NEVER STOP JUDGING!

Stefan Molyneux

Sunday Morning Live 21 April 2024  I share a humorous story of succumbing to carrot cake temptation while striving to avoid sugar, emphasizing the balance between willpower and occasional indulgence. The conversation covers food struggles, nutritional insights, and philosophical reflections. We touch on sugar substitutes, spinach myths, dating dynamics, and women's societal expectations. Delving into relationship complexities, divorce impacts, and attraction dynamics, we critique societal norms and discuss forgiveness, moral judgment, and accountability's significance.  Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!  Get my new series on the Truth About the French Revolution, the Truth About Sadism, access to the audiobook for my new book 'Peaceful Parenting,' StefBOT-AI, private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and more!  See you soon!  https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2022  https://fdrpodcasts.com/5476

Transcript

00:00:00 Good morning everybody, Stephen Mulaney from Free Domain. I start this show with a

00:00:07 confession of rank foundational moral weakness. I have caved and collapsed and

00:00:17 become utterly spineless in the face of a central principle. I have nothing to do

00:00:25 fundamentally but apologize to you for betraying everything and all that is

00:00:33 good, noble, kind, and holy in the field of morality. I have failed everything. I

00:00:39 failed everyone. I just gotta tell you why. So yeah, I think I think it's good. I

00:00:46 think it's good to hear somebody who's crumbled so that... did you return to

00:00:52 Twitter? No, it's worse than that. No, I it's good to know that I think it's good

00:00:57 to know that we all we all fail our ideals from time to time and it's okay.

00:01:03 It's just really important to try and be okay with that. It's just not not not

00:01:07 perfect. Can't get there. So give me give me a one to ten on how long you

00:01:15 want this story to be because I'll leave it up to you. If you've got tons of

00:01:18 questions I can keep it shorter.

00:01:23 But give me a one to ten. How long do you want the story to be? Honestly if you've

00:01:28 read Almost you know that I can stretch a story out for quite some time. Four?

00:01:33 Right in the middle. Right in the middle. Yeah, we could do that.

00:01:38 You're all you're all wanting it. Oh ten now don't do ten. Ten will cause us all

00:01:45 to lose chunks of our lives.

00:01:49 So a little piece of free domain trivia. A little piece of free domain trivia.

00:01:54 Hello Tara, nice to see you. Hello Philip, nice to see you. 27. Well that's a

00:02:01 little out of bounds. A little out of bounds. If it's about, one if it's

00:02:05 about food. So what is my what is my weakness with food? What is my nemesis?

00:02:13 What is you know because I've been an off sugar kind of guy. At least off added

00:02:17 sugar. What kind of guy for I don't know three three or four months. Now and what

00:02:23 I've been really good. I had I had one little bowl of ice cream and that was

00:02:28 about it. It's not cheesecake. No I like cheesecake. Boy you know way back in the

00:02:32 day a business that's really struggling right now it's Red Lobster but they used

00:02:37 to have this vanilla bean cheesecake that was just fantastic. Yes carrot cake.

00:02:42 Nature the way that God and Satan combined to intend. No it's it's carrot

00:02:47 cake. In in particular that cream cheese carrot cake icing that is just

00:02:51 absolutely fantastic. So we had I don't know like 20 people over yesterday and

00:02:59 one of them is a legit like cordon bleu cook or chef or whatever and she made a

00:03:08 cheesecake. Which is fine but then she brought the cheesecake and my wife

00:03:13 refused to tackle her in the driveway to make sure that it didn't get anywhere

00:03:17 near me. And then my wife did not hide it in her own armpits or I don't know in

00:03:22 her pants or something. But I got to see the cheesecake and so on and I I took a

00:03:29 long pause when I looked at the cheesecake and I don't think Jezebel or

00:03:34 Harlot came out of my mouth but it was definitely I felt like I was in a

00:03:40 beautiful garden and a snake had told a woman make some

00:03:47 cheesecake wave it in front of him. And I felt that the cheesecake contained

00:03:54 virtue wisdom strength knowledge youth hair all the things that would be would

00:04:01 be pretty good to consume or to to embody. And actually at some point I did

00:04:06 try the cheesecake and I said I feel awkward because I want to tearfully

00:04:10 embrace you but I'm not sure that would be appropriate because it was so good.

00:04:14 You know when you haven't had something for a while and then you have it and

00:04:18 it's like oh yeah this is why I used to do a lot of that. It's really good. So

00:04:27 yeah it was fantastic.

00:04:31 I know amount of begging could have her take it with her when she left. Anyway

00:04:35 it's kind of funny but it was a fun day.

00:04:39 All right let's get to your question. So to be to be long and short I had I had a

00:04:44 a not a not unsizeable chunk of cheesecake and I think I consumed a fair

00:04:55 amount of cheesecake and drool which is you know not the best combination. Yeah

00:05:00 if the forbidden tree was a cheesecake tree I would have committed the original sin.

00:05:04 Well that mean that that would be just cheating like God would just be cheating

00:05:08 if he gave you a cheesecake tree like this just be wrong. A pumpkin cheesecake?

00:05:12 No this is an American thing right? It's an American thing like whatever you like

00:05:17 just pumpkin coca-cola like whatever you like just add pumpkin to it. You all

00:05:21 gotta stop. It's unhealthy. It's just wrong. It's just wrong. So anyway I could

00:05:29 have stretched that out but man and now so basically if you've read or seen Lord

00:05:35 of the Rings there's a great description of Frodo's if you read the books

00:05:41 Frodo when he gets close to Mount Doom the wheel of fire the ring of fire the

00:05:46 ring has turned into a ring of fire is constantly turning in his head and

00:05:48 eclipses everything else so right now in terms of brain activity about two to two

00:05:54 and a half percent of my brain activity is focusing on philosophy and the

00:05:57 livestream but 97.5 to 98 percent of my brain is mentally rotating the

00:06:06 cheesecake that's in the fridge and trying to figure out

00:06:11 how I can get there sooner rather than later so you need to get an emergency

00:06:17 mask muscle I should get one of those I don't know but you could fit it through

00:06:20 that's a problem you get one of those Hannibal Lecter face like don't you

00:06:23 people face muscles but I can I can pretty much get carrot cake through that

00:06:28 it's fairly fungible hmm fudge so I'm sure here's the thing I'm when you cut

00:06:35 out a food group the bacteria at least me the bacteria in your gut are like I

00:06:40 will make you pay I was talking about this with some friends yesterday it's

00:06:45 like hey because they were you know we were talking about food and

00:06:52 my I was like my gut bacteria is like hey nice stable mood you got there be a

00:06:58 shame if something happened to it so you know you give us some sugar everything

00:07:03 will be fine oh my gut bacteria that's used to the sugar it was like yeah be

00:07:07 fine man nothing bad's gonna happen you'll you'll stay on an even keel you

00:07:12 won't be filled with alternating dizzying extremes of rage terror fear

00:07:17 and lust just give us some sugar man we'll be on our way everything's gonna

00:07:22 be fine you can just relax and enjoy your day just a little bit of sugar

00:07:25 whereas if you don't give them their sugar they're like all right hey man if

00:07:29 the fire starts in your record store you know we told you we'd keep it out but

00:07:35 that's just the way that it is how did you feel after eating the cake well

00:07:39 unfortunately I felt fantastic it was great it was great it was great it's you

00:07:47 know for some people I don't know like I talked to a guy who quit smoking and

00:07:50 he's like I just stopped wanting a cigarette that I'm around the smell of

00:07:53 cigarette smoke and it's gross and I don't even want to smoke anymore

00:07:56 although he did say that when you quit smoking there should be warnings on

00:08:00 television like warning a cigarette that is about 20 foot long will be smoked

00:08:05 right in front of you and you'll hear that sound and all of that but he's like

00:08:10 oh yeah I don't have any desire for it anymore and I was like hmm four months

00:08:14 no added sugar have some added sugar it's even better than I remember I mean

00:08:21 I'm still committed and I'll go back to no sugar added but yeah

00:08:27 because I'm not doing I don't want to and I obviously don't want to substitute

00:08:30 those weird space sugars of quote sugars like what is that erythritol sucralose

00:08:38 aspartame monk fruit there's just a bunch of freaky stuff I can't I can't

00:08:43 get there I can't get there I can't get to the fake stuff it just it feels weird

00:08:52 it feels like there's just something fundamentally wrong with it so stevia

00:08:56 yeah that stevia is plant-based and all of that but I just it feels wrong it

00:09:01 feels wrong for something to taste super sweet and yeah I broke down well you

00:09:11 know what here's the thing I mean I think I've taken I've taken here nine

00:09:15 minutes of responsibility and that's more than enough for anyone on any given

00:09:19 month so so here's the thing let me let me explain it to you in a way that that

00:09:28 I'm not even gonna pretend the purpose is gonna be obvious so I was raised

00:09:31 British and I went to boarding school and so to me it's very polite now if a

00:09:37 literal quote-unblue chef has slaved over a carrot cake and brought it to

00:09:43 your house

00:09:46 I mean it's it's just rude to not eat it I mean it's just rude so of course I

00:09:55 personally didn't want to eat it but I felt that basic civilized politeness you

00:10:03 know the kind of politeness and consideration that props up human

00:10:06 society as a whole I was like at the shrug to put the entire weight of social

00:10:10 convention on my shoulders and

00:10:15 I just felt that if I were to metaphorically hurl this cheesecake back

00:10:21 at this woman's face first of all she'd probably enjoy it I know I would but

00:10:25 secondly it would be like well the entire edifice of civilization could

00:10:30 come crumbling down because that kind of rudeness and

00:10:34 selfishness and lack of consideration for her considerable efforts and

00:10:37 thoughtfulness

00:10:40 would cause a tear in the social space-time fabric through which an

00:10:45 infant cavalcade of demons would come Cirque du Soleil tumbling through so the

00:10:51 stakes were quite high Italian grandmothers will hold you at gunpoint

00:10:55 until you eat yes yes so for me it was I could have some carrot cake or

00:11:04 the demons of rudeness could pour through the rip in the space-time

00:11:08 continuum and yeah I was forced by courtesies absolutely it's very much

00:11:14 like if you're in the royal court and you don't courtesy to the Queen you can

00:11:18 lose your head and there is just that level of politeness that is essential

00:11:24 for a functioning high-trust society so I just I just I took the bullet I I

00:11:32 bravely stepped up cue the cue the marine horns of heroism I bravely stepped

00:11:42 up against all that was rebelling within my nature I opened wide and took the

00:11:48 face full of carrot cake sugar bullets for the cause of civilization it is just

00:11:55 the way that it is and sometimes you have to sacrifice yourself for the core

00:12:01 sometimes you will be deplatformed for telling the truth and sometimes you will

00:12:07 stick your entire face in a pan of carrot cake in order to maintain

00:12:11 civilization see this is why I need the philosophy so much this is why I

00:12:15 desperately need philosophy so much because I can talk myself into just

00:12:19 about anything that's the problem with being intelligent and creative and

00:12:22 language-based if you live in a world of language you can talk yourself into just

00:12:26 about anything so that's why I need philosophy because I can court myself

00:12:31 into yeah for king and country boofs face it to carrot cake that's right I

00:12:38 regret that I have but one pancreas to give for civilization

00:12:44 type 2 diabetes is worse I'm sure that it is I'm fairly sure one piece of

00:12:51 carrot cake is not gonna get me type 2 diabetes that's just my general thought

00:12:56 sim says I've just been burning so many calories these last 27 days now still

00:13:00 have my overall carb consumption very low and probably could use a little bit

00:13:03 of glycogen glycogen glycogen next few days carrot cake sometimes is made way

00:13:10 too sweet but when you're done right it's so good all right

00:13:14 listen um I mean politeness has to be enforced with some very strict social

00:13:21 standards there's no point being polite if being rude that means that there's

00:13:26 no blowback so listen clear tape I I understand the sentiment through which

00:13:31 you're coming but let me tell you something it is

00:13:37 1117 on a Sunday morning we're in the Church of philosophy

00:13:43 and you blasphemed I'm sorry to I'm sorry to inform you you have imperiled

00:13:48 your very soul with a blaspheme a blasphemy a heresy that cuts right to

00:13:54 the core of any reasonable sugar-based religion so when you say something like

00:14:00 carrot cake sometimes is made way too sweet

00:14:05 I mean that really is the equivalent of saying somebody can just be too honest

00:14:11 brave and moral somebody can be too full of rational virtues it is it is saying

00:14:18 that the midpoint between axe murdering and non axe murdering is only some axe

00:14:24 murdering that's I I wish you the best in the salvation of your soul but I

00:14:32 cannot help you anymore I hate carrot cake oh the blasphemies are spreading

00:14:38 oh you hate virtue Oh

00:14:45 Oh

00:14:47 you see this is the moodiness I was talking about I have one piece of sugar

00:14:52 and I'm up and down like the Assyrian Empire all right all right let's make a

00:14:57 bunch of carrot cakes yes that's right lead me further into temptation boy I

00:15:01 really have unplugged the reverse sewage of rank corruption at this point haven't

00:15:05 I

00:15:07 no greater love hath a man than to lay down his pancreas his life for his

00:15:12 fellow baker and I don't bake much though I don't make much though I serve

00:15:16 morality by eating that cake yeah yeah UPB universally preferable

00:15:22 boofing into the carrot cake UPB that's the way it is

00:15:26 all right let's see here

00:15:29 oh you don't need to apologize to me like I appreciate that it's really the

00:15:38 universe and virtue itself that you need to have you ever had carrot salad what

00:15:43 are you people doing don't go from carrot cake to carrot salad then I both

00:15:47 drool and recoil at the same time I'm gonna get a saliva whiplash that could

00:15:51 take out an eyeball mmm sugar zucchini cake I don't know

00:15:56 what it is with zucchini as well we got bread nice bread I'm gonna add zucchini

00:16:01 to it hi why

00:16:06 hi what it's interesting because with carrot cake you both serve your eyeballs

00:16:10 with the carrot and kill your eyeballs with the diabetes so it's tough

00:16:15 it's time yeah I've got that that meme straight to jail straight to jail

00:16:20 yeah so

00:16:23 vegetables don't belong in cake gosh I

00:16:32 do not do not anger the great gods of sugar they will inflict much stomach

00:16:37 upset upon me so I I don't I don't want to be near the ground zero of diabetes

00:16:44 when retribution comes to you I don't know it's very strange we need

00:16:50 philosophical confession booths well I wanted to be honest I wanted to be

00:16:53 honest about you know and here's the thing is there's this great line from

00:17:00 from friends where the character Joey takes another woman's takes his dates

00:17:05 food after she tells him not to and he's like completely covered in her dessert

00:17:09 or something and he's like I'm not even sorry and that's the thing too you know

00:17:13 I I guess I betrayed my willpower resolution and principles but the carrot

00:17:16 cake was so good I'm like I'm not even sorry like even today I'm like I'm not

00:17:20 going back on sugar or anything like but even today I'm like yeah totally worth

00:17:25 it totally worth it if you're gonna do it right if if you're gonna break

00:17:30 it break for cordon bleu carrot cake made from scratch at home that day like

00:17:34 that's where you want to go like that's what you want to do you don't you don't

00:17:39 like you know find half an M&Ms on the sidewalk and like mmm no no no if you're

00:17:44 gonna if you're gonna crumble crumble from on high into something really deep

00:17:49 that's my thing how will you make amends to the universe

00:17:53 maybe you should buy us all carrot cake well I'm not sure that spreading the

00:17:59 carrot cake would help not consuming carrot cake as a whole so

00:18:05 I would agree when somebody puts in so much effort on something even if they

00:18:11 are cool about it they'll be kind of disappointed if it was all for naught

00:18:13 I'm sure you violating a no sugar stance with the great compliment in and of

00:18:16 itself well so honestly I and just like in all seriousness I I don't know

00:18:25 carrot cake is recognized by the FDA as a vegetable oh no doubt greetings from

00:18:30 Switzerland well hello hello hello hello

00:18:34 so in all seriousness I I view it as a little have you had this thing like so

00:18:47 this woman and she's a really nice person wonderful a woman a great cook

00:18:51 and like trained and all of that and she made me this carrot cake am I gonna say

00:18:57 I'm sorry I'm off sugar I think wouldn't that just be that would be kind of weird

00:19:02 to me and I don't know exactly why but it would be kind of weird and I think a

00:19:07 little precious well thanks for the effort I think I'll have a piece of

00:19:10 carrot cake I'm not allergic I'm not gonna die

00:19:14 so to me it was and it was fantastic I mean it was so good it was so good and

00:19:21 but it to me it would be like well thank you for all this effort because I can

00:19:26 eat it I can eat it I can eat it it's not gonna kill me and I'm not gonna be

00:19:30 like like that I don't know the alcoholic who has one drink and then

00:19:35 goes right back to living on the streets it's like okay look I can have a piece

00:19:38 of carrot cake that was so good and that doesn't mean that I'm now on sugar so

00:19:47 yeah I and and it was very thoughtful it was very nice very nice

00:19:53 I mean it wasn't like she's like hey let's go rob a bank and I'm like well

00:20:00 maybe just this once you're not binging now no no

00:20:08 but yeah it was very good ah look at that everybody wanted a long story and

00:20:14 there you go there you go

00:20:19 and it's funny too because it was so good you know there's like okay well

00:20:23 that's why it's a do you have something in your life like a desire that you just

00:20:28 have trouble managing and the best thing to do is just avoid

00:20:33 I think for me mindless like if if you if you put a bowl of you know chocolate

00:20:44 covered nuts and I'm watching something on TV like I'll just I'll just munch and

00:20:49 I'm like oh and now I've eaten the bowl and half of my hand I didn't even

00:20:53 notice so do you have that with soda yeah some of you some of you carrot

00:20:58 cake so that's the kind of thing and it's

00:21:02 because or or chips and dip right like like chips and dip I could just like man

00:21:07 I'm just keep going on that until it's like I can barely stand up because

00:21:11 apparently I'm about to give birth to Ireland I've had so much potato product

00:21:15 so yeah I just just better not to have the stuff in the house and all of that

00:21:20 oh you have cashews ice cream yeah ice cream oh yeah cuz that you can just and

00:21:24 do this thing where it's like oh just have a little bit just have a tiny

00:21:28 little bit but then it's around and you just keep oh you have that with bacon I

00:21:33 get full on bacon pretty quickly

00:21:38 and with bacon it's tough to find the real tipping point too soft and gooey

00:21:43 it's just a bag of oil too over crispy and it's like you're eating Egyptian

00:21:48 charcoal from the Ming Ming time frame you're a pasta whore yeah yeah you can

00:21:55 just say you're Italian coffee yeah when you cut when your caffeine

00:22:02 consumption gets super high that morning coffee is less about getting an energy

00:22:06 boost more about staving off yeah it's a mat staving off the caffeine headache

00:22:09 right Oh trail mix yeah yeah yeah Oh cured meats with crackers and cheese oh

00:22:14 yeah oh yeah that kind of stuff is really good you know the plates right

00:22:20 what do they call it that I can't remember the name came and went in my

00:22:24 head but it's like you know the plate of of dried meats dried fruit or cured

00:22:30 meats dried fruit crackers cheese and all that kind of stuff I could easily

00:22:33 eat over a pound of bacon in one sitting Wow you know that's what they call

00:22:38 picking out now I was it yesterday I got into a fight with one three five seven

00:22:46 and nine odds were totally against me caffeine withdrawals are the worst well

00:22:52 I I'll have to tell you now it's not a platter there's a it's like rotisserie

00:22:57 or profiterole it's some some plate as a whole is usually it comes on a wooden a

00:23:04 wooden plate carrot cake muffins yeah was it many years ago somebody was

00:23:11 saying it's basically just cake for breakfast charcuterie yeah there you go

00:23:14 thank you thank you Jared appreciate that thank you the brain like my brain

00:23:18 was like it's got Molly my polysyllables it probably not an English word and it

00:23:22 has to do with meat

00:23:25 you

00:23:27 yeah carrot cat so yeah muffins it's just cake muffins it just cake that's

00:23:34 what somebody said and did you have this moment I'm sorry we'll get to the

00:23:37 philosophy in a sec you have this moment in life where somebody tells you

00:23:41 something about nutrition and you're like damn I wish I didn't know that like

00:23:44 I remember when somebody first told me that bread was fattening I was like no

00:23:48 rewind rewind I actually took a fork into my nasal passages and tried to find

00:23:54 that piece of information and remove it but it didn't it didn't didn't work but

00:24:00 I remember hearing about that I also remember somebody saying to me that that

00:24:05 oh yes a Caesar salad can have more calories than a dessert and I'm like no

00:24:13 it's salad

00:24:16 fresh break bed is heaven yes it is basically I'm just gonna show you by a

00:24:22 new microphone let me short-circuit this one with the drool I do not like

00:24:27 American bread too much

00:24:31 especially in Florida there's something about the bread in Florida that

00:24:38 was this there was some movie where this rather fae assistant was saying to

00:24:43 someone like the feng shui in this office is like all wrong everything's

00:24:48 facing like evil and it's the same thing with American bread particularly Florida

00:24:53 bread and what's that old joke about what's the difference between having sex

00:24:58 in a canoe and American beer well they're both effing close to water

00:25:02 before or after you add dressing I'm sorry I'm not even gonna answer that

00:25:06 question I'm not even gonna answer that question that's too obvious I feel that

00:25:11 way with trail mix I figured a nice healthy snack but the calories are

00:25:14 insane I still have a hard time believing it oh yeah yeah my daughter is

00:25:18 like are you eating nuts here's the calorie count here's the fat count I'm

00:25:22 like but protein not worth it so yeah nuts are just a way of keeping you

00:25:30 going until you can get to some meat

00:25:34 so when I when I lived in Montreal for four years except for the summers because

00:25:38 I didn't speak French well enough to work there but I lived in Montreal for

00:25:41 four years I did two years at the National Theatre School and I did two

00:25:43 years at McGill to finish my undergraduate in history and I lived

00:25:50 over a bagel shop like authentic straight from Israel

00:26:01 bagel shop and you could I could go down in the morning and I could get you know

00:26:10 a couple of the raised cinnamon raisin bagels with some cream cheese was just

00:26:16 fantastic and when you've had that kind of stuff in life where you've had like

00:26:19 the real authentic stuff and and the smell would waft up I'd wake up in carb

00:26:27 heaven my mouth would be drooling and my

00:26:31 pancreas would be frightened and French baguette with olive oil

00:26:38 you go to these restaurants sometimes and they bring you this absolutely

00:26:41 fantastic bread with that engine oil castor refuse gruel that they have oh

00:26:47 it's it's sandy oil it's like I just want some butter man what do you give me

00:26:52 this oil for I don't need lubrication okay I'm over 50 maybe I do but I'm not

00:26:57 taking it that way

00:27:00 peanut butter is a good source of protein oh

00:27:05 okay I'm gonna go to the source here

00:27:33 no no like I hear where you're coming from I really do I hear where you're

00:27:37 coming from and I very foolishly made that same claim to my daughter at one

00:27:40 point and I think I think the lecture went on for no no I think it's still

00:27:49 going on actually I think it was a couple of weeks ago that I mentioned

00:27:51 that and the the lecture is still it's look it sort of reminds me when I was a

00:27:57 teenager I was trying to defrost the fridge and I was using a hammer and a

00:28:03 screwdriver and I hit the freon and the freon just kept coming out so yeah sorry

00:28:08 is there something that you wanted to to mention peanut butter two tablespoons

00:28:13 small amount for those who don't do like baking and stuff like that it's not a

00:28:17 lot you can come to here come to here so they can hear you all right right two

00:28:22 tablespoons of peanut butter not a big amount very small 210 calories and 18

00:28:28 gram or sorry and 7 grams of protein so that's a lot that's not a lot for 200 no

00:28:35 I mean the calories yeah the calories yes but I'm talking from the protein to

00:28:40 calorie ratio technically anything could be high in protein if you ignore the

00:28:44 amount of calories in it like take I'm gonna make us like a really dumb example

00:28:49 take like vegetables if you get like 20 cups of spinach yeah you're probably

00:28:55 gonna have like 15 grams of protein but it's also gonna be a ridiculously high

00:29:00 amount of calories I'm just making an example so it is just high in calories

00:29:04 no it's not just not high in calories you have 20 cups of it okay right right

00:29:08 but all I'm saying is that you have to look at the protein to calorie ratio

00:29:12 because anything could be high in protein if you make it a large enough

00:29:17 amount or if you exclude the calories on it of it so what a lot of people don't

00:29:21 know is that when Izzy and I go to the grocery store she's constantly tackling

00:29:24 me and trying to bring me down sometimes with biting when I'm standing in front

00:29:28 of granola bars is that is that a fair way to put or no no even more those like

00:29:33 health bars what are they the they're in a separate section huh so there's the

00:29:38 granola bars which I will occasionally turn around and slowly weep yeah but

00:29:42 then there's like the the the other bars that are more like the health bars or

00:29:47 the exercise bars yeah yeah so I also will go there yes but it's got space

00:29:56 weird freaky sugar in it so yes spinach equals oxalates they're just making up

00:30:01 words now it's not blasphemy I'm holding a jar of peanut butter and reading off

00:30:08 the protein to calorie ratio I think Lara bars are okay in terms of

00:30:15 ingredients yeah they're not that bad I just wouldn't do it because for me at

00:30:21 least they're too small and they're not filling but yeah obviously that's

00:30:26 up to everyone so calories are a measure of tasting food no it is not a measure

00:30:30 what are you on about um so what you're telling me is if I eat enough carrot

00:30:34 cake I'll get protein yes that's exactly like saying peanut butter is a good

00:30:37 source of protein technically carrot cake is a good source of protein if you

00:30:40 have like three slices of it I'll be right back you may get maybe 10 to 20

00:30:44 grams of protein depending on the recipe and stuff like that but the calories

00:30:48 you'll probably getting like 1500 so that's all I'm saying they've been

00:30:52 trolling me all morning ever since I confessed to eating carrot cake it's been

00:30:55 going on I'm guaranteed a protein to calorie ratio thanks Izzy of course I'm

00:31:02 so Douglas you thanking Izzy for spoiling everything that you eat is

00:31:06 blasphemy to me I'm not spoiling it's called honesty and health and all that

00:31:11 those meal bars are just so dry though do you find that I like them a lot what

00:31:16 I do is I put them in the microwave almond butter is like almost the exact

00:31:20 same it's literally just a different nut in fact I think there might be less

00:31:23 protein and almond with peanut butter first of all I mean I think peanut

00:31:27 butter for guys is not particularly great you can look that up yourself but

00:31:30 I find for me if I just take them some peanut butter massages straight into my

00:31:34 middle-aged back fat it just saves one step the amino acid profile is

00:31:38 incomplete though okay now you're just making up things what does that even

00:31:41 mean the amino acid profile I don't know what he's referencing about both spinach

00:31:45 carrot cake protein bars of our bars and and peanut butter now I'm hun I'm hungry

00:31:50 for the most random meal in the known universe almond butter is even worse for

00:31:54 two tablespoons it's 203 calories and 4.8 grams of protein it's worse wait is

00:32:00 that not just elements almond butter do they add oil to it yeah because if it

00:32:05 was just almonds there would be no butter just powder really right right

00:32:08 I'm sorry is he just destroyed my childhood well he's just not destroying

00:32:13 your adulthood yeah anyways hang on I introduced my kids to contains bio

00:32:20 engineering ingredients yeah yeah that's right oh yeah dude that sucks well you

00:32:24 know when we it's when when the ingredients list like is volume one scan

00:32:29 online for more and it takes out half the internet full tip is if it is like a

00:32:33 big list of ingredients look at like the first three or four because that's gonna

00:32:36 make up the majority of the product right um obviously this isn't for

00:32:40 everything it varies from product to product but if you'll get the first

00:32:43 three or four and they're relatively good ingredients a few chemicals towards

00:32:47 the end are probably more for preservatives yeah yeah so it really

00:32:50 depends look I think mom's waiting on me so I gotta go but yes wait just a moment

00:32:55 somebody says what about tahini so he is what is that better it's kind of like

00:33:02 spicy sauce I can oh somebody says now I want peanut butter cheesecake so high in

00:33:09 protein that's got to be American because Americans like these two foods

00:33:14 are good let's put them together two tablespoons are 178 calories and 5.2

00:33:19 grams of protein it's really kind of the same thing as peanut butter if you just

00:33:22 had a bit more but what is tiny you made it honestly I can't be 100% sure I

00:33:27 definitely know there's nuts in it I know there's some sort of spice so I'm

00:33:29 wondering if pepper or something like that amino acid profile that's just a

00:33:34 drug lipid calories or carbohydrate calories I don't know what that means

00:33:38 oxalates are natural compounds found in vegetables fruits nuts and grains some

00:33:42 examples of foods that are highest in oxalates yeah yeah yeah but that doesn't

00:33:46 tell us what they are this thing is found inside something else that doesn't

00:33:49 tell me what it is to break down other nutrients I can't be 100% I have not

00:33:53 looked up sesame so spinach and peanut butter is the best protein meal okay

00:33:58 don't don't draw her no I'll pay the price load carrot cake to that and

00:34:03 peanut butter whatever that is even natural flavoring is a sham is that true

00:34:08 it can be yeah aids and beef definitely good sources of protein yeah beef more

00:34:12 so than eggs but sesame seeds sesame butter

00:34:18 sesame seed butter no there's still like five grams of protein for every two

00:34:24 tablespoons and like 180 calories chicken breasts with salt black pepper

00:34:29 and some lemon juice oh but it's so boring no but it's good it's like it's

00:34:33 like eating that's what was in it no I remember the Brussels sprouts yeah

00:34:39 there's air fried Brussels sprouts that was a way of trying to take Brussels

00:34:42 sprouts out of the category of evil all right I'm a thanks is he appreciate it I

00:34:47 just didn't want to fight that fight alone thank you

00:34:51 some dieticians and nutritionists call things like oxalates anti-nutrients

00:34:57 tiny a sesame seeds butter yeah honestly if it's got chicken thighs are better

00:35:02 than chicken breasts you know I don't care to hear about your fetishes

00:35:08 you

00:35:10 falafel and hummus is great yeah fried chickpeas fantastic fantastic

00:35:16 but it's always got to have that sauce it's so good

00:35:21 what was it as Andrew Tate the other day was tweeting like he hates eating it's

00:35:24 just an annoying thing he's a refuel guy and I I really do take quite a deal quite

00:35:30 I take a little bit too much pleasure in eating sometimes so yeah and Izzy's is

00:35:37 demanding to make all my meals and it's really really nice actually it's really

00:35:41 nice and

00:35:46 she she knows her stuff man she knows her stuff she can debate nutrition until

00:35:51 the universe cools all right all right so we get to some philosophy because I

00:35:58 know some people eat to live I live to eat yeah I'm sort of halfway between the

00:36:03 two but I've never figured out how to fix the problem of growing up poor and

00:36:10 hungry to the point where I don't just want to eat all the time what was the

00:36:16 point of Popeye eating spinach to troll the boomers into eating spinach when

00:36:19 they were kids so as far as I understand it and this is from vague memory but I

00:36:24 think that

00:36:27 let me just I'm gonna check this actually Jared if you can check this if

00:36:31 you're around or James I think that they made a typo on the amount of nutrients

00:36:36 in spinach and so a lot of the boomer parents thought it was a superfood when

00:36:39 it was actually just a typo I think it was iron or something like that where

00:36:43 they just they'd slipped a digit they fat fingered and and everybody thought

00:36:46 it was this crazy superfood when it's not really and not really the case

00:36:52 spinach is full of beta eck disaron it makes you buff okay again you just you

00:36:59 just face plant to get the keyboard there I don't think that's a real word

00:37:02 I'm just getting trolled at this point I mean more than more than usual

00:37:06 evolution made us able to eat and digest almost anything everything without harm

00:37:10 yes but we didn't evolve with erythritol and aspartame yeah I mean the problem

00:37:16 with also is that I think that new the food just doesn't taste as good anymore

00:37:20 I mean we talked about this the other day food just didn't take it just doesn't

00:37:25 taste as good anymore I mean it's terrible Steph feeds us good philosophy

00:37:30 easy feeds us good food and nutrition so but yeah I think that the spinach thing

00:37:36 was just kind of like this odd typo that happened I could be wrong but that's

00:37:43 what I remember because yeah I mean I remember growing up with a kid eat your

00:37:47 spinach spinach liver now liver is really good for you though as far as I

00:37:50 understand it though liver has some real pluses when it comes to that all right

00:37:55 let's do some actual honest-to-goodness philosophy dear Steph any tips on how to

00:38:00 find some sort of happiness and contentment post-divorce I don't want to

00:38:04 be quote desperate for a woman how to single adults find some sort of

00:38:09 okayness I have my two kids 50/50 and it's good

00:38:11 don't know donation will come of course

00:38:16 lysine is a good sugar substitute Steph and good for you never heard of that

00:38:23 I've heard glycerin but mostly on burn notice breakfast cereals are the worst

00:38:28 they absolutely are they absolutely are just terrible as a whole

00:38:34 so yes the popularity of spinach as a health food was indeed influenced by an

00:38:39 error famously connected to the character Popeye the Sailor the story

00:38:43 goes that a misplaced decimal point in an 1870 study by German chemist Eric

00:38:47 von Wolff led to the belief that spinach had ten times more iron than it actually

00:38:51 does this error purportedly remained uncorrected until the 1930s yeah yeah

00:38:57 yeah it's it was just right liver is the body's filter it contains all the

00:39:01 toxins which are filtered out of blood that's why it tastes so terrible but

00:39:04 isn't it good for you isn't it pretty good for you or was that just another

00:39:07 lie like have you caught a little royal good morning sir first time attending

00:39:11 live stream ah excellent monk fruit monk fruit monk fruit extract is a good

00:39:17 artificial sweetener yeah maybe Popeye was actually based on a real person I

00:39:23 think it was the uncle or grandpa the person who created the character well

00:39:25 all of the vivid characters are based on real people did you know that there was

00:39:28 actually a Batman like a rich guy who dressed up in a bat suit to fight crime

00:39:32 and you know that the the Shrek the character Shrek was actually based on a

00:39:36 real guy who kind of looked like Shrek like all the best characters are based

00:39:39 on real people liver is not good for you is that right

00:39:42 is that right

00:39:47 red pirate says liver has a lot of nutrients but it also has a ton of

00:39:50 toxins the poison always wins all right so hit me with I don't know how

00:39:57 are we gonna divvy this up

00:40:00 s for single L for long-term n for marriage long-term relationship like

00:40:05 more than a year right s for single L for long-term M for marriage what do we

00:40:09 got what do we got here and I'll check the various platforms as well s for

00:40:12 single L for long-term relationship M for married

00:40:18 married married let's check in various places

00:40:25 oh I like the lowercase s that's very self-effacing

00:40:32 I'm married married single single single single single long-term relationship

00:40:39 married single married long-term relationship long-term relationship

00:40:43 all right let me just check elsewhere let me go single single married married

00:40:49 right okay okay so

00:40:56 yeah the Popeye cartoons were 40s and 50s I think but once the era has been

00:41:01 concentrated it takes a long time to unravel because once the spinach

00:41:05 manufacturers are have ground up and once the parents have made their kids

00:41:10 eat spinach and once they're used to buying it I mean who's gonna be

00:41:14 interested in correcting that and getting that out and all of that right

00:41:17 this is why this stuff tends to mean that's that myth was still around when I

00:41:20 was a kid in the 60s and 70s

00:41:27 polygamist solo lifelong MLM what are we doing multi-level

00:41:35 marketing now is that is that the deal right right

00:41:40 all right good to know good to know and hit me with a D if you could hit me with

00:41:50 a D if you've ever been divorced

00:41:57 hit me with a D if you've ever been divorced

00:42:03 I have not

00:42:20 have you been divorced no okay so not much

00:42:26 somebody says we evolved to eat every part of the animals we hunted that's why

00:42:29 our body needs the nutrients also from liver and other organs yeah do you

00:42:32 remember this this the indigenous population of North America used every

00:42:35 part of the buffalo do you know it was a total lie what a total lie they

00:42:39 literally would drive buffalo off cliffs and then just eat what they felt like and

00:42:42 move on it's complete waste not a complete but mostly excuse me mostly a

00:42:47 waste all right

00:42:51 so um

00:42:55 with regards to I don't want to be desperate for a woman

00:43:01 why not

00:43:04 oh I think I know why you'd have that perspective I think I think I think well

00:43:11 the liver King diet didn't that guy get into some severe trouble for not being

00:43:17 completely on the up-and-up again I'm going from memory but I think that guy I

00:43:23 did not was not totally on the up-and-up with regards to certain aspects of his

00:43:29 health program do I remember that rightly all right so I don't want to be

00:43:34 desperate for a woman so why not why not

00:43:41 because you perceive that your desperation for a woman got you into a

00:43:47 bad marriage where you got divorced right

00:43:51 so I don't know what the hostility or fear or anxiety is in the future going

00:44:07 forward to not be desperate for a woman I mean I was go crazy

00:44:15 now I'm wife crazy but in the past I was go crazy thought about girls planned on

00:44:22 girls went to the gym to attract girls got a cool haircuts to attract girls

00:44:26 dress cool to attract girls started a garage band to attract girls and so I

00:44:34 mean desperate for a woman I mean aren't we all isn't that a thing women tend not

00:44:42 to be attracted to men who are desperate

00:44:46 you know but it depends it depends what you mean

00:44:56 I mean

00:45:01 - am I desperate for philosophy am I desperate for wisdom and truth and

00:45:05 connection and progress and virtue I'm desperate for these things I mean you

00:45:10 can say desperation or you can say you're not a stalker you're just

00:45:13 committed right you can say desperation but we're all desperate for love

00:45:21 companionship reproduction I mean you can pursue someone without being

00:45:26 desperate yeah I just the word right I don't want to be desperate for a woman

00:45:32 so here this is the philosophical part look at that it feels almost too soon 49

00:45:37 minutes in to get to philosophy right away but

00:45:41 so

00:45:49 it really matters the language that you use so if somebody says well I don't

00:45:57 want to overthink it or that's too far or that's extreme or that's extremism

00:46:02 or like these are just negative labels right I don't want to be X negative

00:46:11 label X negative label is bad it's a tautology masquerading as an argument

00:46:19 I'm always on the lookout for this kind of stuff you know online and everyone

00:46:23 always on the lookout for this kind of stuff

00:46:27 which is if somebody says

00:46:34 evil is bad it's like yeah okay I mean you're just you're just rephrasing it I

00:46:42 mean evil is bad well what is bad well evil so evil is evil it's a tautology it

00:46:49 adds nothing so I don't want to be desperate for a

00:46:53 woman it's like well I don't want negative characteristic well of course

00:46:57 you don't want negative characteristic

00:47:02 of course you so when you say to yourself I don't want to be desperate

00:47:07 for a woman then you're saying well I don't want to have no power no leverage

00:47:11 I don't want to chasing after some woman who's indifferent to me and so on right

00:47:15 so the question is why would you associate desperation with the pursuit

00:47:21 of women rather than desire

00:47:25 because they reframed this is thirsty right

00:47:32 desperate happens when you build the relationship in your mind so you're

00:47:35 super nervous when you finally approach her

00:47:39 no you're nervous when you approach women because you believe you'll be

00:47:46 exploiting them

00:47:49 right you believe you'll be exploiting them

00:47:56 the reason that you're desperate when you approach a woman or super nervous or

00:48:01 whatever it's because deep down you don't think you have much to offer and

00:48:04 you want her to ignore that

00:48:08 so when I was in sales when I was first starting out selling my software because

00:48:18 you know I coded the software and then I would go out on the road I wasn't

00:48:21 usually the primary salesperson but I'd be responsible for the technical

00:48:24 presentation and answering questions I'd usually write certainly most of the RFP

00:48:29 the request for proposal and when you're starting out in business

00:48:34 you're desperate any sale right any sale you're desperate but I mean I got good

00:48:40 advice which was built a business case and then you're not desperate right so

00:48:44 the business case I won't get into the details of it but the business case in

00:48:48 our software was it'll pay for itself in a year

00:48:52 there was sort of two two business cases one is that it will pay for itself in a

00:48:57 year by reducing the costs of what are called the ESA environmental site

00:49:02 assessments every time you buy and sell property you got to do an environmental

00:49:05 site assessment doing it electronically is much more valuable and much more

00:49:11 helpful you want to make sure that there's not some battery plant or paint

00:49:15 shop or mechanics garage that used to be on there where the soils all

00:49:18 contaminated and it's just gonna be a mess right so

00:49:24 environmental site assessments way cheaper if you can do them

00:49:26 electronically and then you of course get all these records so you can manage

00:49:29 your sites so much better and so there was that you get a 40% it was a 40%

00:49:34 reduction in the price of these ESAs if you used our software the ESAs were

00:49:37 twenty five hundred to three thousand bucks a piece you do a certain number a

00:49:40 year software pays for itself within a year so I'm not desperate I'm looking to

00:49:45 exchange value that was number one number two of course is that if you have

00:49:51 electronic records and tracking of all of your environmental issues then if you

00:49:56 have any trouble with the government the fact that you pursued best practices

00:50:00 helps you in that helps you avoid fines helps you avoid legal issues and so on

00:50:05 so I won't get all of this in particular detail but once you're confident about

00:50:12 the value you add then you go in to asking a girl out to see I know the

00:50:21 value that I'm bringing to the table I mean honestly my perspective when I was

00:50:25 younger and you know right or wrong you can we can sort of hedge about it

00:50:28 doesn't really matter but my perspective was when you could date another guy but

00:50:33 but why would you take some other guy I mean reasonably good-looking I'm funny

00:50:39 I'm intelligent I'm warm I'm got a little bit of charisma you know and and

00:50:43 and all of that I'd be a good dad as I have been so I mean it's like what you

00:50:48 you could but why I remember there was a an ad many years ago with the

00:50:54 increasingly cheesy William Shatner and it was an ad for his website or something

00:50:58 some website he was promoting and he's like but you could go to some other side

00:51:02 on the web but but why and it was very funny I don't sort of felt that so I was

00:51:07 always looking for the woman who would appreciate my value and if the woman

00:51:12 didn't appreciate my value it's like I mean don't get me wrong I wasn't like

00:51:16 well that doesn't matter to me at all like it's not it's not good right

00:51:20 where did you get the idea to start an environmental side assessment company

00:51:23 have you dealt with them before I won't I mean sir I hear what you're saying it

00:51:27 was just somebody I knew it wasn't I wasn't familiar with the field but it

00:51:30 was just somebody I knew so

00:51:33 don't get me wrong I'd ask girls out they'd say no or whatever that one time

00:51:39 oh and I wouldn't like it but I would say okay well if they can't see the

00:51:42 value that I'm bringing to the table I don't know what they're looking for

00:51:48 I don't know and I also I don't of the girls I went out with and it didn't work

00:51:53 out for whatever reason either they didn't want to go I like either they

00:51:57 didn't want to go out with me or it didn't work out for whatever reason

00:51:59 they never ended up with a better guy

00:52:03 so sometimes women will reject you because you're too high quality you

00:52:09 understand that right I know that it seems odd right but a lot of people are

00:52:15 embedded in low quality in a low quality world or a negative quality world

00:52:22 and they will reject you because you will call them out on the low quality

00:52:29 people they're surrounded by and those people don't want that to happen

00:52:34 and so if you know the quality that you're bringing to the table

00:52:44 great

00:52:46 great

00:52:49 but you have to know that right because if you don't know the quality that

00:52:53 you're bringing to the table then you're basically trying to pass counterfeit

00:52:57 goods right oh I'm a value you should date me when you don't really know the

00:53:02 value that you're bringing to the table and if you don't know that value then

00:53:07 you're passing counterfeit bills terrified they're gonna hold them up to

00:53:09 the light and check them and run that little UV thing over them and all of

00:53:13 that right

00:53:17 so the important thing in asking girls out is

00:53:27 know the value that you're bringing to the table

00:53:31 if you don't know that value you're lying you're saying you should date me

00:53:37 but why why why should why should they date you why should someone date you why

00:53:42 should someone choose you I mean why should someone come and listen to me on

00:53:46 a Sunday morning rather than everyone else I have to provide something of

00:53:49 value right

00:53:52 anyway excuse me so yeah it's very strange I just focus you focus on

00:54:01 building up your value otherwise you're you're a con man or con

00:54:06 woman you're a counterfeit right

00:54:09 you know the women who complain oh the men are only interested in one thing it's

00:54:13 like well you offering are you offering more than that one thing all men care

00:54:17 about is sex it's like okay well what else do you have to offer other than sex

00:54:20 it's kind of an important question right

00:54:24 what do you have to offer other than sex are you are you funny are you helpful

00:54:30 warm friendly knowledgeable well-read literate curious

00:54:37 do you have emotional skills relationship skills are you a good cook

00:54:44 will you be a great mom I mean what are you bringing to the table other than sex

00:54:49 and if women can't answer that question then they'll complain the men are only

00:54:54 focused on one thing it's like but that's cuz that's the only thing you

00:54:57 offer why else would a man be interested in

00:55:00 you if it wasn't for sex that's the first question when you answer that

00:55:03 question generally you get married right

00:55:07 you

00:55:09 so no I don't think women aren't particularly fascinated by wallets these

00:55:16 days

00:55:18 women are all about the clout and status

00:55:23 women in general are about clout and status women it seems to me not all right

00:55:33 but a lot of young women these days seem to me completely obsessed

00:55:38 by getting other women to envy them have you seen this like this is the whole

00:55:45 Instagram thing with the perfect lighting and you know the the bodies the

00:55:50 body suits the spandex body suits that make you look thinner and that the hair

00:55:55 and the makeup and the filters it seems to me that women are coming that some of

00:56:00 it to do with male thirst but it seems to me that women are kind of obsessed

00:56:03 with having other women envy them like I think this was the trend of all of these

00:56:07 tech companies where it's like a day in the life of a tech worker it's like well

00:56:11 I wake up at this time and I do this and I I do a little Pilates and then I go

00:56:15 in and we have a particular kind of barista who makes the most amazing

00:56:20 frappuccinos and and then I do a little bit of work and then I go for a long

00:56:23 lunch on the rooftop and the guys are all like can get any fucking work done

00:56:28 or is this just like it's just signaling getting other people to value them to

00:56:36 envy them to think that it's parasitical if you think I have a better life than

00:56:42 you then my life is worthwhile now that's desperate

00:56:47 that's desperate women are social sometimes they want to show off their

00:56:51 man to their social circle oh no that I don't agree with at all that I don't

00:56:56 agree with at all what women want to show off is being superior to their man

00:57:03 of not needing their man of looking down on their man I don't understand this at

00:57:07 all I never have I never will like what on earth is going on with women oh my

00:57:12 husband's so foolish and he does this wrong and he does that wrong and he

00:57:15 doesn't listen to this and he doesn't know that and ha ha ha and he you know

00:57:20 how on earth is it a status symbol to look down on your husband

00:57:26 what on earth does that mean to be so superior to your husband ha ha ha he's

00:57:30 so silly he's so foolish he does this he does that it doesn't make any sense I

00:57:33 don't understand it boys will be boys is like why are you mommying your husband

00:57:38 and thinking this raises your status

00:57:44 I don't understand this actual work in a day no no no no no

00:57:50 they're blocking work yeah I mean the it's not just women like the people in

00:57:54 tech but these stupid laptop jobs who spend a lot of time signing themselves

00:57:59 at lunch on the rooftop garden patio they're blocking work they're

00:58:03 interfering with work they're creating policies and procedures and HR

00:58:07 departments no they're absolute they're just damming up the river yeah not

00:58:10 actual work no they're blocking work every the best they can do is be lazy I

00:58:13 mean if they did no work at all that'd be a vast improvement on the

00:58:16 productivity of the company now everything they're doing is slowing

00:58:19 things down and making meetings and double-checking things and going through

00:58:22 HR and I know they're just blocking and stopping absolutely everything now it's

00:58:27 terrible I could never ever work like that happy wife happy life yeah that's

00:58:32 really sad it's really sad

00:58:37 I mean I've never put down my wife

00:58:42 I've never put down my wife I blame feminism for them wanting to feel

00:58:46 superior to their man I don't get it either it's like the price of admission

00:58:50 to a lot of female circles is to trash-talk your husband

00:58:55 and if you say oh I love respect and admire my husband so much you get these

00:59:00 resentful looks

00:59:03 it's incomprehensible like can you imagine me coming and going anywhere let

00:59:10 alone in public or anything like that and put my wife down I don't know what I

00:59:15 don't understand it I mean

00:59:19 it'd be like if I was a I don't know some guy's a multi-zillionaire

00:59:27 right and he can have any car in the world and he buys some trashy old Lada

00:59:31 beware Nova beta and he just constantly complains about this this car ah it

00:59:38 wouldn't start again this morning you know I have to I have to race and lower

00:59:44 the windows with a wrench and I can see the road through the floor pedals and

00:59:48 it's like you you think this like you just look like an idiot you can buy any

00:59:54 car you want this is the one you get

01:00:03 I don't understand it how are you flexing by putting down the father of

01:00:09 your children and the supposed love of your life how are you flexing how is

01:00:12 that a flex

01:00:15 how is that a help me ladies what is that is that just the price is that just

01:00:22 the price of being around a lot of other women as you got to put your husband

01:00:25 down

01:00:27 I mean I've heard women privately talk about this you know like oh everybody

01:00:32 was there trashing their husbands and I really love my husband I didn't want to

01:00:36 say anything but if you say something is this really a thing I'm out of touch

01:00:42 yeah it is

01:00:45 it is

01:00:48 and you know if you're a woman report back to me right you're happily married

01:00:53 then go talk about how happily married you are to other women and see how they

01:01:00 react shouldn't they react with joy and happiness

01:01:04 complaining often about your partner and still being in the relationship I

01:01:08 imagine provides a self-esteem boost I can complain this much and he won't

01:01:13 leave because that's how great I am is my guess

01:01:16 God that's horrible though like complaining about your kids and how hard

01:01:22 it is to be a parent yeah I don't understand that either

01:01:25 you're in charge you run the whole thing

01:01:30 when I noticed that I started talking about my ex I broke up soon after I

01:01:34 think it's a dominant thing as well so if if in public the wife puts the

01:01:39 husband down she's very strongly signaling to him that he's disposable

01:01:44 and he better line the f up or she's gonna take him through the courts I

01:01:49 think it's an absolute foundational me plus to stay bullying tactic to grind

01:01:53 the guys spine down in into dust

01:01:57 I think it's a vanity based dopamine from sadistic humiliation and it's shot

01:02:04 across the bowels to say hey man you're totally disposable

01:02:09 I'm so hot that I could get any guy but chose this guy I don't respect hmm a

01:02:18 disconnect there I am missing yeah I think it's a signal right very happily

01:02:22 married here with two amazing children I only have one female friend because I

01:02:26 cannot find any others that don't complain about their husbands or

01:02:28 children yeah I can have another you in a minute yeah that's Rihanna right

01:02:34 someone would really get off and making their husband look like a fool

01:02:40 yeah

01:02:43 I'm a happily married woman I don't have friends who talked out on their

01:02:47 husbands it definitely seems like a boost their ego to make themselves

01:02:51 victims as if they're helpless and had no choice and who they married yeah

01:02:56 yeah no it's very tough it's very tough all right so I don't want to be

01:03:06 desperate for a woman I don't you know suspect to the original color point I

01:03:10 mean you just saying I don't want negative character I don't want to be

01:03:13 unhealthy okay well of course you don't want to be unhealthy right how do single

01:03:19 adults find some sort of okayness I have my two kids 50/50 and it's good well

01:03:27 what are you doing in the world to make the world a better place

01:03:34 what are you doing in the world to make the world a better place and you guys

01:03:41 can tell me what you got what you got

01:03:48 man says I can only offer kindness and generosity

01:03:53 I can only offer kindness and generosity as a man yes Philip right kindness and

01:04:02 generosity

01:04:04 well that's a lady boner killer if ever I heard one kindness and generosity

01:04:13 oh so you think that a woman is looking for what you're looking for in a woman

01:04:21 kindness and generosity you know I mean that's gonna Sarara up her lady parts

01:04:28 like nothing else kindness and generosity

01:04:34 yeah we had a great donor talk about female submission and what it means

01:04:42 somebody says as a girl I don't have many friends who are girls because when

01:04:46 they complain about their husbands I only have good things to say about mine

01:04:49 and they shun me for it yeah yeah for sure

01:04:53 yeah for sure

01:04:56 so yeah I mean what are you doing in the world to make the world a better place

01:05:07 it could be in your relationships it could of course be at work it could be

01:05:11 with your kids making your kids happier and more moral and better and all of

01:05:15 that I could do all of these things

01:05:18 so what are you doing

01:05:24 how does single adults find some sort of okayness okayness or a sense of meaning

01:05:30 a sense of happiness is when you're doing things to make the world a better

01:05:34 place put yourself at a place where you can do good works if you find single

01:05:38 women in that space you already have something in common and a shared and

01:05:41 shared values a good start yeah but you know put yourself in a place where you

01:05:46 can do good works I don't know how to make that actionable I don't know how to

01:05:50 make that actionable only offer kindness and generosity I'm still kind of stuck

01:05:54 on that

01:05:56 a man needs to offer strength protection resources virtue something to admire

01:06:02 battle with the world win resort like I don't this kindness and generosity

01:06:06 sorry I'm not saying it's bad but that's not I think nearly enough to really

01:06:16 attract and get a woman to commit to you

01:06:19 because women are attracted to men who have the capacity for unkindness

01:06:29 because for most of our evolution and to some degree even now stuff's win-lose

01:06:34 right you want to go and get the job and that means none of the other guys get

01:06:38 the job you want to go and hunt the food that means none of the other guys get

01:06:41 the food right so kindness and generosity

01:06:48 kindness is the icing on the cake you must be strong and capable first and

01:06:53 foremost yeah yeah so I mean I assume that you're raised without a father

01:06:58 right and so what you did was you listen to your single mother tell you what

01:07:02 what women want I don't mean to laugh because it's you know it's bitterly

01:07:05 funny but the idea that you go to a single mother to ask what women want is

01:07:08 incomprehensible to me

01:07:12 I mean they don't know what they want or they wouldn't be single mothers

01:07:18 a good woman wants a good man not a nice guy yeah yeah you want to create a

01:07:25 protected space where the woman's kindness and generosity doesn't get

01:07:28 exploited right so women are kind and generous is a beautiful thing but as a

01:07:32 man you need to create a space where kindness and generosity is not exploited

01:07:36 by everyone it comes through right

01:07:39 yeah I mean particularly for men you have to have the ability to be unkind

01:07:44 and for women too I mean the more attracted the woman the more she's gonna

01:07:47 have to say to know two guys who desperately want to date her so she's

01:07:52 gonna have to have the capacity of unkindness in order to remain not

01:07:59 dated by everyone if that makes sense I'm so tired of single mothers asking

01:08:05 for the real men to stand up and take care of their kids oh that is an IQ

01:08:09 test 101 that's an IQ test the moment somebody says well the real man would

01:08:14 you know I'm like yeah okay right oh yes please please as a failed woman tell me

01:08:21 what a real man is

01:08:23 reminds me of how I used to read Cosmopolitan and Glamour magazine to

01:08:28 figure out what women supposedly wanted

01:08:32 I know unfortunately or fortunately or you know whatever it is it's just a fact

01:08:38 if you want to

01:08:41 if you want to know what women want read Fifty Shades of Grey

01:08:48 I mean it's the most popular book that's fiction in the history of the world it's

01:08:55 spawned absolutely atrocious movies or you watch Eclipse right the Twilight

01:09:00 series right Twilight series I mean he's he's a killer right

01:09:09 you know in in one of the Twilight movies there's a scene where

01:09:15 the vampire is basically telling his girlfriend that he killed people in the

01:09:22 past and she's like that's hot I will sacrifice everything for you

01:09:29 that's hot effing shameful those books well okay you can finger wag if you want

01:09:37 you can you can finger wag if you want

01:09:44 but I don't see the point of that I I remember as a teenager I read a couple

01:09:50 of Harlequin novels because I'm like oh let's see what women are into oh my god

01:09:55 that is the complete opposite of what everything is told everyone is told

01:10:01 I just want a nice guy no you don't you just say that I don't know

01:10:16 yes so in in the in the Twilight series in one of the movies

01:10:22 oh the vampire is confessing to his girlfriend that he used to kill people

01:10:27 but it's okay you see because he was in a movie theater and a woman went to the

01:10:32 bathroom and he killed a guy who was walking some distance behind the woman

01:10:37 which I assume meant he's on his way to the bathroom too

01:10:43 right he didn't like he didn't kill the guy who attacked a girl he killed the

01:10:48 guy who was walking to where the bathrooms were in a movie theater but

01:10:53 and it I say behind the girl it sounds like it's stalking or anything like that

01:10:57 but when we've all been there right you you going to the bathroom in a

01:11:01 restaurant and there's a woman going to the bathroom and she's you know 20 paces

01:11:04 ahead of you

01:11:12 so he killed this guy for walking behind a woman because they're both going to

01:11:16 the bathroom and she's like well that's fine

01:11:21 now no problem right and see what you need to understand about female nature

01:11:29 is that for the vast majority of human history a woman not attracted to a man

01:11:37 with a capacity for violence didn't survive or her children didn't survive

01:11:43 right a woman oh women like bad boys it's like bad boys were good providers

01:11:49 throughout almost all of human history like this modern everything stifled

01:11:54 everything's you know crumbled down and and everything's soft and everything's

01:11:59 like verbal fencing and deep platforming like that's not human history human

01:12:03 history is if you insult me I'll shoot your eye out tomorrow morning like we'll

01:12:08 have a duel

01:12:10 I completely missed that scene significance in the Twilight movie yeah

01:12:14 he's saying listen I killed I killed guys I'm a murderer

01:12:19 and she's like it doesn't look she literally doesn't care in fact it's it's

01:12:26 a it's a plus to her

01:12:32 do you think women being attracted to Fifty Shades and the like has to do with

01:12:35 their childhoods well I've done reviews on the Fifty Shades of Grey I didn't

01:12:40 interview with a woman about the Fifty Shades of Grey stuff so you can look into

01:12:43 those FDR podcasts.com

01:12:48 capacity for violence is not the same as violence

01:12:52 do you really feel like you're adding much when you say the thought is not the

01:12:59 same as what you do listen to all the wisdom I'm bringing to the table

01:13:04 thoughts not the same as actions good for you good for you

01:13:11 good for you

01:13:14 all right so yes you are if you want to say desperate yeah you're

01:13:23 desperate for a woman of course you are because all of our ancestors who weren't

01:13:28 desperate for women

01:13:30 you know you ever see these pictures of the Pennsylvania or in Ireland or other

01:13:36 places the coal miners right they're jammed into these horrible rat cage

01:13:41 elevators and they go down and they

01:13:46 carve coal out of the earth out of the rocks and they come back up and they

01:13:53 breathe coal shit all day

01:13:58 and they get black lung and they die at 40 that's how desperate for women they

01:14:03 are right that's how desperate for women they are they'll work 12 hours a day six

01:14:09 days a week down a coal mine because that's how desperate for women they are

01:14:14 the women aren't doing that it's the men who are doing that now the women have

01:14:19 their own desperation for men and all of that right that they would risk childbirth

01:14:22 and all of that they didn't become nuns right so all of her ancestors were

01:14:26 completely desperate to mate

01:14:29 yeah the nice guy stuff is what my mother told me growing up to attract a

01:14:39 woman my father is weak in their marriage now I know my mother wanted me

01:14:42 to be just like him yeah

01:14:47 well you can go on all of this stuff right

01:14:53 guy creates somebody sent me a link here from 2019 guy creates fake hot criminal

01:15:13 tinder profile to make a point and it goes horribly right so this guy's good

01:15:17 looking Chad 29 sup I'm Chad you don't like me too bad things you should know

01:15:23 about me because you'll see the ankle monitor nice

01:15:31 and let me just see what happened here a tinder experiment yielded some

01:15:36 individuals who decided to stay in those ugly shallow thoughts blah blah blah

01:15:40 blah more than a couple of ladies didn't have a problem entertaining a possible

01:15:45 relationship with the super chiseled super hot Chad despite his past behavior

01:15:49 of assaulting children and his ex-girlfriend

01:15:52 oh my gosh so he's good-looking

01:15:58 and he says I assaulted children and his ex-girlfriend

01:16:05 so

01:16:08 you

01:16:10 women are all over him not all obviously right

01:16:16 even after he tells this a girl it was for real she still decides to continue

01:16:20 with their conversation read it is that for real a joke or what he says it's

01:16:25 real it was only one kid he was not eight and in my mind it felt oh god all

01:16:31 right Wow not really sure what to say I guess it's cool how you're being honest

01:16:36 about it though yeah so what are you doing right now anything cool oh just

01:16:40 bored bored and on tinder looking for fun and stuff yourself and then she just

01:16:45 keeps chatting

01:16:47 oh my gosh

01:16:52 excellent

01:16:58 Chad takes a super aggressive approach with this next tinder match basically

01:17:02 telling her to hurry up and read his profile so they can get the unpleasantness

01:17:04 out of the way and get straight to smashing

01:17:08 she at least calls him out on a super rude manner of speaking which kind of

01:17:15 gives one hope that she'll want to pry more about his awful crimes but no she

01:17:18 calls him silly and tells him to calm down because she wants to move past that

01:17:23 one of his matches completely blows past the dude's profile and is ready to

01:17:30 completely forgive him for his mistakes she also has zero response to him

01:17:34 excusing his crime by saying oh god okay yeah oh that's really gross

01:17:42 yeah that's absolutely appalling

01:17:49 yeah it's a thing it's a thing

01:17:59 oh yeah oil rigs are tough I mean I worked up north gold panning prospecting

01:18:04 hauling giant well I'm always hauling a giant rod around but this was different

01:18:09 right so hauling these giant peon jar drill bits around and massive jail

01:18:13 drills and and all of that and you know I remember 80 pounds of dirt on my back

01:18:19 in a sack crossing over like cut trees I was crazy crazy stuff yeah

01:18:26 yeah mining accidents the 1800s were brutal I mean you know canary in a coal

01:18:30 mine right that's sung by the police it's because they would constantly come

01:18:33 across these deadly gases so they'd have to have canaries that would die first so

01:18:36 they could get the hell out

01:18:39 yeah

01:18:53 I haven't seen that movie but I will make a note of it these women have no

01:18:58 God at all they get high from the risk of danger who knows I assume that it is

01:19:04 something like yeah it would be funny if he blew his cover the girls ghosted him

01:19:09 yeah but yeah they're just following certain aspects of female nature which

01:19:13 is the capacity for violence is security throughout most of human history so

01:19:19 you

01:19:21 so yeah you're you're desperate for a woman of course you are we all are and

01:19:33 women are desperate for men how do single adults find some sort of

01:19:37 okayness well I mean the problem is that the divorce has been negative for your

01:19:43 kids right I mean the divorce is divorce is I'm just working on this part of my

01:19:48 book peaceful parenting where I'm going in through the data and we're getting

01:19:55 to that part where it's like okay here's the physical and psychological effects

01:19:59 and long-term effects of divorce on kids

01:20:03 and divorce is brutal on kids

01:20:07 divorce is absolutely brutal on kids

01:20:17 I love women but they lie about what they want

01:20:21 so again you can get moralistic or you can be curious okay so why do women

01:20:25 pretend to want one thing when they actually want something else oh what

01:20:29 they're just liars it's like no look at it from an evolutionary standpoint why

01:20:33 do women say they want a nice sweet kind guy and then often go for the bad boy

01:20:40 what

01:20:43 you

01:20:46 Steph if you were a 20 year old man and showed up to the date the girls much

01:20:54 fatter but you confront her about it or just leave um I wish she was in this

01:20:58 situation once I was set up on a blind date and the woman was a very overweight

01:21:01 and we went for dinner we had a nice chat we had drinks at a jazz club and I

01:21:07 gave her a nice hug at the end of the night and I didn't talk to her again I

01:21:11 mean it's no need to be rude I mean I signed up to roll the dice with a blind

01:21:15 date so no so why does the woman say she wants a nice guy some women right why

01:21:25 does some women say they want a nice guy and then are really turned on by the bad

01:21:29 boy

01:21:31 because it's socially acceptable to say that you want a nice guy yeah not really

01:21:40 not really women will go for the good guy if he doesn't

01:21:45 cower towards the bad guy yeah

01:21:51 oh you guys are you're a long way I think from the darkest sides of certain

01:21:59 aspects of some women's female nature I mean I hedge this a lot because not all

01:22:03 women of course right

01:22:08 but you were on a blind date what about the woman who showed you pictures of

01:22:11 when she was in better shape

01:22:14 well I would I would talk to her about it if I if I liked the woman's

01:22:25 personality like if we'd been chatting back and forth and I liked her

01:22:27 personality you said a lot of women pursue bad boys because they want to be

01:22:32 punished for having a bad conscience there's that

01:22:36 get resources from the nice guy after the bad boy breaks up with her no but

01:22:39 that's not how we evolved because we evolved with monogamy at least in Europe

01:22:43 and so on right

01:22:46 all right

01:22:49 so corrupt men really enjoy destroying innocence and virtue right

01:22:59 I say this right say this him is fundamentally not about pain but about

01:23:03 destroying virtue so the bad boy is very attracted to the girl who says I'm a

01:23:11 nice girl I want a nice boy I'm virginal I'm pure I'm nice I'm considerate I'm

01:23:18 thoughtful I'm good I mean that's like catnip to him right he wants to pillage

01:23:26 that right

01:23:30 so it's a mating cry to say how much of a nice boy you want because that is very

01:23:37 attractive to the bad boy because he wants to wreck that kind of innocence

01:23:41 and he wants to wreck that kind of I mean this is part of the story of the

01:23:46 new show fallout right and you've based on the video game that you've got a nice

01:23:51 girl and she's sweet and she's innocent and she's positive and she's

01:23:55 philosophical and it's just about the world just attempting to destroy that

01:24:00 right so it's a it's a mating cry to draw the bad boys I'm so virginal I'm so

01:24:07 nice and I'm just a baby deer I'm just a little lamb well that brings the

01:24:17 predators right that's a mating cry yeah you present yourself as prey and next

01:24:21 thing you know right

01:24:24 the fallout show is is absolutely repulsive on on almost every conceivable

01:24:29 level

01:24:31 yeah the fallout show I don't recommend it it's it's vile absolutely vile

01:24:40 women want honesty and loyalty but a nice guy cannot be honest or loyal and

01:24:44 as they would ever become they will become whoever they need to get the

01:24:48 woman right women want honesty and loyalty

01:24:53 what are you talking about have you not seen the number of single moms around

01:24:56 women want honesty I've not seen show got women want honesty and loyalty I did

01:25:03 watch some of the fallout show but literally with my hand on the fast

01:25:08 forward because it's like well

01:25:11 fast forward fast forward fast forward and it's tough to find any dialogue and

01:25:19 of course it's the usual thing the moment anything good happens it's

01:25:22 immediately followed by something absolutely appallingly terrible and

01:25:26 horrible

01:25:29 and of to be huge justification for the state this is what life is like without

01:25:33 the state you see it's nasty brutish and short and violence and factions and

01:25:37 blah blah blah blah blah and yet the state is what sent the weapons oh no no

01:25:43 sorry spoilers spoilers now I won't do spoilers I won't do spoilers I won't do

01:25:47 spoilers

01:25:50 well the so all shows all good shows turn bad right you know that you know

01:25:56 the reason for that like all good shows turn bad because if a show is good and

01:26:00 it's successful it's good because it's telling the truth so then all the liars

01:26:03 want to hijack that success and use it to push their propaganda right

01:26:06 so every show that strikes a chord because of its truth is then hijacked by

01:26:16 people who want to use its popularity to push their lies right

01:26:19 yeah agreed fallout is just needless score after needless score and rank

01:26:24 disgust factor content yeah it is it's absolutely repulsive

01:26:27 as reported by the Center for Children and Families 40% of all light bursts in

01:26:37 the US are the single mothers 90% of welfare recipients are single mothers

01:26:41 yeah this is a welfare state is a single mother state

01:26:44 yeah for sure

01:26:47 actually in the game law the state is absolutely a fault for the nuclear war

01:26:52 the show red condom

01:26:55 yeah yeah

01:26:59 well you know in in sci-fi they always have to blame corporations they always

01:27:04 have to blame corporations right it's just this big evil corporation because

01:27:08 corporations can't get mad at them and throw them in jail

01:27:10 so

01:27:13 you were considering watching it yeah

01:27:16 I mean it does have useful things to say about the naivete of those who are

01:27:25 secure the mass utopia experiment is literally directly referenced in part of

01:27:29 the book and the ghoul is a boomer right because the ghoul is willing to sell the

01:27:33 next generation for his own survival and flourishing and to stave off illness and

01:27:38 and decay so yeah the ghoul is the boomer

01:27:43 for sure

01:27:48 so yeah I think it's

01:27:51 let's see here

01:27:54 well then there's all these questions about immigration and integration of

01:27:58 other cultures and and you know we've got these really violent raiders but

01:28:02 we're going to lock them up and then we're going to find a way to integrate

01:28:04 them there's the whole white man's burden of like what we're going to go

01:28:07 out and civilize the wastelands and but we're going to get corrupted instead

01:28:10 right so there's there's some interesting themes about it but it's

01:28:13 just too relentlessly vile and horrible

01:28:16 Steph what you think one should spend on a wedding well you do know that the more

01:28:20 you spend on the wedding the more likely you are to get divorced right that's

01:28:23 very clear the correlation is crazy high

01:28:26 correlation is crazy high so

01:28:31 if a woman wants to spend a huge amount on a wedding then she's vanity based

01:28:34 which means she's going to get depressed after the wedding right the more that

01:28:38 the woman is like I'd be dreaming of this wedding day and it's my day and

01:28:40 it's got to be perfect in this and that and the other she's setting herself up for a

01:28:43 crash on the far side of the wedding day right because she's going to crash

01:28:47 because that's all in the past now

01:28:50 that's like why I walked out of the Northman and got my money back because

01:28:55 that was just vile

01:28:58 wow

01:29:06 never thought about the female innocence honey trap I remember a girl I liked in

01:29:10 high school who was innocent ended up going out with the bad boy makes more

01:29:12 sense now yeah I don't think it's a conscious thing

01:29:25 all right what else did somebody say

01:29:28 have I seen late night with the devil I'm not I don't usually watch horror

01:29:38 movies

01:29:41 they it's too much bypassing art and just programming your fight-or-flight

01:29:47 mechanism

01:29:48 yeah the Northman was weird and gross yeah it was absolutely vile

01:29:52 oh it's authentic is like surgery is authentic I don't want to spend my day

01:29:56 watching that shit either

01:29:59 I mean you could rig up a camera and toilet bowl and watch everyone takes

01:30:02 watch someone take a dump every morning I don't want to do that it's authentic so

01:30:05 I don't care

01:30:06 arsenic is authentic it's natural

01:30:09 I've never heard that more expensive weddings lead to divorce very interesting

01:30:13 but of course at the higher ends like royal weddings there is rarely divorce

01:30:17 maybe middle-class people having expensive weddings just overspending and

01:30:20 it stresses them out

01:30:22 you sorry there's really divorce in the royals

01:30:26 plenty of horror on the news yeah yeah well I avoid that as well

01:30:32 World War 3

01:30:37 all right any tips coming in by the bar just out of curiosity

01:30:41 think we've talked about some pretty important and good stuff today and we've

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01:30:53 I boycotted Hollywood a long time ago and I don't miss it yeah what was it

01:30:57 Tucker Carlson was talking about on Joe Rogan he was talking about how like he

01:31:00 doesn't go on the internet

01:31:01 he doesn't do email and he doesn't have a TV he doesn't do any of that stuff

01:31:04 very interesting

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01:31:21 have you seen a YouTube channel called the happy wife school this is the

01:31:26 channel description

01:31:29 I'm a former unhappy wife who emasculated my husband until I had an

01:31:32 awakening that I was the problem in my marriage now I teach other married women

01:31:35 the journey of finding happiness within so they can evolve as women and wives

01:31:39 alright that's the happy wife school okay I'm going to assume that she's very

01:31:42 pretty and it's just a way to market her prettiness to a different kind of

01:31:47 audience

01:31:48 I'm gonna guess that right let's see here is she very pretty

01:31:51 uh-huh

01:31:56 oh okay well you know I'm wrong about that you're not not ugly or anything

01:32:00 like that but

01:32:01 I know she's pretty yeah she's pretty

01:32:04 she's pretty

01:32:07 um

01:32:11 yeah

01:32:14 let's see here what do you think of elopements if you're passionate enough

01:32:21 who cares right

01:32:23 if you love each other who cares you just you'd never let anyone get between

01:32:27 you and your spouse that's all anybody who gets between you and your spouse in

01:32:30 my view completely and utterly disposable

01:32:33 I just it's not even I don't even think about it not even like a second glance

01:32:39 I like I don't even I don't not even a second glance anything anything negative

01:32:44 towards my wife or my marriage you're done

01:32:47 and there's not even a second uh not even a second thing

01:32:52 so you know what I was talking about we're gonna end up in here that

01:32:56 sorry just a couple of memes here that were pretty funny

01:33:04 so

01:33:10 I was talking about trash planet the other day

01:33:13 did you grow up with or have you known people who are just thank you for the

01:33:17 tip have you do you know people

01:33:20 I'm always happy to donate to you Steph for each live stream because I walk away

01:33:24 much smarter and more open-minded human I was learn something on these talks

01:33:27 thank you appreciate it

01:33:30 thank you my mom thought it was a good fun to screw around with my marriage

01:33:34 yeah

01:33:36 oh you should cut your hair says the older woman to the younger woman out of

01:33:39 sexual

01:33:41 sabotage vengeance so I was talking about trash planet and if you had people in

01:33:47 your life

01:33:48 it's just a complete mess and disaster all the time no matter what

01:33:51 it just stagger from problem to problem just all of this stuff

01:33:57 you ever had that

01:34:00 just trash planet and a half

01:34:03 and I just had it and then I lost it

01:34:06 I really did

01:34:14 no that's not unless I literally just had this tab open

01:34:17 there we go okay yeah have you ever had people just massive chaos problems maybe

01:34:22 you don't have them anymore but you have them in the past just massive problems

01:34:25 trash and

01:34:27 mess

01:34:31 let me see what you guys are saying

01:34:34 do do do do do do do let's go chasing rainbows in the sky

01:34:42 it's my imagination

01:34:46 all right so I'm gonna because it I know there's a bit of it like you've had

01:34:49 these people around right

01:34:50 yeah you've had these people around I get it all right

01:34:53 so somebody was saying

01:34:57 if you don't have anyone in your family who are poor

01:34:59 there's always a cloud of chaos around their lives we sat down to dinner and

01:35:03 up five minutes in they got a call about another family member with a

01:35:07 semi-serious mostly self-inflicted trip to the hospital because there's a study

01:35:12 that's come out that says that the rich want to help the poor until they

01:35:15 actually spend time with the poor

01:35:17 have you had that experience that the rich want to help the poor

01:35:21 until they actually spend time around poor people

01:35:27 so somebody said I don't think people who don't have family like this can fully

01:35:33 understand it

01:35:34 constant bar fights unable to get a job because of assault records from the bar

01:35:38 fights dating people who steal from them

01:35:41 squabbling over wills unexpected babies everyone is always out to get them and

01:35:46 it's never ever their fault

01:35:49 family update from my mom chronically unemployed haplessly committing

01:35:55 numbskulled accidents against their limbs doctors committing malpractice

01:35:59 against them without a peep

01:36:00 whooping out whoopsing out babies acting like barely sentient marine creatures

01:36:04 that move only to eat the usual some great language in the world man

01:36:08 there's some great language in the world

01:36:12 I say so one of one of the one of the issues with being part of an ethnic I

01:36:21 think that means a minority ethnic group that tends to have trouble is that even

01:36:26 if you're a competent upright person

01:36:27 there's often a screw-up brother cousin or uncle that everyone will lean on you

01:36:31 to help no matter how hard they work on not deserving it

01:36:34 that's kind of true

01:36:37 it's kind of true to put it mildly

01:36:40 now what do we have here

01:36:44 the face when you have a hundred plus semi-close relatives in Newfoundland

01:36:47 Canada yeah

01:36:49 they say stuff is always happening to them for no good reason

01:36:52 almost always because they were stirring up drama hanging out with people who

01:36:55 stir up drama or were late or belligerent for some appointment or job

01:36:58 or they just live in a cloud of negativity

01:37:01 and this is kind of true not all of them right

01:37:05 it says the thing you eventually learn about poor people is there's no amount

01:37:10 of money you can give them to fix their problems

01:37:13 you might fix their problems today but they'll be in the same position again in

01:37:17 a week or two because their problem is poor decisions not a lack of money

01:37:21 the ability or not to regulate emotional responses has got to predict like ninety

01:37:29 percent of how a person's life turns out

01:37:31 yeah

01:37:34 if you've never had a drunken slovenly family member show up unannounced

01:37:38 begging for money have you ever truly lived

01:37:41 of course if you have a and this is somebody says this is exactly the

01:37:45 description of having a drug addict in your family seems like they thrive on

01:37:47 chaos to me it's an excuse to be an addict of any sort

01:37:50 somebody says I grew up like this and my baby mom even more so life is a series

01:37:59 of crisis after crisis every family member wants something everyone is

01:38:02 feuding or stealing from each other everything is about conflict and

01:38:05 confrontation and stress it's brutal

01:38:08 yeah

01:38:13 got one family member and it's always awe-inspiring to hear about their

01:38:16 monthly life catastrophes that were both easily predictable and avoidable

01:38:20 somebody says my mother made a great decision my number sorry my mother made

01:38:26 a great decision when I was young to completely sever those types out of the

01:38:29 family gatherings we only really hear about them from secondhand

01:38:32 when we celebrated my grandma's hundredth birthday we saw both sides of

01:38:41 the family my side has education stable jobs dresses well and stable marriages

01:38:46 even the blue-collar and are solid folks but there's a side with tattoos prison

01:38:51 records baby mamas multiple divorces etc

01:38:54 they cause the chaos which makes them poor

01:38:58 yeah virtually every poor person I've known says someone causes their own

01:39:02 problems and always blames it on someone anyone else

01:39:05 there's always a conspiracy against them yeah the teacher has it in for me the

01:39:08 boss has it out for me

01:39:11 I feel this says someone and they'll drag you into it and if you've got a few

01:39:15 cents more than they do they'll hate your guts for it so many secretly yet

01:39:18 put their hand out as well

01:39:21 somebody says my wife

01:39:28 is poor I of course I'm well-heeled blue blood

01:39:31 anyhow a family is Maury I think that means more but Maury Povich like this

01:39:35 sort of trashy TV show they cannot get out of their own way and their mean

01:39:39 I've actually been quite poor and lived and worked in the hood I know the culture

01:39:42 and it's self-perpetuating

01:39:45 I have a friend who's who are often referred to as a perpetual F up he's no

01:39:53 longer with us largely due to his poor life decisions

01:39:56 the best part is when one of them gets lucky and gets a one-generation boost

01:40:05 towards stability and then their progeny drag the family name right back to where

01:40:08 it started

01:40:09 deeply depressing

01:40:12 very it's a I don't agree with everything that I'm reading but it's a

01:40:18 very interesting perspective

01:40:21 that they're just these people that just breathe this kind of chaos all the time

01:40:26 and you can't help

01:40:30 all the people who were like well just this government program will help

01:40:33 everyone is like that's how I know you've never actually tried to help

01:40:36 someone who's really dysfunctional

01:40:39 yeah I just know

01:40:43 yeah like 70 75 percent of health issues are the result of self-inflicted

01:40:50 lifestyle choices

01:40:53 yeah you know way too many

01:40:59 yes just got rid of the last one need to move on now that I'm in 30s

01:41:03 good for you yep in the past mostly family back in the day I was a target

01:41:07 for losers yeah that's the thing too is that they'll they'll clamp on man

01:41:10 they'll really will clamp on there's a reason my vampires are a thing

01:41:14 is coercion the root cause of prejudice and its effects it seems prejudice

01:41:24 cannot exist without malicious intent which must be explained by something

01:41:28 prior

01:41:28 when you need to explain to me what you mean by prejudice is a prejudice is a

01:41:32 prejudice

01:41:33 if if you expect a woman to be shorter than the average man is that prejudice

01:41:37 or pattern recognition

01:41:40 I love the people who believe in karma now it's not karma when you get an STD

01:41:50 from sleeping around

01:41:52 yeah karma is I'm too lazy to enforce any moral standards so I'm just going to

01:41:56 let the universe do it

01:41:58 I'm too lazy and frightened to actually have any upright moral standards that

01:42:01 I'm willing to enforce so

01:42:04 somebody says oh they pump they have to pummel you down so they don't have to

01:42:11 be self-critical

01:42:12 yeah

01:42:14 somebody says I disagree I grew up severely impoverished and it cost me a

01:42:17 lot to refine myself over the years

01:42:19 certainly some of my childhood peers chose to do drugs instead of working

01:42:22 hard and repairing the damages done to them but it's costly either way

01:42:26 I don't know what you disagree with

01:42:29 I mean are you are you saying that me of all people is saying that everyone who

01:42:34 grows up poor is messed up

01:42:36 I mean I grew up really poor I don't know what you're talking about

01:42:40 it sounds so what's happened is some personal thing has eclipsed and

01:42:44 short-circuited your reasoning which is fine but

01:42:47 my life has greatly improved after leaving behind these quote poor people

01:42:51 they can't be honest no solutions and things always happen to them they never

01:42:54 make things happen

01:42:57 and you give them good advice and they go but but but what about oh yeah the

01:43:00 yes but people but you could do this

01:43:01 yeah but well you could do that yeah but like I had a friend of mine really when

01:43:05 I was younger really into martial arts couldn't find a good job I'm like why

01:43:07 don't you open up a dojo it's like yeah but there are all these licenses and

01:43:10 this and that and the other is like but I see dojos everywhere people solve

01:43:13 these problems

01:43:16 seems like self-ownership is a rare thing yeah

01:43:23 says

01:43:26 my father's like this everyone else is the issue and he's a perpetual victim of

01:43:34 life circumstances

01:43:35 he seems to act 15 but is nearly 70 thou should not have been old before thou

01:43:40 were wise

01:43:43 some people seem to feed off drama yeah I have a friend he someone says I

01:43:48 recently let go of because she's spiraling to the depth of a decade-long

01:43:52 addiction she's been asking me to lend her dollars and we did the math and

01:43:55 figured out that she gets 1500 bucks for a month for mental health subsidy

01:43:59 rent is 1100 and she spent 3500 bucks a month on cocaine and she smokes

01:44:03 cigarettes and drinks alcohol I told her I couldn't help her anymore

01:44:06 I'm sad for her but so many of my childhood peers took that path

01:44:09 yeah if it's been a while like if somebody's been on drugs for a while I

01:44:14 I view them as like that's not the person that's just the addiction that's

01:44:17 just a drug and I don't think that there ever will be a person there again

01:44:20 that's just my particular opinion I'm not sort of saying there's some

01:44:23 empirical fact I'm just saying like if someone's been a drug addict for like

01:44:27 10 years

01:44:28 well what's the what's the way back they've just lost out on 10 years they've

01:44:33 done a huge amount of harm to themselves and others and to others

01:44:36 they've hung around the worst possible kinds of people they've stolen

01:44:39 exploited, lied, terrorized, bullied, there's no restitution possible they

01:44:42 freaked people out they frightened people they've tortured people with

01:44:46 their lack of responsibility and and like how do you get back from that

01:44:51 I mean I I feel bad if I you know bump into someone on the street "oh I'm so

01:44:55 sorry" right? I don't know how you get back from that I don't know how you come back from that

01:44:58 somebody says I was also a magnet for losers I can notice them and they notice

01:45:05 me now so they tend not to interact with me because they see that I don't want to

01:45:08 drag myself down

01:45:09 yeah

01:45:12 yes I know one person like this and she constantly blames astrological

01:45:15 phenomena for her struggles with working hard

01:45:18 yeah

01:45:21 it's really sad though there's a coke addict she had a lot going for her she's

01:45:25 had her nose broken five times by her ex she can't smell anymore either

01:45:28 she's done so much cocaine oh yeah you see this like some woman with a tiny

01:45:32 nose going in for a nose surgeon he's like cocaine she's like yep

01:45:35 yep

01:45:39 she's 47 now oh yeah she's toast yeah I met her 20 years ago

01:45:46 sadly I don't think I'll see her again why on earth would you put 20 years into

01:45:50 that kind of relationship

01:45:51 why on earth

01:45:54 somebody says I said it earlier my health crisis is a result of my bad

01:46:02 choices

01:46:03 I mean we've all made those bad choices I blame only myself blaming those who

01:46:07 made garbage both available and cheap does not change the fact that I chose to

01:46:11 buy the crud

01:46:12 let my emotions and taste buds rule my reason

01:46:15 right

01:46:18 right

01:46:21 Christianity guides us to forgive and be forgiven for our sins

01:46:29 haha

01:46:36 that is a very girly view of Jesus

01:46:39 that's

01:46:44 that's a very girly view of Jesus

01:46:48 forgive and be forgiven

01:46:52 no

01:46:53 that's that's not true you're actually bearing false witness and it's actually

01:46:57 kind of sinful in my humble opinion

01:47:00 it's actually kind of sinful that's really wrong you shouldn't be doing that

01:47:03 shouldn't be doing that the Bible is very clear very clear about forgiveness

01:47:06 that it must be earned

01:47:11 forgiveness must be earned

01:47:13 you have to repent you have to make restitution right the Bible is very

01:47:17 clear about this

01:47:18 if someone wrongs you you talk to them privately if they don't listen

01:47:22 you talk to them in a small group so there are witnesses if they don't

01:47:25 listen you talk to them in front of the congregation

01:47:28 if they don't listen you ostracize them

01:47:31 so talking about forgiveness without talking about earning forgiveness is

01:47:40 really devilish my friend

01:47:42 don't do it don't do it because what you're doing is you're taking out moral

01:47:46 standards from people who can only get into heaven by upholding moral standards

01:47:51 you're leading people down the path to perdition and hell

01:47:56 a Christian is saved by upholding moral standards a Christian is not saved by

01:48:05 forgiving everyone all the time when they make no restitution because that's

01:48:08 causing moral standards to decay

01:48:11 to decay

01:48:12 stop talking about forgiveness

01:48:15 as an absolute it's corrupt to the core

01:48:18 and it's a commandment only put by those who don't want to earn your forgiveness

01:48:25 it is not your job to forgive unrepentant people

01:48:33 it is a sin to forgive unrepentant people

01:48:39 if everyone has to be forgiven then God is the devil for judging people

01:48:43 as unrepentant

01:48:48 do not talk about providing unearned forgiveness

01:48:54 that is spiritual cowardice and whoredom of the first order you earn forgiveness

01:49:06 God offers forgiveness but requires repentance do you know better than God

01:49:09 yeah

01:49:11 oh my gosh

01:49:13 this is just people with a bad conscience who are bull... I'm not talking

01:49:16 about you

01:49:17 people with a bad conscience who want to bully others into quote forgiving them

01:49:23 without them having to go through any acknowledgement or restitution

01:49:31 those people want the gifts of forgiveness without the work and growth

01:49:37 of restitution

01:49:40 they want to steal from you

01:49:44 they're committing a sin against you by demanding forgiveness without providing

01:49:47 restitution

01:49:49 they're demanding that you sin against the truth they demand that you bear

01:49:52 false witness

01:49:54 if somebody genuinely earns your forgiveness you give your forgiveness

01:49:57 that's fair that's right that's reasonable but if you give your

01:50:00 forgiveness to people who haven't earned it you're saying I will give you

01:50:04 forgiveness though you have not earned it

01:50:05 which is bearing false witness and corrupting them you're not helping them

01:50:09 you're corrupting them

01:50:12 you're enabling their corruption it's absolutely wrong

01:50:16 absolutely wrong

01:50:20 and frankly quite cowardly

01:50:23 because you don't forgive people who demand forgiveness without providing

01:50:27 restitution because you care about morals or ethics refusing to enforce

01:50:31 standards absolutely corrupts the world you're doing it because if you withhold

01:50:36 forgiveness from bullies they'll bully you

01:50:39 that's all it is it's not forgiveness as a virtue it's cowardice as an absolute

01:50:53 sorry to be so frank and blunt but I I can't have this I can't have this on the

01:50:57 show

01:50:58 I can't have this forgive and be forgive and you gotta forgive and you gotta be

01:51:01 no

01:51:03 absolutely not

01:51:06 you are sending people to hell

01:51:11 by giving them the rewards of virtue

01:51:14 by bearing false witness about your motives

01:51:20 is it your job to demand restitution then

01:51:23 oh man

01:51:27 oh

01:51:28 oh that kind of gets under my skin I'm not saying you're wrong I'm not saying

01:51:32 you're annoying but that pisses me off doesn't mean there's anything

01:51:35 objectively wrong about anything you did

01:51:38 it's your job to demand restitution then what are you talking about

01:51:41 if you're selling a shop

01:51:49 and you're selling a slice of pizza you got a shop right you're selling a slice

01:51:51 of pizza for three bucks

01:51:54 is it your job to demand three dollars no what does that even mean

01:52:00 you walk into the shop does the guy grab you by the ear and scream at you that

01:52:06 you owe him three dollars while shoving the pizza at you no

01:52:09 is it your job to demand three dollars for the no somebody wants the pizza the

01:52:15 price is three dollars

01:52:16 are we demanding that that's a negative word

01:52:19 the price of my forgiveness is apologies and restitution

01:52:28 and a promise and a plan for it never to happen again right

01:52:33 that's the price

01:52:36 by demanding these things it's like no that's the standard a standard is not a

01:52:40 demand

01:52:41 I'm not demanding anything I'm just saying that's the price if you wrong me

01:52:45 and you want my forgiveness then you have to earn it if I wrong you and I want

01:52:48 your forgiveness I have to earn it

01:52:50 absolutely

01:52:53 I'm not demanding anything I'm just saying

01:52:58 this is the standard

01:53:01 it's like you know if you want to listen to these live streams on an app

01:53:05 am I demanding that you install the app it's like no that if you want to listen

01:53:09 to them on these shows on the app you gotta install the app

01:53:12 I don't know how a requirement is a demand how is a requirement a demand

01:53:15 I don't understand this

01:53:18 how is a requirement a demand

01:53:21 what does that mean

01:53:24 what does it mean

01:53:29 there is a difference between forgiveness and not holding hate and

01:53:36 fury in your heart and mind over others that judgment be the Lord's to give or

01:53:41 withhold

01:53:44 what on earth are you people talking about

01:53:48 holding hate and fury in your heart

01:53:55 but you stop holding hate and fury in your heart when you distance yourself

01:54:05 from destructive people

01:54:08 I don't hate my mother and I don't have fury against my mother because I haven't

01:54:13 seen my mother in close on 30 years

01:54:16 although I do read about how the girls were relentlessly raped in Germany by

01:54:24 the Russian troops at the end of the Second World War and I I have some real

01:54:29 sympathy for that I'm sure that she went through that

01:54:32 but

01:54:35 I judge her as destructive and harmful

01:54:38 and so she has and I confronted her many times she did not apologize she did not

01:54:46 acknowledge she did not make restitution and that's vanity right that's a sin of

01:54:51 pride

01:54:52 I cannot admit that I'm wrong this is I was going to say this about the

01:54:54 dysfunctional people in your life

01:54:56 the one thing that's true of all dysfunctional people is they never take

01:54:58 advice they never ever take advice it's a sin of pride

01:55:02 I know better I'm right you're wrong it's just a sin of pride

01:55:05 I will never ever give up moral judgment

01:55:13 now punishment no I don't care to punish people I mean obviously not having me in

01:55:21 their lives is a punishment enough

01:55:22 no I don't I'm not going to punish my mother

01:55:25 I don't you know because when you leave a relationship behind you leave the

01:55:29 relationship behind you don't

01:55:31 I don't want so but judgment oh no anybody who comes to me and says stop

01:55:37 morally judging I view as very dangerous

01:55:40 I'll be straight up with you man I'll be straight up with you

01:55:43 and this is not even your opinion this is just people who want to exploit you

01:55:46 telling you not to judge that they can exploit you easier

01:55:49 this is basically a bank robber trying to convince the bank manager ahead of

01:55:57 time to take out the cameras

01:55:59 you don't need the security guard that's just paranoid man

01:56:02 if anyone comes to me and says that you

01:56:08 judging morally is bad

01:56:12 I view that person as extremely dangerous and a servant of corruption

01:56:19 honestly I'm not saying this is you as a whole I'm not even saying this is you at

01:56:23 all I'm telling you my thoughts I'm not trying to evaluate or judge you as you

01:56:27 because I don't know you right but I'm just telling you that

01:56:30 I don't forgive people who have wronged me and don't repent I accept

01:56:40 that they have wronged me and don't repent and I get out of the relationship

01:56:46 and I try not to look back

01:56:49 but I never drop the judgment

01:56:51 the judgment is my security the judgment is why there's a difference between

01:56:55 heaven and hell if there was no judgment heaven and hell would be the

01:56:57 same place which would be hell

01:57:00 because the clouds will burn away

01:57:03 somebody says there's so much teaching and writings from so many saints and

01:57:08 theologians on this topic there's really no excuse to get this wrong

01:57:22 also if you forgive everyone else who does wrong as a blanket cowardly act you

01:57:28 will also forgive yourself for doing wrong and then you won't have any

01:57:31 standards for yourself either and you decay as well

01:57:34 someone says forgiveness without contrition is the creeping evil that

01:57:41 produces decay

01:57:44 here we go again with the forgiveness shite

01:57:47 well

01:57:49 all right

01:57:51 I mean it's like you as the harmed have to ask for apology and restitution it's

01:57:56 not the one who harms to ask it's not for the one who harms to ask if you did

01:58:01 or did not

01:58:03 I'm sorry I don't understand

01:58:06 if if you're harmed you have to ask for an apology and restitution I don't ask

01:58:10 I don't ask for shit what are you talking about

01:58:13 I say you've wronged me you've done me wrong and here's why

01:58:17 I mean what am I asking begging commanding demanding no I'm just saying

01:58:26 that you did me wrong I want to see how people respond to that

01:58:29 now if they say I didn't do you wrong you misunderstood something could be

01:58:33 totally right in which case I'm sorry for accusing you for doing for saying

01:58:36 you did me wrong I was wrong and to do that and I apologize I could happen that

01:58:40 way if you accuse somebody falsely but if they accept that and they accept that

01:58:44 it was wrong and and so on then if they don't apologize

01:58:48 what I'm not

01:58:50 that's just the price the price of staying in my life is self-ownership of

01:58:55 course

01:58:57 self-ownership is a great value free will self-ownership moral responsibility

01:59:01 why on earth would I want to spend time with people who reject those things

01:59:04 yes my mother cannot take advice

01:59:08 it's like asking her to die yeah

01:59:12 I'm the judgiest judge that ever judged nice

01:59:15 this para

01:59:20 social phenomenon is probably unhealthy but I can admit you are more of a moral

01:59:24 paternal father than my own parents I don't think it's unhealthy I mean to

01:59:27 have a father figure I mean it's kind of funny for me because I still feel like

01:59:30 about 23 in my own mind and maybe a little bit less of my own body but I

01:59:35 appreciate there's nothing wrong with that I think there's nothing wrong with

01:59:37 that I know that I am a father figure to some people and I consider that a great

01:59:41 honor and always try to do right by that

01:59:44 the logic that if I made moral exceptions for people simply because I

01:59:48 love them I would make them for myself too

01:59:51 was first piece of wisdom from you that really hit home for me in a decade ago a

01:59:56 decade ago when I started listening I've held on to it for my healing journey

01:59:59 that's great I'm glad to hear that

02:00:02 if you make moral exceptions for people you're saying you don't love them

02:00:06 it is not love to make moral exceptions for people

02:00:11 because you're harming them by not holding people to account you're

02:00:14 corrupting them

02:00:16 by not holding people to account you're corrupting them by refusing to

02:00:20 impose moral judgment on people and on yourself you're corrupting everyone

02:00:25 it's funny you know

02:00:29 I'll sort of finish on this point and if you found this helpful

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02:00:37 but

02:00:41 moral judgment

02:00:47 the thought came and the thought went. Let me sometimes I get the thought back

02:00:50 by reading what I was reading when I had the thought

02:00:53 if you love people you want them to be rational and you want them to own

02:01:01 themselves and you want them to take responsibility because you can only love

02:01:05 them for the decisions they make and the virtues they manifest and if you take

02:01:09 away

02:01:10 their moral responsibility you bleed away

02:01:13 your love for them

02:01:17 is it appropriate to judge others without understanding them

02:01:20 I don't know what that means

02:01:27 how can you understand others

02:01:31 you can only

02:01:33 review their actions empirically or listen to what they say and of course by

02:01:38 their actions shall you know them is foundational you judge people by their

02:01:41 actions not so much their words

02:01:44 and I think in understanding is important but the reason that you

02:01:49 understand people is to hand them self-ownership

02:01:52 right so you've heard me a million times in the call-in show somebody says I

02:01:57 don't know why I'm doing this

02:01:58 I don't know why I behave this way I don't know why I make these choices and

02:02:01 we go to their child and we say oh this is probably why I'm handing them

02:02:04 self-ownership I don't understand them in order to

02:02:07 not judge them

02:02:10 I help them understand themselves so that they can make better decisions

02:02:14 somebody says at one time I believed there was a difference between

02:02:21 forgiveness and making people live with the consequences

02:02:24 I thought forgiveness is what you'd

02:02:27 what is what sorry this is a little awkward rephrased I thought forgiveness

02:02:32 was what you do to no longer carry the anger and hate but they still need to

02:02:36 live with the consequences but now I see it was a cop-out in fact to let go of the

02:02:42 anger and hate is not forgiveness it was just my way to feel better about myself

02:02:45 just let go of the anger and hate and only forgive them if they earned it

02:02:49 yeah I don't what do you mean let go of the anger and the hate the anger and the

02:02:51 hate predated you this is back to my talk from last week

02:02:54 right I mean

02:02:59 anger and hate are not your servants that you summon and dismiss like the

02:03:06 king with his gesture

02:03:09 your anger and your hate and your love and your passions and emotions and your

02:03:13 gut and your instincts and your feelings all predate you

02:03:16 by billions of years

02:03:19 so you don't act out of them you don't let them dominate you

02:03:24 you hate someone you don't just scream at them or assault them you respect you

02:03:27 pp

02:03:29 but this idea that you just let go and and you're in command and you're in

02:03:33 control this also the sin of pride

02:03:36 you don't let go of anger and hate you seek to understand their roots and you

02:03:41 seek to understand their purpose and the purpose of anger and hate is to keep you

02:03:45 safe

02:03:46 fight or flight fight or flight is to keep you safe

02:03:51 so to let go of the anger it's like saying you know well I have my hand in a

02:03:56 fire and I just need to let go of the pain right that's the fight club thing

02:03:59 I pour acid on the guys and just let go of it man

02:04:02 well no that's that's self mutilation right so

02:04:06 the purpose of the pain in your hand when you have your hand in the fire is

02:04:11 to get your hand out of the fire

02:04:14 that's the purpose of that get your damn hand out of the fire

02:04:20 my hand is still in the fire but I need to let go of the pain it's like no you

02:04:24 don't you need to get your hand out of the fire

02:04:27 anyway

02:04:30 all right well thank you everyone so much for your time today a great chat I

02:04:35 was going to be a short show but you guys had such great questions that

02:04:38 it's just worth sticking around for and I really do appreciate everyone's

02:04:42 comments and I'm sorry if my wake-up call was a little harsh but I think it's

02:04:47 important to really shake this stuff off yet judge and be judged absolutely and

02:04:52 take advice and give advice and have standards you're not imposing or

02:04:55 inflicting or abusing people by having standards

02:04:58 right if you have a stand that you run that you run some university and you

02:05:03 say well you have to have these marks to get in

02:05:06 are you being a bully no you're protecting the value of the university

02:05:10 thanks Steph donate free domain free domain.com/donate I really really

02:05:15 appreciate that very very kind and I wish you guys a wonderful day we will

02:05:21 talk very soon and just remember as well if you're signed up to as a supporter at

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02:05:34 join in the voice calls that we have once or twice a week

02:05:39 just straight up voice calls voice chats and we did female we did a really really

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02:05:49 chance all right lots of love everyone take care

02:05:52 bye oh yes we have a new landing page for premium.freedomain.com

02:05:58 premium.freedomain.com yeah and I know we're supposed to talk about the tic-tac

02:06:01 thing I should probably wait to my voice is a little better

02:06:03 I don't necessarily want that

02:06:06 I don't necessarily want that immortalized in that way so yeah they

02:06:10 have been awesome right I think so I think so all right

02:06:12 lots of love everyone take care bye

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