How do Elizabeth Oropesa, Melanie Marquez, Isabel Lopez-Yokohama, and Evelyn Vargas-Knaebel deal with their husbands who have different cultural backgrounds than they do?
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00:00We walk hand in hand, we dream together. We giggle and laugh like kids forever.
00:12We're two different people, but we're having fun. We talk about anything under the sun.
00:19We are sisters, we are friends. We've got magic that never ends.
00:27I got you sis, you got me. The best of friends we'll always, always be.
00:39We always have fun, being together. You know me the best, we're friends forever.
00:46Through good times and bad, I'm here for you sis. Right by your side, hit or miss.
00:53We are sisters, we are friends. We've got magic that never ends.
01:01I got you sis, you got me. The best of friends we'll always, always be.
01:13We are sisters, we are sisters.
01:18Good morning sis and good morning to all of you.
01:22Our morning is really good and beautiful because we have with us today
01:26the 5 most beautiful women in the Asia-Pacific region.
01:29Please welcome the winners of the Miss Asia-Pacific Quest 2001.
01:33Miss Asia-Pacific 2001, Miss Peru Luciana Farfan.
01:38First runner up, Miss Mexico Lizette Villanueva Jimenez.
01:43Second runner up, Miss Thailand Juanvisa Camdangay.
01:48Third runner up, Miss Colombia Carol Ines De La Torre.
01:53And fourth runner up, Miss Philippines Darlene Carbunco.
01:57Of course, we also have with us the interpreter of Miss Thailand, Miss Can.
02:04So Miss Peru, how does it feel? How did it feel when you were crowned?
02:08How does it feel? How did it feel when you were crowned?
02:11I didn't feel it at all because we were just standing up with Miss Mexico.
02:15At first we didn't realize it. The first time we were just holding by the hands
02:19and she was like, who's going to be the winner? Who's going to be the winner?
02:22And we didn't know it and we didn't hear it because we were so nervous
02:25and she started jumping and I'm like, who wins? Who wins?
02:29And because she was so excited, I would think it was her.
02:31And I'm like, oh, congratulations. And she's like, no, no, no, you win, you win.
02:37It was really weird for us, but I'm so excited.
02:40How do you find the Philippines?
02:43Philippines is just, Philippine people and Philippine place is just so nice for us.
02:48We just feel like home and the people are so kind, so humble.
02:53We feel like home, I think all of us.
02:57She said that she's been here, she likes it. It's a beautiful place.
03:00And she just liked a lot the dishes we tried, the restaurants we went, the places we went also.
03:09I have a question for Miss Thailand.
03:11The Philippines is very similar to Thailand.
03:15How is it different from Thailand?
03:46It's different in language.
04:04Darlene is from here.
04:06What's your plan now after Miss Asia Mississippi?
04:11After Miss Asia, because before I joined, I just graduated.
04:15So, I don't know the life after Miss Asia, but I still have a lot of options.
04:20I can get a board exam first or there are opportunities that come.
04:25So, I don't know yet.
04:27What about movies or TV?
04:30There are also offers, but I don't know what I will choose yet.
04:35Are you willing to get into the showbiz world?
04:38I'm willing to try.
04:40How do you find Filipino men?
04:46What do you think of Filipino men?
04:49I think they are very simple, very handsome.
04:52Are so humble and are so handsome?
04:54Yes, and if I have an opportunity to stay with one, I will.
04:59If she has the opportunity to stay with one, she will.
05:06Miss Thailand?
05:07How do you feel about the men here?
05:12How do you feel about the men here?
05:15They are good.
05:17How do you feel about the men here?
05:22She said people here are very friendly like a man, like her father.
05:31I mean Thai people, when they get married with someone, she feels warm like father.
05:37Like my father, she loves to get married with.
05:40Okay, warm.
05:43All of you are from a different country.
05:45In your stay here in this country, the Philippines, have you learned to say anything in our language?
05:52Have you learned anything in our language?
05:55Thank you.
05:57I'm saying thank you.
06:02Thank you.
06:06Why thank you? Of all words?
06:08Because there is a production, from East Asia Pacific, there is a production, all the time is thank you, thank you this girl, thank you the other girl.
06:17Then we get that word.
06:20Ayaw pasaway?
06:22Production.
06:23It means, you don't want to be beaten? Is that how it is?
06:26She doesn't want to be beaten.
06:27She doesn't want to be beaten.
06:29Okay.
06:30Well, since you've learned a lot of Filipino.
06:32Actually, not that much.
06:35Well, will there, will there Miss Peru, will there each of you to say something else, something different in Filipino?
06:42In Filipino.
06:43Okay, we'll start with Miss Peru.
06:48Okay, so you'll help me cure the commercial gap?
06:51Okay, well, okay, just try.
06:53Okay.
06:54It's said, love knows no boundaries or limits.
06:58No matter how far you are in age, in lifestyle, let's go ahead, as long as we love the person.
07:03What if a culture is failure?
07:06She will answer, Ma'am, our next visit is to return the sis.
07:14We saw earlier, love knows no boundaries.
07:16What if a culture is failure?
07:19Let's ask our guests today.
07:23Once married to a famous Chinese actor named Meng Fei.
07:26Elizabeth Oropesa.
07:32Married to Adam Lawyer, an American, Melanie Marquez.
07:3711 years married to Hiroshi Yokohama.
07:40They have two children, Maria Isabel Lopez Yokohama.
07:43Hi, it's great to be back here.
07:46Four years married to Marshall Nebel, a French national from Switzerland.
07:51Evelyn Vargas.
07:52I'm Canabel, I'm back.
07:55Canabel?
07:56I hope so.
07:57Even next time.
07:59Okay, let's ask first.
08:02Do you really want to marry a foreigner?
08:05Miss International.
08:07Miss International, you go first.
08:09Do I have a choice?
08:11I loved all of them, but I was caught by the women.
08:15I don't believe in killing a marshal.
08:21For me, marriage has to be sacred.
08:25I don't believe in third parties.
08:27But do you really want to marry a foreigner?
08:30She answered the question.
08:32She's different, of course.
08:35It just so happens that my beloved one is a foreigner.
08:40Because I tried being Filipino, Chinese.
08:43Italian?
08:44Italian!
08:50It just so happens that my husband is more broad-minded.
08:54He doesn't have too many limits.
08:56He's not square.
09:01They don't care even though you have kids already.
09:04It just so happens that my husband is a foreigner.
09:07Because he accepted me.
09:08Not just me, but also my kids.
09:12Well, being a bold actress, you have a mindset in being Filipino.
09:17Who you are and what you do.
09:19So, it's hard to find real relationships with Filipinos.
09:25Based on my experience.
09:26I'm fortunate that I have a sister who doesn't know my background.
09:30She doesn't know that I'm a bold star in the Philippines.
09:32Until she fell in love with me.
09:34Then, she revealed who I am.
09:35What I do for a living.
09:37Okay.
09:38How did you meet your hobbies?
09:42Me?
09:45I don't know.
09:46She was looking for me.
09:49She's like a pearl.
09:50She has a lot of confidence.
09:53I think that's the direction I'm going in.
09:59Because I've been praying so hard for a life partner.
10:04But after the marriage.
10:06Being a single parent.
10:08After the relationship with a Filipino.
10:11I didn't look for one.
10:12But the point came.
10:15Maybe this one.
10:17I didn't even try to choose between a foreigner or a Filipino.
10:21For me, there's no color.
10:24No race.
10:26Love is really there.
10:28That's the point.
10:30Hello, I'm here.
10:33It's funny.
10:34We were both in Hawaii.
10:36We attended a festival.
10:38We were walking in Waikiki.
10:40We were there.
10:41But we didn't know each other.
10:42She met me in the Philippines.
10:45Wow.
10:47Right?
10:48For me, Meng Fei.
10:52I met her when I was 20 years old.
10:54She was watching television.
10:56She was with Vilma Santos.
10:57She asked Vilma.
10:59Who is she?
11:00I said, I don't know.
11:03In short.
11:05She was brought to my house by a producer.
11:07A Chinese-Filipino.
11:08I met her.
11:09I really liked her.
11:11Because she was really famous back then.
11:13But when I met her in person.
11:15I said.
11:16She's short.
11:17Not tall.
11:19Right?
11:20Yes.
11:21But she's beautiful.
11:22In short.
11:23I answered.
11:24We were still separated.
11:25When she offered marriage.
11:26Because my mother doesn't like short people.
11:28They say that short people are good.
11:30In the Philippines.
11:31Yes.
11:33My mother doesn't like it.
11:34There's discrimination.
11:35In our country.
11:36Especially.
11:37She came back after 11 years.
11:39To look for me.
11:4011 years.
11:41Wow.
11:43It must be love.
11:44Yeah.
11:45He was really in love with me at the time.
11:47Anyway.
11:48Up to now, probably.
11:49But you know.
11:50His kind of love is different.
11:52When I met her.
11:54There were 4 people who offered me marriage.
11:57A lot.
11:58A lot.
12:01She's the biggest offer.
12:04Biggest.
12:05What's that?
12:06Biggest.
12:07Biggest offer.
12:08Biggest future.
12:09Biggest money.
12:14I said.
12:15I need to leave the country.
12:16I will stop being an actress.
12:18My family has to be able to survive without me.
12:21So we made a condition.
12:22He will support my family.
12:24That's why I married him.
12:26But at the same time.
12:28He was the most handsome also.
12:29And I liked him a lot.
12:33What's the difference between you and your husband.
12:36Or your boyfriend.
12:38That you didn't see in the Philippines.
12:41I can't compare.
12:43Because they have their own differences.
12:46What happened is.
12:47I just became stupid.
12:49Really?
12:51No.
12:52You're very rich in experience.
12:53Of course.
12:55You can never compare.
12:57Each and every one of them has their own special qualities.
13:04So this is the last.
13:06You became a chef.
13:10Let's keep Melanie.
13:12Maybe she's smarter.
13:17What's your question?
13:21What's your question?
13:23What's your question?
13:24You have a foreigner husband.
13:25But you didn't see him in the Philippines.
13:28Let's generalize a little bit.
13:30We know that we shouldn't generalize.
13:32But slightly.
13:34Because Filipinos have their own differences.
13:37For example, in my case.
13:39I'm Filipino.
13:40Japanese people are different.
13:41We know that.
13:42How?
13:43When Japanese people take a bath.
13:44It's all out.
13:45You're the princess.
13:46You'll spend a lot.
13:48But when you're married.
13:49It's not like that.
13:51But it's fun to take a bath.
13:52It's all out.
13:54He showed me a different side of another culture.
13:58I saw how Japanese people live.
14:02You can see the chopsticks.
14:05It's totally different.
14:07Different culture, different religion.
14:10It's like you're still taking a bath.
14:13One thing also with my husband.
14:17Which husband?
14:18He's my husband.
14:21You know, we're international.
14:23Janice.
14:25Janice.
14:27It's all out.
14:29What I like about Americans is that they're bluntly honest.
14:33If they want something, they'll say it.
14:35At least I know where I'm standing.
14:37It's not like before.
14:40I thought I was trusted because I'm honest.
14:43But when I turn around, there are others.
14:45Are you saying that he's honest in Filipino?
14:48I mean, Filipino guys.
14:50No, they're just faithful.
14:56Fidelity is a global issue.
14:58It's not just for Filipinos.
15:00They just accept it here.
15:03I think it's different.
15:05Like with my experience.
15:07I think it reaches a saturation point.
15:12This is my marriage.
15:15This is it.
15:16I can't be infidel anymore.
15:19Like me, I should be insecure because I'm here every six months.
15:24So I don't know if I'm going to be a woman or not.
15:26But I have that kind of...
15:29I'm satisfied.
15:30I don't doubt if I have it.
15:32Because it's trust.
15:34Plus the fact that the foreigners, they say what they really want.
15:38And you have more room for growth, for improvement.
15:42It depends.
15:47She's a model again.
15:49Why? What do you mean it depends?
15:51It depends.
15:52Because like me, the Chinese, they give me everything.
15:54They're gallant all the way from the start.
15:56When I was courting and when I got married.
15:59But I have to be able to accept the four others.
16:03There were five of us.
16:04Ah, that's right.
16:05Sorry, what?
16:06Four others?
16:07Four wives?
16:08I'm the number one.
16:10Of course, I'm the queen.
16:12I'm the one who divides the sustenance from what I get.
16:14That's how it is.
16:15I have to accept that.
16:16Again, again, again.
16:17The sustenance.
16:18I'm the one who gives you the money.
16:20Family budget.
16:21You're too much.
16:26Really?
16:27Do you have equal sharing?
16:29No, no.
16:30The majority.
16:31Yes, there are five of us.
16:32I'm the strongest.
16:33There are more Muslims.
16:35There are only four of us.
16:37That's how it is.
16:39You can afford it.
16:40That's okay.
16:41That's okay.
16:42But you're good.
16:43I'm a pre-generalist.
16:44Medicine?
16:45Taoist.
16:46Ah, okay, Taoist.
16:47Ah, okay.
16:48Well, we will continue this conversation.
16:50So, Ms. Mexico, take it away.
16:58How can a Chinese, French, Arab, Japanese, American, Filipino, and Italian love each other?
17:09How?
17:10Okay.
17:11You know all of them.
17:12Ms. Melanie, she was once married to a Sikh Arab.
17:18She's different.
17:19Okay, okay.
17:21How can you be a...
17:22What's the name of the wife of a Sikh?
17:24Shika.
17:28What's the name of the wife of a Sikh?
17:29I don't know either.
17:31I mean, I'm married to a Sikh, but I was very young.
17:34At that time, I took a shower and did everything I wanted.
17:37Really?
17:38That's shocking.
17:39You know, I'm a stupid person.
17:41I mean, I go for love.
17:43You're underestimating yourself.
17:44But you love a Sikh, right?
17:46Of course.
17:47So, how is your life?
17:49Princess.
17:50Princess?
17:52How does he love you?
17:54No.
17:55How does he treat you?
17:56All of them really love me.
17:58But how?
17:59What's the difference between a Filipino, an Arab, a Chinese?
18:03Early morning, I have a makeup artist.
18:06Someone does my makeup.
18:07Someone does my hair.
18:09Then, there will be a time when I have to choose what to wear.
18:14If I have time, I'll choose what to buy.
18:20How about the French?
18:21Oh, my!
18:22French kiss?
18:23French kiss?
18:24French toast?
18:25French bread?
18:28They're very...
18:30They're kind.
18:32They'll promise you everything.
18:35Although, with my husband,
18:37some things are fulfilled.
18:41But in terms of romance,
18:45up to the point of, you know,
18:47I mean, all mine to give.
18:50That's what Tita Oroco said.
18:52All mine to give.
18:54So, you cannot ask for anything anymore.
18:57And then, you still have experiments.
19:00Like, for example,
19:02let's go to a place,
19:04like we go to the mountains.
19:07Wow.
19:08Hideaway.
19:09Discoveries.
19:10Travels.
19:12So, it's a good relationship.
19:14Because if I'm here,
19:15then I'll go back there,
19:17or he'll go here.
19:18Then, the fire will rekindle.
19:23Keep the fire burning.
19:24They're very romantic.
19:26What's the disadvantage and disadvantage
19:28of marrying somebody
19:29who's not a Filipino?
19:31A man.
19:33Cultural differences.
19:35Like in my case,
19:36he's Japanese.
19:37Language barrier.
19:40For example,
19:41the image of Filipinas outside world,
19:43either we're Japayukis,
19:45or domestic helpers.
19:47So, it's very hard for them
19:49to see women
19:50who are not those two.
19:54So, it took me a while
19:55to earn the respect
19:56and acceptance of his family.
19:58And during our marriage,
20:00the first year,
20:01he has to turn his back
20:03to his friends,
20:05to his business associates.
20:07Why?
20:08Because they're not the Filipino type.
20:10We're not the Japanese type.
20:12We're not the Japanese type.
20:13And maybe other nationalities
20:14still think of us
20:15as either Japayuki
20:16or domestic helper.
20:17Because that's the mindset
20:19that's in their minds, right?
20:21Because they're nationalistic.
20:23No, because there's a stage,
20:25a moment when our leaders
20:27who were beautiful before,
20:29look at us.
20:30There's someone who sits down
20:31because she's ugly.
20:33That's politics.
20:34That's why.
20:37That's why I don't like humans.
20:39For me,
20:40when I'm a chef,
20:41I'm a servidor.
20:43Do you know my husband?
20:44I hold the rice scoop,
20:46the rice bowl.
20:48When I serve,
20:49I use two hands.
20:51Wow.
20:52Yes, when I serve tea,
20:53I was taught
20:54because we have a tea table.
20:55It's in Lujon.
20:56It's like Japanese.
20:57Yes, like that.
20:58But,
21:00very well compensated, of course.
21:02It's just their culture.
21:03You need to...
21:04Respect your wife.
21:05Yes.
21:06She's the king.
21:07When we're outside,
21:08she makes fun of me
21:09because it's so hot
21:10and your grandmother is wearing a mink.
21:14Yes, yes.
21:15In Taiwan,
21:16I have six minks.
21:17I'm not joking.
21:18How many degrees?
21:19It's for display.
21:22In Pinoy,
21:24in fairness,
21:26I don't know.
21:27Also,
21:28when you're a type,
21:31they treat you
21:33like a queen.
21:35Because
21:36to them,
21:37you're a type.
21:38They take care of you.
21:39Yes, they take care of you.
21:40When you're a type.
21:41That's why
21:42they think of you
21:43as a mother image.
21:45They want you to have a baby
21:46but at the same time,
21:47they respect you a lot.
21:49That's the difference.
21:50Yes, that's the difference.
21:51When you like someone.
21:53When you like someone.
21:54That's it.
21:55When you're stressed,
21:56they catch you.
21:57Yes.
21:58When you don't like someone.
21:59Janice is always correct.
22:00She forgets everything.
22:01When you're the flavor of the month.
22:03But one thing that's nice with an American,
22:05they don't force you
22:07or tell you
22:09to serve them.
22:10But my husband was surprised
22:12because despite what he thinks of me,
22:14I'm glamorous.
22:15When we were in Utah,
22:16I do everything.
22:18I'm a workaholic.
22:19I don't work there.
22:21I cook.
22:22I do everything.
22:23Domestic chores as a loving wife.
22:24I do everything.
22:25He was surprised
22:26because I know how to cook.
22:29I eat well.
22:30I cook well.
22:31That's my talent.
22:33I clean the house and everything.
22:35He was surprised.
22:36And it's different.
22:38It's different because
22:39to each his own.
22:40When it comes to giving,
22:41it's not about
22:42pampering a woman with money.
22:45You know,
22:46you need to give everything.
22:48Share.
22:49Share.
22:50This is what we're going to do.
22:51This is our expenses.
22:52Actually,
22:53I married a man from a different nation.
22:55But,
22:57I just realized that
22:58this is what it's like
22:59to have a husband.
23:01I didn't know that.
23:02This is what it's like
23:03to have a husband.
23:04What's the hardest part
23:05about fighting?
23:06Because I'm sure
23:07when you fight,
23:08the cultural differences
23:09will somehow come in.
23:10Of course.
23:11For me, it's time.
23:12Time.
23:13You know, because
23:14when the schedule...
23:15Did you set a time?
23:16No, no, no.
23:17Not really.
23:18But 5 minutes,
23:1910 minutes.
23:20Because when you're training,
23:21when you're late,
23:22you're really angry.
23:23But after a while,
23:24of course, I love him.
23:25I can't...
23:26You're jealous.
23:27I'm jealous, right?
23:28Of course,
23:29for example,
23:30you'll just emote.
23:31No, but you know,
23:32it doesn't mean I love him.
23:34But in the Philippines,
23:35in the Philippines,
23:365 minutes,
23:3710 minutes.
23:38You have to be on time.
23:39That's right.
23:40That's what I learned.
23:42What about you?
23:43For me,
23:44because the Japanese way of life is
23:46when it's their payday,
23:47they always...
23:48the wives,
23:49they expect their husband
23:50will go out
23:51for the nightclub,
23:52have a good time,
23:53they'll go drinking.
23:54So, after being married to my husband,
23:57that's really their way of life,
23:58that they cannot close a business deal
24:00without bottles,
24:01without whiskey or beer.
24:03So,
24:04that's what we usually fight about,
24:07why you have to close a business deal
24:10in front of a bottle
24:11in a nightclub.
24:14Because it is the Japanese way of life.
24:17For me,
24:18it's more of
24:19my moods.
24:20My moods,
24:21and my time.
24:22Sometimes,
24:23when I'm late.
24:24Time management.
24:25Yes,
24:26and my moods.
24:27Because I'm possessive,
24:28I want my husband to be close to me.
24:30He can't just be like,
24:31come here.
24:32He can't be tied up.
24:34I don't want my husband to be close to me.
24:36Who do you agree with?
24:38Us?
24:39A lot of us.
24:40We agree with a lot of people
24:42because
24:43we complement
24:45the part where
24:47he has a lot of wives.
24:49Concubines, actually.
24:50I'm the original wife.
24:52Because I love my freedom.
24:54Not necessarily freedom.
24:55Free as in free.
24:56Space.
24:58I enjoy being alone.
25:00I don't want to be cramped.
25:02I don't want to be with someone.
25:03That's the opposite.
25:04I don't want to be tied up.
25:06I don't want to be there all the time.
25:07So,
25:08I understand that.
25:09That's why I accepted it.
25:10First,
25:11how did they adjust
25:12to their husband's culture?
25:14We'll talk about romance.
25:16Miss Thailand,
25:17come in!
25:18The happiness of the couple
25:20will come back.
25:22Back!
25:23Now, we know
25:24how they bridge the cultural gap.
25:27Of course.
25:28Different nationalities,
25:30race.
25:31How did they adjust
25:32to their husband's culture?
25:33Of course,
25:34they say
25:35the best way to a man's heart
25:37is the stomach.
25:39So, true food.
25:40For me,
25:41true food,
25:42true film.
25:43I tried to reach out to the language.
25:45So, I have to study French.
25:47French?
25:48I still don't know how to speak it.
25:50She barely knows French.
25:52I'm not good at it.
25:54You need to have a big mouth.
25:57Because,
25:58I have a big mouth.
26:04Right?
26:05I think
26:06the best way is
26:07true food.
26:08One way is true film.
26:10Entertainment.
26:11Because,
26:12he's an intern.
26:13He's the director
26:14of a film festival
26:15in Switzerland.
26:16So,
26:17that is how we met.
26:18So,
26:19we have
26:20common ground.
26:22So,
26:23I think
26:24it's easier
26:25because he understands
26:26the culture
26:27especially of
26:28developing countries.
26:30So,
26:31it's easier
26:32to reach out.
26:34So, when I cook Adobo,
26:36he has no choice
26:37if I don't eat it.
26:38I feel good
26:39when I cook.
26:41It's like Adobo,
26:42he really appreciates
26:43what you're doing.
26:44For me,
26:45it's exercise.
26:46Because,
26:47you know,
26:48he wants me to serve him
26:49all the time.
26:50I cannot walk
26:51ahead of him.
26:52I need to be
26:53at the back.
26:54You have a lot of rules.
26:55Yes,
26:56I have a lot of rules.
26:57What did you do?
26:58Did you study first?
26:59Do you have a course?
27:00Yes,
27:01I was trained.
27:02Really?
27:03Yes,
27:04it's true.
27:05Even serving tea.
27:06Anyway,
27:07when I exercise,
27:08he likes it.
27:09He taught me
27:10Tai Chi,
27:11Qigong.
27:12I told him
27:13to follow me
27:14and race with me.
27:16Even though
27:17I was ahead of him
27:18several times,
27:19I ran fast.
27:20I told him,
27:21you see,
27:22I can outrun you
27:23all the time.
27:25That means
27:26I can outwalk you.
27:27Allow me to walk fast.
27:29I cannot walk
27:30behind you.
27:31I have long legs.
27:32Little by little,
27:33little by little,
27:34he understood that.
27:36Then,
27:37he said,
27:38yeah,
27:39you're right,
27:40okay.
27:41Sometimes,
27:42I can be ahead of him.
27:43I won't irritate him.
27:44Then,
27:45when it comes to serving food,
27:46I told him,
27:47you know,
27:48it's hard
27:49to serve food
27:50back and forth.
27:51Can I have
27:52a big bowl
27:53of rice?
27:56Because I have a big stomach.
27:57Bandeado,
27:58injured.
27:59He agreed
28:00little by little.
28:02As for my husband,
28:04it's very easy for him
28:05to adapt
28:06to the Filipino way of life.
28:08He eats bagoong,
28:09even ampalaya.
28:11He's used to traffic,
28:12he's used to traffic.
28:14At first,
28:15he couldn't accept
28:16the Filipino style
28:17of always going around the bush,
28:18right?
28:19It's not direct to the point.
28:20And he became
28:21too adapted
28:22in the Philippines
28:23to the point
28:24that he's already
28:25peeing on the post.
28:27When we're in
28:28places
28:29where there's no
28:30magic,
28:31I told him,
28:32he's really like a Filipino.
28:33Really?
28:34He knows how to stand
28:35on the post.
28:37In that case,
28:38my husband
28:39can't adjust
28:40because he has been here
28:41for 10 years.
28:42He already knows.
28:43That's the only thing
28:44he knows.
28:45When I'm mad at him,
28:46I cook dry food.
28:47When it's dry,
28:48he'll die.
28:50You know,
28:51I'm mad at my husband.
28:52Can we talk?
28:53Can we talk?
28:54Oh, that's it.
28:55I'll cook for you
28:56when I get mad.
28:57It's cute, right?
28:58It's cute.
28:59Of course,
29:00when you're married,
29:01you have children.
29:02In raising children,
29:03I'm sure
29:04there are still
29:05differences.
29:06Yes.
29:07What are those?
29:08Discipline.
29:09Well,
29:10in Japanese culture,
29:11even in Chinese,
29:12it's important
29:13to have a son.
29:14Correct.
29:15Very important.
29:16You will really see
29:17the difference
29:18when it comes to boy.
29:19Even if it's unreasonable,
29:20the reasonings of the boy
29:21are in the boy.
29:23So, I have to tell my girl
29:24that Papa's favorite
29:26is the boy.
29:27So, I have to tell my girl
29:28that I'm his favorite.
29:30If Papa's favorite
29:31is you,
29:32then the boy is pitiful.
29:33So, we have to make it balanced
29:35because it's really
29:36very evident.
29:37Especially in Chinese.
29:38All your children
29:39are girls.
29:40None.
29:41They're not counted.
29:42In my case,
29:43it's registered.
29:44It's registered
29:45in the city hall.
29:46First born son only.
29:48If it's a girl,
29:49there's no registration.
29:50If it's a girl,
29:51it's not registered.
29:52Is it a boy for you?
29:53Yes.
29:54Yes.
29:55But think about it.
29:56It's a pressure.
29:57Discrimination.
29:58I hope it's a boy.
29:59I don't want to have
30:00an ultrasound.
30:01What if it's a girl?
30:03I might leave her.
30:05Here.
30:06For romance,
30:07there.
30:08There.
30:09We can do this.
30:10How about we make it different?
30:12From a Filipino to a foreigner.
30:15I think,
30:16because I only have two.
30:17Inchika and a Filipino.
30:18I think I'm still a Filipino
30:19when it comes to romance.
30:20I haven't tasted
30:21the other flavors yet.
30:24It's natural.
30:25It's natural.
30:27But I mean,
30:28does my husband
30:30wear socks?
30:32None.
30:33But he wears socks.
30:35It's like,
30:37it's like cartoons.
30:39I'm just kidding.
30:40I'm just kidding.
30:41It's still nothing.
30:42It's not that romantic.
30:44It's nothing.
30:45It's too much.
30:46Just for the sake of
30:48making a baby.
30:50It's in Chinese.
30:51Yes.
30:52It's not that adventurous.
30:53And his socks.
30:54It's not that crazy.
30:55It's not that much.
30:56I hope
30:57the socks are in a different place.
31:00Believe me.
31:01Believe me.
31:02What do you want to know?
31:03What does he like?
31:06I'll ask Mel again.
31:08Okay, go home.
31:09In Japanese?
31:10My husband,
31:11he happens to be
31:12westernized.
31:13So,
31:14he's not typical Japanese.
31:15But,
31:17I would say he's a good lover.
31:18Fairly good lover
31:19compared to
31:20an average Filipino.
31:23Otherwise,
31:24I won't have a baby with him.
31:25I won't marry him.
31:28What is this?
31:29It's romance.
31:30It's like,
31:31I'm about to faint.
31:33What is this?
31:34It's romance.
31:37I was thinking
31:38I'm about to faint.
31:39I've been here for months.
31:42I'm about to faint.
31:43Call someone.
31:46It's too early.
31:48It's too early.
31:49We don't behave like that.
31:50In fact,
31:51he chased me
31:52for two years.
31:55Wow,
31:56you had a courtship for two years?
31:57Yes.
31:58Did you have fun?
31:59I feel like
32:00I'm a
32:01felony beauty queen.
32:04But,
32:06I have a daughter
32:07outside, right?
32:08Yes.
32:09When she's there,
32:11she feels like
32:12her privacy is lost.
32:14Because,
32:15wherever she wants to go,
32:17at the corner of the house,
32:19she can be affectionate.
32:20You know,
32:21honey,
32:22this and that.
32:23They're very romantic.
32:24So,
32:25for example,
32:26if they're having dinner,
32:27if she wants to
32:28kiss him,
32:29she can kiss him.
32:30Right?
32:31So,
32:32that's what I didn't feel
32:34in the Philippines.
32:35In the Philippines.
32:37They're so,
32:38I mean,
32:39they're too reserved.
32:40Correct.
32:41Right?
32:42Especially me, I'm Spanish.
32:43I don't know.
32:45Oh,
32:46I understand.
32:47But,
32:48it's just the two of you,
32:49Chinese and Filipino.
32:50Yes.
32:51But,
32:52for me,
32:53it's the opposite.
32:54The Filipinos are more...
32:55affectionate.
32:57They're more affectionate.
32:59They're okay.
33:00The Filipinos are okay.
33:02It's just,
33:03it so happens that
33:04maybe if they're equal
33:05in being open-minded,
33:07you know,
33:08and just being honest,
33:09you know.
33:10Straightforward.
33:11Straightforward.
33:12Like,
33:13hello, I have a girlfriend.
33:14I'm in love.
33:15Okay, goodbye.
33:16Okay, get out of here.
33:17It's my money.
33:18Things like that.
33:19I mean,
33:20let's be straight.
33:21There's no more
33:22emotional torture
33:23for us.
33:24Right?
33:25If they want,
33:26they make it hard for us.
33:27You're a double standard for us.
33:28Of course,
33:29Helen is still the same.
33:30Of course.
33:32You know,
33:33another episode.
33:35No,
33:36for me,
33:38with my marriage now,
33:39that's why I enjoy it.
33:40Because
33:41we don't have
33:42a wall.
33:43My fantasy
33:44is really
33:45what I do.
33:47I have a lot of fantasies.
33:49Like,
33:50I still have a lot.
33:51Like,
33:52I don't believe it.
33:53You don't believe it.
33:54Of course,
33:55I don't believe it.
33:56But,
33:57actually,
33:58it's nice
33:59because your husband
34:00is open for everything.
34:01Everything is open.
34:02It can be secret.
34:03Yes.
34:04Where it's pointed,
34:05we can be here.
34:06We can be here.
34:07He's interested.
34:08He's really beautiful.
34:09Yes.
34:10He's really beautiful.
34:11I'm not listening.
34:12Yes.
34:14Don't be arrogant.
34:15Because,
34:16you're interesting.
34:19You go first, Jerry.
34:20Yes,
34:21I'm nervous.
34:22We still have a lot to talk about.
34:24Meanwhile,
34:25here's Miss Columbia.
34:27We'll continue our conversation
34:28when Sis returns.
34:30Foreigners here in the Philippines
34:32are attracted to women
34:33because they're domesticated.
34:35What's your case
34:37when it comes to working women?
34:41I'm simple.
34:42My husband doesn't want me
34:43to have a job.
34:44So, when I got a job,
34:45he brought his last girlfriend
34:48to our house.
34:49That means
34:50we're going to get divorced.
34:51This is the time
34:52to go home.
34:53Yes.
34:54He just doesn't want
34:55me to have a job.
34:57He can't do that.
34:58Lose his face.
34:59He said.
35:00You want me to lose my face?
35:02It's like he's shy.
35:03He's shy because
35:04he can't support you
35:05so you have to work.
35:07That's what I like about my husband.
35:10He supports everything I want.
35:12That's why I'm complete now.
35:14I have a husband,
35:15I have a friend,
35:16I have a lover.
35:17I have confidence.
35:19I can do everything I want.
35:21I used to be able to do it
35:22but I couldn't see it.
35:23I couldn't see them.
35:24But with my husband,
35:26he's protecting me.
35:27Support.
35:30I think,
35:31unfortunately,
35:32enough.
35:34Because he allowed me
35:35to put up a festival here.
35:37Like,
35:38both of us.
35:40He supports you.
35:41No.
35:42I look for my fans.
35:44But he supports me
35:46to find funding
35:48or to find jobs.
35:49He even helps you.
35:50Yes.
35:51He doesn't let you down.
35:52No.
35:53Support.
35:54He really supports.
35:55As in,
35:56he believes in my idea.
35:58He believes that
35:59Filipino films need to be helped abroad.
36:02He lives in Africa
36:06so he knows how hard it is
36:08even to the poorest.
36:10So he needs support
36:12to uplift.
36:14So,
36:15like me now,
36:16I'm organizing a film club
36:17for children.
36:19He doesn't forbid me
36:20to go home.
36:21He just tells me
36:22to stay here.
36:23Not like that.
36:24So, okay,
36:25if that's what you want.
36:26Because you need to leave.
36:27Yes.
36:28So, it takes six months
36:29to do that, right?
36:30So, he's supportive.
36:32My husband,
36:33he encouraged me to work.
36:34He encouraged me to do business.
36:36He gave me new experiences.
36:38He even taught me new sports.
36:40Surfing, skiing.
36:42Typical Japanese wife,
36:44she stays home.
36:45Yes.
36:46You just get paid.
36:47You take care of the kids.
36:48Very submissive.
36:49Because she's not typical.
36:50Also,
36:51I don't think our marriage
36:52will work
36:53because I'm not the type
36:54who will stay home.
36:55Correct.
36:56Because I want to also move.
36:57I want to grow.
36:58To grow.
36:59How I wish
37:00to be domesticated.
37:01The one thing
37:02that's good for a foreign wife
37:05is that
37:06they're your asset.
37:07Why do they
37:08control your asset?
37:10They control the growth.
37:11Yes.
37:12That's why they like you,
37:13right?
37:14Yes.
37:15But I think,
37:16you know why the foreigners
37:17love the Filipinas?
37:18Because they're
37:19free.
37:20And they're romantic.
37:22The women
37:24serve.
37:26They follow.
37:27Not all the time.
37:29Submissive.
37:30Yes.
37:31To a certain extent.
37:32To a certain extent.
37:33They're submissive.
37:34But,
37:35like me,
37:36I'm a type.
37:37Because our parents
37:38raised us
37:39to be submissive.
37:41And they can't
37:42erase
37:43the Filipino identity.
37:45Exactly.
37:46No matter how much they try,
37:47even if Meng Fei tried
37:48so hard
37:49for Boots
37:50to be like that,
37:51then in the end,
37:52she still would look
37:53for her freedom,
37:54her true identity.
37:55What's your message
37:56to the Filipinas
37:57who dream of
37:58marrying a foreigner?
37:59Okay,
38:00I'll go first.
38:01I would say
38:02that the Filipinas
38:03should,
38:04because
38:05when you marry
38:06a foreigner,
38:07they immediately think,
38:08oh,
38:09I can go abroad.
38:10Oh,
38:11I can earn dollars.
38:12I can earn a lot.
38:14If you're looking
38:15for a husband,
38:16find a husband.
38:17Don't find somebody
38:18to support
38:19your family.
38:20Because,
38:21what the Japanese said,
38:22if you're married
38:23to a Filipino,
38:24it's a package deal.
38:25You'll support
38:26your siblings,
38:27your mom,
38:28your dad.
38:29If you have a big
38:30family,
38:31you'll start a business.
38:32Foreigners
38:33are afraid
38:34of Filipinas.
38:35So,
38:36I would say that
38:37you marry the person,
38:38don't look at him
38:39like a dollar
38:40or a peso
38:41or a yen.
38:42Love him like a husband.
38:43In my case,
38:44I was worth it.
38:46Bravo!
38:47Of course.
38:49After 11 years,
38:50you're still weak.
38:53Miss Evelyn,
38:54what is that?
38:57My spouse is 10.
38:59I mean,
39:00don't look for them.
39:01Let them look for you.
39:03Because,
39:04if it's the right time,
39:05whether you're 40
39:06or 50,
39:07I mean,
39:08if he or she
39:09If it's for you.
39:10If it's for you,
39:11it's really for you.
39:12You're not forcing it.
39:14So,
39:15I wish that
39:16my marriage will be
39:17the last one
39:18and it's going to be
39:19forever.
39:20But,
39:21it's all in the hands
39:22of God.
39:23So,
39:24we just need to
39:25trust God.
39:27I can tell them
39:28to pray
39:29and to choose.
39:30Because,
39:31I also made a mistake.
39:32I mean,
39:33it's my own choice.
39:34But now,
39:35what I really pray for
39:36my husband
39:37is to have a team.
39:38You know,
39:39not just a wife.
39:40Pray
39:41and don't lose
39:42because
39:43God will guide you.
39:44Because,
39:45even if it's a Filipino,
39:46even if it's difficult,
39:47if you two
39:48are together
39:49and help each other,
39:50you will ascend
39:51in God's way.
39:54I would like to,
39:55right now,
39:56if possible,
39:57to tell the people
39:58outside
39:59our country
40:00that,
40:01that's why we,
40:02I mean,
40:03I really love
40:04what I'm doing right now
40:05with my husband
40:06with the support.
40:07Because,
40:08he's saying that
40:09this is what I will do
40:10for them
40:11to build a new audience
40:12and new filmmakers
40:13of tomorrow
40:14which I really like.
40:15That's why,
40:16I will invite them
40:17come December 7 to 11
40:19with the film club
40:20for children
40:21that I'm organizing.
40:22Me,
40:23I'm looking for,
40:24no,
40:25the title,
40:26what does it mean?
40:27The title of my new soap
40:28on Channel 7
40:29is coming out.
40:30I hope it's you,
40:31directed by
40:32direct,
40:33Gil Tejada Jr.
40:34We have a lot here.
40:35I listed them.
40:36Lindong Dante,
40:37Tanya Garcia,
40:38Andrew DeLeon,
40:39Bobby Allen,
40:40Cheska Garcia,
40:41Wendell Ramos,
40:42Jacqueline Jose,
40:43Tirso Cruz,
40:44there are a lot.
40:45Just watch them.
40:46I think,
40:47one common denominator
40:48of all of you
40:49is you're all
40:50strong women.
40:51And I think,
40:52for a foreigner,
40:53you need to be
40:54a strong woman
40:55because,
40:56there are a lot
40:57of differences.
40:58Cultural differences,
40:59religious differences.
41:00I mean,
41:01most foreigners
41:02are one in saying
41:03that the Filipino woman
41:04is always strong.
41:05Yes.
41:06And also,
41:07Hassler,
41:09with Jackie Woo.
41:10And,
41:11we are using our brains.
41:12And,
41:13we smell good.
41:14Wow!
41:17Thank you very much.
41:18Thank you very much.
41:19The important thing is,
41:20love in any language,
41:21it's still love.
41:22No matter where.
41:23Love,
41:24love,
41:25love,
41:26love,
41:27love,
41:28love,
41:29love is still love
41:30in any language.
41:31No matter where.
41:32No matter the color,
41:33race,
41:34or
41:35origin,
41:36or
41:37currency.
41:38Or currency.
41:39As long as there's love,
41:40it's a win.
41:42We'll be back.
41:44I love her.
41:47She's an amazing person.
41:50She's my best friend.
41:52She is a wonderful wife.
41:55She is an amazing mother.
41:58She's devoted to her children.
42:00She puts them first in her life.
42:04She's up at night
42:05taking care of the baby.
42:07Make sure the kids
42:08have everything they need.
42:11It's fun to be her husband
42:13because
42:14she's always got
42:15something interesting
42:17and crazy to consider.
42:20So,
42:21that's all.
42:26I would like to ask
42:27all of you,
42:29would you consider
42:30marrying a Filipino?
42:31Gan.
42:32Of course,
42:33instead of Darlene.
42:34Foreigner.
42:35Darlene,
42:37if I love him that much,
42:38and if I feel
42:39he's the right one,
42:40why not?
42:41Yes, I would.
42:44When there's love,
42:45I think it doesn't matter
42:46the place.
42:47It doesn't matter.
42:48It doesn't matter.
42:49Yes.
42:58She said that
42:59love doesn't have a place,
43:00doesn't have a time,
43:01doesn't have a date.
43:02But you can find it
43:03anywhere.
43:04Miss Mexico.
43:06Thank you.
43:07Same,
43:08same answer.
43:20Very warm.
43:21Thank you very much again
43:23for being here.
43:24Thank you for
43:25helping us feel
43:26for our children.
43:27Thank you very much.
43:28And we hope you guys
43:29enjoy the show today.
43:31I really speak English.
43:33Thank you.
43:34Guys, we're not beauty queens.
43:35Thank you.
43:36But I think
43:37they want to thank
43:38some of their friends.
43:39Okay.
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43:43Darlene?
43:44And we would like to thank
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43:48Thank you.
43:49Okay?
43:50Thank you again.
43:51Thank you.
43:52Thank you everybody
43:53for watching the show.
43:54Okay.
43:55We'll see you tomorrow.
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44:19Human,
44:20Salon de Manila,
44:21Janeline,
44:22Under the Sea Pet Shop,
44:24The Barnyard,
44:25Play and Display,
44:26Dominic's Flowers,
44:28Kit Kakes,
44:29Party Details for our balloons,
44:31and Union Square.
44:33Thank you very much
44:34for continuing
44:36the story
44:38about...
44:41...the story
44:42about the return of Sis.
44:45You know,
44:46it's hard to have
44:47someone serve you
44:48back and forth.
44:49Can I have
44:50a big bowl of rice?
44:52I can't go back
44:53because the rice is too strong.
44:55Bandeado!
45:03The best of friends
45:04we'll always,
45:06always be.
45:10We always have fun
45:12being together.
45:14You know me,
45:15the best were friends
45:17forever.
45:18The good times and bad times
45:19we had together.
45:20The good times and bad times
45:21we had together.
45:22The good times and bad times
45:23we had together.
45:24The good times and bad times
45:25we had together.
45:26The good times and bad times
45:27we had together.
45:28The good times and bad times
45:29we had together.
45:30The good times and bad times
45:31we had together.