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Video Information: 25.02.23, Vedant Mahotsav Rishikesh
Context:
Why is religion so obsessed with sex?
Is sex taboo?
What is true religion?
How to control sexual urges?
Why are we constantly attracted to the opposite gender?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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Video Information: 25.02.23, Vedant Mahotsav Rishikesh
Context:
Why is religion so obsessed with sex?
Is sex taboo?
What is true religion?
How to control sexual urges?
Why are we constantly attracted to the opposite gender?
Music Credits: Milind Date
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00:00Sir, why is religion so obsessed with sex?
00:14In the sense that the normal kind of religious people who are socially respectable, all that
00:20they have in their mind regarding religion contains a lot of sexual connotations.
00:26So for example, they'll keep saying that abstain from the other gender and practice celibacy.
00:34Instead of talking about core scriptures, I find them talking of women, don't do this
00:40to women, don't look at women, don't talk to women, don't have relationship with women.
00:47Now I'm not saying that men should have a lot of sexual relationships.
00:51No, that is not what I'm saying.
00:54What I'm saying is that instead of focusing on scriptures and knowledge and the removal
00:59of one's own inner ignorance, why are the social and moral and religious people talking
01:05so much of sex and women?
01:09See what has happened is Rajdeep, social morality in some way has become conflated with religiosity.
01:22If you ask a normal man, he will be unable to tell the difference between social morality
01:27and religiosity.
01:32And what you call as social morality has so much to do with sex, everything to do with
01:39sex.
01:41It is as if sexuality becomes the touchstone of morality.
01:53Not consciousness, not knowledge, not realization, but sexuality.
02:00So it becomes a very probable kind of thing for a religious person to start thinking of
02:12sexuality as very important and then it starts hovering in your mind.
02:22What does true spirituality have to say about sex?
02:28The answer might surprise you.
02:31It has not much to say about sex.
02:35It is popular culture and morality etc that wax eloquent on sex.
02:40Sex, sex, sex.
02:41He is a good man, why?
02:42Because he doesn't have sex.
02:44What kind of definition is this of a good man?
02:47Somebody is a bad man, why?
02:51You know there are some.
02:54What kind of definition is this?
02:57Arjun is talking in a body centric way.
03:05He says the war is not to be fought for the sake of keeping the women chaste.
03:12And women, first of all, the women come in from nowhere.
03:17So just as women circle in your mind, you have someone else who faces the same situation.
03:25Think of Arjun, in the middle of the war, only men are assembled there and animals and
03:32weapons.
03:33Arjun is suddenly thinking of the women.
03:38What will happen to the women?
03:40Obviously it is not that he is thinking of the women, he is thinking of himself with
03:45respect to the women.
03:46If I am not there, what will my women do?
03:50Do you see the orientation?
03:51The orientation is sexual.
03:53And that's what happens to most religious people, their orientation becomes sexual.
03:58A normal man does not think of sex so much.
04:02But a so called religious mind just keeps thinking of sex all the time.
04:09And not his fault, because he has been told that religiosity and sex are very intertwined.
04:15So he is thinking of sex, sex, sex.
04:18And when he is thinking of sex, he has to suppress sex a lot.
04:26Take lesson from this.
04:29Sex has to become something small, something not very important, not a great monster that
04:40you are fighting all the time.
04:46Just as you do not remember what you took for breakfast yesterday.
04:49Sex is something you do not even, you should not even remember.
04:54If it is instead present in the mind all the time, what to do?
05:03So sometimes it happens that, especially while reading scriptures, I think that, so normal
05:10times I am thinking about sex and women and then I think that, okay, let me start studying
05:14scriptures.
05:15In this way, the thoughts about women and sex will go away.
05:18But while studying scripture, I continuously keep a look whether the thoughts about women
05:23and sex have gone away or not.
05:25But by continuously looking at those things, I end up…
05:27No, no, this will not succeed, Rajat.
05:29This is a very, very traditional route you are taking, it's doomed to fail.
05:34See, when we began today, in the afternoon, we said prakriti ensnares you, traps you only
05:47because you do not understand.
05:49Realize it.
05:51You don't know it.
05:52What you do not understand, you fall for.
05:58In some way, the un-understood will torment you.
06:07It will remain a bit of a knot, unresolved.
06:14Because you are body-identified, therefore you remain distant from women, right?
06:20As a man, you have to be separated from women, that's an identity you have accorded yourself,
06:26I am a man, that puts you at a distance from women.
06:30And that which you are distanced from, you will never understand.
06:35To know something, you have to go close to it.
06:39But what does sex mean or a sexual orientation mean?
06:42It means you will be most of the times away from the object of your desire and even if
06:53you go close to it, you will go close only with the purpose of exploitation and consumption.
07:00You will never go close with a view to understand.
07:07So common morality means that men will never understand women and women will never understand
07:12men because common morality keeps men away from women and women away from men, right?
07:18In common morality, if you find men and women mingling too much, you say, oh loose character,
07:22cheap fellow, all the time he is hanging around with women.
07:26Are you getting this?
07:29The problem, do you understand?
07:32If you are so separated from women, how will you ever understand women?
07:37And we said that in Prakriti, which you do not understand, you will never be liberated from.
07:47Because I had said that you are attracted to so many women because you have never understood
07:52even one woman.
07:54If you can understand even one woman, you will be liberated from all women.
08:01The un-understood remains unresolved.
08:06The further you keep yourself from something, the more that thing remains an attractive
08:13enigma to you.
08:17Have you not heard men saying this way?
08:19Nobody can understand the mind of a woman.
08:22How can you ever understand her?
08:24You never really went close to her.
08:26Whenever you went close, your only purpose was sex.
08:29Otherwise you never tried to enter her mind because you never tried to enter your own
08:33mind either.
08:35You understand neither yourself nor the woman.
08:38So you feel a very animalistic compulsion towards her and nothing more.
08:47Just as you want to know of everything in the universe, you must also know women.
08:56And women must also know men.
08:59And that cannot happen if your mediocre kind of morality keeps you at a distance from the
09:07other gender.
09:09If you cannot sit across the table and talk to the other as a person, as a being of consciousness,
09:15how will you ever understand the other person?
09:20But our sex-laden society amplifies the sexual component in the personality so much that
09:30when someone from the other gender comes to you, all you see is a huge genital.
09:37You do not realize that sex is only a small part of the entire personality.
09:42Why can't you talk politics?
09:44Why can't you talk sociology?
09:45Why can't you talk economics or science or spirituality or sports or whatever?
09:50We live in a distorted culture.
09:56It does not allow us to remain at ease with the other gender.
10:01Sahaj.
10:02Sahaj.
10:03That's a word that you do not have when it comes to women.
10:07Neither do women have it when it comes to men.
10:09Don't you experience a certain unease?
10:15Recently there was this news item, a very tragic one.
10:17But look at this.
10:18One fellow was to write his board exams and he was sent to an examination center where
10:25there were 500 girls and he got a heart attack and actually died.
10:33That kind of unease.
10:37Think of it.
10:38He was thinking of women all the time.
10:41And so when he found so many of them around himself, he just couldn't take it.
10:46It's tragic obviously, but look at the lesson.
10:54I mean, you won't believe regarding this only.
11:06So one of my friends actually sent that news to me and said that, look, this is your younger
11:14self.
11:15I mean, I don't know how even my college friends come to know about this problem.
11:32I mean, that day I started thinking that, have I even progressed an inch in spirituality?
11:37I mean, that day, that was a serious day for me when I received that message.
11:47You know, my teacher, he told me, no pretense, no convoluted methods, no mumbo-jumbo, just
12:06being the essential self is sufficient.
12:14Sahaj.
12:17Not excited, not distracted, not attracted, not repulsed.
12:27A person has come in front of me.
12:29I acknowledge the person is from another gender.
12:32That's all.
12:32I acknowledge and I can talk now.
12:35That's fine.
12:36Half the population is women.
12:40How can you avoid them or remain in confusion about them?
12:47At some point in your time, you will enter a relationship.
12:52What will become the quality of your life if you do not understand women?
12:56The relationship will eat you up and unfortunately the other person also.
13:01Have easy relationships with both the genders.
13:13Do not make sex such a big thing.
13:18If sex comes as an output of an easy relationship, it is okay.
13:27If it does not come your entire life, that too is okay.
13:31It is not a big thing.
13:35You know what the big is.
13:36The ease is the big thing.
13:38The sahajita is the big thing.
13:41If it just happens, happens.
13:42If it doesn't happen, don't force it.
13:50I have other questions to ask, but I won't ask because I'm sweating right now.
13:53I need to take this.
13:56I mean, my earphones are sliding off.
13:59So, thank you.
14:01I will re-watch this part again and again, two, three times.
14:05So, thank you so much.