Brandon and Cayley Jenner’s Parenting Dos and Don’ts
Category
😹
FunTranscript
00:00 [MUSIC PLAYING]
00:03 Do you ever do dessert before dinner?
00:08 I do.
00:10 You're asking, like, the dessert--
00:12 I do.
00:12 --analogy.
00:15 Yeah, I mean, if it's fun and it's early enough
00:19 and it's, like, fruit dessert, sure.
00:22 Popsicle-- like, recently we did something
00:24 where we had the kids in the bath having popsicles,
00:27 and then they ate dinner after.
00:29 I mean, it depends on what the dessert is.
00:33 Yes.
00:34 If it's fruit, sure.
00:35 Yeah, let's have fruit before dinner.
00:37 Do you ever make something different for your kids
00:39 if they don't like what you made for, like, the main meal?
00:44 Sometimes.
00:45 Sometimes.
00:46 I really try not to, because I really
00:47 don't want to be, like, shorter to cook.
00:49 Like, Mom, I don't like this.
00:50 I want this.
00:52 Because, you know, sometimes-- like, Sam right now is,
00:55 like--
00:56 he's, like, loving, like, cereal or yogurt.
00:59 And sometimes it's like, no, buddy, you had it earlier.
01:02 We're not going to do that.
01:04 But no, I really try and--
01:06 I really try and, like, this is what we're serving.
01:08 This is what we're having.
01:09 And really, the thing, again, that helps with that
01:11 is, like, not--
01:13 making sure that they're ready to eat,
01:15 like, they're actually hungry.
01:17 Because then they're more prone to be, like, OK, sure.
01:19 I'm just going to eat what you're feeding me,
01:20 what you're serving.
01:21 Boom.
01:22 Yeah, that's my struggle with lately,
01:24 is being a short order cook.
01:25 That's right.
01:26 It's hard.
01:27 What's your policy on screen time?
01:29 Do you allow it?
01:30 Do you not allow it?
01:31 Do you give it a little bit?
01:33 We do a little bit of TV watching at our house.
01:36 And it's kind of, like, you know,
01:39 strategically put on when we've been outside for a while,
01:43 and I need to come in and get dinner going,
01:44 then I'll put the TV on.
01:47 That's the only screens they're looking at.
01:48 Like, iPads are something that are only ever brought out
01:52 when we're traveling.
01:53 So airplane, iPad, fine.
01:56 But that's it.
01:57 They don't even know where in the house they live.
02:00 But TV, for sure, as kind of like a, you know,
02:06 something that has staying power,
02:07 so that I can actually, like, get a few things done.
02:10 And we do like to, like, watch movies in bed at night.
02:13 Yeah.
02:14 They love that.
02:15 That's their favorite.
02:15 That's fun.
02:16 Are you ever going to let them watch your reality TV
02:18 show days, Brandon?
02:21 They can watch whatever they want to watch.
02:23 Exactly.
02:24 I mean, yeah, I won't have any rules around that.
02:27 I love that.
02:28 What are your rules for social media
02:29 when it comes to your kids?
02:30 Do you-- I mean, obviously, they're so young still.
02:33 But do they-- do you have, like, an age limit of when
02:36 you're going to, you know--
02:38 I think that it's really good to watch peers
02:40 and to try to be somewhere in the middle with regard
02:47 to when your kids get it.
02:48 I think a good rule of thumb is not the first, not the last
02:52 to get anything.
02:53 Mine is last.
02:54 Privileges are--
02:55 Social media last.
02:56 Sorry.
02:56 Yeah, well, maybe towards the end of--
02:58 you know, maybe on the back half.
03:00 But I think that that's just kind of the best way
03:03 to approach it is to-- you know, you
03:05 don't want them to be the first to get a phone,
03:07 and you don't want them to be the last to get a phone.
03:09 And then finally, how do you handle your toddler meltdowns?
03:13 Oh, man.
03:15 Wow.
03:15 These are good questions.
03:19 Just, you know, the more--
03:21 one, the more information you can give them
03:23 on why you're saying no or why you're taking something away
03:26 from them and why you're not allowing them something,
03:29 if you can get on their level and say, hey, buddy,
03:33 I just want to tell you why I'm saying no,
03:35 and give them a good reason, and give them all the information.
03:37 Sometimes kids, they just get frustrated because they
03:40 don't have all the information.
03:42 That worked really well with my daughter.
03:44 With the boys, it doesn't work as well.
03:48 But I do notice that it does help.
03:51 And then also, you know, just to recognize
03:53 that, like, everything in their life,
03:55 whether it's something that they come up to you and they say,
03:57 dad, I drew a circle, and they gave you--
04:00 you know, they give you a piece of paper, to them,
04:02 it's the most important thing in the world right now.
04:05 And the same thing with whatever tantrum they're throwing it
04:07 over.
04:07 So it's not like--
04:09 you know, you can't approach it with the same kind of timeline
04:13 that we operate on as adults.
04:14 You know, to them, it's their entire world in that one.
04:17 So to try to just have empathy, and try to be patient,
04:20 and to understand that this is something that will pass,
04:24 and to try to just understand their emotions, and--
04:29 right, don't you do that a lot, too?
04:31 I mean, I'm with you a little bit.
04:33 Give words to them.
04:35 I'm kind of saying less, and just going, like, I hear you.
04:39 I'm here.
04:39 I'm going to sit with you as much as I can.
04:42 Like, just-- to me, it's like a tantrum.
04:45 It's like, this kid is totally dysregulated,
04:48 cannot communicate, cannot be rational at all.
04:51 Their rational brain is off.
04:53 And so it's like-- or not even fully developed, really.
04:55 So to just, in the moment--
04:58 and it's really challenging.
04:59 Sometimes, as you know, like, you have young kids.
05:01 Sometimes it's like, OK, the time--
05:03 this is-- now is not the time.
05:04 We cannot do this.
05:05 We're in the market, or we're at a restaurant, or whatever.
05:07 But as much as you can, like, just kind of getting
05:09 on their level, and going, I hear you.
05:12 I know.
05:12 This sucks.
05:13 This is hard.
05:14 You're mad.
05:15 I'm going to sit here with you.
05:17 Like, that's something that I'm always trying--
05:19 always trying to do.
05:21 And it's hard.
05:22 But I think that's really just what they're
05:24 needing in the moment.
05:25 No, totally.
05:25 I agree with you.
05:26 It is hard.
05:26 But you get the--
05:28 That's what I do, too.
05:29 Well, that's what I do for him, too.
05:30 And he's having a meltdown.
05:32 Let me just sit here with you.
05:33 It's OK.
05:34 It's OK.
05:35 Same thing with my husband, as well.
05:36 I totally get it.
05:37 Right?