When Kajol was schooled by her son. This, from Kareena Kapoor Khan’s 104.8 Ishq FM show What Women Want.
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00:00You know, I honestly think children, the relationships they have with their parents are pretty much like all other relationships.
00:06Start as you mean to go on.
00:08So she looks at my Instagram and she's like, you know, what is this nonsense?
00:11Have you seen Sonam Kapoor's Instagram?
00:13It was such a... I felt like, oh my God, that was such an...
00:19My son slapped me with his left hand.
00:23Are you a controlling parent?
00:24I'm not actually. I'm not that much of a controlling parent.
00:27I actually don't believe that it is conducive to a healthy relationship.
00:31And my mother was the complete opposite of it.
00:33I mean, you've met my mom, right?
00:35Yeah, so my mom literally gave the name rebel upbringing to me.
00:41So yeah, I was a very, very differently brought up child.
00:45So no, I don't believe in controlling at all.
00:48And you're not controlling when they sign you at all.
00:50Let me just say, I strike a healthy balance.
00:53Yeah, because as far as I would think,
00:56Ajay is obsessed with the kids.
00:58Completely and totally and obviously, but that doesn't mean...
01:00There's a fine line.
01:02There's a fine line between being, between giving children a grid to grow up with
01:08and between overwhelming them to the point that they can't grow.
01:11And how involved is Ajay with the kids?
01:13Very much so. Very much so.
01:15He, if he had his way, would be the overwhelming presence
01:19who would, you know, kind of completely like, what are you doing?
01:22Five minutes here, five minutes there, all that.
01:24Very much so. Very much so.
01:26Well, I think our listeners wouldn't believe that because he comes across as so...
01:30Chilled and cool.
01:31Completely a lie.
01:32It's a complete lie.
01:34There is no chill and no cool where his kids are concerned.
01:37He wants to know everything about everything.
01:40And do you believe in this good cop, bad cop parenting?
01:43You know, I honestly think children,
01:46the relationships they have with their parents are pretty much like all other relationships.
01:50Start as you mean to go on.
01:51So, I mean, wherever you, whatever you're planning to do with your kids
01:55or however you want your relation to eventually be with your kids,
01:59I'm not saying you can't, you know, fire them.
02:01I'm not saying that you can't correct them for, you know, doing something wrong
02:04or, you know, show them the right path.
02:06But yeah, you will have to start at one point.
02:08If you're going to correct them, don't wait till they're five years old
02:11to just say that,
02:12Abhi beta, maine bola na, chaar saal se bol rahi hoon abhi na.
02:15Paanchve saal mein abhi padegi.
02:17Yeah, exactly.
02:18And both of y'all kind of like reprimand them or will tell them off.
02:23Yeah, we're both on that same level, yeah.
02:24Would people generally expect you to feel guilty when women go back to work?
02:29You know, after having your babies?
02:32I think it's because of the responsibility factor.
02:35I think in societies generally,
02:38the responsibility is always the mother's to bring up the child.
02:41And that's where the guilt factor comes in.
02:44And, you know, the first thing that you think of when you see a badly,
02:47you know, kuch battameezi dekhte hoon toh,
02:48pehli cheez dimaag mein aate hain, maa ne theek se nahi sikhaaya kya?
02:51So, you know, it's the first thing that comes to anybody's mind.
02:54I mean, we're not talking about a different era or anything like that.
02:57The first thing that comes to your mind is like, you know,
02:59battameezi kar raha hai, maa ne theek se nahi sikhaaya,
03:01maa ne thappad maara hota ho toh yeh nahi karta aaj.
03:03Kuch cheezein hum apni mom se seekte hain
03:05and aur kuch cheezein hum apni bachon se bhi seekte hain.
03:07Bilkul, bilkul.
03:08I think in today's time, we're learning everything, I think, from our kids.
03:11Like, Lolo is also.
03:12Instagram toh main apni beti se seekha hai.
03:14Yeah, so what are you learning from Nisa and you?
03:17I'm definitely picking up their habits in music.
03:20No two ways about it.
03:20Music.
03:21Haan, bilkul.
03:22Also the selfies.
03:23Yes, selfies and what looks good on Instagram and what's cool on Instagram.
03:28You can't put everything up and all that.
03:30Aacha, you can't.
03:31You can't.
03:31So, she looks at my Instagram and she's like, you know,
03:33what is this nonsense?
03:34You know, have you seen Sonam Kapoor's Instagram?
03:37I was like, what do you mean, have you seen Sonam Kapoor's Instagram?
03:41Just look at how symmetrical everything is.
03:43Look at how aesthetic everything is.
03:45So, yeah, so she gives me tips on social media.
03:47She'll talk about, you know.
03:49The lingo?
03:50Yeah, very much so, of course.
03:51But I'm really bad at that.
03:52So, I'm not even getting there.
03:54I'm not even trying.
03:55I'm like, just stop there only.
03:56I'll just make do with the Webster's Dictionary English.
03:59But my son is amazing.
04:01And like you said, you learn things from your kids all the time.
04:06This one thing really stuck with me because I was firing Nisa for not sitting with us.
04:10There was a Mata Ki Chowki at home and I was like, Nisa, come and sit with us.
04:13We are sitting here and, you know, why are you sitting on the table?
04:16She's like, Mama, I really don't want to.
04:18I said, just come and sit with us.
04:19So, I just got angry.
04:20Come on, sit down.
04:21So, after she came and she sat and he left.
04:23She left and my son turned around and told me, you know.
04:25He just sat in my lap quietly and he's like, you know, Mom,
04:28you shouldn't fire her for telling the truth.
04:30Wow.
04:31He gave me such, it was such a...
04:34I felt like, oh my God, that was such an...
04:37He slapped me with his own hands.
04:40Yes, absolutely.
04:41So, it just felt like, it was amazing, but...
04:44Yeah, but what a wonderful advice.
04:47Yeah, he gave it to me like he's seven years old.
04:49You know, he's telling me, I lie sometimes to you.
04:51When you tell me to come and I don't come and I lie.
04:56But she's not telling the truth.
04:57She's not lying to you.
04:58You should not fire her for telling the truth.
05:01I was like, oh my God.
05:02That's a big one, what you've learned from him.
05:04Huge.
05:05Yeah.