Married at First Sight UK S09E11
Married at First Sight UK S9 Episode 11
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00:00You couldn't even just write something previously you fight with me every Saint
00:06I'm not laugh at the way. I think Eve opting out of experts week endangered her troubled marriage to Charlie
00:13I'm laying my heart out on the line here. I'm getting
00:16But a welcome apology
00:18I'm sorry for me. Sorry to set the couple back on track
00:24Until Polly what you've done to her. It's a bit of a bully bully
00:27Oh
00:29Put the cat back amongst the pigeons
00:33And the return of the honesty box, what is the biggest obstacle in the way of our happiness definitely sex
00:40What do you think you should do to prevent us from being stuck in the friend zone?
00:44Exposed Polly's frustrations with her own marriage. I will leave in a minute. You need to shut up
00:50I just want him to be honest and try to make you look stupid
00:53But it made me look stupid if Polly continues to talk to me like a child it pissed me off and this marriage isn't going to
00:59work
01:03Tonight I feel content. I feel so sure the strength of some marriages. I can't see myself. Yeah
01:10Yeah, there is so much love around and I just don't feel that with Casper
01:16Highlights the weakness of others. I've pulled back. I don't know where she's at. I feel like I've got a guard up now
01:22I don't look into Polly's eyes and think I've really want to kiss you. Oh my god
01:27And as Charlie demands answers, what did you do last night? You went into my safe space. That's not true. Oh my god
01:35I'm lying again. Someone please Eve is in the firing line Eve with respect. You've lied on the couch today
01:52I
01:54Looked at that. Yeah, I'm a girl. Have you done it before?
01:59No, I've been just painted and decorated
02:03It's the morning after the dinner party. I don't know right? I'm super grateful. Oh, yeah, you took the word
02:10Yeah
02:13Thank you and having missed it due to being unwell
02:16Lacey's keen to catch up on the night's events. So what happened to the dinner party?
02:20When I hear it all
02:27I don't know. How is the atmosphere overall?
02:35No idea
02:37It might have been a drama down at the bottom of the table. There was like a little
02:41Little something. I think Polly maybe walked out
02:44Why?
02:47I don't know. I don't know
02:50Interesting. It sounds like a lot went on last night, but Nathan he's so chilled and like positive vibes
02:56I don't think he was quite listening when like dramas going on your heads is like
03:09So did Polly tell me to shut up last night she told everybody to show
03:16But when your relationship ain't we're supposed to be like stop throwing stones if you live in a glasshouse, you know
03:30I feel really apprehensive this morning. I
03:35Don't feel like I was the only one at fault last night
03:38To me it sounded like you just completely swallowed the question
03:41And didn't answer it properly which is why I asked again how I did
03:45Which I've apologized for I was just annoyed. I've read it wrong. And then he was like, that's not why I asked you
03:52You told it me again. So it's like you've told me four times now. I'm not stupid
03:58I've definitely seen a different side to Polly last night
04:01I could say that it's not helping the attraction with Polly acting that kind of way because
04:05Did make me feel really small and I don't really like that side of her if I'm honest
04:11It was obvious that you were RC
04:14Now I need to be told when to stop obviously in a nice way
04:19After last night, I feel like we've took a step back again
04:22If this marriage was on the outside world probably wouldn't continue it. I'm not quite sure what we're going to do from here
04:41Look nice. Yeah
04:43Hello. Good morning
04:45Me and Holly have finally decided to move back in together
04:48Good to be on so long as it's for you to do my head in not gonna do you ready in mango?
04:55During experts week behind closed doors was sound Holly and Alex's marriage received hands-on help from Paul
05:03Communication and time is key. So now we're going to come up with a safe word to prevent you from overstepping again
05:11mango
05:14The couple's breakthrough led to a touching dinner party confession
05:17What do you most admire about me?
05:19The only guy who's ever made me feel so beautiful even when I wake up first thing in the morning
05:32You hungry I'm hungry. Yeah, that's good. I feel really good. Alex is back the dinner party
05:38It was so positive for us the communication between us both is definitely growing right this morning
05:43I feel like it's the first day that I woke up and genuinely felt like happy with how we are
05:48Like I know we're good. Yesterday was just so productive for us. I feel like after what's happened
05:54You've learned what I want. Yeah, and
05:57Maybe for a long time you haven't had to think this way. It's been you and the kids
06:03But now there's somebody else you've got to think of if you want to think of them
06:07I mean you back home. I yeah, so obviously I've been thinking about you
06:13We just gotta keep working out every day, you know, I'm having good times and smiling and laughing around each other and we'll be fine
06:23Yeah
06:31And when I have had a far better week this week
06:34But we are still in separate rooms who are still taking it slow
06:39We're not where we wanted to be when we started this
06:42Why do you think you chose her body to focus on it was my honest truth. I didn't want to lie
06:48You're never gonna want to rip my clothes off. Are you?
06:52With Mel's help. We're gonna start focusing in on both of your best for the wedding through the honeymoon everything
06:58Supportive thanks, hon. Emma and Casper made progress during experts week. There's a fresh start ahead
07:05This is what we need
07:07It followed a difficult first commitment ceremony
07:11I don't understand how the process got me to Emma and it's really frustrating because this is my life if I can with
07:18My husband
07:22Attractive and I said if he found me sexy at all and he just said no
07:29I mean last one knew there was some stuff to unpack and you it wasn't gonna be pretty for me personally
07:34you know, I had a lot of things to own and a lot of things that I had to accept that I
07:38Done so that was always gonna be really hard for me. However
07:43We've had a good week
07:45Casper and I have made some real progress since the first commitment ceremony. I think the advice that Mel gave us really helped
07:54Casper's really trying and we've really started like a really good path
07:58However, I've lost a lot of respect for him since the comment that was made on the honeymoon
08:03The patterns that I've seen with Casper are quite erratic
08:06But he's had days where he's woken up in the morning and felt really positive, but it could turn at any minute
08:12Certainly on the wedding day. I was a lot more open to
08:16Intimacy on any level but lots has happened and now I've just built a guard up
08:28I've had chance to think about what happened last night
08:32Eve's clearly gone behind my back spoken a lot about our relationship to other people and then
08:38After the dinner party last night, I was conducting an interview the environment where you go in to talk about our feelings
08:46Okay, Charlie, you ready?
08:49I've taken accountability for my actions and I'm doing all I can to prove to Eve that I'm not this monster that she thinks that I am
08:56Whilst doing the interview we opened the door and Eve had her ear to the door
09:01I
09:11Can we stop I don't want to do this now it's annoyed me
09:17Our interviews are there as a safe space for us to talk about our feelings and for her to stand outside the door and
09:24Listen to my private conversation. I feel is a complete
09:28Breakdown of trust
09:32So I was standing I say the door and
09:35Two members of staff came over and they're like, what are you doing? And then the door opened?
09:39I didn't hear a sentence or a complete answer or anything like that there
09:44I'm not saying I'm perfect. I know I'm not but I'm scared of saying something and then Charlie twisting it
09:52Every single thing in my body is screaming get right, but I just don't know
09:59My head is all over the place
10:03I still in my heart of heart want to give this a chance
10:06But do I write stay because I want to give this a go or do I write leave to put my own sanity first?
10:15I'm so conflicted right now. I'm just not really sure what I'm gonna do
10:28You
10:46No
10:48Marshall
10:51Welcome guys to the second commitment ceremony
10:55We understand that some of you will have made progress in your marriages and be feeling positive today and
11:02Some of you may have experienced a few challenges. Just remember that we are here to help and provide support
11:11Okay, let's get cracking first up on the couch
11:19Kieran and Christina
11:25What a happy entrance
11:27How's the week been for the two of you?
11:30Needed some of the questions that you said and one needed you're referring to the ask me anything task. Yeah
11:37Why was that so needed?
11:39With Christina being quite an emotional girl. It's quite hard for me sometimes device how I'm feeling
11:46But it's been amazing. Yeah. Yeah, we've really really grown together from that
11:51It was so nice to just see Kieran just so vulnerable and honest as
11:58Much as he likes to say that he is, okay
12:02Actually, he is saying no, you know, I'm not. All right
12:06Kieran why do you think you've always said I'm okay when you're not because I know everyone's going through something and they don't need like
12:13My worries on them you matter to no, I know but I got I'm just I just care and I don't want to cause problems
12:19for people
12:21Listen to your woman because she's absolutely right what you've got to say and what you're feeling is valid. Yeah
12:30Sounds like you're someone who's very comfortable perhaps putting someone else's needs before your own
12:36But now you're in this equal relationship both of your needs and emotions are just as important as each other's
12:42I'm learning
12:44What do you think you need to focus on in the next week or so to really move things forward?
12:49You really need to stop the self-doubt
12:51Sorry
12:53This is what we need to stop. I keep telling like this Paul Christina. What I've noticed is the I'm not good at this
13:00My brain doesn't work this way
13:02I'm sorry
13:04Why do you think we need to stop that?
13:06It's annoying for you in there. It's it's not that it's annoying
13:09I just really feel bad that you feel the need to apologize over things that are irrelevant
13:14And you know what? I just want to acknowledge this for you Christina
13:17I know a lot of us were all bombarding you with messages saying don't put yourself down. I get that that's hard
13:22It's really hard. You've got a lifetime of patterns and habits that have you know, been very natural to you
13:28Yeah, so maybe this week when you start to notice yourself doing that. Mm-hmm. Let Keira know
13:35So I'm here for
13:38Now, of course at the dinner party the biggest news was Kieran you sharing that you're falling for Christina
13:53Yes, I can't see myself falling for Christina, yeah Wow, I can't totally
14:02Makes me feel funny
14:08I
14:10Think we're gonna go to the decision you two and Kieran will start with you
14:17So I love everything about you and I can't wait and see where this leads because so far it's beautiful
14:24So for that reason I will stay
14:26Wonderful, let me see
14:31And Christina always appreciate you even when I am bit of a nightmare which I know I am
14:39you're so supportive and you do reassure me well and
14:44Accept me. That's everything. I have always always wanted is to just be accepted for me
14:52I accept you
14:55So for that reason I am staying
15:04Wonderful
15:06Wonderful, well lots of optimism
15:10self-love
15:11reaffirming each other
15:12Step into this week and enjoy it guys. Thank you so much. Good work
15:24Next up to the couch Polly and Adam
15:31Good to see you two of you again you
15:37So we know that it was quite explosive at the dinner party between the two of you
15:45But before we get to that, let's look at the intimacy task
15:50Why do you think it was that you were set that task I
15:56Know this because it's what I've asked for the physical touch the affection
16:05Well, I feel like it was a step in the right direction
16:08But we had a little bit of a tiff last night, which put me back a bit
16:12Hmm
16:14Polly you were quite upset weren't you about Adams response to the honesty box?
16:23The question was what can you do to prevent yourself from staying in that friend zone?
16:28If you were to answer this question now for Polly, what would your answer be? I
16:34I
16:37Felt like to prevent us from staying in the friend zone, I thought we need to flirt a bit more
16:44When just grow that's I feel like I do I get nothing back from you
16:54Don't know I don't know if it's just that
16:56Initial like spark and I don't like look into Polly's eyes and think I really want to kiss you
17:04I
17:05Which is shit to say
17:09Obviously, I don't want to upset you up but that's just me being honest. I
17:15Would like to know Polly how it feels for you to hear Adam say this
17:27Just rejected
17:30There's nothing on you, it's me. Well, you just rejected her
17:35So she's gonna feel rejected
17:39But that's it in my opinion, let's just call it what it is
17:46Polly you're physically attracted to your husband Adam
17:54You're not physically attracted to your wife
17:56I
17:58And you haven't been
18:01I'm not saying it wrong
18:05What is physical attraction mean to you
18:09Confused by the question
18:13Do you want to shag her
18:26Yeah, I would but I just don't want to hurt us so I'm not gonna do it again until I know it's right
18:31Because that wouldn't let me using up
18:40There's a lot of words there to describe it
18:44You don't want to hurt you
18:46You don't want to hurt you
18:49You don't want to hurt you
18:51You don't want to hurt you
18:53There's a lot of words there.
18:56We just want the basics here.
18:59It's quite a simple question.
19:02I feel like you're avoiding the question.
19:04Yeah.
19:05♪♪♪♪♪
19:09Adam?
19:10Yeah?
19:11Is there at least a minimal level
19:16of physical attraction towards your wife?
19:21A hundred percent.
19:22A hundred percent?
19:23A hundred percent is a little bit, yeah.
19:27I do feel like the last few days,
19:29like, I have looked at her more,
19:30and I thought, you know what?
19:32She's actually good-looking.
19:34Oh, my God.
19:37No, no, no, no.
19:38Better, more good-looking.
19:39That was terrible.
19:41I told you I'm not good with my words.
19:43I don't like pressure.
19:44There's not many, like,
19:47I told you I'm not good with my words.
19:48I don't like pressure.
19:49There's not many occasions
19:50where I'm speechless and male at the same time.
19:55Adam, hypothetical.
19:58Another groom comes in the door and says,
20:00Adam, I love everything about Polly.
20:03I'd like to pursue her,
20:05and I just want your permission.
20:07What would you say?
20:09♪♪♪♪♪♪
20:12I feel like right now,
20:14if that's what Polly wanted,
20:17then I would say go for it
20:20because I want her to be happy.
20:22♪♪♪♪♪♪
20:25Because I feel like it's too soon
20:27for me to give her what she needs.
20:30Well, you've essentially just communicated to Polly
20:33that you would give her permission
20:35to go with another guy.
20:37If that's what she wanted, obviously...
20:39Does she look like that's what she wants?
20:41Obviously, but that was just me being honest.
20:43If you said you want this, I'd be like, that is fine,
20:45but I feel like it's still too...
20:47That was asking you. They weren't asking me how I feel.
20:49Well, that's me thinking of your feelings before mine again.
20:52This is in the hot seat, boys.
20:57Polly, can I ask,
20:58has that changed how you feel toward him at all?
21:01Well, yeah, of course, because he's just willing to shit me off
21:04like it's the 1950s and trade wives.
21:06Obviously, I don't want him to let me go.
21:08I don't want him to say that he's open
21:10to letting me explore with someone else.
21:12But, no, that's not like someone saying to me,
21:14do you want to send Polly... It wasn't your question.
21:16It was my question.
21:19It made me feel shit. Yeah.
21:21So I feel like...
21:24Yeah, maybe not as safe as what I thought I felt...
21:28..if he's just willing to do that.
21:30You know, what we're trying to do is we're trying to verify
21:34if there's something here,
21:36because otherwise we're wasting our time,
21:38and you're wasting your time,
21:40and Polly's having her time wasted.
21:46Let's go to decisions.
21:50Polly, if we could start with you, please.
21:56We obviously still have stuff to talk about,
21:59and it's things that were spoken about and voiced last night
22:02have been kind of resolved.
22:05However, I'm not naive to the fact
22:08that there is a lot of work to be done, but not from me.
22:12So I've put stay...
22:17..just to see if it can work.
22:23Thank you, Polly. And, Adam, what's your decision?
22:32My decision...
22:35..is I feel like there's still that little bit of something missing.
22:39We are lacking that intimacy and that spark.
22:47I want this experiment to work.
22:49I feel like I've got lots of doubts,
22:52especially after the argument last night, but...
22:56..I feel like we get on really well.
22:58I would like to think that physical attraction can grow.
23:04So, for that reason...
23:09..I put stay.
23:18What we have identified today is that, for you, Adam,
23:22that there is some level of physical attraction here,
23:25but I suppose it's whether it's enough for you, Polly.
23:29You know, you want to feel desired and loved, and you deserve that.
23:33I don't know whether the two of you can experience that or not.
23:37Only the two of you know that. OK?
23:40All right, guys, thank you. Thank you.
23:43Thank you. Thank you, Adam.
23:45Cheers.
23:49I respect the experts' opinions, but I got a little bit of a grill
23:53and not a nice feeling, to be fair.
23:59As soon as I said that I've realised Polly's good-looking,
24:02I said it completely wrong and it did make me feel a little bit stupid.
24:06Next up on the couch, can we have Nathan and Lacey?
24:10Come on.
24:13Hello. Hello.
24:16There we go. Look at that. Just settled in.
24:18All right. So, it's beautiful to see you both. How was the week?
24:21Obviously, Lacey and I haven't been really well,
24:23but, yeah, it was a good week.
24:25It's nice to see how Nathan's acted with me being ill.
24:28I couldn't have done it without you looking after me,
24:31so I do appreciate that.
24:33Nathan, how did you find that,
24:35navigating the dinner party by yourself?
24:37Yeah, it was all right, but obviously the energy's not the same.
24:40He wanted to stay with me, if I'm honest.
24:42Yeah, I mean, you wouldn't usually go, would you,
24:44if your partner's ill and you're both meant to go?
24:46But I'm proud of you. You held your own.
24:48All right, so now your task this week was the Ask Me Anything.
24:52How did you find that task?
24:54My favourite question was that he does see a future.
24:58It was nice to hear it, cos I felt the same.
25:01This is a huge moment for you, then.
25:06What about Lacey makes you see a future with her?
25:10What do you like about Lacey?
25:12Yeah, I like her personality, I like her character.
25:14It's very similar to mine.
25:16Like, it's a little bit weird, like, at times,
25:18and we've got very similar core values.
25:22And she's beautiful.
25:24Yeah, she's stunning, yeah, she's stunning.
25:26You know, it is nice to hear compliments,
25:28not just about the surface,
25:30because in past relationships,
25:32I feel like I've been seen as a trophy girl.
25:34She's got a nice bum, she's got a nice body,
25:37which I know I do, but I want deeper.
25:40But you can call me beautiful.
25:45I've been in relationships where they brought out the worst in me.
25:50And it's made me not value myself,
25:53because, you know, they've done things.
25:56Yeah, I feel content, I feel so sure.
26:01OK, that says it all, that says it all.
26:03All right, shall we go to the decision?
26:06Let's go to the decision. OK.
26:08You look ready!
26:10Why don't you go first, then, since you look so ready?
26:13Let's do it, then, yeah.
26:17So, I'm really enjoying the time.
26:19I'm learning a lot about myself and I'm learning a lot about Lacey.
26:22It's going really well and I'd like it to continue,
26:24so that's why I've put stay, OK?
26:27Well done.
26:32We just keep getting stronger and stronger,
26:35and you're everything I've always wanted,
26:38so I've put stay.
26:41Yay! Beautiful.
26:46Continue to communicate, but most importantly,
26:48continue to communicate your love for each other through your actions.
26:53And we can't wait to see what next week looks like for you.
26:56Thank you so much. Well done, guys.
26:58Cheers. You're doing really well.
27:04Next up to the couch, Holly and Alex.
27:12Hello, beautiful people. Hello. Hello.
27:18So, the two of you are back together in the apartment,
27:21is that right? We're back home. OK.
27:25That first dinner party was quite explosive.
27:28What we noticed was there was a bit of point scoring
27:31between the two of you.
27:32Have you been able to address some of those issues?
27:36Definitely.
27:37So, because we're such big personalities, you know,
27:40we find that in a room full of people,
27:42we both speak with volume because we want to get our voices over.
27:46When you're in front of the group, it's like,
27:48I don't want to look silly, you don't want to look silly.
27:50Just a protective streak. And then we get nowhere. OK.
27:54There was some work that you did with Paul around communication.
27:58Have you been able to implement that?
28:05I just sold yesterday's dinner party.
28:08We had had an argument the night before
28:12and we did end up having to spend the night apart again.
28:16We was rushing in that moment.
28:18Going back to being a mum again, when you're rushing out the house
28:21and you're in, like, shoes, coat, drawer, fridge,
28:23but I didn't say it in an aggressive way,
28:25but Alex didn't like it and was like,
28:27don't speak to me like a dog.
28:30You're probably used to speaking to your kids like that,
28:33but I am not one of them.
28:37That's why I apologised to you, like, pretty much straight away.
28:41You're apologising, but I don't want an apology,
28:43I just want the behaviour to change.
28:47But we've spoke about this,
28:49obviously we've already resolved this issue,
28:51because when we sit and talk behind closed doors,
28:54we come to a resolution.
28:57It's just about taking it down a peg
28:59and thinking it's only us in here,
29:01let's just communicate, just me and you now.
29:04Yeah.
29:06This man worked his magic. Yeah.
29:08Well, it looks like something has shifted in your relationship
29:12One thing that I noticed was that
29:14there were some really nice tender moments
29:17between the two of you at the dinner party
29:19as you were looking through the honesty box.
29:22I felt like it was only me and Alex in the room
29:25when we were answering them.
29:27He held my hand, he reassured me, like,
29:30it's OK, like, I've got you,
29:32and I felt so safe in that moment
29:34to tell him exactly how I felt.
29:38We actually have a really good relationship,
29:40however, sometimes it's hard for you to just acknowledge
29:44how your wife is feeling about the situation,
29:48just validate how she's feeling and accept it
29:52and try and find a way to work on where you've gone wrong.
29:57Yeah, definitely.
29:58It's great that you've listened to the feedback
30:00that Paul has given you and that you're still both smiling.
30:03Yeah. That's a good sign.
30:05Let's go to the decisions.
30:07Holly, if you'd like to start.
30:11So, he does grape my bloody tits sometimes,
30:15but we do have fun and he does give me the reassurance
30:20that I've needed for a very long time.
30:22So, for that reason, I'm going to stay cos we slay.
30:27I love it. I love it.
30:30Alex, what's your decision?
30:33So, I see a lot of good in Holly.
30:36I feel like she can bring the best out of me.
30:38I feel like I do bring the best out of her.
30:40It's just we're all a work in progress.
30:43Maybe I acted a little bit impulsive last week.
30:46So, I'm going to stay with my sexy milf.
30:49CHEERING
30:51Gorgeous.
30:53Stay.
30:56Gorgeous.
30:58Stay.
30:59Even though she does my head in sometimes.
31:02Yeah.
31:04I am so happy that you guys are in a good place.
31:07You've got a great connection here.
31:09So, wish you all the best for the rest of the week.
31:11Thanks, guys. Well done, guys.
31:19Our next couple up to the couch, Emma and Kasper.
31:23CHEERING
31:25Well, hello again. Hello.
31:28Of course, we've met during the week
31:30and the two of you have obviously made some progress.
31:33So, why don't you talk us through a little bit how things have shifted?
31:37Yeah, I mean, I felt last week a lot of the work we needed to do
31:41in our relationship had to come from me.
31:43And I've just realised I've got to give it my best shot.
31:46You know, I did decide to move out.
31:49I just hate that bit of space
31:51and I feel like I left a lot of that that evening there
31:55and I woke up the next morning and I went,
31:57right, time to crack on and see where we can get to.
32:00And I think, you know, we've gone about it in a pretty strong way so far.
32:05Emma, what about you? What have you learnt from Kasper this week?
32:08I just learnt that you really want to be a gentleman.
32:12I've seen that with me, as, like, he gets happier,
32:15he wants to care for me a bit more.
32:18Yeah, that's the good parts.
32:22My concerns were...
32:26..kind of, how long is this going to last?
32:28Because I've seen that positive for Kasper before.
32:31Maybe for a couple of hours on honeymoon
32:33and then something would go and he'd go back into the hole.
32:38I just...
32:42I feel like I've got a guard up now, though.
32:45My body's just kind of shut down to any emotion.
32:49There is so much love around
32:51and I just don't feel that with Kasper.
32:57There have been times over this week where I've thought,
33:00oh, it'd be just nice to have a quick kiss.
33:03And I've pulled back from that because I was like,
33:05I don't want to hurt her but I also don't know where she's at.
33:09Let's just pause there for a moment.
33:12Let's just check that out.
33:15Emma, what would happen
33:17if he was to just grab you and give you a kiss?
33:25No, I wouldn't want it.
33:41In my head, I'm like, don't do that.
33:44So what do you think it's going to take for those walls to drop?
33:48I don't know, Mel. I don't know.
33:53I've never not had a spark, right?
33:55And I've never, ever worked backwards from that before.
33:59But I think it's going to take a bit of time.
34:02I think it's going to take a bit of time.
34:05I think it's going to take a bit of time.
34:07I think it's going to take a bit of time.
34:09I've never worked backwards from that before.
34:11But I don't know how to get there
34:13and I don't know what Casper can do to get there.
34:16Emma, it's interesting because last night,
34:18during the honesty box, you were saying
34:20sex is really important to you.
34:22Yeah, yeah.
34:23But right now what's important is the emotional intimacy.
34:27Let's call out the elephant in the room as well.
34:30You're not living together. Yeah.
34:34You know, right now you are in this experiment as mates.
34:38As mates at first sight.
34:41To move to this next stage of the relationship,
34:44whatever that's going to look like,
34:46you've got to share space.
34:50Yes.
34:51This forum is important for the three of us
34:55to hold you all accountable.
34:57But it's also a forum, I think, for us to celebrate.
35:00Emma, you've been patient,
35:02the perfect supporter throughout this.
35:05Casper, I have never seen anyone make the same turnaround
35:10that you have made this week.
35:12I mean, my only point was,
35:13I wish this week had been a little bit longer.
35:15Cos, you know, we've had a couple of good days,
35:17but then, you know, it's sort of come around quickly, this.
35:22We do need to go to a decision.
35:24Casper, why don't we start with you?
35:28For me, it was a really easy decision.
35:30We've had the best week so far. I can see progress.
35:33And I think we're really coming along, so, yeah, I wrote...
35:36..State.
35:37CHEERING
35:39Good stuff.
35:41Good stuff.
35:42And Emma.
35:46For me, I'm struggling with intimacy on any level.
35:50I can't see it happening, and it scares the life out of me.
35:53How long is this going to last?
35:56But it's been so lovely to see you.
36:00What I think is your happy place.
36:03And I always see the glass half full, so I wrote State.
36:08Wonderful.
36:09CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
36:11Wonderful stuff.
36:12So, when are you going to move in together?
36:15Tonight, tomorrow. I don't mind.
36:17Tonight's great. Yeah. Tonight's great.
36:19Yeah!
36:21Well, we look forward to meeting you.
36:23Well, we look forward to being welcomed into your new home.
36:26Thank you so much. Thank you, guys.
36:29Thanks, guys.
36:32I'm quite on edge about the whole physical affection thing.
36:35If we get there, then we'll get there.
36:37If we don't, we don't. But we'll see.
36:40Next up to the couch, Sasha and Ross.
36:47Good to see you both. Hello.
36:49Hey.
36:50Hello.
36:51Hello.
36:53Looking cosy together.
36:57How has it been for the both of you?
36:59We've had a really good week, haven't we?
37:02Top.
37:06How was the dinner party yesterday?
37:08It was good, actually. How are you?
37:10We noticed that there was some kissing.
37:12Oh, was there?
37:13If you don't watch it, I'll be like...
37:18Maybe it was just so natural. Yeah, I think so.
37:21Would you say that that indicates
37:23that you're feeling more comfortable with one another?
37:25I think we're very comfortable.
37:27I couldn't even imagine not sleeping next to him.
37:29It would be really weird.
37:31I even missed her shoot the part for 20 minutes or something.
37:34I even missed her.
37:35So I can't be apart with her. Yeah.
37:38Being with him, he's, like, peaceful and comforting,
37:41and he's, like, my safe space when we've had a crazy day.
37:45It's just different.
37:48It's beautiful. I love them.
37:50So we assigned you the intimacy task this week.
37:53How did that go?
37:55We didn't really struggle with it at all
37:57because we are very physically affectionate.
38:00We are very intimate in terms of, like,
38:02we've got a very deep connection.
38:04When that time comes, I don't think it will be an issue.
38:07It will just be something that we think is right.
38:13Yeah.
38:17Let's go to the decisions, guys.
38:19So if we start with you, Sasha.
38:22I've had a great week with you.
38:27We really, really, really care about each other.
38:32So I said stay always.
38:36Aw! Stay always.
38:41Lovely. OK, Ross, can you top that?
38:44Sasha!
38:46When I first stepped my eyes on you at the hotel,
38:49I thought you were going to be the one.
38:51Aw!
38:52Every time I wake up in the morning, I'm a happy man.
38:55Aw!
38:57Aw!
38:58I should stay.
39:00Aw! Thank you.
39:05Well, guys, it sounds like your relationship
39:07is going from strength to strength, so keep going.
39:11Thank you! Well done. Thank you.
39:13Well done. Thank you.
39:18I'm sweating a tit down, man.
39:21What is it that you make so dry?
39:23I know. It doesn't pop.
39:25Next up, can we have Orson and Rochelle?
39:33Welcome, welcome, guys.
39:35Hello.
39:36All right. Hello.
39:37Look at this. Body language, good.
39:39You're looking good.
39:41Last night, dinner party was good?
39:43Yep. This is good.
39:46We like this.
39:47So now, last week on The Couch, Rochelle,
39:49you mentioned how you were having a hard time trusting
39:52in what Orson was saying, right?
39:54Yes.
39:55Has that changed?
39:59We joke about, you know, we're in the verification process.
40:02Yes, yeah.
40:03Which should apply to Orson as well.
40:05He needs to verify me. It's not just one way.
40:08You know what's interesting is, I think for everyone,
40:10I see everyone is negotiating trust.
40:12Trust takes a long time to build,
40:14and we know it's overnight to lose,
40:16but it takes time to be able to build that trust.
40:20Yeah.
40:21Can I just ask a question, guys?
40:23Would you say you've experienced any kind of conflict
40:25in your relationship?
40:28The funny thing is, not cutting you off, babe,
40:30like, she said to me this week,
40:32I cannot wait to piss you off...
40:37..just to see how you're going to react.
40:39Because I'm kind of cool, calm.
40:41I don't really get, you know what I mean?
40:43So, for me, her saying that was like, OK,
40:45she wants to see another side of me.
40:47Well, I'd like to see another side of you as well.
40:51What I'm seeing is, you are very much a gentleman.
40:55Sometimes it feels like you're quite compliant.
40:57Is there space in this relationship to say,
40:59actually, that got on my nerves when you did that?
41:02I think if I feel that way, I'd hear it, you know?
41:04I have heard things that we speak about.
41:07But I'd prize that out of you, though.
41:12You know, I will vocalise certain things,
41:15and, like, everything, you just, you know, can't really...
41:19don't really get much of a reaction, really, so...
41:23This could be potentially dangerous in a relationship.
41:28A great way to help trust to build
41:31is to feel that what your partner's saying is very genuine.
41:35If you're just compliant and everything is fine
41:38and nothing's really bothering you,
41:40that creates a space where a partner can feel like,
41:43can I trust this situation?
41:45Mm-hm.
41:48Yeah. Yeah, I agree.
41:52All right, so now, when you think about your future together,
41:57what are some of the areas that you believe
42:00we can help you with as we go forward?
42:03I don't know.
42:04I mean, because I don't know how you can help us
42:07get to know each other better, deeper.
42:10Charlene can.
42:14LAUGHTER
42:15Hi, Charlene!
42:17We don't need you!
42:19We don't need you, Charlene!
42:21I feel like I'm not needed in this space.
42:24You don't need to knock on the door with your rucksack.
42:27LAUGHTER
42:29OK. OK, fine. Fine, fine.
42:34Let's go to a decision. Orson, if you can go first.
42:37I'm enjoying getting to know Rochelle.
42:39She is a phenomenal woman.
42:42I think us living together now is, you know,
42:45the be-all and end-all, really.
42:47Like, can we actually live together?
42:49Week one, I was tying her shoestrings.
42:51Week two, I was taking off her shoes.
42:53So I'm excited to see what week three is going to bring.
42:56So, in that note, I've decided to stay.
42:59APPLAUSE
43:02Nice.
43:04Nice. Rochelle?
43:06So, yeah, I think I'm more used to sort of relationships
43:10that might be a little bit rocky, a little bit up and down.
43:13You know, it's just...
43:15I don't get that from you.
43:17I don't actually have any complaints,
43:19other than he maybe talks a little bit more than I would like.
43:22LAUGHTER
43:24So, for that reason...
43:27..I'll stay.
43:29APPLAUSE
43:33Charlene said some amazing things to you here,
43:35Morrison, that you could focus on this week.
43:37And also, make sure that you both focus on building that trust.
43:41Yeah. Thank you.
43:43Thank you. Thank you, guys.
43:45APPLAUSE
43:52Yeah, yeah, yeah, well done.
43:54And last up on the couch, if we could have Eve and Charlie.
43:59APPLAUSE
44:03Hello. Hello. Hello.
44:06OK, thank you, both.
44:08Definitely understand this is challenging for you both.
44:12Here's where I'd love to begin.
44:14We assigned you a letter to write.
44:18And I'm curious about this,
44:20is, Eve, you chose not to write the letter.
44:25I'd just like to understand why.
44:28I was trying my best,
44:30I was trying my best to talk myself into writing something,
44:34but I wanted to be genuine.
44:36I just had my walls up so high at the minute that I thought,
44:39if I was in order to do that or tell her what I was going to tell her,
44:43and she was to throw that back in my face,
44:45that would have absolutely destroyed me.
44:48So now, Charlie, the fact that Eve did not write a letter,
44:53but you did, how did you feel about that?
44:56Rejected. I felt crap.
44:58I felt like she wasn't committed to the experiment.
45:01And with her just refusing to do the task,
45:04we're just staying in the same place again.
45:07OK. So we're going to go to the dinner party.
45:11So you came into this dinner party together,
45:14but then, very quickly, things fell apart.
45:18So, Charlie, can you talk about the conversation that you had with Polly?
45:22Because I think that illuminates a lot about your relationship.
45:25So, Polly approached me in regards to what had happened on the honeymoon,
45:30some of the things that I'd obviously said to Eve previously,
45:34and that I was a bully.
45:41Which was a strong word.
45:44I was just a bit shocked, cos I thought we had come in as a united front,
45:48I thought we were on a good path.
45:50I didn't realise that these things were still going on in her head
45:53to the point that she was going to the other girls.
45:55And I just feel like I have done all I can to hold myself accountable
45:59for them things that I've done,
46:01but it seems that it was still going on behind my back.
46:05Right. So, Eve, every time that you've engaged with the group,
46:08what I've noticed is that having the group's validation
46:11is very, very important to you.
46:13More so than your partner's validation.
46:16I think, you know, mentally, we're both really struggling.
46:20I just feel like I can't open up to them girls,
46:22and then when I sit down with them, it all comes out of me.
46:25I don't know.
46:26Eve, here's my observation.
46:28You are not giving this experiment any bit of fairness at all now.
46:33I have been trying. I have really been trying.
46:36But, you know, trying is more than words.
46:39I know. Trying is action.
46:41Where is the action of the try?
46:44Every time I, like, try to let my waltz down a bit with Charlie,
46:48she would throw it back in my face,
46:50or she would just do something that just hurt me more.
46:53You need to, like, try. Just give it a go.
46:56You can't just keep putting that guard up and going,
46:59I can't do this.
47:00We've had multiple conversations about squashing what happened.
47:03I held myself accountable.
47:04I kind of got to a point where there's not really much more I can do,
47:08and I can't keep being told that I miss you, you know,
47:12I want to spend quality time with you, and then it not happening.
47:15We had a big fight the second day of the honeymoon,
47:17and we haven't kissed because of what happened.
47:19This is... OK. Which is just...
47:22Charlie, you know what happened that night?
47:24I know, but I said I'm sorry. And a lot hasn't been said.
47:27I held myself accountable. I said I'm sorry.
47:29Like, you can't keep saying, squash it, and then going back...
47:32What did you do last night? What did you do last night?
47:34Because... What did you do last night?
47:37You went... One second.
47:39You went into my safe space,
47:41you put your ear against the door in my interview,
47:44that you should not have done.
47:45You took that upon yourself to do that,
47:47to listen in to my interview after the dinner party
47:50and got your back up because of an action that you took.
47:53What did I say? What did I say?
47:54You sat in that room and glared at me
47:56like I'd done the worst thing in the world.
47:58That's not true. That's not true.
48:00When you were the one that came to the door,
48:02you literally listened in to my safe space, my interview.
48:05You took that upon yourself to do that. That's not true.
48:08Oh, my God, I'm lying again. Someone, please.
48:12Why is it always my fault?
48:14Take some accountability for the mistakes and the issues you've made.
48:17Stop telling lies, Charlie. Stop telling lies.
48:19They've just called me a liar again.
48:21We're going to get to the bottom of this.
48:23We're going to get to the bottom of this.
48:25I can't do it. I can't. Just breathe. I can't.
48:29You've just called me a liar on camera again
48:31for something that you actually have done.
48:34You've got your reality and I've got mine.
48:36That is not true, Charlie. That is not true. That is not true.
48:40I can't do this. I can't.
48:42Charlie, it's OK.
48:44Eve, with respect, you've lied on the couch today.
49:02You've just called me a liar on camera again
49:04for something that you actually have done, Eve.
49:07You've got your reality and I've got mine.
49:09That is not true, Charlie. That is not true. That is not true.
49:12I can't do this. I can't.
49:14Charlie, it's OK.
49:16Eve, with respect, you've lied on the couch today.
49:23So we are aware of what's going on here, Charlie.
49:29And the three of us are all here to listen to both of you, OK?
49:34Can I ask you both a question?
49:37Why have you both chosen to continue the experiment in this last week?
49:44I like Eve.
49:46I fell for Eve.
49:49I fell for her at the wedding and I still see so much good.
49:55But I keep getting empty promises.
49:59I'm going to move in, I'm going to do this, I'm going to do that,
50:02so I'm holding on to it because I want it so bad.
50:04It's the hope. It's the hope.
50:09I have said to myself,
50:10maybe I'm not giving her as much of a chance as I should be,
50:13and I'm finding it really difficult to do that.
50:15I'm struggling to be able to.
50:18But this is what I can't get past.
50:22I'm not joking, alarm bells go off in my head
50:25and I'm sorry if I'm pushing her away, but I am, I am, I am trying.
50:32What is a shame here is that amongst all of the infighting,
50:35there's a desire to be together.
50:41Charlie, you have stepped up this week,
50:44and Eve, what I can't understand
50:47is you have someone who makes corrective action,
50:50owns their crap...
50:52..and you choose not to feel safe with this person
50:57who's walking through fire for you.
50:59I know, I don't. You're right.
51:01Why? I don't trust her.
51:03Why?
51:05I'm just telling you the truth.
51:09The thing is, you don't trust her,
51:12but you are saying some different things to the group,
51:15but you're kind of then saying to Charlie,
51:17I miss you, I do want to work on this.
51:19So I suppose my question to you is, which one is it?
51:25Have I ever said that I hate this girl?
51:27Do you think I want to be with her? I do.
51:29I don't sit and say she's horrible.
51:31I say she makes me feel and think she's actually done.
51:34I'm not saying I hate her, I don't want to be around her.
51:37It's not that. They know I'm really struggling.
51:39You have said, though, a few times, Eve,
51:41that you do want to try with Charlie,
51:43but by trying you have to move in with her to try.
51:45I know, I know.
51:47And you do say all the time, I do want to try with her.
51:50I haven't changed my mind on that, but, you know,
51:52things happen then and we don't know where we stand with each other.
51:55Do you know exactly where you stand with me, Eve?
51:59I have done everything in my power to try...
52:01It's just really hard.
52:03..in the time that I get to try and show you you can trust me,
52:06that I'm not this monster that you think that I am.
52:09Just give me a chance.
52:11Now, Eve can be annoyed at me and upset with me and not trust me
52:15and take a step back, but if I need the space
52:18or if I need to be upset or vent how I'm feeling to Eve,
52:21I'm not allowed to. I always let you leave.
52:23I always let you do everything. Then you get your defence up
52:26and you say that that's me being horrible to you or bullying you.
52:29Just when you're angry, you make me feel bad.
52:31Guys, can I just stop you guys here? Yeah.
52:33Because I don't think either one of you are listening to each other.
52:39There's something that's very toxic about some of these behaviours
52:42and I think that that might be something you need to have a think about.
52:46I agree.
52:49None of us are happy. I'm miserable.
52:52So let's go to the decision.
52:58Eve, we can have your decision first.
53:02I'm sorry. I mean, we got so in my own head about fate,
53:06I'm sorry for what I was going through.
53:08And I'm sorry for everything I've put you through.
53:12Maybe I can't get over the trust thing.
53:16I know it might not take it, but I really am trying.
53:22But...
53:25I've got to go. I'm sorry.
53:28I've got to leave.
53:39All right, Charlie, we'll come to you for your decision.
53:44Yesterday evening, you went into my safe space,
53:46you listened to my interview and break a barrier of trust.
53:54I spent this week giving 100% of my efforts and energy to you.
54:00I'm not going to give my all to somebody that gives me 10%.
54:03I'm not going to give my all to somebody that gives me 10%.
54:10So that's why I voted to leave.
54:15Fucking hell, right?
54:18Oh, wow.
54:20Wow, OK.
54:24OK, well, we know the rules.
54:27When both partners have selected to leave,
54:30then you must now leave the experiment.
54:33And I will say that we thank you for taking the risk
54:37to participate in this journey.
54:40The hope is that you are both walking out of here with some lessons.
54:44Always lessons. I've taken big lessons.
54:46There's always lessons.
54:47There's always lessons that you can take into your next relationship.
54:53Is there anything that you would like to say to the group before you leave?
54:57I know things didn't work out good, but you're so fucking amazing.
55:01But I really love you and you're such great people
55:03and you're a great person too, Charlie, and I hope...
55:05Clearly not.
55:07I just hope somebody makes you very happy.
55:09Yeah, you deserve that. Thank you, guys.
55:11Obviously, I didn't get a chance to even...
55:13For you to even get to know me on a...
55:15Cos, you know, someone else decided to tell you all about me
55:18before you'd even got to know me.
55:20Keep your head up held high, Charlie.
55:22And, yeah, I hope you all do really well
55:24and I wish you all the best of luck in your marriages.
55:31Thank you both for participating and you can say goodbye to the group.
55:38Oh, I'm so offended. Oh, my son.
55:41I did really want to try for Charlie,
55:43but I just couldn't get over putting trust in somebody I don't trust.
55:52It's so conflicting because, yes, it's the right decision,
55:56but it still hurts, like, having to walk away
55:59from someone that you have feelings for.
56:01Like, I have to put myself first and realise that I deserve better.
56:05You've done the best you could. Yeah.
56:07You really did do the best you could.
56:09And there's still time to get to know you individually,
56:11so don't think you're going anywhere. OK?
56:13I'm so sorry.
56:15I am feeling a lot of stuff, feeling overwhelmed,
56:18feeling sad, feeling happy, feeling relieved.
56:21I do feel like a wisp being lifted off my shoulders.
56:24If she's feeling what I'm feeling, I think we both know we had to leave.
56:28We and Charlie are not meant to be together.
56:34I know I'm gone. I'm out of here.
56:42I can't give 100% and my wife...
56:47Oh, my God.
56:49..and Eve treating me like shit.
56:52I just wish so bad that it worked, you know?
56:55I'm leaving a heartbroken woman right now.
57:06Next time... I definitely deserve to find love.
57:09..a brand-new couple enters the process...
57:12Finding true love is everything.
57:14..to take the ultimate gamble on love.
57:17La, la, Madonna.
57:19But the groom's charm offensive...
57:22Hello, baby.
57:24..is less charm and more offensive for his new bride.
57:28It's giving me the ickle a little bit.
57:30And the experiment's original couples...
57:33It's in-laws week!
57:35..face tough questions from nearest and dearest.
57:39Do you love Lacey? What do you see happening?
57:41You don't want no-one else to look at me in the eyes and say,
57:44yes, I want to work with Lacey?
57:46He should be scared, really.
57:48That's awful. You've upset me now.
57:50Knife! Shut up!
57:52I don't think my mum took that too well, to be fair.
57:54Dog house.
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