Forbidden Love S01E07 (2024)
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00:00Previously on Forbidden Love.
00:02Look.
00:03Ha ha.
00:04Ha ha.
00:05In Islam, we eat with our hands.
00:07Right hand for the school, left hand for the Pope.
00:10I'm very afraid.
00:12Well, you're going to be like one of your family.
00:15I feel like you're being kind of dumb right now.
00:17The way you speak to me is respectful.
00:19Obey, respect, trust.
00:21That's why I need you to be a Muslim.
00:23The more that Muhammad tells me to obey and respect him,
00:27the less I feel like converting.
00:29You think I can't be a good wife unless I am a Muslim?
00:32Yes.
00:35So when does this all happen as far as Laurie converting?
00:39We're just waiting for Rabbi to schedule the last test.
00:43My family has expressed their reservations
00:46about me converting to Orthodox Judaism.
00:49So you're totally cool with this whole thing?
00:51I'm not saying I agree with it.
00:53There's a lot of rules.
00:55Some of them are pretty drastic.
00:58I want you to be Muslim.
01:01Amen.
01:03My father, he was a Pentecostal pastor for 45 years.
01:07Somebody help me say Lord!
01:10So converting over to Islam could hurt my family
01:13and, you know, potentially push them away.
01:15Let's pump the brakes a little bit.
01:18My biggest fear is I'm going to be stuck raising this kid all alone.
01:23How do you know that I'm not going to be there for her kids?
01:25Because you can't even take care of yourself.
01:27He is forgetting everything about manners and hygiene
01:31and just picking up after himself.
01:33If he's not ready to do this,
01:35then how are we going to bring this baby into the world?
01:37I need a man to raise a baby with.
01:40I'm done.
01:41Me too.
01:43♪♪♪♪♪
01:52♪♪♪♪♪
02:04Hello.
02:06I'm looking for kosher for Passover stuff.
02:12Okay.
02:16If you need help, I will help you.
02:19Thank you, thank you.
02:22Today I'm shopping at a kosher market
02:24because me and Eli are getting ready to host our first Seder,
02:30which is a traditional meal on the first two nights of Passover.
02:35Is this kosher for Passover?
02:37Oh, no, I'm getting out of the wrong area.
02:40On Passover, you can't eat just regular kosher stuff.
02:44It has to be kosher for Pesach.
02:47So you can't eat yeast or any leavening agents.
02:51And things like barley, wheat, barley,
02:55I said that, barley, wheat, barley and wheat.
02:59You can't have any of that.
03:03Morning.
03:07Everything good?
03:08I've been here.
03:09Brothers, everybody good?
03:10Everybody doing fine.
03:11Oh, you know Simon?
03:12Me and him are good friends now.
03:13Oh, yeah?
03:14Thank you for helping her out.
03:15I told her she could have some date and walnut for the haroset.
03:19Yeah, yeah, yeah.
03:20My mom has a good recipe.
03:22Oh, traditional Jewish food is great,
03:26but there's a lot of non-kosher food that I miss,
03:29like lobster, fried clams, shrimp.
03:37I'm from New England,
03:39so you grow up literally eating from the sea.
03:43We'll never agree on this,
03:44because I didn't grow up eating bottom feeders from the ocean.
03:51182, 63.
03:56How are you?
03:57Who's that?
03:58Oh!
03:59Rabbi Block.
04:00All right, answer, answer, answer.
04:03Rabbi, how are you?
04:07It's been about six months that I've been taking conversion classes,
04:11and I've been eagerly waiting for Rabbi Block
04:14to let me know if I can take the conversion test.
04:17I have no idea why Rabbi Block is calling me.
04:20He could be calling me to take the test next week,
04:23but also he can say,
04:25I'm not ready, and you're never going to make it as a Jew.
04:28Just, like, give up.
04:30So I don't know what's going to happen.
04:34I was wondering, like, the test soon, or what?
04:46Yeah.
04:48All right. Bye-bye.
04:52What's going on?
04:54Um...
04:55What'd he say?
04:57We're going to have the test soon.
04:59He said it's happening.
05:01Mazel tov!
05:02Mazel tov!
05:03Mazel tov! Mazel tov!
05:05Mazel tov! Mazel tov!
05:07Mazel tov! Mazel tov!
05:09Lari's test is happening soon for a conversion,
05:12and it's very exciting for us.
05:15I think she's going to do great.
05:17She's really been putting in an effort.
05:22As Jews, we sing a song any time there's the birth of a child
05:26or someone gets married or anything good happens,
05:29you sing the mazel tov song.
05:39All right!
05:40Mazel tov!
05:41I'm so happy for you.
05:42Thank you, thank you.
05:43I'm very happy for you.
05:44I'm excited.
05:45This is amazing,
05:47but just because he scheduled the test doesn't mean s***, okay?
05:51It doesn't feel real until I pass it,
05:53and I haven't looked at my cue cards in I don't know how long, you know?
05:56So I need to study and study now
06:01because if I don't pass, I don't convert.
06:05If I don't convert, then that means that we can't get married
06:09and me and Eli are going to be forced to break up.
06:12So I'm freaking out now.
06:14Freaking out.
06:17Bye, be good.
06:18Bye.
06:24Bring joy.
06:25Bring joy.
06:26Bring light.
06:29Find peace.
06:30Find peace.
06:31Oh, here's Chris.
06:32Yay!
06:34Bring joy!
06:36Everyday I do my best.
06:39What's up?
06:40How you doing?
06:41Pretty good.
06:42I'm about to be heading out.
06:46All right.
06:47I'm about to move to Michigan to be with Linza,
06:50and I got to say goodbye to my parents,
06:53but also I have to tell my parents something they don't want to hear.
07:00We hate to see you leave.
07:04After that conversation with Linza about converting,
07:09I've thought long and hard about what I'm going to do,
07:15and honestly, this is the woman that I want to marry,
07:21so I'm thinking about converting over to Islam.
07:29I was going to talk to you about something.
07:35Okay.
07:36Okay.
07:38I think that, you know, I'm thinking about converting, you know, to Islam.
07:49Oh.
07:56Thought of a hard pill to swallow.
08:04That hurt.
08:06That hurt.
08:08It really do.
08:17It hurt.
08:19It don't make me feel good.
08:25It's just like a slap in the face,
08:28because we taught you about the Bible and about Jesus.
08:34It hurt.
08:36I just think that, you know, everybody's going to have their beliefs,
08:40and you can't condemn or criticize someone for what they believe in.
08:44No, I'm not criticizing you.
08:46You just can't do that.
08:47But I'm talking about something you don't let nobody change about you.
08:53Linza did not change you.
08:55You were brought up in holiness, true holiness.
09:00Going to church on Sunday all day, on Tuesday, on Wednesday, and Friday.
09:06You should be so strong in this that can't nothing move you.
09:10You can't tell me now I'm going to change to a Muslim.
09:14A Muslim, my God.
09:21It makes me kind of sad because he's changing his life,
09:25and his religion is disappointing because, you know, we know how we raised him.
09:33When a dad thinks about his son leaving a really good foundation,
09:39that bothers him.
09:40It bothers me.
09:46I'm sorry.
09:52It hurt.
09:54It hurt.
09:58It's like your way is the right way and everyone is wrong,
10:01and I grew up, you know, thinking that until, you know, I opened my eyes
10:05and got to really do my own research and come to my own feelings.
10:08Let me tell you something.
10:10God is not going to go against Jesus Christ.
10:13That is not going to happen.
10:15Jesus is one of the most respected prophets in Islam, but he's not God.
10:19He's not God.
10:20He's Christ.
10:21No, he's not God.
10:22He's God's son.
10:24But if you don't accept his son, you don't accept God.
10:28But since Jesus died for our sins, you know, there is no way we can go to hell.
10:33Christ.
10:34Then why would hell exist?
10:35You know why?
10:36Because you got a lot of people that's like you.
10:41Nobody's going to go into God's kingdom until they come through Jesus Christ.
10:46Wow.
10:47That hurts to hear that.
10:49Like, this is your son you're talking to.
10:53And I understand that, you know, my father's hurt, but the decision to convert
10:59is not an indictment on him or his preachings because I admire the man that he is.
11:05Honestly, this is more about falling in love with somebody who's opened my heart
11:10to a new religion and a new way of life.
11:12I understand y'all position, what this is, and how y'all feel about it.
11:17But I think that, you know, Lindsa is a special woman, and this is just something
11:21I'm going to do because anything in life that's worth achieving is going to take
11:27some amount of risk.
11:30Have you spoke to her parents since y'all been dating?
11:33No.
11:34I mean, not one time.
11:35No.
11:36And y'all been dating now, what, behind closed doors?
11:38No.
11:39I mean, not one time.
11:40No.
11:41And y'all been dating now, what, for how long?
11:44Nine months now.
11:46Jesus.
11:48Don't you think that's a little out of order?
11:58The culture that she comes from, there isn't a such thing as a boyfriend.
12:02So, when the time is right, of course, I mean, she wants me to meet her parents.
12:07You know, she wants me to be a part of her family.
12:09No, you don't.
12:10But it has to be the right way.
12:11No, you don't.
12:12If she didn't want me to be a part of her family, she wouldn't be with me.
12:14No, you don't.
12:15The handwriting on the wall, out of nine months of dating, and have not told your
12:20parents, there's something wrong with that picture.
12:25You feeling like when they do find out about me, they're going to reject it?
12:28Yeah.
12:30This is something you're going to have to prove me wrong on.
12:38It'd be okay if things was a little bit different.
12:41He done met her parents.
12:43The parents had accepted him as their son-in-law or something.
12:48That haven't happened.
12:50And I feel that Atlanta has to choose between her parents and Chris.
12:55She's going to choose her parents.
12:56This is Hadith.
12:58Wife must obey her husband.
13:02Mohamed wants me to just jump in and commit and convert.
13:05But for me, I still have a lot of concerns.
13:07You are not translating it right.
13:09He is not your servant.
13:13I'm sorry.
13:14I'm sorry.
13:16I'm sorry.
13:17I'm sorry.
13:18I'm sorry.
13:19I'm sorry.
13:21I'm sorry.
13:22I'm sorry.
13:23All right.
13:27Hey.
13:28Hey.
13:29Welcome.
13:30This day has finally come, and it's supposed to be joyful.
13:35Unfortunately, I'm an emotional wreck.
13:39So I finally talked to my parents,
13:42and my father was like, that's not happening.
13:45After everything that I put into this relationship,
13:49the thought that all of this could be for nothing,
13:52I'm just feeling numb.
14:17Oh, my gosh.
14:18My scarf's falling off.
14:20So things have been a little bit tense between Muhammad
14:23and I at home since our fight in the park.
14:26The main issue that we're having is about my commitment
14:28to becoming Muslim.
14:29Muhammad wants me to just jump in and commit and convert.
14:33But for me, I still have a lot of questions and concerns,
14:36like do I have to wear hijab every time I go outside?
14:39Or as a Muslim wife, do I always have to obey my husband?
14:44So today, we're at the mosque to meet with a Muslim couple who
14:47are community leaders.
14:48And hopefully, I can get some clarity.
14:51Before you enter the mosque, you've
14:53got to do things to get ready to pray, which is wudu.
14:57You wash your hands, wash your mouth, your nose, your face,
15:01your arms, and your head, and your legs.
15:03It's basically like, you know, to be clean and ready,
15:07like, to pray.
15:08That's why we make wudu.
15:14Normally, this would be the time I make wudu,
15:16but I'm not going to do it today.
15:18Normally, this would be the time I make wudu,
15:20but a woman can't make wudu and pray on her cycle.
15:23So today, I'm not.
15:25Islam has a lot of rules in regards to prayers.
15:29And it's forbidden for women to pray
15:31when they're on their period because the menstrual cycle is
15:35viewed as being impure.
15:37And there's a really big importance
15:39in Islam placed on being clean and being pure.
15:47Me and Ashley, we struggle a lot.
15:49Like, I came from a different culture.
15:51She came from a different culture.
15:53Religion is different.
15:54Mindset is different.
15:55Yeah.
15:56He grew up in a very conservative culture, so.
15:59We fight about that.
16:01Sometimes, she's, like, stubborn.
16:03That is not true.
16:06But I do, sometimes, I feel struggle
16:08with, like, modesty and hijab because I, you know,
16:11I didn't grow up with that.
16:13Like, is this, for example, the expectation
16:16no matter what you're doing?
16:18Exactly.
16:19So objective is not to show your body, not to entice.
16:26Your beauty is for your husband.
16:30These are not from him.
16:32These are from Allah.
16:33You have to listen to your husband.
16:38That is sometimes where we really struggle.
16:41He loves to throw around the word, obey.
16:51Yeah, he says that I don't obey him.
16:54Yes, you don't.
16:59One more example, if I told her, do not go outside at night.
17:04Let's say at night time.
17:06Or do not go out in general.
17:08There is a reason for that?
17:11The reason is, like, I want to stay in the house.
17:14There is a hadith.
17:17It says, like,
17:18It says, like,
17:20meaning wife must obey her husband.
17:28Well, you are not translating it right.
17:34In English, obey is for servant or slave.
17:41Oh, in English.
17:41So it's not exact translation.
17:44She's not your servant.
17:49OK?
17:49Not slave, not servant.
17:52She's your life partner.
17:54In every language, you know, it's
17:57a different meanings of the words.
17:59In this country, obey is like you're
18:01telling your dog to obey you, you know?
18:04You cannot say that to your wife.
18:06Listen is the right word to use.
18:09She just needs to listen to him.
18:12It's just a misunderstanding they both had.
18:15Allah says, you are in charge.
18:19You should listen to me because I'm responsible for you.
18:25Does that make sense?
18:27I feel like it's more of, like, guiding instead of demanding.
18:32Yeah.
18:34Sheikh Naumar, he's with me 100%.
18:37But he don't want to hurt her feeling.
18:39He's not with you or with me.
18:40He's with me by the sense, like, obey in the Quran.
18:44I just think that this lesson went right over your head.
18:47I don't think you've learned anything.
18:48Well, listen.
18:49We use the word obey for, like, a slave or a dog.
18:52I don't think there should ever be a situation where you're,
18:54like, listen to me.
18:56Do what I say.
18:57You never listen to me.
18:59After all the obey, listen, you actually never listen to me.
19:06You put the efforts in this relationship.
19:08You solve your problems.
19:10I mean, that's what Islam says.
19:12I'm really glad that we did come here today.
19:15I definitely learned a lot.
19:17And I do feel like some of my concerns were addressed.
19:19But converting to Islam is still a huge decision for me.
19:23I don't want to just half commit.
19:25I need to know that I'm fully ready.
19:27And I just don't know if I'm there yet.
19:29But I also know that if I don't convert,
19:32my marriage won't last much longer.
19:42And I'm going to stick with it.
19:50This is a new chapter.
19:51Like, we're going to start a new chapter.
19:53I'm not going to cry.
19:55It's our gender reveal party tonight.
19:56And things can be a little touch and go with Elmer.
19:59We're going to find out if it's heels or heels.
20:03Hopefully, he can stay consistent
20:05and on the right track.
20:07Because our marriage depends on it.
20:11Three, two, one.
20:28Fire.
20:29Who would have thought I'd be so picky about a trash can?
20:39Who's here now?
20:41Hello, Daddy.
20:43New Daddy.
20:44How you doing, Kaitlin?
20:45I'm good.
20:45How are you?
20:46Haven't seen you in a while.
20:47Yeah.
20:49So we're getting ready for our gender reveal party tonight.
20:52And the theme is wheels or heels.
20:54So wheels if it's a boy, and heels if it's a girl.
20:57And we're just excited.
20:58I can't wait to find out what we're having.
21:00All righty, come on in.
21:03Things have been going a little bit better with Elmer and I
21:05since I confronted him.
21:06He's been picking up after himself, thank God.
21:09He's been brushing his own teeth without me
21:11having to remind him.
21:12I think the porn blockers are helping him.
21:14And he's even helping me set up the gender reveal party.
21:17So is it perfect yet?
21:19No.
21:20But it's a work in progress.
21:22And I'm glad to see that it's improving a little bit
21:26because our marriage depends on it.
21:29What do you have a hospital bag for?
21:31Some Amish dolls that Wilma made.
21:32Oh my gosh.
21:33Oh my gosh.
21:34Oh my gosh.
21:35Are they faceless?
21:37Yep.
21:37It's kind of creepy looking, not going to lie.
21:39Oh, yeah?
21:40Like, look at that.
21:43These dolls are scary.
21:46Like, I'm going to have nightmares.
21:48I mean.
21:49That's what I grew up with, come on.
21:50I don't know, if Wilma didn't give them to me,
21:51I would have thrown them outside and burnt them.
21:54Get them far away.
21:56I'm going to put lashes on it, you know,
21:57make it look a little bit.
21:59You know why they don't have faces?
22:01It's vain.
22:02You know, you're basically representing a person.
22:04They think it's vanity.
22:05It's the devil.
22:07That is so weird.
22:08It's not like it's one of those slutty dolls
22:10that have all, like, the hooker clothes and makeup on.
22:16Did they have gender reveals in the Amish?
22:18No.
22:19You didn't know what it was till it came crawling out?
22:22Crawling out?
22:22Crawling out?
22:24Dude, something comes crawling out of me.
22:26Gender reveal parties are weird.
22:28Where I come from, once that thing comes out of the vagina,
22:30you know, it's like, you know, when a horse gives birth.
22:33You pick up the tail and see what it is.
22:35Is it a boy or a girl?
22:39I don't know.
22:56I'm more nervous for this than our wedding.
22:58At least I could do a couple shots before that.
23:00So we rented out a brewery to do our gender reveal party.
23:04I am wearing pink because I know it's a girl.
23:07Somebody to go shopping with.
23:09And I can just teach her all the tomboyish, girly things
23:11that I like to do.
23:12A little mini me.
23:17Hey.
23:18Oh, hi.
23:18Hey.
23:19Hey.
23:20Hi.
23:21Hi.
23:22I made it.
23:22I made it.
23:23Hey, girl.
23:24You look so cute.
23:25You look so beautiful.
23:26I'm freezing.
23:27Good to see you.
23:28I'm going to go around and give everybody a hug,
23:30whether they like it or not.
23:31Good to see you.
23:32So.
23:34I did this.
23:35I did this.
23:36I'm wearing blue because I hope it's going to be a boy.
23:39Hey, Elmer.
23:41I want to teach him how to ride bulls, and hunt, and fish.
23:45Be a country boy.
23:47Tougher than a box of nails, bro.
23:49Amish boy.
23:51Hey, party people.
23:52Hi.
23:53Hey.
23:54Hey.
23:54I want you to sit over here real quick.
23:57I like your shades, Grandma.
23:59You should a rock star.
24:00Yeah.
24:01Are you team boy?
24:02No, it's something where I personally
24:04think it's going to be a boy because my whole family,
24:07like, there's a lot more boys than girls.
24:10Well, you're part of this family now.
24:11There's more girls than boys, so.
24:13Yeah.
24:16Seeing Elmer not have family, I felt bad for him.
24:20I really did.
24:21We've talked about his family situation,
24:24and I don't want time talking to him.
24:25He got very emotional about it.
24:27He does miss his family, and it's hard on him.
24:30But I love Elmer like a son.
24:31He is definitely our family.
24:33We're his family.
24:36We love him.
24:38Well, cherish these years because they grow up fast.
24:40I know.
24:41If you need advice or help, I'm there for both of you.
24:45Of course, I'm always there for Lindsey,
24:47but I want you to know I'm there for you, too.
24:51See, I appreciate that.
24:52That means a lot.
24:53Sure.
24:53We're here for you.
24:55We're all here for you.
24:57We got you.
24:59We got you.
25:00I'm grateful to have, you know, Lindsey's family and friends
25:04taking me under their wings.
25:06At least my cousin Wilma showed up.
25:08It means a lot.
25:09But it sucks that my family's not here.
25:16That made me cry.
25:20All right, everybody.
25:21Can I have your attention?
25:22Lindsey and Elmer want to say a few words,
25:25and then we're going to find out if it's heels or wheels.
25:29It means a lot to us, like, the world that you all came.
25:32And, like, it's exciting.
25:34This is a new chapter.
25:36Like, we're going to start a new chapter.
25:38I'm not going to cry.
25:39But you can take it.
25:41Before I start bawling.
25:44But.
25:45We all love you guys.
25:47Aw, we love you.
25:53It just means a lot that you guys all came out here.
25:56Um, growing up in the Amish there, you know,
25:59we never, um, celebrated nothing.
26:03Like, I never had a birthday cake until she made me one.
26:06I bought it, I didn't make it.
26:07One of my first birthday amulets.
26:10Um, but it was a struggle.
26:13I was really alone.
26:14And then I met her, and, uh, she made me a better person.
26:19So I appreciate that.
26:21And, uh, I really appreciate you guys coming out here tonight.
26:24Yes.
26:25It means a lot.
26:26You guys have no idea.
26:28So.
26:29All right.
26:30Let's see who was right all along.
26:35All righty.
26:37Oh, my.
26:39All right, are we counting?
26:40Five, four, three, two, one.
26:51I knew it!
26:54I told you.
26:56You know, I was hoping for a boy.
26:58But you know what?
26:58It's a girl, and she'll have me wrapped around that thing right there.
27:02Lord, help me when she's a teenager.
27:05Be two of them when they're on their period at the same time.
27:09Oh, I'll be sleeping in the doghouse.
27:17I knew it!
27:19I knew it!
27:24Elmer's left his whole family and culture for us.
27:27And I know that's hard.
27:29And at times, it seems like things can be a little touch and go.
27:32But I love Elmer, and hopefully he can stay consistent and on the right track.
27:38And he can be the father and husband that I need him to be.
27:43If he can do that when our little girl comes, I think we can make it.
27:55Oh, the wig fairy?
27:58As I've been getting more dedicated to Orthodox Judaism,
28:03I figured I'm going to have to really be getting used to wearing a shea doll.
28:07Just don't tell mom about it.
28:09She's having a hard time.
28:11She even said to me, she's like, I feel like I'm losing a daughter.
28:24We have an egg.
28:25You have a hard-boiled egg.
28:26Hard-boiled egg?
28:27Hard-boiled egg.
28:29God damn it, dude.
28:31F*** my life.
28:38Could you start on the harosha, please?
28:41I'll take care of this and the brisket.
28:44First night of Passover, we're having everybody over for a seder at our apartment.
28:49A seder is a ritual meal that we have in commemoration of the Jews leaving Egypt.
28:56All right, everyone's coming at 630.
28:59We have time. We have plenty of time.
29:01Passover is eight days long.
29:02And out of all the holidays, it's probably my least favorite
29:06because you can't eat yeast or anything like that.
29:08And I'm a bread guy.
29:14The briskets.
29:16It's almost done, I guess.
29:18My anxiety is through the roof right now.
29:21Not because I'm just, like, hosting the seder,
29:23but also because Rabbi Block has finally scheduled this test
29:28and I need to, like, hit the books.
29:31Hi.
29:32Oh, is it Angela?
29:34Wow, so fancy.
29:36Come in.
29:37How are you?
29:39Today, I invited my sister Angie over.
29:43She's been a little apprehensive about all the changes
29:46that are going on throughout my conversion.
29:48So I'm not sure how she's going to react,
29:50but I have a little bit of a surprise to show her.
29:54Does this look right?
29:54Does it look stupid?
29:56It looks good.
29:56I'm a little thrown from the paper plates.
29:58We didn't have kosher for Pesach stuff, so...
30:01Regular plate, that's a regular kosher plate.
30:03You can't use it on Passover.
30:04You have to get different plates for Passover,
30:06but no cleanup.
30:07Just throw it out.
30:08There you go.
30:09I want to show you something real quick.
30:10Okay.
30:11Come.
30:12Come, come, come, come.
30:13What are you showing me?
30:14Your room?
30:15Yeah, this is my room.
30:17Yeah, I've been in here.
30:20Don't look in my closet.
30:22Oh, the wig fairy?
30:28As I've been getting really serious
30:30and more dedicated to Orthodox Judaism,
30:34I figured I'm going to have to really be getting used to
30:37wearing a shei toll.
30:39Initially, I was unsure.
30:41Initially, I was unsure,
30:43but now I'm kind of opening up to it.
30:46Plus, I found a wig that looks pretty much like my real hair,
30:50so it makes me a lot more comfortable to wear it.
30:59Okay, well, this is not really how it looks on.
31:03I mean, I need to figure it out a little bit better.
31:07But if the wig looks just like your natural hair,
31:10what are you really hiding?
31:11Like, or what's the point, though?
31:13Your hair, your regular hair.
31:14Yeah, but this is still hair.
31:16It's somebody's hair.
31:18Yeah, but it's not your hair.
31:20It just doesn't make any sense to me.
31:23Okay, so in some cultures,
31:25your hair is very sacred to you and to your husband,
31:30and it's kind of like a thing that you do.
31:34The wig is a little confusing.
31:36She's not supposed to show her hair
31:38to anybody that isn't her husband.
31:40I mean, I've seen her hair,
31:42and I hope I see her hair after she's married,
31:44because even though I'm not her husband,
31:46I mean, I'm her sister.
31:49Why is your hair sacred, though,
31:51as opposed to, like, anything else, like your face?
31:54Well, technically, in other cultures,
31:56they cover their entire face,
31:58and they just show their eyes.
32:00Yeah, that's true.
32:01Yeah, but you're halfway there.
32:05I'm definitely a little worried,
32:06because as time goes by,
32:08it's revealing itself to be, like,
32:10a very strict kind of atmosphere,
32:14and I don't know.
32:16It makes me question it a little bit
32:18more than I did before.
32:20Just don't tell mom about it.
32:22She's having a hard time,
32:24because I know she wants to be cool with all of it,
32:27but it's still really different for her.
32:30She even said to me, she's like,
32:31I feel like I'm losing a daughter a little bit.
32:34She didn't say that.
32:36She did.
32:37You're lying.
32:38She just said that she just feels like you're just
32:42kind of, like, going into, like,
32:43a whole different world that's separate from our lives,
32:46and she's like, when she has kids,
32:49am I going to be able to, like, see them?
32:54Like, are they going to come here for holidays
32:56and things like that,
32:57or is she going to be living her totally separate life,
33:01you know?
33:02And I just feel like she needs to hear from you
33:04that that's not what's going to happen.
33:08Yeah.
33:10It's really hard to hear that my mom is worried
33:14about my conversion affecting us.
33:18And it hurts my feelings,
33:19and it makes me really sad that she thinks that way,
33:22because she would never lose me, you know?
33:24And I can't believe she thinks that.
33:28She just, like, feels so disconnected.
33:33I want to have my family's full support,
33:36because then I feel like what I'm doing is right.
33:39And if I don't have their support,
33:40I feel like, well, why?
33:42Am I doing something wrong?
33:52I am moving from Cincinnati to Michigan,
33:54and I'm going to do everything in my power
33:56to make this work.
33:58F*** up?
33:58Man, f*** you.
34:00What you done did?
34:01Delete all your motherf***ing messages?
34:03He in the corner on his phone,
34:05writing messages to women.
34:08This is not a man who's ready to settle down.
34:10This is not a man.
34:11Let me get out of my motherf***ing face.
34:12F*** you.
34:14It's been a real sensey.
34:15I'm about to go get my baby.
34:24And it dies, and it dies, and it dies.
34:43Hello?
34:44How are you?
34:45I'm doing pretty good.
34:46How are you feeling?
34:47Good.
34:48What's your ETA?
34:50About five hours.
34:52Can't wait to see you.
34:53You miss me?
34:54Miss you.
34:54I miss you, too.
34:56I love you.
34:57I love you, too.
34:58OK.
34:58All right.
35:00Today is a big day.
35:02I am moving from Cincinnati to Michigan.
35:05It was a tough decision to make,
35:07because I'm leaving behind a family.
35:09But I really love Linza,
35:12and I'm going to do everything in my power to make this work.
35:18I want to get engaged.
35:20I want to get married.
35:22And Linza wants me to convert to Islam.
35:27I've been reading up a lot on the religion.
35:30That's like a big sacrifice.
35:32But I think that she's worth it,
35:34because I want to spend the rest of my life with her.
35:40Hey.
35:41Hey.
35:42Welcome.
35:43Hey.
35:46Just nine months ago, he was joking about doing these things.
35:50And now he's moving to Michigan and possibly converting to Islam.
35:55This day has finally come, and it's supposed to be joyful.
36:00But unfortunately, I'm an emotional wreck.
36:04Um, so I finally talked to my parents about, you know, our relationship.
36:15Oh, OK.
36:18I was just like, you know, hey, Baba.
36:20Hey, Uma.
36:22I have a boyfriend.
36:24We've been dating for a while now,
36:28and he's moving up here, and he would love to meet you guys.
36:33OK.
36:35You know, my mom was in the kitchen, and she was cooking,
36:37and she just, like, threw the knives down and was like, what?
36:41And then my father stepped in, and he was like, that's not happening.
36:47We're not doing this.
36:48We don't know this guy.
36:50You don't know this guy.
36:53Then they started bringing up my past.
36:55I got frustrated with them, you know,
36:57because I don't want to be with the men that they continue to select for me, you know?
37:03And then at that point, I was just like, you know what?
37:05I don't want to do this anymore.
37:06I don't want to talk about this anymore.
37:07But I am shaking in my boots.
37:10I'm not even going to lie, because I've never put my foot down with them ever in life.
37:19I finally talked to my parents about Chris because he moved here,
37:23and he's willing to convert to Islam.
37:26But they didn't want to hear what I have to say.
37:28They didn't want to hear about my feelings about the matter.
37:31They didn't want to hear about Chris.
37:33They just want to decide who I'm in a relationship with,
37:36because that's their culture, and that's how they do things.
37:40Muslim women deal with this all the time.
37:42There's a hierarchy, and you know, you have God, and then it's your parents.
37:47And they will cut you off.
37:49Like, they will cut you off emotionally, financially.
37:52There will be no support.
37:55Do you think it would help if I, like, went to go talk to him?
37:59Like, if I introduced myself?
38:01No, not right now.
38:04OK.
38:06To be honest, I'm a little worried because I keep hearing my father's voice
38:12stating that her parents will never accept me.
38:15And it just makes me, you know, question what the future is going to hold with us.
38:22Well, I got to get this stuff out the truck, because it's getting late.
38:25Yeah.
38:26It's too much.
38:26After everything that I've sacrificed and everything that I've put
38:30into this relationship, and with me moving,
38:33the thought that all of this could be for nothing is a slap in the face.
38:39I mean, at this point, I'm just feeling numb.
38:49Because what?
38:51Because what?
38:56What?
39:01Why the f*** am I dealing with this?
39:03Look, look, look.
39:04I'll block her.
39:05F***, why the f*** am I f***ing with her in the f***ing first place?
39:08Why the f***?
39:10If a mother f***er write me and I block her, what the f*** am I supposed to do?
39:13You stupid a** f***er, why are you even writing her in the first goddamn place?
39:16OK.
39:17Chill out.
39:18Man.
39:18Chill out.
39:19F*** you.
39:20What the f*** is wrong with you?
39:20Bye.
39:22Bye.
39:23A mother f***er write me and I block you, man.
39:24I am leaving and I'm f***ing my kid.
39:26Shut the f*** up, mother f***er.
39:28Stupid a**.
39:30I was leaving out the apartment and then I doubled back and I think he thought I left,
39:36but I didn't and I creeped up behind him and he in the corner on his phone writing messages to women.
39:45This is not a man who's ready to settle down.
39:47This is not a man.
39:48This is a child that still wants to play in a man's body.
39:53I'm not, I'm not even about to feel some type of way about that because I'm,
39:58I'm telling my f***er I'm in a relationship.
40:00Come on, man.
40:01Why the f*** are you even talking to the bitch?
40:03Stupid mother f***er.
40:04Man, f*** you.
40:06What you done did?
40:07Delete all your mother f***er messages?
40:09No.
40:09Man, f*** you.
40:10What is happening?
40:12Let me show you what she mad about.
40:13Man, shut your bitch a** up.
40:14Read this.
40:15She upset because some girl keep writing me.
40:18I told her I had a girlfriend.
40:20And I blocked her.
40:22You know, just because I even, even wrote something.
40:25I'm wrong.
40:26Like.
40:46Next time on Forbidden Love.
40:48From the very beginning, I struggled with the decision to convert.
40:52Every aspect of my life is gonna change with this decision.
40:56The way that I eat, the way that I dress, the way that I pray.
41:00And that's very scary.
41:05This is feeling realer than ever.
41:09Today is my conversion test.
41:11This is months of just studying and non-stop classes.
41:18Realistically, if she doesn't pass, she can't become Jewish.
41:23And then there's no us.
41:25You're hungry, girl.
41:27We were totally happy, proud new parents.
41:29Elmer was the best.
41:31But then he had a job and met this girl.
41:36Did I push him to do this?
41:38No.
41:38Honey, don't let him crush you.
41:42What does the word echad mean?
41:44I don't even know.
41:45Well, you should.
41:47I'm completely overwhelmed.
41:48I definitely can't f**k the test up.
41:51No, I can't f**k it up.
41:53No, you're not ready yet.
41:54You believe in this, right?
41:56Actually, she's been promising me like for three years to convert to Islam.
41:59I just need a moment.
42:01You're for real?
42:03That's not a game.
42:04I have been very patient.
42:06But if she's not doing this today, I'm nervous she will never will.
42:09Come here.
42:10F**k you.
42:11I don't know who the f**k you are.
42:13Why are there even DMs in your motherf**king phone in the first damn place?
42:16This is not how someone behaves when they want to get married.
42:19I'll never talk to you again.
42:21You've made my life so miserable for the last six months.
42:25Why are you all Snapchatting that horse girl?
42:27I'm seeing Elmer's true colors.
42:29He's sexist.
42:30He's a hypocrite.
42:31He's nothing like what I fell in love with.
42:33If you would take some f**k up on yourself.
42:34You cheated.