Second Date Update - Need A Favor
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00:00Right now, we're in the middle of our second date update, where we're trying to help Andrew get set back up on another date with Shauna.
00:06But this is a little different than normal second date updates.
00:09Well, yeah, because they've been hanging out for over like a month.
00:12He's already at the point where he texts her right away in the morning.
00:16He texts her at night before he goes to bed.
00:18And he said everything was going good.
00:19They've shared a couple of kisses.
00:22But things have just dropped off.
00:23Right.
00:24Like, weird.
00:25So, Kevin was able to get her on the phone for us.
00:28And we have her on hold.
00:29Let's bring her back on right now.
00:31Shauna, are you there?
00:33Yeah.
00:34Hey, Shauna.
00:35Thanks for agreeing to do this.
00:36I know this is weird.
00:37But we wanted to talk to you about this guy, Andrew.
00:40Would that be okay if we talked to you on the air?
00:42I mean, I guess.
00:44Like, ridiculous.
00:46But what's going on?
00:47Okay.
00:48It is a little ridiculous.
00:49But we want to know what's going on with you guys.
00:52Because we heard you guys have been hanging out for a while now.
00:55And been texting quite a bit.
00:57And having some good dates.
01:00But things have just dropped off between the two of you.
01:03He doesn't know why the communication has stopped.
01:06And we were just trying to figure out what's up.
01:08So, is there a reason?
01:10I just, I just, I saw a red flag.
01:16And I'm like, it really threw me off.
01:19And I wanted, like, a little bit of time to think about it.
01:22And I'm just, I'm just not cool with it.
01:25Okay.
01:25Can we ask what that red flag was?
01:27Yeah.
01:27What are you talking about?
01:28No, I don't want to get into it.
01:32Did he tell you he has a kid?
01:34He did not tell us he had a kid.
01:36Yeah.
01:36Well, and, like, it's cool.
01:38Like, I've dated people with kids.
01:40Like, whatever.
01:41But it's like he's trying to make me his babysitter.
01:46How so?
01:47He asked you to babysit?
01:49Yeah.
01:49So, like, he was running late to an appointment and asked if I could just, like, watch his kid for a couple of hours.
01:57And, like, that really threw me off.
01:59Because, like, I haven't met this kid.
02:03Like, what kind of dad does that?
02:05Like, leaves their kid with someone who's a stranger to the kid, you know?
02:09Yeah.
02:10So, I just found it, like, super inappropriate and, like, that it was overstepping.
02:17And, like, I just haven't talked to him since.
02:19How old is this kid?
02:21Did you know?
02:23Ten.
02:24Ten.
02:24Okay.
02:24Okay.
02:25Okay.
02:26And you have never met him.
02:29Right.
02:29Like, I don't know.
02:30Maybe if I knew him and we had been dating longer, like, that would be one thing.
02:35But it's just such a, like, gross thing to, like, pawn off babysitting on someone you're dating with.
02:40Like, I'm here to date him, not to be babysitter to his kid, you know?
02:46I get it.
02:46I get that.
02:47I get what you're saying.
02:48Yeah.
02:48And I'm guessing you said no to that, right?
02:51Yeah, I said no.
02:52Okay.
02:53All right.
02:54Well, here's the deal, Shauna.
02:55We have Andrew on the phone.
02:56He did not tell us that part of things.
02:58Mm-mm.
02:59So, we want to bring him back on if that's cool.
03:01Can we talk to him and see if we can talk this out a little bit?
03:05Fine.
03:05Whatever.
03:06Okay.
03:07Oops.
03:08Andrew.
03:08Okay, Shauna, listen, you're acting like we went out one time and I asked you to babysit.
03:15That's not true.
03:16I know you very well.
03:18I mean, we've been texting for a month and, yeah, he hadn't met my son yet, but I was going
03:23to introduce you guys and, you know, I mean, I was gone for just a couple hours.
03:28Like, he could have just took him to get some ice cream and that's it.
03:32Yeah, but, like, that's not the way, right?
03:35Like, the first time you meet someone's kid when you're dating, like, you should be there.
03:39Because, like, yeah, we've been seeing each other a month, but, like, you don't know me.
03:43And you're just going to leave me with your kid?
03:45Like, I'm not your babysitter and I don't know your kid.
03:49Well, I'm telling you, you guys would have got along just fine and I was kind of in a
03:54bind and had no one to watch him, so I just figured I'd talk to somebody that, you know,
04:00at least I know you better than a trouble stranger.
04:01Not having someone to watch is not my problem.
04:04That's something you need to figure out.
04:06Well, yeah, but, I mean, like, normally he'd be with his mom, but she just wasn't available
04:12and she wasn't, like, you know, being helpful, so, you know, I just wish out to you.
04:16But, again, it's just not my problem and it is, like, super inappropriate to ask.
04:23Yeah, Andrew, it is kind of a big thing to ask somebody that has not met him, for one,
04:29and also, you know, you guys still are pretty early on in your dating life here.
04:34Yeah, I mean, I guess.
04:36I just, it's like we had been talking well enough and everything was going fine.
04:40I mean, I guess just my level of trust was higher at this point, so I didn't, and like
04:46I said, it's not like I was gone all day.
04:48It was just, like, literally a couple of hours.
04:50Okay, yeah.
04:51Like, I reached out to a lot of people, honestly, you know?
04:54So he was in a bind.
04:55He asked her to watch his kid for a couple hours.
04:59Yeah, no, it just really rubbed me the wrong way.
05:01And, like, I just see how this is going to go, right?
05:05Like, I see me becoming a de facto babysitter.
05:08Like, I've got a lot going on.
05:10It's just not something that I can do.
05:13Okay.
05:13Is this going to be a deal breaker for you, though?
05:15I mean, or if Andrew understands that boundary, would you be willing to go back out with him?
05:20It's a deal breaker.
05:21Like, I just see where it's going.
05:24I think it's better than just, you know.
05:26I mean, come on, Sean.
05:27Like, a whole month thrown away just because of that?
05:29I mean, like, better a month than, like, multiple months.
05:33It's just, that's not what I'm looking for.
05:37All right.
05:38Well, Shauna, thank you for your time this morning.
05:40Andrew, sorry it's not the answer you were looking for.
05:43I wish you both luck.
05:44You guys have a great day, okay?
05:46All right, you too.
05:48Yeah, big ask right there.
05:50Yeah, that is.
05:51Especially if she had not met the kid before.
05:54It'd be one thing if you're like, oh, yeah, we met several times.
05:56We hung out, you know, all three of us or whatever.
05:58And it's, like, you know, a comfortable thing.
06:01But that would just be an awkward situation to be in if she would have said yes.
06:04It is.
06:05I mean, I kind of understand where he was coming from, though.
06:07He was in a bind.
06:08He's, they've been talking for a month.
06:10I can kind of see where he's, like, probably wouldn't be a big deal.
06:14It's just like, hey, and he's 10 years old.
06:16He probably sits and plays on an iPad all day anyway, you know.
06:19So it's not like she had to do a lot.
06:21Just an adult to be there.
06:22Yeah, just still kind of an awkward situation.
06:24Where are you at on this?
06:26With this, we've been a deal breaker for you.
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