Is it necessary to be in a relationship? || Acharya Prashant
Video Information: NIT-Warangal, 30.03.2022, Greater Noida, India
Context:
How to maintain a good relationship?
What is the right time to be into a relationship?
What is relationship?
How to make relationship healthy?
When and how a relationship turns into a toxic relationship?
How to choose a life partner?
What is real love?
Is live-in relationship sign of degradation of our culture?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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#acharyaprashant #relationship #breakup
Context:
How to maintain a good relationship?
What is the right time to be into a relationship?
What is relationship?
How to make relationship healthy?
When and how a relationship turns into a toxic relationship?
How to choose a life partner?
What is real love?
Is live-in relationship sign of degradation of our culture?
Music Credits: Milind Date
~~~~~
#acharyaprashant #relationship #breakup
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00:00 Life and death depend on this discourse.
00:07 That's what makes the Gita special.
00:09 That's what is happening on the battlefield.
00:13 Beautiful, breathtaking, real.
00:16 Good evening, sir.
00:18 My name is Sudhanshu Kamsain.
00:24 I'm currently pursuing my B.Tech in civil engineering from IIT Warangal.
00:29 So my first question is that we see our friends are currently in relationships.
00:37 Meanwhile, we are not in any relationship.
00:41 But at the same time, we have to focus on our studies as well.
00:47 But inside us, there's a feeling which says like, you should be there in our relationship.
00:54 So is it really necessary to be in a relationship?
00:58 Or if not, then what is this feeling inside us?
01:03 See, the feeling inside is just the feeling every creature of flesh and blood has in its
01:15 youth.
01:17 It's just a physical thing.
01:22 Mother nature wants you to have a partner from the opposite sex and sooner or later
01:39 reproduce.
01:40 That's the feeling.
01:41 There's nothing more to that.
01:42 There is nothing mystical about that.
01:47 It's not coming from some unknown source.
01:55 It's a very obvious thing.
01:57 You watch the animals, you come to know.
02:00 Don't you see you didn't have this feeling just five or seven years back?
02:10 And that's pretty recent, right?
02:12 Just five years back, you would have been what, 13 or 15 and this kind of a feeling
02:20 would not have been there or wouldn't have been as intense at least.
02:25 And now you are 18 or 20 or something and maybe 22 and the feeling is stronger.
02:34 It is the age.
02:37 It is the age of the body.
02:38 It is the stage of the body.
02:40 Nothing more than that.
02:43 So not in that sense.
02:45 I mean, like we see our friends not in like moving, walking with their partners, talking
02:52 with them.
02:53 And like we are the feeling like is it jealousy or is it like the need like we have to share
02:59 our thoughts to someone?
03:02 You can share your thoughts with your male friends as well.
03:05 What's the point in asking for a girl?
03:11 See first of all, let's put the sham behind us as they say cut the crap.
03:19 It's not about sharing your emotions or thoughts or something.
03:24 It's just about sex.
03:26 We want to give it a more respectable face by talking of these things.
03:32 What do you go and do with her?
03:36 No, no, we two just sit down and talk and we share our lives.
03:42 That's for the first few days maybe to make things look respectable and moral.
03:50 And then there is just the banging on the bed.
03:52 Nothing more than that.
03:54 Right?
03:55 So, I don't know why there must be some confusion on that.
04:01 Is it not obviously clear what that feeling is all about?
04:07 See I am not denigrating it.
04:09 I am not asking you to be a celibate or something.
04:13 I am just answering clearly on what that desire is.
04:21 That desire has no depth.
04:25 That desire does not come from any other point.
04:30 And when you watch movies, they make it appear esoteric.
04:37 They want to also bring in some kind of a spiritual angle.
04:42 God sends down people in pairs.
04:46 There is somebody perfect waiting for you somewhere in the world.
04:51 Things like that.
04:52 So, you feel, "Oh, my life is incomplete and a special someone is hiding somewhere and
04:58 that special someone will make me complete."
05:02 And this kind of storm of thoughts simply obfuscates the obvious fact.
05:11 It is an animal thing and nothing more than that.
05:16 All the romance and the fairy tale-ish delusion you build around sex is just there to conceal
05:30 our animalism.
05:33 Nothing more than that.
05:34 And by that I repeat, I am not asking you to absolutely abstain from the other gender
05:43 or even sex.
05:46 But before you get into something, is it not important that you know what that thing is
05:50 very clearly?
05:52 This is that thing.
05:53 Nothing more than that.
05:54 So, suppose we assume what you are saying is correct.
06:00 No, no, you don't have to suppose.
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06:07 I didn't know that this was the feeling which is inside me.
06:12 So, let us assume this is the feeling.
06:15 Why do you want to assume?
06:17 Why don't you want to know?
06:20 This is the opportunity to learn, not to assume.
06:24 There can be other reasons as well, not this particular reason which you gave is the correct
06:32 one.
06:33 I am not getting you.
06:34 What are you saying?
06:35 Like you just told about the physical aspects about those feelings.
06:43 There may be other options as well which may be contradict your points or is it the only
06:54 reason?
06:55 No, you want me to say that there do exist three, four other reasons so that you can
07:01 say that your reasons come from that other set?
07:06 Don't you see what is happening within no self-awareness?
07:10 When I say that it is just an animal thing, it sounds so gross, so unworthy, so disrespectable
07:26 that you want to say, well, attraction towards a girl can come from some other center as
07:34 well.
07:35 So, let us explore the other centers.
07:38 Maybe there is a 0.01% probability that it may come from some other place.
07:43 But do you belong to 0.01 percentile in anything in life?
07:49 Then how will it happen that only in this matter you will belong to an especially exclusive
07:54 and elite club to which let's say Krishna and Radha belong?
08:01 And you want to discount the 99.99% probability, that is something you want to discount and
08:07 you want to hang on to hope, the 0.01% hope.
08:11 No, no, no, I am not chasing her just for sex.
08:15 It is for the sake of my enlightenment that I want to take her to bed.
08:22 Seriously?
08:23 Okay, sir.
08:24 So disappointed are you?
08:25 Even your voice has become feeble.
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08:27 See, I put a disclaimer in advance.
08:28 I am not saying all this to wean you away from girls.
08:29 I am just saying that you must know that when you are going after a girl, this is what you
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10:11 And there are people who say that.
10:13 You know, I am marrying because if I do not marry, you see, there would be population collapse.
10:17 Elon Musk has told us.
10:19 And Elon Musk anyway happens to be my best friend.
10:24 We went to the same detention center.
10:31 Okay, sir. Thank you, sir.
10:38 You are escaping. You are not learning.
10:41 No, sir. I exactly understood your point.
10:45 And I think maybe this is the reason.
10:50 Maybe.
10:51 I will more look into this.
10:54 See, it happens with people who raise these topics with me.
11:00 For a few weeks at least, girls will not appear attractive.
11:07 After that, you will lose all memory of this unfortunate incident.
11:12 You will try to forget this like a bad dream and get on with your usual life.
11:24 Alright.
11:28 Okay, sir. Thank you, sir.
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