriage succeed.
33:16Brayden, who I am, won't give up.
33:21Brayden, can I talk to you for a sec?
33:23We gotta make this as productive as possible.
33:25And I know you're going through a lot.
33:27I want something to come out of this for you.
33:29I don't know what's gonna...
33:30More lies are gonna come out of this.
33:31I don't want anymore to come out of this.
33:33Yeah.
33:34I'm tired of finding out lies.
33:37You've done so much work with her so far.
33:39I've tried, I've tried, but I'm the one who keeps getting hurt.
33:42Yeah.
33:43It's not fair.
33:44There's a lot happening here.
33:45It's not fair at all.
33:47I don't want to do this anymore.
33:49I'm tired of it.
33:53I have no idea.
33:54I have no idea what's going on.
33:55He doesn't want to talk to me.
33:56I know it hurts you.
33:58I know it hurts you.
33:59This thing about lying.
34:01We're trying to figure what is all this about.
34:03And the distrust.
34:05Yeah, this is all getting us blindsided too.
34:10This is why we come here to this therapy.
34:12And I say, open.
34:13I open, open for me.
34:15And he just shuts down every single time.
34:17But you don't hurt our son.
34:19You divide with him, please.
34:22This is like so...
34:23You're tearing us apart.
34:24Tearing us apart because there was...
34:26There was something special between you two.
34:30Please don't give up on this.
34:36Please.
34:37Hi.
35:04Hi.
35:05Yeah.
35:06Let me help you.
35:15I have to accept now that the marriage is over and move forward.
35:19It's really heartbreaking.
35:26I have to go get Avi.
35:29I don't know.
35:30I'm not sure.
35:34It's hard.
35:36I ask myself a lot.
35:38Like, was it worth it?
35:39Would I do it all over again?
35:40You know, the whole thing.
35:42And I've always said it was worth it.
35:43It was worth it.
35:45I have the most wonderful son that anyone could ever have.
35:50I just...
35:51I don't know.
35:52I guess it's a question we all ask ourselves about our life.
35:55Like, was it worth it?
35:58Only time will tell.
36:30You know, since I met you, the only thing I ever wanted for you was success, happiness.
36:35Peace.
36:36I wanted to make your life better and give you a better life.
36:38That's all I've ever wanted for you.
36:40I still want that for you now.
37:05Want a hug?
37:06Hug?
37:34I'm sad.
37:35Since Ari left, I tried my best for Avi, but it didn't work.
37:46She's not my wife anymore now.
37:49That's a very hard thing to think about.
38:05I love you.
38:23I was on the fitness bikes with Darcy.
38:26You guys good, though? It sounded like you guys got into it.
38:28Yep.
38:29You know, that's just our dynamic.
38:31We butt heads a lot.
38:32Yeah.
38:34What's going on?
38:35What's happening?
38:36Benny, what you got your bags for?
38:39It's good, it's good. How are you?
38:40So where are you going? So cute.
38:59It's done?
39:04Do you feel good about it?
39:10She left already?
39:11Yeah, she left already.
39:12She didn't say goodbye?
39:13She's already gone.
39:14Yeah, already she's gone.
39:15Oh.
39:16I mean, she hates us.
39:18Maybe she's really just upset.
39:20Yeah, it's like all her life.
39:23It breaks my heart when I hear Benny say it's officially over.
39:28And it makes me really sad that I didn't have the chance to say goodbye to Ari,
39:32to let her know that I am here for her.
39:36And I really hope that she didn't walk away thinking that we didn't like her,
39:41because that is not true.
39:44You're not going bye, are you?
39:45Yes, I'm just saying goodbye.
39:48What are you doing, my boy?
39:51You're going home?
39:54Me and Ari, just we separated.
39:56Oh, okay.
39:58I want to say goodbye and then I have to go.
40:03I'm shocked, to be honest.
40:05I think the son is going to bring both the parents together.
40:10I feel sad for the son, to be honest.
40:12I feel bad that it didn't work out for them.
40:14I know they were trying, but it's a very difficult situation.
40:18And I just want them to be happy, okay?
40:23I want both of them to be happy.
40:25Everything what I learned, all the new therapy, everything, all the tools I can use.
40:30Absolutely.
40:31You know what I'm saying?
40:33I learned from both of you guys.
40:36You learned from me?
40:38What did you learn from Gino? I'm curious.
40:42I learned from Gino's hat.
40:44Hat style, baby.
40:47Gino's style.
40:49Fedora brothers.
40:52I'm very sad to leave this result, this whole situation, like all the divorce.
40:58It's not easy for me.
40:59But here in the resort, everybody, we support each other.
41:05We build a family.
41:07Thank you so much. I love you guys. Please contact me.
41:11I love you guys.
41:14We wish you and Arian your son the best.
41:17Yeah. Bye, guys.
41:21Love you guys.
41:23Wow. So sad.
41:30Scary. Very scary.
41:32It's very real to come in here with hope and leave not together.
41:35Right. You came as a couple and look at them, how they're leaving separately.
41:40You know, I've been through divorce before and it's one of the hardest things you'll ever have to do.
41:45And Florian, I hope we never have to go through that because your life has changed forever.
41:51And they have a child involved and I know they both love the child.
41:55It's just, they'll be connected for life.
41:56It's very tough because I feel like if anybody had a lot, had the most to fight for, it was them two.
42:02Because they have a kid together.
42:04So, and if they can't work theirs out.
42:08Damn.
42:10There are some things that even therapy cannot fix.
42:14It's like an eye opener.
42:17Like, if Juno and I don't make things work, I don't want to get divorced.
42:23I love my husband, but this could be us.
42:39I really realized through this therapy that I realize that I have so much more to heal.
42:44And I shouldn't be ashamed of that because, you know, what I went through is a lot.
42:48But for now, I need to love myself and I need to stop trying so hard to fix others and to focus on others.
42:57And I need to really focus on myself.
43:07How are you, my friend?
43:10Okay, that's good.
43:19For years, I've been fighting for my son's happiness.
43:23But if you have the worst marriage, it is not good for my son, too.
43:27Like, me and her, we split.
43:29I think it's the best thing for my son.
43:34Life is short.
43:36Just find your happiness and then enjoy it.
43:40That's very important for your life.
43:43I'm not long live for a long time.
43:45Just I want to be happy for him.
43:49I do believe that when you marry someone, you commit to them.
43:54And even when it's hard, you're not supposed to give up.
43:57And I feel like I've failed.
43:59And I have to forgive myself.
44:05I have to forgive myself.
44:12I do deserve happiness.
44:14And that's only going to come from inside myself.
44:18I know.
44:28Let's have a fun night.
44:30Next time on 90 Day, The Last Resort.
44:33Well, we have the most beautiful girls in this van.
44:36Wow!
44:38It's just been really hard for me to give up on Natalie.
44:42I'm hoping that we can try some new things and see what happens.
44:49I'm here just actually to discuss the parameters in our own open marriage.
44:56That's cheating.
44:58And I don't want a cheater in my life.
45:00Enjoy your life. Have a good one.
45:02Bye.
45:04How the heck proposing ethical, non-monogamous marriage is cheating?
45:10What should I do now? I don't f***ing know.
45:13I don't know what to do. I don't know.
45:15You went out after hours with Darcy and Georgie.
45:19There was two hot blonde chicks, okay, that Darcy saw you leave the club with.
45:23The clues are looking like he's cheating.
45:25And I'm not a fool.
45:27Because I will leave.
45:29Are you f***ing with a woman behind my back?
45:31One second, sis.
45:33I don't need this anymore.
45:35Sis.