Title : Live-in Relationships: When Parents Get a Shock! || Acharya Prashant (2022)
Video Information: 16.07.2022, Goa
Description:
Acharya Ji highlights how modern relationships, pre-wedding shoots, and live-in arrangements are often pursued without true understanding. Beneath these desires lies a deeper spiritual longing, mistaken for romantic attraction. Human attraction, shaped by conditioning, leads many to seek fulfillment in relationships, only to face dissatisfaction.Society promotes the illusion that marriage, validation, and material success bring happiness. However, true fulfillment comes from inner clarity, not external attachments. The constant pursuit of relationships often masks a deeper spiritual thirst, leaving people restless and unfulfilled.
Breaking this cycle requires self-awareness. Instead of chasing temporary satisfaction in relationships and societal expectations, one must recognize the deeper longing within. Only through this understanding can true contentment be found, beyond fleeting emotional or societal validation.
🎧 Listen to Acharya Prashant on Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/2QmVEAAnsNE7Xs0MW0Li8Y?si=09fbcbc7c99c469b
Music Credits: Milind Date
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Video Information: 16.07.2022, Goa
Description:
Acharya Ji highlights how modern relationships, pre-wedding shoots, and live-in arrangements are often pursued without true understanding. Beneath these desires lies a deeper spiritual longing, mistaken for romantic attraction. Human attraction, shaped by conditioning, leads many to seek fulfillment in relationships, only to face dissatisfaction.Society promotes the illusion that marriage, validation, and material success bring happiness. However, true fulfillment comes from inner clarity, not external attachments. The constant pursuit of relationships often masks a deeper spiritual thirst, leaving people restless and unfulfilled.
Breaking this cycle requires self-awareness. Instead of chasing temporary satisfaction in relationships and societal expectations, one must recognize the deeper longing within. Only through this understanding can true contentment be found, beyond fleeting emotional or societal validation.
🎧 Listen to Acharya Prashant on Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/2QmVEAAnsNE7Xs0MW0Li8Y?si=09fbcbc7c99c469b
Music Credits: Milind Date
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00:00You don't come here to see me, do you?
00:04You come here to discover yourself.
00:08When you look at me, it should be like looking at yourself.
00:12And when you hear me, it should be like you're hearing yourself.
00:16As long as you cannot hear your own voice in mine.
00:20As long as you cannot see your own reflection in my face.
00:25As long as you cannot feed your own words in mine.
00:29Till then, you will have to come over here, and that too repeatedly.
00:35Acharya ji, I have come here from Dehradun and people have sent their greetings.
00:42By the way, my question is related to today's young generation.
00:47My mind is a little confused right now.
00:51It's about today's generation's pre-wedding shoot and live-in relationship.
00:58I'm not too much acquainted with this topic, but I heard that the youngsters are into it nowadays.
01:05And I have so many thoughts in my mind about where this generation is heading towards and at what level.
01:14And it seems that spirituality is not strong enough to stop these things.
01:21So I would like you to guide us in this matter.
01:24They would not do all of these if their spirituality was weak.
01:27I mean the children are deprived of it.
01:29Please understand, whatever they have been doing, even that is directed towards achieving their own spiritual goals.
01:39What you were talking about right now is about the mutual relationship between a boy and a girl, whether it is a live-in or a pre-wedding.
01:46When a boy and a girl get attracted towards each other blindly,
01:51behind that there is an underlying motive to achieve their own spiritual goals.
01:57Just that chosen path is wrong.
02:00That's why they won't achieve their goal.
02:03He said, in human beings, men, women, a boy and a girl, they run after each other with so much lust.
02:18Have you seen this thing in any other species?
02:21That means this lust is not at all natural.
02:25We need to understand this.
02:28There are so many multiple varieties of species around you.
02:33You can see cows, you can see dogs, all of them are found in the city along with so many other birds.
02:41There are so many animals in the forest, we know about them as well.
02:45Take any animal or any bird or any species.
02:50Have you ever seen the kind of sexual perversion that you see in human beings in any other species?
02:57Have you ever seen?
03:02They have their own periods.
03:07They have a specific mating time, that is when the intercourse takes place and that's it.
03:12And once that happens, they hardly get attracted towards each other.
03:16They become a bit indifferent.
03:20There is a particular specific time for them.
03:24And even during that specific time, you will find a specific particular sexual intensity in them.
03:30They will stay within that.
03:31They will not go beyond that or below that.
03:34Everything in them is limited as well as periodic in nature.
03:39Periodic means it has a fixed duration and limited means the amount of the sexual act performed during that time.
03:48Even that act has a specific limit.
03:50So this is an act that's provided by the nature, which is periodic and limited as well.
03:56This is the amount of lust that nature grants you, not more than that.
04:00We might think that if we remove all the restrictions, then we will become natural again.
04:07Then he will be busy with sexual activities all throughout the year.
04:10No, it's not like that.
04:11No one emerges like that.
04:12Even the humans won't do despite being completely natural.
04:17Then where does this insanity is lust coming from?
04:20Definitely not from the nature.
04:21Had this insanity come from the nature, it would have been limited.
04:26This is the product of your mind.
04:28Your mind seeks spiritual peace, which the mind is not getting.
04:33And where it is looking for peace?
04:35It is looking for it in the opposite sex.
04:37A girl feels that she would find peace in the company of a boy and the boy feels that he will find peace in the company of a girl.
04:43And it's not that they're aware about this.
04:46There may be a boy who is very excited and is running madly behind those girls.
04:51Now, if you try and tell him that you're choosing those girls for peace, the boy will tell you that I know what I want.
04:57Or the boy will ask you, who is this girl Shanti?
05:03It's not that he's aware about it.
05:05But we do have the proof.
05:07If the sexual urge in the human beings was completely natural, then it would have been limited as it is limited in all the other species.
05:17But ours is unlimited.
05:20The lust inside us seems to be never ending.
05:23So the reason should be something else.
05:26And the fact is that human is the only animal who is actually spiritually thirsty.
05:32But then there's lack of knowledge as well.
05:35Now the thirst is spiritual.
05:38But we do not know what this thirst is for because of lack of knowledge.
05:42They don't know.
05:45Then what do we do?
05:47We try to quench that thirst by finding anything to bring from anywhere.
05:53Do you remember kerosene?
05:55What?
05:56That you're thirsty.
05:57But since you don't know why you're thirsty, you're drinking kerosene.
06:02A girl brings kerosene in the form of a boy.
06:05And the boy brings kerosene in the form of a girl.
06:07And they're drinking nonstop.
06:09And the more you drink kerosene, the more you feel thirsty.
06:12And that's its property.
06:15After drinking some, you'll feel like you need more because you feel more thirsty.
06:20And you're totally unaware that instead of reducing the thirst, it is actually increasing it.
06:25You will never find that girl that you always keep on desiring.
06:29Keep chasing it throughout your life.
06:32Now you're asking for a living, but I totally refuse it.
06:35You're an adjunct person. Go and get married.
06:37Will even that quench your thirst?
06:41You may say that a boy is flirting around with five girls or a girl is flirting around with five boys.
06:46I'm saying there's no need to flirt with five, flirt with only one.
06:48But will even that quench your thirst?
06:52People nowadays talk about increasing homosexuality.
06:55And I advise them against homosexuality.
06:57You can even try heterosexuality, but can even back quench your thirst.
07:01But it's not about putting any restrictions or control on sex or privating certain things.
07:09Do you really think that's the solution? That is never going to be a solution.
07:12Like having cultural sex is not a solution.
07:15No, it won't solve your problems.
07:16First, you need to understand who you are and what exactly you want.
07:23Who are you and what do you want?
07:28It's not that only this current generation has this problem.
07:32Those who lacked knowledge always had this perversion.
07:35I mean our ancestors too. And even their parents.
07:38The only difference is whatever the current generation is doing, they're doing openly.
07:41But parents lacked courage, so they did it secretly.
07:49There was a guy who I came across who was simply abusing everybody openly.
07:52Then I called him.
07:54Have your parents taught you this?
07:56He said, yes, my parents only have taught me this.
08:01He said, my parents abuse each other at home only, but not outside their home.
08:06Because people outside consider them tortured ones.
08:08But at home, his father abuses his mother in the worst possible way.
08:14And the mother reciprocates his father by abusing his father.
08:18Abusing is normal at my home. That's where I learned it from.
08:24So this is not limited to the current generation.
08:27The basic design of a human being is such that he is a born corrupt.
08:32The humans are the most unfortunate one amongst all the species on the earth.
08:36The amount of struggles that we go through within,
08:39no bird, no duck, no fish or any other animal never goes through that struggle.
08:44All of them live with a lot of peace.
08:48Just try and observe a cow once after she has finished her meal.
08:51You will find that she enjoys the moment peacefully.
08:53You will never find a human being like this.
08:57Okay, leave these tame animals aside and consider some badly wild animals like cheetah or lion or tiger.
09:04Even in their case, they'll be resting peacefully after meals.
09:07Even if you cross them from a close vicinity, possibly they won't even get up.
09:10They don't care about anything.
09:13Absolutely carefully.
09:16Mentally, they are always at ease unlike the humans.
09:21We are anointed and that is the reason why we are born as humans.
09:25This is a curse.
09:28And this is the very curse which is exhibited when two opposite genders
09:33belonging to the species tease each other all the time.
09:36The man is after the woman, the woman is after the man.
09:38This is the effect of that curse.
09:42You have been cursed that you will take birth in the form of a human
09:45and you will keep teasing the opposite gender throughout your life like this absolutely non-stop.
09:51And despite that, you will actually achieve nothing.
09:54Yes, you may be able to give birth to children, but even those children will do the teasing.
10:05Are you getting my point?
10:08It's okay. What can you say now?
10:10What will a couple achieve by living together without getting married?
10:13Even they will keep banging their heads against each other.
10:16What's so special about it?
10:17Actually, the married ones envy the people who are in a live-in relationship.
10:27In my opinion, they don't need to be envious like this.
10:30The people who are in live-in relationships are also undergoing the same strident confrontation and destruction.
10:37This too is de facto.
10:42They become a couple and the court has also endorsed it now.
10:46The court has also openly said that if a couple is living together and that too from a long period of time,
10:53then they must be considered a couple legally regardless of whether they are married or not.
10:59Because their behavior is exactly like a husband and a wife. There is no difference.
11:04They also keep a watch on each other. A couple means nothing but torturing each other.
11:08Yes, they do.
11:11Both of them are at par with it.
11:14Now that you are torturing each other so much, you are already a couple. What's the big deal?
11:23Jokes apart, but why do you torture each other?
11:26Actually, you were looking for something else in that woman.
11:33Whatever you may call it, either a goddess or a supreme god, you need her utmost peace.
11:39Sir, if they met the superior that you are hunting for in that particular female, you would never date it over there.
11:45You will get frustrated because you wouldn't get it over there and you will become wild.
11:50Because you have something on your mind when you brought her home, but that woman will not fulfill your desire ever.
11:56And the woman too goes through the same.
12:00She also thinks that she will get the supreme, the almighty,
12:04but I pay the utmost peace in the form of a partner or husband.
12:07A man who is outright stupid wouldn't be able to offer anything to that female.
12:11That idiot, you are calling him the supreme.
12:16And once you realize after a few months or a year, you feel cheated.
12:21He is an idiot.
12:23Now what will you do? Where will you take out your frustration?
12:26A frustrated woman?
12:30She will torture her husband and will keep doing it all her life.
12:37Now this torture is there because of her lack of knowledge.
12:44And in such cases, the other person or the partner is at no fault who you may not like at all.
12:50In this, your partner is not at all at fault.
12:52He never claimed that he would be your god, did he?
12:55You only started dreaming about it.
13:01Am I making myself clear?
13:03Another example is this pre-wedding shoot.
13:06The films have taught you that by doing all these things, you will become happy.
13:11So you simply do it. Who knows, it might bring happiness.
13:15Let's try this option also.
13:17Since you people are from Gairadum and Rishikesh, you must have seen a lot of such activities.
13:24The most ancient thirst of the human being is simply being exhibited in distorted forms.
13:31These are deformities.
13:35All of us just want that param, which is the ultimate.
13:40Everybody wants it.
13:42But then, because there is a lack of knowledge,
13:47we look for that particular thing in pre-wedding photo shoots or some other activities,
13:53or in the marriage celebrations,
13:57or maybe by celebrating the honeymoon in Siberia.
14:02Honeymoons are best enjoyed in cold, right?
14:08That's how it works.
14:17Have you written my point?
14:20But it is very difficult to explain, let alone the young ones,
14:24even the adults, let alone the adults, even an old man who is about to die.
14:28It is difficult to explain to him too that you will not get that thing that you are seating in that woman.
14:34And even the women are in the same state.
14:36It is even more difficult to explain it to them.
14:38That you wouldn't get it from him.
14:40But she feels that he is the supreme.
14:44He is not. He is not.
14:45But the women will never believe.
14:47But she thinks that it is hidden somewhere inside him.
14:51A woman came to me and asked,
14:53if God exists in everybody, then why not in my husband?
14:57Why are you repeatedly saying that God is not inside him?
15:00God exists everywhere. Why not in my husband?
15:05I said, he exists.
15:07All the best.
15:09I have nothing to do with it.
15:21They have such a massive collection of all the gods at our home only.
15:25All these monsters at our farms are borrowed from younger.
15:30Your wife is the goddess.
15:32And husband is the super god.
15:34And we consider parents as gods anyway.
15:38Then why do you need spirituality now?
15:41Now when the entire Fatimidhi of God is available at your place,
15:46what is the use of spirituality,
15:48reading Bhagavad Gita or the opening shahads?
15:50Tell me why?
15:51Your home has all of this.