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00:00Alrighty righty, just wanted to give you some of my social media stuff, I'm gonna be working
00:07on the low birthrate stuff, so I've got some bookmarked here.
00:11So the Red Hot Chili Peppers Anthony Kiedis, 52, with his girlfriend Helena, who's 19.
00:19And I guess a smoker.
00:22And people are grossed out by this 52 year old guy with a 19 year old woman.
00:30And I don't know why, I mean, I get obviously it's a huge age gap, and is it likely to lead
00:37to marriage and so on, but he's at the top of his game, right?
00:40So he's a relatively youthful looking fellow, and he's famous, and he's wealthy, and I wouldn't
00:46say necessarily that he's super good looking, but you know, he's a status symbol to the
00:50girl.
00:51I don't think it's great, probably not gonna lead to marriage, but I don't know exactly
00:58what the major issue is.
01:01Obviously I would not want my daughter to date a guy who's in his 50s, but he's at his
01:09peak dating value as a wealthy, famous, successful guy, and she's at her peak dating value as
01:17a young, attractive, she's got a bit of that woman who played the elf in Lord of the Rings,
01:25I can't remember her name, but yeah, she's got Liv Taylor, Liv Tyler, she's got a little
01:31bit of that vibe going on, it probably is a short term relationship, but yeah, so men
01:37when they are at the peak of their dating value will often date women at the peak of
01:41their dating value.
01:43You may not like it, but if you're gonna say that men at the peak of their dating value
01:47can't date who they want, well one of the problems you're gonna have is men aren't gonna
01:51try and achieve that much.
01:52One of the reasons why this, you know, semi-skeevy looking fellow, this semi-skeevy looking guy
01:56became a rock star was to get the girls, so if you deny that, you won't get a lot of achievement.
02:02I thought this was interesting, a few years ago, says this fellow, I had a professional
02:07interaction with an archetypical liberal cat lady, smart but not brilliant, about 35, academic
02:12title, PhD but low salary, unmarried cats, no kids.
02:16These people sacrifice a great deal for a credential inscrutable to over 90% of the
02:21people and for the 10% of elites who know what the credential is, it's not that impressive
02:25because many careers are more interesting and fun and pay better.
02:28So invariably these people who are self-important but have middling status and live lives that
02:34feel small become maniacally over-invested in politics to compensate, without being mean-spirited.
02:41I think it's fair to point out that these women's politics are fake, that they're compensating
02:45for personal and professional disappointments, and that what they're engaged in is therapeutic
02:50performance.
02:51Yeah, it's very sad, the academic world, I looked into it of course, I got my graduate
02:57degree, I got a master's degree, I was looking at a PhD, but I was in my sort of mid-twenties
03:02at the time and I thought, gee, it's going to take me seven years to finish my PhD, five
03:07to seven years, and another five years to get a tenure-track position, and of course
03:11the diversity hires would probably have blocked me, I was aware of that, it was just coming
03:15in when I was younger, and I thought, gee, I'm going to be in my mid-to-late thirties
03:20before I have a stable job, that's too late to really start a family, so it just didn't
03:24seem particularly wise.
03:26A lot of people go down that route, thinking that they're going to get a lot of social
03:30status and you kind of end up in this no-man's land, literally a no-man's land.
03:37So if you are an academic woman, then men, generally we don't care about you getting
03:46a PhD, what it means is that you're going to feel that you're going to make great sacrifices
03:53to have kids and raise them, and so the women who want really successful men, what the successful
03:59men want of course, after you've made your money and all of that, what the successful
04:03men want is a legacy, if you've made your money, you've had your success, and now you
04:07want your wife and your kids, so a very educated woman is going to be a very prickly and difficult
04:13mother and wife, housemaker and so on, she's going to feel underutilized, she's going to
04:21be frustrated and annoyed, so for a man who wants a wife and kids, which is what the successful
04:25men want, she's just not going to be suitable.
04:29But she's too academically credentialed to date below her, right, so she's not going
04:33to date a guy who's got a high school education or even an undergrad, maybe even a master's
04:38and so on, but it is going to be very tough.
04:43And I talked about this with Janet Heimlich many years ago, that the higher the status
04:53of the woman, the fewer the men she's going to want to date, and her high status makes
04:57her less dateable for men, and women invent all of this stuff, like, well, I guess men
05:04are just intimidated by my brilliance, and they're just intimidated by strong women,
05:11and no, that's, I mean, I personally like strong women, my wife's a very strong and
05:16passionate and great woman, and well-educated too, but I like all of that.
05:21It's just that we're looking for a wife and mother to our children.
05:28And it's not that you're a strong woman, it's that you will be dissatisfied with raising
05:32children because you'll always feel like you're destined for something better, and of course
05:36you've absorbed, particularly in the liberal arts, you've absorbed a lot of education that
05:41means that you're going to look at being a homemaker as a terrible, negative, horrible,
05:47awful, wretched thing.
05:49So what can I say?
05:52It's not a good deal for a man.
05:56So I wrote about this in my novel, The Present, which you should definitely get, it's available
06:01for free at freedomain.com slash books, but this is from 1953, just as sort of feminism
06:09was kicking in, and women really wanted to work, and this is a movie called Half a Hero,
06:15and you should listen to this, it's about two minutes, absolutely worth listening to,
06:18so hang on a sec here, here we go.
06:20Thank you Mr. Peso, hey, you're very kind to give so much, especially these days.
06:25I suppose you're having the same trouble that everybody else is.
06:28We were.
06:29Were?
06:30Till I got a job.
06:31I believe that marriage is a partnership, and I'm going to pull my weight too.
06:35That's so.
06:36George didn't want me to work on account of Boopsie, that's our little boy, he's three,
06:39but I said, George, if we're in double harness, then we ought to pull together, didn't I George?
06:43Yes, dear.
06:44So every morning when George goes to New York to work, I go with him, don't I George?
06:47Yes, dear.
06:48Oh, dear, that's Boopsie's hunger howl, excuse me.
06:52Well, thanks again Mr. Peso.
06:54Good night Mr. Dobbs.
06:55Good night now.
06:56Mr. Dellums?
06:57Yes, sir?
06:58There's something I've got to tell you.
07:00Yes?
07:01You love your wife, don't you?
07:03Sure, me too.
07:05My wife?
07:06No, mine.
07:07Oh, I'm nuts about her.
07:09All I want is to make her happy, and if it makes her happy to think she's helping out,
07:12I'm not going to tell her any different.
07:13Isn't she helping out?
07:14We'll figure it out.
07:16Her job pays her $53 a week.
07:19After withholding, that's $43.60.
07:21It costs $30 a week to get an all-day sitter for the baby.
07:24It costs $4 a week, railroad fare to New York, and that's just to the railroad station, remember.
07:28And there's buses to and from the job, that's another dollar a week.
07:31Only twice a week she's late getting in and has to take a cab.
07:34It's another dollar.
07:36You figure it?
07:37Yeah, that's up to $36.
07:39Okay, lunch is $5 a week.
07:41Coffee at 11 and 4, that's another dollar.
07:45That makes $42.
07:47Now let's take that sitter.
07:49That woman eats her own weight every day.
07:52My food bills up at least $5 a week since she came to work for us.
07:55And once a week, like clockwork, she calls in sick.
07:58Well, my wife can't stay home with the baby on account that she's afraid she'll lose her job.
08:02So who stays home?
08:04Right.
08:06Me.
08:07And I get docked $18.
08:09Well, that amounts to $65.
08:12She brings home $43.60 and I shell out $65.
08:16By helping me out, she's costing me a little over $20 a week.
08:20Can't win, can you?
08:22Just thought I'd tell you in case you were thinking of trying it.
08:26Thanks, sir.
08:28Okay.
08:30So, yeah, isn't that wild?
08:33Isn't that wild?
08:35Long, long time ago.
08:3870 years, right? 70 years ago.
08:4171, in fact.
08:43So there was something about feminism.
08:46And this is interesting, too.
08:48D&D, right? Dungeons and Dragons.
08:50And what they've done, apparently, is they've taken away.
08:54So there's elves and dwarves and humans and halflings or hobbits and so on.
08:59And they have changed them all.
09:03So that races, different races in D&D don't have positive or negative attributes.
09:08Which is a shame because it made for a lot more variety and diversity in the game.
09:11But, of course, they've gotten rid of that.
09:13This, I thought, was funny.
09:15What does it mean when this light comes on?
09:17It's a car on fire. That was funny.
09:20This is interesting, too, just how this pendulum goes.
09:24In 1976, 5% of high school seniors were straight edge.
09:28No alcohol, no cigarettes, no marijuana in the prior month.
09:31I, of course, I mean, I was an athlete in high school.
09:34So I was, of course, one of those people.
09:36In 2021, nearly 40% of high school seniors were straight edge.
09:40Isn't that wild?
09:42Now, that's a little less rebelliousness and so on.
09:45But, anyway, people are getting cleaner.
09:48The pendulum swings.
09:50Source from Reddit, this is sort of very interesting.
09:52This guy says, I work in a call center and so do 17 million people around the world.
09:5695% of costs associated with call centers are due to staffing.
10:00And it's a $300 billion industry.
10:03I've recently been made aware of a demo with a new call center AI agent.
10:07And I immediately started looking for a different career.
10:10The bad part is my job and everyone else's in this industry is over.
10:13The good part is you will never be put on hold again.
10:16The AI agent will likely already know who you are when you call,
10:19have predicted the issue you're most likely having,
10:21and be ready to offer the solution to that issue.
10:24Most people will not be able to tell they're talking to an AI agent.
10:27Two years max for the call centers to train these friendly, helpful AIs
10:30in every possible scenario, implement them, and fire everyone.
10:33AI will take all our jobs.
10:35Fine by me working in a call center.
10:37Sucks.
10:39Somebody replied, our corporation recently switched to fully automated customer service
10:43and most people can't tell.
10:44When they can, they get over it.
10:46The new demo I saw says someone else,
10:48the latest AI was friendlier, smarter, and more helpful than half the people I work with.
10:52It is tough.
10:53It seems like, I mean, sometimes it's just heavily accented people
10:56that sound like they're shouting through a tin can.
10:58And it's really, really tough.
11:01This I thought was interesting.
11:03I wouldn't have guessed this data.
11:05So this person writes 1% of people are responsible for 24% of the health spending in America
11:12and 5% of people are responsible for just over half.
11:17Isn't that wild?
11:19Top 10% are 67% and so on.
11:21Isn't that wild?
11:23The bottom 50% are only 3%.
11:27The bottom 50% of spenders basically don't spend anything.
11:30The top percentiles use ambulances, require inpatient care,
11:33and take lots of quite expensive medications.
11:36If we swap total spending out for pocket spending,
11:39then the bottom 50% are averaging nearly no spending at all
11:42and ambulatory events come to dominate what high spenders pay for.
11:47Obvious rejoiners to bring up sex and age.
11:49Women have special health needs and everyone spends a lot when they're old.
11:52True.
11:53But disproportionality is mostly independent of age.
11:56Here's age 65 plus only.
11:59And still, top 1% of people are 17% of the spending.
12:04Sex doesn't make a huge difference and, in fact,
12:06is predictably reserved for absent and youth and old age.
12:09It is really remarkable, he says, just how few people drive health spending.
12:13The majority of people have no unmet health needs
12:15and most with unmet needs have only minor ones.
12:18The very select few make high average health spending possible.
12:23He says, after posting this, I've seen people claiming
12:26this necessarily represents waste and that I meant that.
12:30This is due to age.
12:31This is due to momentary sickness, etc.
12:34No, to put them out of bed,
12:35here's lifetime spending disproportionality from age 70.
12:40Bottom 50% are still only 19%.
12:44And Elon Musk wrote,
12:45vast majority of health care spending is near end of life
12:47and obesity often plays a major role.
12:49GLP and other hungry inhibitors might be the single biggest positive effect
12:52on health care and quality of life in the 21st century.
12:57Yeah, I mean, the people who pursue unhealthy lifestyle habits,
13:03I get quite angry.
13:04I'm just telling you personally,
13:05I get quite angry at people who pursue bad health decisions
13:08because they are taking away health care from emergency needs, right?
13:12So everybody who's fat, everybody who doesn't exercise,
13:15everybody who smokes, everybody who drinks to excess,
13:18everybody who eats badly and doesn't get enough sleep,
13:21they are equivalent to me to drunk drivers.
13:23They're just causing random chaos and problems in the world
13:26and it really is quite frustrating and annoying.
13:28And especially if it's their own life, their own choice,
13:31I think that's bad as a whole.
13:32But the fact is that they usually have their fingers in my wallet
13:35and that actually gets quite frustrating.
13:38All right, this is wild.
13:44So my mom says, I don't know if I can mute this.
13:46Yes, I can.
13:47My mom says she used to break hearts back in the day.
13:51So let's look at this woman.
13:59And this is how she looked when she was younger.
14:07That's a lot of hair.
14:12Crazy.
14:13Yeah, that is, Pearl Davis was saying this is a kind of fraud, yeah.
14:21Oh, yeah, you can pause this and read this if you want,
14:23but this is, of course, there's lots of exceptions,
14:26but this is women from the age of 18 every year, what some say, up to 37.
14:34Rough.
14:37How to perfect your sleep.
14:39The psychology of manipulation.
14:40I thought this was interesting, right?
14:42So gaslighting, using denial, lying, misinformation, and contradiction
14:46to make you doubt your sanity, memory, and perception.
14:48Do this, disengage and walk away.
14:50Victimhood, designed to exploit your goodwill, guilty conscience,
14:53protective and nurturing instinct in order to benefit personally.
14:56Do this, don't get emotionally involved or let go of that relationship.
14:59Three, guilt tripping.
15:01It's a passive-aggressive way to remind you of something bad you did
15:04in order to make them want to make up for it.
15:08I think make you want to make up for it.
15:10Respond with empathy, but trust your intuitions.
15:13Pretend ignorance, playing dumb in order to get away with behavioral things.
15:16Do this, judge action, not the intention.
15:18You know, I've been saying this for years and years and years in the call-in show,
15:22don't try and judge intentions, only judge actions.
15:25Negative humor, make critical remarks disguised as sarcasm or humor
15:29to make you feel inferior or less secure.
15:31Do this, remain calm, smile, and put that person in the spotlight
15:34by asking questions.
15:36Projection, criticizing others for the things they do themselves as well.
15:39Do this, don't take the bait, remove yourself from the arena.
15:42Constant criticism, constantly marginalizing, ridiculing,
15:44dismissing you to make you feel inferior and to make them feel superior.
15:47Say thank you and get on with your life.
15:49Yeah, I don't do essential criticism, certainly not anymore.
15:52I thought this is kind of cool, baby chameleons helping with pest control.
15:56You got some bugs on the wall.
15:58And some of these I, of course, have for my daughter.
16:00It's just wild.
16:01I was going to do this on a show.
16:03I think it'll be coming up.
16:05The empty bucket list was something you'll never do again.
16:09Let's go camping.
16:11Oh, these women who fly.
16:12Turns out he was already flying.
16:14Two days before my birthday, I matched with this man on Hinge.
16:17He goes, how adventurous are you?
16:19I said, I would take a flight with you if you book it.
16:21And that's how I ended up in Miami.
16:23Turns out he was already flying there that day when he messaged me
16:26and he also lives here.
16:27So many flights were canceled because of the technology outage,
16:30but I was so lucky that everything went so smoothly.
16:33I went to a friend with his girlfriend,
16:35and they were on the same flight as me going for her birthday.
16:38We went to meet this Hinge man together,
16:40and they became my safety check-in points for the entire trip.
16:42Took me to get a pre-dinner snack at Lido at the Standard Hotel
16:45and show me around.
16:46And then went back to his.
16:47Okay, so there.
16:48So this is Ted Bundy would put up wilt numbers in this generation.
16:51I guess that's wilt chamberlain sleeping with women.
16:53And yeah, this thing where women are just thrilled to go out
16:57and meet strangers who are paying for them.
16:59Oh, I don't know, man.
17:00Just seems really, really dicey.
17:01Now this one was pretty wild.
17:02Just look at this.
17:035.5 million views.
17:04This woman, Lori Penny, wrote,
17:07Women don't owe the world children.
17:08They don't owe men babies, and they don't owe you an explanation.
17:14Yeah, I think that's interesting.
17:17That's interesting.
17:18Of course women don't owe the world children.
17:22That's fine.
17:23But if you're going to go down the road of not owing the world,
17:29that's fine as long as the not owing is both ways, right?
17:34So if women don't owe the world children, that's fine.
17:39Then they can make their own choices and not provide for the next generation.
17:43That's fine.
17:44But then men don't owe women alimony.
17:49Men don't owe women, you know, men pay about twice in taxes
17:53what they receive in benefits,
17:55and women receive about twice in benefits what they pay in taxes.
17:58So that should all go away.
17:59Single mother welfare state should go away.
18:02Old age pensions that disproportionately benefit women should go away
18:06because they contribute less and take out more because they live longer.
18:09And we should get rid of equal pay for work of equal value
18:14and all of these women hiring initiatives because nobody owes you a job.
18:18So I think that's interesting.
18:20I like the idea of saying women don't owe the world anything
18:25as long as it's very much accepted that the world then doesn't owe women anything at all.
18:30Men don't owe women protection in the world.
18:34Men don't owe women a seat.
18:36There shouldn't be any chivalry.
18:37Men don't owe women paying for dates,
18:39and women can pay for dates equally and so on.
18:43So yes, if you want to uncouple obligations, that's fine.
18:48But you are opening the door to men ceasing to have obligations towards women
18:54and that's interesting.
18:57Now, of course, women cannot provide the world children and that's fine,
19:00but if men don't pay the taxes that women want, men go to jail.
19:03So I think she's opening up a very interesting thing here.
19:06And of course, she would never imagine, I think, these kinds of responses,
19:10but that's where this will leave, I'm sure.
19:14All right.
19:15Apparently, height doesn't predict men sleeping around,
19:17but what about relationships?
19:18Are taller men less likely to be single?
19:22What did I do there?
19:24Let's go back here.
19:31Not the best, not the very best.
19:34Oh, yes, here we go.
19:35Best interface.
19:37When women tend to report a preference for taller men,
19:42women do tend to report a preference for taller men,
19:44but to what extent does this translate to actual mate selection of parents?
19:48Ideal height preferences correlate very weakly with actual partner height.
19:55In speed dates, men falling outside of women's preferred height range
19:58incur a relatively small penalty,
20:01though men falling below it are punished more than those who fall above it.
20:06Right?
20:07Assortive mating for height is about 0.25,
20:09which is less than would arise from simply enforcing the male taller norm.
20:14Of course, only slightly more couples with taller men than you'd expect by chance.
20:18So there's a very small effect of height on men's relationship status.
20:23At least past the mid-20s or so,
20:25taller people may have later starts due to slower life history strategies.
20:28A Cohen's d hovering around 0.1 emerges,
20:31one-tenth of a standard deviation essentially.
20:34So you understand that height is, you know, what they call a shit test,
20:41which is you're supposed to be insecure about your height in the same way
20:45you're supposed to be insecure about your baldness,
20:47but if you're not insecure about it, the women tend not to care at all.
20:51Okay, so this I think is very interesting.
20:53Come on a first date with me.
20:54This is a woman.
20:56She's 33.
20:57She says that at the end, but let's look at the beginning.
20:59First date right now.
21:00I spilled on myself in the car.
21:02It's oil.
21:03There's nothing I can do about it.
21:04We're going to a really nice Mediterranean restaurant.
21:06I am really hopeful for this one.
21:09I feel like an existential crisis right now because the date lovely,
21:16lovely human, absolutely lovely human.
21:18I am struggling with the fact that I am not easily attracted to people.
21:25That goes for girls and boys.
21:27I am just not easily attracted to people.
21:29I guess I'm just like a little frustrated with myself because someone can be like
21:33so perfectly kind and sweet and all that.
21:37And I just don't feel like that initial chemistry.
21:39Like it's like a block.
21:40I can count on my hands.
21:42How many times I have had the chemistry I'm talking about with people.
21:47Actually, I think you can count on only one hand.
21:49Like to be absolutely Frank and I am 33 years old.
21:53I know it's going to take time.
21:55I'm just really frustrated with myself.
21:57Um, even when someone's like absolutely like perfect on paper.
22:01I don't know.
22:04I don't know what I meant.
22:06I don't know what I mean by that.
22:08Yeah, this is very sad.
22:09So she's had these guys that she has these butterflies for,
22:13but it doesn't work.
22:15And it's really sad.
22:16And this woman, I think it's a guy who writes the Disney fantasy that women
22:19have of the perfect person is less and less likely to materialize for every
22:23single experience they have that is like this.
22:25This accelerated drastically when they get rejected or ghosted by dudes they
22:28actually feel the butterflies for.
22:30Ah, chemistry is volatile.
22:32Chemistry is fine.
22:33Chemistry is what gets turned on when you have very short term mating
22:37strategies.
22:38Chemistry is are selected for those who followed my gene wars presentations.
22:43Chemistry is are selected and really, really quite tragic.
22:47Ribbity toilet.
22:50That's from skibbity toilet.
22:52Um, I'll leave this for you.
22:54Harvard university interview.
22:55Seven men have seven wives.
22:58Each man and each wife have seven children.
23:01What's the total number of people?
23:02Now, it depends whether you say each man and each wife have seven children,
23:06which would be 14 per family, or whether each man and each wife have seven
23:10children in that it's seven for the family as a whole,
23:17and you have to remember to count the man and the wife and so on.
23:21So, yeah, let me know what you get.
23:23This is pretty cool.
23:24It's a lake.
23:25Where is this?
23:26This was in Faroe Islands.
23:31Look at that.
23:35That is a lake that's hanging over the ocean.
23:38It looks like something out of Minecraft.
23:39It's pretty neat.
23:42For adults under 50, the primary argument against having children isn't an
23:46economic one.
23:47It's cultural.
23:48I just don't want it.
23:49If you believe that children are essential to building a good dynamic
23:51society, you're about to learn that a growing number of young people disagree
23:54with you.
23:55The question we have to ask is why.
23:58Fifty-seven percent of adults under 50 who say they're unlikely to ever have
24:01kids say a major reason is they just don't want to.
24:05So, in that way, yeah, concerns about the state of the world,
24:09I understand that, right?
24:11There's a great old WKRP where the older couple has the woman gets pregnant,
24:16and he says, the man says, these are troubled times, and she says,
24:19they've been saying that for 5,000 years.
24:21So, yeah, just don't want to.
24:24Now, non-parenting has become more fun because you've got movies,
24:29video games, streaming services.
24:31Travel is cheaper and easier than it's almost ever been before.
24:34So, I understand that not having children has become a lot more fun.
24:40Having children, in a lot of ways, has become a lot less fun because they're
24:43getting really heavily indoctrinated and so on.
24:45But, you know, there's still lots of options.
24:47Okay, noted.
24:48Suspects choosing pink colors must have a side note from their wife.
24:51Fair enough.
24:52Look at this.
24:53Look at this sheep.
24:55Shrek the sheep got lost and lived in a cave for six years,
24:57gets around 60 pounds of wool removed.
24:59I guess they're bred to just keep having wolves.
25:03Sorry, keep having wolves.
25:05I guess that they're just bred to keep growing,
25:08because this wouldn't make any sense in nature,
25:10but they're bred to just keep growing the wool, I guess, right?
25:14Imagine finding both love and friendship in one person.
25:16I saved this and sent it to my wife.
25:20The Mr. Beast stuff, I've been following it.
25:22It's interesting.
25:23He's always struck me as a little psycho and sinister,
25:25but, you know, I guess it's kind of easy to say now,
25:28but it's not looking good.
25:32But, you know, at least he's kept his YouTube platform.
25:35A history spanning 50.
25:38So this is interesting because it's interesting because so rarely do you get
25:44to get someone in a debate like this.
25:46Check this out.
25:47This is a Korean guy talking.
25:49But some societies like Koreans, they might have a God complex,
25:51but they don't have a history of oppression.
25:53Are you fucking out of your mind?
25:55What the fuck?
25:56Koreans didn't have slaves.
25:57Did Koreans have slaves?
25:58Yeah, Google that.
25:59Yeah, because I think that's fucking wrong.
26:01Korea had the longest unbroken chain of slavery of any society in history,
26:06spanning 1,500 years.
26:08Fuck off.
26:10That's what it says.
26:11Zoom it in.
26:12My eyes are blurry.
26:13I want to read it, all right?
26:14Read it out loud.
26:15Korea had the longest unbroken chain of slavery of any society in history.
26:21Holy shit.
26:26You guys are fucking scumbags.
26:28We're scumbags.
26:30I like how he seems to take it being corrected with some good nature.
26:34That's pretty funny.
26:36Oh, my wife and I play pickleball, so I saved this for her.
26:39Guide to critical thinking.
26:41You can pause in and look at this if you want.
26:44I won't go through each of these because I've got a whole book called
26:46Art of the Argument at artoftheargument.com.
26:49Keeping track of the Canadian economy, always exciting.
26:52I love this one.
26:53Hey, McDonald's, I ordered a sundae, but instead you gave me the souls of the damned.
26:57Did I have to pay extra for this?
26:59That will actually haunt your dreams.
27:01Reminds me of my wonderful pickup line when I was 12.
27:04I liked a girl at McDonald's, and I walked up and very confidently said,
27:07Hey, I'd like a sundae so big I can't see Monday.
27:13Five-year-old me wanting to be Vegeta.
27:16I guess he's got the widow's peak.
27:18And then me now, ultimate widow's peak.
27:21That's not how I went bald.
27:23All right.
27:25Kind of true here.
27:26Brain cells die, skin cells die, and even hair cells die,
27:29but the fat cells in my stomach must have accepted Jesus Christ
27:32as their Lord and Savior since they seem to have eternal life.
27:35Actually, of course, I thought you could lose weight and lose fat.
27:38I found out then that fat cells only shrink,
27:40but then eventually they do die off.
27:43I was reading about that.
27:46All right.
27:49Seven psychological traits of great men according to Carl Jung.
27:52One, an ambitious striving after the highest goals.
27:55Check.
27:56Two, opposition to all stupidity, narrow-mindedness,
27:58injustice, and laziness.
27:59Check.
28:00Three, willingness to make sacrifices for what is regarded as right,
28:03sometimes bordering on heroism.
28:05Check.
28:06Four, perseverance.
28:07Perseverance.
28:08Check.
28:09Five, in flexibility and toughness of will.
28:11Check.
28:12Six, a curiosity that does not shrink even from the riddles of the universe.
28:15Check.
28:16Finally, a revolutionary spirit which strives to put a new face upon the world.
28:20Check.
28:21I hope that you're aiming for that, too.
28:23This, I thought, was quite sad.
28:26This guy writes, uh, I think that's, uh, isn't that Elon Musk's kid's name?
28:30One thing I kind of regret is in my early 20s,
28:32I thought it was evil and capitalist to have a career path
28:35and retirement plan to own a house and lawn,
28:37so I quit everything to be a drunk for a decade and ruined my life instead.
28:40Yes.
28:41That is a challenge.
28:45All right, more Canadian stuff.
28:47Uh, this, this is quite sad.
28:49And, um, yeah, she's pretty and she's always got to get the ring light
28:53and the right to make up and so on.
28:55But, uh, you gotta, gotta hear this.
28:58So the pretty girls, what is it someone once said
29:00that all the hot girls have stomach issues and sleep with teddy bears?
29:04Uh, and that's kind of interesting.
29:06I've known a lot of very attractive women
29:08who have just this sort of myriad health issues.
29:11And one of the reasons they glow up their exterior
29:14is their interior feels pretty rough and bad.
29:16So let me just, um, play this.
29:19And you don't know, always know what kind of hell is going on inside.
29:24And it is a little tempting to sit there and say,
29:27ah, this is grim justice because this woman, I think, has promoted,
29:32uh, don't settle, travel and, and, you know, maybe avoid the kid thing.
29:37And, and a lot of people who do that get into their thirties.
29:40A lot of women who do that and say that get into their thirties.
29:44And, you know, as one woman memorably said to me,
29:47I spent all of my twenties trying not to get pregnant.
29:50Now I've spent all of my thirties trying to get pregnant.
29:52It's pretty, pretty ratchet.
29:54So, uh, let's listen to her.
29:57Let's get back to the beginning here.
29:59I started the egg freezing process.
30:02I did some preliminary tests,
30:04which showed that my egg count is really low.
30:08And I know a lot of women struggle with this.
30:13I had a ovarian surgery last January,
30:19and I knew that I have endometriosis
30:25and had like a giant cyst on my ovary.
30:27Yeah. I mean, women's reproductive furnaces,
30:30it's like a half satanic volcano down there for a lot of women, uh, periods.
30:35And, and, uh, if you've known women with,
30:38I've never dated anyone with endometriosis,
30:40but I've known some women who've had endometriosis.
30:42Ooh, it is, it is just hell, hell on wheels.
30:46And the doctors told me that,
30:50the doctors did tell me that that might affect my fertility.
30:59There's a funny thing.
31:01I watched a documentary many years ago on Madonna.
31:04Madonna had her own documentary,
31:06and she was dating this guy, Warren Beatty,
31:08and she went to a doctor for throat issues from singing.
31:11And somebody was saying,
31:15well, this is a serious medical issue.
31:17Why do you want this on camera?
31:20And Warren Beatty was in the background, I think,
31:22saying she doesn't even want to live off camera, right?
31:25That if you're feeling emotional,
31:27and the first thing you say is,
31:29my God, I've got to turn on the camera and tell the world
31:31and get lots of attention and sympathy and so on.
31:33That's tough.
31:34It is also interesting, of course, to see this woman.
31:36She's got a nice, tidy, clean apartment.
31:39I think she's an influencer.
31:41This guy says, uh, this woman, sorry, says,
31:44I went on a podcast with this woman.
31:45Her entire life perspective was never settling.
31:47Her entire brand is being a bougie best friend.
31:51Don't know what that means.
31:52She has nearly 300,000 or more followers
31:53across multiple platforms.
31:56But she's got a really tidy apartment.
32:01She, uh, it's really clean,
32:05and it's all gray,
32:07and she has a pet.
32:11There's no man.
32:13I don't think there's a ring.
32:14No, I don't see the ring.
32:16So, uh, it's really, really tragic and sad.
32:19But, you know, if the first thing you want to do
32:22when you're emotional is turn on the camera,
32:25you might be a little outwardly directed.
32:27But, um, we didn't even start, like,
32:30the actual egg freezing, so...
32:32The we, I think, refers...
32:33It still might be that my eggs...
32:35Sorry, the we, I think, refers to her doctors here.
32:39Yeah, that's not on her ring finger,
32:41so I don't think she's married.
32:42They didn't even start, like,
32:43the actual egg freezing, so...
32:45It still might be that my eggs are high quality,
32:48but they're just not a lot of them.
32:51It's just...
32:52It's just so sad.
32:55I have been, like, crying the entire day.
32:58And, you know, people say, like,
33:00oh, you're not alone.
33:01This happens to so many women, but I mean...
33:03And it is tough, you know,
33:04because, yeah, she's pretty for sure.
33:07And I don't know, is she in her 30s?
33:10I think she's in her 30s,
33:11so might dye her hair, I don't know.
33:14But she's obviously worked hard, and that's fine,
33:16to make her exterior look pretty and all of that.
33:20And yet, if the eggs are dead,
33:25it's just, you know, it's a pretty shell
33:30but nothing inside.
33:31Because, like, all of this beauty,
33:33all of the physical attractiveness that she has
33:36is designed to show egg quality,
33:39and I can't tell you how devastating it is for women
33:42who are very pretty in particular,
33:43all women as a whole,
33:44but women who are very pretty in particular,
33:46when they realize that the eggs are half dead,
33:50all dead, mostly dead, somewhat dead,
33:52and they start to go through this process,
33:55their prettiness collapses in on itself.
33:57It really is extraordinarily tough.
34:00Because the purpose of the prettiness
34:02is to show egg quality,
34:04and, of course, we have...
34:05I don't know if she's had work done.
34:06It looks, if she's in her 30s,
34:08it looks like she's had some work done.
34:09I don't know, obviously,
34:10but what do I know about these things as a whole?
34:13But she doesn't seem...
34:14It looks to me like she's had Botox
34:17or something because there's no wrinkles
34:18anywhere on the face,
34:20which, it seems like she's in her 30s,
34:22but anyway, maybe she's not.
34:23I don't know. Let's see.
34:24It feels really...
34:26It feels very alone, lonely.
34:31Like, I just feel this giant
34:35pain in my stomach right now.
34:39How's your day going?
34:42Yeah, so that's rough.
34:44Is there any other details down here?
34:47She has a partner.
34:48She seems very happy in her relationship.
34:54I don't know how old she is.
35:03Yeah, it's a little easier for men to be childless
35:05because we just have so much more time
35:08to deal with it, right?
35:14Anyway, yeah, it's very sad, very sad.
35:17All right, let's see here.
35:21And what else?
35:24Oh, yeah, confessing was selfish.
35:25So my dying wife admitted she never married me,
35:29only married me to get out of poverty.
35:30I'm utterly gutted.
35:31My wife has terminal cancer.
35:32She'll be gone within the next few short months.
35:34She's been at peace with this and even seems happy about it.
35:36I've spent every moment at her side since her diagnosis
35:38and was there when it got rough.
35:39I went to every chemo treatment with her
35:41and was there to hear all the bad news.
35:43Cancer aside, we did everything together.
35:44We went on dates, played games, tried new places,
35:46traveled, have a daughter who's nine.
35:48My wife came from a deep, deep poverty and was a chancellor,
35:50and it was chance that we met.
35:51She was a waitress and I was spitting
35:52from the moment I laid eyes on her.
35:54She reciprocated my feelings quickly.
35:56But according to my wife, she never truly loved me.
35:58She liked me, but she didn't love me.
35:59She had no one else in her heart, but I wasn't the one for her.
36:02She just married me to get out of poverty.
36:04To her, we were like roommates who had sex
36:06and went on dates sometimes.
36:07To me, she was the love of my life and my universe.
36:09I have to face losing her alongside this information
36:11and navigate how to be a single dad.
36:13Yes, you know, it's the question for a man, right?
36:19So the question for a man is if you go on a business trip
36:22and you get drunk and you sleep with a woman,
36:25you're never going to see her again.
36:26You're married, right?
36:27And you go on a business trip, you sleep with a woman,
36:28you're never going to see her again.
36:30Do you say anything or do you just swallow it
36:32and just try to be a better person and move on with your life?
36:35You know, I can understand the case both ways.
36:37I lean a little bit more to if you've done something wrong
36:41and it's not going to affect your future
36:43in any practical or material way.
36:44It's different, of course, if you fall in love with the woman
36:46or whatever it is.
36:47But you just, you have a bad, drunken night.
36:50You make a stupid decision, a wrong decision.
36:52Do you come home and confess everything to your wife
36:55or vice versa to your husband?
36:57Assuming you get tested for STDs and you're clean
36:59and like all of this kind of stuff, right?
37:01Ah, I can see the case both ways,
37:04but I don't know what this truth thing is
37:08that the wife is trying to get her.
37:10See, the problem is that, and what is selfish about this, right?
37:14So when the wife says, oh, I never loved you,
37:17I only married you for your money,
37:18the problem is that's going to affect
37:22the father's relationship with the daughter.
37:24If the father believes that his wife absolutely loved him,
37:27then he's going to feel happier
37:30and be closer to his daughter.
37:31So this is really pretty savage
37:34and it is a real sabotage, I think.
37:38All right.
37:43This, I thought, was very interesting.
37:45You cannot wish for both a strong character
37:48and an easy life.
37:49The price of each is the other.
37:51So I thought that was very true
37:53and actually quite, quite, quite deep.
37:58All right. Well, let's stop here.
37:59I wish you the very best.
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38:03Lots of love from up here in Ecuador.
38:06And I hope you have a wonderful day.