MAYA, Lygend and Chena Posey aka ‘3 Lesbians, 1 Bed’ are parents to four-year-old twins Lygend and Aeries. Maya and Lygend decided to open their relationship up and four years later, when the twins were one-year-old, Chena joined and they became a throuple. Chena told Truly: “I think the girls love the dynamic simply because they have so much love.” The family create content across social media under the ‘3 Lesbians, 1 Bed’ brand as well as The Posey Family along with their children.They get a lot of responses to their content - both supportive and judgemental. A lot of the negativity they receive is focused on their children as the throuple are accused of ‘confusing’ their kids with their dynamic. Lygend said: “When people are say, ‘you're just going to make your kids gay’, I say, that's okay… Like there's nothing wrong with being gay and there's nothing wrong with being straight or bi or pan… At the end of the day, no one can make you do anything.” Today the family are going to a fertility clinic as Chena has an appointment with the doctor about the next steps in expanding their family. Maya said: “I want her to experience what I experienced [having the twins] because I know how she feels about wanting to have babies because I felt the same way growing up.”
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00:00 I'm Legend. I'm Cheetah. I'm Maya. And we're the Rebel. Are you guys ready for a book?
00:08 How do you know what someone wants to be called? We ask. What are your pronouns? They. They? That's pretty fair.
00:17 Our children have three parents. Who write our first name. Legend, she's like a super diva. She's super girly.
00:29 She's a cat. Aries, she's like more calm and laid back. She's super empathetic. She's super empathetic.
00:37 How old are you? Ten. If you put their names together it's Legend Aries. Yeah. Alright. Good job.
00:45 The twins refer to me as Mommy Maya. The twins refer to me as Mommy Cheetah. The twins refer to me as Daddy.
00:54 First it started off as a joke. Their moms call me Daddy. Usually if kids hear you say somebody's name a lot.
00:59 Yeah. They're gonna be like, "Hey Daddy." So we kept it. How many sides? Five. I think the girls love the dynamic
01:08 simply because they have so much love. Good job. The reason that we chose to homeschool them, one, because there's a lot
01:15 going on in the schools right now. Yeah. And two, I feel like there's a lot that they're missing in schools that they could be
01:24 taught at home. When Maya and I first met, she slid in my DMs. Now we're together nine years later. We first decided to open
01:37 our marriage about four years before Chena came along. Fun fact, I've known her longer. Yeah. Yeah. Me and her were
01:45 friends for years before we started dating. And she knew us when I started dating Maya. So I think we had stopped talking
01:55 for about six years. She went away to school. Yeah. Lived her life. Dated ugly girls. And then she ended up seeing us on
02:03 Instagram. And she slid in the DMs and was like, "Hey, how are you guys? You're Polly now." And I was like, "Yes, I am."
02:11 The twins were one and a half when I came in. I met them in May of 2020. I was not familiarized with polyamory at all. I was
02:22 very monogamous. When I got married to Chena, it was not only out of love, but it was for a very legal reason. It's so that she
02:29 could have step-parent rights to our kids. So that if anything ever happened to me and Maya, that she would not have to fight
02:35 the court system. When they got married, I was the witness. I'm the one that was there when the papers were signed and the
02:42 words were said.
02:43 I feel like we started having a big online presence during COVID. We were all locked in the house. Everyone was locked in the
02:56 house. What are we going to do? And it kind of grew us on TikTok. Three lesbians, one man, one girl.
03:02 We get a lot of responses to our content. The hate around the kids is a big one. That our children are going to grow up gay,
03:11 right? They're like, "What is the kid? You're making the kids gay. You're confusing the kids." And I was like, "These kids are
03:18 not confused. They're highly intelligent children."
03:20 Someone on this comment that's judging my family, who knows nothing about how smart and beautiful and loving my kids are.
03:27 When people say, "Oh, you're just going to make your kids gay." I said, "That's okay. Because it's okay to be gay."
03:32 It's nothing wrong.
03:34 Yeah, that's you. They want to be gay.
03:35 Like, "Oh!" Like, there's nothing wrong with being gay. And there's nothing wrong with being straight. There's nothing wrong
03:39 with being bi or pan. Whatever my kids want to be, at the end of the day, no one can make you do anything.
03:45 And how we can even have kids. So that one's still...
03:48 Yeah, someone said they're lesbians. How can they be mothers?
03:51 Like, that one's still... I'm like, "Google it."
03:53 What?
03:54 I think you Google it.
03:55 We have experienced judgment with our relationship dynamic. Just because they disagree with it, they feel like they have to say
04:02 something negative.
04:04 We don't see too many people of color that are in polyamorous relationships. It's like a very cultural stigma around it.
04:11 I think it also circles back around to a lot of black women that are competing with each other, too.
04:17 Oh, yeah.
04:19 People are like, "Did you assist the wives?" I was like, "Please don't call them that."
04:22 It's not just one solid person at the top with multiple wives. Their relationship is just as important as our relationship or
04:29 me and Maya's relationship. So it's like four little relationships in a big bubble. And then we still got to maintain a
04:34 relationship with our kids.
04:35 Exactly.
04:37 The positive comments and the positive DMs and how you're changing other people's lives, it kind of outweighs the bad.
04:47 Goals. It's beautiful how you love each other.
04:51 Even though we do get a lot of hate, people also love to see us all together.
04:55 When we're out in public, it's a lot of strange reactions.
04:58 Or like when people think that you're like cheating or something.
05:02 It had to happen where a lady in a grocery store, I gave Maya a kiss and then Maya went to go grab something.
05:07 And then she walked up and I gave her a kiss. And this lady was like, "How dare you? You need to be ashamed of
05:12 yourself. You, ma'am, you need to find someone else because she's cheating on you."
05:16 One of the key things to make this family work is patience. A lot of talking. A lot of talking. I also feel like being
05:28 open minded is also another key factor of being in a polyamorous relationship.
05:33 All right, guys, it's time to go.
05:35 Okay, we're coming.
05:37 Legend, Aries.
05:38 You guys need to eat. You guys need to eat.
05:41 Hold the baby, sir.
05:42 We have the keys, baby.
05:44 Okay.
05:44 Okay.
05:44 Today I have an appointment at the fertility clinic because we are trying to have another baby.
05:53 The doctor will go through results and tell me everything I need to know and give me a schedule, a timeline.
05:59 Good, how are you?
06:00 I'm super excited.
06:02 Yeah, something we've been wanting to do for a while. Like the girls are almost five and we tried to do it sooner.
06:08 And it was unsuccessful. So we're hoping that this time we can have more family, right?
06:13 We've all had a conversation about it. Maya carried the girls and I never got to carry a child. So we decided that I
06:21 would carry this time. And it's something that would be great, you know, to experience. I've always wanted to do it.
06:26 I want her to experience what I experienced because I know how she feels about wanting to have babies because I felt
06:37 the same way.
06:38 The immediate next steps that we're going to undertake, you're going to start concentrating on the diet changes, then
06:45 the process of IVF is going to get started.
06:47 Okay.
06:47 We're really excited to expand our family. And I love Dr. Littman. She produced these lovely baby girls right here. So I
06:55 know that it will be great.
06:56 Here are all of your prescriptions.
06:58 Okay. See you in a couple weeks.
07:00 All right.
07:01 Hey, girls. How was your nap?
07:08 Guess what tonight is? The Pride Parade. You want to go to the parade? Yeah. Okay, we got to get dressed.
07:16 The buttons go on the back. Okay, thank you for telling me.
07:19 It's important for us to take the girls to the Pride Parade, just so that they can see more inclusion, seeing families
07:31 that may look like us, and just be open minded overall.
07:35 Some of the best things about being in this sort of dynamic is always having someone to talk to.
07:44 Yeah, like constantly supported.
07:47 I feel like the best part is that you're always learning something new every day. Every day.
07:54 We got trolls out there saying that we're making our children gay.
08:03 [laughter]
08:05 Is that me?
08:08 [silence]
08:10 [silence]
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