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00:01All right, so we're looking for a three-bedroom,
00:03two-bedroom, preferably.
00:04Yes.
00:05I'm more of a city girl.
00:06He's more of a suburban.
00:08Now, are there any other deal breakers for you?
00:10Lower countertops, no carpet.
00:12Right.
00:13Of course.
00:14Because we both have wheelchairs.
00:15Hopefully.
00:16We can pull a rabbit out of the hat,
00:18and we'll see how it goes.
00:19I don't know.
00:22This is a busy street, Pamela.
00:24It's OK, baby.
00:25Just follow me.
00:28I'm a little uncertain about moving to the city.
00:31I just feel like I'll be overwhelmed.
00:33How you doing, man?
00:34You doing pretty good?
00:35Yes, sir.
00:36I see you.
00:37You know, you want to be a city girl,
00:38there's going to be a lot going on.
00:39We have locks.
00:41With all this wedding planning,
00:43I need to get back in shape.
00:44You feel stronger?
00:45Yeah, we lift you up after this one.
00:47I'm here for that.
00:51Can't wait to get to know you, your new trainer.
00:54She's just a trainer.
00:55It's not funny.
00:56Why are you laughing?
00:57Because you did something more than training?
01:14Did you sleep OK?
01:15Yeah.
01:19Cheddar. Cheddar.
01:20I had trouble sleeping because I was upset that Jay posted a photo online with a personal trainer that is a woman.
01:30I can't believe I slept with my socks on. It must have been tired.
01:35You know how yesterday, like, about your trainer?
01:45I feel like I, like, was doing the most.
01:49I mean, I don't want to say I get it because I don't necessarily, like, I feel like for that situation, I wouldn't necessarily feel what you felt.
02:02However, I mean, if that's how you felt, then, you know, that's your feelings.
02:07I do struggle with jealousy sometimes because I have been cheated on.
02:13Oh, bless you.
02:14Bless you.
02:15And on top of that, the way women be looking at you, they'd be like, mm, like, you might be short, but you might be a little dangerous, you know what I mean?
02:26You know, I think they're trying to figure out how fast the chair goes, really.
02:28No.
02:29Maybe how tall.
02:30The way women look at you and compliment you, like, all right, lady, take it easy.
02:36Shoot, you can have a trainer that is the next top model or whatever, but I was disappointed because we tell each other everything.
02:45Well, it wasn't intentional. I just...
02:47I know. Like, I know that now, now that I, like, slept on it and I'm like, oh.
02:52Yeah.
02:53Kind of made a fool a little out of myself.
02:56Listen, you're all mine.
02:59Unless you think of the lone line of people that want me, I don't want them.
03:03I don't even, the door is closed, sealed.
03:06You're one of a kind, so I'm like...
03:08And if they try to open the door, it's lava.
03:10We're in this together.
03:12See? She agrees.
03:15I've learned in the course of this relationship because, uh, as many of you may not know, Pamela is the first person I've ever been with.
03:24So, I had to learn very quickly, okay?
03:28Quickly?
03:29Quickly.
03:30Rapido.
03:31On how to interact with, uh, women in particular that may be attractive to the social eye.
03:39I had to pack my bags one time.
03:42She packed a few underwear, y'all.
03:44No.
03:45And where are those bags?
03:47Set.
03:48Huh?
03:49Set. And where are you?
03:50Set.
03:51Oh yeah, it worked out.
03:52Okay, alright.
03:53It worked out.
03:54Alright, next question.
03:57Yeah.
03:58Yeah.
03:59I'm gonna get these muscles.
04:00These muscles.
04:01For the wedding.
04:02You know what I'm saying?
04:04I gotta have my stamina on the wedding night.
04:06Oh!
04:07There.
04:08Ooh.
04:09Not gonna be much of a wedding night if we don't find our own place soon.
04:12, isn't that the truth.
04:14Hopefully, Shakina found her something.
04:16Alright, I'm gonna go get ready for today a little bit.
04:18Alright.
04:19Looking at apartments has not been easy.
04:22The apartment...
04:23Has a step.
04:24Has a step.
04:25A lot of apartments say they're ADA compliant, and they're not.
04:29The bathroom is even smaller.
04:32We wouldn't even be able to close a door.
04:34It's been hard to find something suitable.
04:36It's either in an area where neither one of us wanna live in, or it has a future that we just can't work with.
04:44I don't even think average height people would be able to reach that easily.
04:48We gotta figure this out, cause we literally made a pact that we were gonna move out before we got married.
04:54Exactly, and we're gonna do that.
04:56Okay.
04:57No ifs or buts.
04:58Maybe some buts.
04:59Maybe some buts.
05:00Hold on.
05:01But only yours.
05:02Hey!
05:05Why so far away?
05:06I'm coming close.
05:07I'm close.
05:08Just waiting on you.
05:13Our wheelchair sent us some more options over today.
05:16Ah, it feels good to stretch out.
05:18And hopefully, one of those options is good enough for us to check out.
05:23This is the first one.
05:24This is in the Marietta area.
05:25Right.
05:26Very country.
05:27They have some different styles where you can go with the wood.
05:28I love it, and it's very private in the suburbs.
05:29I'm concerned about what's the closest pharmacy to pick up a prescription.
05:30Right.
05:31And, you know, the nearest grocery store.
05:32She wants to be a city girl out here, and I wanna be in the suburbs.
05:38I'm worried I will never find a place that we can agree on.
05:39Plus, this one has carpet.
05:40Yeah, I'm not really a fan of carpet.
05:41I feel like it's way too easy to get dirty.
05:42Oh, look at this one.
05:43Can you go to the next picture?
05:44Because I'm trying to see.
05:45I have a dishwasher.
05:46I have a dishwasher.
05:47I have a dishwasher.
05:48I have a dishwasher.
05:49I have a dishwasher.
05:50I have a dishwasher.
05:51I have a dishwasher.
05:52I know you have no oneing one.
05:53Well, the regular way, you know?
05:54Yeah, I'd definitely love to be able to, you know, use the dishwasher and stuff.
06:01Where is it at?
06:02North Atlanta.
06:03Oh, man.
06:04the next picture, because I'm trying to see it.
06:06Have a dishwasher?
06:07I know you've been wanting one.
06:09Yes, I'm trying to question dishes.
06:11Well, the regular way, you know.
06:13Yeah.
06:13So I'd definitely love to be able to, you know,
06:16use the dishwasher and stuff.
06:17Where is it at?
06:18North Atlanta.
06:19Oh, man.
06:20Of course the best apartment option that Shakina
06:23sends us is in the city.
06:26I know that's right.
06:27If they're willing to make an appointment for us to view it,
06:30would you want to?
06:30Yeah, I definitely want to go see it, for sure.
06:33All right, let's look at it.
06:34I'm willing to look at this apartment,
06:36because I really want to give her everything that, you know,
06:40she wants.
06:41But it would really have to be a place that wins me over
06:45in the city in order for me to choose to live in the city.
06:49Let's get it.
06:50We shall see, I guess.
07:06Baby, I know you want me.
07:09Good morning.
07:10Good morning.
07:10How are you?
07:11Good morning.
07:12How are you?
07:13I'm well.
07:13I'm well.
07:14Just trying to stay cool a little bit.
07:15You look fabulous.
07:17So do you.
07:17See the hair down today?
07:18I like those things.
07:19All right.
07:20This is a quiet city neighborhood for Jay.
07:23Chikina told us that this apartment feels like the suburbs,
07:27but it's in a city.
07:30So it still got a lot going on.
07:33Hopefully, it's a good compromise.
07:35Well, I'm excited about this one.
07:37So if we will be able to access it, get in,
07:40I don't think we have any problems.
07:41We don't have any rent.
07:42Yes, we do.
07:44Now we choose.
07:45We have a friend, though.
07:47Yes, we're in the door.
07:49We're in the kitchen.
07:51Good, all right, all right.
07:54In our doors, no carpet.
07:55No carpet at all.
07:57And in the primary bedroom, there is the walk-in shower.
08:03Yeah, but they're going to have to take out the whole door.
08:04Like, we can't even get in.
08:06Yeah, but we can make it work.
08:07Who is we?
08:09Let's check out and see.
08:11Yeah.
08:11Yeah.
08:12Are you in here?
08:15It works?
08:15It works.
08:16I can reach it.
08:17Even though this apartment is nice,
08:19there are some accessibility aspects.
08:21I'm not sure if I live here.
08:23So, like, for instance, if we needed to knock this out
08:26because we can't roll up on here,
08:28so technically it's not super VA.
08:30Is that possible or no?
08:32So what you're talking about is actually
08:33you may do, I mean, modifications with that.
08:35I mean, you may have to get approval from the owner
08:39of the unit before doing it.
08:41So it's not something you actually just
08:42be able to come in and do.
08:44It is pretty close to the unit.
08:46Yeah, even at the parking lot, there's that smooth ramp.
08:51And the handles, those handles are considered a good.
08:54Can you see yourself coming home to this apartment
08:56after the wedding?
08:57Yes, absolutely.
08:59No.
09:01Babe, now you know well, if this apartment
09:05was in the suburbs, you would have said,
09:07where's the application?
09:09No.
09:10No, because apartment, you know, is good.
09:12It's decent.
09:14Decent is not, you even described it as decent.
09:16That's a terrible descriptor.
09:17No, I'm going to put on our first apartment.
09:18You want to live in a decent apartment?
09:20You want to have a decent marriage, a decent apartment,
09:23decent food?
09:24No, that's so sad.
09:24No, I'm just saying, decent is not a good descriptor.
09:26So apparently we haven't found the right one.
09:28And I still got time to win.
09:30Shall we wrap it up?
09:31Yeah.
09:32All right.
09:33Thank you for showing us this.
09:34No problem.
09:35This is a pretty good choice.
09:38At this point, we have been living with Jay's parents.
09:41It feels like forever, almost the majority
09:43of our whole relationship.
09:45And I would feel very defeated if we don't end up
09:53moving out before we get married.
09:57So this is going to be our almond cake.
09:59It has the raspberry chambord and the vanilla buttercream filling.
10:01Mm.
10:02We can eat the whole piece, right, if we like?
10:03Yes.
10:04Absolutely.
10:05I have kept something from you.
10:08I've already made some phone calls.
10:09Hold up.
10:10You're going to want it.
10:11I ain't making love to my girl from the city.
10:16Ice in the tub, make a soda with the Vinny fan.
10:20I'm honestly a little nervous because I'm like, man, like,
10:25it's literally around the corner.
10:28Mm-hmm.
10:29Three weeks.
10:30We have struggled to find a place together
10:34that works for both of us.
10:36Naturally, we're probably going to be a little bit more
10:39stressed than usual because we're picking on a lot.
10:42Yeah.
10:43We knew it was going to be hard to find a place,
10:45but this is frustrating, like, looking at all these places.
10:48I mean, maybe right now we should just take a step back.
10:52Hell no.
10:53I'm just saying.
10:55Like, I'm not saying it's going to be perfect.
10:57Absolutely not.
10:58I'm already going to be perfect and...
10:59No.
11:00Like, ten years from now, we won't be the same people.
11:03Well, we will be the same height.
11:05We'll be the same height.
11:06Yeah, we'll be the same height.
11:08Listen, for today, let's just enjoy picking out our cake.
11:11Yeah, that's true.
11:12We're headed to do a cake testing for our wedding today.
11:15I mean, who doesn't like cake?
11:17I love cake.
11:18You do.
11:19Look, a dog park.
11:20Okay.
11:21I like this suburb.
11:22There's a lot more places to go than where we live now.
11:26We're here.
11:27Viv, you ready?
11:28Yes.
11:29You know I love to eat sweets.
11:30That's the only thing I really look forward to.
11:32Cheddar.
11:33Wow.
11:34Relax.
11:35Hi.
11:36Welcome in.
11:38Cheddar.
11:39Hey.
11:40We have cheddar today.
11:41We have cheddar.
11:42We have cheddar.
11:43We have cheddar.
11:44We have cheddar.
11:45We have cheddar.
11:46We have cheddar.
11:47Hey, we have cheddar today because my dad, he had no availability to take care of her,
11:53which is fine.
11:54So we're going on an adventure as a family.
11:56I hear we're getting married.
11:58Yes.
11:59Yes.
12:00I love that.
12:01You guys ready to try some cake flavors?
12:02Yes.
12:03Okay, please.
12:04Does your dad babysit cheddar sometimes?
12:07Sometimes my dad does watch cheddar.
12:10Is there a charge associated?
12:12I'm surprised there hasn't been, to be quite honest.
12:15I do like the flowers.
12:16Pearls down at the bottom.
12:17Cheddar, man.
12:18Listen.
12:19Please don't do that.
12:20Cheddar, listen.
12:21You got to go.
12:22You got to go over there.
12:23Hey.
12:24Okay.
12:25Listen.
12:26We're going to pass.
12:27It's okay.
12:28So I'm done capping.
12:29I got to focus on this cake.
12:32And I still love you.
12:34I just have to love you from a distance.
12:36She's young.
12:37She's growing.
12:38She's learning.
12:39She doesn't get out the house like that.
12:40Yeah.
12:41We haven't been out like that, so.
12:42Like with a lot of sensory lucky baby.
12:45And it is good to know because whenever we do live on our own, you know, it won't be easy to just, you know, pass it on to your dad.
12:54Yeah.
12:55We have to figure it out.
12:57So for your cake, you can do one cake flavor and filling flavor.
13:00It can be anything you can mix and match.
13:02So this is going to be our almond cake.
13:04It has the raspberry chambord and the vanilla buttercream filling.
13:11Mmm.
13:12We can eat the whole piece right if we like.
13:14Yes.
13:15Absolutely.
13:16Let me tell you something.
13:19Oh, here we go.
13:20Let me tell you something.
13:22When it comes to cakes.
13:23Next one is cream cheese frosting filling.
13:26I like carrot cake.
13:27I like vanilla cake.
13:29I like cream cheese frosting.
13:31If it has cream cheese frosting.
13:32Yes.
13:33I probably will eat it.
13:34Okay.
13:35Mando, Mando.
13:36Cake down.
13:37It's okay.
13:38It's gonna go all the way in the same place.
13:40I just, oh man, I really love cake.
13:43Imagine having a cake bakery here on the corner.
13:47You can get your dessert fix.
13:49Exactly.
13:50I mean, when we're done, we should go check this town out.
13:52Let me go get this box up for you and then you guys can be on your way.
13:56Thank you so much.
13:57You're welcome.
14:00You good back there?
14:01Yep.
14:02So far so good.
14:03The sidewalks are smooth.
14:04Yes.
14:05It's not bumpy.
14:06We got enough room.
14:07Look at that.
14:08Right across from there.
14:09Cash transportation.
14:10And a little spa.
14:11Girls all playing with me.
14:12The suburb we're in is amazing.
14:13This cake shop isn't a really cool part of town.
14:14I'm guessing it's a doggy friendly area too.
14:15Yes, it's definitely doggy friendly.
14:16And look how family friendly it is.
14:18Yeah.
14:19And there's a restaurant right here.
14:20When I imagine living in the suburbs, this is what I think about.
14:21Like, it's still safe.
14:22So this is way more much, you know.
14:23Well, this place looks a bit better than my house.
14:24So that's where I'm building.
14:25You're not going to be able to eat and go buy a toy.
14:26Now you're just going to give it away and go buy a toy.
14:27To the road.
14:28The street's going to be huge, how much you're here.
14:29And the house is someone's going to go drive a car into the road.
14:30You're not going to be on your car.
14:31You're not going to be a car.
14:32You're not going to be on your car.
14:33All the cars are going down.
14:34You have to go.
14:35Oh, my friend!
14:36You're not going to be on your car, yeah.
14:38And look how family-friendly it is.
14:41Yeah.
14:42And there's a restaurant right here.
14:43When I imagine living in the suburbs,
14:45this is what I think about.
14:47Like, it's still safe.
14:49So this is way more my, you know, my gym.
14:52Doesn't have a lot of people, not a lot of noise.
14:55However, there's still things to do.
14:57So we're not going to be bored, which, you know,
15:00satisfies her need to be out in these streets.
15:03So I feel like it's a happy medium for us both.
15:09This got the family vibes.
15:11You know what I mean?
15:12Babe!
15:15Outfits for Cheddar!
15:17Oh, brother.
15:18We do got to get something for Cheddar for the wedding, so.
15:20That's so cute!
15:23It's all right, Cheddar.
15:25Dang!
15:26Man.
15:27Dang!
15:28What do you mean, dang?
15:29I should've never...
15:30Man, I don't know why she had to see this place.
15:33Pamela always finds a reason to buy stuff for Cheddar.
15:36And specifically Cheddar.
15:38And we're trying to pay for a wedding in an apartment, so.
15:40Okay, but what if it was bow ties?
15:43I have not run up a check on bow.
15:45I get my stuff online for very inexpensive.
15:48That's not even the same thing.
15:49Hello.
15:50Hi.
15:51Hello.
15:52Welcome in.
15:53How are you?
15:54I'm good.
15:55What brings you guys in today?
15:59So we're going to have a wedding soon.
16:01Oh, yeah.
16:02And it looks like this is the perfect spot already.
16:04She's going to be in your wedding?
16:05Yes.
16:06Yeah, she's going to be the flower girl.
16:07The flower girl, so.
16:08There's another customer, and their dog was their flower girl.
16:12And they bought...
16:13I can show you.
16:14Oh.
16:15Can I hold her?
16:16Yeah, sure.
16:17Oh, yeah, she loves attention.
16:18Cheddar, do you like these?
16:20This is the one they got.
16:21It was so cute.
16:23Yeah.
16:24Yeah.
16:25You know, if we live in this area, you can come anytime you want to the store for Cheddar.
16:31Oh, Cheddar got her paws up.
16:34She's like, I'm voting for yes.
16:36Okay, Cheddar.
16:40Cheddar, which one do you like?
16:42Which one, Cheddar?
16:44She's looking at that one.
16:46Yeah, she is.
16:47This is the one.
16:48This one, yes.
16:49Yeah.
16:50All right, Cheddar.
16:51Yeah, she's naked.
16:52I'm here for you.
16:53I got your back.
16:54I'm the head first.
16:55Yeah.
16:56Just let it go down, Cheddar.
16:58You want to do a little model walk moment?
17:01Get that, mamita.
17:02Oh, my goodness.
17:04Ah!
17:05Cheddar!
17:06This is your moment!
17:08I can admit, Cheddar does look really cute in this dress.
17:13She what?
17:14She looks very cute in the dress.
17:17She's adorable.
17:18How much are those beds?
17:20$150 up to $280.
17:23Oh?
17:24Yeah.
17:25Beds are expensive.
17:26She's going to sleep on the bed she got right now.
17:29That's right.
17:30I'm just thinking when we get our apartment.
17:32Well, you can think about it.
17:33Not right now.
17:34We'll think on it.
17:35But we're in the middle of moving soon, so.
17:37Really?
17:38I'm not trying to get a bunch of stuff.
17:39Where are you guys moving to?
17:40We're still figuring that out.
17:41We're still figuring that out.
17:42It's nice over here.
17:43Dog friendly.
17:44Shoot.
17:45Now I know this place.
17:46I'm like, maybe we should live around the corner.
17:48Oh, I'm glad you said that.
17:50I am so glad you said that.
17:52It seems like she's warming.
17:54She's living in the suburbs.
17:55Pamela doesn't want to admit it.
17:56However, I can tell that she low-key likes this suburb.
18:00I don't know.
18:01The apartment would have to be amazing.
18:03Have a great one.
18:04See you next time.
18:05You too.
18:06See you guys.
18:07See you soon.
18:09You got so much stuff you can't even get out the door.
18:11Okay.
18:12Relax.
18:13One look from you and I'm there.
18:18No need for words.
18:22My heart starts beating faster.
18:25So we're just going to come around here.
18:27Okay.
18:28Fingers crossed and it'll be the one.
18:29Okay.
18:30I'll call to my fingers and toes for this.
18:32Okay.
18:33And let's go in and check it out.
18:35A few days ago, we asked Shakina if she could show us an apartment in this area because
18:42we actually both really liked it, which, you know, it was hard enough for us to agree
18:46on.
18:47So I wanted to take this opportunity to, like, look at something.
18:50We'll see.
18:51Ain't nothing to see except your new home.
18:54All right.
18:55Welcome to your humble abode.
18:56Two bedrooms, two full bathrooms.
18:57I'm trying to keep an open mind.
18:58But the apartment needs to be perfect.
18:59Oh, like that city apartment?
19:00Was that perfect?
19:01Oh.
19:02Amanda, we've looked at a few or more than a few at this point.
19:04Yeah.
19:05So we know what it is that we're looking for and what we want.
19:06So let me know if you guys have any questions about anything in here.
19:09Okay.
19:10And is there a laundry room already in here?
19:12It is.
19:13The laundry room is actually around this corner right here.
19:14And they are side by side, so we don't have to worry about the stackables.
19:17Oh, man.
19:18Front loaders.
19:19Yes.
19:20Yep.
19:21And I guess that's the main bedroom over there?
19:22Yes.
19:23We have two bedrooms, two full bedrooms, two full bedrooms.
19:24Oh, man.
19:25Oh, man.
19:26Oh, man.
19:27Oh, man.
19:28Oh, man.
19:29Oh, man.
19:30Oh, man.
19:31Oh, man.
19:32Oh, man.
19:33Oh, man.
19:34Oh, man.
19:35Oh, man.
19:36Oh, man.
19:37Oh, man.
19:38Two bedrooms, two full bathrooms.
19:39Yeah.
19:40This is really nice.
19:41And you do have a walk-in closet here also.
19:42Perfect.
19:43We might have to add another shelf or two, but...
19:46Yeah.
19:47I think that it's good.
19:48So is this going to be overflow for Pamela, or...
19:50Probably.
19:51Is this going to be Jay's closet only?
19:52No, probably.
19:54Pamela fits into a lot of stereotypes.
19:57For sure, I have learned that all her clothes and all her little makeup stuff and toiletry things
20:05are going to find its way in every single part of the home.
20:10I'm just going to have to find myself a little cupboard and put my stuff there.
20:14Hopefully, it fits.
20:16You want to go ahead and take a look at your bathroom?
20:20Yeah.
20:21We will need to put, like, a shower bench in here for sure, because there isn't one right
20:25now.
20:26Yeah, and we probably have to take off the door.
20:28What door?
20:29The shower door?
20:30The shower door.
20:31The shower door.
20:32Oh, I thought the bathroom door.
20:33I was like, wait.
20:34The apartment doesn't have everything that we need.
20:37The shower, we would have to remove the door, and then we would need, like, longer faucets
20:43for us to reach.
20:44The apartment in the city had all the same things wrong with you, but you were willing
20:50to move there.
20:51Please, speak to the class.
20:52What do you have to say?
20:53Well, sometimes you just got to make things work.
20:58Oh, so you were willing to make it work in the city for less and be somewhere decent,
21:03but not move somewhere that is better just because it's in the suburbs.
21:09The real story is she's stubborn, and that's it.
21:14So, is everything checking off?
21:17All the boxes?
21:18Does this feel like home out of everything that we've looked at?
21:22This is a nice place for sure.
21:24I feel like we would be giving up an amazing opportunity.
21:27I mean, this has everything that we really could ask for.
21:31And, I mean, this is only about $200 over the budget that we had set up of, like, $1,900.
21:38So, I'm willing to do it, because I know if we don't get an apartment, you know, before
21:43we could start our marriage, I'll feel like I failed, and I don't like to fail.
21:48Well, you have some things to discuss.
21:50I just want to remind you guys that this is available now, and it won't stay on the market long.
21:56Mmm.
21:57Mm-hmm.
21:58And the thing is, you guys want to come home to your place after your wedding, so that's another factor.
22:03So, I wouldn't sleep on it too long.
22:15Just, you know, yell, call me if you need me, and we'll go from there, okay?
22:18Okay, thank you.
22:19All right, no problem, no problem.
22:21Shekina just told us we have to make a decision pretty much today if we want to live here at this apartment or not,
22:30because these type of apartments right now are really popular.
22:34Like, take it or leave it, pretty much.
22:36We've been wanting a full kitchen.
22:40We got a pantry.
22:42We'll see.
22:43I mean, it is a really good foundation.
22:48Uh, this is, like, definitely going to be a change.
22:55So, I really wanted to live back in the city.
22:57Uh-huh.
22:58Yeah.
22:59Well, I also, like, like, um, I know you want to live in the suburbs.
23:06It feels like we're constantly going in circles and not moving forward in a sense of independence.
23:14Like, being a regular adult relationship like everybody else.
23:19Someone's got to be willing to compromise.
23:22This, for me, makes me feel more cozy at home because we have more privacy.
23:31So?
23:32It's crazy for me to say this.
23:34Uh-huh.
23:36I think we should get the application today.
23:40It is good.
23:41It basically checked all the boxes.
23:42We just have to do some tweaks here and there.
23:45But this is amazing.
23:48I do like the city energy, but the thought of, like, living in a home that is ours, not like his parents,
23:59that's, like, the top priority.
24:01How are we feeling?
24:03Where are we?
24:04We're going to put in the application today.
24:06Yeah.
24:07So you're saying yes?
24:08Yeah.
24:09All right, all right, all right, all right.
24:10Let's do it.
24:11All right.
24:12I'm feeling excited about putting in this application.
24:13Okay.
24:14Whatever they need on the application, as long as, you know, it's not something wild like a kidney, hey, take it.
24:20All right.
24:21All right.
24:23You are absolutely welcome.
24:25Hopefully, our application actually is going to get approved.
24:29Oh.
24:30Hey.
24:31It's getting real.
24:32Yeah, it's real.
24:33Real as .
24:34I'm warning you.
24:35I'm warning you.
24:36I'm warning you.
24:37I'm warning you.
24:38I'm warning you.
24:39It might be a little overwhelming.
24:40I'm just already thinking about some of the things that we gotta do.
24:53Probably why I've been knocking out as soon as we go to bed, because we've had such a busy couple of weeks.
24:59I know who we've been doing so much.
25:01Transportation has been so expensive.
25:04Yeah.
25:05We have to, like, you know, live our lives.
25:08Well, I'm glad you said that, because, like, I have kept something from you for a little bit.
25:17Um, I've already made some phone calls.
25:20Mm-hmm.
25:21And I'm going to start the process of taking driving classes.
25:25What?
25:28Hold up.
25:29Wait, wait a second.
25:30Let me make sure I heard this correctly.
25:32You're gonna what?
25:33Yeah.
25:34Like...
25:35You're gonna be...
25:36Speed racer out there.
25:37Mm-hmm.
25:38What?
25:39Yeah.
25:40Like, I'm excited.
25:41If we're going to be this far away from the city, then we're going to need our own vehicle.
25:47If we have our own place, why are we ever going to need to leave the apartment, though?
25:52What you mean?
25:55Are you trying to wink?
25:59Oh, baby.
26:00It would really, really give us a lot more freedom and independence.
26:05Yeah, I mean, when you put it like that, damn.
26:07Yeah, that's real serious.
26:09Yeah, I've been really thinking about it a lot.
26:11And I know you're worried, but, like, fear can't let us stop us.
26:14I've done all the research on, you know, that I will need adaptive equipment.
26:19I will need a van.
26:20You know, doing all that and making sure I have the best, like, system in the car to drive.
26:28I'm still, you know, curious to see how it goes.
26:31However, hey, I know you can-
26:33Did you go with me?
26:34Yeah, heck yeah.
26:35You think I'm about to read?
26:36Staying home.
26:37Oh, man.
26:53Y'all hear that?
26:54Somebody got music going real loud.
26:57Whatever they're doing, sounds like they're partying.
27:00It's really loud.
27:01Yeah, it's crazy.
27:02And don't get it twisted.
27:04We love them, but we don't love their music.
27:11We're having breakfast with my parents just to catch up.
27:15We actually haven't seen much of them since the family dinner.
27:19We're not telling them about the apartment until we're approved.
27:23We do need to tell them, though, about how my driver's license.
27:28Can't wait.
27:29Good morning.
27:32Good morning.
27:33Hello, hello.
27:34Hello.
27:35Who was in concert this morning in the bathroom?
27:38Oh, it was probably me.
27:39Oh, okay.
27:40Sorry.
27:41While it's great living here with everybody, it does have some challenges because we have to consider everybody in the house every time we do stuff.
27:49Yeah.
27:50We're not always going to be quiet enough when you can't hear us.
27:52Yeah, because I hear you snoring.
27:53You, you reviving through the ceiling.
27:56So when it's quiet, I'll be here.
28:03All right.
28:04Well, he's doing all right.
28:05Just FYI.
28:06That's your mama.
28:07Uh-uh.
28:08Nah.
28:09I know your stories.
28:10The lies he tells.
28:12So what do you guys have going on today?
28:16Well, I am going on with plans of moving forward to drive.
28:22What?
28:23Oh, my gosh.
28:24My number one concern as a parent is for Jay and Palmela's safety.
28:30Learning to drive and actually being out there in the world and driving, two different things.
28:35What has me concerned, Palmela, is once you get out there, these people are not thinking about your status.
28:42They're thinking about where they're trying to go, how they can get there quicker.
28:46You have to be prepared for that.
28:48Come off your brake.
28:53Your eyes drive the car.
28:55Can we go a little slower?
28:57Why don't you put a little brake on?
29:02I'm so sorry.
29:08Has Jay told you all about his driving exploits?
29:13Yeah.
29:14Yeah.
29:15Really?
29:16And you're still thinking about doing the driving, huh?
29:18I can't say no if I haven't tried.
29:20Now, can she do it?
29:22Absolutely.
29:23But if Palmela gets her driver's license, I will not ride with her.
29:27Initially.
29:28Initially, as my wife prompted me to say.
29:33But in fairness, this is someone that got stuck in screen doors.
29:38Yeah.
29:39That's true.
29:40It scares the life out of me to know that she is going to be someone on the road.
29:45My doctor already did the referral.
29:47He said, all right, if that's what you want to do, and let them evaluate you, give you a chance.
29:53And if they say it's safe, then okay.
29:55I mean, there's a lot of different types of disabled people that are way more, got way more going on than Palmela that are driving.
30:02Yeah, I've had friends throughout my life that, you know, drive with their feet because they don't have hands and things like that.
30:09And they made it work.
30:10I'm not talking about your physical condition.
30:12Mm-mm.
30:13I'm specifically speaking about you as a person.
30:16And when you're out there, your environment has multiplied hundreds of times over from what you're used to in your chair on a daily basis.
30:26That's what I'm encouraging to be aware of.
30:31Good advice. Thank you.
30:33People are always making assumptions. Like, I was told, I don't think you are good enough to live on your own or go to college. And I accomplished that. So why not driving?
30:43What we really need to talk about is, I can't use this bacon.
30:48See, you over here worried about my French toasting. You ain't cooking your bacon right.
30:52Look, nobody want to eat that.
30:55I know, right?
30:57I'm sorry, y'all. Got to make some more bacon.
30:59You're killing me, Smoke. You're killing me.
31:21Today, I'm going to have my first driving lesson.
31:24Well, if I pass the evaluation test first.
31:27I need to pass an eye test, a physical, and a written test.
31:33What's your goal? Just in your own words, what's your goal for this?
31:36My goal is to be independent and drive him and I to dog appointments or just go on dates, run errands. Just want freedom.
31:47When I get in there, not only do they test my driving knowledge, they check my mobility.
31:54How far can you rotate around so I look behind you?
31:57Yeah, I can see the picture frames.
31:59And my vision.
32:01We have some road signs.
32:03The first one, accessible parking.
32:05The number two is no deter.
32:07I do have a little bit of a hard time to see at night.
32:10Oh, my gosh.
32:11I mean, that eyesight is a little questionable.
32:14Oh, I can get some night glasses.
32:16We're pretty much done with this part.
32:19Oh, wow.
32:20So I passed.
32:21You passed enough for us to go out there.
32:23Passed enough to go out there.
32:24I'm just kidding.
32:27I'm so glad I passed.
32:30I was getting a little shaky there.
32:32I had to take Pepto-Bismos because I was so nervous.
32:34But I'm ready to hit the road.
32:36I love you.
32:37I love you too.
32:38You can do it.
32:39All right.
32:40You've got her life insurance all paid up, right?
32:41Wow.
32:42I've never even been on this side of a car before.
32:46Wow, that's so cool.
32:48I'm trying to keep it cool and I get so much in my head.
32:53So this is a joystick just like your wheelchair.
32:56Okay, so I just control the joystick.
32:58Yep.
32:59Wow.
33:00They can use a joystick, man.
33:02Move it left and right for me.
33:07And pull your brake on.
33:09Pull it back.
33:10They put the remote to control the car next to my armrest,
33:18where my power chair remote usually is.
33:21So it feels like my power chair,
33:24but instead of controlling my power chair,
33:26I'm controlling the car.
33:29Let go of the brake.
33:30Okay.
33:32And you want to look outside the car.
33:34Look where you want the car to go.
33:38Now it will bring us to a nice smooth stop with the brake.
33:41Gas.
33:42Gas.
33:45And smooth stop.
33:47I'm having trouble driving the car.
33:52The acceleration and the stopping part is way different from what I'm used to.
33:58In my power chair, when you stop moving, you just like let go of the joystick or you stop accelerating.
34:05Come off your brake.
34:07Mm-hmm.
34:08And look where you want the car to go.
34:10Your eyes drive the car.
34:16Can we go a little slower?
34:18Why don't you put a little brake on?
34:21Put a little, there you go.
34:23Gas.
34:24Let's go.
34:26Let's go.
34:31I'm so sorry.
34:32Sorry.
34:33I immediately felt really bad of, you know, making sure that I don't hurt them.
34:38And so I had to just try to stay focused after that.
34:43Why don't you put a little gas?
34:45You ready to make some rights?
34:46Okay.
34:47All right.
34:52All right.
34:53You're getting it.
34:54Okay.
34:55All right.
34:56Now, there's an intersection up there.
34:58We'll take the turn.
35:00Good, good.
35:01Hold your turn.
35:03Hold it.
35:05Yeah.
35:06Excellent.
35:07Go, Pamela.
35:08Go.
35:09You're driving.
35:11I can't even put into words on how freeing it is.
35:15So look where you want the car to go.
35:18Good.
35:19I know this sounds so dramatic, but like, I feel like I gained, like, my butterfly wings.
35:23Keep turned.
35:24Slowly unwind the wheel.
35:26If I get my license, it's not like they would just hand it to me because, you know, they
35:30feel sorry for me.
35:31Like, I earned it.
35:32And nice smooth stop right here.
35:35Wow.
35:36That was awesome.
35:37All right.
35:38Relax.
35:39That was great.
35:40Woo!
35:41Wow.
35:42I'm really impressed.
35:43After the bumpy start, Pamela's driving was smooth.
35:47And I'm definitely very proud of you for that.
35:50Good job.
35:52Wow.
35:53What?
35:54I made it!
35:55What?
35:56Whew.
35:57I didn't need a hug.
35:59Yeah.
36:00Whoa.
36:01Oh, man.
36:02Yeah.
36:03Heck yeah.
36:04Hold on.
36:05I'm gonna get my life together.
36:06Yo, what?
36:07Oh, wait.
36:08You're ready to tell your parents.
36:09How are you gonna tell them?
36:10I mean, we're just gonna say, hey, we've been looking for our apartments.
36:14And then, we finally found one.
36:16So, why are we here?
36:20This is your key, sir.
36:35Put it with your lantern.
36:38A lanyard.
36:40A lantern is the little light thing.
36:43We got the keys.
36:46We got the keys.
36:49The keys.
36:50I said keys and you said key.
36:51We are not secretized swimmers.
36:53The key is only one key, baby.
36:55We got the keys.
36:57We both have to be able to get in the house.
36:59Oh, I see what you mean.
37:01Oh, sweet pooh.
37:03Hey, look, they got his goodies.
37:05Non-alcoholic wine.
37:07I love it.
37:09Yes.
37:09We're packing our bags.
37:10We did it.
37:11We're doing weddings.
37:13We're doing moving.
37:14We're doing everything.
37:15And Cheddar, you're coming with us.
37:17Take that, baby.
37:18Uh-huh.
37:20Cheddar's going to have her own home.
37:22Sounds like you're going to run up my coin
37:24with all these ideas.
37:26You got the funds and I got the buns.
37:28Ah, well.
37:31The only issue is we're not going to be going home
37:34to the new apartment after the wedding,
37:36because literally the wedding is like a week away,
37:38so that's doing the most.
37:39However, we're going to stay in a hotel
37:41and just enjoy each other's company.
37:44Shut up.
37:47Shut up.
37:48We got to live up to that freak in the sheets.
37:54Hey, Jay.
37:55Hi.
37:55We have a surprise for you.
37:57We'd like to bring you some dinner.
38:00Can we go upstairs?
38:01Oh, the surprise is definitely that you're bringing food.
38:03Yeah, of course.
38:05OK, cool.
38:06We got it.
38:06We got it for everybody.
38:08OK.
38:09See you in a bit.
38:10All right, love you.
38:10Bye.
38:11All right, love you, too.
38:11Bye.
38:12Which one is it?
38:13Are they buying food or we buying food?
38:14No, they bought food.
38:16Sounds like a conversation.
38:17Mmm, that it does.
38:20Anytime Jay and Pamela are paying for dinner,
38:22there is something big on the horizons
38:24that we're going to discuss.
38:25Yeah.
38:26This might be one of the last nights we'll sleep here.
38:31God.
38:32Dang.
38:32Yeah.
38:33When you say it like that.
38:34Goodbye, tree.
38:36Stop.
38:37Goodbye, likes.
38:38There.
38:38Yeah, I feel like we leave it alone.
38:39That's what we're running.
38:40Real likes.
38:41Hello.
38:41Hello.
38:42Hello, hello, hello, hello.
38:45Ah, so we didn't bring just fast food.
38:50No.
38:51Ooh, what you got?
38:52We got real food, apparently, because that doesn't look like fast food.
38:54Get ready.
38:56It's probably going to be a serious conversation.
38:58Oh, yeah, sounding like a true setup.
39:01It's stressful thinking about having a conversation with my parents
39:04about what's moving, because whenever we've had, like,
39:06more serious conversations, it doesn't always work out in the way,
39:11I guess, in my head.
39:13I try to, like, plan it.
39:15That's really where my nerves come from,
39:16because this is a really big deal.
39:18So I took it from our last visit, what we ordered.
39:23That was pretty, uh, pretty sneaky.
39:25Pretty sneaky of you, not having to ask us what we want.
39:28Uh, you can, you can thank Pamela.
39:30She, she keeps track.
39:32OK.
39:33OK, so.
39:38Why are we here?
39:39Well, first of all, you know, we want to say thank you,
39:44because we've been living here for four years now.
39:49I thought it was five.
39:50I thought surely 10.
39:51Well, you're off by just a few.
39:54I was, I was feeling like 10 years had passed,
39:56but go ahead, four, I can.
39:58Well, well, well, well, you just.
40:00I can trust that.
40:01OK, so, first of all, we want to say thank you.
40:04And as you all know, we've been looking at places
40:07and trying to, it feels like we've looked at a million places.
40:10And we found a place.
40:14Really?
40:14We are on our way to do mini golf.
40:16That was so cool.
40:17Careful, baby.
40:18Don't back up, please.
40:19I'm not going to get off the edge into the water.
40:21I don't want to be like that guy right there.
40:23I'm trash.
40:24I mean, I'm awful at this.
40:26Woo!
40:27Look at you.
40:27You know how we've been, like, trying to get more information
40:30what's been going on with my parents.
40:31I mean, your dad, as a man, for him to not even
40:33have the guts to talk to you, to his own daughter,
40:37that says a lot about him.
40:38I don't want to be like that guy right there.
40:40I don't want to be like that guy right there.
40:42I'm trash.
40:43I mean, I'm awful at this.
40:45Woo!
40:46Look at you.
40:47You know how we've been, like, trying to get more information
40:50what's been going on with my parents?
40:51About their thoughts about the wedding
40:53or if they're going to come or not.
40:54I mean, your dad, as a man, for him to not even
40:57have the guts to talk to you, to his own daughter,
41:01him as a man.
41:02I love my family a lot.
41:04Even though we have complications, like, I do need them.
41:11Hello.
41:12Hi, Polo.
41:14It's exciting that, you know, you came,
41:16but, like, do you think our parents are coming to the wedding?