I Have 3 Wives - And I'm Paying For Their Plastic Surgery | LOVE DON'T JUDGE
MAZAYAH and Stephanie are a married couple who have been together for seven years. In 2016 they broke up and Mazayah began dating Rose. He tried being monogamous in both relationships but it didn't work for him. One day he introduced Rose to Steph and they entered into a polyamorous relationship. "We decided to bring other women into our life when we split apart. We were just like, let's get another girlfriend because [Stephanie] is bisexual so we were like, let's do it," Mazayah explained. They have now been in a throuple for five years. More recently they have added a fourth person into the relationship, Dezaray, whom they met seven months ago. "Dezayah added the last little piece of fun and excitement that we needed," Rose said. Their unconventional way of life has been criticised by the outside world: "When we started this relationship we had a lot of judgement from people saying 'ew how can you do that? How can you share your man with another woman'," Stephanie said. "And now that we've added a third person the judgement is just beyond now than it was in the beginning." They receive comments such as, "She came back as a side chick to her own baby dad" and "I can just smell the low self-esteem!" But they don't let the comments get to them: "It's funny because we've probably been in a poly relationship longer than most monogamous relationships," Mazayah observed. The girls now refer to themselves as 'sister wives' and split their time with Mazayah evenly. While they don't actively try to look identical they do coordinate their looks, such as wearing the same colour scheme to show their union with each other. But now they are planning to take more drastic measures; they want to get plastic surgery to become their husband's ideal body shape.
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00:00 This is Stephanie. She fell in love with...
00:03 ...Maziah.
00:04 We have two other wives.
00:06 She's bisexual, so we was like, let's just get another girlfriend.
00:10 Stephanie now shares her husband with two sister wives...
00:14 ...Rosa and Desiree.
00:17 I can smell the low self-esteem.
00:19 They are now going to take more drastic measures to please their husband...
00:22 ...and have decided to go under the knife.
00:25 I do encourage plastic surgery.
00:27 It does make the woman's appearance look better.
00:30 Not sure what I want to wear yet, but I think it wants to be brown, neutral color.
00:33 I think we should do nude because we have so much nude...
00:36 ...and we could like correspond together.
00:38 Maziah usually likes us to wear something that coordinates.
00:41 We kind of go with the same color scheme, but we have our individual style.
00:46 We decided to bring other people into our life when we split apart.
00:49 We were like, man, let's just get another girlfriend...
00:53 ...because she's bisexual, so we was like, let's do it.
00:55 We have two other wives.
00:57 This is Rose. She was our second addition to our relationship.
01:00 It's been about five years that we've all three been together.
01:04 Hey, I'm Desiree.
01:06 Desiree is the most recent addition to our family.
01:09 [Laughter]
01:14 Some of the main challenges of being poly for me and the guys...
01:18 ...this is for you, Rose...
01:19 ...is dealing with their emotions.
01:21 It switches all the time.
01:23 I think we should call Bear because I don't know what would match best.
01:28 -Bear! -Oh, God.
01:30 I need help with this.
01:32 I love it. You feel me?
01:33 I actually get to pick out what they like and what they want to wear.
01:37 [Groaning]
01:38 Yeah, I pick that.
01:41 That's Rose-y, that's Steph, and that's this.
01:45 Yeah, I like all of them.
01:46 I got to take a picture of it for sure.
01:48 So when we started this relationship, we had a lot of judgment from people...
01:51 ...saying like, "Ew, how can you do that?
01:53 How can you share your man with another woman?"
01:56 And now that we added a third person, the judgment is just beyond now...
02:01 ...than it was in the beginning.
02:02 And it's funny because we've probably been in a poly relationship...
02:05 ...longer than most monogamous relationships.
02:08 Some of the comments we get online, one of them was like...
02:11 ...she came back as a side chick to her own baby dad.
02:15 The other one was like, "Just stupid as f---."
02:18 "I can just smell the low self-esteem."
02:21 But if you go look at these people pages and look at the people...
02:25 ...then you can see why they...
02:27 These comments don't make me feel any type of way.
02:30 It just makes me a better person. It makes me stronger.
02:33 It makes me come closer to my wives.
02:35 And no matter what anybody says, it doesn't affect us.
02:39 Yeah, she said.
02:41 The most common misconception that people have about our relationship...
02:44 ...is probably about the sex.
02:46 Yeah, like affections and stuff like that...
02:49 ...because we're sharing multiple body fluids around.
02:53 Here we know, we clean, we wash.
02:55 It's not just about sex. It's about unity. It's about family.
02:58 Big financial sustainability and support.
03:01 There's a lot of positive comments, but when we get posted by other people...
03:05 -Like, "No." -Yeah.
03:07 You see the negativity, but for the most part, a lot of people support us.
03:10 My friends and my family were kind of iffy about the relationship.
03:15 They were kind of taken back because it's not the social norm.
03:19 So it did cause a little...
03:21 -A little... -A little shakiness.
03:24 But that didn't really...
03:26 -Stop you. -...stop me.
03:28 Yeah, it didn't really affect the way I feel about everybody in the relationship.
03:33 Now, how can I describe the appearance of my ideal woman?
03:38 Angelina Jolie. Hi. No, I'm kidding.
03:41 I am planning on getting plastic surgery.
03:43 The plastic surgery that I would like to get is my boobies.
03:48 So since she spoke about getting plastic surgery and stuff like that,
03:51 the other wives also been mentioning plastic surgery.
03:54 Rose, she want a BBL, I believe.
03:57 Des also want boobs.
04:00 I can't wait either.
04:01 We'll be wearing a bikini right with you.
04:03 How exciting. We're all gonna look so much better.
04:06 Ah!
04:09 We already look good.
04:10 You know, we got the personality and now we're just doing a little enhancement.
04:15 Ladies, so while you guys were doing nails,
04:18 I went ahead and drew the ideal body shape on the back of this paper
04:21 that I would love you guys' body to look like.
04:23 -You drew? -After surgery.
04:25 [ Both laugh ]
04:27 -Okay. -Ready?
04:30 -What? -Ah!
04:31 [ Laughter ]
04:33 Look at that.
04:35 Why is one boob bigger than the other?
04:39 I don't like it the same size.
04:41 Okay. Great. I love it, babe.
04:43 I love the effort.
04:45 But can we show you what we want our ideal body shape?
04:49 -Sure. -I'm not a good drawer, but okay.
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04:57 -Okay. -Yeah.
04:58 -It's in sight. -Nice.
05:02 [ Laughter ]
05:04 So...
05:06 So you put your arms in your booty.
05:10 Why your feet so big?
05:12 What did you have surgery -- I like you just the way you were.
05:16 You ain't getting surgery no more.
05:18 I'm cool off of that.
05:21 If my wife became out of shape, I would tell them,
05:24 'cause we're dating to be real and open and honest with each other.
05:27 The type of exercise we do to stay in shape are weight training.
05:30 We do yoga. We stretch.
05:32 We are gonna get surgery soon,
05:34 so we probably will have to take it easy,
05:37 but that doesn't mean we're gonna stop.
05:39 We still got to keep up this shape.
05:40 Whoo!
05:42 Nah, y'all do look good as hell, though. I ain't gonna lie.
05:44 But, yeah, we're gonna do the boobies for Steph, for sure.
05:49 Then we're gonna get the boobies for Daz.
05:52 [ Laughter ]
05:53 Then we're gonna get the snatch waist for Rosy.
05:57 [ Laughter ]
05:59 [ Mumbling ]
06:03 People may think that Mazea's trying to control us
06:05 because of the dynamic that they don't understand,
06:07 but they're not in our relationship.
06:09 -Cheers. -Cheers.
06:11 We want to be here. We do things because we want to.
06:14 This is not something that anybody's forced to be here.
06:17 If you want to leave, you can leave.
06:19 He'll tell you that.
06:20 Having a sister wife is a big benefit to our life
06:23 because, you know, we have a long life,
06:25 and to depend on someone who can help us.
06:28 Yeah, being in a poly relationship is super empowering.
06:31 I enjoy being around women that I can learn from.
06:34 And on top of the fact that I am bisexual,
06:37 so I do love women.
06:38 -Hey, we got snacks. -Ooh.
06:41 -What you doing? -Uh...
06:43 Y'all, surgery. That's what I'm doing.
06:45 -Oh, yeah? -Ooh.
06:47 -Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. -Yeah.
06:50 I do encourage plastic surgery,
06:52 only because it does make the woman's appearance look better
06:55 and make her have way more higher self-esteem.
06:58 It's really nice having three wives.
07:00 I plan to pay for all these surgeries
07:02 with all this money, to be honest.
07:05 I'm gonna pay straight cash, homie.
07:07 What I really love to say to the people that judge us
07:09 and that judge yourself before you try to judge somebody else,
07:12 taking a hard, long look in that mirror,
07:13 you love each other,
07:15 and that's what sets us apart from a lot of other people.
07:17 If we ain't got no haters, we ain't poppin', nah.
07:19 What I love most about being poly
07:21 is the large family, the support system, the love,
07:25 like, multiple people showing you love all at the same time,
07:29 and the girls.
07:30 [ Laughs ]
07:32 I know why our relationship works so well,
07:34 'cause how dope we are individually,
07:36 and for us to put all the individual stuff aside
07:39 and be able to come together as a team.
07:41 Teamwork make the dream work.
07:42 And green work make team work.
07:43 [ Laughter ]
07:45 This is poly.
07:46 -Too big. -Po-L, baby.
07:48 [ Laughter ]
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