Married at First Sight UK S9 Episode 8
Married at First Sight UK S9 Episode 8
Category
🎥
Short filmTranscript
00:00:00Oh
00:00:04Previously
00:00:06The first in a party brought unexpected absences
00:00:14It was a night of troubling truths, I'm not finding attractive. I don't see why we are matched. He's told me that I'm not
00:00:24We did on the way tonight essentially he's saying I'm not attracted to her yet. I had sex with her
00:00:30One being hater got 10 being I love you. What's your number?
00:00:36And a shocking discovery sent Holly and Alex into meltdown
00:00:42That's a red flag that he would swap lives I'm not coping with someone who's so disrespectful
00:00:47Never would a man be around my kids who speaks like that
00:00:50Okay, let me tell you let me tell you walk on straight out the door mate
00:00:57Tonight welcome to your very first commitment ceremony the newlyweds come face-to-face with the experts
00:01:03The end of the honeymoon was tumultuous for you both
00:01:07We had a really big fight and we haven't kissed since that day. I am scared of rejection. I'm scared of losing her
00:01:13I'm sorry. I just hate all this stuff two couples still struggle to bond on a deeper level
00:01:21I
00:01:23Was so different on so many levels I
00:01:26Don't get it. This is my life
00:01:29I know that I'm not what you normally go for
00:01:31I'm not forcing it. What if I've got a faucet then it's not there if I'm affectionate with her
00:01:36I don't want to give the wrong idea, but you're married and you've had sex
00:01:39And the rift between Holly and Alex persists you speak to me like I'm a boy in the street
00:01:46If this was not this process you would have been ghosted
00:01:50Why I hate the situation
00:02:02Aree
00:02:04Got some melon. Yeah, right after last night's dinner party. I fancy that she's on toast. Do you fancy be like say?
00:02:13One couple in particular remain a topic of conversation
00:02:18Holly and Alex I think are a bit of a disaster at the minute. The communications not very good
00:02:25Communications important though in it
00:02:29They ended up leaving on not very good terms, it's not a thought that should be in your head
00:02:34But if it is you keep it yourself, I
00:02:36Hope they're able to fix it. Yeah, I do really do
00:02:42After what happened at the dinner party last night, I spent the night alone
00:02:47I've seen things in Holly that I don't particularly like
00:02:51All I've done is made a comment and everybody's just seeing me as the bad guy
00:02:57Part of me wants to leave this experiment because I've gone from having a guy who's giving me everything I need to the polar opposite
00:03:06I'm not wasting my time with a guy who's gonna disappoint me and lie to me
00:03:18Last night was interesting. Don't you think there's a few little fall outs? I know me and you had a little I
00:03:25Think it was just the whole scale thing. That's what bothered me. It was just a really shit way to go about things
00:03:31Let's not forget how old we are
00:03:33Adam is acting very blase about the whole thing. I
00:03:36Do feel like it is a bit of a kick in the teeth if anything
00:03:40It has kind of made me want to pull back a little bit
00:03:42The only problem we've got is something that the experts can't help us with there's nothing they can say that's gonna make me go
00:03:48Oh, okay. Yeah, I fancy are you for more? It's the one thing that I actually can't change
00:03:54Cannot change what I look like
00:03:56It does obviously still make me feel a bit rubbish at the fact that I know that I'm not his type
00:04:01But I'm really looking forward to speaking to the experts today to kind of delve deeper in where his head's at
00:04:07I just want him to be honest and open with how he feels
00:04:12How are you feeling about Rochelle not being there
00:04:17It was horrible seeing Orson walking on his own. He's my guy and I just don't the same without his wife. That's why we're all here
00:04:23Yeah
00:04:25It's crazy that I got married a week ago and my wife's not by my side and I'm missing her
00:04:33Tonight is the commitment ceremony and I'm very nervous that Michelle might not come back and I have no idea
00:04:40Where our future lies?
00:04:42Me
00:04:45And Eve haven't spent a night together since our wedding night and I am missing her
00:04:52She wants to wait until we've met with the expert
00:04:54So we're just hoping that after today she'll officially come and move in and we can start again
00:05:02We were five star last night we were absolutely great, but I haven't forgot what's happened
00:05:09The only one wasn't great there was a lot of fights
00:05:13It breaks my heart when someone's mean to me, especially when I let them get close to me. It's a trigger
00:05:21Meeting everyone I am last night as it made you realize anything about us
00:05:26Yeah, we definitely get on a lot more than some of the couples, right?
00:05:30We actually have a really good thing like you got a vibe is like mates first
00:05:35Or turn into lovers, you know
00:05:45I'm looking forward to today because we can't move forward at the moment until we've seen the experts. Yeah
00:05:50I'm not seeing things I asked for
00:05:53and
00:05:55How we were matched I need a deeper understanding. I wish I fancied her. I wish that we were falling in love, but I've got
00:06:03Worries and doubts what the experts have to say is going to be enough for me to see the path forward
00:06:27Oh my god
00:06:30This and I'm so sorry, I am so sorry
00:06:36On the honeymoon it had been really intense like I can't even describe how intense like this whole process is I
00:06:43Had a blip I had a wobbly I had it, you know as they say pressure burst pipes and my pipe burst
00:06:50So what are you doing to me? I've prayed
00:06:54I've prayed
00:06:56In my head I'm thinking why
00:06:59She's done
00:07:00You know, I mean, I wasn't I just knew I needed to get away. I have a tendency maybe to kind of run when I feel
00:07:08Too stressed. It was just so intense like I couldn't think do you know what I mean?
00:07:11I just felt like I need to pull away. It was just getting too much
00:07:15I don't generally tend to trust a lot of people once the trust is gone. It's gone
00:07:21I went home and I just you know, it's wait to a couple of friends
00:07:25I was able to process my thoughts and I was able to put things everything into perspective. How are you feeling like now?
00:07:32I'm glad to see you. I had missed you. I
00:07:36Can't deny it like I do like you
00:07:41I've missed you so much like like so much. I'm really sorry. I feel really really bad
00:07:49Opening the door this morning and seeing Rochelle there
00:07:53It just made me feel like yes, she does care and no I can't control my excitement
00:08:10Tonight the newlyweds will face their first commitment ceremony
00:08:15Where they will decide if they want to stay in the experiment or walk away from the marriage
00:08:22You
00:08:52You
00:09:14Welcome to your very first commitment ceremony
00:09:18Today is where the hard work really starts
00:09:25You all have a huge decision to make tonight
00:09:28let me remind you that a couple can only leave the experiment if you both right leave if
00:09:35One person wants to stay the couple must stay within the experiment until the next commitment ceremony
00:09:43Remember that the more open and truthful you are
00:09:46The more you will benefit from the process we're really looking forward to getting started
00:09:58First up to the couch we have Christina and Kieran
00:10:06Don't be nervous we don't bite nervous not nervous at all
00:10:12Talk me through your wedding day. How was that?
00:10:17Magic
00:10:18unbelievable
00:10:19Would you say you felt a connection straight away?
00:10:23Yeah, I felt like I've got the short end of the stick literally
00:10:32To have somebody that has this amazing six-foot personality
00:10:37That he is and it just made me feel instantly at ease like I was buzzing
00:10:45You both went on to your honeymoon we did what was that experience like
00:10:50amazing I
00:10:52Realized how Karen she was she's got a massive fun side massive fan of music
00:10:57I don't know another girl in this world who wakes up at 6 and puts trance on
00:11:00It sounds like you're okay with that
00:11:12If she's happy I'm happy if she's happy with transit 6 o'clock in the morning you do you
00:11:21There's some really good body language you guys are sitting very close to one. Oh my god. You seem very comfortable with one another
00:11:30Did intimacy kind of wouldn't you like to know
00:11:46The intimacy is definitely there and it's really refreshing isn't it is is that even how you
00:11:54Know
00:11:59Okay, so what would you like advice on
00:12:07I overthink and I take things very personally don't I but I think it's just because I care so much
00:12:15How do I get out of this like
00:12:18Over sensitive over thinking like headspace because it affects me and it does affect Karen
00:12:27You've made a great start here
00:12:28You know you you're showing that you're aware that you do get into that spiral of overthinking
00:12:33The next step is to stop it as it's happening. I
00:12:37Just wonder if you were to try this this week when you do start overthinking to say to Kieran. I'm doing it
00:12:44I'm overthinking and then you can actually discuss it together, and it becomes less of a problem. Yeah, that's a good idea
00:12:51Thanks, Mel. Give it a try
00:12:53I've got you. I've got you
00:12:55Let's move on to the decisions now
00:13:01So I've
00:13:03Chosen this word
00:13:06Because I can't wait to see what is to come for us
00:13:11So I've chosen
00:13:24And Kieran, what's your decision? I've never met anyone as
00:13:30loud in the best way possible as
00:13:32Bright as colorful as funny as outrageous
00:13:38So for that reason Christina, you're amazing and I've wrote Steve
00:13:50Continue to have lots of fun and of course lots of intimacy. Oh, yeah
00:14:07And next up to the couch Polly and Adam
00:14:21I'm gonna get straight to the point
00:14:24When you met did you feel you were each other's type I
00:14:30Feel like for me it was there. I just don't feel that was reciprocated
00:14:37It's a tricky one obviously she really fancies me and I want to say I want to say it back to you
00:14:43No, I mean, but I can't
00:14:47She's not like my usual type but I'm hers like don't get me wrong
00:14:51She's a good-looking girl and we got on like a house on fire, but I just feel bad for her
00:14:58What's your usual type my usual types normally like dark features petite brunette
00:15:07It seems as if what you are actually doing is
00:15:12Pushing yourself away from her and you're labeling it as this type thing
00:15:18What you could do is you could understand that you are in an unnatural experiment. Why not go all in?
00:15:27Because what you're doing right now is you're actually hurting her even more
00:15:32When you said I feel bad for her I was like nah, I feel bad for you my man
00:15:37You were setting yourself up to miss out on an incredible opportunity
00:15:43Holly how's all of this feeling for you?
00:15:48It's not great because obviously I know that I'm not sorry
00:16:07Because I know that I'm not we normally go for however like I know that everything else is there and it's hard because
00:16:15She's not actually my type
00:16:22I don't think I'm gonna be able to sleep at night
00:16:28And I can't get mixed up in anybody else's problems
00:16:30However, like, I know that everything else is there,
00:16:34and it's hard, because I'm like,
00:16:36why are you not doing what you should be doing
00:16:39if you're saying all of this stuff?
00:16:41It's so confusing.
00:16:45Seeing all the other couples and that, I say, like,
00:16:48I really fancy him, like, I can't say that to her.
00:16:52Why can't you do that?
00:16:55If I'm affectionate with her and cuddly and kissy with her,
00:16:58I don't want to give her the wrong idea,
00:17:00cos I don't want to hurt her.
00:17:01But you're married and you've had sex.
00:17:06Ooh! Ah.
00:17:16Look at that.
00:17:19That felt natural at the time, you know what I mean?
00:17:21It's nonsense, my man.
00:17:22It's like you want to swim in the pool,
00:17:24but you don't want to get wet.
00:17:26How does it feel for you, Polly,
00:17:28knowing that the two of you have been intimate
00:17:30and now you've gone back to the friend zone?
00:17:34I mean, it's not ideal,
00:17:35because I think when I'm in a relationship,
00:17:37I am very sexually driven towards someone like that.
00:17:40It's just natural, isn't it?
00:17:42And I haven't pushed that,
00:17:43because I'm not having to reject from someone again.
00:17:47In my last relationship, I was rejected so much,
00:17:50to the point now where I'm like,
00:17:52I'm not forcing it, I don't want it.
00:17:53If I've got to force it, then it's not there.
00:17:55Yeah.
00:17:56And I shouldn't have to tell him to do something,
00:17:59because he should want to do it.
00:18:02And he's not.
00:18:05You're not showing me anything that you like me at all,
00:18:08apart from just being a nice person.
00:18:15Adam, what do you think?
00:18:16I think it's a good thing that you're in a relationship now.
00:18:20Adam, what do you think it is that's holding you back?
00:18:24I've always said, like, I'm not perfect,
00:18:26but I am perfect for someone,
00:18:28so I want someone who's perfect for me.
00:18:34You have this incredible woman sitting next to you.
00:18:37Not only is she gorgeous, she connects with you,
00:18:40you have fun together,
00:18:42but you're sitting here and saying, I want perfection.
00:18:46I don't look at her and think, like, she's not attractive
00:18:48or anything, like she's an attractive woman.
00:18:50Yes.
00:18:51It's just, there's that little bit of something missing.
00:18:57My sense is, Adam, that you're...
00:19:00You're holding back, you know, for whatever reason.
00:19:03You're not allowing yourself to really open up
00:19:07and experience everything
00:19:10that you could be experiencing here with Polly.
00:19:14Yeah, I agree, yeah.
00:19:18I just don't like talking about my emotions
00:19:20and, like, I don't want to get hurt, you know what I mean?
00:19:22Like, I always worry about getting hurt.
00:19:24If you listen to what Polly's saying,
00:19:26she's saying that too.
00:19:27I don't want to be hurt.
00:19:31All right, let's go to the decision.
00:19:36Please, Polly first.
00:19:40So, it's still so early, there's still so much to work on,
00:19:44so I put stay for now.
00:19:46Yeah!
00:19:53Adam.
00:19:56I do feel a little bit of pressure and I don't want to hurt.
00:20:01Attraction, it's not something I can force.
00:20:05But I can't say a bad word about you, so...
00:20:10..I've decided to stay.
00:20:12CHEERING
00:20:14All right, you guys, well, thank you.
00:20:24Next up, Sacha and Ross.
00:20:27Yes!
00:20:32Hello.
00:20:33Hello. Hey, guys.
00:20:35Welcome, guys. Welcome.
00:20:37How are you?
00:20:38Let's go back to the wedding. OK.
00:20:41Best day ever.
00:20:42Best day ever, best night ever.
00:20:45What did you think when you first saw Ross?
00:20:48I thought, thank God he's tall and thank God he's hench.
00:20:53So, by the end of the day,
00:20:55do you feel like you were attracted to each other?
00:20:57Oh, I mean, look at her.
00:21:00For God's sake, she's a man.
00:21:02Oh!
00:21:03I love that. I love that.
00:21:05I just thought, I don't want to forget.
00:21:07It's mad. It's mad.
00:21:09It's mad.
00:21:10It's unbelievable.
00:21:12Yeah, I definitely thought he was fit from the get-go,
00:21:14but, like, I wouldn't straightaway be all over someone.
00:21:18I understand that you talked about your celibacy.
00:21:21Yeah.
00:21:23What does celibacy mean to you?
00:21:24Celibacy is a decision not to sleep with someone casually.
00:21:30It'd be someone when I'm in a relationship
00:21:31and I feel, like, they're serious about me.
00:21:33OK, that is abstinence.
00:21:36You are holding sex until you are with someone
00:21:40that you fully trust? Yeah.
00:21:44Ross, what are your thoughts about having these kind of conversations?
00:21:49I've expected her to date him,
00:21:51and I've expected her to take the lead.
00:21:55Not what it should be.
00:21:57So, now, talk us through the honeymoon.
00:21:59We had the best honeymoon.
00:22:01It was really shocking how quickly you can really like someone.
00:22:08Ross just made me feel really emotionally safe and comfortable.
00:22:13And he was literally everything I asked for and more.
00:22:17I don't know where he got it so good.
00:22:19And, yeah, we just both said, like,
00:22:22we couldn't even imagine spending a day apart now.
00:22:24We'd come back from the honeymoon and we was like,
00:22:27I don't ever want to be alone.
00:22:28Ross, what did you learn about Sasha?
00:22:51Yes.
00:22:59Oh, our work is done.
00:23:01Yeah, I know, right?
00:23:02You can leave now, you can leave.
00:23:06That's wonderful.
00:23:07So, let's go to a decision.
00:23:11We will begin with Ross.
00:23:14I think I'm amazing, but I shouldn't stay here.
00:23:19Oh.
00:23:21Oh, thank you so much.
00:23:24Sasha?
00:23:25I can't believe I've come into this and found Ross.
00:23:29And Ross was literally everything I asked for and more.
00:23:33So, yeah.
00:23:37Stay.
00:23:38CHEERING
00:23:41Continue to make each other feel safe.
00:23:44And this union will last forever.
00:23:48Thank you so much.
00:23:49Good work. Thank you.
00:23:51You look beautiful.
00:23:52Well done, guys.
00:23:53Well done.
00:23:55Go, Glenn, go, go.
00:23:57Next up, we have Eve and Charlie.
00:24:00Come on, Charlie, let's go, girl.
00:24:01Let's go, girl, let's go.
00:24:03Let's go, honey.
00:24:06Hello.
00:24:07How are you doing?
00:24:08Welcome, welcome, welcome.
00:24:09Oh, hi.
00:24:10So, now, the end of the honeymoon was tumultuous for you both.
00:24:15Yeah.
00:24:16But last night, united front.
00:24:18How do you feel in this moment?
00:24:20Erm...
00:24:21I...
00:24:23I mean, my feelings have been there since the first day.
00:24:27I'm well and truly in.
00:24:28All right.
00:24:29Eve, how are we feeling?
00:24:32Not maybe where I was at the start, but, erm...
00:24:38Come on, baby.
00:24:40You're fine.
00:24:41You've got this, Eve, come on.
00:24:48Just get in there.
00:24:51So, erm...
00:24:53Not where we were at the start, but a lot better than...
00:24:56Sorry.
00:24:57Where we were on the honeymoon.
00:25:00OK, OK.
00:25:01Let's go to the beginning.
00:25:04OK, let's go to the wedding.
00:25:05How did we feel that day?
00:25:06Oh, brilliant.
00:25:08Really, really good.
00:25:10Really good.
00:25:11Charlie, what did you think?
00:25:13Literally, as soon as I clocked eyes with her,
00:25:14like, I was just like,
00:25:16oh, my God, you're amazing.
00:25:18And then she opened her mouth, and I was like,
00:25:21you're Irish!
00:25:22And she hasn't shut up since.
00:25:25And, yeah, I just felt this just instant connection with her.
00:25:30Wow. So, first day, incredible.
00:25:32Yeah. Ten out of ten.
00:25:33Yeah.
00:25:35When do you believe the first issue was apparent?
00:25:41Well, Eve had said that she felt like I was being mean to her
00:25:44on the honeymoon.
00:25:46I was quite taken aback by that, cos I wasn't.
00:25:48I didn't understand, like...
00:25:50I think I'm very passionate, like, when I speak,
00:25:52and, like, I can be very expressionate,
00:25:54and I've got a very loud voice.
00:25:56Eve, did you say she was mean, or...?
00:25:58OK, so it came across.
00:26:00So, describe what it was.
00:26:02It hadn't been a good few days, and I wasn't saying,
00:26:05I'm sorry.
00:26:06I just hate all this stuff, and I don't want to make her
00:26:08look like a bad person, cos she's not.
00:26:11So, like, we had a...
00:26:12Just get my mouth...
00:26:13We had a couple of bad days, and then...
00:26:17..when we were, like, talking about it, I just...
00:26:19I was walking next to you, so I didn't want things to get any worse.
00:26:22I had, like... I just... I just don't want to be...
00:26:24I just feel like I want to disappear when, like, that's happening.
00:26:27And I just said, Charlie, do you think you're mean to me sometimes?
00:26:30Then I got heated. She raised her voice.
00:26:32I just... I just said, I'm not doing this.
00:26:35And, like, I know when she gets annoyed and stuff,
00:26:38I know I'm not going to, like, shout back at her.
00:26:40Do you know what I mean?
00:26:41That's exactly what you mean.
00:26:44Did you two ever come back and resolve that?
00:26:48That's when I feel like Eve sort of went a bit inside herself,
00:26:52and the barrier came up,
00:26:55and there was no way of communicating at that point.
00:27:00That moment where you began to realise
00:27:03that there are communication differences between the two of you.
00:27:06Yeah. We had a really big fate,
00:27:09our honeymoon, to the extent where I moved out,
00:27:11and we haven't kissed since that day.
00:27:12We haven't kissed in a week. I cut everything.
00:27:17Why did you scream at me? Yeah, I know.
00:27:18You're a fucking prick. Fuck you.
00:27:20I'm leaving this fucking experiment in front of the whole restaurant.
00:27:24Because you just walked off out of our honeymoon dinner.
00:27:26And she even took off her wedding ring
00:27:27and threw it in the ocean that night, didn't she?
00:27:30It's just too much.
00:27:33And then you hit eject. Yeah.
00:27:34Because it's too much. Mm.
00:27:36And then when you come back,
00:27:39you two don't resolve the issues. No.
00:27:40And then it compounds, so then there's another issue
00:27:43on top of another issue on top of another issue. Yeah.
00:27:47I have a couple of thoughts here.
00:27:49You definitely have distinct communication styles.
00:27:53Eve, you like to walk away.
00:27:55Charlie's like, no, let's finish this right now.
00:27:57That is well-intentioned,
00:28:00but that is bad advice to follow.
00:28:03Eve, you have to say, give me 20 minutes.
00:28:07And then we will come back
00:28:09and we will talk about this particular topic.
00:28:11Otherwise, you are leaving her in limbo.
00:28:15Charlie, I do feel like, also,
00:28:17you have to make sure that your response is a response
00:28:21where your partner wants to come and resolve the situation.
00:28:25Yes.
00:28:26I think I did lose myself a little bit on the honeymoon.
00:28:29I kind of went back to, like...
00:28:31You all right?
00:28:33It's OK.
00:28:34I found myself, like, becoming the old Charlie again,
00:28:37which was, like, lonely and rejected.
00:28:42And I felt just really, like, insecure and angry and upset
00:28:47that we hadn't been able to talk.
00:28:52But I feel like there's a fear of abandonment.
00:28:54I think that's what we're seeing with both of you.
00:28:58Eve, you go into your shell
00:29:00and we see with you, Charlie, that you react.
00:29:03Yeah, yeah, I'm scared because a lot of that comes from, like,
00:29:07abandonment of my dad and I was really lonely.
00:29:13You haven't told me any of that.
00:29:14I know, I just feel like we haven't had the chance
00:29:16to have these conversations yet.
00:29:19This is the beauty of this journey.
00:29:20Everyone comes in thinking, OK, it's about my marriage.
00:29:23It really is about your individual journey
00:29:27and about how you can heal trauma
00:29:30and, as a result of healing the trauma,
00:29:32show up for your partner in a better way.
00:29:36I just really find it hard getting my head around
00:29:39somebody speaking to me like that
00:29:40because that hasn't happened to me in so long.
00:29:42How you resolve the conflict will dictate
00:29:45whether or not you will stay in your marriage, period.
00:29:53We need a decision. Charlie first.
00:29:58I want to give this 100%.
00:30:00Like, I really feel like we have something special
00:30:03and I want to work on myself to be better for you.
00:30:07So, I put Steve.
00:30:10Well done, Charlie.
00:30:12With a smiley face.
00:30:14And kisses.
00:30:18So...
00:30:22..Eve...
00:30:24..you need a decision.
00:30:30END OF ROCKY SONG
00:30:42So, Eve, we need a decision.
00:30:49Um, so yes, there's no denying that we had a rocky start.
00:30:53Um...
00:31:00But I do feel like we had a fresh start yesterday,
00:31:03and that's what it feels like.
00:31:04Um...
00:31:06I'm just gonna leave it there. I'm staying.
00:31:07Yeah!
00:31:09Yeah!
00:31:13All right, well, there's no doubt
00:31:16you have a lot of love for you in this room.
00:31:18Yeah. Yeah.
00:31:19All right, so continue to work on that communication.
00:31:21You're gonna go far. Okay.
00:31:22All right. Thank you so much.
00:31:23Thank you. Thanks, guys.
00:31:24Love that. You, too.
00:31:25You, too.
00:31:27There she is.
00:31:29Oh, God.
00:31:31Emotional.
00:31:33Next up to the couch, we have Nathan and Lacey.
00:31:37Hello.
00:31:39Oh, it's my favourite one.
00:31:41Hello.
00:31:45Good to see the two of you.
00:31:47Good to see you. It's nice to see you all.
00:31:49Talk me through your first impressions
00:31:51when you met each other at the wedding.
00:31:53Yeah, she's a very kind person.
00:31:56Yeah, she's very good-looking.
00:31:58But, yeah, no, I was happy.
00:32:00Yeah, when I first saw Nathan,
00:32:02I thought, rocket, salt, my type.
00:32:05LAUGHTER
00:32:09And then in terms of the honeymoon,
00:32:12what was that experience like?
00:32:14It was really, really fun.
00:32:16We had the wicked time.
00:32:18Yeah, it was mint.
00:32:20It's like we're best friends. Yeah.
00:32:22The way we laugh together and dance in the room,
00:32:24I can just be myself, like I'm the best mate that I fancy, you know?
00:32:27So it sounds like it was all quite positive for you.
00:32:30Yeah.
00:32:32Were there any areas that weren't so great for the two of you?
00:32:35So I found him hard to read sometimes.
00:32:39If I'm interested in someone,
00:32:41well, like, actions for me speak louder than words.
00:32:43So I just sort of show that in, like, a physical affection way.
00:32:47But I do like to hear it.
00:32:50His vocabulary would be very short.
00:32:53Yeah, like, on the spot. A bit cold.
00:32:55On the spot, right.
00:32:57And it made me feel rejected.
00:32:59I don't necessarily pick my words right sometimes.
00:33:02Like, I might not pick up what she said.
00:33:05I might go, oh, cool, you know?
00:33:08And I'm just like, it feels like a slap to the face.
00:33:11But it's nothing that I would mean intentionally, you know?
00:33:14Cos I've got ADHD as well.
00:33:16Sometimes I process things and it's a lot.
00:33:19So, Lacey, have you ever had a boyfriend
00:33:22who was neurodivergent before?
00:33:24My twin sister has ADHD.
00:33:27So I've had a family member like that,
00:33:29but I've never actually dated someone like that.
00:33:32Right.
00:33:34And it's all different, right, because you can get ADHD
00:33:36where you're quite loud, you're quite vocal,
00:33:38whereas me, I'm very active upstairs
00:33:40and I have to always be doing stuff, keep busy.
00:33:42But he's, like, told me about his ADHD
00:33:45and told me a few things he does.
00:33:49Sometimes he daydreams.
00:33:51So if he didn't tell me that, I might have thought
00:33:53he's not interested.
00:33:55But now it's made me aware.
00:33:57I know you're into me, but he's just mine somewhere else.
00:34:00But he'll come back to me.
00:34:02Exactly. When you're neurodivergent,
00:34:04you'll process information differently.
00:34:06So the key is to continue to educate yourself.
00:34:08And, Nathan, this is where you can help to educate Lacey.
00:34:10This is great. When you're learning together,
00:34:12that's actually very sexy, you know what I mean?
00:34:14Since we've come back,
00:34:17I've not even had to question how he feels.
00:34:19I know how he feels.
00:34:21He straightened my hair for me.
00:34:23He bought me breakfast in bed.
00:34:25That means so much to me,
00:34:27so I'm pretty happy.
00:34:29Whoa!
00:34:31Well, it sounds like the two of you
00:34:33are in a really positive space.
00:34:35Let's go to the decision.
00:34:41Obviously, I'm quite happy with the way things are going at the moment.
00:34:44I'd just like to continue and see where it goes.
00:34:47Yay!
00:34:49Woo!
00:34:51Yay!
00:34:53And, Lacey, what's your decision?
00:34:55Yeah, I'm really happy.
00:34:57You've done good.
00:34:59So I've chosen stay.
00:35:01Yay!
00:35:05Well, thank you so much, guys.
00:35:07Have fun for the rest of the week.
00:35:09Thank you so much.
00:35:13Well done.
00:35:15I wasn't nervous. I thought it was going to be, to be fair.
00:35:17It's all right.
00:35:19And next up, we have...
00:35:21Rochelle and Orson.
00:35:23Yay!
00:35:25Woo-hoo!
00:35:27Hello, you two.
00:35:29Hello, hello.
00:35:31And welcome back, Rochelle.
00:35:35We missed you at the dinner party last night.
00:35:37Yeah.
00:35:39Well, look, let's focus on the two of you
00:35:41as a couple.
00:35:43Why don't you take me back to
00:35:45the wedding day?
00:35:47Orson, what was it like
00:35:49for you when you turned around and saw this
00:35:51woman?
00:35:53I was stopped for words.
00:35:55And I'm like, hi,
00:35:57I'm Orson, and I'm
00:35:59Kittitian. And then she was like, you Kittitian?
00:36:01I'm Guyanese.
00:36:03So straight away, there was that connection
00:36:05of culture. So I felt like,
00:36:07right, this is going to be amazing.
00:36:09And, Rochelle,
00:36:12do you feel that connection initially?
00:36:14Yes, yes, definitely.
00:36:16It was a relief, actually, when I heard his accent.
00:36:18It was definitely like, okay, we're both Caribbean.
00:36:20I like the cultural theme that
00:36:22he injected into the wedding.
00:36:24As the day
00:36:26progressed, what more did you learn
00:36:28about each other?
00:36:30I learned that he's quite rules-based.
00:36:32I mean, that came up.
00:36:34So that felt quite
00:36:36different from your style?
00:36:38Yes. Right. Yes.
00:36:40I don't like rules.
00:36:42In my
00:36:44life, I'm quite structured.
00:36:46I grew up playing cricket, so it's
00:36:48always rules-based.
00:36:50Everything I do in terms of work
00:36:52is rules-based.
00:36:54And I thought, okay,
00:36:56we're going to put heads here.
00:36:58This is one of the
00:37:00big relationship challenges, I think,
00:37:02that's come up for you guys really early.
00:37:04What we're talking about here are two
00:37:06quite different approaches
00:37:08to life, really.
00:37:12Doesn't mean it can't work. In fact, it can work
00:37:14beautifully from a complementary
00:37:16perspective.
00:37:18How did that theme continue to play
00:37:20out, and what did you learn about yourselves?
00:37:24He's a lot more comfortable
00:37:26talking openly about his feelings.
00:37:28And I'm a little bit
00:37:30more reserved, but I do think
00:37:32that I show it.
00:37:34I think I demonstrate. I think you know
00:37:36that I like you.
00:37:40And so from your perspective, did you
00:37:42notice Rachelle's walls dropping
00:37:44as the honeymoon went on?
00:37:46Was she opening up more to you?
00:37:52I could see changes. You know, one day
00:37:54I think she was out for a couple of hours
00:37:56and she came back in and she goes,
00:37:58I came back because I miss my husband.
00:38:00She showed me that she cared
00:38:02and I feel like
00:38:04I was getting little feels.
00:38:08Rachelle,
00:38:10you look really uncomfortable.
00:38:12It's not feeling uncomfortable.
00:38:14It's more just
00:38:16I guess I always
00:38:18kind of just want to dig deeper
00:38:20like, why?
00:38:22You know.
00:38:24I don't know.
00:38:26Why would he say
00:38:28respectful things about you?
00:38:30I guess just how genuine
00:38:32he is.
00:38:37It feels like too much too soon.
00:38:39A bit.
00:38:41A bit.
00:38:43It sounds like pace
00:38:45is a bit of a theme here.
00:38:47Yeah.
00:38:49Ordinarily, I'm at home.
00:38:51I'm sort of in my sort of peaceful
00:38:53comfort zone.
00:38:55I'm in my sort of peaceful, safe place.
00:38:57So I've stepped out of that and it's
00:38:59definitely taken me a while to sort of process
00:39:01my thoughts because there's a lot.
00:39:03It's a sort of process. It's like, oh.
00:39:05Huge adjustment. Yeah.
00:39:07So in addition to learning about each other's
00:39:09pace, you're also learning
00:39:11about each other's space.
00:39:13Really important to bring this
00:39:15into the relationship because I can hear,
00:39:17Rachelle, that you need that.
00:39:19You're very independent but also
00:39:21you need to make sure that you're doing that in such a way
00:39:23that you're not making Orson feel rejected.
00:39:25Yeah. Rachelle, you
00:39:27don't necessarily trust
00:39:29immediately, right?
00:39:31Now there's a famous quote and that is
00:39:33trust but verify.
00:39:35I don't live by that.
00:39:37I live by verify
00:39:39then trust.
00:39:41And I think that's what you're trying to do right here.
00:39:45I have to say, having been through
00:39:47this process many, many times now,
00:39:49I know how
00:39:51hard it is. I've seen
00:39:53so many people struggle with this
00:39:55process and I guess one of the
00:39:57really tough lessons that a lot of
00:39:59people learn is that you must
00:40:01let go of all control and I wonder
00:40:03if that's something that's been tough
00:40:05for you, Rachelle.
00:40:07It's one of these ones where it's so early on
00:40:09and I've been single for so long
00:40:11and
00:40:13also like
00:40:15just doing it all
00:40:17in the spotlight, you know.
00:40:19This is the point I want to grab for you.
00:40:21Because this is the point that's not going to change.
00:40:25This relationship
00:40:27is not going to have a chance
00:40:29if you're not fully committed to the
00:40:31process.
00:40:35Everyone in this room has had a point
00:40:37where they wanted to go home
00:40:39but they stayed.
00:40:41You cannot drop in and out of this
00:40:43experiment. You're in
00:40:45or you're out.
00:40:49You cannot drop in and out of this experiment.
00:40:51You're in
00:40:53or you're out.
00:40:57Let's go to the decision.
00:41:01Orson, we'll go to you first.
00:41:03You're going to have to
00:41:05stay.
00:41:09You're going to have to stay.
00:41:11You're going to have to stay.
00:41:13You're going to have to stay.
00:41:15You're going to have to stay.
00:41:17and we'll go to you first.
00:41:19Um, so, I've been matched with someone
00:41:22who has a lot of the characteristics that I asked for.
00:41:28Independent, beautiful, family-orientated.
00:41:35So, on that note, I've chosen to stay.
00:41:41Yay!
00:41:44Thanks.
00:41:47And Michelle?
00:41:49I mean, it has been an intense, full-on week.
00:41:55You know, I'm fully aware that running off home
00:41:59as soon as it got too much for me was a selfish move.
00:42:02And I am really sorry that I left you in the lurch.
00:42:13So, um, stay.
00:42:15Yay!
00:42:19Well done, guys.
00:42:21And I'm so hopeful for the two of you.
00:42:27Ooh.
00:42:33Love you. Love you, man.
00:42:35Next up to the couch, we have Emma and Kasper.
00:42:37APPLAUSE
00:42:39Well done, guys.
00:42:41Well done.
00:42:43Hello, guys. Hello.
00:42:45How are we doing?
00:42:49We're better than what we were,
00:42:51but we're still not quite friends yet, are we?
00:42:55No.
00:42:59It's been difficult.
00:43:04So, take me back to the wedding, when you first met each other.
00:43:09Emma, would you like to say something? Yeah, of course.
00:43:12I actually wasn't nervous.
00:43:15I was like, this is the right thing to do.
00:43:17We're in this, I'm excited, we're here.
00:43:19And I walked down the aisle, and there he was!
00:43:22Yeah, I was happy.
00:43:26So, Kasper, what was your first impressions of Emma?
00:43:29I saw the big smile and the energy was my first impression.
00:43:35But my biggest issue on the wedding day, more than anything else...
00:43:40..Emma's got quite a few mannerisms
00:43:42and sort of character traits that my sister has.
00:43:49That's weird. Do you know what I mean?
00:43:51Like, you're looking at your new wife and your twin sister
00:43:54and you're going, they're very, very similar.
00:43:59But you've now had some time to get to know Emma.
00:44:02Yeah, those character traits are still very similar to my sister's.
00:44:06And I'm fully aware I've got to try and separate the two.
00:44:09Well, it sounds like that was one of the biggest challenges for you,
00:44:12to bypass that.
00:44:14It's one of the challenges, yeah.
00:44:16I mean, there's quite a few. Quite a few.
00:44:22I'm struggling at the moment with not being able to see
00:44:27the match-up process and how we've come to be sitting here on the sofa,
00:44:31together.
00:44:33I think, Caspar, though, this is quite early on in the process, isn't it?
00:44:37So do you feel like you've given it enough time
00:44:40to develop and get to know one another?
00:44:43I'm still here. You know, I haven't run for the hills.
00:44:46OK. Emma, can you talk me through the honeymoon?
00:44:50How was that experience?
00:44:53Yeah, so, um, on...
00:44:56..on the first night, um,
00:44:59Caspar said,
00:45:02well, I don't find you attractive cos I don't find curvy girls attractive.
00:45:12Which was a bit of a shock for me cos I'm very confident, like,
00:45:16I'm hardly in, like, an ogre, right?
00:45:18I'm like a normal...
00:45:20..normal girl and I wear that.
00:45:22You know, I'm never going to be skinny, never will be.
00:45:24Love a wine, love a crisp.
00:45:26I woke up the next day and I imagined my fucking friends hearing that, right?
00:45:31Putting so much into this process...
00:45:33I'm going to cry.
00:45:35Putting so much into this process for my husband to turn round to me
00:45:39and say that he's not finding me attractive
00:45:41because he doesn't find curvy girls attractive and just...
00:45:45And I said, have you found me, like, sexy at all?
00:45:48Like, I felt a million bucks in my wedding dress, like...
00:45:52And he just said, well, no.
00:45:56So we had a conversation about it the next day
00:45:59and I got a bit, like, you know, I got a bit fucking fierce the next day
00:46:03cos I was like, no, my friends wouldn't stand for that.
00:46:10And then Casper stormed off and moved out.
00:46:17Casper, would you like to shed some light on what had happened there?
00:46:22Emma had told me that, you know, I was her type on the wedding day,
00:46:26you know, but I wasn't feeling it.
00:46:30I hadn't found her sexy.
00:46:32I had seen some of the mannerisms with my sister as well.
00:46:38I tried to do it in the nicest way possible.
00:46:42You know, I failed at that.
00:46:45So were you worried about Emma's feelings?
00:46:48Yes.
00:46:50But can you see how hurtful it might be
00:46:53to say to your partner that I'm not into curvy girls?
00:46:57Can you hear how that could land?
00:47:00Yes, no, obviously, yeah.
00:47:03But I'm... If I lied, would that have been better?
00:47:09I don't understand how the process got me to Emma.
00:47:19We're so different on so many levels.
00:47:24I don't understand...
00:47:29..and I don't get it.
00:47:31And it's really frustrating cos this is my life at Fucking William.
00:47:48I'm confused.
00:47:50I don't understand.
00:47:53How the process got me to Emma.
00:47:57We're so different on so many levels.
00:47:59I don't understand...
00:48:02..and I don't get it.
00:48:04And it's really frustrating cos this is my life at Fucking William.
00:48:09Emma, how do you feel about hearing Casper say this?
00:48:15We do have different mindsets.
00:48:17I'm a glass half full, always will be.
00:48:19Casper's a glass half empty.
00:48:22It's just negative all the time.
00:48:26Let's talk about some serious things, OK?
00:48:30First is in 15 years of matchmaking,
00:48:33there is no-one that questions their match
00:48:36unless they are not physically attracted to their match.
00:48:40Can you admit that?
00:48:42It's started there, yeah.
00:48:45Cos if the physical attraction is high,
00:48:47you look for all of the reasons why you are matched.
00:48:51When the physical attraction is low,
00:48:53you begin to look for all of the reasons how we got together.
00:48:57Now, let's talk about the reasons why we matched you.
00:49:03We test everything that you can think of.
00:49:05You both have the same exact disorganised attachment style.
00:49:11It means that you exhibit a little secure,
00:49:13you exhibit a little anxious,
00:49:15you exhibit a little avoidant.
00:49:20There's many different measures that add up
00:49:24to why you not only should be together,
00:49:27but why you are strong together.
00:49:33This isn't anywhere near where I wanted to be.
00:49:37I came in with all the hopes that everyone did.
00:49:41You know, I'm here to find love,
00:49:43cos I really hoped that we wouldn't be sitting here like this, you know?
00:49:48Do you feel that over the next week
00:49:50you could maybe work together on just building a friendship?
00:49:56Yeah, yeah.
00:50:04Should we go to decisions?
00:50:07Let's start with Emma.
00:50:10So, I didn't want to give up on the first hurdle, so it's day.
00:50:13CHEERING
00:50:17And Casper, what's your decision?
00:50:24I'm not happy, but at the same time, I've got shit to learn.
00:50:31But I've had a lot going on in my head.
00:50:35And, you know, we've been waiting for this conversation
00:50:37and, you know, we've been waiting for this conversation.
00:50:39It's not been easy.
00:50:45But, yeah, I wrote...
00:50:48..day as well.
00:50:49CHEERING
00:50:53It hasn't been easy today,
00:50:54so thank you for your honesty and vulnerability.
00:50:56Well done, you guys. Well done. Thank you.
00:51:05And last up on the couch, we have Holly and Alex.
00:51:08CHEERING
00:51:19OK, thank you both for joining us.
00:51:21Can we start at the wedding?
00:51:24It was lit. It was lit? Yeah.
00:51:26What else did we have? Holly, what else was it?
00:51:29Erm...
00:51:31Sorry, Holly.
00:51:34You got this.
00:51:37Right now, I feel like it was a dream.
00:51:42OK. OK.
00:51:45So, that first day together was special.
00:51:51Alex, when you turned and you saw Holly,
00:51:54what immediately came to mind?
00:51:58When she walked down.
00:52:00Yeah, in the beautiful white dress.
00:52:04You know, dark features, curvy, dangerous eyes.
00:52:09Everything I asked for.
00:52:11It was all there. Yeah, and... And more.
00:52:14And more.
00:52:15So, day one, great.
00:52:18What happened between that moment and today?
00:52:22That's not who I married.
00:52:28He said there was no ring on right now, but wants the bows.
00:52:31But I'll go to the wedding day.
00:52:33You asked me about how the wedding day was,
00:52:35so I'm going to tell him how the wedding day was.
00:52:37Where's your wedding ring? I don't know. In my bag, I think.
00:52:39Cos you're disrespectful and you're very childish.
00:52:41OK, cool. That's more than him calling.
00:52:43Yeah, cos you are a child, Alex. I'm not.
00:52:46And I have got two children.
00:52:48I am not about to have three.
00:52:50Come, I'm listening.
00:52:51Yeah, don't be smart with me at this point, because...
00:52:54Don't even go there. I'll go there.
00:52:56Go on, then. I'm here for it. Cos do you know why?
00:52:58Listen, what do you mean, let's go?
00:53:00Let's go, I'm here for it. This isn't a ready-to-rumble.
00:53:02This is the problem. You speak to me like I'm a boy in the street.
00:53:07Trust me, if this was not this process,
00:53:09trust me, you would have been ghosted.
00:53:12Oh, my God.
00:53:14You can't say that. Honestly, that's OK.
00:53:16You would have been. I would not be speaking...
00:53:18Why is that wrong, though?
00:53:20Because I'm just saying, if I don't like what I'm seeing,
00:53:22I'm not going to make time for it.
00:53:26What you just said is ridiculously immature.
00:53:32The issue that I can see Holly has right now,
00:53:34she's like, where's your ring? How could I trust you?
00:53:39When you guys get into conflict, it just escalates.
00:53:43And there's like a kind of a power battle that goes on
00:53:47where you go in, and I think this is probably
00:53:50old patterns of behaviour that you guys are bringing
00:53:53into this relationship.
00:53:57OK, so let's talk about this.
00:54:01When you walked into the dinner party,
00:54:03what I thought was really interesting is that you were saying,
00:54:06we're good, we're good. Yeah.
00:54:08And then there was a red flag.
00:54:11What was the red flag?
00:54:13He'd asked the guys on the stag do,
00:54:16if they wasn't happy with their woman,
00:54:18would they basically do a U-turn to somebody else?
00:54:25Alex had actually turned around and said,
00:54:27I would go with someone else if I don't like my wife.
00:54:34For me, that was a really shitty comment.
00:54:39It made me feel like, so am I on trial now?
00:54:42Like, am I here until something better comes along
00:54:46and if I mess up, then that's what you're going to do?
00:54:49Like...
00:54:53Alex is the first guy who's...
00:54:57I don't know if you can remember our... I do.
00:55:00..conversation on the cassette. I did.
00:55:05And he's the first guy to compliment me.
00:55:08Make me feel good. Yeah.
00:55:12And that's why I hate the situation I'm in.
00:55:15Because he does make me feel beautiful.
00:55:20And no-one's ever done that.
00:55:25I'm a fragile person.
00:55:30I break easy and that's just because I have a lot of love to give,
00:55:34but I'm scared to give it to the wrong person again.
00:55:38When I made that comment, I knew I was getting married to somebody.
00:55:43I didn't know that person was going to be...
00:55:45I did not know that Holly existed.
00:55:47So my answer was neither here nor there,
00:55:49cos the answer's only relevant if I wasn't happy.
00:55:54OK, so what would you like to hear from her?
00:55:57There's nothing I really want to hear from her.
00:55:59It's more how it was handled.
00:56:02You're telling me behind closed doors, I've got your back.
00:56:05Then when there's a crowd, you're giving it the big un,
00:56:08having these conversations, like being overtly loud,
00:56:11and why not address that with me in private?
00:56:16To me, you're trying to make me look bad now.
00:56:19So now that messes with my, I don't know, moral compass, I would say.
00:56:24Right. For me, that's betrayal,
00:56:26because you could have addressed that with me in private.
00:56:29How do we put this topic to rest?
00:56:33Your concern was that he wasn't serious about the process.
00:56:37So then, Holly, what do you need to hear from your partner
00:56:41to be able to resolve that?
00:56:45I'd rather just put it to bed.
00:56:47You are, I can see right now, you're still mad on this.
00:56:51But you'd rather just put it to bed instead of let's deal with it.
00:56:56What is very clear is that there is a communication issue.
00:57:02As long as both of you want to be the only one who's right,
00:57:08this thing is going nowhere.
00:57:11But the moment someone is willing to say,
00:57:13how can we meet in the middle of this, right?
00:57:16If you can't do that, you can't be in a relationship.
00:57:20Can I just also add, both of you have to say the same thing.
00:57:23Also add, both of you have to take responsibility
00:57:26for what you contribute to this conflict,
00:57:28because you're both keeping it alive.
00:57:33You're both contributing. You both need to change.
00:57:38For every moment that you're in the experiment,
00:57:41you fight for your relationship.
00:57:43But that's if you decide to stay.
00:57:47So, let's find out
00:57:49if you'll be working on the marriage for another week
00:57:54or if you'll be leaving us.
00:58:00So, for me...
00:58:13Let's forget all the talking. I'll just give you my decision.
00:58:18Leave.
00:58:23OK.
00:58:26Yeah, I've known you for ten days.
00:58:28I would never be putting up with this in a normal situation,
00:58:31so I'm not going to put up with it now.
00:58:35Holly.
00:58:42I'll start off.
00:58:44I actually put...
00:58:46Stay.
00:58:48APPLAUSE
00:58:50Well done, Holly.
00:58:53I said to stay because there was a reason I was matched with Alex.
00:58:57And I'm a mum.
00:58:59Listen, you never give up when you're a mum.
00:59:01You fight for whatever.
00:59:03So, I wanted love. If I have to fight for it,
00:59:05then that's what I'm going to do.
00:59:08So, it's done.
00:59:11You've written stay.
00:59:13You've written leave.
00:59:15You two must stay in the experiment for another week
00:59:20and continue to work on your relationship.
00:59:26Alex, if you do not want to stay, I will respect your decision.
00:59:30I'm not going to force you to be around me.
00:59:36This is a communication issue.
00:59:40This is less severe
00:59:42than some of the issues that the other couples are dealing with right now.
00:59:46So, Alex,
00:59:48can we count on you to fight for another week?
00:59:58Just do what you want today.
01:00:08I'll give it a go. I'll give it a go.
01:00:10Give it a go. Thank you.
01:00:12APPLAUSE
01:00:15Now, we know for sure you both have a lot of work to do.
01:00:19So, fight for this marriage.
01:00:21OK? Fight for it. Thank you.
01:00:30Next time... Envelope!
01:00:32..a brand-new task in the shape of Experts Week...
01:00:35Am I too much for you? ..throws up tough questions.
01:00:39Slightly.
01:00:40What can I do for you to fully trust me?
01:00:43Take a lie detector test.
01:00:45..and the experts get hands-on...
01:00:47Why do you think you chose her body to focus on?
01:00:50..with the couples most in crisis.
01:00:52I didn't want to lie.
01:00:54You're never going to want to rip my clothes off, are you?
01:00:57This is what annoys me. They're talking over me.
01:00:59By the time you've finished what you're saying, we're not speaking.
01:01:02If this marriage isn't working out, then I'm going to close the door.
01:01:06But it's Eve's failure to take part...
01:01:08You couldn't even just write something.
01:01:10You faint with me every single dog laugh at the way I think.
01:01:15..that spells danger for an already troubled marriage.
01:01:18Get out. Just get out.
01:01:20I don't think we're healthy for each other.
01:01:23I'm laying my heart out on the line here and I'm getting fucked on the back.