A DOCTOR thought Tina was the nanny rather than the mother of her own child. Tina and Anton are parents to two-year-old Michelle and 10-month-old Mila. Michelle was born early and went into special care where one day, Tina was with her daughter and a doctor came in but waited for a few minutes so Tina asked if she was waiting for someone. The mother-of-two explained: “She [the doctor] said, no, I'm waiting for the mom to come because I have to talk to her about something. And I'm like, I'm the mom… The doctor said ‘sorry, I thought you were the nanny’.” Tina said the doctor apologised and the new mom forgave the mistake but added: “After that it actually dawned on me, I have to be ready when I go out of the hospital because anything at this point is possible.” They have ID cards for their daughters which Tina takes with her when she’s out with the children “just so I don't get asked questions that I'm not prepared for.” She has had other instances in public with people questioning if she is her daughters’ mother and decided to post about her experiences on her social media in a video which went viral. She said: “I just want to be a mom. I just want to be looked at as a mom. I don't want to be always attacked with that question.” The couple focuses on positive comments and enjoying family life. Anton said: “I hope we can continue this journey with all the followers and show people how amazing our children are.” Tina added: “My genes are going to fight back in the next round.”
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00:00The doctors didn't believe my baby was mine.
00:02Are you sure I shouldn't ask for maternity test?
00:06I had to carry I.D. cards for my kids just to prove that they are mine.
00:11I just want to be a mom.
00:13Baby!
00:14It's Mila baby!
00:16What happened at the bus?
00:19Oh!
00:20Let's do some jumping jack, jack.
00:22What?
00:23We're not doing jumping jack.
00:24Oh.
00:25Let's do some jumping jack, jack.
00:28Hi, my name is Tina.
00:29Hi, my name is Anton.
00:31This is Mila and she is 10 months old.
00:35And this is Michelle. How old are you?
00:38Two years old.
00:40How long have you been together guys and how did you meet?
00:43Well, we've been together for, what is it, four years now?
00:47Yeah, four years.
00:48Four years.
00:51We met through a very famous dating app.
00:55From our first date, it was like magic.
00:58Okay?
00:59That's all I have to say.
01:01Are you ready to bake?
01:02Yes!
01:03Say yay!
01:05Hold it.
01:06Put it there.
01:09Cut it, cut it.
01:10Done!
01:12Well done!
01:15Can you please tell me about how it was giving birth?
01:17She came when she was seven months old.
01:19I would never in my widest imagination thought my daughter was going to be ready.
01:23Even if my husband was.
01:25My daughter wasn't looking half Nigerian.
01:28I keep getting that thing in my head, she really might because she doesn't look like me.
01:32But a lot of family and friends keep saying, don't worry, she's going to get darker.
01:36Her hair colour is going to change, it's going to be okay.
01:40Here we are.
01:42She's the cutest ginger ever.
01:45Is it nice?
01:48It's really nice, huh?
01:50It's really nice, huh?
01:51I had to put her in a special care and I was changing her diaper.
01:55There was a doctor who came to check on her and I saw her waiting for like 10 minutes.
02:00So I asked her, are you waiting for someone?
02:02She said, no, I'm waiting for the mum to come because I have to talk to her about something.
02:06And I'm like, I'm the mum.
02:08The doctor said, oh sorry, I thought you were the nanny.
02:11She was apologising and I told her it was fine because anybody would have asked.
02:16And that was my first experience I had with her.
02:18And after then, it actually dawned on me that, girl, I have to be ready when I go out of the hospital
02:24because anything at this point is possible.
02:28It's raw, you shouldn't eat it.
02:30Okay, you have to just put it in here, yeah?
02:32Okay.
02:33Do you want to try it like mama, like this?
02:37When Mila was also born, she was also red-haired.
02:40I had a big experience at the supermarket as well.
02:43So Mila started crying.
02:44She was really crying so hard and this lady just woke up to me.
02:47I don't think the mother is going to like her crying.
02:49Do you need help?
02:51I just straight up just told her, no, thank you.
02:53She's my daughter.
02:54How does this make you feel?
02:56I feel overwhelmed.
02:57I feel blessed.
02:59I feel exhausted from explaining myself.
03:02She's a very nice person.
03:04She's a very kind person.
03:06I feel exhausted from explaining myself.
03:09I just want to be a mom.
03:11I just want to be looked at as a mom.
03:13I don't want to be always attacked with that question.
03:17So I just want to show you guys this.
03:19So this is Michelle's ID card.
03:21I always have to take it with me, even though I don't want to take it,
03:25but just so I don't get asked questions that I'm not prepared for.
03:28Yeah, it's very uncommon for Dutch children to have an ID.
03:32Yeah.
03:36I have a surprise for you guys.
03:37I'm going to be giving away these pairs of shoes
03:41because it's 2025 and it's going to be giveaway season.
03:45When did you start posting on social media?
03:47I've been posting for so long.
03:49I used to do hair tutorials, makeup and stuff.
03:51That was back in the days.
03:53So when I got married and I had my baby,
03:55I still really didn't post my childbirth and everything
03:58because it was a little bit too much for me.
04:01But after all the comments I've been getting for physical contact with people
04:05and stuff, I thought maybe it's time for me to just share it.
04:09Let me just post it on social media and just for the fun of it.
04:13I really wanted to see what is going on in people's heads when they see this.
04:17After nine months of pregnancy, this is what I got.
04:21And it went crazy.
04:23It was all over the internet.
04:25Let me read some of the comments that I've been getting.
04:28The first one is, you are not the baby mother.
04:32My reaction to this comment is, I'm the mother, deal with it.
04:38The second comment is, maternity test for mom, please.
04:42Don't blame me for this comment.
04:44Because sometimes when I look at her, I'm like,
04:46are you sure I shouldn't ask for maternity test?
04:49This comment says, were you even there, sis?
04:56I was there.
04:57You're going to see the proof when they grow up.
05:00They're going to have my nose.
05:01They're going to have some of my chin.
05:04So it's going to be okay.
05:06Are you a house sitter or a babysitter?
05:09Because they don't look like yours.
05:11Okay.
05:12I am all of the above.
05:13I'm everything.
05:14So it's a whole list of jobs that is added to motherhood.
05:19And I'm taking it all in.
05:21I am the mom.
05:22I love my kids.
05:23I love the way they look.
05:24They look amazing.
05:26I'm grateful.
05:27And I'm just blessed to have them.
05:29My husband is not a social media person.
05:32He's more like a chill guy.
05:34More like, don't want to do my thing.
05:37What does that mean?
05:39What does that have to do with anything?
05:41It means you're chill.
05:43When I said I got a bad comment and you were telling me on the stairs,
05:46you have to choose.
05:47If you want to keep doing social media,
05:49you need to know about the comment.
05:50You have to.
05:51You're going to get bad comments.
05:52Yeah.
05:53That's bad people.
05:54So people are going to say bad stuff.
05:56Okay.
05:57Are you ready?
05:58And if that's going to affect you,
06:00then you shouldn't be in social media.
06:02And since then, she's not been focusing on the negative comments,
06:05just on positive comments.
06:07As my manager.
06:08As your manager of your mental health.
06:17I also got a lot of comments from Nigerians from my country as well.
06:21They were saying, oh, she doesn't look like us, but it's fine.
06:24Keep the look.
06:25Keep the look.
06:26You've got Ajin because it's in there.
06:28She's eating African food, spicy food, everything.
06:32She's eating it.
06:33She loves it.
06:38What happened at the bus?
06:40Oh, I was asked for an ID.
06:42So I don't know if it's because it was an international bus or whatever,
06:46but I was literally asked for an ID.
06:49And I had to call my husband to send me a screenshot of the passport
06:53for Mila because I didn't have an ID card for her.
06:56I didn't really take it personal, but we were the only one that was asked.
07:03I'm not calling it discrimination.
07:05I just think it's just strange for people to think you have a child
07:09that doesn't look like you.
07:10So it's always a stare when you go out there with your kids
07:13and everybody's like, oh, they're so cute.
07:15They've got red hair.
07:16Anton, when he's with me, we don't get the question a lot.
07:19We only get that stare.
07:21But when I'm alone, I get a lot of stare, a lot of questions, a lot of doubting.
07:26You see it on people's faces.
07:28It's such a thing that now, if I am going anywhere, I'm just double prepared.
07:33I just have to be ready.
07:34I'm just overthinking things.
07:36What if, what if?
07:41My gene is going to fight back in the next round, OK?
07:44So I need you guys to pray for me at this point.
07:51I hope we can continue this journey and show people how amazing our children are.
07:56And we are happy with our children and in the future.
07:59We want to see them be that person that they want to be.
08:02And we want to see them grow with the positive comments
08:05and the excitement of everything around them.