90 Day Fiance S11 E03
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00:00:00Previously on 90 Day Fiancé.
00:00:02I want your pumpkin.
00:00:04No, my pumpkin.
00:00:06I love being married to Matt.
00:00:08We do all the typical family things,
00:00:11but there is one aspect of our life
00:00:13that is slightly less typical.
00:00:17We're a couple and we have a girlfriend.
00:00:20Her name is Ani and she lives in Tijuana, Mexico.
00:00:23Our only option is to get legally divorced
00:00:26so that one of us can apply for the K-1 visa
00:00:29and bring her to the U.S.
00:00:31We were thinking about...
00:00:32Getting a divorce.
00:00:33Wait.
00:00:34Whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:00:35When you know, you know.
00:00:39Yeah, yeah.
00:00:40My fiancé, Joan, arrives from Uganda
00:00:42and I am absolutely just head over heels
00:00:44in love with this girl.
00:00:46Hey, Mom.
00:00:47Oh, hello, dear. You home?
00:00:49But living at home with my mother,
00:00:50you know, it's this huge cock block, you know.
00:00:53You know, you've been alone the whole time
00:00:55and now all of a sudden you have a woman
00:00:56in your room with you.
00:00:57Would you consider a separate room?
00:01:02I missed you.
00:01:05My feelings are confused right now.
00:01:15When are you going?
00:01:19I see faces dropping.
00:01:22I'm the bad guy here.
00:01:24You home?
00:01:28After two years,
00:01:29Mina and Maria just arrived in America.
00:01:33Wow.
00:01:34This is Jordan and Jack.
00:01:36Yeah.
00:01:45I stay with you for life.
00:01:47I don't stay here.
00:01:48I don't stay here.
00:01:52Oh, my God.
00:01:53I'm shaking so bad.
00:01:55My parents are not feeling good with me leaving.
00:01:58They feel like what I have done.
00:02:02If I want to go back to my country,
00:02:04would you let me do that?
00:02:06It's shocking to hear Maddie say that
00:02:08in the first hours of being here.
00:02:10If Maddie chose to go back to Iran,
00:02:12I don't know that I would ever recover from that.
00:02:18I'm sorry.
00:02:36Is she happy?
00:02:37Yeah.
00:02:39Are you happy?
00:02:40Yeah.
00:02:41What?
00:02:42A little.
00:02:43A little? Come on.
00:02:48Oh, my God.
00:02:54I'm so happy.
00:02:55You're finally here, baby.
00:02:56Yeah, finally.
00:02:57It's been so long, you know?
00:02:59Yeah.
00:03:00Like two years?
00:03:02Mina just arrived,
00:03:04and it's been like this,
00:03:05like a roller coaster.
00:03:07But it's amazing to wake up having them here.
00:03:10I couldn't be happier
00:03:11because this is what we've waited for for years.
00:03:15I need to call Clayton
00:03:16or talk to Clayton.
00:03:17Yeah, you want to call him now?
00:03:18Yeah.
00:03:19Oh, of course.
00:03:20Okay.
00:03:21All right.
00:03:22Okay.
00:03:23Mina has a son from a previous relationship.
00:03:25His name is Clayton.
00:03:27Clayton's name was on the K-1 visa
00:03:29with Mina as the minor, as her son.
00:03:31And so I just thought
00:03:33he was going to be able to travel with her to the USA.
00:03:36But his passport
00:03:40had some complications that we didn't realize.
00:03:42And so Clayton's going to be staying with Mina's friend
00:03:45until we can get the paperwork sorted out.
00:03:53Clayton!
00:03:54Hey, Clayton!
00:03:56Hey, buddy. You good?
00:03:59Miss you.
00:04:08Yeah.
00:04:09First class for me and Maria.
00:04:11I ate so good.
00:04:14This is Maria, your sister.
00:04:25I can't wait for you to come back home.
00:04:31Come to the USA, Clayton.
00:04:32Your English is still good?
00:04:34Yes.
00:04:35You practicing?
00:04:36Yes.
00:04:37A little?
00:04:38You'll be okay?
00:04:39You're not sad?
00:04:43Yesterday, you were very sad.
00:04:45Because you go out of France.
00:04:51Oh, my...
00:04:52I'm going to see you in Dailong, I think.
00:04:55No, you don't take this, okay?
00:04:58I think you're coming soon.
00:05:13Why is my passport taking so long?
00:05:44Okay?
00:05:51Bisous.
00:05:52I love you.
00:05:53Merci, Tracy.
00:05:54Bisous, Clayton.
00:05:56Au revoir.
00:05:57Bye.
00:05:58See you soon.
00:06:02Tracy, she's a good person.
00:06:04But she's not a mom, you know?
00:06:07You're an amazing mom.
00:06:09I know Clayton needs you.
00:06:10You need Clayton.
00:06:13I think it's not possible for me.
00:06:15I go to church, know my son.
00:06:18I need to change date for the wedding.
00:06:21It's not possible to change the date, baby.
00:06:23It's 90 days.
00:06:24You have to leave the USA if we don't get married.
00:06:28My God.
00:06:38I don't know what to do, you know?
00:06:40We got yours resolved.
00:06:42It's a problem for Clayton.
00:06:43I don't know.
00:06:51I don't know what I can do.
00:06:56You can't go back right now because then you can't come.
00:07:01If you go back, you can't come back.
00:07:03It's a one-time entry, so I don't know what else we can do.
00:07:07It's not for you, baby.
00:07:09I love you so much.
00:07:10It's not this.
00:07:11It's this because I'm a mom.
00:07:13You know, I say maybe it's not a good choice.
00:07:17I need to wait for coming together.
00:07:20I don't know my money.
00:07:22I'm very confused.
00:07:23I'm very confused.
00:07:25I know you're confused, but we're working on it.
00:07:27I'm getting married and you're not my son here.
00:07:40I love you.
00:08:04I'm thinking about two colors.
00:08:06I am down.
00:08:07Let's do it.
00:08:11Oh, my heart is burning.
00:08:14I am so glad I found your salon, and I'm going
00:08:17to tell all my friends about it.
00:08:19OK.
00:08:20Well, how much do I owe you?
00:08:2310.
00:08:26OK, can we come to another agreement?
00:08:28Can I pay you in lots and lots of hugs and kisses?
00:08:31No.
00:08:32I want 10.
00:08:34$10.
00:08:36Today, Matt and I are going to travel to Mexico.
00:08:39We're so excited to see our girlfriend, Ani.
00:08:44We're going to be in Mexico for two weeks,
00:08:46and it's the longest I've ever been without my babies,
00:08:50and I'm so, so sad.
00:08:52It's hard when you're dating, but you also have kids.
00:08:56We'll be gone for just a little bit, a couple weeks.
00:09:00A few days, and we'll FaceTime you.
00:09:03Two hands worth.
00:09:05Two hands.
00:09:06Ani has three kids, and we want this to work
00:09:10for the sake of our children as well.
00:09:12We fantasize about having a family life together
00:09:15as a throuple all the time.
00:09:17Kids drop-offs, our brunch routines.
00:09:21Imagine sharing life's burden together.
00:09:23Imagine sharing happy, beautiful moments
00:09:26and the holidays together.
00:09:28I just think it can be something so, so beautiful,
00:09:30bigger than the three of us can imagine.
00:09:33Oh, my baby. Come, come, come.
00:09:36I love you.
00:09:38I love you. I love you.
00:09:40You'll be good for Brittany, okay?
00:09:42Okay.
00:09:43This time when we go to Mexico,
00:09:45it'll be a lot different than the previous times.
00:09:47Well, y'all be careful.
00:09:49Bye, baby.
00:09:50The first half of the trip,
00:09:51we'll be spending some time in Ensenada.
00:09:53We'll be romantic,
00:09:54doing all these touristy things together.
00:09:56On the second part of the trip, we're going to Guadalajara,
00:09:59and that's where Ani's from.
00:10:01We want to see how she acts around her family.
00:10:04I think this is a lot about somebody.
00:10:08So many of our friends and stuff know about her now, you know,
00:10:11and all of her friends are about to meet us,
00:10:14so how is she going to handle that?
00:10:16There's a little bit of nervousness.
00:10:18It's normal, because when you care, you're nervous,
00:10:21but we're super excited.
00:10:26I don't know, I just, it's just,
00:10:29I don't know, I just, it was hard for me to leave them.
00:10:34I mean, I'm devastated.
00:10:36I haven't left them that long before.
00:10:38Yeah, I get it, honey.
00:10:46I just feel horrible.
00:10:51I feel like a s*** mom.
00:10:53Honey, we are very much there for our children.
00:10:57It's not about being there for them,
00:10:59it's like leaving them for two weeks to pursue love.
00:11:02You know, sometimes I'm like,
00:11:04why can't we just be like the normal parents?
00:11:10Leaving our kids is getting harder and harder.
00:11:13We leave to Mexico, have a hole in our heart
00:11:15because our babies are missing.
00:11:17We come back to the States, we have a hole in our heart
00:11:20We come back to the States, we have a hole in our heart
00:11:22because Ani's not there.
00:11:24But to sponsor someone for the K1 visa is a huge commitment,
00:11:28and because we have a family,
00:11:30the risks or stakes are much higher.
00:11:33We need to be sure we're confident
00:11:35to make the right decision
00:11:36and take the next step in their relationship.
00:11:40Sometimes we're with her a whole week trip,
00:11:41and then we go back home, and it's like,
00:11:43oh, this was nice to be our one-on-one time.
00:11:45There would be a time there was no more one-on-one,
00:11:48like, how do we navigate that?
00:11:50Maybe there should be boundaries or rules, or I don't know.
00:11:54I think that we're never going to learn this process
00:11:58if we're not in it.
00:12:02Like, I've always been the jealous, possessive person
00:12:04in the relationship.
00:12:05It's the Middle Eastern in me, I guess.
00:12:08Or maybe it's just me, so.
00:12:09I would like to be kept in the known,
00:12:12like, if you had any conversations with her
00:12:15that, you know, maybe I wasn't part of,
00:12:17or you started doing some things that I wasn't part of,
00:12:20like, I want to know, you know?
00:12:23It's already complicated to be with a woman,
00:12:26let alone being in a throuple.
00:12:29I want to make sure that they're growing their relationship,
00:12:33but there's a possibility where potentially Matt
00:12:37can develop stronger and stronger feelings for her.
00:12:42I always, like, wonder, like, what if
00:12:45another woman could be a better partner to Matt than me?
00:12:49Like, all the things that I'm not good at,
00:12:51what if she was good at it?
00:12:52All the things that are important to him.
00:12:54What if another woman would check all the boxes more than me?
00:12:58We're going to cross, you ready?
00:13:00Crossing the border.
00:13:04No matter what, we know, going back from this trip,
00:13:06things are going to change.
00:13:08No matter what, we know, going back from this trip,
00:13:10things are going to be different.
00:13:11What direction, we don't know, so that's the hard part.
00:13:20I actually made a loaf of bread.
00:13:22So instead of holding up a sign,
00:13:24I'm going to hold up a loaf of sourdough.
00:13:25Today's the day where Joan arrives from Uganda,
00:13:28and, like, I am just so ecstatic.
00:13:30It feels like I've been waiting my entire life for this moment.
00:13:33It's like, you know, opening that box of pizza,
00:13:35just having that first slice, taking that first bite.
00:13:38Oh, my God.
00:13:41Last night, he said something about
00:13:43that you're already having some doubts,
00:13:45that maybe you might want to go back.
00:13:47Maybe.
00:13:49I have never been away from my family,
00:13:51from my parents, for my whole life.
00:13:53I miss them already.
00:13:57If you're having regrets already,
00:13:59you're not going to get through 90 days,
00:14:01or our entire life.
00:14:06It's game time.
00:14:08Coma, she is so cinematic.
00:14:10Come around the way, girl, say I'm the baddest.
00:14:18The hell, the cookie's coming out.
00:14:22Pretty good, man.
00:14:25Whoo!
00:14:33Another humid day.
00:14:37So you have to leave soon?
00:14:39Yeah, I got to get going as soon as possible.
00:14:42You putting mayonnaise or anything?
00:14:44No, she don't like mayo.
00:14:45Oh.
00:14:47You just making one?
00:14:48You got enough meat there for two.
00:14:50You got the micromanager over here.
00:14:52No cheese?
00:14:53No cheese.
00:14:54Watch out.
00:14:55Come on.
00:14:56Today's the day where Joan arrives from Uganda,
00:14:58and I am just so ecstatic.
00:15:00I can't even control myself.
00:15:01I feel like I'm just going to shoot out of these boots
00:15:03like a rocket from SpaceX or something like that.
00:15:08So, what's on your mind?
00:15:09What's going on?
00:15:11I was thinking,
00:15:12have you thought anymore about separate rooms?
00:15:15I mean, I really haven't.
00:15:17I know it's hard.
00:15:19You know what I mean?
00:15:20I know it's very concerning for you.
00:15:22I just don't need to hear things going on.
00:15:25You don't want to hear the bed rocking or anything like that?
00:15:27Yeah, I just don't want to hear it.
00:15:28It's not my business, you know?
00:15:31I get that.
00:15:32Mom wants us sleeping in separate bedrooms
00:15:34because, you know, the house, I guess,
00:15:36the walls are very thin.
00:15:37So if we're getting intimate,
00:15:38we're getting sexual with each other,
00:15:39I mean, she can probably pick up,
00:15:41you know, everything that's going on.
00:15:43You know, I'm not used to you having a woman
00:15:45in your bed with you.
00:15:46I get that.
00:15:47I do wish things were different.
00:15:49Of course I want my own place,
00:15:50and I want privacy for ourselves,
00:15:52but this is what we have to deal with for now,
00:15:54and we're going to get through it.
00:15:56You want this all in a little shopping bag?
00:15:58I know you're going to put it in the shopping bag anyway,
00:16:00so boom, go.
00:16:01You can't just have it loose like this.
00:16:05Pack it up.
00:16:06I know when they're together here,
00:16:08they want to spend time alone,
00:16:09you know, to do what they want as the urge strikes.
00:16:12You've got to get your shoes on, right?
00:16:14Oh, shoes, shirt.
00:16:16Cologne.
00:16:18But I hope they still want to, you know,
00:16:20have me around in their life,
00:16:22and, you know, I ain't going to be, like,
00:16:24a third wheel to them,
00:16:25and, you know, that Gregory will still appreciate me
00:16:27and not tell me to get lost.
00:16:32So besides the cookies,
00:16:33I actually made a loaf of bread.
00:16:36Oh, that's cute.
00:16:37So instead of holding up a sign,
00:16:39I'm going to hold up a loaf of sourdough.
00:16:41I hope she sees that.
00:16:42It says Joan, right?
00:16:44Joan and I started this K1 process
00:16:46about a year and a half ago,
00:16:47and it is just absolutely crazy
00:16:49that it's happening now.
00:16:51I love you, Mom.
00:16:52Love you.
00:16:53I'll let you know about dinner.
00:17:02It feels like I've been waiting
00:17:03my entire life for this moment.
00:17:06It's like, you know,
00:17:07opening that big box of pizza
00:17:08and just having that first slice,
00:17:09taking that first bite.
00:17:10It's going to be like
00:17:12the whole world has stopped for a second,
00:17:14and all my fireworks,
00:17:15and just beautiful, man.
00:17:17Like I'm at a ten-piece orchestra symphony, you know?
00:17:21It's amazing.
00:17:43So our flight has arrived at 103.
00:17:45Just waiting to come out now, man.
00:17:47It's exciting.
00:17:48This is crazy.
00:17:50This is crazy, man.
00:18:06Oh, my God.
00:18:20Hey.
00:18:22You see the bread?
00:18:24Oh, wow.
00:18:34Oh, my God, I f***ing love you.
00:18:38You see the bread?
00:18:40Yes, I like it.
00:18:42Instead of holding a cardboard sign, you know?
00:18:44You see the bread?
00:18:48My name is John, and I'm from Kampala, Uganda.
00:18:50So I've traveled all the way from Uganda
00:18:52to meet my fiancé, Gregory.
00:18:54So I'm excited to be here.
00:18:58Oh, my God.
00:19:00I love you so much, baby.
00:19:02I love you.
00:19:04Let's get you out of here.
00:19:06It feels amazing to be reunited again.
00:19:08It feels like I'm waking up for the first time ever,
00:19:10being born out of my mom's womb, you know?
00:19:14Sorry, sorry, sorry.
00:19:18Oh, my God, baby.
00:19:20Come here.
00:19:26No, no, no, no.
00:19:30So, baby, we got the bread,
00:19:32made you some bread, ginger cookies.
00:19:34Wow. Can I have one?
00:19:36Yeah, of course.
00:19:38I've missed Greg so much.
00:19:40Oh, he's looking great.
00:19:42Yeah, I like that.
00:19:46I'm glad we're done with this long distance.
00:19:48I'm really excited.
00:19:54I almost missed my flight.
00:19:56Really? I was so worried about that.
00:19:58I'm not gonna lie.
00:20:00I can never do this again.
00:20:02Never again. You don't have to, baby. You don't have to.
00:20:04Oh, man, I can't wait to show you
00:20:06how to make bread, you know?
00:20:08Sourdough.
00:20:10Probably not tonight, right?
00:20:12Right now, I'm on, like,
00:20:14cloud nine. Like, seriously, I'm up there.
00:20:16I'm hovering. But I do
00:20:18have a realization of what needs to be done.
00:20:20I wish
00:20:22I could just take her back from this airport
00:20:24and go home to our own place,
00:20:26our own apartment, and I just worry about
00:20:28being enough for her and
00:20:30this life being enough for her.
00:20:34I can't believe you're here, baby.
00:20:36Can you believe this or what?
00:20:38Can you?
00:20:54Did you sleep well?
00:20:56Yeah, I'm gonna go to bed.
00:20:58You can't get sick.
00:21:00I've heard it's very expensive to go
00:21:02see a doctor.
00:21:08What do you want to do today?
00:21:10There's a really
00:21:12famous building
00:21:14and that I've
00:21:16seen in, like, videos.
00:21:18Is it in French?
00:21:20The French Quarter?
00:21:22Yeah.
00:21:24I'd love to go there.
00:21:26Our first night in New Orleans was just as good
00:21:28as our first night together ever.
00:21:30I think this one was
00:21:32way better because I wasn't
00:21:34stressed. I was, like,
00:21:36relaxed and, like,
00:21:40more professional.
00:21:42More professional?
00:21:44Yeah.
00:21:46Yeah.
00:21:48He's a professional now, thanks to me.
00:21:54I was gonna ask you, last night
00:21:56when we were talking, you said something about
00:21:58how it would feel if you
00:22:00went back to your country.
00:22:02Yeah.
00:22:04Yeah.
00:22:06So you're already maybe having some doubts that maybe you might
00:22:08want to go back?
00:22:10The thing is, it just
00:22:12crossed my mind, like,
00:22:14I said it without even thinking about it.
00:22:16That would mean that you shouldn't have made this decision
00:22:18to begin with.
00:22:20It wasn't a serious question because...
00:22:22It's supposed to be.
00:22:28It hurts hearing Maddie say that
00:22:30he could possibly want to go back to Iran
00:22:32because it's my
00:22:34understanding that if he ever chooses to
00:22:36go back home, he may not be
00:22:38able to return back to the United States.
00:22:40If you're having
00:22:42regrets already, we're not
00:22:44gonna get through 90 days or
00:22:46our entire life. I mean, like,
00:22:48it's already happening, so...
00:22:50I'm sorry if it
00:22:52made you feel bad. I would have never
00:22:54asked that if I knew.
00:22:56You don't go into something if you, like,
00:22:58have doubts that you might possibly
00:23:00not want it later.
00:23:02Right now, you are
00:23:04more important than my parents,
00:23:06okay? I chose you.
00:23:08But you're saying that it could possibly change
00:23:10and you would be willing to go back and take that risk.
00:23:14It hurts.
00:23:18I have never been away from my family,
00:23:20from my parents, for my whole life.
00:23:22I miss them already.
00:23:24This happened in my mind for three seconds.
00:23:26I didn't think that it would hurt her.
00:23:28So, I'm just regretting
00:23:30that I asked her.
00:23:32I miss my parents,
00:23:34and if you asked me, like,
00:23:36two weeks ago, it was like,
00:23:38I would never go back if I want to see them.
00:23:40I think right now it's just hard.
00:23:42Maybe it'll get easier.
00:23:46Maybe.
00:23:58All right.
00:24:04Honestly,
00:24:06I did have a lot of guilt about
00:24:08Maddie leaving his family
00:24:10because I really ultimately wanted to make sure
00:24:12that that was the decision he wanted to do
00:24:14before he left.
00:24:16It's a lot of pressure knowing that I have to
00:24:18kind of fulfill
00:24:20all the voids that he has
00:24:22from leaving.
00:24:24It's also really scary when someone says,
00:24:26like, if it's not enough, then they'll go back,
00:24:28you know, because you can't
00:24:30fill that void.
00:24:54Something I'm worried about the most
00:24:56is us having a bad fight, and
00:24:58I'm like, get out of my place.
00:25:00Yeah, and where he is going to go?
00:25:02My friends,
00:25:04he can call on them, too.
00:25:06I think she's still feeling that
00:25:08he will visit her home
00:25:10rather than they're going to live in the same house
00:25:12together.
00:25:14He may come back.
00:25:16I definitely have friends that would, like, have a neutral position.
00:25:18Oh, my God, you don't know him at all.
00:25:20Really?
00:25:24Oh, my God.
00:25:38For you.
00:25:48Hello.
00:25:54Come on.
00:25:56She wanted to go to
00:25:58pool, and I can't say no to her,
00:26:00you know?
00:26:02He wants to swim all the time,
00:26:04so they're a good match.
00:26:06Yeah.
00:26:08I want to see you do a cannonball, babe.
00:26:10You and her made me
00:26:12a circus monkey,
00:26:14you know that? But I'm happy.
00:26:16That's my faith.
00:26:20They're so cute.
00:26:24Whoa!
00:26:26Cute.
00:26:28She did more of a cannonball.
00:26:30Cheers, sister.
00:26:32Cheers to the
00:26:34new beginnings, let's say.
00:26:36Yeah.
00:26:38How are you feeling? Happy?
00:26:40I feel relieved,
00:26:42really happy.
00:26:44I feel
00:26:46a little bit, like, sad, too,
00:26:48and guilty
00:26:50and bad about taking him away
00:26:52because he's the only one,
00:26:54and I am the only one
00:26:56in this small family.
00:26:58That's why our parents
00:27:00feel sad
00:27:02how he's away.
00:27:04I know.
00:27:06I hate that, I know.
00:27:08That's the thing, I think.
00:27:10I hope they don't end up resenting me
00:27:12for this.
00:27:14We have
00:27:16our own doubts, that's it.
00:27:18I get it.
00:27:20For us, it's really,
00:27:22we don't
00:27:24feel okay
00:27:26for him to be there alone,
00:27:28obviously.
00:27:30Like, you know,
00:27:32you fight,
00:27:34right, when you are here,
00:27:36and you
00:27:38left the house
00:27:40a couple times.
00:27:42That's the thing I'm worried about
00:27:44the most is us having a bad fight
00:27:46and
00:27:48I'm like, get out of my place.
00:27:50Yeah, and where he is going to go?
00:27:52He may come back.
00:27:56Yeah.
00:27:58But I want to connect him
00:28:00to good people that he feels like
00:28:02even though they're my friends,
00:28:04he can call on them, too.
00:28:06Do you think that your friends will open their houses?
00:28:08I definitely have friends that
00:28:10have a neutral position.
00:28:12Really?
00:28:14Why?
00:28:16One thing
00:28:18she says
00:28:20alarm me, like,
00:28:22whatever happens
00:28:24between us, my friends
00:28:26can always open their doors
00:28:28to him, which is,
00:28:30which was weird because he doesn't have to
00:28:32go somewhere else because
00:28:34right now,
00:28:36the house will be theirs.
00:28:38But I think she's still feeling that
00:28:40he will visit her home
00:28:42rather than they're going to live in the
00:28:44same house together.
00:28:46I don't want
00:28:48to scare you or
00:28:50something, but
00:28:52I don't know. Are you
00:28:54really ready to
00:28:56handle a side
00:28:58of him that
00:29:00opens up when he
00:29:02feels he's not in control?
00:29:04It is different. You know,
00:29:06he's not making an income in Los Angeles
00:29:08and that makes him feel like he's not
00:29:10in the power seat.
00:29:12It will make him react
00:29:14in a way that he wouldn't
00:29:16in here.
00:29:18In my experience with Sarper,
00:29:20he does not handle not being
00:29:22in control very well. And he
00:29:24will create chaos for us
00:29:26if he feels like things aren't going
00:29:28his way or that he's not
00:29:30in the driver's seat. So
00:29:32I'm just worried that him
00:29:34feeling out of control
00:29:36in the U.S. could cause him to
00:29:38just sabotage what we have.
00:29:40What did you talk?
00:29:42Nothing. That's for us girls
00:29:44to know. Yeah. Girls talk.
00:29:46Girls talk.
00:29:50This is the dresser. You know,
00:29:52it's kind of more like convenience
00:29:54store. It's small.
00:29:56It's a little different than Paris.
00:29:58Of course.
00:30:00They don't have the fresh mushrooms.
00:30:02This is crema mushroom soup.
00:30:06It's hot, you know?
00:30:08And she had asked
00:30:10maybe you wanted to sleep in like a separate room.
00:30:12I think
00:30:14about what I had to sacrifice
00:30:16to come to America.
00:30:18So it's really hard.
00:30:20I'm sad. I feel like crying.
00:30:22Don't cry.
00:30:24I
00:30:26don't
00:30:28care what the
00:30:30people say.
00:30:32I'm gonna dance my
00:30:34dance anyway.
00:30:36Is it
00:30:38spiritual now?
00:30:40Maria, no. It's not
00:30:42for baby.
00:30:44Fly away.
00:30:46Fly away.
00:30:50Maria,
00:30:52come to eat.
00:30:54You don't have your chair.
00:30:56Just sit
00:30:58some bigger.
00:31:00And this.
00:31:02Oh my god.
00:31:04Okay.
00:31:06I try.
00:31:08Because now it's not
00:31:10comfortable for you. Try.
00:31:12You okay?
00:31:14Bon appetit.
00:31:16Oh my god.
00:31:18Baby,
00:31:20what's the smoke?
00:31:22You burned something?
00:31:24It's okay.
00:31:26You find everything?
00:31:28Yeah.
00:31:30But you don't have the chair for Maria.
00:31:32You don't buy it.
00:31:34I almost did. I was gonna, but then I got busy
00:31:36and getting you.
00:31:38So I didn't have time.
00:31:40But we can go into town again.
00:31:42You know, it's been
00:31:4420 plus years since I raised a baby.
00:31:46So you gotta expect a few things
00:31:48to slip through the cracks, baby.
00:31:50Maria, come.
00:31:52Come, daddy.
00:31:54The eye chair.
00:31:56The diapers.
00:31:58I messed up.
00:32:00I should have made a checklist.
00:32:02I know.
00:32:08Why you have this?
00:32:10What is this?
00:32:12Yeah, it's like
00:32:14entrance for privacy, you know.
00:32:16Ah, okay.
00:32:18Aviation community.
00:32:20The one time I saw a bear,
00:32:22it was right here.
00:32:26Serious?
00:32:28Yeah, he came out on the street.
00:32:30I was biking and the bear came out.
00:32:32I know this is a small town.
00:32:34It's a little different than Paris.
00:32:36Of course.
00:32:38And the bear tell me
00:32:40he eat me and me and Maria.
00:32:42No, the bears are friendly here.
00:32:44They're nice bears.
00:32:46They're nice bears.
00:32:48Do you remember the place,
00:32:50the bacon from this morning?
00:32:52I got it here.
00:32:54So they have a lot of...
00:32:56I hope.
00:32:58I'll get Maria.
00:33:00Yeah.
00:33:04Come on, baby girl.
00:33:06Go inside.
00:33:08Wow.
00:33:14You know, it's kind of more
00:33:16like convenience store.
00:33:18It's small.
00:33:20Come on.
00:33:22We look for diapers for you.
00:33:26Okay.
00:33:28Bonjour.
00:33:30Okay.
00:33:38Allez, maintenant.
00:33:40Come on, Maria.
00:33:42Ici.
00:33:44And where's the lamb?
00:33:46I don't think they have the lamb here.
00:33:48I don't, but we can check.
00:33:50Okay.
00:33:52I don't know, but glance in the fridge back here.
00:33:54They might have meat.
00:33:58Ah, yeah.
00:34:00So here is the meat and dairy.
00:34:02Now I change my mind.
00:34:04You have pasta.
00:34:06This is like frozen stuff to reheat.
00:34:16It's a gas station.
00:34:18It's convenience store.
00:34:20It's for emergency.
00:34:22You just run down, you get this, you come back.
00:34:24Oh, my God.
00:34:28They don't have the fresh mushroom?
00:34:30I doubt it.
00:34:32These are like canned, you know?
00:34:34I don't even think they have mushroom.
00:34:36This is crema mushroom soup.
00:34:40Oh, Maria.
00:34:42Hello.
00:34:44Good, how are you?
00:34:46I think so, but you don't have lamb here, do you?
00:34:48Like lamb chops or anything like that?
00:34:50No, nothing like that.
00:34:52I didn't think so, but we were just checking.
00:34:54And the fresh mushroom, no?
00:34:56No.
00:34:58That's the first time anybody's ever asked me for that.
00:35:00That's all right.
00:35:02We have to pay, Maria.
00:35:04Wait, I have to pay? I give it back.
00:35:08You're welcome.
00:35:10We go back home.
00:35:12We change your diaper. Mama's got diapers, too.
00:35:24I like this name.
00:35:26What name?
00:35:28Where you see
00:35:30Manchester
00:35:34Oh, Manchester.
00:35:38Where?
00:35:40I see the...
00:35:42The sign?
00:35:44Massachusetts.
00:35:46Yes.
00:35:48This is a state, Massachusetts.
00:35:52How did you say that again?
00:35:54I like this.
00:35:56It's sexy.
00:35:58Maria, maybe a place for you.
00:36:00Sure.
00:36:02Okay.
00:36:04Oh, my God.
00:36:08Okay.
00:36:20Everything in here has a bear on it.
00:36:22Yeah, the bear home.
00:36:24It's cool.
00:36:26Can I help you find anything?
00:36:28Yeah, so they just moved here from France,
00:36:30and we didn't move everything.
00:36:32So we need a, you know, baby high chair
00:36:34for her to eat.
00:36:36Do you have anything like that?
00:36:38Nothing specifically
00:36:40for a baby.
00:36:42For a toddler, I guess.
00:36:44Yeah, we've got counter stools and bar stools, but...
00:36:46And this town, you don't have babies?
00:36:48No.
00:36:50Yeah, we don't do much for the baby furniture here.
00:36:52Okay.
00:36:54But take a look around,
00:36:56and if you see anything else, just give a holler, okay?
00:36:58Yeah, we'll look around. I might be able to convince her.
00:37:00Okay.
00:37:18What do you think? Anything you like?
00:37:20No.
00:37:22No?
00:37:46Everything is new.
00:37:48This is America, baby.
00:37:50This is America.
00:37:52Look at all the grass, everything, right?
00:37:54No fruit trees, though.
00:37:56Yeah, but you also have some trees.
00:37:58I thought you don't have trees.
00:38:00I never said it.
00:38:02No, I said it. I saw it, like, on street.
00:38:04Yeah, yeah.
00:38:06I'm in America.
00:38:18And welcome to New York.
00:38:20We have a beautiful skyline in front of us.
00:38:22And if you look to your right, you will see,
00:38:24I don't even know,
00:38:26just empty space or a road.
00:38:28Yeah.
00:38:32So, I mean, I have so many people
00:38:34who want to meet you, though, baby,
00:38:36seriously, so many people.
00:38:38Yes, well, you'll know.
00:38:40Yeah. She's really excited to meet you.
00:38:42You're going to be meeting her soon.
00:38:44I'm also excited, but also nervous.
00:38:46So, we were having a conversation
00:38:48about you coming here.
00:38:50And, you know,
00:38:52one thing we were talking about
00:38:54is just, like, obviously us getting intimate,
00:38:56making love.
00:38:58And she was very concerned
00:39:00because she doesn't want to hear noises
00:39:02and all these crazy things.
00:39:06You talked to your parents about intimacy?
00:39:08It's not that I got into, like,
00:39:10raw details about everything,
00:39:12like, you know what I mean?
00:39:14But, you know, the whole situation
00:39:16as far as my mom not wanting to hear
00:39:18what's going on between us,
00:39:20you know what I mean?
00:39:22I told her, I was like, listen, I hear you,
00:39:24I understand, and she had asked
00:39:26if it was possible...
00:39:28Oh, my God.
00:39:30If it was possible to what?
00:39:32Maybe you wanted to sleep in, like, a separate room.
00:39:38I'm not sleeping in a separate room.
00:39:41No, I don't...
00:39:43I don't want you to, you know?
00:39:45Maybe we can compromise on something
00:39:47with my mom, like, leaving the door open.
00:39:54Obviously, when we go to sleep
00:39:56and she's in bed, we're closing the door.
00:39:58Like, that's gonna happen, you know what I mean?
00:40:00But, like, during the day, if we're all home
00:40:02and she's home, she doesn't want us, like,
00:40:04going upstairs and fooling around, you know?
00:40:07Like, I don't know, I just don't want to disrespect
00:40:09my mom in her house,
00:40:11and I completely understand that,
00:40:13you know what I mean?
00:40:15But, listen, going into this, like,
00:40:17I hope you're not mad or, you know what I mean?
00:40:19Don't be, like, sour or, you know?
00:40:31Don't cry. It's alive.
00:40:37I didn't expect that.
00:40:39I think about what I had to sacrifice
00:40:42to come to America.
00:40:44In Uganda, I had, like, a life.
00:40:46I'm a director at an NGO,
00:40:48so I have a bachelor's degree.
00:40:50And here, in America, I'm, like, I'm a nobody.
00:40:52I have nothing to do.
00:40:54I have to just sit home,
00:40:56staying in my mother-in-law's house.
00:40:58So...
00:41:00it's really hard.
00:41:03Are you really crying?
00:41:05Come on, baby.
00:41:11Now what? Coming back to my mom's house
00:41:13and having to deal with...
00:41:15Yeah.
00:41:18I feel so bad about that.
00:41:20I mean, I know she's tired, I know she's exhausted.
00:41:22She's feeling extremely vulnerable at this point,
00:41:24I could imagine, so I wanted this day
00:41:26to just go smooth, you know?
00:41:28And the fact that now she's feeling like this,
00:41:30it's not what I expected at all.
00:41:32It's a pretty stressful situation.
00:41:36Like, I don't...
00:41:38There's no words to describe what I'm feeling right now.
00:41:40It's gonna be all right, baby.
00:41:42It's gonna be good. Don't worry.
00:41:44Hope so.
00:41:49Singing and dancing,
00:41:51if you do that in Iran,
00:41:53they can arrest you.
00:41:55I can feel the freedom.
00:41:57Watching Maddie walk around New Orleans is like
00:41:59when you bring a kid to Disneyland
00:42:01and they're, like, overstimulated.
00:42:03Would you say these in your country?
00:42:05Never.
00:42:07Oh, my gosh.
00:42:21Look at the street performer
00:42:23across the street.
00:42:25It's like a different planet to me.
00:42:27Yeah. Let's go get something to eat.
00:42:29Oh, yeah.
00:42:33How do you feel?
00:42:35I feel weird.
00:42:37Like, I do not belong here, but I'd like to be...
00:42:45I love this.
00:42:47Do you want to hold your bag?
00:42:49No, I'm fine.
00:42:51Josh?
00:42:53It's amazing.
00:42:55I told you, it's good.
00:42:57When I had the first bite,
00:42:59I was like, boom.
00:43:01I've never had anything close to it.
00:43:03I really hope that
00:43:05all American snack and food
00:43:07do not taste and feel like beignet
00:43:09because if that's the case,
00:43:11I think I'm gonna gain so much weight.
00:43:13I wish I could send one of these
00:43:15to my family in Iran.
00:43:23Do you need these?
00:43:25Do I?
00:43:27Yeah.
00:43:29Would you see these in your country?
00:43:31Never.
00:43:33Not even the picture, like...
00:43:35Nothing.
00:43:37Like the head.
00:43:39I mean, you can't see the head.
00:43:41Oh, my gosh.
00:43:45This is too much.
00:43:47This is too much.
00:43:53She's not a real man.
00:43:55She's not real.
00:43:57Do you want a picture?
00:43:59No?
00:44:01It's so scary.
00:44:03Watching Maddie walk around New Orleans
00:44:05is like when you bring
00:44:07a kid to Disneyland
00:44:09and they're like overstimulated
00:44:11by everything that they see.
00:44:13I feel like Maddie didn't know
00:44:15which way to look
00:44:17or what to look at
00:44:19or what was appropriate to look at.
00:44:21When does the flashing stuff start?
00:44:23Tonight.
00:44:25Do you count necklace?
00:44:27Oh, like boobie beads?
00:44:29Huh?
00:44:31Oh, beads, yes.
00:44:35Seeing people singing
00:44:37and dancing on the street,
00:44:39it just feels weird
00:44:41because if you do that in Iran,
00:44:43like, they can arrest you.
00:44:45Did you know that?
00:44:47For dancing?
00:44:49For dancing, for like singing.
00:44:51I can feel the freedom.
00:44:53Yeah, obviously here.
00:44:55Did you know that
00:44:57you can't do that in Iran, too?
00:44:59What?
00:45:01You can't have your dog
00:45:03even on a leash.
00:45:05Where are you supposed to keep it?
00:45:07I don't know, at home?
00:45:09I feel like everything has changed.
00:45:11Two years ago, I was in Iran.
00:45:13Everything was, like,
00:45:15like a really, um...
00:45:17I have to be...
00:45:19Careful.
00:45:21Yeah, I have to be careful about the words.
00:45:23You can speak freely here.
00:45:25You're an American.
00:45:27I know, but I'm worried about my family.
00:45:29It just goes back to the politics stuff and...
00:45:31It's not comparable.
00:45:33Yeah.
00:45:37Are you ready to go home?
00:45:39Is it gonna be way different than here?
00:45:41Oh, yeah, for sure.
00:45:43I feel like I had a...
00:45:45Sunglasses in Iran
00:45:47that I could see everything
00:45:49darker, but here
00:45:51everything looks more
00:45:53colorful and livable.
00:45:55I can totally feel
00:45:57the freedom here.
00:45:59I told you a hundred times, but
00:46:01I really feel like I'm still dreaming.
00:46:05I'm so sad
00:46:07to leave you guys.
00:46:11It is really
00:46:13difficult leaving everything
00:46:15that hurts.
00:46:17How are you feeling, babe?
00:46:19Confused.
00:46:21I changed a lot of things
00:46:23in my life for her.
00:46:25I hope she appreciates that.
00:46:27I think it's a little overly
00:46:29dramatic because
00:46:31you're a grown man.
00:46:37My name is Annie.
00:46:39Matt is my boyfriend,
00:46:41and Amani is my girlfriend.
00:46:43I work in the strip club
00:46:45in Tijuana,
00:46:47but they wanna go for
00:46:49live together.
00:47:01I'm scared. I'm afraid.
00:47:07We're gonna leave.
00:47:09I'm so sad to leave you guys.
00:47:13Bye, Ani.
00:47:15Daughter.
00:47:17So good to see you.
00:47:19I love you.
00:47:21I love you.
00:47:23I love you.
00:47:25I love you.
00:47:27I love you.
00:47:29I love you.
00:47:31I love you.
00:47:33I love you.
00:47:35So good to see you again.
00:47:39Sarper and I are headed
00:47:41back to Istanbul this morning
00:47:43and saying goodbye to his family at the summer cottage.
00:47:45This has been a very hard visit.
00:47:47It's been really heavy
00:47:49feeling, and, you know,
00:47:51we delivered news to his family
00:47:53that made them feel so sad.
00:47:55It's really difficult
00:47:57leaving everything,
00:47:59going to U.S.,
00:48:01to a surrounding that I don't know anyone,
00:48:03but Shikanya only.
00:48:05Knowing that I cannot come here
00:48:07whenever I want,
00:48:09that hurts.
00:48:25How are you feeling, babe?
00:48:27Confused.
00:48:29You feel confused?
00:48:31Yeah.
00:48:33Yeah, it made me a little confused.
00:48:35How is it from your point of view?
00:48:37Honestly?
00:48:39Honestly.
00:48:41I think it's a little
00:48:43overly
00:48:45emotional.
00:48:47Yeah.
00:48:49Yeah.
00:48:51Yeah.
00:48:53It's a little
00:48:55overly
00:48:57traumatic because
00:48:59you're a grown man
00:49:01and it kind of seems like
00:49:03you're attached
00:49:05to the hip with your parents
00:49:07and like you
00:49:09have never been away from them before.
00:49:15You cannot get it.
00:49:17It's a little different in Turkey,
00:49:19you know? It's not about being mama boy
00:49:21It's something being
00:49:23close to each other
00:49:25to help whenever needed.
00:49:27That's a big thing.
00:49:29But you have me now.
00:49:31I'm your family now.
00:49:33I chose you over them.
00:49:35That's right.
00:49:37You don't need to choose me over them.
00:49:39Baby, you saw my mother's face.
00:49:41Like I said, you're a grown up.
00:49:43One day Sophie tells you
00:49:45that she goes to another country.
00:49:47I raised her to be very independent.
00:49:49Maybe that you can feel
00:49:51my mother's feelings.
00:49:53She kind of has different
00:49:55cultures, the family relationships
00:49:57so different than ours.
00:49:59Look at my family.
00:50:01I mean, how supportive they are
00:50:03in any condition.
00:50:05And she kind of family is not supporting her enough.
00:50:07And it's a big contrast.
00:50:09So, I mean, sometimes
00:50:11it is difficult for her to understand
00:50:13the relationship with my family.
00:50:15I'm leaving everything
00:50:17that I built up back,
00:50:19including my parents,
00:50:21and I'm going to answer it
00:50:23just to be with her.
00:50:33Home sweet home.
00:50:35It's not that sweet.
00:50:37What is the problem of yours with this house?
00:50:39You couldn't love this.
00:50:41You will miss this, you know.
00:50:43Look, you changed everything.
00:50:45There is nothing.
00:50:47No bottles collection.
00:50:49The only thing I would miss is you, and I'm taking you with me.
00:50:51The beginning of the end.
00:50:53The beginning
00:50:55of a new chapter.
00:50:57Not the end.
00:50:59How many years, like 12, 13 years
00:51:01I'm living here?
00:51:03Forget about them. Who cares?
00:51:05You hate this house, right?
00:51:07Do you want to pour the gasoline and burn this house
00:51:09when we are leaving?
00:51:11You're so dramatic.
00:51:13I'm living
00:51:15in my apartment for
00:51:1713 years, I think, and
00:51:19at least
00:51:21thousands of girls
00:51:23visited there.
00:51:25I have to make this place
00:51:27a museum, you know.
00:51:31I changed
00:51:33a lot of things in my life
00:51:35for her, and
00:51:37I hope she appreciates that,
00:51:39and I hope it won't be a mistake
00:51:41to go to United States.
00:51:45My biggest trouble in this world.
00:51:47I can hear you.
00:51:57I just let her
00:51:59know that we just crossed.
00:52:01She said she's been waiting
00:52:03for us all day.
00:52:11We're
00:52:13going to downtown Tijuana.
00:52:15I think there is like a festival going on
00:52:17for the Day of the Dead.
00:52:19It's probably a party.
00:52:21I got this one for you.
00:52:23I got this one.
00:52:25Check my dress.
00:52:27Ta-da.
00:52:29Who are you and what are you doing with my wife?
00:52:31I honestly don't know much about the Day of the Dead.
00:52:33I associate it
00:52:35with Halloween.
00:52:37It is a day to remember
00:52:39those in your family who have passed.
00:52:41That's not sad.
00:52:43It's not sad.
00:52:45It's supposed to be happy.
00:52:47I always see that she puts effort
00:52:49into how she looks before she sees us.
00:52:51It's cute.
00:52:53I know I do that too when I care, you know.
00:52:55With her being so mysterious
00:52:57and we're showing up in
00:52:59masks, it's fun.
00:53:01It's a little chase.
00:53:03Oh my gosh, it's almost time.
00:53:05We're getting so close.
00:53:07Every second
00:53:09goes by is a step closer
00:53:11to see Ani.
00:53:13That excitement never goes away.
00:53:15Every time we're going to see Ani,
00:53:17even if she goes to the store, I'm back.
00:53:19We're excited to see her. Seriously.
00:53:21We're like a dog.
00:53:23You're gone forever.
00:53:37My name is Ani.
00:53:39I am 37 years old.
00:53:41I'm from Guadalajara.
00:53:43Matt is my boyfriend
00:53:45and Amani is my girlfriend.
00:53:47I work in the strip club
00:53:49in Tijuana.
00:54:07We're getting loco.
00:54:09It's a win-win moment.
00:54:11We're getting loco.
00:54:13It's a win-win moment.
00:54:15We're getting loco.
00:54:37I work moving my ass.
00:54:39Do you think I'm going to judge you?
00:54:41I'm in a relationship.
00:54:43Ah, okay, okay.
00:54:45With a girl.
00:54:47She's gorgeous,
00:54:49but
00:54:51with a boy too.
00:54:53Oh, Ani!
00:54:55I'm the girlfriend of the couple.
00:54:57It's like swingers,
00:54:59but I think
00:55:01the situation is going more that way.
00:55:03It's just that they
00:55:05have to get divorced
00:55:07so I can marry them.
00:55:09They're married.
00:55:11They have two kids.
00:55:13It's going to be complicated.
00:55:15The moms
00:55:17who have this job
00:55:19are very strong women.
00:55:21I'm going to change.
00:55:23Okay.
00:55:25We need to enter 6 p.m.
00:55:27and you'll finish maybe
00:55:296 a.m.
00:55:31When you finish,
00:55:33I'm tired.
00:55:35Very, very tired.
00:55:37But I will do anything for my babies.
00:55:57I have three children.
00:55:59My first son
00:56:01is 20 years now.
00:56:03My other son is 11 years.
00:56:05And my daughter lives with me.
00:56:07She's my princess,
00:56:09Antonella.
00:56:11She has 7 years.
00:56:32You are smart.
00:56:34I have a really,
00:56:36really hard life.
00:56:38When I am 16,
00:56:40I am pregnant.
00:56:42The father of my son, he disappeared
00:56:44when I am pregnant.
00:56:46I don't have any money.
00:56:48So I started
00:56:50working in the strip club.
00:56:54Wait, I can't cry.
00:57:02No les dan la oportunidad
00:57:04que se merecen.
00:57:06Y por eso muchas hacemos
00:57:08lo que necesitamos hacer.
00:57:12Sorry.
00:57:16Oye, voy a ir a ver a Manito.
00:57:18Vengo en unos dĂas, Âżvale?
00:57:20ÂżTĂș quĂ© piensas?
00:57:22ÂżTĂș quĂ© piensas de que...
00:57:24De que vivamos juntos.
00:57:26Que nos vayamos a casa.
00:57:28De que vivamos juntos.
00:57:30Que nos vayamos a vivir a Estados Unidos.
00:57:34ÂżTe gusta la idea o no?
00:57:36SĂ.
00:57:38So many couples go to my job.
00:57:40But when I see them,
00:57:42the first time I say,
00:57:44oh my God.
00:57:48This is perfect for me
00:57:50because it's tall,
00:57:52it's pretty.
00:57:54Together it looks sexy.
00:57:56He's 10
00:57:58and she's 1,000.
00:58:02I love them because
00:58:04Amani and Matt accept me
00:58:06with my old past,
00:58:08with my job,
00:58:10with so many things in my life.
00:58:12And they both take care of me.
00:58:14Not only her, not only him.
00:58:16They both.
00:58:18In the past, I don't feel that
00:58:20because my ex-boyfriends left me.
00:58:22But Amani and Matt
00:58:24stay around.
00:58:26And I always stay with them.
00:58:38Amani and Matt,
00:58:40they told me if I want to go
00:58:42for live together.
00:58:44I'm excited,
00:58:46but I feel nervous.
00:58:48I don't know.
00:58:54I don't know.
00:59:12I'm new in the relation.
00:59:14Maybe one day
00:59:16them is tired about me.
00:59:18I don't know. I feel
00:59:20no issues,
00:59:22but
00:59:24I'm scared.
00:59:26I'm afraid.
00:59:34Mom?
00:59:36Yeah.
00:59:38All the way 7,000 miles.
00:59:40Nice and thin.
00:59:42They're not in their own place
00:59:44and have to consider me here.
00:59:46I talked to her about
00:59:48sleeping in separate rooms.
00:59:50She came here to be with me.
00:59:52It really hit her hard.
00:59:54I don't know.
01:00:00You hungry?
01:00:02Yeah.
01:00:04French fries, chicken wrap.
01:00:08Amen.
01:00:10I made all this
01:00:12from scratch.
01:00:14Cut the potatoes,
01:00:16marinate the chicken.
01:00:18They're salty.
01:00:20The fries are not for me.
01:00:24Better do your homework.
01:00:38This is it.
01:00:40The humble abode.
01:00:46Aww.
01:00:52I'm seeing Greg's house
01:00:54for the first time.
01:00:56It's a very beautiful house,
01:00:58but after Greg told me
01:01:00that his mom told him
01:01:02we have to sleep in different rooms,
01:01:04it's really making me sad.
01:01:06I can't wait to introduce you to Mom.
01:01:08If Greg had told me
01:01:10before I traveled,
01:01:12I wasn't coming to America.
01:01:14It's a bit heavy.
01:01:16Oh, yeah.
01:01:18So I come in?
01:01:20I close this?
01:01:22Mom?
01:01:24Yeah.
01:01:26Finally. What time is it?
01:01:28Quarter to ten.
01:01:30Hello.
01:01:32Oh, my God.
01:01:34All the way.
01:01:367,000 miles.
01:01:38Hi. How are you?
01:01:40Hello.
01:01:42How was your trip?
01:01:44Interesting.
01:01:46So tired.
01:01:48I see it in your eyes.
01:01:50But you made it. I can't believe it.
01:01:52Oh, that's the dog.
01:01:54This is Daisy?
01:01:56That's Daisy, yeah.
01:01:58What do you think, Mom?
01:02:00More beautiful in person?
01:02:02She's tiny.
01:02:04Nice and thin.
01:02:06Not for long.
01:02:08Being thin, right?
01:02:10Joan seems very shy
01:02:12and very clingy
01:02:14with Gregory.
01:02:16Are you guys hungry? You want to eat?
01:02:18I'm not. I'm just tired.
01:02:20We were gonna sit
01:02:22and talk over dinner.
01:02:24So just real quick,
01:02:26this is a bathroom over here.
01:02:28Okay.
01:02:30There's things that has to be put out there,
01:02:32you know, on the table.
01:02:34And just
01:02:36think that they're not in their own place
01:02:38and they have to consider
01:02:40me here.
01:02:42Oh, my.
01:02:44What do you got in here? Bricks?
01:02:46Jesus. 20 pounds of gabagol.
01:02:50The unorganized room.
01:02:54So it could be cleaner.
01:02:56Why do you have
01:02:58a 2017 calendar?
01:03:00I don't know. My mom put it up there.
01:03:02I just never really took it down.
01:03:04I guess I kind of just like the dogs, you know.
01:03:06This is obviously the bed,
01:03:08you know.
01:03:10And this, we're gonna have to clear this out.
01:03:12Maybe you can help me.
01:03:14Obviously, you can have
01:03:16either side.
01:03:18What do you think?
01:03:20In reality, I did
01:03:22clean a good portion of it,
01:03:24but my mom came in and just...
01:03:26Yeah.
01:03:28What do you think?
01:03:30She jumped up.
01:03:32That's Daisy. She jumped up.
01:03:34Daisy, you gotta get down.
01:03:36Daisy, you gotta get down.
01:03:38I'm sorry.
01:03:40You're not on bed.
01:03:42She's freaking out.
01:03:44All right. So, yeah, maybe this is it.
01:03:46Not the bed.
01:03:48Daisy, no.
01:03:52In my country, dogs are
01:03:54outside the house.
01:03:56They're like security dogs.
01:03:58But in Greg's house, dogs come
01:04:00onto the bed.
01:04:02I've been in that situation.
01:04:06Oh!
01:04:08You're sweating.
01:04:10Want to take a shower?
01:04:12Okay.
01:04:16I'm so happy to
01:04:18finally be here with my fiancé,
01:04:20but everything here is very complicated.
01:04:22We have to be in his mother's house.
01:04:24Us and two dogs.
01:04:26And we have to follow his mother's
01:04:28rules, so I think I'm going to need
01:04:30time to be comfortable
01:04:32with everybody in the house,
01:04:34especially Mrs. Lucille.
01:04:36Oh, man.
01:04:42Right?
01:04:44So, how'd it go?
01:04:46So, we were up there, and
01:04:48we were just hanging out, and all of a sudden, Daisy just jumped
01:04:50right on the bed, and she was just like, what?
01:04:52Like she doesn't want to talk on the bed, you know?
01:04:54Oh, no. You're gonna have to push
01:04:56back a little on that.
01:04:58We'll see what happens. We'll see what happens.
01:05:00Look at their paws, how clean they are.
01:05:06What'd she do? Collapse?
01:05:08She went in the shower. She wants to go take a shower.
01:05:10Yeah, I know.
01:05:12She should be out now, right?
01:05:14No, I think she's probably still in.
01:05:18So, I don't know. I talked to her about sleeping in separate rooms.
01:05:20I mean, she was really upset.
01:05:22I mean, I guess in her perspective,
01:05:24it's like, you know what I mean? She came here to be with me.
01:05:26You know? I mean, it's not only that,
01:05:28it's like she is afraid of the dark, you know?
01:05:30And I don't blame her. She's afraid of the dark?
01:05:32Yeah, well,
01:05:34dark is different over there, you know what I mean?
01:05:36There's no lights, and like, it's not easy.
01:05:38You know, you can wake up in the middle of the night, and there's no power,
01:05:40you know? Oh, okay. So?
01:05:42And she was kind of nervous to meet you.
01:05:44Like, she was really nervous to meet you because of all that.
01:05:46And it really hit her hard. I don't know.
01:05:50I just can't wait to just hold her.
01:05:52Really, just every day. I don't know.
01:05:56I don't know.
01:06:04Oh, f**k right. Okay, Greg.
01:06:14It's just getting emotional about,
01:06:16you know, just not being, I guess, good enough.
01:06:18It's not that I'm not good enough for her,
01:06:20but just the fact that I never want to make her regret
01:06:22the sacrifice she's given to come here,
01:06:24you know, I don't want her to ever think that it's a waste of time
01:06:26to come here and, you know,
01:06:28give me the opportunities she has in her life.
01:06:30I just love her so much.
01:06:32I really do. Yeah.
01:06:34I mean, we can make the compromise
01:06:36leaving the door open.
01:06:40All right.
01:06:42But, you know...
01:06:44I know.
01:06:46Okay. Thank you, Mom.
01:06:48Tell her.
01:06:50We'll respect you 100%.
01:06:52I hope so.
01:06:54Gregory is
01:06:56emotional, but I never see him
01:06:58break down
01:07:00like that, really, ever.
01:07:02That's it. I don't know. I gotta get some sleep.
01:07:04Okay. Yeah, you better.
01:07:06Thank you, Mom.
01:07:08So there is a little fear.
01:07:10Gregory seems very happy today.
01:07:12Very elated that she's here.
01:07:14I'm hoping that
01:07:16she feels just as much for him
01:07:18as he does for her.
01:07:20Usually works out better that way.
01:07:26My daughter already has
01:07:28a bad impression of you from my family.
01:07:30I can't marry
01:07:32someone she doesn't like.
01:07:34Are you kidding with me, babe?
01:07:36No, I'm serious.
01:07:38This is what I am. I'm an asshole sometimes,
01:07:40but I'm cute.
01:07:42Don't be an asshole in front of her.
01:07:44If she doesn't like me, I will come back.
01:07:50What did you do to me?
01:07:52Like magic? Voodoo?
01:07:54I turned you from a f*** boy into a real man.
01:07:56That's what I did.
01:07:58You turned me from a f*** boy to a f*** boy.
01:08:00Okay, babe.
01:08:20Today is the big day.
01:08:22We're finally leaving Istanbul,
01:08:24and Sarper is coming to the United States with me.
01:08:26You're taking half
01:08:28of my house with us.
01:08:30I know, but three of these are mine.
01:08:32Three of these are yours.
01:08:34I'm coming to U.S. permanently.
01:08:36I know, babe.
01:08:38And three of them are yours.
01:08:40I'm leaving everything behind my cozy apartment.
01:08:42Many memories with Shekinah.
01:08:44My love.
01:08:46It's been
01:08:48a long journey for me,
01:08:50and living there,
01:08:52setting up a life there
01:08:54by my own.
01:08:56Ultimately, it's the apartment or me,
01:08:58so I'm glad you chose me.
01:09:00Thanks, babe.
01:09:02I made sacrifices for this relationship.
01:09:04No.
01:09:06Babe, I want to talk to you really quick
01:09:08before we go about one thing,
01:09:10and it is really important.
01:09:12What's that?
01:09:14I just can't help but think about
01:09:16living with Shariah,
01:09:18and I just can't go
01:09:20like that with Sophie, you know?
01:09:22I do worry that my daughter,
01:09:24Sophie, won't be able to make
01:09:26an unbiased decision about what she thinks
01:09:28about Sarper because of what she's heard
01:09:30happened when my sister,
01:09:32Shariah, came to Turkey to meet Sarper.
01:09:34I want always to debate
01:09:36these issues face-to-face.
01:09:38If she's texting, she
01:09:40acts like a slut, you know?
01:09:42Wait, what?
01:09:44What I see from him
01:09:46is someone who wants to have control.
01:09:48He wants to tell you the way it's going to be.
01:09:50It's going to be his best night.
01:09:52I don't look at it that way.
01:09:54Sophie has never met Sarper before,
01:09:56and it's really important to me
01:09:58for my daughter to see me in a happy
01:10:00and healthy relationship,
01:10:02and it's important to me that she likes him.
01:10:04My daughter
01:10:06already has a bad impression of you
01:10:08from my family.
01:10:10You need to really think about everything you say
01:10:12because
01:10:14if she doesn't like you,
01:10:16I can't marry
01:10:18someone she doesn't like.
01:10:20That's my daughter.
01:10:22Are you kidding with me, babe?
01:10:24No, I'm serious. Is this a threat?
01:10:26Well, I think
01:10:28it's good for you to think about
01:10:30before we leave. You have to think about this stuff.
01:10:32Okay, no problem. If she doesn't like me,
01:10:34it will be a touristic
01:10:36travel for me, and I will come back.
01:10:38That's how you think about it?
01:10:40If you don't marry with me,
01:10:42then I have to come back.
01:10:44Why don't you just say something like,
01:10:46she's gonna love me, I'm gonna do my best.
01:10:48She's gonna love me, I will do my best.
01:10:50Of course I will do my best, but what do you want me to...
01:10:52I cannot do extra than my character, you know?
01:10:54But this is what I am.
01:10:56I'm an asshole sometimes,
01:10:58but I'm cute.
01:11:00Don't be an asshole in front of her.
01:11:02Okay, only cute.
01:11:04Only be cute, please.
01:11:06I don't want
01:11:08our destiny or fate of our
01:11:10relationship be on her lips.
01:11:12I don't like Serper,
01:11:14so I don't want you to
01:11:16marry Mama.
01:11:18I mean, it's not fair.
01:11:20Oh my God.
01:11:22I think they are here.
01:11:24How are we gonna push all of these?
01:11:26Sophie is her
01:11:28daughter, but she's a teenager.
01:11:30I hope, even if she doesn't
01:11:32like me, she kind of sees that I'm trying to
01:11:34do my best, because I am also
01:11:36making a sacrifice.
01:11:50How are you, Baba?
01:11:52Hi, honey.
01:12:06Hi.
01:12:28You haven't flown this long.
01:12:30No, I haven't.
01:12:37Everything is surreal.
01:12:39I have to be so excited
01:12:41that I'm going to a new country
01:12:43with the girl I love to set up
01:12:45a new life with her, but I'm not.
01:12:47Because I'm leaving everything behind,
01:12:49including my parents.
01:13:07Oh.
01:13:09Okay.
01:13:24You okay, babe?
01:13:28Right now, I'm walking away
01:13:30from my parents, and it's
01:13:32so heartbreaking,
01:13:34you know? I wish I could
01:13:36take them with me.
01:13:38They said everything
01:13:40will be okay, but they cannot know it.
01:13:42And I hate the
01:13:44feeling of if something happens,
01:13:46and if I don't know,
01:13:48that will probably kill me, so
01:13:50I hope that sacrifice
01:13:52is worth something.
01:13:58Are you okay?
01:14:00I am, babe.
01:14:02Let's go.
01:14:06I can't wait to take you to see the family,
01:14:08to see Jordan and talk with her.
01:14:10Tell me, she and me
01:14:12is enemies?
01:14:14No, no, no, you're not enemies.
01:14:16Her concern is just about
01:14:18does dad really need to have more kids?
01:14:20Okay.
01:14:22Jordan is a hypocrite.
01:14:24Why he don't talk to me direct?
01:14:26She don't have the
01:14:28authorization to come in your
01:14:30family.
01:14:32No, no, no, no.
01:14:34My daughter is not a snake.
01:14:44Good.
01:14:46Sit with daddy.
01:14:48Maria.
01:14:50It's time for heat.
01:14:52It's gas station
01:14:54pasta, baby girl.
01:14:56It looks good, though.
01:15:00Gas station
01:15:02pasta, gas station
01:15:04wine.
01:15:06Sante, baby.
01:15:08Maria, stop.
01:15:10Maria.
01:15:14What's that?
01:15:16Maria, you okay?
01:15:18Maria, look.
01:15:24It's not working.
01:15:26It's not working, daddy.
01:15:28It's not working, daddy.
01:15:30You sure? I'll take her to bed.
01:15:32She's tired. Okay.
01:15:34Maria, go.
01:15:36You finish. You'll have some more wine and relax.
01:15:40She said, baby, Maria
01:15:46she don't like
01:15:48the pasta gas station.
01:15:50Of course, I understand.
01:15:52Not everything we
01:15:54eat or make is going to be from a gas station.
01:15:56There is good food in America.
01:15:58Not everywhere is like Paris,
01:16:00but we can find some good food.
01:16:02I promise you.
01:16:14Finally.
01:16:16All right, come on.
01:16:18This is like Santorini.
01:16:22Be careful.
01:16:26Okay.
01:16:32Thank you, baby.
01:16:34Cheers.
01:16:36Very nice.
01:16:44Do you see the beauty of New Hampshire?
01:16:46You know, it's quiet.
01:16:48It's calm. I want Maria to see this, too.
01:16:50And you maybe will like it.
01:16:52I think you'll enjoy it.
01:16:54You give it a shot, okay?
01:16:58And baby, you know,
01:17:00I can't wait to take you down.
01:17:02We'll go south to see the family.
01:17:04I want you to see Jordan and talk with her
01:17:06more than in Paris for the weekend.
01:17:08It's important to me
01:17:10that you and Jordan get along
01:17:12and you're her stepmother.
01:17:14It's strange.
01:17:16I know because she's 27,
01:17:18but it's important we get that
01:17:20relationship going, you know?
01:17:22Yeah.
01:17:26You know, Mina already not adjusting
01:17:28to New Hampshire is starting
01:17:30to stress me out a little bit.
01:17:32But, you know, even beyond that,
01:17:34I'm a little worried about how she's gonna fit
01:17:36into the family.
01:17:38I know my daughter Jordan has
01:17:40a lot of concerns, and
01:17:42you know, that's been weighing on me tremendously.
01:17:46No, I don't have problem with
01:17:48the family, but I have
01:17:50impression that Jordan
01:17:52and me is a competition.
01:17:54No, it's not competition.
01:17:56It's different. There's room
01:17:58for both of you. I love you both.
01:18:00I'm not gonna stop loving you both.
01:18:02She has concerns.
01:18:04What are the concerns?
01:18:06You know, there's a big age
01:18:08gap, even because she was only around you
01:18:10the one weekend. So are you marrying me for love
01:18:12or just to come to the USA?
01:18:14Tell me, is she and me enemies?
01:18:16No, no, no. You're not enemies.
01:18:18I give her a chance to know you and love you.
01:18:20I give a chance for you for me
01:18:22every time. Every time
01:18:24was one time in Paris.
01:18:26One time in Paris for the baby
01:18:28baptism. She was mad about
01:18:30you guys not having more time
01:18:32together, but this is...
01:18:34Me and her are very close.
01:18:36Father-daughter. So her
01:18:38concern is just about
01:18:40does dad really need to have more kids?
01:18:44Obviously, we have a baby together, you know.
01:18:46Baby, I'm sorry.
01:18:52Baby, come on. Stop.
01:18:54No, because it's true.
01:18:56I don't like you
01:18:58when you cry.
01:19:00You know, it's my
01:19:02emotion.
01:19:04I come here.
01:19:06I come for my
01:19:08new family.
01:19:10I just don't understand why
01:19:12she changed me.
01:19:14For me, Jordan
01:19:16is a hypocrite because
01:19:18in Paris, she's dancing
01:19:20with me. I have a photo
01:19:22with Jordan. She smiles
01:19:24and they talk to
01:19:26the father. He don't like
01:19:28this, this. Why he don't talk
01:19:30to me direct?
01:19:32I'm not happy.
01:19:34I don't know. I'm
01:19:36not comfortable for talk
01:19:38with Jordan because now I say
01:19:40I'm a snake, you know.
01:19:42No, no, no, no, no.
01:19:44Don't compare my daughter.
01:19:46My daughter is not a snake.
01:19:48My daughter just...
01:19:50Right now, this is your impression.
01:19:52This is your impression.
01:19:54No, no, no. It's not my impression.
01:19:56She say, I'm not sure.
01:19:58I'm not sure she love my dad.
01:20:00My dad is stupid stay with
01:20:02this girl or not. He's coming
01:20:04just for the green card or not. You understand me?
01:20:06I know you.
01:20:08You listen to Jordan.
01:20:10Of course I do. She's my daughter.
01:20:12But I listen to you.
01:20:14She's your daughter, yes.
01:20:16But she stay in the place.
01:20:18She don't have the authorization to
01:20:20coming in your life and your
01:20:22relationship with me.
01:20:24Listen, I'm just gonna say
01:20:26this again so I hope you understand.
01:20:28She only wants to be sure
01:20:30I'm not making a mistake.
01:20:34I'm going to bed.
01:20:36Serious? Yeah.
01:20:38Come on.
01:20:40You don't come in the bed, okay?
01:20:42Serious? Yeah.
01:20:44I'm very serious.
01:20:46You call Jordan.
01:20:52We're home.
01:20:54Next time on 90 Day Fiance.
01:20:56It feels weird.
01:20:58I'm really hoping Nati
01:21:00will feel at home here.
01:21:02Oh my God. Why do you have boobs?
01:21:04I see
01:21:06I see boobs everywhere.
01:21:08Like boobs, boobs, boobs.
01:21:10I swear I didn't know
01:21:12you were like doing this a lot.
01:21:14Coming from a country that
01:21:16you might get arrested if you have
01:21:18a naked girl picture,
01:21:20I wish you would have hidden them.
01:21:24Oh my God, I can't wait to
01:21:26squeeze that booty.
01:21:30Bye Greg.
01:21:32I want me and Greg to get our own house
01:21:34soon because we need
01:21:36to build our future.
01:21:38You know I declined a state job.
01:21:40You did? We need that money.
01:21:44Douglas is very sweet
01:21:46and very shy and simple
01:21:48but now everything is a different
01:21:50playing field.
01:21:52Aaliyah was
01:21:54born so there is no more
01:21:56Douglas.
01:21:58Oh my God, my visa interview is tomorrow.
01:22:00I was wondering if I should go
01:22:02as a boy.
01:22:04Aaliyah shows up at the interview and they're
01:22:06expecting a Douglas.
01:22:08That could be the end of our journey right then and there.
01:22:10I can't imagine how painful
01:22:12it can be to have to pretend
01:22:14to be another person.
01:22:18Wait, that's not her.
01:22:20Is it?
01:22:26It's so hard already to find
01:22:28your person.
01:22:30I can't find a third person
01:22:32so there's so much to lose.
01:22:38How you been? You been a while?
01:22:40For me, I need one more baby.
01:22:42Mark tell me
01:22:44he need authorization to Jordan.
01:22:46If he
01:22:48makes you happy, his daughter loses.
01:22:50If he says we have
01:22:52no more babies, you lose.
01:22:54Maybe I made a mistake coming
01:22:56to live with Mark in America.
01:22:58The problem is Mark.
01:23:02You haven't answered
01:23:04my questions yet.
01:23:06What happened on the cruise?
01:23:08That's my private matter.
01:23:10On his last
01:23:12cruise, he allegedly
01:23:14cheated with a woman.
01:23:16Girls have intuition
01:23:18and I want honesty
01:23:20from Juan. Did you sleep with
01:23:22that girl?
01:23:28you