Married at First Sight (AU)
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00:00:00Full of frickin love right now
00:00:02Embarked on a pursuit of true love
00:00:05So perfect and so beautiful. That's my wife. I think I've hit the jackpot today. He's just divine
00:00:17I was like, oh my god, that's that guy that ghosted me. It is totally my fault
00:00:22Despite Karina and Paul's unusual start, you know when a guy tells you everything you want to hear
00:00:29The pair's connection was undeniable
00:00:32You're like a 500 out of a 10
00:00:36As they quickly became one of the experiment's strongest couples really we're blossoming it's been amazing
00:00:47But at the most recent dinner party I did something that I absolutely
00:00:51Regret Paul made a shock revelation
00:00:54through punch in the eye
00:00:57In that bedroom door
00:01:00It's despicable behavior that should be called out it's very serious very very very serious
00:01:09Tonight
00:01:10I'm just like obsessed with him now. I've never felt like this before
00:01:14Marital bliss deepens for most of our couples. This feels so natural and good
00:01:20We're just too idiots and get along really well to be honest exactly what we said when we were matching them
00:01:25And then well, there was something that happened Clint exposed
00:01:30What happened I come home and I instantly know
00:01:34Something's not right the unexpected turn of events that no one saw coming. I had to kind of divert my gaze
00:01:47We're gonna get straight to the matter at hand Paul's moment of truth
00:01:55I've never done this in the past ever. I'm sorry
00:01:58I need to jump in here as he is held to account by the experts. I cannot sit here and listen to this
00:02:07justification
00:02:08This is toxic
00:02:10Inappropriate and unacceptable behavior. Is this the end of the road for Karina and Paul?
00:02:16I want you to tell us why we should not kick you out of the experiment right now
00:02:24You
00:02:42Little cup of tea love. Yeah
00:02:44It's the morning of the fourth commitment ceremony. Let's have a gaze. Yeah, that's good
00:02:49And we are now past the halfway point of the experiment they're just in their rebellious teen years
00:02:56Yeah, I speak their world. I
00:02:59Don't know why my fish are trauma class
00:03:02She's surviving another boganic dinner party
00:03:11After an intense dinner party Jackie and Ryan are waking up closer than ever
00:03:17I'm still pretty proud of us for the last week. We've had him. Yeah
00:03:25Right, I really good we're really happy
00:03:29It feels like we're back in the honeymoon phase I
00:03:34Felt so supported by Ryan at the dinner party last night
00:03:39You really hurt me
00:03:41You did
00:03:44You'll let my wife talk you let my wife talk now, right
00:03:48Brian definitely hadn't heard back the whole time. I mean that means the world. I'm glad you got to
00:03:54Say what you need to say to re so moving past it. I feel like we have an intellectual connection emotional connection
00:04:02spiritual connection and in fact, like the thing that's made me feel most close to Ryan over the past week was I
00:04:08I
00:04:09Saw something about data centers being built in Sydney and I was like, oh Ryan
00:04:13Do you know a data center is and he actually did and I was like, it's great
00:04:16Like make sure a conversation with him about data centers. So that was good. I
00:04:22Like the colors too
00:04:31Despite Jackie and Ryan's positivity
00:04:34Most of the group are still processing Paul's shock confession
00:04:43Karina and I we had our first big fight and I
00:04:51Threw a punch in the eye in that bedroom door
00:04:57It's very serious, yeah, very very very serious
00:05:04This
00:05:08Morning the couples are still coming to terms with Paul's actions
00:05:13There's no reason for anyone to be hitting doors
00:05:17Especially in front of a woman
00:05:19Yeah, I don't know what he's thinking
00:05:22Paul's one of my mates, but
00:05:24He let me down by doing that and those actions
00:05:27I don't stand for like that's uncalled for in any situation pretty big thing. Like that's a huge outburst of emotion
00:05:35Punching the wall was not okay
00:05:37Yeah, you could see it though. You could see in his face how disappointing it wasn't himself
00:05:41Yeah, and they really regret it. You can see the remorse and the regret but just so disappointing. Yeah
00:05:49Paul obviously apologized to the group last night
00:05:52Which which is great that he did that and he let the group know what happened
00:05:56But he didn't need to apologize to the group. He needed to apologize to Karina, which he had done and she looks like she's forgiven
00:06:01him
00:06:02But um, but at the end of the day
00:06:04What he did is not good enough
00:06:08You know if you step out of line you need to answer for those actions
00:06:12Commitment ceremony is the time for that
00:06:14The experts I think they're gonna probably go in on him pretty hard, which is justified really. Sorry. I hope they do
00:06:26Oh
00:06:41Did you sleep
00:06:43Good you're tired. Yeah
00:06:46Would say this has probably been the hardest week so far with our relationship
00:06:52It's been a bit of a challenge
00:06:56I probably said a million times again if I have to but what I did is so unacceptable. It's so
00:07:02You know
00:07:06It's just this is something I'm gonna regret for the rest of my life
00:07:12I'm glad Paul owned up to it and everyone could see that he was
00:07:17You know, he was emotional and very very sorry
00:07:23There's gonna be a lot of questions coming your way
00:07:27Tonight's going to be quite challenging
00:07:31Yeah
00:07:32I could feel the anxiety kicking in
00:07:34I
00:07:35Know the experts are gonna come at me for and I don't blame them for it. Oh, yeah
00:07:42Yeah
00:07:51This morning Athena is waking up alone
00:07:59There's definitely a lot of turmoil in mine and Adrian's relationship at the moment
00:08:05Adrian and I haven't really reconnected since friends and family. We've been sleeping separately
00:08:12Adrian's feeling a lot of hurt. I feel a lot of hurt. I just wanted his family and friends to like me
00:08:18But they were really hostile
00:08:21You are focusing a lot on the negatives because he hasn't shown up
00:08:26When the families met they butted heads
00:08:31Actually, I'm just I don't need to listen
00:08:33Pointless conversation it is and while Adrian told his version of events read the family on family day
00:08:40And that was just a disaster vote and a sister comes in straight on the defense like yelling at me
00:08:45I'm like, well, we're back. He tried to stop Athena telling her side to the group my family things
00:08:51I don't want to bring that with everyone because our families were involved
00:08:54Have you not already done that?
00:08:57Adrian has one set of rules for himself and a different set for Athena
00:09:02I'm just so sick of Adrian controlling a narrative
00:09:06Last night was the first time I kind of was like well
00:09:09I'm not going to let you control this narrative and tell me I can't address the group and
00:09:14That's not gonna happen tonight at the commitment ceremony either. I
00:09:18Need the help from the experts
00:09:22But Adrian is still adamant the topic is off-limits
00:09:29I'm sitting on the couch of the experts. I'm not gonna touch on you know, the family day at all
00:09:36There's a touchy subject, you know family's most important thing
00:09:39Those things should be kept private. And yeah, you just don't talk about my family
00:09:45It's that simple
00:09:49Hope Athena's on the same page
00:09:51I'm going to talk about it. I'm gonna really break it down for the experts
00:09:55I still have genuine feelings for Adrian. So hopefully we can help Adrian and I come closer. We can connect
00:10:03and both see eye to eye
00:10:06The
00:10:12Countdown is on to the fourth commitment ceremony
00:10:15I'll just sort of don't really know what we're gonna talk about with the experts because I feel like we're going really well good
00:10:20And as the couples get ready to decide whether to stay
00:10:24I'm gonna nice dress on to you always have nice dresses. Thank you or leave
00:10:29Look at you little hot tamale. Oh
00:10:31Hey, there's been a disappearing act one bride has gone missing
00:10:47Tony what happened? I really don't know what happened. I really don't know. I
00:10:56Haven't seen my enough since last night's dinner party
00:11:01We found out the plot of why Tony doesn't want a 57 and what was that he would like to have a baby I
00:11:12Want to see my eyes there's no harm in that but Anna, you know, how beautiful you are how pretty you are
00:11:20But your personality gives me the shits man I
00:11:26Feel
00:11:28Sad
00:11:29I'm not happy about you know what I said what I've done and it just wasn't right
00:11:33But she's pushing you over the edge, you know
00:11:36But it's we're not we're not in a good place. I
00:11:39Thought I was gonna leave in a handshake and then I'll be friends. But right now it's
00:11:45Faded away. I am a little bit disappointed, you know, I mean at least say goodbye
00:11:58You
00:12:14Like my friends guys hi. Hello gents. Hey, how are you? Greetings gentlemen come and sit down
00:12:22Get yourselves comfortable
00:12:28Oh
00:12:45Hello lady, hi
00:12:58Oh
00:13:01Where's what I know, it's my money. She didn't come in. She's not here. Yes
00:13:08Where's um, I can't speak it off you she gone already do it Ella
00:13:15What'd you do now
00:13:20Well, greetings everyone, how do you cry
00:13:23Before we kick off we probably need to point out that there appears to be a bride that's missing
00:13:32There's no Marina
00:13:37Tony
00:13:39Yes, sir. Do you know much about it? I
00:13:43Have no idea
00:13:45we've I
00:13:46Don't know where she is. She didn't show up so I can't give you an answer
00:13:53So I'm kind of a little bit disappointed, you know, even if it was not meant to be
00:13:57At least hugging a kiss and say goodbye. That would have been nice
00:14:05Why don't we get you up on the couch Tony we can unpack it now
00:14:15It's kind of weird not having Mariana here I feel a little bit
00:14:20Sad yeah
00:14:23Well, how was your dinner party last night with her?
00:14:26We went around the room and we questioned each other and how everything was going
00:14:30and um, it came to my DC like to my
00:14:33Turn to talk and I'm not kind of I I mean, I've just been trying so hard through this whole experiment
00:14:41And I just was just too much use
00:14:53You
00:14:55Did you really think I wasn't gonna come
00:15:00Did you really think I was gonna give him the last word
00:15:16I kind of I mean, I've just been trying so hard for this whole experiment
00:15:23And I just was just too much use
00:15:38Did you really think I wasn't gonna come
00:15:43Did you really think I was gonna give him the last word
00:15:47You
00:15:52Know don't stand up sit down and come and talk to me don't stand up
00:16:06Hello everybody nice to see you
00:16:11Have a seat
00:16:14Welcome back Mariana
00:16:16You
00:16:31All right
00:16:34Unexpected but we are very delighted that you're here we are
00:16:38Thank you. Would you like to finish what you were talking about Tony and then we'll go to you
00:16:46Well at the dinner party, you know, I kind of determined she's a beautiful lady, but just the personality is not there for me
00:16:55Every time I did something it was always a
00:16:58Challenge for me, you know, like if I did something nice or if I'd said something, you know
00:17:02If I made a cheeky comment or I was trying to be funny or something like that
00:17:07It upset her
00:17:09Then I've been quiet this whole way through and yesterday was probably one the first time I've spoken out
00:17:13I mean, she's a very strong strong woman. Maybe too much of a personality for me. I
00:17:25Mean he doesn't like my personality
00:17:33Like you don't even know who you're with you've got no idea who I am
00:17:40He's
00:17:42He's he's
00:17:44He's put a lid on me in such a short time. I've allowed
00:17:49somebody to shut me down and
00:17:52He doesn't get the right to tell the person who does talk to stop talking the person that does dance
00:17:57Stop dancing and he's gonna wanna stop you from doing anything. No, I'm talking. I'm talking
00:18:03Go ahead
00:18:08You've mocked the whole
00:18:10experiment
00:18:11You've wasted
00:18:13Everybody's time everybody's time, but especially mine
00:18:18Just be honest. You don't have a problem with my personality. You have a problem with my age
00:18:26Family and friends discovery
00:18:28You said I really want to have a baby
00:18:33When did this light bulb go off
00:18:42Holy shit, Tony clearly I can't reproduce
00:18:49How do you think that makes a woman feel
00:18:52How do you think that makes a woman feel I
00:19:01Didn't know that you wanted to have kids at 53 I
00:19:07Thought I spoke to you about it not once no no information for us. I'm sorry
00:19:13Come on. Give me a break. Is that just another another excuse I
00:19:19I
00:19:21Came into this experiment and I tried
00:19:24My whole heart I tried
00:19:27But you hurt me when you watch our wedding. You'll see what will I say?
00:19:32That it was a real there was something real there
00:19:36something real
00:19:38You'll see you'll see the aura you'll feel it through the screen when you see it
00:19:44The smile he didn't laugh at anything he smiled and you know what I was beaming because because I came into this experiment
00:19:53Beaming so you felt there was a connection. Oh my god. There was a penetration
00:20:06There wasn't a connection it was like it was like full
00:20:11Here here it was huge it was huge
00:20:17So the connection the chemistry that you felt there was something oh, yeah
00:20:24It disappeared as soon as they found out my age
00:20:29It's like how old are you 57?
00:20:33He he had my hand and he just dropped it
00:20:38He turned green you want to deny it go right ahead
00:20:44His demeanor changed
00:20:47his
00:20:48everything
00:20:50anyway
00:20:51This is just going nowhere. We're going in circles. You are I've got to say it's it's really sad
00:20:57To see where the two of you have landed and I didn't want it to go this way
00:21:01I know I know neither of you wanted it to go this way
00:21:05We had some hope for this relationship
00:21:10And we could see it especially when you were having fun
00:21:14Laughing and really enjoying each other's company you had moments. There was a there was some good times
00:21:23Well on that note what we need to know is whether you're gonna stay or leave
00:21:28So let's go to you first Tony
00:21:35I've pretty much made my my point, and I'm clear so I'm
00:21:43Leave
00:21:46We've had a rollercoaster ride of a experiment, but unfortunately oh, we didn't have a connection
00:21:57And Marina stay or leave what do you want to do?
00:22:05You're a 53 year old man
00:22:12Behave like one
00:22:21Good riddance oh
00:22:25Okay, that's how I feel oh, that's Wow
00:22:35It is sad you got to this point when we match our couples
00:22:40We want them to get over the line, but it's been an absolute pleasure having you in the experiment you two have bought
00:22:47a different
00:22:49perspective to the experiment
00:22:51with experience and maturity
00:22:54And a level of fun. We really wish you all the very best for the future
00:22:59Thanks for everything
00:23:04I
00:23:12Believe it are you not coming back right now. Thank you, Marina. I'm I don't know
00:23:26I'm feeling disappointed. I didn't want it to end this way. You know I don't like leaving people upset
00:23:35I really do feel for my dad, and I hope she does find somebody
00:23:40There's always someone out there, so good luck to her
00:23:49Next now I'm really thinking future, and I felt my feelings just went I
00:23:54Did Wow romantic bonds deepened raise mum. She's got me on the text messages already. She just said thanks for taking care of her baby girl
00:24:03Then
00:24:04Now Athena, I've got it. I've got to jump in the experts apply the pressure. This is the third time
00:24:10I'm gonna have to ask this question, and it's a pretty straightforward one as
00:24:15They call out bad behavior like the lack of empathy. They're just boggles my mind
00:24:21Sorry, I've just got to jump in here Veronica
00:24:23I'm watching you as I'm listening to Elliot story, and are you aware of the way you're responding non-verbally?
00:24:32and I
00:24:33Want you to tell us?
00:24:36Why?
00:24:37The three experts should not kick you out of the experiment right now
00:24:42You
00:25:01Our next couple up on the couch Jamie and Dave
00:25:12No, they're going very well. Thanks, so you've had time with family and friends this week
00:25:18Tell us about that big week. It's been good
00:25:21Yeah
00:25:22Like my sister mom auntie and dad think they were genuinely surprised like how much we've worked through talked about and even my sister
00:25:31Was I okay like like this is like serious?
00:25:35Now I'm really thinking future, and I felt like my feelings just went I
00:25:40Did Wow massively okay, I'm just like obsessed with him now like you know like
00:25:49I just I don't know I've never felt like this before
00:25:54Dave for you listening to Jamie talk in such a positive way. Do you feel like you're meeting her at the same level on that?
00:26:02Yeah, I feel like
00:26:03It makes me feel warm and fuzzy and excited thinking about the future
00:26:08Now I've taken everything into consideration like my dog and waking up on my bike when she's there
00:26:13Or what's you know what I mean like all these things
00:26:17It's very clear that this
00:26:19Relationship has become real
00:26:22You're now starting to look to the future. Yeah, it's beautiful
00:26:32Are either of you foreseeing any challenges
00:26:38For me
00:26:57It's beautiful so with that we're gonna go to the decision you two Jamie will go with you first
00:27:07And to you Dave yeah, I'm staying oh yes you are
00:27:15Keep looking after each other really good job both of you. Thank you so much. Thanks guys
00:27:28Our next couple up
00:27:34Jack in Ron
00:27:38You
00:27:42Hello are you two
00:27:44Well, where do we begin? Where do we begin? Well? It's been a really positive week for us. Yeah, I'm quite proud of us
00:27:52Explain this
00:27:54Commitment ceremony last week was quite emotional one for me
00:27:57Brian hit my back that night and was really supportive you guys it was the new size
00:28:03And compassionate side of him that I haven't seen yet and
00:28:07To have him show up for me this week was just such a game changer, and then we've basically just been having fun
00:28:32We may or may not have progressed our relationship intimately as well
00:28:44Yeah, it kind of just happened, and it was it was good it was
00:28:48refreshing
00:28:50No, and um yeah, I think it was a big moment for us. It was yeah, just the cuddling afterwards, and then it
00:28:57Happened a second time
00:29:02I'm sorry. I'm sorry, but I'm happy
00:29:09Now this is good, I mean look guys. We've not seen we haven't seen this
00:29:13It's wonderful. You know you're starting to really connect. It's fantastic
00:29:19We'll go to the decision, let's go with you first, right
00:29:25All right, I want to continue along this really nice direction we've taken so I've written to stay
00:29:32Little smiley face
00:29:34Jackie what do you got for a stay or leave?
00:29:36Yeah, I said stay as well a nice way better than mine. So what you're doing you keep doing it good on you guys
00:29:50Our next couple up on the couch
00:29:54Rain Jeff
00:29:57I
00:30:01Welcome back to the couch. Thank you
00:30:04How's everything going?
00:30:06everything
00:30:07Everything's going really really well. We had our friends and family week, which was amazing
00:30:12I knew how much my family would love Jeff straight away. Yeah
00:30:18Like I can honestly take him anywhere and everyone loves him raise mum's already um she's got me on the text messages already
00:30:25Texting each other
00:30:27Asked for Jeff's number and I gave it to her
00:30:30And then she messaged him just like what did she say? Oh, she just said that um
00:30:35She was like it was it was really nice to meet me and you know
00:30:38She walked away knowing that we're using good hands and thanks for taking care of her baby girl
00:30:45That's really lovely yeah, I'm reassuring for all of you yeah
00:30:50Spending basically every end of the day with Ray and it's yeah, it's been awesome. So yeah
00:31:20The bond is so palpable between the two of you. Thank you. We can all feel it here, which is wonderful. Thank you
00:31:27Thank you so much. I think we're gonna go to the decision guys. Sure. Why don't we start with you Jeff?
00:31:37I'm gonna stay
00:31:39straightforward
00:31:42It's been an amazing ride so far and yeah each day gets better and I'm looking forward to the next few days weeks and months
00:31:50we
00:31:52Thank you and to you bring yeah
00:31:54I'm having an amazing time and I'm loving getting to know Jeff more and more each week
00:31:58we just get stronger and stronger and I'm really happy to be where we are today, so
00:32:05Stay yes. Yeah. Brilliant. Yeah. Thank you so much
00:32:20Our next couple up on the couch
00:32:26Athena and Adrian damn
00:32:35Hi guys, I know you guys
00:32:45Obviously we have a lot to unpack we saw you guys last night at the dinner party
00:32:50but I would love to
00:32:52To talk first about how the meet the family
00:32:56experience went
00:33:11Obviously we have a lot to unpack we saw you guys last night at the dinner party, but I would love to
00:33:18To talk first about how the meet the family experience went
00:33:30I mean for me on my luck. I'm not gonna go into much of the details, but it just didn't go well
00:33:34It didn't go the way you expected
00:33:38Yeah
00:33:42It would be great to know from you what actually happened because we haven't seen any of it
00:33:47I'm not gonna go into the details of it's my family and her family
00:33:50I think it's a little bit disrespectful to see if they go back and forth now like
00:33:52It's one of the cases where we're never gonna see eye to eye on this
00:33:55That's why the you accept that and you move on or you just go back and forth
00:33:59I'm not asking you to see eye to eye on what?
00:34:02What happened because it was filmed we will see it. It's not like you're protecting anybody from seeing what happened
00:34:09Yeah, of course
00:34:12I
00:34:14Was being intimidated and I felt her sister was being a bit aggressive
00:34:19So as family members protecting each of you going after each other or challenging one another yeah
00:34:25I mean it felt that way to both of us
00:34:31So neither one of you felt supported by the other in the entire exchange with your family no no no Athena
00:34:42You
00:34:44Know yeah in hindsight, we could have definitely done much more to prevent that
00:34:51In a real
00:34:53fully developed relationship
00:34:56You guys would be the family. This would be the official priority
00:35:03Yeah, but the way it's been in the last two weeks like it hasn't been healthy and we're both aware of that
00:35:09Um, but just remember the good times because last two weeks it's been all about the bad times all about what we're not doing for
00:35:14each other
00:35:16Yes, like we need to get back to that. Um that and we look across the room. You just smile and happy to see each other
00:35:25I'm not buying that
00:35:30Man look how hurt she is
00:35:33Or what I've to validate myself to you in our relationship to you, bro, look how hurt she is
00:35:37But you're hiding she's hiding stuff deep down. I can see it in her face
00:35:44Right far we both upset it hasn't been the best now again mate
00:35:46Yeah, the cut is the setup you said us and that give us a solution bro. Give us give us a solution
00:35:52Let us let her tell her how she really feels in
00:35:57What but it's it let us let us say how she really feels
00:36:01I've never stopped that
00:36:06She looks at you for permission to speak mate
00:36:09Mate that way looks yes, this is that's bullshit, bro
00:36:15That's good Oscar
00:36:20Where's bullshit I let her speak however she wants. All right guys
00:36:25Athena that's a very very
00:36:28well
00:36:29serious statement, which is
00:36:33Do you feel you need permission to speak when you with Adrian?
00:36:54It's not that I feel like I need permission
00:36:56It's that sometimes I feel like
00:37:01It'll cause a rift between us if I
00:37:06Go into too much detail about certain things and I don't want to hurt Adrian's feelings, you know, they care about him
00:37:19Right
00:37:21So
00:37:26Here's a question, why do you Athena like Adrian?
00:37:38So it's a me this morning when I woke up I
00:37:43Woke up feeling still hurt and sad, but I also woke up feeling hurt and sad for Adrian. Does that make sense?
00:37:51so even though I felt like I
00:37:54Don't like Adrian's behavior right now
00:37:57But I obviously still care for Adrian because I'm worried about how he's feeling in this moment. So Athena if I just go back
00:38:04to a very important question
00:38:08Why do you Athena like him and
00:38:14Adrian have you ever told me you like me?
00:38:16No, no, this is
00:38:19Reacted just that now Athena. I've got it. I've got to jump in and I've got to say something. Okay, I'm gonna
00:38:27This is the third time I'm gonna have to ask this question and it's a pretty straightforward one
00:38:33Why do you like Adrian now? What you're doing is you're not answering the question which makes me think you don't like him
00:38:40So what is it?
00:38:42So in the last 10 days there hasn't been a lot of moments that I've liked with Adrian that's the honest truth
00:38:49It's not for negative. I know but that's so
00:38:52now
00:38:56Athena why do you like Adrian?
00:39:03Let me let me start
00:39:05Any
00:39:08Words that come to mind that describes why you like him and you've got
00:39:13Half the experiment to pull out some things that you like about him
00:39:23I
00:39:25Like in the moments when he doesn't recognize I'm watching he looks at me sometimes in a way that has true sincerity
00:39:36So I'm not as bad as all you think
00:39:41I do like
00:39:44That you love and respect your family so much and that's why I hurt me so much that friends and family went the way it did
00:40:00We got there
00:40:03Adrian
00:40:04What do you like Athena? I don't say like that. She's loving she's caring sympathetic. Um, you know, she thinks about other people. It's good. I
00:40:13Thought you needed to hear that
00:40:15Because it's very important for you to remember that you care for one another
00:40:20And it's something to jump on and embrace rather than staying in this back and forth
00:40:28Well look
00:40:30Right now we're gonna go to the decision and we're gonna start with you first Adrian I
00:40:39Thought how would this cat session go and I thought it'd probably go somewhat. All right, so I said stay
00:40:49What about you Athena
00:40:51I
00:40:59Will be very honest today it was a really tough decision for me
00:41:04It really was
00:41:07But I wrote stay
00:41:15Yeah, I
00:41:17Don't feel like we really gave each other the opportunity in the past week to do the work that we said we were going to
00:41:22do
00:41:24We haven't really had an opportunity to show up for each other because of the events at friends and family
00:41:30So I do feel like we owed it to one another to try
00:41:35again
00:41:39You've been through a lot this week
00:41:42You know the family and friends nearly blew you up
00:41:45But what I do notice is that once you started to see each other in a different light a more positive light
00:41:54You actually start to really come together
00:41:58There are clearly feelings and obviously you care for one another
00:42:03So I think that's really what you need to focus on
00:42:07We really don't want to see this cycle again
00:42:11Do you think you can break this cycle? Do you think you can?
00:42:14Do it differently?
00:42:16Understand no question
00:42:20It's good to have you for another week go back to the group
00:42:33Next what happened Clint's shock secret revealed I come home and I instantly know
00:42:41Things not right
00:42:44And later I
00:42:48Cannot sit here and listen to this justification. This is not normal behavior. This is a toxic
00:42:57Inappropriate and unacceptable behavior
00:43:08Our next couple up on the couch
00:43:11Oh
00:43:13Yeah
00:43:24Well, where do we start because last time you're in sitting in front of us we made some progress
00:43:30but
00:43:31We certainly saw the two of you in a difficult space at the dinner party
00:43:40Yeah, we're we're in the trenches at the moment
00:43:46Things have been hard. Yeah, definitely
00:43:51What's your take on this Veronica
00:43:55Yeah
00:43:56It's been really hard this whole week. We obviously had the tasks that we had to do
00:44:03and
00:44:05The
00:44:07The confessions letter was very difficult for me because I've felt that Elliot hadn't shared a part of himself any part
00:44:17Through the letter. I didn't feel that I gained any additional understanding of him
00:44:25Which was disappointing for me
00:44:27Elliot do you feel like you showed enough of yourself in this letter task?
00:44:33Um, yeah like for me this wasn't a task that I was, you know in my element I wasn't super comfortable and
00:44:41so I I
00:44:45Really put myself out there with the with the letter that I wrote I
00:44:49kind of put all my
00:44:52you know fears and
00:44:54All my anxiety aside and I and I wrote
00:44:58About like probably the most traumatic memory that I have
00:45:05So when I was young probably about eight years old my younger sister she fell into a coma
00:45:12it was a like
00:45:15absolutely harrowing experience
00:45:22I
00:45:23Was in the doctor's office with her and my mom when we had the news delivered and
00:45:29It was like like the whole room just erupted. Like we were all just like crying our eyes out
00:45:40And it was it was just like so traumatizing
00:45:47Like where I got to was how that informs me today was
00:45:51You know, I never want to feel like I've lost control of my emotions
00:45:58And
00:46:02To be honest the the way that the reaction that I got from Veronica
00:46:09Verbatim her words were cute
00:46:14That
00:46:19Heard a lot like that was like a knife in my chest
00:46:22Like I felt like I just put myself out on a limb I felt like yeah extremely vulnerable
00:46:30and and for her to say that it was just like I
00:46:34Had you know been kind of stabbed in the chest?
00:46:39It just felt extremely
00:46:42Like I wasn't being heard like I was just telling a brick wall
00:46:47So I've just got to jump in here Veronica
00:46:51I'm watching you as I'm listening to Elliot's story. And
00:46:55Are you aware of the way you're responding non-verbally? I
00:47:02Am yeah
00:47:05Oh, it's sharing some stuff that must be pretty hard to talk about and you're sitting here diminishing his experience
00:47:15And that's not really what this tasks about
00:47:22You know, it's about listening and understanding and accepting the other person where they're at and
00:47:29Veronica
00:47:31If it actually feels like you've been quite judgmental here
00:47:36Maybe I am. Yeah, I don't feel that I know anything more about Elliot. You know, I'm really trying I
00:47:46Didn't gain an understanding of how that event affected him in any capacity
00:47:53You said I felt like the world was ending but what does that mean to you?
00:48:02You don't think I think that the world is ending is him opening up and being vulnerable for you
00:48:11Yeah, it's like and for someone to like opens up themselves up like that
00:48:15Especially when they've said like it's it's not an easy thing for them to do
00:48:18It's just like that does it like the lack of empathy there just boggles my mind
00:48:23That that hurt a lot
00:48:26I
00:48:29Don't understand you Elliot, so I'm trying to understand you. I'm disappointed because I don't feel like I've learned anything new about you
00:48:37Like give me a little bit of something something like your favorite color
00:48:44Like something that I can come away from
00:48:48That gives me a little bit of a semblance of who you are because I'm really struggling to understand
00:48:54Veronica I've got to jump in because I'm listening to you there and you're saying you haven't
00:49:01Learned anything about him when he told you about his sister at age eight
00:49:07He and the family are absolutely imploding. That's a lot of self-disclosure
00:49:17How are you not understanding that
00:49:21In a
00:49:24Relationship you must be able to work together
00:49:27You've got to empathize
00:49:29That's got to be a big key part of it and it's not enough empathy
00:49:34There's just not
00:49:36It is something which is going to require you to start really getting in the shoes of one another
00:49:43Empathy is gonna actually set you free here as a couple
00:49:47Have
00:49:49You heard the feedback we've given you tonight Veronica, yes, does it make sense? Yeah, of course it does
00:49:59After reading or hearing his letter your reaction, how has that made him feel?
00:50:11Terrible why
00:50:13Because
00:50:16That's what that was the most how the most difficult story that he had for me about his life
00:50:24And why was your reaction terrible for him?
00:50:37Because he felt like I wasn't acknowledging his story
00:50:44Minimizing it or diminishing it, right?
00:50:47If you're gonna actually move forward here, you've got to empathize and understand
00:50:52He's going at a different pace
00:50:57Yeah, okay
00:51:02And I apologize for offending you thank you and I'm grateful that you met me where you could
00:51:09So
00:51:11I'm learning like I've realized now my mistake and I need to empathize with him and I accept that
00:51:18I've made a mistake
00:51:20Yeah
00:51:23On that note, let's go to the decision and we're gonna go with you first Elliot
00:51:29Yeah, it's definitely been a journey
00:51:32Like I have learned a lot and I think we still got a bit more to learn as well. So
00:51:38Well
00:51:40What have you got for us Veronica stay or leave we're not we're not well you and I
00:51:46We're gonna have to like go back into the trenches and figure it out, but I'm like here to do that. So I wrote stay
00:51:53great
00:51:59You've got a big week ahead of you empathy is the key here
00:52:03Empathy understanding on that note go back to the group and we look forward to seeing a very different couple next week
00:52:11Off you go
00:52:15Tonight felt good. I
00:52:17Feel like the experts gave some really good advice
00:52:20Last week has been like extremely negative like in cinders on the ground
00:52:25But I wouldn't have written stay unless I thought there was a you know a shot for us to turn things around
00:52:31I'm honestly hopeful
00:52:36Our next couple up on the couch
00:52:40Lauren and Clint
00:52:47Hello
00:52:49Welcome to the couch. Thank you
00:52:52Have you guys been?
00:52:54How was this week for you both?
00:53:00Well, we've lived together for a week we've had two dinner parties two commitment ceremonies and three tasks so it's been a lot
00:53:08How did you find the tasks
00:53:13That were good we did what we were
00:53:16Comfortable with plus a bit more. So we've been getting to know each other and getting along really well good
00:53:23I wonder a Lauren. Do you feel so far a romantic connection with Flint?
00:53:31Um
00:53:36Not yet
00:53:39We're you know building a friendship at this point, okay, why not
00:53:49Well, there was something that happened yeah, but
00:53:54Like related to our but
00:53:58That affected us both I
00:54:02Come home that I instantly know something's not right. I
00:54:08Had to kind of divert my gaze away I
00:54:14Pretty much like kind of just shut down
00:54:17What happened
00:54:27Clint was at the beach
00:54:30He was like, I can't do this I
00:54:33I
00:54:34Don't want it to get worse
00:54:36I
00:54:38Don't want it to get worse
00:54:40So we were sitting on the beach and we were like, oh, yeah, this is a good time
00:54:45And I'm like, oh, I don't know I'm not sure I feel it's kind of weird
00:54:49I'm just not sure what to do
00:54:51I'm not sure how to react
00:54:53What usually is a spark for me in a relationship is, like, with an alpha male personality type.
00:55:16But with Clint, that alpha-ism, I just don't feel like it's, you know, super... there.
00:55:30So I go, Clint, come to my apartment after. I'll need the night off.
00:55:41Clint, do you consider yourself a masculine alpha male?
00:55:46Well, I guess it's defining that. I need to Google alpha male.
00:55:57Lauren, let's try and get a little definition from you in terms of what it means for you to have an alpha male. What does it look like?
00:56:08I think an alpha is a leader in the relationship. Someone that will organize everything and, like, take control of everything and, like, is, you know, very dominating. As a man, it's just something that you are or you're not.
00:56:24Wow.
00:56:26But in our house, like, Clint does the washing and, like, I come home and my laundry is folded, whereas I feel like in what I would consider my ideal relationship, it would be the other way around.
00:56:39Okay.
00:56:42Is it natural, Clint, for you to be in a leadership role in a relationship?
00:56:48Absolutely, in a relationship, for sure. I've definitely been doing that in business and in, you know, sport. It comes quite natural for me. Like, if we're in a relationship, I'd want to be the protector, the provider and looking after the family, whereas the wife could look after the children and do that sort of thing.
00:57:11But yeah, I can take the initiative and do that. I like doing that.
00:57:14I think the message is pretty clear that she needs for you to do that.
00:57:17Yeah.
00:57:18Proactively.
00:57:19Yeah.
00:57:20Question, Lauren. Do you feel that Clint can step into that role that you want him to? That leadership role?
00:57:39Yes.
00:57:43No.
00:57:47She's gonna say no.
00:57:48No.
00:57:56See, it's tricky because you're coming in later in the experiment. It is very early days. You haven't had really much of a chance to figure out whether or not you see the possibility here and it can grow the spark that so far has been missing.
00:58:09Yeah.
00:58:10So you kind of need to sniff each other out.
00:58:13All right.
00:58:14We're going to get to the decision now and we're going to start with you, Lauren.
00:58:19Okay.
00:58:29She's going to stay. And Clint.
00:58:32Yeah, no, I'm going to go straight to it. There's no mucking around. Stay.
00:58:36We want this to be a romantic connection for you. We want that possibility for you both. So seek it out. You sometimes have to put in the time, the work, the curiosity. Have a great week and you can go back to the group.
00:58:51Thank you very much.
00:58:56Go on, guys.
00:58:59I think that Clint has traits of an alpha male. So I'm willing and committed to give it another week.
00:59:07But I need like a very alpha male. So hopefully he doesn't do any more dishes.
00:59:18Our next couple up on the couch.
00:59:25Beth and TJ.
00:59:29Hello, guys.
00:59:30Hi.
00:59:31How are you?
00:59:32We're very well. How are you?
00:59:34Yeah, we're just too idiots to get along really well, to be honest.
00:59:37Pretty much.
00:59:38Exactly what we said when we were matching them.
00:59:44Beth, this is your first relationship.
00:59:47How has it been?
00:59:51It's amazing.
00:59:53It's amazing.
00:59:55I've never had a relationship, so this is so new to me. But I don't know, it's really taken me by surprise at how comfortable I feel around him.
01:00:02How have you found moving in with someone and doing the living?
01:00:06We're actually living very well together.
01:00:09He cooks amazing food, which is great because I can't cook at all.
01:00:13Winning.
01:00:14I just got a little chef. I love it.
01:00:15Little?
01:00:16Yeah.
01:00:17Big chef.
01:00:18Big chef.
01:00:23Big chef, babe.
01:00:24Don't want to kill you, Rico.
01:00:26And I guess that begs the question, of course, have you guys been intimate with one another yet?
01:00:32Yeah, we slept together, yeah.
01:00:33Yeah.
01:00:38No, but it was good. I think we both needed it.
01:00:42It really sounds like you guys are right now kind of coasting, which is good.
01:00:47I think we can go to the decision.
01:00:49We're going to start with you, Beth.
01:00:53Easy decision.
01:00:57Lovely.
01:00:59TJ.
01:01:00We get along well, so sauté for me too.
01:01:03Fantastic.
01:01:04You guys, thank you so much.
01:01:06Keep doing what you're doing and have a great week.
01:01:09Thanks, guys.
01:01:23All right.
01:01:24Our last couple up on the couch.
01:01:31Karina and Paul.
01:01:47We're going to get straight to the matter at hand.
01:01:50We heard something last night at the dinner party.
01:01:53Something very serious.
01:01:56Paul, you spoke of an incident that had happened between you and Karina.
01:02:01And when we heard it, we were shocked.
01:02:05Explain.
01:02:14Paul, you spoke of an incident that had happened between you and Karina.
01:02:17Explain.
01:02:19So...
01:02:22I was in the car with Karina in the presence of other people.
01:02:33There was music playing in the car as well.
01:02:41She...
01:02:42Um...
01:02:46She made a comment about the music and...
01:02:53Thought it was funny to say that she had slept with this person.
01:03:03I felt disrespected and extremely embarrassed.
01:03:09Anyway, we went back to the apartment.
01:03:11She tried to apologise.
01:03:15And I felt trapped and I completely lost control.
01:03:24And I...
01:03:30I...
01:03:31I...
01:03:36Punched a hole in the bedroom door.
01:03:50Yeah, that's...
01:03:57Did you hurt your hand?
01:03:59A little bit. Look, it's...
01:04:01My hand is the last of my worries at the moment.
01:04:03Like, I don't... It's not about me right now. Like, it's...
01:04:07I'm not concerned about the well-being of your hand.
01:04:10I am concerned about how hard you hit that door.
01:04:18Karina, did you expect him to judge you for your sexual past?
01:04:25Well...
01:04:26Well...
01:04:28No.
01:04:29I think it was...
01:04:30I wasn't judging her about her past.
01:04:32I think it was a disrespectful thing and I said it really sounds to me like judgement underneath all of that.
01:04:37No, Alessandra, I promise you.
01:04:38It's not...
01:04:40Obviously, it's not her past.
01:04:42The reason why I felt so disrespected is because of how...
01:04:46It's because of how she said it, the way she voiced it.
01:04:50Obviously, Karina could see that I was extremely annoyed at that.
01:04:53And she tried to apologise, but I didn't feel any sincerity in the apologies because there was a...
01:05:01It was a, I'm sorry, but you've done that in the past.
01:05:04You've told me you've done this. I'm sorry, but...
01:05:11So, I couldn't take the apology seriously and I obviously got frustrated because of that.
01:05:17Does not matter.
01:05:18Does not matter what she said.
01:05:23Does not matter how many times she walked outside, how many times she tried to get you to calm down and you weren't having it.
01:05:30It does not matter.
01:05:31I totally agree with you, Alessandra.
01:05:32It does not matter how disrespected you felt.
01:05:35You do not punch walls.
01:05:38You do not punch doors.
01:05:39No, of course.
01:05:40Period. Full stop.
01:05:45That intimidates.
01:05:46Yes.
01:05:52Karina, how did it feel for you watching this play out?
01:05:59A bit disheartening.
01:06:03And uncomfortable.
01:06:07Yeah, of course.
01:06:09I don't condone that behaviour.
01:06:13But we are still learning about one another and we're learning about the boundaries and what should be said or what shouldn't be said.
01:06:24I think it's just that he felt a little bit uncomfortable and embarrassed, maybe.
01:06:30This is real tough to watch.
01:06:36It's trying to normalise it.
01:06:38Seeing how he reacts when I bring up my past with people that I've been with has shown me that he does have strong feelings towards me.
01:06:48It just shows that, like, it is a real relationship.
01:06:54Like, we are passionate.
01:06:59Like, I'm European.
01:07:00Like, I'm European.
01:07:02You know, they are passionate and that's kind of a little bit like what relationships are.
01:07:11Oh, I'm sorry. I need to jump in here.
01:07:15I cannot sit here and listen to this justification from you.
01:07:23This is not normal behaviour, sweetheart.
01:07:27This is not how you show love.
01:07:30This is deeply troubling.
01:07:33And Karina, as a Latina, I know passion.
01:07:39This is not passion.
01:07:45I'm not scared of Paul.
01:07:49He hasn't given me any reason to be except for that moment and what happened, that situation.
01:07:58So, yeah, I don't know what to say.
01:08:04Like, I don't condone what happened.
01:08:08And there's no buts.
01:08:10But, yeah, I'm just, I'm sad.
01:08:14Like, I'm sad that this has happened.
01:08:16And I feel uncomfortable, like, facing you guys, if I'm completely honest.
01:08:23Of course.
01:08:24Uncomfortable is probably the word.
01:08:28And even, like, even yesterday, I was so anxious walking into the dinner party.
01:08:33How is everyone going to react?
01:08:37But he, like, has owned up to his actions and what he did.
01:08:43And so, I don't know.
01:08:45It's like, yeah, I don't know.
01:08:47Like, I can see it, that he's sad and, yeah.
01:08:51Yeah.
01:08:53I just didn't want it to get to this point.
01:08:55Yeah.
01:08:57I didn't want it to get to this point.
01:09:00I've never seen her look like that.
01:09:02I've never seen her look like that.
01:09:05And I'm not good with this kind of stuff.
01:09:08Like, I normally put things under the rug and, yeah.
01:09:15Just to be clear.
01:09:17Yeah.
01:09:18This is toxic, inappropriate and unacceptable behaviour that you must see now.
01:09:34This is just not who I am. It's just not me. That's all.
01:09:38I just don't know what else to say. It's just not me. That's all.
01:09:41I understand that.
01:09:43But...
01:09:48Frankly, I don't feel very good about this.
01:09:55I want you to tell us why the three experts should not kick you out of the experiment right now.
01:10:13Fuck.
01:10:37This is just not me. That's all.
01:10:39I just don't know what else to say. It's just not me. That's all.
01:10:42I understand that.
01:10:44But...
01:10:46I want you to tell us why the three experts should not kick you out of the experiment right now.
01:11:12I genuinely hate myself for what I've done.
01:11:24Obviously, I...
01:11:28You have no idea how much I regret this behaviour, how much I regret this.
01:11:32I've never done this in the past, ever.
01:11:34I've made the biggest mistake.
01:11:37This will never happen again, but I just...
01:11:43I'm so ashamed of it.
01:11:45I can't sleep at the moment because I just can't stop thinking about it.
01:11:50It's like on repeat in my head, but now I just...
01:11:54I regret this so much.
01:11:57I'm sorry to let everyone down here and you guys and you and everyone.
01:12:02I'm just...
01:12:05I'm going to have to make that up to Karina, of course.
01:12:08Before we had this, we were actually having the most amazing time.
01:12:13And that's what I want to continue to do with Karina.
01:12:16I want to leave that in the past and I want to continue.
01:12:19I want to move forward.
01:12:21Because from day one, it's been incredible.
01:12:24She's always asking about my family.
01:12:27She's asking about my future goals.
01:12:29We talk about life all the time.
01:12:31You know, it's...
01:12:32And that's all I've ever wanted in a relationship.
01:12:35I'm having some real strong, strong, strong, strong feelings for Karina.
01:12:39Of course, they're probably love feelings for sure.
01:12:43Like, I really do care about this woman.
01:12:45I really do.
01:12:47I really, really do.
01:12:53It makes me sad.
01:12:55I'm getting sad.
01:12:58I'm getting sad.
01:12:59I'm getting sad.
01:13:08Karina, how were you feeling about Paul before this incident?
01:13:21Really good, actually.
01:13:24Yeah, really good.
01:13:26I was feeling happy and we get along really well.
01:13:34I was optimistic and I still am.
01:13:39And I don't want to give up.
01:13:42Yeah, everything was going so well.
01:13:46So that's where I'm just trying to...
01:13:50Yes, well, that's what we saw.
01:13:52Yeah.
01:13:53There are clearly deep feelings.
01:13:57And you have been heading in the right direction for most of this experiment.
01:14:05We want you to succeed, but make no mistake, Paul, you're on notice.
01:14:12Notice.
01:14:14Any type of violent behaviour, you're out.
01:14:21Notice.
01:14:24I know this has been uncomfortable and really difficult.
01:14:30We're going to go to a decision.
01:14:32Let's start with you, Karina.
01:14:34Yeah.
01:14:40Well, I want to stay.
01:14:43Stay. Kiss, kiss.
01:14:45Because we have so much to still learn about each other.
01:14:52And to you, Paul.
01:14:56Of course, I just also wrote stay.
01:14:58Stay. Okay, good. Thank you.
01:15:03Paul, there's work to be done in terms of your emotional regulation.
01:15:07Yes, okay.
01:15:09And that's what we would like to help you with.
01:15:11So we're going to provide some services with strategies to help you de-escalate
01:15:17to ensure that you don't ever let yourself do this again.