How to understand and deal with anxiety of women?
Hey Stefan
Hope all is well
Have you and your daughter been on any adventures?
Father daughter memories?
What’s something you’d like to experience with your family while you’re here in this life together ?
Are you allowed in New Zealand?!
It would be nice to make a series on the Examination of the major European philosophers and philosophic movements of the 17th and 18th centuries. Particular attention paid to the transition out of the medieval period into the Age of Enlightenment.
Happy with the bitcoin price?
Why does no one talk about what happened to Rhodesia?
Do you still support fluoridation given it is now a known neurotoxin?
If you still experience pain thinking about a toxic relationship you walked away from, does this mean you haven’t processed the morality properly? I’m still thinking about my sister that I don’t speak to anymore. My therapist said that it will always be a “pain point.” What are your thoughts? (asking again- apologies if you answered in a previous stream and I missed it.)
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Hey Stefan
Hope all is well
Have you and your daughter been on any adventures?
Father daughter memories?
What’s something you’d like to experience with your family while you’re here in this life together ?
Are you allowed in New Zealand?!
It would be nice to make a series on the Examination of the major European philosophers and philosophic movements of the 17th and 18th centuries. Particular attention paid to the transition out of the medieval period into the Age of Enlightenment.
Happy with the bitcoin price?
Why does no one talk about what happened to Rhodesia?
Do you still support fluoridation given it is now a known neurotoxin?
If you still experience pain thinking about a toxic relationship you walked away from, does this mean you haven’t processed the morality properly? I’m still thinking about my sister that I don’t speak to anymore. My therapist said that it will always be a “pain point.” What are your thoughts? (asking again- apologies if you answered in a previous stream and I missed it.)
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00:00Hey there everybody, it's Stefan Molyneux for Freedomain.com, hope you're doing well.
00:05So, couple questions here from freedomain.locals.com, great community, you should join.
00:11Hi Stef, long time listener. I have a curious question about free will.
00:15I think you probably heard this to some degree, but my question very briefly is as follows.
00:19If we had a supercomputer that could run physics perfectly, if somehow we could do that,
00:23and then also map every atom, quark, and their spins etc. perfectly,
00:28would we be then able to load the universe in this computer
00:33and at a faster speed scrub ahead and predict the future?
00:37Obviously a complete hypothetical, which is next to useless, but perhaps a fun thought experiment.
00:42I think if you extrapolate the basics I have laid out, and you probably will,
00:46then that would be a pretty good argument for a determinism.
00:49I myself prefer free will because it leads to the onus of responsibility on each actor,
00:53but if we had such a system in such a hypothetical computer, it would be amusing to see the results,
00:59if at least for comparison for the actual outcome.
01:02Perhaps you could use it to solve for x, in this case being free will,
01:05or it would predict the future perfectly.
01:08Yeah, I mean, this is dangerous shit to mess around with.
01:11Honestly, this is really, oh, if we load it, first of all you can't,
01:15obviously I know you know it's a thought experiment that's mostly nonsense,
01:17but you couldn't possibly load the entire universe into a supercomputer.
01:21It's not possible.
01:23Because, I mean, just look at the speed of light, right?
01:26So the universe is, you know, billions of light years across,
01:30so you couldn't get the information about every quark in the universe
01:33because you couldn't possibly travel fast enough to get every piece of information in the universe.
01:38So what you're talking about is a complete and total impossibility.
01:42It's not even good as a thought experiment, because a thought experiment is impossible.
01:47It's the equivalent of saying, okay, so how would math look if 2 and 2 made 5, right?
01:54I mean, it wouldn't, it's just this massive contradiction.
01:58You couldn't possibly load up every quark and atom into a supercomputer.
02:03It's not possible.
02:04And of course, the supercomputer would be part of that whole experiment.
02:09So yeah, that's not a thing at all.
02:12But it's a very dangerous mental exercise, right?
02:16It's sort of like having the mental exercise that says, okay, let's say I really wanted to kill people,
02:23and I wanted to be a serial killer, and you just dwelled upon that sort of month after month,
02:31and you fantasized about it, and you fetishized it, and so on.
02:34Thought experiments can rewire the brain, for good or for ill, right?
02:39I mean, you could have a thought experiment saying,
02:41what if I want to be the greatest philosopher that has ever lived, whatever, right?
02:45And you would do that to further advance philosophy rather than for reasons of vanity,
02:50at least we would hope that to be the case.
02:52So thought experiments are very powerful.
02:56They are seductive.
02:58They are spells that you cast to determine your path in the future.
03:02So if you've been toying around with the thought experiment that you are a robot with no free will,
03:08and I know you prefer free will, but frankly, to hell with what you prefer.
03:11Philosophy isn't about what you prefer.
03:13That's a buffet.
03:15Philosophy is not about what you prefer.
03:17Philosophy is about what is and what is right.
03:20About what is and what is right.
03:23Do not fuck around with mental exercises that make you a robot.
03:28If you don't think that's going to have an effect on your life, and your motivation,
03:32and your sense of self, you are tragically mistaken.
03:35Do not fuck around with thought experiments that you're a robot,
03:39or that everyone's a robot, or that it's all machinery.
03:42That you are a mere aggregate of atoms and quarks and bullshit.
03:48Seriously, do not fuck around.
03:50Don't fuck around with thinking that you might be a serial killer,
03:53or what if you were.
03:55This stuff has a deep effect on you.
03:57You would look at an experiment like that,
04:00well, what if I'm just a machine, and what if the woman I love is just a machine,
04:03and what if love is just code, and just a machinery,
04:06and everything dissolves into vertical streams of green kanji matrix style.
04:12I can't overemphasize this enough.
04:14I really can't.
04:16Do not fuck around with thought experiments that completely disassemble your humanity,
04:24your virtue, your will, your choice, your meaning, your identity.
04:29Do not.
04:31You'd be better off playing with flamethrowers at a gas station
04:36than screwing around with these kinds of thought experiments.
04:40Because you are programming yourself that all you're doing is programming.
04:47Now, of course, I get that you're going to say,
04:49no, no, no, it was just a thought in passing.
04:51It's like, no, no, okay, okay, first of all, you wrote it down.
04:54Secondly, you sent it to me with the goal of me amplifying it,
04:57which I am doing, but in a way that may be a little different from what you were thinking.
05:01So you can't just say it was just a mere whim in passing, right?
05:05You know, like, I guess when I was younger I had a thought,
05:08I'm sure I had a thought like, oh, wouldn't it be cool, I saw a ballet,
05:12wouldn't it be cool to be a ballet dancer, right?
05:14So I had that thought in passing.
05:16But I didn't write to an expert on ballet saying, okay,
05:19let's play out this theoretical where I become a ballet dancer, right?
05:23Because then I'm taking it more seriously, right?
05:26I'm taking it more seriously.
05:28Do not, this is not amusing, this is not fun, this is not just a whim,
05:33this is not just an innocent thought experiment.
05:36You are possessed by a demonic kind of machinery
05:42that is trying to turn you into nothing more than an aggregate of atoms.
05:48And seriously, I'm not kidding about this.
05:51I know this sounds bizarre, maybe it seems like an overreaction to you,
05:54I really don't care. It is what it is.
05:57Do not fuck around with this stuff.
05:59People, and this is sort of from the early days of Free Domain, right?
06:03This is a well-earned battle scar from the early days of Free Domain.
06:06I'm not kidding about this.
06:08This is a well-earned battle scar from the early days.
06:10We had wave after wave on the old message board.
06:14We had wave after wave of attacks from fairly demonic determinists
06:19attempting to strip us of our morals, love, virtue, and humanity.
06:27It is an assault, in general, from sociopaths to strip you of your humanity
06:34and drive from you your capacity for love and morals and virtue
06:39so that you're easier to exploit.
06:41I'm not putting you in this category, just to be clear,
06:44because I get that you're just toying with this a little bit.
06:47But toying with this stuff, it's like Russian roulette.
06:51It's just a game. Well, it's a game that can destroy you.
06:54Don't fuck with ayahuasca. Don't fuck with mysticism.
06:59Don't fuck with determinism. Don't play with it.
07:01Don't mess around with it. Don't, because it will get in there
07:06and it will do its dismal, dirty work on you.
07:09And you'll find yourself just a little bit less motivated,
07:13just a little bit more, well, what if we had this thought experiment
07:16and we were all just machines and the future was perfectly predictable
07:18and free will is an illusion? What if, what if, what if, what if, what if?
07:21Boom! You get eaten alive and turned into a nothing burger
07:27of your own self-slaughtered demise.
07:31Do not, I know, I really need to bring you guys up short.
07:35We've toyed with this stuff, but I remember toying with this stuff
07:39and I'm just being emphatic because I don't want you to take another step.
07:42Like if you said, well, you know, just do a little bit of heroin.
07:47It's like, no, no, don't do it at all.
07:49Don't toy with it. Don't do it at all. Don't get anywhere close.
07:53Don't be in this world or this realm at all.
07:57Do not fuck with determinism. It will hollow you out.
08:03And it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, right?
08:05So determinism, well, you know, we're just quarks and atoms
08:08and machinery and physics and nothing, right?
08:11There's nothing but atoms in space, right?
08:15So you'll find yourself a little less motivated.
08:18And you say, well, I guess I'm a little less motivated.
08:21You know, I guess I'm behaving more like matter.
08:24Matter is not motivated, right?
08:26So then you won't ask that girl out, right?
08:29And then you'll feel a stab at disappointment at not having asked that girl out.
08:33And then you'll say, well, but, you know, maybe, I mean, come on,
08:36maybe it's all just machinery. Maybe it's all just atoms and void, right?
08:40Maybe it's just physics. Maybe it was physics that I didn't ask that girl out.
08:43Maybe that's just the way that the universe is unrolling,
08:46like a giant boulder smashing down the side of a hill, right?
08:50Where it lands is not moral.
08:52So then you find yourself with a little less motivation,
08:55a little less energy, a little less, and you start to muse with it more.
08:58And because you've toyed with the idea of turning into a machine,
09:02you turn into a machine.
09:05And then because you start to abandon your humanity
09:08and your free will and your virtue, you start to become cynical.
09:12And then you start to say, well, all of those people who believe in virtue,
09:15they're just programmed to feel that way. It's not real.
09:18They haven't earned anything.
09:20It's all just atoms, space, physics, void, and inertia.
09:27They didn't earn it. They didn't make any choices.
09:31The rich people, it's just where the atoms happen to aggregate.
09:35The poor people, that's just where the atoms happen to not aggregate.
09:39They become bitter, cynical, negative, emptied, hollowed out.
09:43And determinism gives you excuses.
09:45And when you have excuses, you behave worse.
09:47And when you behave worse, you need more excuses,
09:49which means that you can behave worse, which means you need more excuses.
09:52And you get hollowed out.
09:55It's a lot easier to stop this at the beginning than later on.
09:59Like every addiction, right?
10:02I find it pretty easy to not do heroin because I've never done drugs.
10:06Just don't start.
10:08So I'm telling you, man, don't go down this road.
10:10Don't go down this road.
10:17All right, let's see here.
10:19This is a long one.
10:21I just grab him and print him out.
10:23That's too long.
10:25Yeah, okay, so I'm not going to do that one.
10:27How to understand and deal with the anxiety of women.
10:30Well, there's nothing wrong with women, and there's nothing wrong with men.
10:34There's nothing wrong with women.
10:36There's nothing wrong with men.
10:38If you have a male and a female athlete
10:42who are twice as good as their closest competitors,
10:46like they get the gold and they're twice as good as those who get the silver,
10:50and they are the champion athletes,
10:53and not just by a little bit, right?
10:56Like that old Seinfeld joke about the 100-meter dash, it's so close
10:59that if a guy had a pimple on his nose, he would have won.
11:03It's like they're clear winners, right?
11:05Like the best athlete in human history is Wayne Gretzky
11:08because he's the guy who is further ahead of his closest competitor.
11:12He's the furthest ahead to his closest competitor in terms of goals scored and all.
11:16So, if you have two athletes who are ridiculously better,
11:23a male and a female athlete, ridiculously better than everyone else,
11:26would you criticize them?
11:28Would you say, oh, you should have done this, you should have done that?
11:31There's something fundamentally wrong with you.
11:33There's something fundamentally wrong with your exercise.
11:36There's something fundamentally wrong with your training.
11:38Like, it's bad, man, it's bad.
11:40Would you say that?
11:41Well, of course not, because they are the very best athletes around.
11:47Now, men and women, throughout our evolution,
11:51men and women have been able to achieve the human brain,
11:58which is the greatest glory in the universe.
12:01We have wrestled our brains from single-celled organisms
12:05all the way through trilobites, fish, lizards, mammals, apes,
12:13all the way up to the crowning glory of our existence,
12:15which is the human brain that we have.
12:18We have won.
12:20Not just a little bit.
12:22We're not just slightly smarter than the animals.
12:24We are completely different, right?
12:26So we have done, as males and females,
12:31we have done the greatest, the best.
12:34We have won.
12:35So decisively, it's ridiculous.
12:37So there's nothing wrong with men, and there's nothing wrong with women.
12:40In fact, there's everything to praise about men
12:42and everything to praise about women,
12:44because, again, we have created the human brain,
12:47which is absolutely incredible,
12:49a feat that has no parallel in any kind of history
12:55and no parallel in any other species, right?
12:58So don't think of women as anxious.
13:01We've all finely tuned.
13:03We've all been finely tuned as a species, males and females.
13:06We've all been finely tuned to create and produce
13:10the greatest glory in the universe, the human brain.
13:13So in order for us to have this great and glorious human brain,
13:18it takes a little over 20 years for women,
13:21and it takes about 25 years for men to reach brain maturity.
13:26And the way that we end up with this incredibly complex brain
13:31is, for the simple reason, that we take forever to grow it, right?
13:36We are born ridiculously helpless, right?
13:39It depends on the ethnicity, but it takes about a year to walk, right?
13:45It takes 12 years, 11, 12 years to start sexual maturity,
13:49and it takes double that to finish growing your brain, right?
13:53So the only way that we have our incredible brains
13:58is because we are incredibly slow to develop,
14:01and because we are incredibly slow to develop,
14:03we need a massive amount of protection when we're young, right?
14:07As babies, as toddlers, we need massive amounts of protection.
14:11And what that means is that women, mothers, have to worry like crazy about us
14:17because we are tiny little tasty to predators death magnets
14:21when we are babies and toddlers and young, right?
14:24So men have to be incredibly productive
14:26because children produce little to no economic value
14:30for a long, long, long, long time, and we are, as I said,
14:34you've probably seen these videos of kids in a zoo
14:37with a glass wall between them and the lions,
14:39and the lions are trying to pounce on them and eat them, right?
14:41So we are tasty little death nuggets
14:44when we are babies and toddlers and young.
14:47So, of course, women are anxious
14:50because we are born so ridiculously helpless
14:53that they need to be very worried about our survival.
14:56So it's not anxiety. I mean, it's how you frame it, right?
14:59Oh, women are just anxious. It's like, no.
15:01And I say this, of course, having been a stay-at-home father and so on, right?
15:04So I'm aware, probably more than most men,
15:07of the infinite fragility of young life.
15:12So you can call it anxiety. I'd simply call it protection, right?
15:17What are we supposed to do?
15:19How are we supposed to manage or handle women's desire to protect their young?
15:22It's like, well, you're not supposed to manage or handle or minimize it, right?
15:25You're supposed to respect it as that which keeps us alive.
15:29So understand and deal with the anxiety of women.
15:32Stop calling it anxiety and start calling it by what it properly is,
15:35which is a desire for their offspring, including you,
15:38including me, to not die.
15:42All right. Hey, Steph. Hope all is well.
15:44Have you and your daughter been on any adventures?
15:46Father-daughter memories.
15:47What's something you'd like to experience with your family
15:49while you're here in this life together?
15:51Well, I mean, travel was nice. We used to do a lot of travel.
15:54Izzy came with me on a lot of travel.
15:56I remember, you know, it's a fantastic memory for me
16:00that when I was in Australia in 2018, yeah, like six years ago now.
16:07So when I was in Australia, I had, of course, was on this book tour.
16:11And after I gave my speech, I met and chatted with people.
16:15And my daughter, who was obviously quite young back then, what was she?
16:20Nine? Yeah, nine years old.
16:22My daughter was sitting next to me.
16:23I would sign the book and then she would sign the book.
16:25I assume those will be worth quite something someday
16:28because they're very rare, right?
16:29And so the fact that my daughter was sitting next to me at the signing table,
16:34signing books, because, you know, we'd done some shows together at that point.
16:37And the fact that she was there signing books with me was absolutely fantastic.
16:41We had great and exciting times.
16:43We went, of course, to Poland together and had lots of great trips
16:46where we met a lot of people and did a lot of very cool things.
16:50So, yeah, I think travel was very nice.
16:53Travel, of course, has been, was sort of axed during COVID.
16:58And so now she has, you know, friends and homeschooling
17:04and all kinds of cool things she wants to do with people.
17:07And while I know she loves this to death, being as she is almost 16 years old,
17:13I'm pretty sure that she doesn't view traveling with her mid to late 50s parents
17:19as the coolest thing known to man or God.
17:21So I'm looking forward to getting back into that later.
17:24But right now we are, you know, fairly stuck, stuck at home.
17:28I mean, it's not a bad thing, quite frankly.
17:30So, yeah, we've done some very cool things.
17:32We've done treetop trekking, whitewater rafting.
17:35She is a fantastic, if not overly uncautious skier.
17:40We've done some great, great skiing together.
17:43We've done fantastic tobogganing.
17:46We've built snow forts and told stories inside the snow forts.
17:51And, gee, what else?
17:53We've done mountain biking, some very, very extensive, crazy hikes.
18:00And we have swum with some fairly large and occasionally alarming sea life
18:08and done body surfing together.
18:10And, yeah, we've had a huge amount of fun, and she is an absolute blast.
18:15So, yes, grab your experiences while you can.
18:19I've always felt it's a good thing to trade passing money for permanent memories.
18:23All right.
18:24Are you allowed in New Zealand?
18:25Yeah.
18:26I mean, there's the theoretical rights.
18:29Yeah, of course.
18:30I mean, I got more vetting than, you know, criminal rappers when going to New Zealand.
18:36And, oh, you were a criminal.
18:39Get notes from the police.
18:40It was all kind of, you know, just hysterical nonsense and so on.
18:44But I would say that there's the theoretical rights that you have.
18:50You know, like I have the theoretical right to give speeches, right,
18:56because it's legal for me to give speeches.
18:58However, the practical right is the police willing to act against those who do bomb and death threats, right,
19:05and so on, right?
19:07And so if the police aren't willing to act against those who, you know,
19:12give you bomb and death threats for wanting to give a speech,
19:14if the police aren't willing to act against those people and provide protection,
19:17then you don't actually have a practical right.
19:20In fact, it's happened on a number of times where the police have really failed to intervene in situations of,
19:26I would assume, fairly terroristic levels of aggression.
19:29And so, you know, then the venues pull out and so on.
19:31That kind of stuff.
19:33So this is why, you know, when people ask me about human rights, it's like, well, you don't have anything you can't manage and enforce, right?
19:40So, yeah, I'm allowed, but there's no particular practical way to get speeches if the police...
19:45And, of course, the reason why that happens is that the media cheers,
19:48generally cheers on violence and then is shocked when there's violence.
19:52You know, it's a normal thing.
19:53All right.
19:54So somebody says,
19:55it would be nice to make a series on the examination of the major European philosophers
19:59and philosophic movements of the 17th and 18th centuries,
20:02particular attention paid to the transition out of the medieval period into the age of enlightenment.
20:06Right.
20:07So I have a 22-part History of Philosophers series that's available for donors at
20:13subscribestore.com slash freedomain or at freedomain.locals.com.
20:19Are you happy with the Bitcoin price?
20:20Well, sure.
20:21Absolutely.
20:22Why does no one want to talk about what happened to Rhodesia?
20:24I think the answer is pretty obvious to that one.
20:27Do you still support fluoridation, given it is now a known neurotoxin?
20:32You know, it's funny.
20:33I've obviously been doing this for close to 20 years.
20:35I can't remember everything I've said, and no one can except perhaps AI.
20:39So when people say, do you still support fluoridation?
20:42Did I ever support fluoridation?
20:45Did I ever say that fluoridation is a massive positive?
20:48And I know that for sure, because I'm a biochemist and a medical expert.
20:52Of course, I'm none of those things.
20:54Right.
20:55So people say stuff.
20:57And in general, when people ascribe stuff to me that I don't remember, I don't believe them.
21:01Right.
21:02So the idea and the idea that I would want the government to do any of this kind of stuff is just ridiculous.
21:06Right.
21:07All right.
21:08Somebody asks, what is your best advice on how to talk to small children about de-food grandparents and aunts?
21:14My kids, two and four, have had a relationship with my parents and my sister before I finally quit contact with them this year after they tried to actively ruin my marriage.
21:22Yeah, I think I did this one.
21:23But so basically, I would say, just be honest, age appropriate and honest.
21:29Right.
21:30That you, unfortunately, you let bad people in your life.
21:32You tried to talk to them about behaving better.
21:34They decided not to.
21:35And right.
21:36That's bad.
21:37Right.
21:38All right.
21:39Dear Steph, I am currently at a bar on a late Saturday night.
21:42I just ordered a drink.
21:43And the bartender said to me after I ordered beer, he said, oh, lovely.
21:47It was strange to hear this, but also flattering to hear a young female bartender referred to me as lovely.
21:51It made me believe that this young bartender was probably flirting with me.
21:54She works for tips.
21:55So be skeptical.
21:56Right.
21:57I found the bartender using the word lovely towards me.
21:59Whilst the term lovely is often used by older women to refer to younger people.
22:02This woman was approximately in her early 20s, about 10 years younger than me.
22:06She looked reasonably attractive.
22:07Blonde hair.
22:08Bright blue eyes.
22:09But she was also a little chubby.
22:10So I wouldn't date her, to be frank.
22:12But my question still stands.
22:13If a younger woman says to a man, is that all lovely?
22:17I thought it was lovey.
22:18Anyway.
22:19Would she say that to a man she's not attracted to?
22:21Would you say it is flirting to use the term, is that all lovey?
22:24Lovely.
22:25I've been to my local bar for the last 10 years, never recall.
22:27Okay.
22:28I think we get it.
22:29So yeah.
22:30So she's a little bit chubby.
22:33And so you won't date her.
22:34Okay.
22:35I think that's ridiculous.
22:36Honestly, I think it's just a little bit like 10, 15 pounds overweight.
22:39So date her and, you know, invite her to the gym and, you know, be a leader, be a coach,
22:43whatever.
22:44Right.
22:45So yeah.
22:46So, you know, just for women, this is sort of hard for women to understand.
22:50As women, you literally would not believe how a few compliments men get.
22:57Like it's mad, absolutely mad.
23:00I remember when I was in a play in high school, I was in our town by Thornton Wilder.
23:06And there was this woman, a girl, I guess, when we were still in high school.
23:11And we went to the cast party afterwards and she got really drunk and I walked her home
23:18and she was kind of hanging off me.
23:19And she's like, Mr. Van, you're absolutely gorgeous, but you flirt with everyone.
23:23Right.
23:24And honestly, I still remember this like 40 years later.
23:27Right.
23:28That that was a bit of praise.
23:30Right.
23:31You know, there's this old thing that the woman is rolling their eyes because they get
23:34called pretty five times a day.
23:36But one man has to remember 10 years ago where a woman who wasn't his mother called him
23:40handsome or said he had a nice smile.
23:42We have to get by on so little.
23:45It's ridiculous.
23:46Right.
23:47So people are saying, well, why is it that women aren't approaching aren't being approached
23:51by men anymore?
23:52Right.
23:53Men don't approach women.
23:54Well, that's because women have gotten off.
23:55A lot of women have gotten all kinds of cocky and arrogant and unpleasant saying they don't
23:59need men.
24:00Right.
24:01So if you.
24:02Right.
24:03If you say if you have a sign on your door saying no salesman, right, no salespeople,
24:12then salespeople aren't going to knock on your door.
24:15Right.
24:16So if you say you don't need people, you don't want people, then they won't be around.
24:22Right.
24:23If you go to a store and the sales clerk says, can I help you with anything?
24:27And you say, no, I'm just browsing.
24:28Does she then or he then come up and aggressively try and sell you a bunch of stuff?
24:32Well, no, because you just told them I don't want to be pushed.
24:35I don't want any sales pitches.
24:37Right.
24:38If you go to a car dealership and they say, can I help you with anything in particular?
24:41You say, no, I'm just just researching some prices.
24:43They're not going to come in and say, oh, you should buy this.
24:45And here's the packages.
24:46And here's the options.
24:47And you should get a sunroof.
24:48Right.
24:49So if you tell me, I don't know why it's this confusing for for women.
24:52Right.
24:53But if you keep telling men that you don't need them and don't want them, then men will
24:56stop approaching you.
24:57Right.
24:58Because if a woman, if women as a whole say we don't need men, men are toxic, men are
25:02negative, then men will stop approaching them because we don't want to be rude and pushy.
25:07Men are actually most men.
25:08I mean, small percentage of men who are kind of rude and mean.
25:12But most men are very sort of thoughtful and considerate and all of that.
25:17And so if all they see and it's not I mean, of course, not all women say we don't need
25:22men, but it's not so much what the extremists say.
25:26It's what it's what everybody else doesn't disagree with.
25:30Right.
25:31So there's a number of women and you can see these, you know, do women need men and all
25:35of these loud, barely clad women out at nightclubs are like, we don't need men.
25:41Men are useless.
25:42Men are scum.
25:43Okay.
25:44And so it's, I mean, of course, those are very disturbed women and so on.
25:47But there isn't a, an associated movement of women saying, don't listen to those, those
25:54terrible women.
25:55We absolutely need men.
25:56Men are the best part of our lives.
25:58And we, we love men and we, we love husbands and fathers and grandfathers and firemen and
26:04policemen.
26:05Right.
26:06But there's just, this is why it's important to push back on general movements that you
26:11don't agree with.
26:12Right.
26:13Because otherwise the extremists dominate the conversation if the moderates aren't pushing
26:17back hard.
26:18Right.
26:19So it's just one of these, one of these kind of funny things.
26:23So yeah, so men have to get by on very little praise.
26:26So if a woman is nice to you, maybe she is attracted to you, but most likely she works
26:34for tips.
26:35Right.
26:36Most likely she works for tips.
26:37And she has found that if she is, calls a man her lovely, then she gets an extra hundred
26:44bucks a day.
26:45Right.
26:46That would be, that would be my guess.
26:48So I would not, I mean, if it's funny because you say, do you think it's appropriate to
26:55ask her out?
26:56And then you say, well, I wouldn't date her because she's overweight.
26:59So it's, it's definitely flirty to use the word lovely.
27:02But when tips are involved, it's not, it's not usually flirty.
27:07Right.
27:08You have to go with more than that.
27:09Right.
27:10If she comes over and chats with you, asks you more about yourself, women shoot their
27:14shot by asking you questions about yourself.
27:19A lot of men, I guess, don't really sort of understand that at all.
27:22I wouldn't try to find her after work or where she is on her lunch break or anything like
27:26that, but it doesn't really matter because you said she's chubby, so you're not going
27:29to ask her out.
27:30So I don't know what the point is.
27:31All right.
27:32Dear Steph, are nightclubs and bars in Canada known as a place where people meet, but the
27:36only people who meet there are generally trashy people?
27:38I ask because I'm currently in a bar trying to find a girlfriend and I'm sitting here
27:42alone because I didn't feel the need to bring male friends with me.
27:44And to be frank, I don't have any male friends.
27:46Not that that bothers me because I would just use male friends as a wing man to meet women.
27:50Anyway, I don't live in Canada anyway.
27:52I live in the continent of Australia.
27:53Anyway, I'm listening.
27:54Okay.
27:55I don't know what this means.
27:57So I wouldn't necessarily focus on meeting girls in bars because you're probably just
28:04going to meet social alcoholics.
28:05I'm a big one for coffee shops, libraries.
28:08I would chat with women at the gym and I started a couple of women at the gym.
28:12Went okay, but we didn't have that much in common.
28:14So I would not really focus on bars.
28:18It's too loud and women are there with friends.
28:20And if you're there alone, you know, women will judge you by the company you keep.
28:25And if you're there alone, I think it might be considered a bit of an oddball scenario.
28:30What do you think about Saylor starting a fund that buys so much Bitcoin?
28:33If you've researched it, is it a good thing or a bad thing?
28:35Well, if he keeps his word, as far as I understand it, to destroy his keys when he dies,
28:38then that's going to really add to the value of everyone else's Bitcoin.
28:42I don't know what you mean by a good thing or a bad thing.
28:45I don't know what you mean by a good thing.
28:46If it's voluntary, I don't care.
28:48If it's voluntary, I don't care if it's a good thing or a bad thing.
28:51I'm not sure.
28:52It's certainly not immoral for him to buy as much Bitcoin as he wants.
28:55And he is a very good communicator about Bitcoin, like one of the best around.
29:00So the fact that he's invested in Bitcoin and talking about Bitcoin, it's a good thing.
29:04Hi, Steph.
29:05What are your thoughts on the future of BRICS?
29:07Thanks.
29:08I don't really do politics anymore.
29:10So this is Brazil, Russia, India, China, Egypt, Iran, South Africa, UAE, Ethiopia.
29:20That's one I always forget.
29:21So, yeah, I don't really do politics.
29:24So, all right.
29:27Swiss Army Knives.
29:28I think I did this one on a live stream.
29:31If you still experience pain thinking about a toxic relationship you walked away from,
29:34does this mean you haven't processed the morality properly?
29:38I'm still thinking about my sister that I don't speak to anymore.
29:41My therapist said that it will always be a pain point.
29:43What are your thoughts?
29:44Asking again.
29:45Apologize if you answered in a previous stream and I missed it.
29:48I would say that occasionally I think about past relationships with a fairly mild, like
29:54maybe a 1 to 2 out of 10 mild level of sort of frustration and annoyance.
29:59So usually it's because you just can't get the truth about what happened, right?
30:05So if you have a relationship where the person was not fundamentally honest about their thoughts,
30:11desires, preferences and motivations or their history, then the relationship is going to
30:16go south or weird or be a problem and it won't be because of anything you did
30:21and it won't be because of anything that you understand, right?
30:25That the relationship would go south or go weird or have a problem because you just didn't have the facts, right?
30:33So, I mean, one example.
30:34This is theoretical.
30:35It's not one that I've experienced.
30:36But one example would be if the woman had been sexually abused as a child and never told you that,
30:42then you're going to have all kinds of odd manifestations of strange behaviors
30:46and you're not going to have sort of the key or the knowledge that holds it together and has it make sense.
30:52So then you might sort of go back and forth over and over these kinds of relationships
30:59because you don't know what is causing the strange or bizarre behavior.
31:05And so because you don't know what is causing strange or bizarre behavior,
31:10then what will happen is you will keep going over and over in your mind.
31:15And the problem is, of course, that you'll never know.
31:20You'll never know.
31:21Because if somebody didn't tell you in the relationship, it may be because they don't know.
31:25It might be blocked in their own consciousness.
31:27It may be inaccessible to them or they may have sort of made a kind of minor vow to never talk about it themselves.
31:34So you'll never know.
31:35You'll never know.
31:37I'm thinking of one relationship where I don't know why the person acts so bizarrely
31:42and I'll never know because I knew this person for many years.
31:45And they may not know.
31:47They may have no memory.
31:49It may come to them later in life.
31:51But if they didn't tell you when you're in the relationship with them,
31:56they sure as heck aren't going to tell you afterwards.
31:59And especially if it's been something which has been a dominant submissive relationship,
32:02in other words, if the other person is considered to be an authority,
32:05then they'll really never tell you the truth about what was going on for them.
32:09So it is, there's just a certain amount of mental discipline that is necessary
32:15when you've had relationships where you don't, you just can't figure things out.
32:20Like why would they act in this way?
32:22Why would they not be more sensible?
32:24Why would they act in this sort of very odd manner, right?
32:28Well, you'll never know.
32:31You'll never know because either they don't know or they won't tell you.
32:35And these are functionally the same thing.
32:38Not knowing and not telling you, you have an equal level of access to the information.
32:43So when people do act in a bizarre fashion, it's troubling
32:48because we want to make sure we don't get in that situation again.
32:51So mostly it's not a pain point or anything.
32:54It's just that you are trying to figure something out
32:58while missing an absolutely key piece of information.
33:02And then that's like trying to figure out hieroglyphics without the Rosetta Stone.
33:06So if you are trying to figure out why someone is acting a certain way
33:11and you are lacking and you will never have the information that explains it,
33:16well, then you'll continually go back to try and figure something out.
33:21But it's impossible to figure it out.
33:23If people don't give you information about why they behave the way they behave,
33:26you're going to have to have the mental discipline to say,
33:29I don't know why they behave that way, I'm sure there's a reason,
33:32but I'll never know, so I have to stop thinking about it.
33:35Somebody says, I've watched several documentaries on extreme sports,
33:38athletes, free solo climbing, deep-free diving, big-wave surfing, etc.,
33:43and I noticed that the people are all quite similar.
33:46They just happen to be doing different sports.
33:48They're remarkably driven to push their limits,
33:50so much so that they put themselves in tremendous danger.
33:52Many die quite young.
33:54It has to happen to someone for them to want to pursue these massive risks
33:57for little more than self-satisfaction.
33:59They win no monetary awards and are relatively obscure for exception.
34:02Athletes, it seems like they are using the adrenaline they get from their sports
34:06in the same way drug addicts use substances to feel better.
34:10Yes, usually it comes from an inner parental voice telling them to punish themselves,
34:15because it's not just the sports themselves,
34:17it's all the training and preparation and denial of food.
34:20So people with very strong wills are often motivated by an urge to self-destruction.
34:27The other thing, too, is that extreme sports can be kind of a cult,
34:33in that everyone who gets in has sort of an immediate companionship.
34:37They have people they can talk about that's kind of exclusive to them and so on.
34:41Some people are just born hardwired that they just need massive amounts of stimulation,
34:46but I think for a lot of people it is...
34:49I always sort of think about this patient of Carl Gustav Jung's, a psychologist,
34:56and the guy was having dreams about climbing, like mountain climbing,
35:01and he said, I'd keep climbing and I'd climb up and up and up into the clouds,
35:04and Jung said, look, you have to stop mountain climbing, you have a death wish.
35:08And the guy wouldn't stop mountain climbing and then fell to his death.
35:11So, yeah, there's a lot of courage is just a death wish, right?
35:15Like I was talking about this with my daughter when we did the Gladiator 2 review,
35:18that, you know, the guys who run into blistering machine gun fire, oh, they're so brave,
35:22and it's like, well, maybe, but I would generally ascribe it more to they want to kill themselves.
35:27So, I mean, a friend of mine who was very much into extreme mountain biking
35:32when I was younger ended up dying in a terrible crash.
35:36All right, would you consider doing a Truth About Oprah Winfrey presentation?
35:39No, not really.
35:41The Molyneux treatment could really help pick sense...
35:43Oh, okay, I asked this question the other day.
35:45Do you have an opinion on outsourcing?
35:47Large companies sending jobs to third world countries and paying pennies on the dollar.
35:50It's part of the free market and capitalism,
35:52and I wonder if it could just be considered predatory or just supply and demand.
35:56The consumer loses out on jobs but benefits on cheaper goods and services,
35:59and the third world still is paid.
36:01And the third world, although paid a low wage, is still a benefit from better.
36:05So, the issue with outsourcing is government education, right?
36:10The issue with outsourcing is government.
36:12Like, why is it that American workers or Canadian workers or British workers,
36:16why is it that they can't compete with people who have no education
36:21when they've been educated for 12 years?
36:23So, after you're educated for 12 years,
36:25you should be easily able to outcompete people doing stuff for ridiculously cheap overseas, right?
36:33I mean, this is one of the massive issues I have with government education
36:36is how it does not add, in fact, it subtracts to people's economic value,
36:43economic market value, right?
36:45So, in a free market with proper education,
36:48there would be no particular worry about outsourcing
36:51because people would be so motivated, intelligent, and knowledgeable
36:56about the economy and the value that they could add
36:59that everything that was just really blind, stupid, repetitive labor,
37:02like stuff that might happen overseas, would just be automated, right?
37:05So, there wouldn't be any outsourcing.
37:07All right, do you have any thoughts on the UnitedHealthcare CEO being murdered?
37:11Yeah, I will talk about that tonight.
37:13I think that's one of these horrible, tragic situations
37:16that really is showing that the addiction to violence,
37:19which characterizes our modern society and most societies as a whole,
37:23our addiction to violence is really being unmasked as we go forward.
37:26So, I'll talk about that in the show tonight.
37:28Thanks, everyone, for a lovely, lovely set of questions.
37:31Really do appreciate that.
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