Polyamorous Family Don’t Even Know Who Their KIDS' DADS ARE

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Credit: SWNS  A polyamorous family of two mums and two dads are so close they don't even know who their kids' dads are.  Taya and Sean Hartless met Alysia and Tyler Rodgers online in 2019 with the intention of spicing up their sex life.  But the married couples became close and eventually they all began to admit having feelings for one another.  The family moved in together in 2020 and the parents went on to have two other children between them, to add to Tyler and Alysia's two youngsters.  Now, the 'quad' parent all four as their own.

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00:00 I think a lot of people equate polyamory to sex

00:02 and that does not sum up polyamory.

00:05 It's so much more than that.

00:06 We're just kind of a big, crazy family.

00:08 So we're in a polyamorous quad.

00:17 That polyamory in general,

00:19 meaning we have multiple partners,

00:20 our quad is closed.

00:22 So Sean is my husband and then Tyler's my partner as well.

00:26 And then Tyler and Alicia are married

00:29 and Alicia is Sean's partner as well.

00:31 For Tay and I, we've been married since 2017.

00:34 Had a really great marriage.

00:35 Everything was going great.

00:36 Just felt the need to explore and have a little fun.

00:39 Wasn't looking for anything relationship-wise.

00:42 Just wanted to explore certain things

00:44 from a physical standpoint with other people.

00:46 Alicia and I were married since 2012

00:48 and we were just kind of seeking out

00:51 some extra-curricular fun.

00:53 Like Sean said, it was just meant to be a physical thing

00:55 for us to kind of casual.

00:57 Happened to match with these guys on a digital app.

01:00 We had talked online for a little while,

01:03 decided to meet at an event in Portland,

01:05 hung out and had pretty good chemistry.

01:08 It was pretty easy, pretty comfortable

01:10 to be around each other.

01:11 - I think it was a lot of what if conversations

01:13 in the beginning.

01:14 Like what if there was feelings

01:15 and then what if we wanted to spend more time together

01:17 and then what if we wanted to live together

01:19 and those what ifs just turned into real life conversations

01:22 really quickly.

01:23 - It was a really beautiful thing to realize

01:25 that it doesn't take away from our own relationship

01:27 to have the other experimental person just ask you.

01:29 - I'd never heard of the term polyamory

01:31 before we were in a polyamorous relationship.

01:33 So the idea that you could love more than one person

01:36 had never crossed my mind before.

01:37 - Tyler and I had two previous children together

01:40 before we met Sean and Taya.

01:42 And then after we have been together,

01:44 I birthed Barrett and then Taya,

01:46 we birthed Garver.

01:48 So the little boys are only seven months apart.

01:50 - From a biological standpoint,

01:52 the older two kids don't know right now.

01:53 - I know that I'm the biological father

01:56 of the younger two boys biologically.

01:58 I'm not sure because we didn't really make an effort

02:01 to regulate that and determine beforehand

02:03 who was gonna father the child.

02:04 But moving on from that,

02:05 I would say that our children all have two fathers.

02:08 - Not knowing the biology of the two younger kids

02:11 is not important to us because we parent together.

02:14 It doesn't matter to us.

02:16 It's never mattered to us.

02:16 The kids see us all as parents.

02:18 And so it's never been a,

02:19 as of right now, it has never been a thing.

02:21 Not to say that it won't be when the kids are older

02:23 and we would never hide that from anyone.

02:25 - Most of the time that we spend together is as a quad.

02:28 All kids are in bed by about eight o'clock at night.

02:30 So it gives one hour for all the adults

02:33 to kind of unwind and watch a show together,

02:36 the four of us as a quad.

02:37 And then at nine, we go to our own separate bedrooms.

02:40 So one night Tyler and I will be together,

02:43 Sean and Taya will be together.

02:44 And then the next night, Sean and I will be together

02:46 and Taya and Tyler will be together.

02:48 - It's been really fun to share our family

02:52 and our family photos.

02:53 And honestly, just how normal we are.

02:57 We're just kind of a big, crazy family.

02:59 And I think a lot of people equate polyamory to sex

03:02 and it's not, that does not sum up polyamory.

03:05 It's so much more than that.

03:07 And our relationships physically

03:10 aren't unlike anybody else's,

03:12 except for the fact that there are,

03:14 we have one additional partner than most people do.

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