WHEN Krystle landed a job as a nanny to dad-of-three, Ben, she had no idea that it would lead to love. Speaking to Love Don't Judge, Ben admitted, "It was definitely not love at first sight," with Krystle adding, "I hated him." But over time, feelings started to develop between the pair and they eventually ended up marrying. With a 20-year age gap, the couple are often exposed to scrutiny from others. Krystle said, "Everyone just thought I was crazy. This man is 20 years older than you, he has three kids, what are you thinking?" And online, their relationship also receives a whole heap of negative attention. "We get a lot of judgement on social media. The typical stuff when you're in an age gap relationship. She's a gold digger. He's so ugly," Krystle explained. In this episode of Love Don't Judge, we'll see Ben's son, Sal, join the couple for an honest chat about their relationship. Sal revealed, "When I first found out that my dad and Krystle were dating, I was definitely surprised. Would it be my first choice? Probably not. The age gap brings a lot of attention - Krystle likes attention."
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00:00I fell in love with my kid's nanny.
00:02And now I'm his wife.
00:03When I first found out that my dad and Crystal were dating,
00:06I was definitely surprised.
00:07Would it be my first choice?
00:08Probably not.
00:09When I was like eight or nine, I just didn't like him
00:12and I resented him.
00:13I just knew he wasn't like my biological dad.
00:16The age gap brings a lot of attention.
00:18Crystal likes attention.
00:19A lot of people say that she's a gold digger.
00:21I don't disagree.
00:22Stop.
00:23I think when I was younger, I actually like loved her.
00:28I decided to get a nanny because at the time,
00:30I was a single dad.
00:31And in order for me to go to work,
00:33I needed someone to care for the children.
00:35It was definitely not love at first sight.
00:37My first impression was I hated him.
00:39Did not like working for him.
00:41As I was working for him, I continued
00:43to look for other jobs.
00:45He was very rude.
00:47I rarely got a hi.
00:48What was your first impression of me?
00:50You thought I was a terrible nanny.
00:52I think you're a great woman.
00:54One day I came in dressed up with makeup on,
00:57my hair done, and he couldn't stop looking at me.
01:00So I think that was when he fell in love with me.
01:02At the time, my son Cash was three and a half
01:06and Ben would like play with him and talk to him.
01:08I think that's what helped me fall in love
01:10because he was just such a good dad.
01:11Good morning.
01:13My friends and family, everyone just thought I was crazy.
01:15They're like, what the heck are you doing?
01:17This man's 20 years older than you.
01:19He has three kids.
01:20What are you thinking?
01:22At the time, obviously I was a single mom.
01:23So it was just me and Cash.
01:25I think me and Ben get along well now,
01:27but when I was like eight or nine,
01:28I just didn't like him and I resented him
01:31because I just knew he wasn't my biological dad.
01:35But now I think we have a good relationship.
01:38Cashton has been through a lot
01:40and he's grown up to be a fine young man.
01:43When my kids first found out I was dating Crystal,
01:46at first they treated it as just another girl
01:49that dad's dating.
01:50I did unfortunately date a lot of women.
01:53It really affected the oldest one the most.
01:56She didn't like the idea at all.
01:57She said, you went from being my best friend
02:00to being with my dad.
02:03That's a nicer version of saying it.
02:07She was very upset.
02:10But we're fine now, so it's okay.
02:12So we're getting ready to make some burgers.
02:15We're gonna have lunch with Sal and Cash.
02:17Sal is my stepson.
02:20I was 23 when I started nannying for Sal
02:26and Sal, I believe, was 12.
02:28I think Sal's initial reaction was he was happy.
02:32He might say otherwise.
02:33I don't know.
02:34I truly don't remember.
02:35When I first found out that my dad and Crystal were dating,
02:38I was definitely surprised she was my nanny.
02:40Some people thought it was weird
02:42that the age gap was really large.
02:44My dad brought a lot of women home,
02:46so I just thought it's just another 23-year-old
02:49he brought home.
02:50Crystal spoiled me a lot.
02:51She bought me a lot of games and gifts, I guess,
02:54to bribe me.
02:55I didn't really think anything of it.
02:56I didn't think that they were gonna get married.
02:57Would it be my first choice?
02:59Probably not, but that's life, so.
03:02So Dad, did you always have a crush on Crystal
03:04or did it just happen?
03:06I think it developed into a crush.
03:10It took a while, like a few months.
03:12What did you like about her from the start?
03:15I recognized she was good-looking.
03:16I got to know her.
03:17She was a good person, has a good heart.
03:19You can't say that, right?
03:20Can you say she doesn't have a good heart?
03:22I don't know.
03:24Like, would she hurt you intentionally?
03:26I think so.
03:27Really?
03:28You think she would hurt you intentionally?
03:30Has she hurt you intentionally?
03:32I remember her not driving me to school.
03:34Oh my God, you're still not over this.
03:36She told me she would never drive me to school,
03:38but she would drive Cashton, like, 20 minutes later.
03:41Do you think she did that because you're her stepson
03:43and Cashton's not?
03:44I don't know the answer to that.
03:45I think that's how you feel.
03:47If I had to guess.
03:49It was like therapy.
03:51And you're still holding against him?
03:53Definitely.
03:53Sounds like I do.
03:55Yeah, I think so.
03:56So what made you like my dad?
03:57What's not to like?
03:58He's a great dad.
04:00Did you see that, though, at the time?
04:03I mean, he was coming home at like 7 p.m., so.
04:06Did my dad want to fire you?
04:08Yes.
04:10Yeah, because I wasn't cooking and cleaning enough,
04:11apparently.
04:12At all.
04:14Or at all.
04:15Didn't your mom cook one of the dinners
04:17and brought it home to you?
04:20Oh my God, Sal.
04:22Sal's really gonna spill the tea today, okay.
04:27I thought that was you.
04:30Who else would it be?
04:31We brought a lot of women home.
04:32But she won't let me communicate with the new nannies.
04:35I'm gonna lose them how I got them.
04:37They'll be like, oh, can I have Ben's number?
04:39And I'll be like, no, you don't need Ben's number.
04:42You talk to me.
04:43No need for that.
04:44So, Sal, how did you feel when you first found out
04:47that Crystal and I would date?
04:48I was definitely happy for you for getting a young girl.
04:51I didn't think anything of it.
04:52Didn't think you were gonna marry her.
04:54What?
04:54For sure.
04:55Just, I think, probably a month prior,
04:57you had the other 22-year-old.
04:59What about her?
05:00She was nice.
05:00She was definitely a mother figure.
05:02She cooked?
05:03She cooked, she cleaned.
05:06Well, I'm sorry, but.
05:08How long did it take you to somewhat accept Crystal
05:11as a step-mommy?
05:13I think when I was younger,
05:15I actually loved her.
05:16What's younger?
05:17Like 12 or 13.
05:20Oh, you loved her then?
05:21I think so.
05:21And then you suddenly didn't like her?
05:24So she did things to upset you?
05:26Yeah.
05:27Not drive you to school?
05:28Yeah, not drive me to school.
05:31Hey, wait.
05:32He's still not over that.
05:33I don't think he'll ever get over it.
05:34Yeah, no.
05:35We've been hearing about this for years.
05:37He's gonna graduate college in one year
05:39and he's still talking about this.
05:41I think my dad and Crystal are good together
05:44because the age gap is a lot.
05:46It brings a lot of attention.
05:47Crystal likes attention.
05:48You can tell from her car.
05:50A lot of people say that she's a gold digger, obviously.
05:52With my dad for the money,
05:54I don't disagree.
05:55Stop.
05:56My dad definitely spoils her.
05:57She likes the lifestyle that my dad gives her.
06:00So do I, obviously.
06:02But that's definitely a big one.
06:04So he's being honest.
06:05He's telling you how he feels.
06:06We didn't say not to be honest.
06:09Feeling they're coming out.
06:15That concludes that therapy session.
06:18We get a lot of judgment on social media.
06:20TikTok is definitely the worst.
06:22You know, the typical stuff
06:23when you're in an age gap relationship,
06:26like, oh, she's a gold digger.
06:27He's so ugly.
06:29He's so old.
06:30What are you thinking?
06:31They said he could be your father.
06:33I mean, it is true.
06:34He could be.
06:35You call me daddy?
06:36Stop.
06:37Someone said meal ticket.
06:38Is anyone talking about the poor wife
06:40and maybe the children that he left for his employee?
06:43We do get a lot of comments about,
06:45they thought I was married
06:46and she was the nanny that took me away from my ex-wife.
06:49But when I met him,
06:50he was already divorced for 10 years.
06:52She always feels the need to explain it.
06:55I think for us,
06:56we just ignore it because we know the truth
06:58and I know that that's not true.
07:00There is nothing I dislike about my wife.
07:02Serious.
07:03She's,
07:05she's everything to me.
07:06I love how much of a provider he is.
07:10I think that's my biggest thing.
07:11It's like no matter what,
07:13he'll do whatever it takes to provide for me and the kids.
07:18I think we balance each other.
07:19My strengths are her weaknesses
07:21and my weaknesses are his strengths.
07:23So together we make a powerful team.
07:25I definitely think that the negativity
07:27has made us stronger as a couple.
07:29We really don't care.
07:30We live our lives with our kids and our family
07:33and whether you like us or not, too bad.
07:35We're gonna keep doing what we do.
07:36Might keep doing what you tell me to do.