Married at First Sight UK S9 Episode 24
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00:00We're actually at a spa previously shake them booties girls the couple's days out
00:14Lace go on turned up the heat amongst the group. Do you care about Holly? I'm not talking about this shit
00:21No much pissing me off
00:22Alex is already ruining my spa day game on. I'm ready free and challenging questions
00:28Amongst all the couples is lying about their feelings
00:32Agree that I'm gonna say you shattered any hope of a truce your husband. He's not physically attracted to you
00:39To have to beg a man for the bare minimum
00:42It's a pipe down. Hey, come on. Stop it. No, okay, okay
00:46You don't go with the men the same you do the women don't want to hear nothing from your mouth
00:51and
00:52One marriage came to an abrupt end
00:54I'm gonna perform
00:56I'm leaving boys
01:00Tonight
01:04The Sasha Alex feud you're a little pussy sometimes just need to know when to be quiet
01:09Triggers Ross at the mixer. I want you to go to statue and apologize for what you said. I ain't apologizing
01:16Stop bitch little prick and dinner party disagreements. I'm not gonna Sunday for the bullshit
01:21I'm not I'm trying to defend a marriage that I don't even know what going on in it
01:26Spark conflict for some couples
01:31Guide we see intimacy very differently. Well, you want to test out having sex with me?
01:36Jesus Christ, but it's a surprise arrival
01:40That shocks the group
01:57You look nice
01:58Thank you. Apart from the rainbow flip-flops. They need to go which we need to go
02:04They're going in the bed going into it. They definitely are
02:08The couples are over halfway through the experiment. Well, I don't think you've worn this yet and after a tumultuous group day out
02:16Got very personal very quickly. And that's why I didn't appreciate it. It was the least relaxing spa. I've ever been to
02:22Do you like you were grinding on Adam weren't you wasn't grinding baby as freestyle
02:28They are preparing for their fifth dinner party. I'm just not sure what to expect
02:42Catch this t-bar good day
02:45Oh
02:48This week has been exactly what me and Karen needed
02:53It's definitely lifted my spirit
02:56first and last day of a VT value
03:02But
03:03When you do get on so well intimacy is important
03:07Karen has definitely taken a step back. I am
03:11Finding it really difficult because I do just want to break his clothes off and I can't
03:22I'll care for Christina more than what I think she probably realizes
03:26But at the end of the day, I don't want to be intimate with Christina unless I'm there emotionally
03:31Me mine's just a little bit all over the place at the minute
03:34Cheers to a shit cup of tea. I
03:37Just need to try and find the spark again
03:42I
03:49Say it's gonna be a big day. It's just go go go, isn't it? That's non-stop
03:56Absolutely non-stop
03:57Love hate week for me overall has helped me clarify a few things in my head about our relationship
04:04It's not where either us wanted to be. I
04:07Know it's me. That's holding back on the intimacy side
04:11But it's very hard to connect with someone who isn't emotionally available
04:16After a visit from expert Charlene
04:20A conflict over intimacy. How do you feel about feeling more vulnerable around me? I don't think I
04:29Like you enough to be able to do that
04:32Cast out on their future together
04:35There are things I need to learn about how I can build intimacy and take it on board for a future relationship
04:42The man is still wearing a wedding ring on his finger, it's not nice to her
04:51How you feeling I'm um, I'm a bit I don't know I feel like I
05:01Don't know it's just reflective on it's just shame, isn't it?
05:07Casper and I are gonna walk in together
05:10But we're probably the most apart we've ever been
05:14We haven't really done the experts homework
05:16You know, I haven't really had any sign that he's sort of willing to give the intimacy a try
05:25But I hope that we can just put a line under the sand and I really want us to go in and have a nice
05:30time I
05:32I
05:39Think the whole Alex situation got out of order, you know, I mean the way spoke to you
05:44to say that I'm begging you for bare minimum and
05:48The fact that you're still not attracted to me how he said it made it sound like you'd been saying it to him
05:53Oh, yeah, I get that lately
05:55I think that because you spoke to him about Holly and you've had maybe a little bit go at me just
06:00Got that fire in the moment and that was just like a little dig at you fine
06:04But I just think just because it's in the moment doesn't mean that it still doesn't warrant an apology because it does
06:09Obviously, it's something we'll have to have a chat about
06:12So I think if I was there he wouldn't have said them comments
06:16It's not nice to know that Polly was upset. I do feel like I need to defend her
06:21But I just feel like I'm put in a sticky situation because I'm really good mates with Alex and Polly's my wife
06:27Be interesting to see what happens today with him and Ross. Oh
06:31Cuz Sasha ain't gonna be happy either issue. No, it's gonna block both of them attacking him
06:44Today is gonna be an interesting dinner party. We've got to see Alex. Oh
06:50But it's gonna be nice going in
06:53all good really strong and
06:56Knowing that you've got my back
06:58Let's see. Oh, don't be baby. Let's see if he has got as much to say with my husband there
07:03We had a lot go on at the big day out
07:08I've said all that. I need to say to Alex. He's different with the girls to the boys
07:13I'm not gonna be the one popping up this time. I'm gonna let my husband defend my honor
07:18I'm going to stay what I'm gonna stay. Oh, so you're just gonna get straight into it right away
07:22Straight into it. Oh, yeah. All right. Don't wait in for this though. We can't
07:29That's what he said to you
07:32Man, I'll record from from day one. Well, he'd comment to read my wife. It's actually disgusted doll. I'm gonna stump for that
07:40That's why I would speak to him about
07:43man to man
07:46You
07:50There are a few issues which actually laughable Sasha and Polly were both going for me
07:56Unless I've come to you for any advice. I do not understand why you think you qualify to give me advice
08:03In this situation, nobody's asking me. How do I feel? My wife's not here. She's left without saying a word
08:11I'm already going through a lot
08:14I'm going into tonight's dinner party. I mean to defend my marriage to the rest of the group
08:19But there's nothing that these people can do to me to faze me
08:34How are you feeling about seeing Alex tonight just don't want to hear anything that would just irritate me I
08:40Definitely feel like Alex is projecting a lot of his marriage on a lot of the other couples
08:45Once I get the apology that I think I deserve from Alex, maybe we can move forward
08:52What's your approach with Alex, I don't know how I'm feeling when I go to see him let's just try going calm
08:58See what happened in it
09:06Sasha loves to put her nose in other people's business
09:09People are coming for me from every angle
09:12If it comes down to it, I can definitely more than handle myself
09:30So fifth dinner party very big one this week we're coming off of love hate week
09:36And sadly we've said goodbye to Ryan and Shannon so we wish them both all the best so let's take a look shall we
09:47First in Amy and Luke walking in very confidently all the Prosecco to ourselves
09:54Good to see the two of them smiling together slowly. I got this. I got this being with you got loads of practice
10:02Thank you
10:04Bravo Bravo darling. There you are. Cheers. Cheers. Cheers to us
10:17Emma and Casper
10:21I'm getting a sense that they're smiling, but there's a lot of tension behind the smiles
10:25I understand you met with the two of them this week. I did they did some intimacy tasks and
10:32There were some interesting conversations that came on the back of that I
10:36Suspect that they're not in the greatest place unless of course they've worked through some of those issues
10:43Tell us about your week then we've had a great week
10:47So I took Amy to pottery. So yeah
10:50Doing some crafts and shapes and molds, isn't it? I heard they were phallic. Yes, they were
10:56But they went into size the molds went into size
10:59A bit hot and then
11:02Yeah, I heard you were reenacting ghost
11:06beautifully loved it
11:09Amy bless. It was a bit like I was like Luke stop
11:20Well, he's Alex alone
11:22Of course this week Holly has made a special request to leave the experiment for a moment spend some time her children
11:29They're doing a big week
11:32This isn't something that we usually do but on this occasion we felt like it was necessary for Holly to see her children
11:38But what's great is we're expecting to see Holly tomorrow at the commitment ceremony. Yeah, so
11:43Alex is flying solo tonight
11:45So no hole
11:47No
11:52Cheers darling
11:55Right, give us the debrief after this lovely spa retreat you went on
12:03Polly and Sasha was going at me for ages calling me pathetic and
12:08Louise a weasel telling me I'm nothing all this stuff. So yeah, I clapped back
12:15So it sounds like at the spa there was some altercation with Polly and Sasha against Alex
12:21For me it got quite uncomfortable in there
12:25Especially the Sasha conversation. I think both of you went a little bit too far, especially as you're the man in that argument
12:31So just because I'm a man I have to watch why I say book because she's a woman
12:35She doesn't have to watch what she says. I think this tension has been building up for a while
12:40We saw at the last commitment ceremony. There was incredible pressure between
12:44Alex and Sasha and in fact, both of them were speaking in a disrespectful way
12:48And of course, that's not about gender that that is about human to human interaction and then Polly's asking me questions like oh
12:55Do you care about Holly?
12:57I'm tired of talking about
13:01Where's your Heather I
13:05Mean how would anybody feel if your wife had just left and not said anything to you?
13:14There's no good reason to just leave
13:18And no contact
13:22We know communication between Holly and Alex has been an issue throughout their entire relationship and clearly it's evident in her leaving without saying a
13:30Word that they still need to work on this
13:38Wow, okay, let's change the energy in the room instantly
13:42How are we
13:44Last time we saw this couple at the commitment ceremony
13:47Kieran was sharing that he's really having some difficulty coping with Christina's PMDD
13:52So I'm wondering how that has played out this week. What's going on? What's going on?
13:58You guys the line you guys never have a chat after that. Yeah, I'm same same situation
14:04I see him. I see him. I care about her. I
14:08Think she's incredible
14:10I
14:12Just the sparks gone I
14:16Want to shake him I want to show you can be like hello I am here like hello, but I can't force him
14:26Sorry, but it's just one of these I don't like it to hear it from you like that. That's the case
14:30But just one of these things one. It's life in it. Yeah, a lot of ups and downs
14:35And she has meant like she's she's she's amazing
14:39It's amazing
14:42The challenge that Kieran is presenting is something that we see often at this stage in the experiment and it's probably because the novelty of
14:50The wedding and the honeymoon is worn off
14:52And I think this is something that they have to understand that all couples go through this but many couples can get through it
15:00but anyway
15:01Moving swiftly forward. I've had a little good week
15:04Yeah, good good, I'm really happy this this only one thing I'm gonna tell you just for your ears
15:12sometimes
15:13When we're together
15:16She asks me
15:18To park the car in her garage. Oh
15:23See what you're saying I
15:26I
15:28Was raised
15:30always park your car
15:33outside
15:34Because if you park inside then it's beyond your control. I
15:41Think Luke is alluding to the fact that Amy wants him to climax inside of her
15:47But he doesn't want to do this
15:49Oh
15:53Private conversation Luke
15:56Yeah, yeah the whole car inside the garage maybe a front bumper, but I can't put the whole car
16:03This for your ears only she told me that she feels like I'm treating care a bit
16:11Not special by parking outside
16:14I've got some advice for you. Take the wheels off the car
16:20Have you got a have you got for transit
16:30How things we used to would you make me an M? Yeah, where what?
16:38We have Charlene around this week, oh, yeah, we did we didn't date how did that go?
16:44Oh
16:48It's okay
16:51Yeah, not that much steam but you know intimacy there was you know some intimacy
17:01What did you do
17:06Hugs
17:09Good yeah lush
17:14So when I came to their apartment
17:16They both said things that upset one another and I think what we've seen here is that they're still holding on to that
17:24Intimacy builds in stages, but the foundation of that is is like in respect and if that's not there you can't get anywhere else
17:37Sasha and Ross
17:40Looking quite serious
17:42Please speak to you Pete
17:44Let's go
17:45Wow, so he's just gone straight to Alex and pulled him apart from the group. He did that's probably the first time
17:51I've seen Ross is so angry
17:53Usually he's a barrel of laughs and high energy, but he's come in on a mission. Oh, yes
18:01I'm actually fucking virgin, but
18:05Very angry
18:09You're not gonna like what I'm gonna say
18:12I think the other bodies
18:15Wow, what would you say that to such a man Sparrow would you just do that if I was there though, would you?
18:23Listen whether you're there. Yeah, I would yes. Oh, you would say that. Oh, yeah, I don't think you would I
18:31Really would
18:35Have you got anything else you want to say I
18:37want you to go to stature and apologize for what you said I
18:41Ain't apologizing
18:47Then no get the fuck out then
18:55Selfish little prick that made
18:57I
19:08Want you to go to stature and apologize for what you said I ain't apologizing
19:17Then no get the fuck out then
19:22Selfish little prick that made
19:28We
19:30Can see that Alex upsetting Sasha has clearly touched a nerve with Ross
19:35But in that interaction what was uncomfortable to see was Ross's aggressive behavior
19:40I agree with you if Ross had have approached that in a much more
19:44Conciliatory way with some openness and maybe some curiosity about the situation rather than blaming would have looked very different
19:52What?
19:54Let's keep calm
19:58I
20:00Just only heard Sasha side of things
20:02I do acknowledge that there were some things at the spa that I shouldn't have said. However, it was a retaliation
20:09But don't try and come at me until you know the facts. I
20:13Just feel like in every situation you feel like you need to put your two pence in
20:19You don't speak to the men the same way you speak to the women in this room
20:22So you just said to Ross he wears fight jewelry. Did you say that though?
20:28Actually, it's all
20:30Yeah, so she wears fake jewelry
20:32Why would you say that though? Why would she say what she said to me?
20:36Tell me what she said. She's like, oh, you're nothing. You're a weasel. You did see that
20:40No, you think you're a big scary guy
20:44Compared to the people
20:47Never said that
20:48When have I ever said I'm a big scary guy said that he's a big scary guy
20:52You're involving yourself in something that you don't need to be involved in Luke. You don't need to be involved in this
20:58Luke saw what was happening
21:00He saw that Alex felt like he was being backed in the corner and he came over to sit next to him to show him
21:07You know what? I'm here to support you
21:09Yeah
21:09Now the rest of the room is not helping to defuse a situation when there is conflict that is happening in front of you
21:16Everyone is now responsible for the outcome of that conflict because everyone also could be a casualty of the conflict
21:23Can you imagine if I'd say something to holler?
21:28Can you imagine that though?
21:32Listen bro, Holly wouldn't go at you the same way Sasha came at me
21:40Sometimes just need to know when to be quiet. Do you need to know when to be quiet?
21:48Why laughing man, why can't I why can't I I'm happy I'm not sad happy. I'm good
21:54You're a fucking baby
22:06What Sasha's now doing is really entering into that kind of aggressive behavior that is absolutely not
22:13Acceptable, although Alex knows that the more he smiles the more he's agitating them
22:18I've been caught a pussy. I've been caught this this every name under the Sun. I've been called
22:23There was a lot of name calling and you handled it so well apart from that last minute I don't I get on
22:28I will call that man a pussy over and over and over and over again with no shame
22:33Because what he does and everybody's whimmies is unacceptable
22:36I
22:50Alex is antagonizing them, isn't he?
22:53Yes, he is
22:54But I think the positive thing here is that he's recognized that he needs to remove himself from the situation
22:59And I think it's a good move
23:01Should we all just take a big big deep breath together? Yeah, right. Breathe inhale four breaths in. Does anybody fancy a bit of Reiki?
23:15Nathan and Lacey
23:21This is what we need bringing the energy back into the room. Yes, the poor things have no idea what they've just walked into right?
23:32Adam and Polly
23:36Oh
23:36It just got bad. Oh, honey
23:40When we saw Polly and Adam last week at the commitment ceremony things were a little tense, but they're looking really good now
23:46So I'm wondering what's happened during love hate week things are going well by the look of it
23:54All you missed that happened
23:56Took that Wow what happened but Alex obviously about what happened at the spa day
24:01Ross was like do I get an apology when you went? No, you know, I'm not getting an apology
24:06Glad you weren't a really it would I think it would have been worse
24:10And apparently we went for him. We went for him at the spot. Of course we did course we did
24:15All of the problems that have come from people this week
24:19Goes back to Alex. I just don't know what's to come for the rest of the night. How bad can it get?
24:27I
24:39See fancy
24:48Facing my second wife make you another chance in your dreams dreams
24:52I
25:06Never done it
25:11Some wine come on you deserve some wine. I'm gonna have one
25:22You standing up for me tonight
25:27We just need to look to Sasha's
25:29family environment of the man playing the role of the protector and that's something that she has seen and
25:34She now wants to emulate in her relationship. And really what she's doing is she's saying to him you've just
25:41Achieved some points here. It's fine to have traditional values
25:45But when it gets to the point where it's actually hurting other people
25:49I think you need to sort of take a moment take stock and think is this actually serving us here?
26:03I'm not I'm not I'm not gonna stand here for the bullshit. I'm not
26:14I'm just make people angry. I don't know
26:17Hey, I
26:19Ain't listening to his bullshit. Okay. Okay quick. I'm not listening to his shit. Well, look
26:29One day you was gonna say that then
26:32This is good to see that Ross is able to help Sasha to regulate her emotions to make her laugh and actually calm down
26:40Clearly they both have each other's back and that's really admirable to see
26:46Anyway this week it's been a tough week
26:53Just try and enjoy every single moment going forward the good the bad the ugly it's all part of the process
27:03Not many people have heard from Holly this week, I thought she was gonna
27:07magically show up tonight
27:09it would have been nice to
27:11you know, but
27:13Let's just enjoy the rest of the night enjoy the rest of the process however long we're here for and
27:20Just try and keep in good spirits
27:32It's really difficult for Alex to be in that place of the unknown and
27:37Uncertainty, of course, he's also left with this big question mark about why Holly is left and where she's gone
27:43So I kind of feel for him in this moment
27:49What's that dolphin before
27:58Like to meet my chicken
28:00I don't know. I've had loads of chicken for breakfast chicken for lunch chicken. No, I'm gonna start laying eggs soon
28:09Alex
28:12Break the bed. Yeah. Yeah
28:17And just about the
28:20Commitment ceremony the other day. I think it's bullshit cuz them to have lips
28:25fucking snake man
28:27Snake you me. Yeah, you where was the double date?
28:32But how have they not been sneakily kissing I know you didn't be so fix him
28:38I misheard what you said about Orson and Hannah
28:48It did upset me I'll be honest I thought what prick
28:53I was like, why is he talking to me? I thought we was closer than that and for one I would never snake you
28:58It was a genuine misunderstanding. Okay, you know, I mean on my part. Okay, so I do apologize genuinely
29:06I do accept your apology
29:15This is great to see yeah
29:18Alex is showing up. He's taking some accountability and apologizing. This is great stuff
29:23Yes, great from Alex and it shows, you know conflict resolution is a two-way street
29:28Yeah, Lacey approached this right very calmly. Yeah, very respectful and look at that. They get a resolution. Yeah
29:36I did think he was being a bellend. I was I was being a bellend. I'm glad you did that on the chin
29:42But I'm never gonna be in the wrong and not apologize
29:48How are you guys anyway, yeah good paradise as usual with you two man positive vibes, ain't it?
29:55Anyway, I appreciate it. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, no problem. Shall I see you guys in a bit? Yeah. Have a good evening
30:00Do you have a swap?
30:02Okay, so thanks Emma. Yeah, I'll have a quick chat about it. Oh, yeah, of course. Yeah. Yeah, that's fine little cash up
30:10Think we need a little chat about the big day
30:14Holly's come back quite upset
30:18Because you said that I'm faking my feelings and
30:23Obviously the attraction thing's been such a big thing for her where it made it feel like shit
30:28Yeah, and the fact that you threw it in a face. Yeah, sir
30:37When you first came into this process
30:40Holly wasn't your type
30:43Holly wasn't your type on paper. No, so I wouldn't say you feelings are fake. Yeah. Yeah, but
30:49She's had to beg you to do all these things. Yeah
30:55Which has been the bare minimum
30:58And you know what on top of that she'd been coming at me all day
31:02With Sasha as well. I get that and she even said to me at one point my relationships better than yours
31:07I'm like bro
31:09That was uncalled for
31:12The thing is in all of this I've had I've got my own marriage to deal with yeah, my head could already be scrambled from there
31:27I'm really feeling for Adam right now because he's obviously listened to Polly speak about things that Alex has said and now he's here
31:34And Alex say things I think actually he also maybe agreed with slightly. So where does he go?
31:40He's in quite a difficult position
31:43The same thing is happening with me or us. I don't want to happen with me or you
31:47Hey shit, though
31:48And then I think the fact that you and Ross are such good mates as I should have had to go like that
31:52It's annoying bro today
31:54They could possibly have got an apology
31:57But he approached the situation totally wrong. Look how you've approached it. Well, you've come to me and got my side
32:02Yeah, of course to me came in like yeah, I get that
32:07And that's why I just want you to fucking
32:09Yeah, yeah makeover. We'll have a conversation. I know you do get on. Yeah, but you two are fucking close. Yeah
32:15Yeah, but there's no bad bad blood there for me. Yeah, okay
32:20Respect
32:22Credit to both Alex and Adam they were able to
32:26Approach each other from a non aggressive and non defensive mode. It's good to see him go around the table and make up with everyone
32:40You tell us about your week we did we did stuff that brought us really close again something's it's definitely going
32:46I
32:51Couldn't have asked for a better person to do
33:06He's told me that you you'll never like me enough to be emotionally vulnerable with me
33:10I thought maybe that we might be able to explore something else
33:17We see intimacy very differently
33:21It's not quite confusing
33:23Messages, I've got this week because I asked you after it
33:25Like do you want to practice what Charlene has given us and you said to me?
33:29Well, yes, I'm a because I want to learn about being in a relationship with other people
33:36To say that it's essentially saying to Emma you are replaceable
33:40I
33:44Want to learn about it is what you said, yeah, that's why I'm here and then I'm like, well fuck that not test
33:54Well, you wanted to test out having sex with me just see if it feels like yeah
33:59Well, so I'm it's okay. It's okay for me to be a test. But when you're tested you're like no fucking way
34:05Well, no, no, I respect your boundaries tonight
34:08It is very clear that the two of them have both been hurt by things that each have said to the other and now
34:14That they're getting into this point-scoring mode. They're not malicious people. They're not trying to be nasty, but they're coming from a place of pain
34:24Yeah, yeah, it's all my fault again, yeah, yeah, of course Emma you definitely not intimated anything other than that
34:30I have
34:34There's a lot of powerful nonverbal communication that we're seeing here these are two people that are just not happy together anymore
34:45Jesus Christ
35:00Oh
35:14Had a good week actually we have had a good week in the grand scheme of things. Yes
35:21We had a day with you guy. Wait, we don't win star. Oh lovely. It was so nice really needed
35:30What have you done this week apart from the sparring salsa? You've done me like a really nice little date night
35:35I walked in and there was nice little like
35:38Rose petals and candles on a walk
35:41way
35:42Great to see Adam actually stepping up in the romantic stakes. Yeah, exactly what Polly wants
35:47Yes, love hate week has been good for these two. They've made a lot of progress
35:51It's nice that Polly can see that you've got that in you. Yeah, I do feel like Nathan could probably learn a thing or two
35:57Mate oh actually guys when I am came home yesterday. There was a little treat on the table and Nathan bought me flowers
36:06Most expensive in the shop as well. You left a price on it, but
36:11Yeah, how much was that then?
36:15Did he leave the price on he always does that because they were expensive and I was like, you know, have a look
36:19No, I really was really happy with that. Yeah, it's little things that help. Yeah
36:26I
36:33Definitely had some realizations
36:39You know, we're well into the process now over halfway
36:43Everyone's at the point now where love starting to come out like people are people have got like the real thing
36:56I
37:01Could have been so different
37:14Anybody want any ride
37:21Well, no baby it's you
37:26Actually is
37:36Talk to me Polly what's going on?
37:42I'm just upset with the comments that you made. Mm-hmm. I
37:46Was attacking but off the back of when you got personal with me saying he wasn't attracted to me
37:52And I've had to beg him for the bare minimum
37:55How you said it
37:58Made it sound like
38:00He has said that to you recently. Okay, okay in private. Yeah
38:04Yeah, everything that Adam said to me in private is exactly what he said to the experts. So there's no
38:13hidden
38:14underground creepy crawlies
38:17I don't want to be going out with you and no, I don't either
38:21So
38:23Why you come for me then?
38:24Because I felt like I needed answers about certain things about my best friend in here that no one was getting. Okay
38:30Let me let me say this though. You're
38:33Asking me questions. I don't have the answer very defensive about people. I care about. Okay
38:38Why don't you ask her if she still cares because she's the one that's not here. Well, I will
38:43I'm trying to defend the marriage that I don't even know what the fuck's going on in it. Hmm
38:51You
38:53Know but I do need to I know it's something to work on so I
38:58Apologize for how I spoke to you at the spa
39:01Thank you. You are my sister. I
39:05Feel like we're seeing the layers be stripped away from him tonight and
39:10He's showing vulnerability. He's taking accountability
39:13He's apologizing. He's showing real empathy for other people
39:18This is the side of Alex. We want to see more of
39:22Apology acceptance
39:29And I only get like this because I care
39:39Hey, I've got I've got a question for the table if it's wife swap week, which wife would you want to get?
39:45Let's go round starting from Casper
39:48Paul yes
39:49I'll take that
39:52Use are the definition of this experiment. I think next question
39:58Adam I love you
40:01Today if you give me a fucking call, so I don't mind. Oh my god. Oh
40:05Did you just kiss another wife? Oh, no, you're late. I
40:12Should think not Kieran
40:14Remember respect for your wife, please. You're not even at that level with me. Let alone one of my best friends in it
40:27That would hurt so much, you know, he's been saying I've got cold sores I can't kiss you
40:31I can't be intimate with you. But here I am laying a smacker on another wife
40:44Clearly nothing was in that kiss
40:45But it's because of Christina feeling rejected through the relationship that of course it's going to have an impact on how she feels in the moment
40:54Think of my feelings, please
41:00Yeah, yeah
41:02I
41:16Fuming that my feelings have been disregarded
41:23Guide
41:33I
41:35What I like about him is you do everything from scratch that you don't buy any jars or packets
41:39If she could should go and take the salt out of the sea
41:46Surely you know, I'm gonna do the pie without
42:02We're expecting to see Holly tomorrow night at the commitment ceremony, but here she is tonight. Yeah surprised us all
42:15Yeah, I don't even know how to go don't even know if I'm happy or sad bro, give her a big hug tell you mister
42:32Oh
42:41So glad you're back you okay? Yeah, just need it. Yeah. No, I know you do
42:48Hi, okay
42:52You all right, yeah, I'm good. Thank you
42:55The thing is Alex has done so well tonight with managing conflict
42:59But I'm just hoping that he'll manage this situation correctly and not let his ego get in the way
43:13So, where do we start I don't know is there anything you want to say you okay? Yeah
43:22For me I just needed to
43:26Selfishly put myself first
43:30I
43:32Just feel like the no communication for a week is mad. So I was just left stewing
43:37people are coming at me asking me all kinds of questions and
43:42I'm trying to defend the marriage and I don't even know what's going on myself. I
43:47Think
43:49After the comment that you made at the list the other day and how you walked off when I felt so vulnerable
43:55That's what made me think I need to go home to my babies
43:58You said what's wrong?
44:00Yeah, and I said some of us are missing our kids. Yeah, and your comment was but this can't be asked and what back to the
44:05room
44:08To me that makes me feel like you don't give a shit about the fact I've got kids
44:12So instantly I'm gonna think fuck you
44:16Any second be honest you did
44:20Saying that comment is shit
44:24Maybe if you ask me more am I missing my children? Am I okay?
44:28You didn't seem on. Okay, though. Yeah, but you have never asked
44:33How I know you don't ask me how I am. I'm missing my kids. You have never once asked me
44:42These are things I don't forget as a mom
44:46If we break it down to what's really going on here her identity is so clearly tied up in being a mother and
44:52He was essentially dismissing a big part of who she is
44:55So I can see where she's coming from as well
44:59If you can respect what I'm saying for once and we can move forward for once
45:05Yeah
45:08Those two words are quite significant for once because really what Holly's doing here is
45:14Generalizing that the behavior he's showing here is something he shows all the time
45:19And so I think right now Alex is realizing he's in a bit of a no-win situation
45:25At the end of the day for me right now as it stands the only way we can move forward
45:31Is after speaking to the experts tomorrow?
45:40One of the most dangerous things you can do in a relationship is give an ultimatum
45:48And that's exactly what she just did
45:55Next time I know I've got a good thing while some couples have caused to celebrate
45:59It's the first time that I've had like butterflies raw emotional honesty
46:04Every man and woman deserves to be treated like a king or queen
46:08Sparks anguish for others if that's what she thinks of me. Why am I here? I?
46:13Don't really know where me heads up. I don't want to lead her on. I'm petrified and
46:18A lingering feud I'm still angry
46:21Like a fucker
46:22But like I was being attacked and I just attacked back. That's a clash with wife Holly
46:27I've had enough of your shit. Don't try and come on here and put on some big act
46:30You're not fooling nobody puts Alex in the eye of the storm. You need to understand me now. I'm not holding back anymore
46:37I've remembered who the hell I am and I don't pull with this
46:50You